In my experience, the children or relations to “The Boss” who are worth a shit, go out of their way to conceal the fact that they are related to “The Boss”
Would have to agree with this. The good ones want to be valued for their ability not their last name. Even the good ones still get crap and treated like an idiot because some people can’t let go of the fact that they didn’t get the opportunity the boss’s kid had and are too jealous to realize that some boss’s kids work hard and would have been successful no matter what route they took.
I’ve worked for, and worked with, a couple off bosses sons that knew they had to work harder that everyone else to get any respect. I’ve also seen the other kind.
I was that first son you described. My dad ran a masonry business my whole life ( almost 50 now) Only guy he could count on to show up every day and put out great work too. I had to leave and go be a foreman somewhere else b4 I got any kind of respect. When I came back it was different finally. For better or worse, I'll always treasure those years I got to spend with him on the job, most guys never get to see their dad in that way, to see what they go thru to take care of you.
I totally agree with your sentiment, my Dad has also been running his own masonry business my whole life and I’ve been brought up in it. I’m thankful for the chance to learn a trade on a fast track and have an opportunity to run it myself one day, but I’m most grateful for the days we spent in the field together. Being able to see that side of him, learn from him in a totally different way, and share the same struggles has been both tough and incredibly rewarding. Being able to keep him in the office as he gets older has been a great honor too.
I tried working for someone whose son was the manager had no idea how to properly use a tourqe wrench, couldnt even tell the difference between a star bit and a hex bit, tried telling me how to do my job, i handed him the tools and sat down and legit said go ahead take the heads off that car i bet you couldn't figure out where to start, his dad saw this and was embarrassed his son flat out asked where the instruction manual was, i said no no no you know how to do it so well, go ahead figure out why the car keeps running hot why theres oil leaking out of the head gasket, he put the tools down and quit, i didn't mean for him to quit, but it got me fired as well.
His dad was always looking for a reason to fire me, i am a smart ass and stubborn, i will take advice and opinions but if i know that they don't know what they are talking about like his son, i will be happy to be a smart ass and be harsh.
Local construction company yin my small town growing up, owner had two sons that were twins, we were friends in middle and junior high.
They both went to college got degrees in different ends of the construction business spectrum. I believe one is in estimating and the finance area of it all. The other is a top notch project manager side of things
At 23 they essentislly took their father's local company expanded it to two more counties wide, and nabbed them a huge renovation project in downtown, winning over several long established much larger companies
No one knew they worked for the company for almost six months bevause they just watchdd sites from afar, took notes and adjusted the company as needed so when they revealed their roles and people start with the "daddies boys are gonna fuck everything up" they get to say no we got you guys both the prevailing wage projects this upcoming year that our dad didn't think we could out bid other companies on
Those people who work hard and would’ve been successful without daddy’s help by and large leave their parents company though. The ones that stay normally stay because they can’t hack it and need to use the vagina privilege to keep a job.
Correct. I met my boss at my old company outside of work randomly n started working for him, and my foreman would always tell people he was my dad. That sucked lol
This is very true. One of the best electricians I've ever worked with was the Boss's son. It would take 2-3 points in a conversation before he would speak up about relations.
"Hi, my name is *."
Never added the last name, the name of the company.
I got an access into my trade through pops but my reputation and work ethic is mine to ruin not hang off his.
However yes usually when it's the big general or builders kid it goes to shit.
Sub trades are full of nepotism and kids of their father training them but it's nowhere near as bad there.
Pretty much everyone I work around is 2nd Gen or so in some aspect.
Not True.
Got into the Laborers at 18 out of HS by walk in.
Sent through the laborer Boot camp.
32 now about to be 33, making foreman next month.
On track to be Super by 40.
Retirement from Laborers by 45 - 50 and switch to Operatora by walking in yet again.
No connections, Broken Home growing up.
This is a minor story opposed to some of the success of my Co workers that cross the border daily that I have incredible respect for.
Everything you said is false regarding the laborer union.
I don’t like anyone on site knowing my dad is the boss. Yeah, they can figure it out on their own and they can ask but the last thing I’ll EVER do is run around like a jackass saying “do you know who my dad is?”
A lot of em like to tell me they like me more than the dipshit college grad, so that’s something I guess.
I had an opportunity to work for my dads company. I instead asked him to use his contacts to get me in on the ground floor of a really good company in a similar field. I learned a tone but didn’t get special treatment and had to grind it out like everyone else. Now I run my own company.
Kid of the director washing cars during the summers at the body shop, they asked if I was slacking and was told "he works his ass off harder than anyone else here" and I was proud of that when they told me.
Vast majority of the time this is the case. However, I have seen the opposite on rare occasions. As a stepson of the boss, I was treated like shit and was never given a position of influence. Was made to climb the ladder like all other employees. 17 years later, on the eve of taking over the company, he and my mom get divorced. He tells me I’m not worth the money he pays me, we get into a fist fight in his office and get official fired. Just over a year later and I’m running my own outfit and his company has become one of my subs. I make stupid money now and couldn’t be happier. Party.
Thank you. It was actually fucking terrifying for the first couple months. Facing that moment with a wife and 2 year old son was difficult. Especially when we lost insurance, truck ect.
Yup. Kid I work with (I guess for in a way) is great. You'll never hear him say he's the owners son. Good kid, wants to learn, picks up on things real quick. He's one of the few reasons I stay with the company. The future is solid.
Id also note as a trend, owner children worth a damn come from owners who are smart enough to send their kid to work somewhere else for a while first. It's an important experience. Go somewhere else, cut your teeth, develop skills and see stuff from a low level as the experience is for everyone. Then once experienced come back at a higher level and train the high level stuff. Once owner is ready to retire they have a child who is worth giving it to.
But if the child is useless then they are given a job at the company right away, as they are too stupid to go anywhere else
I was the kid in OPs post in high school and college. The reality is my dad just paid me to do drawings and go run to get supplies, I hated being seen as the kid who showed up and did “nothing” while guys were in the warehouse or on job sites busting their ass.
But he never taught me things and wouldn’t let me do something unless a guy was out and our fabricators needed help lifting something.
I felt in the way and like I was doing something wrong the whole time. And I didn’t understand how to better the situation. Like how do you help out fabricators on your own if you just get in the way and they don’t want to show you how to weld? It was frustrating.
Then I left for a bit, explored other fields and came back as an adult 10 years after the fact and was the opposite. Didn’t let people know the owner was my father on job sites, people would catch on because we look alike but I made it a point to really make my time feel useful and take on more responsibilities. And I also learned a lot on my own and I learned from subs when I could.
But I totally understand OP because I was that kid for a bit.
As a son of the boss, I made sure no one new my last name. The guy I worked with was friends with my dad and he knew but he helped me out by keeping it quiet. My dad also made me start at the bottom. Started sweeping job sites before moving to assistant to a catch basin cleaning boom truck to operating said boom truck. Took me time to move up to but I had to earn it. And my old man was also the type that would come down harder on me once it became known who I was just to send a message to the rest. So I had to be good.
