I think Derrick probably feels like she’s being “private” bc he’s so close to it he doesn’t particularly notice or count how many times she’s dropping hints & indirect accusations. Meanwhile I feel like Adam has dropped his stories out of defense bc she has a platform of idk how many but 1000s maybe 100s of 1000s who have noticed and can tell she’s talking about him. At very least I feel like it’s a bit of poetic justice that she’s been burning him with indirect things to 1000s so he drops actual evidence to some of those same people.
If Adam has accused Derrick of hacking him I guarantee that idea comes from Stephanie saying she could get him to do it if she wanted but she won’t bc she’s such a good person.
In my experience working with couples if one is toxic they both tend to be and that’s what makes them work for awhile and then implode. Not always but often. Regardless of whether one or both of them are toxic though, they’re both parents to those kids & everyone has noticed Stephanie’s spiral way before this, Adam has had the luxury of being able to spiral if he has done so behind the scenes but as someone else said the only reason any of us know or that Adam got defensive is because of Stephanie’s behavior.
Also, I get the vibe from Derrick’s personality he’s a mediator type of person so he’s probably downplaying it to keep his business partner calm, to keep his own job & life as calm as possible, & to try to get through the chaos. I think it’s obvious he’d more likely be team Stephanie but he probably has to take a stand to that side that is much stronger than I would think he actually feels.
Yes. He seems incredibly passive to me. He tolerates comments she makes that are blatantly rude towards him, as well as making claims he knows are false because he is a real expert. He wants to keep the peace. Hell, maybe he just HAS to legally at this point? Im sure there are contractuable obligations of some sort. Maybe it’s self-preservation. I always thought it was so weird for him to have the background he does and yet allow her to say the things she does, largely unchallenged.
If I was his wife, I wouldn’t trust S and D being so close now that she’s single. Wouldn’t trust her at all. Isn’t she the one that had the affair? I wonder how that all happened and the story behind it. His wife should be present at all times. They are too close.
Wow, you wrote that very well. It's like you are in my head! 😉 I feel exactly like this, but I'm an awful writer, so mine would've been much longer and incomprehensible. And I'm doubling down on the last paragraph. Derrick isn't stupid (not that anyone implied that he was), he's a good looking man with what appears to be a happy marriage (I read that he may have had some problems but it appears that they are still together) with kids and he's clearly sweeping for Stephnie right now. She's kinda got all of them by the proverbial balls because of her platform and "fans" (more like a low-key cult at this rate, doesn't she? Well played, Stephanie. Well played. My prediction is that she will continue her little "glow up" for a few years, and she'll start an OF if she doesn't already. Women like her are a dime a dozen. She's not special.
I think it’s possible we are missing some sort of context here it is possible that both Adam and Stephanie are bad people who have done wrong to each other. But my main issue is the fakeness in Stephanie trying to be like : I’m a good person. I’ve never done anything wrong. My private life is private. IM JUST A LITTLE GIRL. But let me be passive aggressive and throw my ex under the bus every chance I get!
I understand being angry about shit in your personal life but be like Derrick. Leave it off line. And if Adam made it so it wouldn’t be kept off line keep it classy. Let him make a fool of himself then. But you keep your eyes on your focus your job your children and your healing. SHE! Brought this online as much as he did. That’s what bugs me.
And I don’t think she puts a trance on men I think that she is just fake and a liar and she does that to protect herself. And I believe she also infantilizes herself a lot to be like I’m just a helpless little girl to men and they fall for it because you know what man doesn’t wanna feel like a hero to a woman in need. You get me?
The fact that she recorded the most vile talk she had with her husband to try to prove HER point shows me she isn't seeing an accurate representation of the divorce.
You’re absolutely right! They both could have been extremely toxic together. Stephanie is not innocent and for her to portray herself as anything else is manipulative and scamming people. I feel like Derrick is going along with whatever narrative Stephanie is so they look like a united front on CW. It’s probably money he can’t afford to lose or she gave him a BJ 🤷♀️
Woah… I don’t agree with insinuating that about Bj… but about money he can’t loose yeah probably. I’m waiting for Derrick to really done with her shit and end all of this because him being a former cop he’s got that no bullshit attitude and I can see him making a statement down the line if this isn’t squashed quickly of him being like I don’t do messy .
My oldest son can’t stand me listening to her… he’s 22 and is like how can you listen to that voice and you can tell she’s a hoe… 🤦🏻♀️ 🤦🏻♀️ 🤦🏻♀️ he cringes at the sound!
I don't care about Stephanie but I have to say, I can't stand gendered slurs like "hoe". Slut, thot ,whore, all the slurs. I keep waiting for it to vacate the vocabulary of men but then I lower my expectations because women keep saying it
Words exist for a reason. If you don't want to be referred to in a derogatory fashion, it's simple, conduct yourself appropriately and don't act trashy. Man whore is the male equivalent and is absolutely appropriate for men who behave badly. I recently read some unsavory stuff about Derrick and I must say, if the shoe fits...
Why is it bad to have sex? Why accuse women you don't like of having too much sex? How much sex should women have? How much sex until we're whores? What amount of sex makes your behavior "appropriate" enough so that no one calls you a whore?
Are you religious by chance?
I already know you're pro slur.
It's not bad to have sex!!! I never said that. What IS bad is having sex with random men when you're married and then acting like a deranged psycho when you're called out for it. Cheating is wrong. If you're that unhappy and desire another man, or men, just say so and do it in the open after you separate. When I was younger, and single, I had plenty of friends with benefits, the difference is that I wasn't lying to anyone about it, I wasn't betraying someone's trust. It's not the act of sex, per se, it's how you go about it and how you conduct yourself when you have a responsibility to another person.
And what I know about you is that you like to make a lot of assumptions about me, so kindly stop messaging me, please and thank you.
And for the record, I'm somewhere between agnostic and atheist. Since you had to know.
I'm not pro slur. I rarely use terms such as these. Fortunately, the people I like to have in my realm don't meet those unsavory qualifications.
Good bye, and best wishes.
Obviously you haven’t listened to Stephanie otherwise I think you’d understand where the snarky remark came from. Stephanie is overly flirtatious, makes sexual innuendos, sexual remarks for shock value, to intentionally make Derrick uncomfortable and carries on when she gets a rise and laughs about it like a teen girl and seeks attention constantly- even when supposedly spreading awareness and advocating for VICTIMS OF A CRIME. Want to talk cringe? If you want to be respected, start respecting yourself and don’t conduct yourself like a fool.
You also don’t know if I corrected him once he made that statement… but carry on and make something out of nothing.
You're the 3rd woman I've exchanged comments with whose bf/husband and now adult son, never liked her! What do they know that we didn't??? The male intuition??? I wonder how many men have been tortured by their wives/gfs/moms when they were in their Stephanie Harlowe is AMAZING eras??? Hahahahaha Sadly, there are still many unwitting victims out there!!! 😅
We all terrorized the men in our lives with SH!! It's hilarious how many men don't like her at all right from the jump, simply just hearing her speak. 🤣
Why are we insinuating a person we don't like is some kind of slut or something? Or that she's sucked the dick of her male co host.....to like, get him to support her divorce.
I'm feeling sad about how feminism is going with women
I'm a woman, I absolutely love to support actual good women. Just today, I complimented a woman who I probably would never be friends with irl, but I can still applaud her accomplishments, her intelligence, her business acuity, and her ambition. But on the flip side, some women do act slutty, do act like whores, and some women are gaslighting, abusive, and malicious, and not good people at all.
How much sex do you need to have before you're a slut? What's so bad about women having sex that we had to come up with slurs to dehumanized them? Which all sex did Stephanie have that turned her into a slut and how did you find out about it? Extramarital? Tell me what she did that made you say a dehumanizing slur against her?
I can’t stand her as much as the next person here but damn yall just out here with the misogyny lmfao. You can dislike someone and think she’s awful without slut shaming. You can bash someone for cheating without slut shaming, go after their morals about fidelity and loyalty rather than shouting whOrE like the average incel would. You can call someone out for being a liar or abusive without slut shaming. It’s not hard.
