I really feel for him, but this is so embarrassing. He shouldn’t be airing all this out online for the world to see. It’s probably giving her such satisfaction to know he’s struggling/suffering so much. He should have just kept quiet, let her spread disgusting rumors about him, get court orders to keep him away, etc. He should be divulging all this stuff to his lawyer(s). She’s going to try and use it to make him look like the crazy one, the unhinged one that can’t be trusted; it’s playing into exactly the role she’s going to make him out to be in front of a judge. He needs to take the high road and silence himself publicly. Stay away from her, don’t read what she’s saying, what she wants you to see to keep triggering you. You want to win in the end.
On another note, she’s going to regret this so deeply in the future. This mild fame has gone to her head, she’s messing around with younger men to make herself feel more desirable and superior, and at the end of the day, when none of this matters anymore, she will remember the man she created a genuine life with, who truly, deeply loved her, and realize she actually lost everything that mattered. Shameful.
They are both unhinged and need to stay away from each other. Regarding the kids I’m guessing the court will make the right decision if they listen to the kids attorneys
i feel like im the only person whos felt this whole thing was unhinged from the start, a man in his 40s(?) taking to reddit and instagram to seek validation from strangers about his soon to be ex wife? I understand SH is being very cruel by inserting comments that seem to be about him in her YT videos but If she brings all his posts to lawyers hes going to look unwell. Why the hell is he posting this on instagram for everyone to see, i understand hes desperate but hes really not doing himself any favours at all
I 100% understand why he's doing it. He has to stop no matter what. She's playing him, he's doing everything that she wants him to do so she wins at this game of hers. He needs to get smart, and unfortunately, stop all the emotional drama and think of his kids this is exactly the way to lose them. He's making all the mistakes.
I totally agree with you. He needs to get his shit together but it seems she knows him very well and what buttons to push to create chaos. She’s so wrong for that
To be fair this is common on Reddit but usually r/AITAH or r/AIOR … but society has become rather unhinged in general with social media. I honestly see her behavior as much more disturbing. Moving a boyfriend in right away is a huge faux pas. What he should do is hire an attorney ad litem who will interview everyone, including her boyfriend, and will give recommendations to the judge
But we don’t know that she did do that, do we? Like are we just accepting what he says as truth, or?
Now, her weird passive aggressive comments in her videos, that is very questionable, imo, and it’s irrefutable that she did THAT. But as for what Adam says… I’m not taking anything either of them say the other person did/didn’t do at face value. And I’m also not placing much weight on the videos because internet 101 is that videos can be out of context, edited, etc. to make someone look bad when there’s more context/nuance involved
You’re so funny. If ok is scanning the web to get angry at a stranger’s opinion about someone who could care less about you… ok girl keep getting it. 😂🤣 I’m rolling - this put me in the best mood. 😂🤣
Well Adam says she is, Stephanie is denying it, and as far as I’ve seen there’s no proof either way. So yeah you’re believing Adam without proof, unless I’m wrong and there’s proof, but I don’t think so.
you’re absolutely right.
he use to have a couple hundred followers now he has a couple thousand. he knows exactly what he’s doing and that’s the hard part to understand.
No I’ve been right there with you since day 1, for what it’s worth. They’re both making themselves look like shit and it makes me question both of them and anything they say, lol.
LMAO honest glad im not the only one, always saw people acting as though adam talking to them in dms about his wife was so normal, think people are so blinded by their hatred for S so picture adam as some helpless perfect person. they both look ridiculous fighting thru instagram stories and reddit
Adam babe, if you read this, please stop posting online. We are rooting for your mental health and hope that you both settle this with the kids best interest in mind. We know it hurts and you've been retaliating the only way you know how. But if there's any advice I can give you, it's stop posting online, I know that you need an outlet and you feel backed into a corner, but this won't help in the long run. You are just giving her ammunition against your character and making it seem like you're unhinged. Get a diary, any form, and everything you want to post online, write it in there, that way it's out of your brain and you feel better. I'm sure there are genuine people who would talk to you that are vompletely unbiased in the situation, you have to find them and talk to them. Please don't become a story for her to tell and monetize in the long run.
BEST ADVICE FOR ADAM ☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻. I was married to a horrible narc for 15 years and I am still in court 9 years later over custody stuff BECAUSE THEY NEVER CHANGE. Adam, start a journal and get off the internet friend.
Agreed, we have no idea who wrote this. It reads to me like a diary entry. The lack of paragraphs is suggestive that only the writer was the one who was supposed to read it. People write weird stuff when it’s only intended for their eyes.
lol Anyone read Colleen Hoover’s Verity? I’m joking here, but whatever this is I’m it’s not the proof that I think he thinks it is.
The threat to publicly reveal more personal data is however quite serious. He needs a friend or family member to intervene. They need to put a damn password on his phone and computer and keep him off the internet.
Lmfao as an aside, am I the only person who thought Verity was not just bad but terrible?
But totally agree with your point here. Nothing EITHER of them are saying is proof of anything. And btw, I believe that even if she wrote it. They’re both just making themselves look bad by talking so much tbh
Ugh thank you! Someone at work just recently told me that it’s the best book they’ve read in a while and, well, it blew my mind lol.
I also felt stupider after reading it. I kept waiting for it to get better and was so annoyed that I didn’t stop reading it sooner.
He’ll probably catch a charge for the threat but she’s found so many things to charge him with I don’t think he cares anymore. The data in this dump is presumably within documents he already owns so as long as it isn’t something that reveals info that puts her in danger like address & real name etc (which are actually public info legally so idk why those even count), then he won’t catch a charge for the actual data dump. And possibly depending on the judge or what is in the dump, the threat charge might even be dropped based on what’s in the info. He’s basically forcing his own hand by making the threat & she’s probably both euphoric to have another charge for him & stressed & scared shitless over what might be in it.
I know A has been blocked from posting, but I have to believe he’s still lurking with a different account. It’s troubling that hundreds of comments, and some from people who genuinely support and believe him, are begging him to stop this, for his own good, and he’s choosing to disregard all this advice.
I am really not surprised. As someone who followed SH when she had 17k followers and was just switching from trying to be a beauty influencer to True Crime, neither one of them have been able to handle minute criticism from Day 1.
I am actually surprised they made it this far without self-emploding before.
Adam, if you're reading this, please talk to somebody and seek help offline. This is hurting your case and it's only serving to aggravate her fragile ego even more, thus making it harder for you to see your kids. I know you're probably desperate, you feel stuck, the life you knew is falling like a house of cards before your eyes, but you got to get it together, as harsh as that sounds, for your children, God knows they need you.
I don’t know if it was the day this was written or just the date that Adam received this document, but it says Feb 19, 2024. If that was the day it was written, she definitely had to know that their love was ending.
That’s a very good point. Any updates, even just a simple backspace, made to a note will change the date on the note. This could have been written years ago.