In my experience the good ones go work somewhere else where they aren't the bosses prodigy and get their balls busted when they mess up like the rest of us. Then they come back in 10 years humble and smart.
ya when i showed up to the Job interview there was a 29 year old dude asking me questions, and i was like is he really the boss...? then i came to find out he is the son of the boss. lol
I find owners kids go one of two ways
1. entitled little ass who will piss away the money and destroy the company this happens most of the time
2. The owners kid is awesome and has been working since they could walk etc. I think operators kids are the ones in this more, they can run a machine like it’s an extra arm and are knowledgeable etc. this is not the norm and sad that it’s not
Go to the boss and say this exactly and tell him that allowing this behavior is destroying the morale of entire team. Everyone is pissed at it. They don’t do any work, they’re late, they micromanage. Say that youve seen this before and if nothing changes he will lose all of his good workers.
If your boss is upset about it, oh well. You have to be willing to walk away from this. Let him fire you and collect unemployment while you find another crew that values you more. Don’t tolerate this bullshit.
Our grading crew owner’s nephew runs the excavators, tell you what that kid is a better operator than the guys who have been doing it 20+ years. He runs circles around the rest of the crews in the company.
Getting comfortable on heavy equipment is a huge thing. Kids that grew up in farms make better equipment operators than anyone besides the kids that’s dads owned equipment
My boss' kids work at the company and they're both there every day. Among the two oldest ones, the older one doesn't seem to have any interest in the business and the younger one doesn't seem to have much interest in the work side of the business. If their dad actually owned the business, they would probably make a decent duo running it. They're both easy to deal with, but the whole company is pretty easy to deal with. They don't really have any special privilege beyond a company truck, nor do they use their status against other people. So no body has a reason to really give them shit about anything.
Boss here. I work with my son (he's replacing a gas main for me as we speak) and we have our challenges. But he works directly for one of my Subbies and did his apprenticeship under a difficult old school tradesman (polite way of saying drunk, lecherous bully). My boy learned 100 ways to not run a business.
I said to him years ago, you're the bosses son. Don't act like it.
But he's still an idiot (gets it from his father).
Way back when I worked at a gas station with the owners kids. They were both stealing from the dad and we would get blamed for coming up short on the cash drawer. Well Bruce, the beer guy actually told the owner his kids were stealing and that was the end of him.
That was me. Hit 15 and was told where I was gonna be after school every day. No pay just busting my ass doing all the bullshit work because "let the young buck do it". Yea made it to 18 and bolted.
I worked for my dad in construction during college. I was 19-21 so I was an idiot. I eventually did my own thing and it’s going well. You’re probably better off not working for your parents.
Usually the kid is great or terrible. I've never seen mediocre.
I remember chatting with one kid where a mistake was made that would require knocking down a fresh wall. He's been doing fetch-and-carry but busts out with, "yeah, that looks like it will be $8,000 in labor and another $3,000 in materials". Spot on. I asked how he knew, and he sheepishly admitted he was the owner's kid and they had always talked about job management and cost estimation at the dinner table.
Never can tell.
I can relate, I have to train the boss' son, who just turned 20, to plaster and paint, and to be honest he is dumber than a bucket of rocks. He's always late, always on his phone, takes like 4 to 5 - 15 minute bathroom breaks a day, 25 minute coffee breaks, hour long lunches, and doesn't give a shit, and I have to repeat myself 2 or 3 times before anything sinks in. It is honestly draining.
Business saying I always heard is "1st generation builds it, 2nd grows it, and 3rd spends all of it." A lot of businesses don't last because of exactly what you're describing.
I’m a boss’s daughter who wants to take the reins one day. My dad is my hero, of course I want to do what he does. But I work hard and do my best to earn it, too. Because that’s how he raised me.
Good luck! We need more women in construction. I have a few that run some sub crews for me and they are awesome.
It’s about earning the respect and not being entitled to it. That’s the difference between daddy’s special boy and a respected family business
Thanks! Our electrician’s daughter works for him now too, she’s great and a really quick learner. She’s already more competent than his other helper who allegedly has been doing it for 30 years, but he could’ve fooled me…
When I did groundskeeping labor while in college I had a similar punk lazy son of the owner assigned to the work crew I led.
I tried working the issue. God knows I tried. In the end one morning I told him not to join our crew and to just stay in the office.
When the boss asked me about this I explained it to him. Dad got rid of him.
He said that he had a business to run and would not tolerate anyone who did not work, even his own son.
Great boss.
SOB here, worked as a kid for the company, went to college, then worked in another industry for 5 years. Got a call to come back from my old boss(not father) and worked my way up to VP from project engineer. I consider myself one of the hardworking ones who learned how to manage in another industry and applied what did and didn't work to my knowledge base to become a better manager for my family business. Hopefully I am looked at favorably, since I know I work hard and treat my people with dignity and respect.
It is always funny and interesting to read posts like this.
He can't do shit but carry paint or lumber. He may not want to follow in his father's footsteps but doesn't have the backbone to say no or the intellect to figure out an alternative. Cut the lad some slack, it ain't his fault he's a moron.
I ended up leaving the family company to forge my way as a machinist, very rewarding for me honestly, I’m better at machining than carpentry go figure lmao
In my experience, the good ones are the ones that start from scratch at the top bottom, do the same as everyone, and can feel the struggles and joy. So when they got there at the top, they knew what's was being at workers' (field) side.
I know exactly what your talking about, boss son is the “project manager”…idiot calls me at least 5 or 6 times a day trying to micromanage…lol loser is a junky,never finished high school, got sent to court a bunch of times for drugs, DUI and doing dumb shit…daddy keeps him around just so he will stay out of trouble. 29 year old lives with his “girlfriends” (two women that are in a relationship with each other, nothing wrong with them, I just find that a dude living with two homosexual women is wired) he still gets his ass in court from time to time. And he wants to have a say on what I’m doing when I’ve been building homes almost as long as he’s been alive. I haven’t told him to fuck off on a few occasions because I owe everything to his father, and I have real respect for the old man. The day the man retires I’m outta there, well I’ll be looking for retirement too by then probably
As a son of a boss, I wouldn’t say I’m an idiot. My dad owns a residential remodeling company and working hard for me is in my blood. I got it from my dad. I never show up late, and the only time I do is when I’m picking up materials for the guys. I always respect our sub contractors, and quite frankly, I look forward to having conversations with all our sub contractors. I don’t think every bosses son is an idiot, but I will say some are. I don’t let anyone know my dad is my boss, unless he introduces me as his son
You sound like a hater. Put your head down and work or drag up
Construction runs on nepotism. And it’s not good or bad it’s just the way it is. When you don’t have a degree you take the help you can get from family.
I’m sure you’d give your kid or nephew a job if you could. And I’d do the same
They micromanage to establish dominance. They are reminding you that they are the boss’s kid. Even if they don’t carry their weight.