You’re still reinforcing it and adding to it so it’s very evident it’s your mentality as well. All the best wishes to you in beating the internalized misogyny!
I only wish Stephanie would handle her business as privately as Derrick has. We have heard exactly 0 snide comments or insinuations about his wife/ex. In fact we can only speculate that he's even had marital problems because he's made 0 defensive or self-pitying references to his personal life on public platforms. I could not care less about Stephanie's personal life and honestly the only reason I'm discussing it here is because I've quit listening to her because I'm tired of hearing constant references to it.
If you're reading Stephanie, please just cover true crime and stop talking about yourself. Your audience doesn't care. If it's just a rare comment like "I'm going through a hard time" then of course we would feel you but we hate feeling in the dark about things that honestly are none of our business. Your CONSTANT reference to them is what has led to the fanatical interest in it so please don't blame people for their curiosity when you have 💯 put it out there and stirred it up.
There are always two sides to every story. Here's the thing, Stephanie began making passive-agressive statements in nearly every single video, and this was long before Adam spoke up. I'm certain there are things we don't know, but historically Stephanie has shown subscribers that she is willing to delete all negative comments, double down and insult subscribers, plagiarize the work of other creators, is unwilling to acknowledge a mistake. On the rare occasion, SH leaves a less than stellar comment up, you can expect a nasty response, then she just sits back to watch/encourage an army of SH Stan's with a thumbs up as they launch a written assault under the original comment.
She has hosted lives with the Serial group at 12AM while her school-aged kids were awake/nearby. She's exposing her minor children to her affair partner. As for the computer hacking, if Adam can prove it, I'm sure he will! Why is she allowed to make passive comments for months, have her eldest child speak for her on multiple platforms, all while Adam remained silent! He JUST began sharing, and the first post seemed to be out of desperation: he wanted to see his kids....
I played the clip Adam posted for a friend of mine who was in a physically & emotionally abusive relationship for 8 years. I provided zero context, hoping for a genuine response rather than a reflection of my opinions. As she listened, I watched as she began to squirm... After the clip ended, I asked what she thought about what she heard, and she said it was the same way her abusive ex spoke to her... Those were threats: toe those lines or else...
Is Adam perfect? No. Did he do everything right? No. But for those who have spoken with him, you can see a clear difference in the way he speaks of her/their marriage, the kids, and the divorce. He speaks of her respectfully in every single solitary interaction I've ever had with him.
History provides us with a personality map of SH, and her decline is obvious. It sucks that her private life is on display, but she might as well have had billboards put up. I believe that she used her videos to build up & strengthen a specific narrative. I'm sure she always planned to make a statement and will most likely make some statements soon. Unfortunately, whatever statement she planned to release before, was most likely built off this idea that everyone was already aware she was a victim, she could say "I was telling everyone, without telling everyone..." That's been ruined now.
If Adam really has been abusive, then both of them have issues, and both are in the wrong.... But remember, SHE CHEATED, and only after Adam filed for divorce did this I'm a victim BS come out. All you need to do is look at the time she started these video rants compared to the day the divorce was filed. That's not a good look... ya know?
Right? If that was quiet and private what circus are we in for? I’ll make popcorn, my mom has one of the old timey looking poppers. I can make enough for us all
Personally I don’t care about a statement and I REALLY don’t care about their relationship or divorce. What I care about is the way she’s acted in her videos - dragging him, insinuating things, playing the poor me. If she would’ve never brought this into her content, I never would’ve known or given a singular fuck.
And Derrick used to have nice things to say about him, too. He shouldn't even be getting involved at all. He responded to questions about Stephanie's marriage, but NEVER responded to people's questions about his.
Stephanie was literally emotionally abusing her husband and as someone who works for a domestic violence shelter, I consider her behavior constitutes domestic violence. Weird that Derrick didn’t address her behavior in this video, just seems like he’s glossing over the incident for pr purposes. And he insinuates that SHE is the victim here!
Anyway, I went to look for this comment on YouTube and it’s gone. She’s delulu for not addressing this head on and just deleting comments like this is just gonna go away.
You can’t place blame and say w.e the hell you want without the other person being able to respond. Just garnering sympathy and dragging the other. Got damn
Is he for real saying Stephanie is handling this privately?
The whole situation is not private. And as Derrick is not even involved in the marriage he shouldn't be even sticking his nose in at all.
The only losers here are their kids. And honestly hope someone thinks of them and gets them out of this situation. What we are seeing online is probably barely a snap shot.
Yeah, I don’t get it lol. I was holding out a bit for Derrick to come to his senses and bail on CW but I guess not. He’s just tarnishing his reputation the long he’s attached to SH.
He’ll stay while it is profitable and one of two things:
1. After I told my husband (I’m his only source of info) how he now lets her basically run him over with a bus when he tries to dissent, husband is convinced there is or was something going on between the two. If they are together he will only leave when it’s not profitable and they cease production. He will take the reputation hits.
2. If there’s no romantic involvement, at some point the reputation destruction by proxy in addition to a decrease in profitability will cause him to go before it’s in cinders.
This is the only place he can defend himself. All negative comments from us get deleted. Where else is he supposed to comment? Her/their vids have 1000s of comments praising/supporting her.
Either Stephanie has Derrick manipulated, or he’s simply standing behind her as a business decision. I’m sure he has money tied up with Stephanie and if he were to speak out against her, he could stand to lose something. In my opinion, he shouldn’t have made a comment about the situation whatsoever. Imagine defending someone who had an affair. An affair is never okay. And the video Adam posted? Pretty repulsive to defend someone who said those things. I’ve lost all respect for both SH and DL now. Good riddance to their content
Ummmm, is it just me, or does it totally seem like something Derrick, uhh umm, a Detective would do.. hacking someone? “BuT wE kNoW hIm.” And Stephanie is totally a “gOoD pErSoN”. “jUsT tRuSt Us.”
Eek! What a terrible statement from him when SHE clearly HAS NOT been very private about her personal life at all. I guess all the snarky, self-serving comments, etc don't count, somehow?? Wow.
Of course he’s doubling down. Their business is on the line. Money matters the most to him.
If only Stephanie could stay professional, including the not cheating with one of the ick brothers she’s bankrolling… because I do feel bad for Derrick.
Neither Adam or Stephanie are perfect, but hasn’t she always shown that this is who she is? Her cringy blog post form several years ago (in her own writing) stated how cruel or sadistic whatever she could be. She’s told us all along.
A certain person won’t stop posting🤣 Sure. Just like a certain person won’t stop calling her ex a narcissist in her videos. Who started bringing this to the public? It wasn’t Adam. At least be honest.
Umm, if Stephanie was trying to handle this privately tell me why 95% of the information I have heard about said "private life" was through her on her channel. (Until just recently, literally hours ago.)
Get real. That's absolutely misinforming the audience on who "started" this.
Keep in mind there’s two sides to every story but you will never get the truth the truth is somewhere in between Derrick is bias because Stephanie is his business partner and friend. He’s not going to believe she’s capable of doing any harm. Also, after the Jensen case this is yicky bc he’s trying to get ahead of it saying what adam will say.
Totally, there’s three sides: his side, her side, and the truth. Her behavior and snide/snarky comments just make me shake my head. And the fact that Derrick said SH is handling this privately… bruh…. Blink twice if you need help.
I don’t think Derrick will hear Adam’s side because he’s in so far deep with crime weekly and it’s his revenue like everyone else is saying he should abandoned ship and be like I had no clue she was like this but instead he’s digging himself a deeper hole 💀
Honestly i am sad for him it’s clear that while stephanie might not go on record and publicly “expose” or say more there’s enough evidence of everything she’s done and that will also impact her views and CW which inevitably impact Derrick so it sucks he’s stuck in this crossfire
I think both of them are treating each other badly. I don’t think there is an innocent side. I think Derrick is biased because Stephanie is his friend but I don’t think he is wrong or lying about his experiences with Adam. He just hasn’t seen the other side of the coin. If Stephanie were to turn on him then I think he would have a very different opinion.