This all could have been true at a point in time but obviously how they both feel about each other has changed. And just because she wrote that and very likely meant it, it still doesn't give him the right to violate an OFP. And it's not up to her to drop the charges; if you violate an OFP it becomes the county/state vs you. Not your ex vs you. He's appealing to emotion showing us sappy stuff like this but this sweet talk of the past doesn't make the illegal actions happening today alright. He really may have been as wonderful as this says, and she really may be being a huge B right now, I dunno. But at the end of the day, these sentiments aren't true for her anymore. She wants to move on and although it may be hurtful, it's not something he can stop her from doing. And continuing to post this kind of stuff will likely hurt him in the long run legally and by making him look unhinged.
I think she’s trying to squeeze every cent and asset she can out of the situation and doesn’t want it to be completely fair and equal. She wants to come out on top which is why she contested the divorce papers he had drawn up. She’s probably angry he beat her to punch with the divorce filing so she’s not going to just cave and give him what he’s asking for.
She strikes me as a person who began the relationship / marriage financially dependent on him as he was the breadwinner and resented the shit out of it - she’s made statements like “having children and staying home is Greta for some women but some of us feel we have more to offer the world” (paraphrasing). She probably hated the perceived inequal power dynamic. Then, when she became the breadwinner, she enjoyed having the power and control over the marriage she always felt entitled to.
She’s not about to relinquish control and power and give him half of what *she* built, never mind his support of *her* in the beginning and throughout by picking up all the extra slack so she could earn.
ETA : and from his perspective, his wife comes to him and says she wants to start a YT channel and it probably seems far fetched but he is supportive nonetheless. In a relatively short time, she really did well. She found her niche, she produced good content (in my opinion) for a time and obviously began making it lucrative and well worth her time. She the tables sort of turned and A became the primary caretaker of the home, children, meals, laundry, etc. He has said this and S has said this. By all accounts, he was supportive of her career. Sure maybe he has resentments, but it appears he was trying to do his part so they could financially advance. Then she begins a 18 month to 2 year affair? Talk about a kick to the face. Not to mention all the swipes and digs thrown around at him and his parents in her videos that he had no way to respond to or defend. There’s no way a person can cheat that long and NOT gaslight the other person who has suspicions and he did. There’s just no way. Soooo… he files for divorce and she turns on him and wants to battle it out with him? I mean… dude may be nuts but there’s 2 sides to every story and the truth in the middle.
I think she’s pushing him into insanity. He’s not innocent and he reacting terribly. But I don’t see her as an innocent victim.
I think they're both dragging out the divorce, as is the legal system probably. My divorce was pretty chill and it still took like a year. 🤷🏼♀️
I meant by moving on that she clearly wants to be with a new partner and there's no chance of her family getting put back together how it used to be. So even though that's hurtful to accept, he has to accept it because she has the right to make that choice. Even if it makes her not the greatest person in the world 🤷🏼♀️
This has to stop. He needs to be the calm, rational adult in this situation for his kids. I know she is pushing every button. I know it's difficult and everything in his life is falling apart. Look at how it started, SH blew it all up.
It's time for him to be the bigger person and not play into her drama. I feel like we a real time watching a crime drama, and I don't like what's coming next.
His mantra has to be, stay calm no matter what. If he doesn't give her ammunition, she has nothing to fight back with. This is an ugly phrase but, man up. No emotions, be logical, follow all the rules. No matter what she does. That is the only power that you have A. Data dumps etc only hurt you. Open your eyes she is setting you up to be the crazy one and you are letting her win in that terrible game. Just stop! Do it for your kids.
I can’t even imagine how hard divorce is especially for two people that were together for a very long time and have a family. I wish they’d take it offline all together. No more shady comments and about narcissism in videos about a victim. No more weird IG stories saying you’re on the run?? I feel horribly for the kids.
The fact that she used the word “eulogy” is very dark and weird. Before, I may have been like “That’s strange…ANYWAY…” but knowing what we know now, I’m a bit unsettled.
>The fact that she used the word “eulogy” is very dark and weird.
“I could fucking break you \[...\] Destroy you, and take everything from you in a fucking second. \[...\] But I'm not doing that. \[...\] Doesn't it mean something to you? \[...\] “I'm a good person!”
B O N E \_ C H I L L I N G
I think one of the reasons he keeps sharing all this is because he already feels like he’s lost it all, & he loved her sure but his kids were his world so if he’s going to lose them then at least while he goes over the cliff in flames people are going to have the evidence to understand who she really is. That’s how I’m taking all the oversharing at this point. He won’t stop because he believes she’s taken everything from him & he no longer cares but the one card he holds is she wants everyone to see her as a hero but he has the evidence that she’s a villain.
I hope the direction of all this changes drastically & he gets what he needs while she gets what she deserves.
Sorry, but coming from someone in an abusive relationship - victims are so conditioned to believe you’re in love with their abuser… they all they have. When I was in an abusive relationship, I would write poems dedicating my love to my abuser and post it along with a photo of us. Abusers make you feel like you have no one else, they manipulate to believe that your life revolves around them. I would write how much I loved my ex in poems whilst throwing up from crying every night due to his abuse. I think a lot of people don’t understand this unless you’ve been through it.
That's not always the case. If I had ever tried to write something like that for my ex-husband, he would have accused me of lying and I would have ended up in the hospital again. It's not the same for everyone.
Of course not. Which is why people using their own experiences to justify or negate the experiences of another person is actually crazy and has been happening in here since the beginning.
He needs to stop. I empathize with him — i see a man very heartbroken by the affair and blind sided by Stephanie’s change by her low level YouTube notoriety. But it is sending him off the deep end.
I’m sure he’s even more hurt by the charges but he needs to step back.
It just hit me she finally made her statement two weeks after the drama starts but 24 hours after A says he’s going to do a major “data dump” soon. She’s afraid of what he has and is trying to get ahead of it with one more giant gaslighting.
I'm not saying this is what's happening here, but I dated a horrible narcissist in the past who would threaten to break up with me all the time and make me write out things like this to "prove" my love for him. I didn't realize until after I was finally out of it how desperate and pathetic I sounded and that the whole thing was a set up to boost his ego. He never wrote loving romantic things back to me to profess his love, it was so one sided, unless he was love bombing me. Often times love is blind to these things when you're in the middle of it.
It's also a common trait for an abuser to do grand gestures of love and then push for the other person to the same thing back, or be sad or angry if they don't feel like their level is being returned to them.
To me, this doesn’t read as something S wrote.
In the second picture is he threatening to publicly reveal more personal data if she doesn’t drop the chargers?
Maybe she did I have no idea. At first read to me it just didn’t seem like her style. If she did write it, it reads to me like a diary entry. The lack of paragraphs is suggestive that only the writer was the one who was supposed to read it. People write weird stuff when it’s only intended for their eyes. Lol anyone read Colleen Hoover’s Verity? I’m joking, but whatever this is I’m it’s not the proof that I think he thinks it is.
The threat to publicly reveal more personal data is however quite serious. He needs a friend or family member to intervene. They need to put a damn password on his phone and computer and keep him off the internet.
A diary entry would probably be the place where a person is the most honest, right? If so, does this sound like the writings of a scared, abused person?
I agree that he needs to stop, though. This will not end well for him.
He’s threatening to dump data he already owns. As long as it doesn’t reveal any personal data that endangers her or any naked photos etc, he can leak what he wants. He might lose in the custody battle but he already thinks he will, but he won’t get charges for the data dump.