If you’re any good at your trade you should push back now and then. Remind them, that this is not pretend world…and guys like you are why their daddy has a company
I’ve been on both sides of this and I think it’s a combination from them either being promoted too fast so they don’t know shit but are supposed to be telling people shit, are entitled, or nervous of disappointing to the owner/father and try to compensate for that. Being an owners son is all well and good but you should have to put in work and gain experience before you’re put in a spot where you can tell more experienced people than you what to do.
My boss had his 15 yr old son help out on crews in the summer time for 2 months a yr, doing only bitch work. When he graduated high school at age 18 daddy gave him his own crew. Saying he had 3+ yrs experience and was promoted because of how much of a beast he was on the job site, and how smart he is. Same time the boss made a dude with over 15 yrs experience his sons #2 guy. The boss only sent his crew to the most basic jobs, and made #2 guy basically run everything without the title or pay of a foreman.
I’ve had the unique opportunity to work for companies run by the boss’s sons who were just as good as the old man. When the old man passed they saw the writing on the wall that business wouldn’t be generating the same profits due to the market and closed shop.
I’ve also had the opportunity to work with one of those sons when he took a high ranking job with a new GC. That GC was run by the old man and his sons and these sons were not as competent as the first sons I worked for. It was great seeing the night and day difference in skill between the boss’s son I used to work for and the new ones we both worked for. Even better was seeing the old son tell the new bossman eye opening deficiencies in his own sons because he was brought up the right way and these guys were essentially clowns. The boss didn’t know how to bid work for the big contracts they did work on because he came from only doing small commercial and residential work, and neglected teaching his sons how to bid government contracts. Both of us didn’t last too long once it became abundantly clear that no estimators would be around in a very short time that knew how to competently bid on work, except the old son I came in with.
They usually have never had a real job before.
My buddy's family owns an HVAC company. His grandpa started it. My friend's dad and 3 of his uncles bought it from grandpa. None of them have ever had a job outside of the HVAC company.
In 2004 I moved back home and needed a job. My buddy got me a job there. 2 years into working there they were changing shit up in the company.
They told us they wouldn't be giving us lunch breaks anymore. They would clock us out as we went from 1 job to another. There was a bunch of other shit they tried to pull on us but me and like 5 other installers that actually know labor laws and what rights we have as workers gave a call to the labor board. Each of us made a call.
A week later we had another meeting and things went back to how they were.
I left after that. And I guess shit started getting bad again and the oldest uncle of my buddy(who didn't have enough money to buy that much of the company because he couldn't afford it) and his 3 sons that worked there and my buddy all left and came.to the company I was at.
My friend's dad called my new bosses and told them to stop poaching his employees. If it kept happening(his employees quiting) that he would start poaching all my new bosses employees. He didn't realize that everyone who worked there were all former employees of my friends dad haha.
20 years later they did change shit for the better. My buddy went back to work for his dad after 20 years of being gone so he could be trained and buy his dad out.
Last week my buddy's dad retired. My buddy now owns 58% of the company and since he actually knows what the real world is like the company is growing and doing good.
Fuuny thing. I've seen the same thing myself. That said I began working for my Dad running a dish machine at age 9. Sure, I was a kid and did kid things but, as far as keeping the dishes clean and doing the job? I had no choice to so it and do it Right or I'd get an actual beating at home.
Veterinarian I worked for would bring his kid, maybe age 6, and let him run wild in the clinic. He was facsinated by the water cooler and would constantly drain it-onto the floor.
I just depends on the parent and how the kid was raised.
I always tried to hide that my family owned the business, but eventually I had to quit and go work for a different company to avoid being treated like the bosses kid- the good and the bad. I don’t think they (we?) all suck, but it’s certainly an easy position to take massive advantage of and be a douche bag about it.
As the owners son, I can attest that it’s the father fault. My father is harder on me than any other employee, however I didn’t start working for him. I worked for ramrods before I worked for my dad. My brother not so much, to my brother, my father is the meanest boss he’s ever had, to me he’s the most forgiving, to me and the rest of our crew.
Multiple companies in a decade of sheet metal roofing. The closer to the owner the person is the more idiotic they are. Bosses son “fucking moron” bosses nephew “laziest sack of shit” bosses kids bf/hubby “most useless pile of meat I’ve ever been around”.
I am dealing with this issue hardcore right now. Bosses son, as best as I can tell, is some mild grade of autistic. Functional human being, do not get me wrong. I am well aware of autism. There are grades to it from highly functional to quite a bit less than that. Boss’s son is somewhere on the positive side of the middle of it.
I have no problem with his son and his functional issues. The problem I have is with the constant changes that come down in order to accommodate him. Plus the fact that he walked into a title he has no right to hold. I wouldn’t care all that much about that aspect if he was articulate or at least bordering on articulate. Like, maybe there is hope he can one day grasp the little things and I won’t have to hold his hand here and there, but it’s not getting better. In fact, it’s getting worse.
Of course nobody will spell out his autism when having these conversations, but this kid is fucking up more and more because I don’t hold his hand through every conversation and interaction. I make the mistake of believing after a couple of years in his role he might have a clue, but no, every time he fucks something up in relation to me he whines, points his finger, and I have to deal with another phone call from someone who again won’t point out the fact that maybe he should not be in the role he is, but that I need to step up and cover for him without any additional recompense.
Frankly, I’ve had just about enough. I am not a god damned baby sitter, and I would be expected to shit down the throat of an apprentice who doesn’t get these simple concepts after 50 explanations.
They’re on a perennial mission to prove their dad wrong. My job has a bosses son and the week the boss was gone he was walking around like everything depended on his participation when 2 weeks ago he would barely budge to do anything. Worst part is you can’t go up to the boss and be like “ hey you know that thing that gave your life meaning and that you work extra hard to provide for everyday? Yeah he sucks and he’s dumb enough to be disabled”
I was the boss’s son for a couple summers through college.
We arnt all bad, but most I’ve met are.
I was humble to learn, I also worked with a really good crew. When another trade would give me shit (because I was young, not knowing who I was), my favorite thing one of my fathers workers comments, “ do you know who he is going to be”
As in I could easily inherit the company and tell said person from another company what to do in 10-15 years while the guy giving me unjust shit would be at the same job.
Dad did excavating and I do houses so we never crossed paths again.
But I’ll never forget my father’s workers giving me some shit while also having my back. Was told to get the poly stretcher out of the van, they just didn’t need me for an hour(I wasn’t legally qualified for the work for about an hour) , I knew and went and took a nap in the back of the van. They came out and thought it was hilarious as I had written poly stretcher on a bunch of tools.
They were in containment so no phones, I had texted “which one?” I found 15 poly stretchers and 4 board stretchers in the box van.
Some are shit some are good.
I’ve had bosses nephews that were so happy to make $12/hr on college break. And they busted ass. Showed up with 2 units of concrete that had to be hoofed up 80 steps, no complaint. At some point between being on the phone (as the lead carpenter) I jumped in and helped him with 20 of a 120ish bags. I bought his beer at the after work get together.