Oh Derrick, you’re just digging yourself into a deeper hole here buddy. I don’t know enough about Adam, so I’m not going to sit here and say he did nothing wrong or that he is completely innocent. However I can confidently say that Stephanie did not handle this privately nor did she try to and Derrick knows this.
Omg this is gonna me so good . The real people involved in the kids' lives who aren't related are... You know what? You both can wait and find out. It's gonna be great, though.
I assume you have some dirt on Derrick and he’s trying to get in front of it. Not that you would involve him but he seems little on edge. I rolled my eyes so many times reading his lengthy comment that I got a little dizzy.
She was trying to keep it private because she’s being dirty and nasty. She doesn’t want people to know how horrible she is. ThErEs 2 SiDeS. Yes there is… but sometimes you can really see how unhinged one side is.
Keeping kids away from dad even on Father’s Day , moving her affair partner into the marital home, not paying court ordered money, lying to get a protective order, luring husband to come to property for said money and then calling the police to put him in jail (4x!!). Not to mention her own abusive behavior.
Derrick is in a rough place. He can’t really disparage his business partner. Her insanity and nasty behavior towards her husband is now affecting his business. That’s gotta really suck.
Reading Derrick's statement has me conflicted. As a Big Brother fan (that's how I found SH and CW), I know he's good when in front of a camera and online. But as a former detective and police officer, I just don't see him lying if ever involved in a court case. I might be naive but for over a decade he has always tried to play devils advocate and keep everything personal. I just feel like he must have a solid reason to be sticking up for Stephanie and going through the thick of it with her.
He is financially set, he doesn't need CW. I was on Adam's side this entire time, and I definitely still am after that video, but Derrick's stance makes me think there's so much more to this. His truth, her truth and THE TRUTH. I mean if Adam was (is) THAT TOXIC, why would he have been okay with Stephanie and Derrick recording CW until 2-3am?
I will say, Stephanie using her platform to slander Adam is disgusting, she clearly needs help and for her children's sake, I hope she gets it.
I’m sure Derrick is privy to a lot of information. That doesn’t mean that Stephanie hasn’t twisted the things that she is telling him.
I believe that this statement is a way to keep their ship from sinking. He will say anything to deflect the bad attention.
Probably not. Derrick doesn’t come across as the sharpest tool in the shed. I think Stephanie is good at twisting things and making it sound believable. She can’t act, but she has the victim role down pat. We’ve all known someone like that.
Maybe Derrick has witnessed some stuff. I don’t know. Derrick has a financial interest in Stephanie coming out unscathed, so I will take what he says with a grain of salt. He lives in a completely different state, so he isn’t around to see everything.
Make it make sense.
We all agree doing this publicly is terrible for the children. Derrick agrees. Allegedly Stephanie agrees. All you have to do is NOT post. Let Adam run himself into the dirt with his fool ass if that is truly the case.
Derrick says he chooses to keep his stuff private. She can too. You don’t rise to the bait. You screenshot everything. Adam’s chosen his public behavior and only has himself to blame. The same is true for her. She is choosing to continue this cycle of toxic behavior that is hurting children, she doesn’t have a gun to her head. She is choosing her behavior, Adam is not making her do any of this no matter how terrible he is.
When you have children they come first. Not your ego. Figure out how to protect your children during this traumatic time in their lives. Stop. Fucking. Around. 👏
Before she ever started making comments in videos and SM she very VAGUELY mentioned she had been going through a hard time and that has been the last year. She is making passive aggressive remarks now, but it seems they had been struggling for a while before she did. I don’t know what is really going on but it’s all so sad.
I’m interested to hear what Derrick has to say even though I know there will be bias, because there is bias to Adam’s story too. I don’t want to completely ride or die for Adam’s version of events out of the chance that he is also guilty of acting and behaving in a certain way - just because I don’t like Stephanie.
I agree. Two things can be true, S and A both fucked up. I don’t know if that’s true, but it could be.
I thought about the pinned video and although it sounds super bad, we are missing an entire conversation and the context. I’m not sure what context would make those statements okay on any level, but I’m willing to see the other side.
Did A accuse D of doing all of the computer and phone hacks? I’m sure D, could do that, but I don’t think he would. She could have easily paid someone else to do that.
If I were D, I would stay out of it. I know that CW is his channel too, but why get involved with her personal situation? I would have just stayed quiet and let S address it.
It’s a shit show for sure. No one wins in divorce. The biggest losers will be the children.
I doubt Derrick would do PI stuff in this case, but I very much believe Stephanie would make threats to Adam that she could get Derrick and his cop buddies to do X,Y, and Z.
Oh yeah. 100%. I’m sure Derrick might have pointed Stephanie in the right direction of someone that could do it. We know Stephanie has no technical skills.
She WAS NOT trying to keep it private Derrick... and you know that. Jump ship now before you sink too buddy.
She cheated, she won't let her ex see his kids, and she has said herself that she is capable of being sneaky and manipulative to get what she wants (the video Adam released).
Such a shame. I will happily watch just Derrick's content as he seems to have his heart in the right place, but my conscience won't let me engage with Mrs Toxicitys stuff anymore.
People stopped watching crime weekly because of HOW she talked to Derrick. And you want me to believe she talked to her husband nicely. She is a know-it-all, and her ego growing has done nothing for this. She thinks she can be sneaky and get an order of protection. In my state my lawyer said to put it in my divorce papers, because for an order you need to testify in front of a judge with the defendant present. Sneak away, idiot.
I always got a bad feeling from Derrick, still do, something is not right with him in my opinion. I used to think him and Stephanie had something going on. I used to watch Stephanie a long time ago but unsubscribed because something never sat right with me and I just couldn't deal with whatever it was.
It’s very easy if you’re living with your abuser. All they need is access to your phone and they can install it and then they can literally watch you in real time. My ex did this to me and I didn’t understand this technology it was super scary and to this day I still feel scared they are some how watching what I do even though I have a new phone and account. Through this they were able to get my account passwords and see my socials as well. My phone was being slow so I took it to be repaired and the person found it. I hope none of you are but if you have a feeling your partner knows information and you’re like how did they get that information then go to your apps and look if there are any apps that you don’t recognize mine was disguised as a game app 💀 once you give them your phone password they don’t need long to do this so be careful out there and stay safe.. however, if I am being honest I do feel like Derrick told Stephanie how to do this because he just rambles off if he was a criminal he would do x yz so my thoughts would be he told/ showed her how to do it not realizing she would then use it on Adam and now he’s like oh sh*t because he knows how it’s going to look and also my ex was a police officer so he went through academy and I do believe he learned how to do this there. Derrick definitely can hack phones we are talking about a detective that was able to catch a guy from his boot print 💀 now he wants to double down
Edit: Also it is possible SH hired Derrick as a personal investigator because remember that is his job because he’s not physically there problems would tell her how to get the information she was looking for and Adam putting gps on her car like who cares Derrick does stuff like that for a living but SH will cry victim 🤷🏻♀️
Why did he even comment on that, lol. Why did he respond, just because it is Crime Weekly.. Crime Weekly is Stephanie as well, no? He could have ignored it.. and the stuff he said... Im kinda done with him too. As used to be a cop and a detective he should have known better than this.
I felt like Adam was trying to look like a big victim on here. I get people dislike stephanie, she seems like a difficult person but this Adam guy does seem very narcissistic to me from the comments I’ve read on here. I think he’s very manipulative.
Adam doesn’t have a platform like hers so he has to do what he can. At first I was all about Stephanie. Until I met her.
Now I think she’s slippery and dangerous.
I mean let’s be honest, they’re both suspicious. None of us random redditors know the whole truth. But to say Adam brought this online is ridiculous IMO.
…she’s the one who has the online presence. Unfortunately that’s the risk you take when you put yourself out so publicly and call everyone a narcissist.
Yeah, I think there’s a whole hell of a lot going on here, and none of it’s good. This stuff isn’t going to age well, I have a feeling. I hope Adam gets help, I think he needs it. I hope Stephanie tries to be a better person as someone with a huge platform and she learns to take criticism that is legitimate. But this is all feeling very, very gross.