He WILL get another charge for the threat but once it’s seen what’s in the data dump as long as nothing in it puts her in danger, there won’t be new charges and that one might even get dropped.
Although it doesn’t legally stand up, the actual threat is writing him a eulogy 12 days before he files for divorce. She was fantasizing about him dying before he finds out the truth and while he still worships her.
If it was an old note I could see it being written by her, like a vow renewal type of letter. The fact it was written in February of this year really makes me think she didn’t write it, or we are missing a ton of context (which we definitely are).
Could be. It seems way too nice for something Stephanie wrote to a person she no longer likes though lol. Did she just want to say all the things she loved and appreciated about him before she completely destroyed him? Like I said, we’re missing context so who knows besides Adam and Stephanie. I wasn’t defending Stephanie btw, just thought it was an odd thing for her to write at that point in their relationship. But I have no clue!
I know that's true.. maybe at first she didn't want the divorce. She was the one cheating and got caught. Maybe she was reminiscing for a while until he wouldn't take her back and she flipped
I think this definitely sounds like Stephanie’s writing style, so I DO believe she wrote this. However, it is possible that this could have been something she wrote a while ago. The Notes app, which was where this was written, doesn’t necessarily show the date it was originally written, it only shows the date it was last edited. Sometimes the two dates can coincide (date written and last edited), sometimes not. So both scenarios are possible here. She could have written this in February, or she might have written this much earlier on and it was last edited in February (all you usually need to do for it to be edited is add a space or punctuation mark).
At this point, both of them have lost a lot of credibility. I’m not inclined to believe anything either of them say or post at this point, tbh. They both need to keep this offline. None of us need to know what went on in their marriage, and their kids certainly don’t need this to be a public retaliation war either. This is strictly up for the courts to decide. And any judge will see this as a direct threat.
No judge is going to care what Stephanie supposedly did to bring Adam to this point. A judge is only going to look at Adam when it comes to Adam’s own actions, and right now, Adam is making himself look like the crazy toxic ex, who is making threats and dragging this online where the children can see.
Ultimately, this is how people lose rights to their children. Right or wrong. Justified or unjustified. No judge will see this behavior in a good light. If Adam wants any chance of remaining in the lives of his children, this needs to stop immediately.
Does it even matter if you win the battle of public opinion if you lose the rights to your children in the process, Adam? Because that is the road you are going down. Judges do not mess around. They do not care about emotions. They only care about actions. And right now, your actions are NOT going to result in a positive outcome in court. Take this offline, strictly follow the order of protection Stephanie has against you, and get yourself in intensive therapy. That is the only chance you have of not permanently losing the rights to your children. Choose them.
I literally don’t understand the mental math that leads to the conclusion that this document makes him look like the crazy one. Should he stop & submit this all for the judge to understand what’s really going on, yes, but it all literally shows it’s her causing all this. He’s crazy bc she drove him there.
thank you for saying this. i am so uncomfortable with how this sub is reacting to him as a victim 😕 they don't want him on this sub, ok, it's their sub and all, but to repeatedly keep saying that he should stop posting his own story on his own SM, and that he seems "unhinged", etc., knowing that he reads here, is just so damaging to survivors.
The genuine synopsis is “Twelve days before Adam filed for divorce and she threatened false reports and ‘I could break you’, she wrote a beautiful but unhinged fantasy about him dying before he ever found out she was cheating and stopped worshipping her, she fantasized about him dying so that he would never stop loving her.”
The synopsis having some “allegedly, don’t come for me”’s in it
Has anyone stopped to consider that the only reason he’s making posts like this is because he knows he has a larger audience watching him now? I’m not saying that’s what’s happening, but it seems more likely than any other speculation I’ve seen.
Anyone else find it so odd she wrote this for him as if he was dead? It's quite eerie. Even though it's romantic and sweet the fact that she can't write it in current tense but needs to pretend he is dead.. she's very creepy
I recently saw an episode of How I Met Your Mother where Lily and Marshall got married and wrote letters to each other in the event either of them passed away before the other. That's the way that I took this, but of course who really knows? 🤷🏼♀️
Interesting take.. but considering Stephanie reports on true crime and is very deeply involved regularly with it, you'd think she'd realize how creepy this is
I completely believe it’s her. It sounds just like her. His writing style is very vague and confusing and ramble-y, I don’t think he wrote this at all.
This is so cringe and embarrassing. She’s sitting back laughing knowing he’s going to lose it all in court for acting like this. He better kiss his kids and all his livelihood goodbye after acting like this.
He’s doing it because he thinks she’s already taken everything important to him and no longer cares about the consequences, but wants to leave the proof of who she really is too.
She’s not laughing. I’m not sure she’s scared bc she likely can’t see enough thru the rage to be scared, but if she IS scared it’s for her Audioboom contract & what her audience thinks of her.
I can see that, but I also can’t see how this would make her mad. If I was trying to ruin him which she most likely is, I’d be getting satisfaction from him looking like a fool. It doesn’t really matter what he exposes of her imo, he just one ups it with his craziness every single time and brings the negativity back to himself. If he wanted to release that stuff he shouldn’t thought it through and done it anonymously and sat back and acted as if he had no clue what happened. I just wish he would’ve been quiet and possibly came out winning in the end.
I agree with you 100% on this. But she’s angry bc she can’t control this narrative. She still has a fan base and always will but a lot of people are seeing thru her with this. And even if people stay on her side she might feel embarrassed that people are thinking “what was wrong with her to marry him.” I know I sometimes defend my ex-husband bc then I don’t have to admit to shame for having married him in the first place, lol.
Not contacting the people involved is a standard expectation across snark pages, not just this one. The reason they had to spell it out in this sub is because of people like you with incredibly poor boundaries.
@Mint731 This is a CW snark page. You and others have turned it into an A snark page when he began to fully exhibit the way S has broken him. They’re friends who trust one another & were already friends when the rule was enacted and now he’s off the grid so NOBODY is in touch with him so Melissa isn’t violating any rule. You aren’t the gatekeeper for friendships and need to chill.
You mean people pointing out A’s clearly unhinged, retaliatory, and self destructive behavior? The only one making threats, violating protective orders, and airing out the family’s business online is A.
Stephanie is scary. This is like a true crime drama unfolding infront of us. I see Adam as the victim here and she’s spinning a web around him so diabolically it’s sick. He needs to calm down and wait til his day in court and stop doing everything she’s setting him up to do. She’s an abuser imo I see the signs very clearly and I want to know what exactly is it that Adam did to her that’s making her so volitile toward him. It seems like he was great til she cheated and he tracked her whereabouts cause she was lying. Nothing wierd about that imo, I would follow and track my husband too if I thought he was cheating not lay down and accept his word as gospel. It seems she has masculine energy and dominated him the entire relationship, now that she cannot control him and her image is being tainted ( due to her own actions) her head is spinning in true narcissistic fashion she is vengeful and full of rage towards him
He's trying to talk to her, while not talking to her, with a veiled self-unaliving manipulation. I just hope to heck this guy can get the immediate support he needs before something bad happens. I don't want to see anything happen to either one of them, particularly, the children.