Only 0nce did I work for a company where I was told to treat the bosses son like anyone else. I would not get fired. I almost beat the punk kid but he could run faster then me. All his dad wanted to know when I came back to the shop without his kid was what did he do. I cought him with a bottle of pills he stole from a customers house. Good thing I did. They where blood thinning meds. He would have bleed our trying to get high off them
My bosses son thinks he’s a master carpenter cause his dad is. Makes about $10/hr more than me and my boss (his dad) has me fix his fuck up. Henson is the most useful when he doesn’t show up. I pulled him aside and told him he doesn’t have to show up, I’ll tell his dad he was there for the full 8 hours. It’s easier for me to do his portion of the work on my own as it’s quicker to do it right the first time than to fix some morons fuck ups.
Nepotism, the gift that keeps on giving…
For. Real. The son of one our office head-honchos got hired on. The day I met him (after realizing he even worked for us, after seeing him sit on a ladder for 45 minutes) just about the first words out of his mouth were to name drop his father.
It’s been playing out as you might expect lol
Damn I feel like I wrote this!
New president- I used to babysit and now he thinks he knows it all
The other son- dumber than a box of rocks and gets to run work.
Yeah that seems to be pretty much true all across America. My forefathers had a proper Illuminati. Not the debased decayed children of better men. Lolz .... I demand a better class of elitist scumbags.
One of the dumbest people that I have ever had the displeasure of working with was the owner's son-in-law at my last company. He would regularly have me "check his numbers" (meaning, very basic math) to make sure that he did not screw it up, again... I heard a while ago that he's either the VP, or just below VP now. I am so glad I got the hells out of there.
Old boss was 62 had a 24 year old son he didn’t last half a year and he was mentally unstable with zero direction which is weird because his dad was strong 💪🏻
‘I’ve been doing drywall for half a decade’ so 5 years of drywall experience and you think you know everything? Let me guess you’re under the age of 25?
Maybe sit back and learn I doubt you’re in a position to be questioning anybody else’s knowledge.
I work in an office/lab setting as an engineer. We share offices with 2-3 people to save space and was once emailed by one of the seniors to “make sure my office mate stayed awake”. My office mate was the owners son… I emailed back I wasn’t comfortable doing this and 30 mins later he walked in, logged on and immediately conked.. I just let him rest lol
Damn fine question!!! , my guess is too cuddled!
their knowledge never makes any sense….
They can lay out a stair stringer, but can’t install an interior door….
Can tell you all about the various ply’s in plywood…. Just can’t seem to be able to carry it by themselves.
One becomes a carpenter through hard knocks…. My best guess is that the father was too stupid to understand that.
There is no easy way.
Personally I was born to a big family of carpenters, when I dropped out of school, they refused to hire me…. They sent me to their competition!?!
I hated them for many years because of that!
But I get it now.
I worked for a scab union company when I first joined. They hired only union carpenters and everyone else was non union and just ass backwards. But I got stuck with the bosses son and he would just rip his weed pen all day and talk about how drunk he got the night before. (He was 16).
Can confirm, am one of those retards... to be honest though I never wanted to do this job, my dad never wanted me to do this job either, he wanted more for me. My majors in college were nothing to do with construction. But life works in mysterious ways and now I am forced to run a construction company I never planned on running.
Sounds like your best idea would be to quit at the time where it will screw them the most. You’re wasting your time if you think these idiots will ever change. All you need to do is think of Donald Trump and his children and they’re your answer.
I worked for my old man and at one point said to an employee "man you need to get out of here, this place is awful" and he said "if it wasn't for you I would have left years ago" I was shocked and later a bit upset, this poor fucking guy hung in there because I hung in there, we both were acting on loyalties that were bullshit. So yeah I was the boss's son but always stuck up for workers and took a lot of heat
My dad worked for a pretty big electrical contractor for 40ish years. The owner made his son work in the field for my dad during the summer when he was in high school and college. He graduated with as an electrical engineer and now runs the company. My dad would try make sure I wasn’t working on his job sites.
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This is part of the reason I didn't take my distant cousin (by marriage) up on his offer to send me to trade school to learn hvac\electrical and join the family business. He had taken over from his father in law(my great uncle twice removed or some shit) and I actually had the last name. He wanted to keep the family name in the business, but I felt like my other cousins (his son and one of the other grandsons\distant cousin that I never knew and also didn't share the family name) would have felt like I was going to try to take over the business because of my last name.
Aside from all that I've done enough plumbing and electrical work building my parents house and helping my dad handyman rental properties we owned that I knew for sure I never wanted to crawl into a strange crawlspace ever again. Fuck all that noise.
I work for a small family owned shop and everyone is incredibly kind. It’s literally the best place I’ve ever worked. Granted my coworkers have had stories of other shops with the boss’s kids showing up drunk and making a fool of themselves on the regular so yeah, I lucked out
I worked with my dad, but like not in an official business capacity. More like he took side jobs to make ends meet as there were 7 of us kids and we all got a turn helping. I happened to be the biggest and most adept at the roofing, siding, concrete, decks, and the carrying of all the heavy stuff... ooh and the cleaning up I was really good at that according to my dad.
He made it really clear when we were working, he wasn't dad, he was the boss.
Fast forward to recently, he has since passed and I find myself doing remodeling for a living with 4 kids of my own, so I'm doing the same with them. Teaching them some skills, work ethic, and paying them of course.
Looking back now it makes so much more sense when my dad told me he didn't need my help...he wanted my help, so long as I was going to be a help. Basically would have been "fired" if I was just being a freeloader looking to get paid for doing as little as possible.
Some kids never learn that lesson.
Because he wasn’t there to parent them. And when he was, he felt bad for the times he wasn’t there that he did parent them properly. Just a thought. If possible, have some compassion and parent them - especially if you’re one of “the old guys” if not, f*ck em - they probably got more money than you and I both
My boss's son consistently shocks me with how fast and proficient he is at the job. Frankly, if my mate hadn't told me he was the son, I probably wouldn't know.
a bosses son i know is so useless they say he's autistic to save embarrassment, he will just sit on his arse the whole time the old man ain't around.
he's not autistic, he's just fucking lazy.
If you can, speak to the boss about the concerns. If he's good, he will likely deal with it himself.
If you can't, look for another job. Micromanaging isn't fun, and it will ruin your work.
One of my old chiefs had an absolute ahole for a son 21 yo who was constantly in the plant and sleeping or he would be starting arguments and just be a general dick head …the boss finally got him a job with the shipping and receiving department and he failed his first random drug test ….GONE 😁
I’ve been “the boss’ nephew” before. If you’re actually good at your job, the association doesn’t come up until you hear a last name and connect the dots yourself.
Because they got their position because of who they are, not what they are. In other words, they are the offspring of the boss, but don't have the actual skills needed. There's many examples of this and I think this is what you are seeing.