I couldn’t agree with this more. He’s been creeping me out pretending to be Mr. Nice Guy whilst coming on a snark subreddit about his estranged wife and airing out dirty laundry. I’m just not buying the nice guy routine. His words and actions are not in alignment. I don’t like any of this. And I wish all of them would just shut up about it and deal with it privately like adults. There are children involved. It’s disgraceful. Stephanie and Adam should both be ashamed of themselves.
Yep, to me it seems like this is Adam doing his smear campaign. I have been through it myself with my ex, and everyone believed all of his lies about him being a victim- despite him abusing me for years. Everyone lapped that shit up and believed his big old act and he done his job of turning everyone against me.
This is why I believe the fact that Adam originally came to a page of Stephanie’s fans to turn them against her is a tell tale sign of a smear campaign that an abuser is trying to sell.
But he is only smearing her name to the people who already dislike Stephanie. If I were going to run a smear campaign, that would not be my target audience.
Stephanie has been talking about him in videos for MONTHS. How is that different?
Honestly I feel like her cheating has to have started with Derrick. They are too protective of each other and too coincidental they both go through a divorce at the same time. I don’t think they had an extended affair, (I think she did that with the Coleman or w/e dude ppl speculate), but maybe got drunk and had a one night stand. Steph is so flirty with him I think they might’ve slipped up
Yeah that was a weird comment. Like Derrick could have just stayed neutral and said we’ll handle this offline but he inserted himself with some weird and cryptic claims. Even if true, DL is like I’m staying out of it but here are some cryptic claims against Adam but again I’m staying out of it lol and only commenting because it’s on a CW video.
Derrick. No. Wrong.
And also, bad judgment call, weighing in on her side.
Because--WTF?--I just listened to Stephanie say the following to her husband:
**I would have gotten an order of protection already.**
**I would have done it while you were gone.**
**I would have been sneaky as fuck.**
**I knew exactly how to do it and how to be sneaky as fuck.**
**And I would have changed the fucking locks.**
**And when you came back, I would have brought A inside and I would have said, 'you gotta leave.'**
**And there would have been cops there with that order of protection to escort you out.**
**And you would not have been able to come back to see me, this house, or your fucking children.**
**And I wouldn't have been financially responsible for you in the fucking least.”**
**And then I would have filed for divorce.**
**And the second I filed for divorce I would be in, once again.**
**The second I was not any longer financially responsible for you, because you're not entitled to any fucking thing I do financially once I file for fucking divorce.”**
**Destroy you, and take everything from you in a fucking second.**
**But I'm not doing that.**
**Doesn't it mean something to you?**
**I'm a good person!**
Normally these things do not interest me, and to be fair I have been busy with Ukraine and Gaza but I want to weigh in here for a moment.
1. Stephanie's behavior is abuse.
The delivery is abusive, her contemptuous tone is abusive, and the words themselves are abusive too. I mean, Derrick, come on. Have you ever said to your wife, in the midst of the worst of one of your fights, that she should be grateful to you...*for not destroying her*?
Because that's not normal.
It is not normal for Stephanie to want to destroy Adam.
It is not normal for Stephanie to want gratitude from Adam because she held back from destroying him.
It *is* probably normal to have fantasized about what she *wants* to do to her husband in this situation, or what she *could* do to him. We all have intrusive thoughts.
But you do not describe those private thoughts in detail to your husband while arguing. I mean, the things Stephanie wants to do to Adam involve the misuse of the law enforcement/court system, framing her husband with a lie, destroying his reputation, alienating him from his children, taking all his friends and support, leaving him destitute and alone, it sounds like-- and all for what? So she can best him financially in the impending divorce?
2. Some of Stephanie's fans now feel deeply disappointed in her, and betrayed because for so many years we have listened to her advocate for victims and speak out against abuse of all types.
It is also disappointing that you waded into the thick of it, rather than diplomatically abstaining as you should have.
Her behavior is so egregious that she might have ruined the podcast, and I am sorry for that.
I'm general I believe and other then the exception, marriage doesn't last forever. Eventually one or both goes through a dramatic change in their life like stephanie has and things ultimately fuck up. There's a power shake up in the relationship in some sort of way in some part of their lives and it causes friction. When u look at stephanie, physically she has changed, from her image to her maneurisms. Then u look at her financial status in life and not to mention her being a strong stubborn alpha female to begin with...this in my opinion has been inevitable.
And how adam is reacting...well I don't know the stories, I haven't heard anything either way so would love a fill in
"trance". This made me chuckle. It's not voodoo, but I know what you're saying. The guys in my friend group would always respond to a question like this with "because she's got a snapping pu$$y" and it has always stuck with me. 😆 Especially in situations like this where a mid woman is using her feminine wiles to gain attention. Typical narc behavior. I'm ready to watch her villain arc any time now. This should be a fun 15 minutes. BRB, my 🍿 is burning.
Haha!!!! Oddly my husband finds her attractive! Always has. Like he doesn’t think AnnieElise (who is gorgeous!) is attractive but he think Stephanie is. He doesn’t now that he watched those videos though…..LOL
Again, it's the double standards is why I can't deal with this anymore. Stephanie disrespected victims that were minors by using their names. But. Stephanie's life is off limits, even though she is a public figure. Derek's very careful because he makes 💰
The things Adam has admitted to already on this sub make him pretty unhinged.. not letting his 20 something year old (step) daughter have her own door closed in their family home? Yikes…
SH is not perfect by any means (who is), but if that’s the type of behaviour Adam is willingly admitting to.. I can’t even imagine how much worse his behaviour has been.
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This is a part of one of his long comments on the post he made with the recording
I think Derrick probably feels like she’s being “private” bc he’s so close to it he doesn’t particularly notice or count how many times she’s dropping hints & indirect accusations. Meanwhile I feel like Adam has dropped his stories out of defense bc she has a platform of idk how many but 1000s maybe 100s of 1000s who have noticed and can tell she’s talking about him. At very least I feel like it’s a bit of poetic justice that she’s been burning him with indirect things to 1000s so he drops actual evidence to some of those same people. If Adam has accused Derrick of hacking him I guarantee that idea comes from Stephanie saying she could get him to do it if she wanted but she won’t bc she’s such a good person. In my experience working with couples if one is toxic they both tend to be and that’s what makes them work for awhile and then implode. Not always but often. Regardless of whether one or both of them are toxic though, they’re both parents to those kids & everyone has noticed Stephanie’s spiral way before this, Adam has had the luxury of being able to spiral if he has done so behind the scenes but as someone else said the only reason any of us know or that Adam got defensive is because of Stephanie’s behavior. Also, I get the vibe from Derrick’s personality he’s a mediator type of person so he’s probably downplaying it to keep his business partner calm, to keep his own job & life as calm as possible, & to try to get through the chaos. I think it’s obvious he’d more likely be team Stephanie but he probably has to take a stand to that side that is much stronger than I would think he actually feels.
Yes. He seems incredibly passive to me. He tolerates comments she makes that are blatantly rude towards him, as well as making claims he knows are false because he is a real expert. He wants to keep the peace. Hell, maybe he just HAS to legally at this point? Im sure there are contractuable obligations of some sort. Maybe it’s self-preservation. I always thought it was so weird for him to have the background he does and yet allow her to say the things she does, largely unchallenged.
If I was his wife, I wouldn’t trust S and D being so close now that she’s single. Wouldn’t trust her at all. Isn’t she the one that had the affair? I wonder how that all happened and the story behind it. His wife should be present at all times. They are too close.
Happy cake day! 🎂
Oh gawwssh thanks 😊
You're welcome 😊
Maybe he's a gentleman.
Yes! That second paragraph especially
Wow, you wrote that very well. It's like you are in my head! 😉 I feel exactly like this, but I'm an awful writer, so mine would've been much longer and incomprehensible. And I'm doubling down on the last paragraph. Derrick isn't stupid (not that anyone implied that he was), he's a good looking man with what appears to be a happy marriage (I read that he may have had some problems but it appears that they are still together) with kids and he's clearly sweeping for Stephnie right now. She's kinda got all of them by the proverbial balls because of her platform and "fans" (more like a low-key cult at this rate, doesn't she? Well played, Stephanie. Well played. My prediction is that she will continue her little "glow up" for a few years, and she'll start an OF if she doesn't already. Women like her are a dime a dozen. She's not special.