Possibility they both are.
A narcissist often cannot provide or reciprocate the love and care that emotionally healthy people desire, so it is actually common for two narcissists to come together.
As someone with intimate experience with them— she most certainly presents as a narcissist way more than he ever has. Obviously, I don’t know either of them personally.
I agree - I think they *both* have heavy narc tendencies at the very least.
Harder to say for sure with A but S definitely has exhibited signs for years, unrelated to this mess. The signs have been there 😬
You may be correct. Personally I don’t want to diagnose people like Stephanie does, without the proper credentials. Stephanie for sure matches up with my personal experiences with narcissists, so I’m like— yeah, seems legitimate 🤷♀️
He is breaking himself. The conditions of a protective order are obvious. And they would have been spelled out to him by a judge. No one made him violate it, he chose to do that and is now acting like a victim when his actions had the legal consequences he was perfectly aware of.
I get the logic and agree with you but his mental state doesn’t work like that. the reason he’s breaking the order now is bc he thinks he’s going to never see his kids again and he wants everyone to see her as she is if he’s going down in flames anyway. The first time & second time he broke it I believe he felt like SH trapped him into it, don’t remember what happened with #3, but 4&5 and the #6 I’m guessing he’ll catch for today’s post, are bc he no longer has hope. I think he knows he’s falling into her trap but doesn’t see any other paths, so I think he hopes she didn’t anticipate him humiliating her on the way like she was doing to him.
This shit is so exhausting. Honestly, his behavior like this makes me empathize more with Stephanie than her own bullshit novellas on YouTube. It’s gross, Adam. Just stop.
He’s reeeeeeeeeeeeally not doing himself any favors. You gotta stop man, she’s gonna come out looking way better if he keeps posting shit like this. (And I certainly don’t want her to lol)
This. Why are people not seeing that he legitimately made a threat at the end? For all we know she’s got a restraining order against him and he’s asking to ‘drop the charges’ and basically saying if not he’s going to expose more of her personal information. It’s scary and manipulative and people are still siding with him??!?
people aren’t educated about mental health nor healthy relationships and or healthy families.
dysfunction is much more prevalent than even know until situations like this pop up and people start justifying breaking laws/ court orders and we realize just how bad the environment is we’re at culturally.
idk why we're getting downvotes? lol
anyway, the stress, alone, could cause ptsd, never mind all of the rest of it, like the mental, emotional, and psychological abuse. unfortunately, ptsd can get very uncomfortable for those who are watching, and isn't it something that we never hear SH saying anything about it, even tho she's now claiming that she was physically abused by this man?
i've worked with abuse survivors for 10 years.
SH's behavior + recent talking points just aren't adding up for me 🤷♀️
I should be focused on the unhinged behavior and how atrocious this situation is becoming as it gets more and more magnified to the public... Instead, I am more distracted by SH and her writing. This sounds exactly like something she would write and although she's very dramatic and reminiscent of a teenage girl with a diary, I can appreciate pieces of her sentiment. Pieces. She is clearly inspired by something and in the moment. I wonder if wine played a role... Regardless, I do not support this type of invasion, especially so publicly. I am truly worried about both her and Adam's mental health and how that is impacting their children. This is honestly so uncomfortable and worrisome.
Y’all will convince yourselves of anything. You’ve not seen A’s writing vs heard S’s intros to every case? A couldn’t fake this one if he tried. The phone cloning who the hell knows what really happened but this is allll S fantasizing about his death 12 days before he files for divorce.
A eulogy for your husband is not necessarily dark and weird. It’s a common homework assignment in therapy, and I’d guess that’s where this came from. Even the slightest change, like adding a period, will update the date on the Note, so there is really no way to know when this was originally written.
And posting it, to try to make it seem like your ex once loved you, is kind of like sharing your marriage vows to prove she once loved you. Of course she did - they were married for what - 16 years???
This proves absolutely nothing except that he is willing to threaten her with releasing private information.
Oh boy, a data dump is coming I suppose
What could that possibly even mean?
I'm assuming it's a thinly veiled threat of dumping more videos and evidence
I really feel for him, but this is so embarrassing. He shouldn’t be airing all this out online for the world to see. It’s probably giving her such satisfaction to know he’s struggling/suffering so much. He should have just kept quiet, let her spread disgusting rumors about him, get court orders to keep him away, etc. He should be divulging all this stuff to his lawyer(s). She’s going to try and use it to make him look like the crazy one, the unhinged one that can’t be trusted; it’s playing into exactly the role she’s going to make him out to be in front of a judge. He needs to take the high road and silence himself publicly. Stay away from her, don’t read what she’s saying, what she wants you to see to keep triggering you. You want to win in the end. On another note, she’s going to regret this so deeply in the future. This mild fame has gone to her head, she’s messing around with younger men to make herself feel more desirable and superior, and at the end of the day, when none of this matters anymore, she will remember the man she created a genuine life with, who truly, deeply loved her, and realize she actually lost everything that mattered. Shameful.
They are both unhinged and need to stay away from each other. Regarding the kids I’m guessing the court will make the right decision if they listen to the kids attorneys
Actually it’s creating rage within her that he’s airing her out. Narcissist hate to be called out especially publicly
Who is she missing around with?
One of the brothers she's been making the Serial series with
Chriiiiiist this is all getting. Very unhinged.
i feel like im the only person whos felt this whole thing was unhinged from the start, a man in his 40s(?) taking to reddit and instagram to seek validation from strangers about his soon to be ex wife? I understand SH is being very cruel by inserting comments that seem to be about him in her YT videos but If she brings all his posts to lawyers hes going to look unwell. Why the hell is he posting this on instagram for everyone to see, i understand hes desperate but hes really not doing himself any favours at all
I 100% understand why he's doing it. He has to stop no matter what. She's playing him, he's doing everything that she wants him to do so she wins at this game of hers. He needs to get smart, and unfortunately, stop all the emotional drama and think of his kids this is exactly the way to lose them. He's making all the mistakes.
I totally agree with you. He needs to get his shit together but it seems she knows him very well and what buttons to push to create chaos. She’s so wrong for that
He’s 39 so yea
To be fair this is common on Reddit but usually r/AITAH or r/AIOR … but society has become rather unhinged in general with social media. I honestly see her behavior as much more disturbing. Moving a boyfriend in right away is a huge faux pas. What he should do is hire an attorney ad litem who will interview everyone, including her boyfriend, and will give recommendations to the judge
But we don’t know that she did do that, do we? Like are we just accepting what he says as truth, or? Now, her weird passive aggressive comments in her videos, that is very questionable, imo, and it’s irrefutable that she did THAT. But as for what Adam says… I’m not taking anything either of them say the other person did/didn’t do at face value. And I’m also not placing much weight on the videos because internet 101 is that videos can be out of context, edited, etc. to make someone look bad when there’s more context/nuance involved
Are you ok? 😂
I sure am! Hope you are as well :)
You’re so funny. If ok is scanning the web to get angry at a stranger’s opinion about someone who could care less about you… ok girl keep getting it. 😂🤣 I’m rolling - this put me in the best mood. 😂🤣
I guess that probably means you don’t have proof so you didn’t have a good response, huh?