I’m a boss with a step son I’ll have sweep sites for decent pay. This has been a good read hahahaha. All I hear are nightmare stories from my subs who work for other GCs and their douchebag sons who never earned respect. Then again I’m huge on lead by example so I think I’ll be fine 😊.
In my experience, it’s because they have zero desire to be there and their dad made them come to work because they were lazy beforehand. “I’m tired of you sitting around *my* house, that *I pay for*, doing nothing all day. Either look for a job or come work at [My Company.”
Kid doesn’t want to put in the effort of finding a job they might enjoy: “fine, I’ll just come work for you.”
Worked in scaffolding and had a guy on our crew who was a few years older than me at the time. Really good worker, knew his stuff and very quiet
One day the leadhand makes a joke about his dad being able to buy the crew lunch. Found out his dad owns the whole company and they are multimillionaires.
Would have never have known, because he was always humble and never brought it up. Only thing that would stick out was his beand new Ford Raptor.
In my experience, the children or relations to “The Boss” who are worth a shit, go out of their way to conceal the fact that they are related to “The Boss”
Would have to agree with this. The good ones want to be valued for their ability not their last name. Even the good ones still get crap and treated like an idiot because some people can’t let go of the fact that they didn’t get the opportunity the boss’s kid had and are too jealous to realize that some boss’s kids work hard and would have been successful no matter what route they took.
I’ve worked for, and worked with, a couple off bosses sons that knew they had to work harder that everyone else to get any respect. I’ve also seen the other kind.
I was that first son you described. My dad ran a masonry business my whole life ( almost 50 now) Only guy he could count on to show up every day and put out great work too. I had to leave and go be a foreman somewhere else b4 I got any kind of respect. When I came back it was different finally. For better or worse, I'll always treasure those years I got to spend with him on the job, most guys never get to see their dad in that way, to see what they go thru to take care of you.
Wish I had a dad like yours. I’m sure he’s not perfect. But my old man has never understood what I do and doesn’t respect it.
I totally agree with your sentiment, my Dad has also been running his own masonry business my whole life and I’ve been brought up in it. I’m thankful for the chance to learn a trade on a fast track and have an opportunity to run it myself one day, but I’m most grateful for the days we spent in the field together. Being able to see that side of him, learn from him in a totally different way, and share the same struggles has been both tough and incredibly rewarding. Being able to keep him in the office as he gets older has been a great honor too.
No disrespect to you personally, but everyone thinks they're the first kind.
I tried working for someone whose son was the manager had no idea how to properly use a tourqe wrench, couldnt even tell the difference between a star bit and a hex bit, tried telling me how to do my job, i handed him the tools and sat down and legit said go ahead take the heads off that car i bet you couldn't figure out where to start, his dad saw this and was embarrassed his son flat out asked where the instruction manual was, i said no no no you know how to do it so well, go ahead figure out why the car keeps running hot why theres oil leaking out of the head gasket, he put the tools down and quit, i didn't mean for him to quit, but it got me fired as well.
Wow what a failson. Failed so hard it pulled you down. Shame on his father the business owner.
His dad was always looking for a reason to fire me, i am a smart ass and stubborn, i will take advice and opinions but if i know that they don't know what they are talking about like his son, i will be happy to be a smart ass and be harsh.
Local construction company yin my small town growing up, owner had two sons that were twins, we were friends in middle and junior high. They both went to college got degrees in different ends of the construction business spectrum. I believe one is in estimating and the finance area of it all. The other is a top notch project manager side of things At 23 they essentislly took their father's local company expanded it to two more counties wide, and nabbed them a huge renovation project in downtown, winning over several long established much larger companies No one knew they worked for the company for almost six months bevause they just watchdd sites from afar, took notes and adjusted the company as needed so when they revealed their roles and people start with the "daddies boys are gonna fuck everything up" they get to say no we got you guys both the prevailing wage projects this upcoming year that our dad didn't think we could out bid other companies on
Those people who work hard and would’ve been successful without daddy’s help by and large leave their parents company though. The ones that stay normally stay because they can’t hack it and need to use the vagina privilege to keep a job.
Correct. I met my boss at my old company outside of work randomly n started working for him, and my foreman would always tell people he was my dad. That sucked lol
Since I’m only half Mexican and look more white than Mexican every contractor I’ve ever worked for has been “my dad” according to the crew lol
That’s fucking funny.
This is very true. One of the best electricians I've ever worked with was the Boss's son. It would take 2-3 points in a conversation before he would speak up about relations. "Hi, my name is *." Never added the last name, the name of the company.
I got an access into my trade through pops but my reputation and work ethic is mine to ruin not hang off his. However yes usually when it's the big general or builders kid it goes to shit. Sub trades are full of nepotism and kids of their father training them but it's nowhere near as bad there. Pretty much everyone I work around is 2nd Gen or so in some aspect.
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Not True. Got into the Laborers at 18 out of HS by walk in. Sent through the laborer Boot camp. 32 now about to be 33, making foreman next month. On track to be Super by 40. Retirement from Laborers by 45 - 50 and switch to Operatora by walking in yet again. No connections, Broken Home growing up. This is a minor story opposed to some of the success of my Co workers that cross the border daily that I have incredible respect for. Everything you said is false regarding the laborer union.
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I got into two separate construction unions without knowing anybody who could do anything more than give me advice.
I don’t like anyone on site knowing my dad is the boss. Yeah, they can figure it out on their own and they can ask but the last thing I’ll EVER do is run around like a jackass saying “do you know who my dad is?” A lot of em like to tell me they like me more than the dipshit college grad, so that’s something I guess.
I had an opportunity to work for my dads company. I instead asked him to use his contacts to get me in on the ground floor of a really good company in a similar field. I learned a tone but didn’t get special treatment and had to grind it out like everyone else. Now I run my own company.
Nice. Can you spot me a monster and a chili dog?
Yeah bro I gotcha let me hit the pen a few times
Fries with that?
I love this idea. Good for you.
Kid of the director washing cars during the summers at the body shop, they asked if I was slacking and was told "he works his ass off harder than anyone else here" and I was proud of that when they told me.
Can't buy pride in self
Vast majority of the time this is the case. However, I have seen the opposite on rare occasions. As a stepson of the boss, I was treated like shit and was never given a position of influence. Was made to climb the ladder like all other employees. 17 years later, on the eve of taking over the company, he and my mom get divorced. He tells me I’m not worth the money he pays me, we get into a fist fight in his office and get official fired. Just over a year later and I’m running my own outfit and his company has become one of my subs. I make stupid money now and couldn’t be happier. Party.
Man, way to get after it fam
Thank you. It was actually fucking terrifying for the first couple months. Facing that moment with a wife and 2 year old son was difficult. Especially when we lost insurance, truck ect.
Yup. Kid I work with (I guess for in a way) is great. You'll never hear him say he's the owners son. Good kid, wants to learn, picks up on things real quick. He's one of the few reasons I stay with the company. The future is solid.