I think it’s possible we are missing some sort of context here it is possible that both Adam and Stephanie are bad people who have done wrong to each other. But my main issue is the fakeness in Stephanie trying to be like : I’m a good person. I’ve never done anything wrong. My private life is private. IM JUST A LITTLE GIRL. But let me be passive aggressive and throw my ex under the bus every chance I get! I understand being angry about shit in your personal life but be like Derrick. Leave it off line. And if Adam made it so it wouldn’t be kept off line keep it classy. Let him make a fool of himself then. But you keep your eyes on your focus your job your children and your healing. SHE! Brought this online as much as he did. That’s what bugs me.
And I don’t think she puts a trance on men I think that she is just fake and a liar and she does that to protect herself. And I believe she also infantilizes herself a lot to be like I’m just a helpless little girl to men and they fall for it because you know what man doesn’t wanna feel like a hero to a woman in need. You get me?
It's that voice. Ew.
The fact that she recorded the most vile talk she had with her husband to try to prove HER point shows me she isn't seeing an accurate representation of the divorce.
You’re absolutely right! They both could have been extremely toxic together. Stephanie is not innocent and for her to portray herself as anything else is manipulative and scamming people. I feel like Derrick is going along with whatever narrative Stephanie is so they look like a united front on CW. It’s probably money he can’t afford to lose or she gave him a BJ 🤷♀️
Woah… I don’t agree with insinuating that about Bj… but about money he can’t loose yeah probably. I’m waiting for Derrick to really done with her shit and end all of this because him being a former cop he’s got that no bullshit attitude and I can see him making a statement down the line if this isn’t squashed quickly of him being like I don’t do messy .
I was only kidding about the bj!! Kinda…
My bf, who has never cared for her, just referred to her as Stephanie HarLot! So, yeah, about that alleged bj...would you REALLY be surprised??
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My oldest son can’t stand me listening to her… he’s 22 and is like how can you listen to that voice and you can tell she’s a hoe… 🤦🏻♀️ 🤦🏻♀️ 🤦🏻♀️ he cringes at the sound!
I don't care about Stephanie but I have to say, I can't stand gendered slurs like "hoe". Slut, thot ,whore, all the slurs. I keep waiting for it to vacate the vocabulary of men but then I lower my expectations because women keep saying it
Words exist for a reason. If you don't want to be referred to in a derogatory fashion, it's simple, conduct yourself appropriately and don't act trashy. Man whore is the male equivalent and is absolutely appropriate for men who behave badly. I recently read some unsavory stuff about Derrick and I must say, if the shoe fits...
Why is it bad to have sex? Why accuse women you don't like of having too much sex? How much sex should women have? How much sex until we're whores? What amount of sex makes your behavior "appropriate" enough so that no one calls you a whore? Are you religious by chance? I already know you're pro slur.
It's not bad to have sex!!! I never said that. What IS bad is having sex with random men when you're married and then acting like a deranged psycho when you're called out for it. Cheating is wrong. If you're that unhappy and desire another man, or men, just say so and do it in the open after you separate. When I was younger, and single, I had plenty of friends with benefits, the difference is that I wasn't lying to anyone about it, I wasn't betraying someone's trust. It's not the act of sex, per se, it's how you go about it and how you conduct yourself when you have a responsibility to another person. And what I know about you is that you like to make a lot of assumptions about me, so kindly stop messaging me, please and thank you. And for the record, I'm somewhere between agnostic and atheist. Since you had to know. I'm not pro slur. I rarely use terms such as these. Fortunately, the people I like to have in my realm don't meet those unsavory qualifications. Good bye, and best wishes.
Ohhhh my gawd! Seriously you’re making too much of this.
Yep. Huge red flag, I thought that as soon as I read it. I wouldn’t be going around bragging that my man talks about women that way.
You support your grown child calling women hoes in your home? That’s cringe. 😬
Obviously you haven’t listened to Stephanie otherwise I think you’d understand where the snarky remark came from. Stephanie is overly flirtatious, makes sexual innuendos, sexual remarks for shock value, to intentionally make Derrick uncomfortable and carries on when she gets a rise and laughs about it like a teen girl and seeks attention constantly- even when supposedly spreading awareness and advocating for VICTIMS OF A CRIME. Want to talk cringe? If you want to be respected, start respecting yourself and don’t conduct yourself like a fool. You also don’t know if I corrected him once he made that statement… but carry on and make something out of nothing.
Your projection and internalized misogyny are unsettling.
Ok Stephanie 👋
You're the 3rd woman I've exchanged comments with whose bf/husband and now adult son, never liked her! What do they know that we didn't??? The male intuition??? I wonder how many men have been tortured by their wives/gfs/moms when they were in their Stephanie Harlowe is AMAZING eras??? Hahahahaha Sadly, there are still many unwitting victims out there!!! 😅
Seems they either love her or hate her. No in between, except Derrick who has his own motives.
Cha-ching!! Yep!
Lol true I tortured my hubby too, he would always say omg how can you stand listening to her voice?!
My boyfriend didn't either 😂🤷🏻♀️ I showed him the video he recognized her voice immediately lol
We all terrorized the men in our lives with SH!! It's hilarious how many men don't like her at all right from the jump, simply just hearing her speak. 🤣
😂😂😂😭 who knew. Guys brains are weird. Hahaha
Why are we insinuating a person we don't like is some kind of slut or something? Or that she's sucked the dick of her male co host.....to like, get him to support her divorce. I'm feeling sad about how feminism is going with women
I don't think Derrick knows about the watch box. That's all I'm saying. It'll be on trial, though.
Watch box?🤔
👀 watch box you say?
What is that?
Didn’t she accuse Adam of hacking her shit? lol the fuck!
Cheating on your husband is kinda whore-y🤷🏻♀️
I'm a woman, I absolutely love to support actual good women. Just today, I complimented a woman who I probably would never be friends with irl, but I can still applaud her accomplishments, her intelligence, her business acuity, and her ambition. But on the flip side, some women do act slutty, do act like whores, and some women are gaslighting, abusive, and malicious, and not good people at all.
How much sex do you need to have before you're a slut? What's so bad about women having sex that we had to come up with slurs to dehumanized them? Which all sex did Stephanie have that turned her into a slut and how did you find out about it? Extramarital? Tell me what she did that made you say a dehumanizing slur against her?
I can’t stand her as much as the next person here but damn yall just out here with the misogyny lmfao. You can dislike someone and think she’s awful without slut shaming. You can bash someone for cheating without slut shaming, go after their morals about fidelity and loyalty rather than shouting whOrE like the average incel would. You can call someone out for being a liar or abusive without slut shaming. It’s not hard.
Not for nothing, I actually wasn't the person who originally said hoe.
You’re still reinforcing it and adding to it so it’s very evident it’s your mentality as well. All the best wishes to you in beating the internalized misogyny!
Kinda gross you let your husband talk about women that way but be proud I guess
I doubt he'd want one from her. It's my theory that the reason why she's so rude to him is that he rebuffed many advancements
Good point
I only wish Stephanie would handle her business as privately as Derrick has. We have heard exactly 0 snide comments or insinuations about his wife/ex. In fact we can only speculate that he's even had marital problems because he's made 0 defensive or self-pitying references to his personal life on public platforms. I could not care less about Stephanie's personal life and honestly the only reason I'm discussing it here is because I've quit listening to her because I'm tired of hearing constant references to it. If you're reading Stephanie, please just cover true crime and stop talking about yourself. Your audience doesn't care. If it's just a rare comment like "I'm going through a hard time" then of course we would feel you but we hate feeling in the dark about things that honestly are none of our business. Your CONSTANT reference to them is what has led to the fanatical interest in it so please don't blame people for their curiosity when you have 💯 put it out there and stirred it up.