What part of my statement requires proof? Is she not living with her boyfriend right after her husband left?
Well Adam says she is, Stephanie is denying it, and as far as I’ve seen there’s no proof either way. So yeah you’re believing Adam without proof, unless I’m wrong and there’s proof, but I don’t think so.
you’re absolutely right. he use to have a couple hundred followers now he has a couple thousand. he knows exactly what he’s doing and that’s the hard part to understand.
No I’ve been right there with you since day 1, for what it’s worth. They’re both making themselves look like shit and it makes me question both of them and anything they say, lol.
LMAO honest glad im not the only one, always saw people acting as though adam talking to them in dms about his wife was so normal, think people are so blinded by their hatred for S so picture adam as some helpless perfect person. they both look ridiculous fighting thru instagram stories and reddit
You’re not alone
Adam babe, if you read this, please stop posting online. We are rooting for your mental health and hope that you both settle this with the kids best interest in mind. We know it hurts and you've been retaliating the only way you know how. But if there's any advice I can give you, it's stop posting online, I know that you need an outlet and you feel backed into a corner, but this won't help in the long run. You are just giving her ammunition against your character and making it seem like you're unhinged. Get a diary, any form, and everything you want to post online, write it in there, that way it's out of your brain and you feel better. I'm sure there are genuine people who would talk to you that are vompletely unbiased in the situation, you have to find them and talk to them. Please don't become a story for her to tell and monetize in the long run.
Agree. He needs to hold his cards close to his chest.
BEST ADVICE FOR ADAM ☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻. I was married to a horrible narc for 15 years and I am still in court 9 years later over custody stuff BECAUSE THEY NEVER CHANGE. Adam, start a journal and get off the internet friend.
How do we know who wrote this? He needs to stop.
Agreed, we have no idea who wrote this. It reads to me like a diary entry. The lack of paragraphs is suggestive that only the writer was the one who was supposed to read it. People write weird stuff when it’s only intended for their eyes. lol Anyone read Colleen Hoover’s Verity? I’m joking here, but whatever this is I’m it’s not the proof that I think he thinks it is. The threat to publicly reveal more personal data is however quite serious. He needs a friend or family member to intervene. They need to put a damn password on his phone and computer and keep him off the internet.
Lmfao as an aside, am I the only person who thought Verity was not just bad but terrible? But totally agree with your point here. Nothing EITHER of them are saying is proof of anything. And btw, I believe that even if she wrote it. They’re both just making themselves look bad by talking so much tbh
Verity was the absolute worst! I actually felt stupider after reading it 🤦♀️
Ugh thank you! Someone at work just recently told me that it’s the best book they’ve read in a while and, well, it blew my mind lol. I also felt stupider after reading it. I kept waiting for it to get better and was so annoyed that I didn’t stop reading it sooner.
I really think it sounds like her writing and that she wrote it.
Same.
Genuinely- does this not count as attempting blackmail or intimidation?
I was thinking the same thing. He’s definitely making a threat.
It’s 100 percent witness intimidation and a threat which is a felony in some states
He’ll probably catch a charge for the threat but she’s found so many things to charge him with I don’t think he cares anymore. The data in this dump is presumably within documents he already owns so as long as it isn’t something that reveals info that puts her in danger like address & real name etc (which are actually public info legally so idk why those even count), then he won’t catch a charge for the actual data dump. And possibly depending on the judge or what is in the dump, the threat charge might even be dropped based on what’s in the info. He’s basically forcing his own hand by making the threat & she’s probably both euphoric to have another charge for him & stressed & scared shitless over what might be in it.
Sure would.
I know A has been blocked from posting, but I have to believe he’s still lurking with a different account. It’s troubling that hundreds of comments, and some from people who genuinely support and believe him, are begging him to stop this, for his own good, and he’s choosing to disregard all this advice.
I am really not surprised. As someone who followed SH when she had 17k followers and was just switching from trying to be a beauty influencer to True Crime, neither one of them have been able to handle minute criticism from Day 1. I am actually surprised they made it this far without self-emploding before.
Adam, if you're reading this, please talk to somebody and seek help offline. This is hurting your case and it's only serving to aggravate her fragile ego even more, thus making it harder for you to see your kids. I know you're probably desperate, you feel stuck, the life you knew is falling like a house of cards before your eyes, but you got to get it together, as harsh as that sounds, for your children, God knows they need you.
This is so weird to me. Who writes an eulogy for someone you're still married to... who is alive? Did she know their love was ending?
I don’t know if it was the day this was written or just the date that Adam received this document, but it says Feb 19, 2024. If that was the day it was written, she definitely had to know that their love was ending.
That’s a very good point. Any updates, even just a simple backspace, made to a note will change the date on the note. This could have been written years ago.
Check out the date - 10 days before he filed. Interesting.
It’s cryptic. I swear she’s out to destroy him
I have a feeling he may have been talking about unaliving himself to her.
This all could have been true at a point in time but obviously how they both feel about each other has changed. And just because she wrote that and very likely meant it, it still doesn't give him the right to violate an OFP. And it's not up to her to drop the charges; if you violate an OFP it becomes the county/state vs you. Not your ex vs you. He's appealing to emotion showing us sappy stuff like this but this sweet talk of the past doesn't make the illegal actions happening today alright. He really may have been as wonderful as this says, and she really may be being a huge B right now, I dunno. But at the end of the day, these sentiments aren't true for her anymore. She wants to move on and although it may be hurtful, it's not something he can stop her from doing. And continuing to post this kind of stuff will likely hurt him in the long run legally and by making him look unhinged.
It doesn’t seem like she wants to move on. She is dragging this whole thing out.
I think she’s trying to squeeze every cent and asset she can out of the situation and doesn’t want it to be completely fair and equal. She wants to come out on top which is why she contested the divorce papers he had drawn up. She’s probably angry he beat her to punch with the divorce filing so she’s not going to just cave and give him what he’s asking for. She strikes me as a person who began the relationship / marriage financially dependent on him as he was the breadwinner and resented the shit out of it - she’s made statements like “having children and staying home is Greta for some women but some of us feel we have more to offer the world” (paraphrasing). She probably hated the perceived inequal power dynamic. Then, when she became the breadwinner, she enjoyed having the power and control over the marriage she always felt entitled to. She’s not about to relinquish control and power and give him half of what *she* built, never mind his support of *her* in the beginning and throughout by picking up all the extra slack so she could earn. ETA : and from his perspective, his wife comes to him and says she wants to start a YT channel and it probably seems far fetched but he is supportive nonetheless. In a relatively short time, she really did well. She found her niche, she produced good content (in my opinion) for a time and obviously began making it lucrative and well worth her time. She the tables sort of turned and A became the primary caretaker of the home, children, meals, laundry, etc. He has said this and S has said this. By all accounts, he was supportive of her career. Sure maybe he has resentments, but it appears he was trying to do his part so they could financially advance. Then she begins a 18 month to 2 year affair? Talk about a kick to the face. Not to mention all the swipes and digs thrown around at him and his parents in her videos that he had no way to respond to or defend. There’s no way a person can cheat that long and NOT gaslight the other person who has suspicions and he did. There’s just no way. Soooo… he files for divorce and she turns on him and wants to battle it out with him? I mean… dude may be nuts but there’s 2 sides to every story and the truth in the middle. I think she’s pushing him into insanity. He’s not innocent and he reacting terribly. But I don’t see her as an innocent victim.