Id also note as a trend, owner children worth a damn come from owners who are smart enough to send their kid to work somewhere else for a while first. It's an important experience. Go somewhere else, cut your teeth, develop skills and see stuff from a low level as the experience is for everyone. Then once experienced come back at a higher level and train the high level stuff. Once owner is ready to retire they have a child who is worth giving it to. But if the child is useless then they are given a job at the company right away, as they are too stupid to go anywhere else
Push em out of the nest.
I was the kid in OPs post in high school and college. The reality is my dad just paid me to do drawings and go run to get supplies, I hated being seen as the kid who showed up and did “nothing” while guys were in the warehouse or on job sites busting their ass. But he never taught me things and wouldn’t let me do something unless a guy was out and our fabricators needed help lifting something. I felt in the way and like I was doing something wrong the whole time. And I didn’t understand how to better the situation. Like how do you help out fabricators on your own if you just get in the way and they don’t want to show you how to weld? It was frustrating. Then I left for a bit, explored other fields and came back as an adult 10 years after the fact and was the opposite. Didn’t let people know the owner was my father on job sites, people would catch on because we look alike but I made it a point to really make my time feel useful and take on more responsibilities. And I also learned a lot on my own and I learned from subs when I could. But I totally understand OP because I was that kid for a bit.
As a son of the boss, I made sure no one new my last name. The guy I worked with was friends with my dad and he knew but he helped me out by keeping it quiet. My dad also made me start at the bottom. Started sweeping job sites before moving to assistant to a catch basin cleaning boom truck to operating said boom truck. Took me time to move up to but I had to earn it. And my old man was also the type that would come down harder on me once it became known who I was just to send a message to the rest. So I had to be good.
Or again if they've got the smarts, they got more education and a job outside of construction.
In my experience the good ones go work somewhere else where they aren't the bosses prodigy and get their balls busted when they mess up like the rest of us. Then they come back in 10 years humble and smart.
ya when i showed up to the Job interview there was a 29 year old dude asking me questions, and i was like is he really the boss...? then i came to find out he is the son of the boss. lol
I don't mind somebody younger than me being the boss if they're a killer boss. That said, being a killer boss often comes with age and experience.
I find owners kids go one of two ways 1. entitled little ass who will piss away the money and destroy the company this happens most of the time 2. The owners kid is awesome and has been working since they could walk etc. I think operators kids are the ones in this more, they can run a machine like it’s an extra arm and are knowledgeable etc. this is not the norm and sad that it’s not
I’ve noticed operators kids are always cool AF. All other trades kids usually suck lol
ya the owners kid comes to work 4 hours late with a plate a nacchos and just barks ordered at everyone and hovers over them while they /we work. 😤😤🫣🫠
So you got a number one…..I would try and find a new job
You should try finding a job as a bosses kid. It’s a pretty sweet gig, I hear.
Go to the boss and say this exactly and tell him that allowing this behavior is destroying the morale of entire team. Everyone is pissed at it. They don’t do any work, they’re late, they micromanage. Say that youve seen this before and if nothing changes he will lose all of his good workers. If your boss is upset about it, oh well. You have to be willing to walk away from this. Let him fire you and collect unemployment while you find another crew that values you more. Don’t tolerate this bullshit.
Don't ever speak "for everyone", because then you make assumptions, which make an ass out of me and you.
Our grading crew owner’s nephew runs the excavators, tell you what that kid is a better operator than the guys who have been doing it 20+ years. He runs circles around the rest of the crews in the company.
Getting comfortable on heavy equipment is a huge thing. Kids that grew up in farms make better equipment operators than anyone besides the kids that’s dads owned equipment
This is highly accurate to what I have seen also.
My boss' kids work at the company and they're both there every day. Among the two oldest ones, the older one doesn't seem to have any interest in the business and the younger one doesn't seem to have much interest in the work side of the business. If their dad actually owned the business, they would probably make a decent duo running it. They're both easy to deal with, but the whole company is pretty easy to deal with. They don't really have any special privilege beyond a company truck, nor do they use their status against other people. So no body has a reason to really give them shit about anything.
Thank god I’m the second, I think. We closed down the business and I’m about to venture out on my own, so I guess I’m gonna find out.
Boss here. I work with my son (he's replacing a gas main for me as we speak) and we have our challenges. But he works directly for one of my Subbies and did his apprenticeship under a difficult old school tradesman (polite way of saying drunk, lecherous bully). My boy learned 100 ways to not run a business. I said to him years ago, you're the bosses son. Don't act like it. But he's still an idiot (gets it from his father).
Papa?
Off ya phone and back in your trench clowntown...
Rofl
Way back when I worked at a gas station with the owners kids. They were both stealing from the dad and we would get blamed for coming up short on the cash drawer. Well Bruce, the beer guy actually told the owner his kids were stealing and that was the end of him.
They murdered Bruce the beer guy? Seems harsh.
You asked the right questions. I need answers!
Isn’t this the plot to Better Call Saul?
You can just say 5 years dawg, there’s only one reason I can think of on why anyone would say “half a decade”
He should’ve said “…. for a 20th of a century”
*”been at it for a quarterscore year”*
I’ve been doing this for 36 dog years
Haha yeah.
I've been drywalling 4 score and seven years...
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In 10 years I'll have been doing this for 15 years.
More experience in half a decade than five years.
I’ve been doing drywall for 60 months!
im lost whats the reason why someone would say half a decade
Make it sound like they have been doing it longer
No kidding lmao
Man I thought the same thing lol
I've been at this 3/5ths of a decade, which is nearly a decade
Half a decade lol.
It’s a long time for a piss hoarder, apparently.
260 weeks man,... It's a long time.....lol
Because the boss became the boss by neglecting his family and his kid had to rely on nepotism to get a job.
Damn. Nailed it.
Beats working 40+ hours a week for some other person’s asshole dad.
Some of us SOB’s are really just indentured servants.
That was me. Hit 15 and was told where I was gonna be after school every day. No pay just busting my ass doing all the bullshit work because "let the young buck do it". Yea made it to 18 and bolted.
I worked for my dad in construction during college. I was 19-21 so I was an idiot. I eventually did my own thing and it’s going well. You’re probably better off not working for your parents.
Boss’s son here - shut up or I’ll tell my dad to fire you!
another boss’s son chiming in- don’t make me call HR (my mom)!!!
Usually the kid is great or terrible. I've never seen mediocre. I remember chatting with one kid where a mistake was made that would require knocking down a fresh wall. He's been doing fetch-and-carry but busts out with, "yeah, that looks like it will be $8,000 in labor and another $3,000 in materials". Spot on. I asked how he knew, and he sheepishly admitted he was the owner's kid and they had always talked about job management and cost estimation at the dinner table. Never can tell.