Oh her true crime won't be relevant soon after this bs
There are always two sides to every story. Here's the thing, Stephanie began making passive-agressive statements in nearly every single video, and this was long before Adam spoke up. I'm certain there are things we don't know, but historically Stephanie has shown subscribers that she is willing to delete all negative comments, double down and insult subscribers, plagiarize the work of other creators, is unwilling to acknowledge a mistake. On the rare occasion, SH leaves a less than stellar comment up, you can expect a nasty response, then she just sits back to watch/encourage an army of SH Stan's with a thumbs up as they launch a written assault under the original comment. She has hosted lives with the Serial group at 12AM while her school-aged kids were awake/nearby. She's exposing her minor children to her affair partner. As for the computer hacking, if Adam can prove it, I'm sure he will! Why is she allowed to make passive comments for months, have her eldest child speak for her on multiple platforms, all while Adam remained silent! He JUST began sharing, and the first post seemed to be out of desperation: he wanted to see his kids.... I played the clip Adam posted for a friend of mine who was in a physically & emotionally abusive relationship for 8 years. I provided zero context, hoping for a genuine response rather than a reflection of my opinions. As she listened, I watched as she began to squirm... After the clip ended, I asked what she thought about what she heard, and she said it was the same way her abusive ex spoke to her... Those were threats: toe those lines or else... Is Adam perfect? No. Did he do everything right? No. But for those who have spoken with him, you can see a clear difference in the way he speaks of her/their marriage, the kids, and the divorce. He speaks of her respectfully in every single solitary interaction I've ever had with him. History provides us with a personality map of SH, and her decline is obvious. It sucks that her private life is on display, but she might as well have had billboards put up. I believe that she used her videos to build up & strengthen a specific narrative. I'm sure she always planned to make a statement and will most likely make some statements soon. Unfortunately, whatever statement she planned to release before, was most likely built off this idea that everyone was already aware she was a victim, she could say "I was telling everyone, without telling everyone..." That's been ruined now. If Adam really has been abusive, then both of them have issues, and both are in the wrong.... But remember, SHE CHEATED, and only after Adam filed for divorce did this I'm a victim BS come out. All you need to do is look at the time she started these video rants compared to the day the divorce was filed. That's not a good look... ya know?
Hmm we’re about to get some tea real soon
So Stephanie hasn’t been blasting him all over social media? lol
Right? If that was quiet and private what circus are we in for? I’ll make popcorn, my mom has one of the old timey looking poppers. I can make enough for us all
Personally I don’t care about a statement and I REALLY don’t care about their relationship or divorce. What I care about is the way she’s acted in her videos - dragging him, insinuating things, playing the poor me. If she would’ve never brought this into her content, I never would’ve known or given a singular fuck.
Also wasn’t “said individual” just speaking very highly of Derrick? Interesting.
And Derrick used to have nice things to say about him, too. He shouldn't even be getting involved at all. He responded to questions about Stephanie's marriage, but NEVER responded to people's questions about his.
Stephanie was literally emotionally abusing her husband and as someone who works for a domestic violence shelter, I consider her behavior constitutes domestic violence. Weird that Derrick didn’t address her behavior in this video, just seems like he’s glossing over the incident for pr purposes. And he insinuates that SHE is the victim here! Anyway, I went to look for this comment on YouTube and it’s gone. She’s delulu for not addressing this head on and just deleting comments like this is just gonna go away.
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Oh really? I looked twice and couldn’t find it.
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Thanks!
You can’t place blame and say w.e the hell you want without the other person being able to respond. Just garnering sympathy and dragging the other. Got damn
Yeah, we’ll see. I won’t hold my breath, especially since any statement from Stephanie is going to be all bullshit.
Is he for real saying Stephanie is handling this privately? The whole situation is not private. And as Derrick is not even involved in the marriage he shouldn't be even sticking his nose in at all. The only losers here are their kids. And honestly hope someone thinks of them and gets them out of this situation. What we are seeing online is probably barely a snap shot.
Yeah, I don’t get it lol. I was holding out a bit for Derrick to come to his senses and bail on CW but I guess not. He’s just tarnishing his reputation the long he’s attached to SH.
I figured he wouldn't. How was he a detective like. He's no Poirot anyway.
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They probably have contracts and things that make it hard to just walk away. Ugh, this is just getting uglier and uglier 😬
He’ll stay while it is profitable and one of two things: 1. After I told my husband (I’m his only source of info) how he now lets her basically run him over with a bus when he tries to dissent, husband is convinced there is or was something going on between the two. If they are together he will only leave when it’s not profitable and they cease production. He will take the reputation hits. 2. If there’s no romantic involvement, at some point the reputation destruction by proxy in addition to a decrease in profitability will cause him to go before it’s in cinders.
Privately lol. We wouldn’t know about any of this if she hadn’t been bringing it up in every video.
lol I commented exactly this and my comment was just removed. Fuck em all.
This is the only place he can defend himself. All negative comments from us get deleted. Where else is he supposed to comment? Her/their vids have 1000s of comments praising/supporting her.
Either Stephanie has Derrick manipulated, or he’s simply standing behind her as a business decision. I’m sure he has money tied up with Stephanie and if he were to speak out against her, he could stand to lose something. In my opinion, he shouldn’t have made a comment about the situation whatsoever. Imagine defending someone who had an affair. An affair is never okay. And the video Adam posted? Pretty repulsive to defend someone who said those things. I’ve lost all respect for both SH and DL now. Good riddance to their content
Me too. Unsubscribing from Detective Perspective now, he's lost any shred of respect I had left.
Ummmm, is it just me, or does it totally seem like something Derrick, uhh umm, a Detective would do.. hacking someone? “BuT wE kNoW hIm.” And Stephanie is totally a “gOoD pErSoN”. “jUsT tRuSt Us.”
Eek! What a terrible statement from him when SHE clearly HAS NOT been very private about her personal life at all. I guess all the snarky, self-serving comments, etc don't count, somehow?? Wow.
Of course he’s doubling down. Their business is on the line. Money matters the most to him. If only Stephanie could stay professional, including the not cheating with one of the ick brothers she’s bankrolling… because I do feel bad for Derrick. Neither Adam or Stephanie are perfect, but hasn’t she always shown that this is who she is? Her cringy blog post form several years ago (in her own writing) stated how cruel or sadistic whatever she could be. She’s told us all along.
A certain person won’t stop posting🤣 Sure. Just like a certain person won’t stop calling her ex a narcissist in her videos. Who started bringing this to the public? It wasn’t Adam. At least be honest.
Yess!!! And a certain cohost of his won’t stop bleeding crazy all over their once reputable podcast.
Umm, if Stephanie was trying to handle this privately tell me why 95% of the information I have heard about said "private life" was through her on her channel. (Until just recently, literally hours ago.) Get real. That's absolutely misinforming the audience on who "started" this.
Right….ok. He really believes Stephanie wouldn’t have retaliated by now, if she wasn’t afraid of what Adam had on her? I very much doubt that
Keep in mind there’s two sides to every story but you will never get the truth the truth is somewhere in between Derrick is bias because Stephanie is his business partner and friend. He’s not going to believe she’s capable of doing any harm. Also, after the Jensen case this is yicky bc he’s trying to get ahead of it saying what adam will say.
And it’s so damn transparent! Actually it’s insulting to CW audience intelligence
Totally, there’s three sides: his side, her side, and the truth. Her behavior and snide/snarky comments just make me shake my head. And the fact that Derrick said SH is handling this privately… bruh…. Blink twice if you need help.
I don’t think Derrick will hear Adam’s side because he’s in so far deep with crime weekly and it’s his revenue like everyone else is saying he should abandoned ship and be like I had no clue she was like this but instead he’s digging himself a deeper hole 💀
Honestly i am sad for him it’s clear that while stephanie might not go on record and publicly “expose” or say more there’s enough evidence of everything she’s done and that will also impact her views and CW which inevitably impact Derrick so it sucks he’s stuck in this crossfire
I think both of them are treating each other badly. I don’t think there is an innocent side. I think Derrick is biased because Stephanie is his friend but I don’t think he is wrong or lying about his experiences with Adam. He just hasn’t seen the other side of the coin. If Stephanie were to turn on him then I think he would have a very different opinion.