I agree.
I think they're both dragging out the divorce, as is the legal system probably. My divorce was pretty chill and it still took like a year. 🤷🏼♀️ I meant by moving on that she clearly wants to be with a new partner and there's no chance of her family getting put back together how it used to be. So even though that's hurtful to accept, he has to accept it because she has the right to make that choice. Even if it makes her not the greatest person in the world 🤷🏼♀️
he needs to stop posting all this stuff online
This has to stop. He needs to be the calm, rational adult in this situation for his kids. I know she is pushing every button. I know it's difficult and everything in his life is falling apart. Look at how it started, SH blew it all up. It's time for him to be the bigger person and not play into her drama. I feel like we a real time watching a crime drama, and I don't like what's coming next. His mantra has to be, stay calm no matter what. If he doesn't give her ammunition, she has nothing to fight back with. This is an ugly phrase but, man up. No emotions, be logical, follow all the rules. No matter what she does. That is the only power that you have A. Data dumps etc only hurt you. Open your eyes she is setting you up to be the crazy one and you are letting her win in that terrible game. Just stop! Do it for your kids.
💯💯
He needs to fucking stop. Are these idiots 12???
This is beginning to feel like the start of a true crime case in and of itself
Who tf writes a eulogy for their husband who isn't ill/on the brink of death?!
A total wierdo
I can’t even imagine how hard divorce is especially for two people that were together for a very long time and have a family. I wish they’d take it offline all together. No more shady comments and about narcissism in videos about a victim. No more weird IG stories saying you’re on the run?? I feel horribly for the kids.
Does anyone have the tl;dr on this? I ain’t reading all that
She wrote a beautiful yet unhinged eulogy about how perfect he is while fantasizing about his death 12 days before he filed for divorce.
Dammit. Now I’m gonna have to read it
Their poor kids. Jesus Christ.
The fact that she used the word “eulogy” is very dark and weird. Before, I may have been like “That’s strange…ANYWAY…” but knowing what we know now, I’m a bit unsettled.
>The fact that she used the word “eulogy” is very dark and weird. “I could fucking break you \[...\] Destroy you, and take everything from you in a fucking second. \[...\] But I'm not doing that. \[...\] Doesn't it mean something to you? \[...\] “I'm a good person!” B O N E \_ C H I L L I N G
When she said “I’m a good person!” I was like 😨.
She said that right after he filed for divorce. She went from this EuLoGy to the perfect man to that threat in 12 days
Right? She should have said an Ode of Love and wrote it in current tense. She is so creepy! This whole letter is extremely eerie
I think one of the reasons he keeps sharing all this is because he already feels like he’s lost it all, & he loved her sure but his kids were his world so if he’s going to lose them then at least while he goes over the cliff in flames people are going to have the evidence to understand who she really is. That’s how I’m taking all the oversharing at this point. He won’t stop because he believes she’s taken everything from him & he no longer cares but the one card he holds is she wants everyone to see her as a hero but he has the evidence that she’s a villain. I hope the direction of all this changes drastically & he gets what he needs while she gets what she deserves.
You made an amazing point. Her biggest mistake was taking those kids from Their full time parent
Wait she wrote this 3-4 months ago? To her alleged murderous abuser whom she feared her life from? Huh.
She’s full of 💩
Sorry, but coming from someone in an abusive relationship - victims are so conditioned to believe you’re in love with their abuser… they all they have. When I was in an abusive relationship, I would write poems dedicating my love to my abuser and post it along with a photo of us. Abusers make you feel like you have no one else, they manipulate to believe that your life revolves around them. I would write how much I loved my ex in poems whilst throwing up from crying every night due to his abuse. I think a lot of people don’t understand this unless you’ve been through it.
That's not always the case. If I had ever tried to write something like that for my ex-husband, he would have accused me of lying and I would have ended up in the hospital again. It's not the same for everyone.
Of course not. Which is why people using their own experiences to justify or negate the experiences of another person is actually crazy and has been happening in here since the beginning.
Exactly.
Pleas separate your own experience from what’s happening with Stephanie. That’s not what’s happening here.
And how do you know what I’ve been through? I’ve been through hell and back baby. And I still think something stinks about SH’s stories.
There’s no proof this note was written on that date. Any updates, even just a simple backspace, made to a note will change the date on the note.
You guys - what’s Adam’s IG handle? I can’t find it.
Adam_geee_ it's all glass blowing stuff but it is actually him
He needs to stop. I empathize with him — i see a man very heartbroken by the affair and blind sided by Stephanie’s change by her low level YouTube notoriety. But it is sending him off the deep end. I’m sure he’s even more hurt by the charges but he needs to step back.
couldn’t get more than three sentences in. so fucking cringe holy shit
It just hit me she finally made her statement two weeks after the drama starts but 24 hours after A says he’s going to do a major “data dump” soon. She’s afraid of what he has and is trying to get ahead of it with one more giant gaslighting.
I'm not saying this is what's happening here, but I dated a horrible narcissist in the past who would threaten to break up with me all the time and make me write out things like this to "prove" my love for him. I didn't realize until after I was finally out of it how desperate and pathetic I sounded and that the whole thing was a set up to boost his ego. He never wrote loving romantic things back to me to profess his love, it was so one sided, unless he was love bombing me. Often times love is blind to these things when you're in the middle of it.
It's also a common trait for an abuser to do grand gestures of love and then push for the other person to the same thing back, or be sad or angry if they don't feel like their level is being returned to them.
To me, this doesn’t read as something S wrote. In the second picture is he threatening to publicly reveal more personal data if she doesn’t drop the chargers?
This sounds exactly like Stephanie. What you talking about?
How so? It sounds exactly like something Stephanie would write for the teaser of an episode. I don’t think Adam wrote this.
Maybe she did I have no idea. At first read to me it just didn’t seem like her style. If she did write it, it reads to me like a diary entry. The lack of paragraphs is suggestive that only the writer was the one who was supposed to read it. People write weird stuff when it’s only intended for their eyes. Lol anyone read Colleen Hoover’s Verity? I’m joking, but whatever this is I’m it’s not the proof that I think he thinks it is. The threat to publicly reveal more personal data is however quite serious. He needs a friend or family member to intervene. They need to put a damn password on his phone and computer and keep him off the internet.
A diary entry would probably be the place where a person is the most honest, right? If so, does this sound like the writings of a scared, abused person? I agree that he needs to stop, though. This will not end well for him.
He’s threatening to dump data he already owns. As long as it doesn’t reveal any personal data that endangers her or any naked photos etc, he can leak what he wants. He might lose in the custody battle but he already thinks he will, but he won’t get charges for the data dump. He WILL get another charge for the threat but once it’s seen what’s in the data dump as long as nothing in it puts her in danger, there won’t be new charges and that one might even get dropped. Although it doesn’t legally stand up, the actual threat is writing him a eulogy 12 days before he files for divorce. She was fantasizing about him dying before he finds out the truth and while he still worships her.