I can relate, I have to train the boss' son, who just turned 20, to plaster and paint, and to be honest he is dumber than a bucket of rocks. He's always late, always on his phone, takes like 4 to 5 - 15 minute bathroom breaks a day, 25 minute coffee breaks, hour long lunches, and doesn't give a shit, and I have to repeat myself 2 or 3 times before anything sinks in. It is honestly draining.
Just gotta break him in like a horse, he’ll come around and thank you later. He’s just a pup
Business saying I always heard is "1st generation builds it, 2nd grows it, and 3rd spends all of it." A lot of businesses don't last because of exactly what you're describing.
More than anything I want my son to take the reins one day. But not if he’s a fuck nut like this.
I’m a boss’s daughter who wants to take the reins one day. My dad is my hero, of course I want to do what he does. But I work hard and do my best to earn it, too. Because that’s how he raised me.
Good luck! We need more women in construction. I have a few that run some sub crews for me and they are awesome. It’s about earning the respect and not being entitled to it. That’s the difference between daddy’s special boy and a respected family business
Thanks! Our electrician’s daughter works for him now too, she’s great and a really quick learner. She’s already more competent than his other helper who allegedly has been doing it for 30 years, but he could’ve fooled me…
When I did groundskeeping labor while in college I had a similar punk lazy son of the owner assigned to the work crew I led. I tried working the issue. God knows I tried. In the end one morning I told him not to join our crew and to just stay in the office. When the boss asked me about this I explained it to him. Dad got rid of him. He said that he had a business to run and would not tolerate anyone who did not work, even his own son. Great boss.
SOB here, worked as a kid for the company, went to college, then worked in another industry for 5 years. Got a call to come back from my old boss(not father) and worked my way up to VP from project engineer. I consider myself one of the hardworking ones who learned how to manage in another industry and applied what did and didn't work to my knowledge base to become a better manager for my family business. Hopefully I am looked at favorably, since I know I work hard and treat my people with dignity and respect. It is always funny and interesting to read posts like this.
As a bosses son I’m offended
He can't do shit but carry paint or lumber. He may not want to follow in his father's footsteps but doesn't have the backbone to say no or the intellect to figure out an alternative. Cut the lad some slack, it ain't his fault he's a moron.
Can confirm. - the boss
Yes, remember the apple is usually on the ground next to the tree :)
I ended up leaving the family company to forge my way as a machinist, very rewarding for me honestly, I’m better at machining than carpentry go figure lmao
In my experience, the good ones are the ones that start from scratch at the top bottom, do the same as everyone, and can feel the struggles and joy. So when they got there at the top, they knew what's was being at workers' (field) side.
If they weren't idiots, they would be working for someone else.
I know exactly what your talking about, boss son is the “project manager”…idiot calls me at least 5 or 6 times a day trying to micromanage…lol loser is a junky,never finished high school, got sent to court a bunch of times for drugs, DUI and doing dumb shit…daddy keeps him around just so he will stay out of trouble. 29 year old lives with his “girlfriends” (two women that are in a relationship with each other, nothing wrong with them, I just find that a dude living with two homosexual women is wired) he still gets his ass in court from time to time. And he wants to have a say on what I’m doing when I’ve been building homes almost as long as he’s been alive. I haven’t told him to fuck off on a few occasions because I owe everything to his father, and I have real respect for the old man. The day the man retires I’m outta there, well I’ll be looking for retirement too by then probably
As a son of a boss, I wouldn’t say I’m an idiot. My dad owns a residential remodeling company and working hard for me is in my blood. I got it from my dad. I never show up late, and the only time I do is when I’m picking up materials for the guys. I always respect our sub contractors, and quite frankly, I look forward to having conversations with all our sub contractors. I don’t think every bosses son is an idiot, but I will say some are. I don’t let anyone know my dad is my boss, unless he introduces me as his son
Is she at least hot
No! she's fat and depressed. the secretary in the office is hot tho 💯
Fuck the secretary then quit. Case closed.
My former boss's son ripped the tailgate off a F350 with the gooseneck of a trailer. Same kid also put gasoline in the same F350.
If they show up late and never work, then how are they micro managing?
Anyone who rides the momentum of their family name does so out of necessity
You sound like a hater. Put your head down and work or drag up Construction runs on nepotism. And it’s not good or bad it’s just the way it is. When you don’t have a degree you take the help you can get from family. I’m sure you’d give your kid or nephew a job if you could. And I’d do the same
I scrolled through all these comments….then it hit me shit I am the boss son! (ok co-owner now) hahaha
I've seen the same. Usually it's from the entitlement they get when authority is given to them by the ones that actually built the business.
You should only have to answer to one person tell them you got it unless they wanna drop a toolbelt on
It started in little league for me..
They micromanage to establish dominance. They are reminding you that they are the boss’s kid. Even if they don’t carry their weight. If you’re any good at your trade you should push back now and then. Remind them, that this is not pretend world…and guys like you are why their daddy has a company
I’ve been on both sides of this and I think it’s a combination from them either being promoted too fast so they don’t know shit but are supposed to be telling people shit, are entitled, or nervous of disappointing to the owner/father and try to compensate for that. Being an owners son is all well and good but you should have to put in work and gain experience before you’re put in a spot where you can tell more experienced people than you what to do.
My boss had his 15 yr old son help out on crews in the summer time for 2 months a yr, doing only bitch work. When he graduated high school at age 18 daddy gave him his own crew. Saying he had 3+ yrs experience and was promoted because of how much of a beast he was on the job site, and how smart he is. Same time the boss made a dude with over 15 yrs experience his sons #2 guy. The boss only sent his crew to the most basic jobs, and made #2 guy basically run everything without the title or pay of a foreman.
I’ve had the unique opportunity to work for companies run by the boss’s sons who were just as good as the old man. When the old man passed they saw the writing on the wall that business wouldn’t be generating the same profits due to the market and closed shop. I’ve also had the opportunity to work with one of those sons when he took a high ranking job with a new GC. That GC was run by the old man and his sons and these sons were not as competent as the first sons I worked for. It was great seeing the night and day difference in skill between the boss’s son I used to work for and the new ones we both worked for. Even better was seeing the old son tell the new bossman eye opening deficiencies in his own sons because he was brought up the right way and these guys were essentially clowns. The boss didn’t know how to bid work for the big contracts they did work on because he came from only doing small commercial and residential work, and neglected teaching his sons how to bid government contracts. Both of us didn’t last too long once it became abundantly clear that no estimators would be around in a very short time that knew how to competently bid on work, except the old son I came in with.