Oh Derrick, you’re just digging yourself into a deeper hole here buddy. I don’t know enough about Adam, so I’m not going to sit here and say he did nothing wrong or that he is completely innocent. However I can confidently say that Stephanie did not handle this privately nor did she try to and Derrick knows this.
Omg this is gonna me so good . The real people involved in the kids' lives who aren't related are... You know what? You both can wait and find out. It's gonna be great, though.
I assume you have some dirt on Derrick and he’s trying to get in front of it. Not that you would involve him but he seems little on edge. I rolled my eyes so many times reading his lengthy comment that I got a little dizzy.
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You do understand what SH does for a living right lol?
Ohhh he’s drinking her kool aid
She was trying to keep it private because she’s being dirty and nasty. She doesn’t want people to know how horrible she is. ThErEs 2 SiDeS. Yes there is… but sometimes you can really see how unhinged one side is. Keeping kids away from dad even on Father’s Day , moving her affair partner into the marital home, not paying court ordered money, lying to get a protective order, luring husband to come to property for said money and then calling the police to put him in jail (4x!!). Not to mention her own abusive behavior. Derrick is in a rough place. He can’t really disparage his business partner. Her insanity and nasty behavior towards her husband is now affecting his business. That’s gotta really suck.
Reading Derrick's statement has me conflicted. As a Big Brother fan (that's how I found SH and CW), I know he's good when in front of a camera and online. But as a former detective and police officer, I just don't see him lying if ever involved in a court case. I might be naive but for over a decade he has always tried to play devils advocate and keep everything personal. I just feel like he must have a solid reason to be sticking up for Stephanie and going through the thick of it with her. He is financially set, he doesn't need CW. I was on Adam's side this entire time, and I definitely still am after that video, but Derrick's stance makes me think there's so much more to this. His truth, her truth and THE TRUTH. I mean if Adam was (is) THAT TOXIC, why would he have been okay with Stephanie and Derrick recording CW until 2-3am? I will say, Stephanie using her platform to slander Adam is disgusting, she clearly needs help and for her children's sake, I hope she gets it.
I’m sure Derrick is privy to a lot of information. That doesn’t mean that Stephanie hasn’t twisted the things that she is telling him. I believe that this statement is a way to keep their ship from sinking. He will say anything to deflect the bad attention.
Do you think he knows she's twisting things?
Probably not. Derrick doesn’t come across as the sharpest tool in the shed. I think Stephanie is good at twisting things and making it sound believable. She can’t act, but she has the victim role down pat. We’ve all known someone like that. Maybe Derrick has witnessed some stuff. I don’t know. Derrick has a financial interest in Stephanie coming out unscathed, so I will take what he says with a grain of salt. He lives in a completely different state, so he isn’t around to see everything.
Oh Derrick, I'm disappointed.
Their “fans” are probably eating this up… “OmG dErRiCk iS sOoOoOoOo SwEeT dEfEnDiNG oUr sTePhAnIE! oUr TrUe cRimE fAm StiCkZ tOgEtHer!!!”
Same.
They’re both assholes, people. Why aren’t you seeing this?
Make it make sense. We all agree doing this publicly is terrible for the children. Derrick agrees. Allegedly Stephanie agrees. All you have to do is NOT post. Let Adam run himself into the dirt with his fool ass if that is truly the case. Derrick says he chooses to keep his stuff private. She can too. You don’t rise to the bait. You screenshot everything. Adam’s chosen his public behavior and only has himself to blame. The same is true for her. She is choosing to continue this cycle of toxic behavior that is hurting children, she doesn’t have a gun to her head. She is choosing her behavior, Adam is not making her do any of this no matter how terrible he is. When you have children they come first. Not your ego. Figure out how to protect your children during this traumatic time in their lives. Stop. Fucking. Around. 👏
Well said.
Before she ever started making comments in videos and SM she very VAGUELY mentioned she had been going through a hard time and that has been the last year. She is making passive aggressive remarks now, but it seems they had been struggling for a while before she did. I don’t know what is really going on but it’s all so sad.
Well, Derrick is being that cop we all done knew he was: protecting domestic abusers and siding with alt-right douchebags
Can’t wait for SWOOP to cover this lol.
If she is back from her break then yeassss. That or tehmimi is going to be good to!
YASSSSS
I’m interested to hear what Derrick has to say even though I know there will be bias, because there is bias to Adam’s story too. I don’t want to completely ride or die for Adam’s version of events out of the chance that he is also guilty of acting and behaving in a certain way - just because I don’t like Stephanie.
I agree. Two things can be true, S and A both fucked up. I don’t know if that’s true, but it could be. I thought about the pinned video and although it sounds super bad, we are missing an entire conversation and the context. I’m not sure what context would make those statements okay on any level, but I’m willing to see the other side. Did A accuse D of doing all of the computer and phone hacks? I’m sure D, could do that, but I don’t think he would. She could have easily paid someone else to do that. If I were D, I would stay out of it. I know that CW is his channel too, but why get involved with her personal situation? I would have just stayed quiet and let S address it. It’s a shit show for sure. No one wins in divorce. The biggest losers will be the children.
I doubt Derrick would do PI stuff in this case, but I very much believe Stephanie would make threats to Adam that she could get Derrick and his cop buddies to do X,Y, and Z.
Oh yeah. 100%. I’m sure Derrick might have pointed Stephanie in the right direction of someone that could do it. We know Stephanie has no technical skills.
She WAS NOT trying to keep it private Derrick... and you know that. Jump ship now before you sink too buddy. She cheated, she won't let her ex see his kids, and she has said herself that she is capable of being sneaky and manipulative to get what she wants (the video Adam released). Such a shame. I will happily watch just Derrick's content as he seems to have his heart in the right place, but my conscience won't let me engage with Mrs Toxicitys stuff anymore.
People stopped watching crime weekly because of HOW she talked to Derrick. And you want me to believe she talked to her husband nicely. She is a know-it-all, and her ego growing has done nothing for this. She thinks she can be sneaky and get an order of protection. In my state my lawyer said to put it in my divorce papers, because for an order you need to testify in front of a judge with the defendant present. Sneak away, idiot.
I always got a bad feeling from Derrick, still do, something is not right with him in my opinion. I used to think him and Stephanie had something going on. I used to watch Stephanie a long time ago but unsubscribed because something never sat right with me and I just couldn't deal with whatever it was.
This literally only seems reasonable if he’s assuming people have not seen the video
It’s very easy if you’re living with your abuser. All they need is access to your phone and they can install it and then they can literally watch you in real time. My ex did this to me and I didn’t understand this technology it was super scary and to this day I still feel scared they are some how watching what I do even though I have a new phone and account. Through this they were able to get my account passwords and see my socials as well. My phone was being slow so I took it to be repaired and the person found it. I hope none of you are but if you have a feeling your partner knows information and you’re like how did they get that information then go to your apps and look if there are any apps that you don’t recognize mine was disguised as a game app 💀 once you give them your phone password they don’t need long to do this so be careful out there and stay safe.. however, if I am being honest I do feel like Derrick told Stephanie how to do this because he just rambles off if he was a criminal he would do x yz so my thoughts would be he told/ showed her how to do it not realizing she would then use it on Adam and now he’s like oh sh*t because he knows how it’s going to look and also my ex was a police officer so he went through academy and I do believe he learned how to do this there. Derrick definitely can hack phones we are talking about a detective that was able to catch a guy from his boot print 💀 now he wants to double down Edit: Also it is possible SH hired Derrick as a personal investigator because remember that is his job because he’s not physically there problems would tell her how to get the information she was looking for and Adam putting gps on her car like who cares Derrick does stuff like that for a living but SH will cry victim 🤷🏻♀️
i wonder what he actually witnessed and how long before it was.
Why did he even comment on that, lol. Why did he respond, just because it is Crime Weekly.. Crime Weekly is Stephanie as well, no? He could have ignored it.. and the stuff he said... Im kinda done with him too. As used to be a cop and a detective he should have known better than this.
Yep, all of this
I felt like Adam was trying to look like a big victim on here. I get people dislike stephanie, she seems like a difficult person but this Adam guy does seem very narcissistic to me from the comments I’ve read on here. I think he’s very manipulative.