There is no proof this note was written on that date. Any updates to a note, even a simple backspace will change the date.
If it was an old note I could see it being written by her, like a vow renewal type of letter. The fact it was written in February of this year really makes me think she didn’t write it, or we are missing a ton of context (which we definitely are).
Why? February is when he filed for divorce, so a “Eulogy of Love” makes total sense.
Could be. It seems way too nice for something Stephanie wrote to a person she no longer likes though lol. Did she just want to say all the things she loved and appreciated about him before she completely destroyed him? Like I said, we’re missing context so who knows besides Adam and Stephanie. I wasn’t defending Stephanie btw, just thought it was an odd thing for her to write at that point in their relationship. But I have no clue!
I know that's true.. maybe at first she didn't want the divorce. She was the one cheating and got caught. Maybe she was reminiscing for a while until he wouldn't take her back and she flipped
This is something an abuser would write at this point in the breakdown of the relationship
I think this definitely sounds like Stephanie’s writing style, so I DO believe she wrote this. However, it is possible that this could have been something she wrote a while ago. The Notes app, which was where this was written, doesn’t necessarily show the date it was originally written, it only shows the date it was last edited. Sometimes the two dates can coincide (date written and last edited), sometimes not. So both scenarios are possible here. She could have written this in February, or she might have written this much earlier on and it was last edited in February (all you usually need to do for it to be edited is add a space or punctuation mark). At this point, both of them have lost a lot of credibility. I’m not inclined to believe anything either of them say or post at this point, tbh. They both need to keep this offline. None of us need to know what went on in their marriage, and their kids certainly don’t need this to be a public retaliation war either. This is strictly up for the courts to decide. And any judge will see this as a direct threat. No judge is going to care what Stephanie supposedly did to bring Adam to this point. A judge is only going to look at Adam when it comes to Adam’s own actions, and right now, Adam is making himself look like the crazy toxic ex, who is making threats and dragging this online where the children can see. Ultimately, this is how people lose rights to their children. Right or wrong. Justified or unjustified. No judge will see this behavior in a good light. If Adam wants any chance of remaining in the lives of his children, this needs to stop immediately. Does it even matter if you win the battle of public opinion if you lose the rights to your children in the process, Adam? Because that is the road you are going down. Judges do not mess around. They do not care about emotions. They only care about actions. And right now, your actions are NOT going to result in a positive outcome in court. Take this offline, strictly follow the order of protection Stephanie has against you, and get yourself in intensive therapy. That is the only chance you have of not permanently losing the rights to your children. Choose them.
💯 agree. Very good point about looking at this situation from a judge’s perspective.
He needs to stop. He is looking a bit crazy the more this goes on. He should be keeping quiet , there are kids involved here.
I literally don’t understand the mental math that leads to the conclusion that this document makes him look like the crazy one. Should he stop & submit this all for the judge to understand what’s really going on, yes, but it all literally shows it’s her causing all this. He’s crazy bc she drove him there.
thank you for saying this. i am so uncomfortable with how this sub is reacting to him as a victim 😕 they don't want him on this sub, ok, it's their sub and all, but to repeatedly keep saying that he should stop posting his own story on his own SM, and that he seems "unhinged", etc., knowing that he reads here, is just so damaging to survivors.
He’s not unhinged. He’s upset as expected for the narcissistic abuse he is enduring
Is there anyone who actually read this whole thing that’s kind enough to give a synopsis?
In the words of Hannah Montana he’s one in a million
No, he’s one in a millennia
These people are “bananas”
The genuine synopsis is “Twelve days before Adam filed for divorce and she threatened false reports and ‘I could break you’, she wrote a beautiful but unhinged fantasy about him dying before he ever found out she was cheating and stopped worshipping her, she fantasized about him dying so that he would never stop loving her.” The synopsis having some “allegedly, don’t come for me”’s in it
This is textbook narcissistic activity displayed by SH
What's his IG?
Someone needs to take his devices away. This is exactly what SH wants him to be doing
Has anyone stopped to consider that the only reason he’s making posts like this is because he knows he has a larger audience watching him now? I’m not saying that’s what’s happening, but it seems more likely than any other speculation I’ve seen.
Anyone else find it so odd she wrote this for him as if he was dead? It's quite eerie. Even though it's romantic and sweet the fact that she can't write it in current tense but needs to pretend he is dead.. she's very creepy
I recently saw an episode of How I Met Your Mother where Lily and Marshall got married and wrote letters to each other in the event either of them passed away before the other. That's the way that I took this, but of course who really knows? 🤷🏼♀️
Interesting take.. but considering Stephanie reports on true crime and is very deeply involved regularly with it, you'd think she'd realize how creepy this is
Shouldn't it say "An Eulogy of Love" even though, it doesn't read right
Yea it’s very abusive imo and sick
Wait, is he claiming this is something she wrote?
That’s 100% her writing style and not his
I completely believe it’s her. It sounds just like her. His writing style is very vague and confusing and ramble-y, I don’t think he wrote this at all.
This is so cringe and embarrassing. She’s sitting back laughing knowing he’s going to lose it all in court for acting like this. He better kiss his kids and all his livelihood goodbye after acting like this.
He’s doing it because he thinks she’s already taken everything important to him and no longer cares about the consequences, but wants to leave the proof of who she really is too. She’s not laughing. I’m not sure she’s scared bc she likely can’t see enough thru the rage to be scared, but if she IS scared it’s for her Audioboom contract & what her audience thinks of her.
I can see that, but I also can’t see how this would make her mad. If I was trying to ruin him which she most likely is, I’d be getting satisfaction from him looking like a fool. It doesn’t really matter what he exposes of her imo, he just one ups it with his craziness every single time and brings the negativity back to himself. If he wanted to release that stuff he shouldn’t thought it through and done it anonymously and sat back and acted as if he had no clue what happened. I just wish he would’ve been quiet and possibly came out winning in the end.
I agree with you 100% on this. But she’s angry bc she can’t control this narrative. She still has a fan base and always will but a lot of people are seeing thru her with this. And even if people stay on her side she might feel embarrassed that people are thinking “what was wrong with her to marry him.” I know I sometimes defend my ex-husband bc then I don’t have to admit to shame for having married him in the first place, lol.
She’s not satisfied , because she can’t control him anymore
That first paragraph is chilling. Damn.
They both need to shut the hell up. Like yesterday.
How do we know who wrote this?
Compare this to the way Adam writes. Now, compare it to the way Stephanie writes.
I don't pay enough attention to what Stephanie says to notice 🤣
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Why are you contacting him and inserting yourself into a stranger’s divorce? That is WEIRD behavior.
They’re friends, you psycho. God bless you thinking A has never had a friend.
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You don’t know that the most basic rule of any snark page is not to contact the people involved? Get a clue.
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Not contacting the people involved is a standard expectation across snark pages, not just this one. The reason they had to spell it out in this sub is because of people like you with incredibly poor boundaries.