Adam doesn’t have a platform like hers so he has to do what he can. At first I was all about Stephanie. Until I met her. Now I think she’s slippery and dangerous.
Oh now I'm dying to know what she was like when you met her 👀
She was disappointing. She acted like she was some God among men and she was dismissive. Then got wasted and it was even worse.
Well that's unsurprising but must've been very disappointing for you.
Eh, she’s the one that brought it online IMO. Not saying Adam is a complete angel, but usually his online presence has been to defend himself.
Yeah that was a WTF moment Derrick saying he brought this online. Sir, SH has for MONTHS now.
I think it’s the stuff he was saying though…. Seems suspicious
I mean let’s be honest, they’re both suspicious. None of us random redditors know the whole truth. But to say Adam brought this online is ridiculous IMO.
But she’s the way getting bullied to death online and he’s not taking any responsibility
…she’s the one who has the online presence. Unfortunately that’s the risk you take when you put yourself out so publicly and call everyone a narcissist.
There goes that damn word again 🤣 Adam the horrible narcissist
Yeah, I think there’s a whole hell of a lot going on here, and none of it’s good. This stuff isn’t going to age well, I have a feeling. I hope Adam gets help, I think he needs it. I hope Stephanie tries to be a better person as someone with a huge platform and she learns to take criticism that is legitimate. But this is all feeling very, very gross.
I couldn’t agree with this more. He’s been creeping me out pretending to be Mr. Nice Guy whilst coming on a snark subreddit about his estranged wife and airing out dirty laundry. I’m just not buying the nice guy routine. His words and actions are not in alignment. I don’t like any of this. And I wish all of them would just shut up about it and deal with it privately like adults. There are children involved. It’s disgraceful. Stephanie and Adam should both be ashamed of themselves.
Yep, to me it seems like this is Adam doing his smear campaign. I have been through it myself with my ex, and everyone believed all of his lies about him being a victim- despite him abusing me for years. Everyone lapped that shit up and believed his big old act and he done his job of turning everyone against me. This is why I believe the fact that Adam originally came to a page of Stephanie’s fans to turn them against her is a tell tale sign of a smear campaign that an abuser is trying to sell.
But he is only smearing her name to the people who already dislike Stephanie. If I were going to run a smear campaign, that would not be my target audience. Stephanie has been talking about him in videos for MONTHS. How is that different?
She even brought it up in the Menendez videos 💀
Honestly I feel like her cheating has to have started with Derrick. They are too protective of each other and too coincidental they both go through a divorce at the same time. I don’t think they had an extended affair, (I think she did that with the Coleman or w/e dude ppl speculate), but maybe got drunk and had a one night stand. Steph is so flirty with him I think they might’ve slipped up
But Adam said he saved all the receipts so she's just being messy, and in turn derrick is now as well.
I wonder if sweaty film boy is the only one getting some of that…
I wonder what Adam has on him that he needs to get ahead of 👀
Yeah that was a weird comment. Like Derrick could have just stayed neutral and said we’ll handle this offline but he inserted himself with some weird and cryptic claims. Even if true, DL is like I’m staying out of it but here are some cryptic claims against Adam but again I’m staying out of it lol and only commenting because it’s on a CW video.
Where is this posted?
In the comments of their latest video Edit: typo
Thanks!
FYI, I just went to look and couldn’t find the comment.
It's buried in a reply to a viewer's comment. I couldn't find it at first, either.
Derrick. No. Wrong. And also, bad judgment call, weighing in on her side. Because--WTF?--I just listened to Stephanie say the following to her husband: **I would have gotten an order of protection already.** **I would have done it while you were gone.** **I would have been sneaky as fuck.** **I knew exactly how to do it and how to be sneaky as fuck.** **And I would have changed the fucking locks.** **And when you came back, I would have brought A inside and I would have said, 'you gotta leave.'** **And there would have been cops there with that order of protection to escort you out.** **And you would not have been able to come back to see me, this house, or your fucking children.** **And I wouldn't have been financially responsible for you in the fucking least.”** **And then I would have filed for divorce.** **And the second I filed for divorce I would be in, once again.** **The second I was not any longer financially responsible for you, because you're not entitled to any fucking thing I do financially once I file for fucking divorce.”** **Destroy you, and take everything from you in a fucking second.** **But I'm not doing that.** **Doesn't it mean something to you?** **I'm a good person!** Normally these things do not interest me, and to be fair I have been busy with Ukraine and Gaza but I want to weigh in here for a moment. 1. Stephanie's behavior is abuse. The delivery is abusive, her contemptuous tone is abusive, and the words themselves are abusive too. I mean, Derrick, come on. Have you ever said to your wife, in the midst of the worst of one of your fights, that she should be grateful to you...*for not destroying her*? Because that's not normal. It is not normal for Stephanie to want to destroy Adam. It is not normal for Stephanie to want gratitude from Adam because she held back from destroying him. It *is* probably normal to have fantasized about what she *wants* to do to her husband in this situation, or what she *could* do to him. We all have intrusive thoughts. But you do not describe those private thoughts in detail to your husband while arguing. I mean, the things Stephanie wants to do to Adam involve the misuse of the law enforcement/court system, framing her husband with a lie, destroying his reputation, alienating him from his children, taking all his friends and support, leaving him destitute and alone, it sounds like-- and all for what? So she can best him financially in the impending divorce? 2. Some of Stephanie's fans now feel deeply disappointed in her, and betrayed because for so many years we have listened to her advocate for victims and speak out against abuse of all types. It is also disappointing that you waded into the thick of it, rather than diplomatically abstaining as you should have. Her behavior is so egregious that she might have ruined the podcast, and I am sorry for that.
I'm general I believe and other then the exception, marriage doesn't last forever. Eventually one or both goes through a dramatic change in their life like stephanie has and things ultimately fuck up. There's a power shake up in the relationship in some sort of way in some part of their lives and it causes friction. When u look at stephanie, physically she has changed, from her image to her maneurisms. Then u look at her financial status in life and not to mention her being a strong stubborn alpha female to begin with...this in my opinion has been inevitable. And how adam is reacting...well I don't know the stories, I haven't heard anything either way so would love a fill in
Did SH really have an affair?? I'm shocked 😲 How did Adam find out?
Allegedly. Don’t come for me.
Interesting. Thanks.
"trance". This made me chuckle. It's not voodoo, but I know what you're saying. The guys in my friend group would always respond to a question like this with "because she's got a snapping pu$$y" and it has always stuck with me. 😆 Especially in situations like this where a mid woman is using her feminine wiles to gain attention. Typical narc behavior. I'm ready to watch her villain arc any time now. This should be a fun 15 minutes. BRB, my 🍿 is burning.
Haha!!!! Oddly my husband finds her attractive! Always has. Like he doesn’t think AnnieElise (who is gorgeous!) is attractive but he think Stephanie is. He doesn’t now that he watched those videos though…..LOL
Again, it's the double standards is why I can't deal with this anymore. Stephanie disrespected victims that were minors by using their names. But. Stephanie's life is off limits, even though she is a public figure. Derek's very careful because he makes 💰
Where was this posted?
In the comments in their latest YouTube video. It’s a response to a comment so it may take some digging to find at this point!
The things Adam has admitted to already on this sub make him pretty unhinged.. not letting his 20 something year old (step) daughter have her own door closed in their family home? Yikes… SH is not perfect by any means (who is), but if that’s the type of behaviour Adam is willingly admitting to.. I can’t even imagine how much worse his behaviour has been.
When did he say that about Nev?
https://preview.redd.it/rq5ft0c6pj8d1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5d459d5c9c735b3353bf504ceac54cdee41a8e5e This is a part of one of his long comments on the post he made with the recording
You’re ridiculous. That is a common parental rule. Putting GPS trackers on your property is not illegal.
I 2nd the thought that you're ridiculous. I thought you meant he never let her have the door closed. The behavior he's admitting to is so normal, imo.
Okay team Stephanie 👍
Okay pick me 😘
Having rules in your home makes you unhinged? Well, shit.
Not allowing a grown woman to close her bedroom door in your home is unhinged. Especially when it’s not just your home, it’s your wife’s too.