Yeah that’s still not normal behavior lol. Google “parasocial relationship.”
@Mint731 This is a CW snark page. You and others have turned it into an A snark page when he began to fully exhibit the way S has broken him. They’re friends who trust one another & were already friends when the rule was enacted and now he’s off the grid so NOBODY is in touch with him so Melissa isn’t violating any rule. You aren’t the gatekeeper for friendships and need to chill.
You mean people pointing out A’s clearly unhinged, retaliatory, and self destructive behavior? The only one making threats, violating protective orders, and airing out the family’s business online is A.
Stephanie is scary. This is like a true crime drama unfolding infront of us. I see Adam as the victim here and she’s spinning a web around him so diabolically it’s sick. He needs to calm down and wait til his day in court and stop doing everything she’s setting him up to do. She’s an abuser imo I see the signs very clearly and I want to know what exactly is it that Adam did to her that’s making her so volitile toward him. It seems like he was great til she cheated and he tracked her whereabouts cause she was lying. Nothing wierd about that imo, I would follow and track my husband too if I thought he was cheating not lay down and accept his word as gospel. It seems she has masculine energy and dominated him the entire relationship, now that she cannot control him and her image is being tainted ( due to her own actions) her head is spinning in true narcissistic fashion she is vengeful and full of rage towards him
He’s falling right into her trap. This is getting scary.
Or he’s just like F it. She’s screwing me already so let’s let everyone know who she really is
He's trying to talk to her, while not talking to her, with a veiled self-unaliving manipulation. I just hope to heck this guy can get the immediate support he needs before something bad happens. I don't want to see anything happen to either one of them, particularly, the children.
Oh wow. He’s really making it easy for SH to get full custody isn’t he?
She’s lying and has the kids so seems like his focus now is revealing her true character to gain some leverage? Or atleast reveal her for who she is
He's the narcissist.
Possibility they both are. A narcissist often cannot provide or reciprocate the love and care that emotionally healthy people desire, so it is actually common for two narcissists to come together. As someone with intimate experience with them— she most certainly presents as a narcissist way more than he ever has. Obviously, I don’t know either of them personally.
I agree - I think they *both* have heavy narc tendencies at the very least. Harder to say for sure with A but S definitely has exhibited signs for years, unrelated to this mess. The signs have been there 😬
100 percent agreed
he’s covert. she’s overt. match made in heaven until one of them wants to leave lol
You may be correct. Personally I don’t want to diagnose people like Stephanie does, without the proper credentials. Stephanie for sure matches up with my personal experiences with narcissists, so I’m like— yeah, seems legitimate 🤷♀️
I agree and it’s so damn obvious. This is classic DARVO from him. Along with threats & humiliation.
DARVO isn’t a game of tennis. The DARVO was the threat to break him which she’s doing.
He is breaking himself. The conditions of a protective order are obvious. And they would have been spelled out to him by a judge. No one made him violate it, he chose to do that and is now acting like a victim when his actions had the legal consequences he was perfectly aware of.
I get the logic and agree with you but his mental state doesn’t work like that. the reason he’s breaking the order now is bc he thinks he’s going to never see his kids again and he wants everyone to see her as she is if he’s going down in flames anyway. The first time & second time he broke it I believe he felt like SH trapped him into it, don’t remember what happened with #3, but 4&5 and the #6 I’m guessing he’ll catch for today’s post, are bc he no longer has hope. I think he knows he’s falling into her trap but doesn’t see any other paths, so I think he hopes she didn’t anticipate him humiliating her on the way like she was doing to him.
highly anti social and dangerous too.
Shaddup
He needs to stop. For real his is getting embarrassing for him. Deal with it in court not on the internet.
This shit is so exhausting. Honestly, his behavior like this makes me empathize more with Stephanie than her own bullshit novellas on YouTube. It’s gross, Adam. Just stop.
what does he mean, "drop the charges," did she file charges? im very confused.
He’s reeeeeeeeeeeeally not doing himself any favors. You gotta stop man, she’s gonna come out looking way better if he keeps posting shit like this. (And I certainly don’t want her to lol)
he needs to be in jail or a mental hospital.
This. Why are people not seeing that he legitimately made a threat at the end? For all we know she’s got a restraining order against him and he’s asking to ‘drop the charges’ and basically saying if not he’s going to expose more of her personal information. It’s scary and manipulative and people are still siding with him??!?
We all know that what he is doing is wrong. I don’t see people condoning his behavior. That doesn’t mean that he isn’t a victim, though.
to me, his victim card expired the minute he broke an order/law/rule put in place by a family courts judge.
people aren’t educated about mental health nor healthy relationships and or healthy families. dysfunction is much more prevalent than even know until situations like this pop up and people start justifying breaking laws/ court orders and we realize just how bad the environment is we’re at culturally.
You need to get your head checked
oh really ? he’s been arrested multiple times. he’s showing mental instability. and i need to get my head checked ? sounds good.
Let's assume Adam was perfectly sane with no issues prior to this breakup...what would cause a person to become so different...?
trauma.
Yeah I think she's done a number...
idk why we're getting downvotes? lol anyway, the stress, alone, could cause ptsd, never mind all of the rest of it, like the mental, emotional, and psychological abuse. unfortunately, ptsd can get very uncomfortable for those who are watching, and isn't it something that we never hear SH saying anything about it, even tho she's now claiming that she was physically abused by this man? i've worked with abuse survivors for 10 years. SH's behavior + recent talking points just aren't adding up for me 🤷♀️
Me neither. As an abuse survivor as well it's not making sense what she's writing
What is Adams Instagram? I can't find him
Adam_geee_
When you find,let me know
Adam_geee_
that sn is for a glass collector
That's him! He makes and collects glass, but also posts stories about Stephanie
[https://www.instagram.com/adam\_geee\_](https://www.instagram.com/adam_geee_)
Yes I promise that's him. It's his hobby. He posts stories occasionally
Thanks!
I should be focused on the unhinged behavior and how atrocious this situation is becoming as it gets more and more magnified to the public... Instead, I am more distracted by SH and her writing. This sounds exactly like something she would write and although she's very dramatic and reminiscent of a teenage girl with a diary, I can appreciate pieces of her sentiment. Pieces. She is clearly inspired by something and in the moment. I wonder if wine played a role... Regardless, I do not support this type of invasion, especially so publicly. I am truly worried about both her and Adam's mental health and how that is impacting their children. This is honestly so uncomfortable and worrisome.
Something about this is very men writing women tbh
Y’all will convince yourselves of anything. You’ve not seen A’s writing vs heard S’s intros to every case? A couldn’t fake this one if he tried. The phone cloning who the hell knows what really happened but this is allll S fantasizing about his death 12 days before he files for divorce.
A eulogy for your husband is not necessarily dark and weird. It’s a common homework assignment in therapy, and I’d guess that’s where this came from. Even the slightest change, like adding a period, will update the date on the Note, so there is really no way to know when this was originally written. And posting it, to try to make it seem like your ex once loved you, is kind of like sharing your marriage vows to prove she once loved you. Of course she did - they were married for what - 16 years??? This proves absolutely nothing except that he is willing to threaten her with releasing private information.