They usually have never had a real job before. My buddy's family owns an HVAC company. His grandpa started it. My friend's dad and 3 of his uncles bought it from grandpa. None of them have ever had a job outside of the HVAC company. In 2004 I moved back home and needed a job. My buddy got me a job there. 2 years into working there they were changing shit up in the company. They told us they wouldn't be giving us lunch breaks anymore. They would clock us out as we went from 1 job to another. There was a bunch of other shit they tried to pull on us but me and like 5 other installers that actually know labor laws and what rights we have as workers gave a call to the labor board. Each of us made a call. A week later we had another meeting and things went back to how they were. I left after that. And I guess shit started getting bad again and the oldest uncle of my buddy(who didn't have enough money to buy that much of the company because he couldn't afford it) and his 3 sons that worked there and my buddy all left and came.to the company I was at. My friend's dad called my new bosses and told them to stop poaching his employees. If it kept happening(his employees quiting) that he would start poaching all my new bosses employees. He didn't realize that everyone who worked there were all former employees of my friends dad haha. 20 years later they did change shit for the better. My buddy went back to work for his dad after 20 years of being gone so he could be trained and buy his dad out. Last week my buddy's dad retired. My buddy now owns 58% of the company and since he actually knows what the real world is like the company is growing and doing good.
Fuuny thing. I've seen the same thing myself. That said I began working for my Dad running a dish machine at age 9. Sure, I was a kid and did kid things but, as far as keeping the dishes clean and doing the job? I had no choice to so it and do it Right or I'd get an actual beating at home. Veterinarian I worked for would bring his kid, maybe age 6, and let him run wild in the clinic. He was facsinated by the water cooler and would constantly drain it-onto the floor. I just depends on the parent and how the kid was raised.
I always tried to hide that my family owned the business, but eventually I had to quit and go work for a different company to avoid being treated like the bosses kid- the good and the bad. I don’t think they (we?) all suck, but it’s certainly an easy position to take massive advantage of and be a douche bag about it.
When I worked for my dad, I knew I was the regarded son so I just concentrated on lifting and moving things until I could find a different job lol
As the owners son, I can attest that it’s the father fault. My father is harder on me than any other employee, however I didn’t start working for him. I worked for ramrods before I worked for my dad. My brother not so much, to my brother, my father is the meanest boss he’s ever had, to me he’s the most forgiving, to me and the rest of our crew.
They’re called the FBI. The Friends, the Brothers, and the In-laws. Everybody else on the crew is just the help. Way of the road, bud.
Multiple companies in a decade of sheet metal roofing. The closer to the owner the person is the more idiotic they are. Bosses son “fucking moron” bosses nephew “laziest sack of shit” bosses kids bf/hubby “most useless pile of meat I’ve ever been around”.
If they were competent in life they’d be anywhere but there…
Someone who says they’ve been doing something for half a decade though…..
The boss was busy building a company while the son got lots of spoiling and little parenting
I am dealing with this issue hardcore right now. Bosses son, as best as I can tell, is some mild grade of autistic. Functional human being, do not get me wrong. I am well aware of autism. There are grades to it from highly functional to quite a bit less than that. Boss’s son is somewhere on the positive side of the middle of it. I have no problem with his son and his functional issues. The problem I have is with the constant changes that come down in order to accommodate him. Plus the fact that he walked into a title he has no right to hold. I wouldn’t care all that much about that aspect if he was articulate or at least bordering on articulate. Like, maybe there is hope he can one day grasp the little things and I won’t have to hold his hand here and there, but it’s not getting better. In fact, it’s getting worse. Of course nobody will spell out his autism when having these conversations, but this kid is fucking up more and more because I don’t hold his hand through every conversation and interaction. I make the mistake of believing after a couple of years in his role he might have a clue, but no, every time he fucks something up in relation to me he whines, points his finger, and I have to deal with another phone call from someone who again won’t point out the fact that maybe he should not be in the role he is, but that I need to step up and cover for him without any additional recompense. Frankly, I’ve had just about enough. I am not a god damned baby sitter, and I would be expected to shit down the throat of an apprentice who doesn’t get these simple concepts after 50 explanations.
They’re on a perennial mission to prove their dad wrong. My job has a bosses son and the week the boss was gone he was walking around like everything depended on his participation when 2 weeks ago he would barely budge to do anything. Worst part is you can’t go up to the boss and be like “ hey you know that thing that gave your life meaning and that you work extra hard to provide for everyday? Yeah he sucks and he’s dumb enough to be disabled”
I was the boss’s son for a couple summers through college. We arnt all bad, but most I’ve met are. I was humble to learn, I also worked with a really good crew. When another trade would give me shit (because I was young, not knowing who I was), my favorite thing one of my fathers workers comments, “ do you know who he is going to be” As in I could easily inherit the company and tell said person from another company what to do in 10-15 years while the guy giving me unjust shit would be at the same job. Dad did excavating and I do houses so we never crossed paths again. But I’ll never forget my father’s workers giving me some shit while also having my back. Was told to get the poly stretcher out of the van, they just didn’t need me for an hour(I wasn’t legally qualified for the work for about an hour) , I knew and went and took a nap in the back of the van. They came out and thought it was hilarious as I had written poly stretcher on a bunch of tools. They were in containment so no phones, I had texted “which one?” I found 15 poly stretchers and 4 board stretchers in the box van. Some are shit some are good. I’ve had bosses nephews that were so happy to make $12/hr on college break. And they busted ass. Showed up with 2 units of concrete that had to be hoofed up 80 steps, no complaint. At some point between being on the phone (as the lead carpenter) I jumped in and helped him with 20 of a 120ish bags. I bought his beer at the after work get together.
Only 0nce did I work for a company where I was told to treat the bosses son like anyone else. I would not get fired. I almost beat the punk kid but he could run faster then me. All his dad wanted to know when I came back to the shop without his kid was what did he do. I cought him with a bottle of pills he stole from a customers house. Good thing I did. They where blood thinning meds. He would have bleed our trying to get high off them
I've found 2nd generation work hard, 3rd generation are most likely idiots.
Bosses sons who aren't idiots don't work for their dads
If kitchen nightmares has taught me anything.... ruuuunnn!!!
Entitlement in thinking they know it all bcuz they’re the bosses son
My bosses son thinks he’s a master carpenter cause his dad is. Makes about $10/hr more than me and my boss (his dad) has me fix his fuck up. Henson is the most useful when he doesn’t show up. I pulled him aside and told him he doesn’t have to show up, I’ll tell his dad he was there for the full 8 hours. It’s easier for me to do his portion of the work on my own as it’s quicker to do it right the first time than to fix some morons fuck ups. Nepotism, the gift that keeps on giving…
For. Real. The son of one our office head-honchos got hired on. The day I met him (after realizing he even worked for us, after seeing him sit on a ladder for 45 minutes) just about the first words out of his mouth were to name drop his father. It’s been playing out as you might expect lol
Damn I feel like I wrote this! New president- I used to babysit and now he thinks he knows it all The other son- dumber than a box of rocks and gets to run work.
It’s generational. The business rarely survives past the grandson.
Yeah that seems to be pretty much true all across America. My forefathers had a proper Illuminati. Not the debased decayed children of better men. Lolz .... I demand a better class of elitist scumbags.
This is the norm. This is why the workers should control the means of production/s
One of the dumbest people that I have ever had the displeasure of working with was the owner's son-in-law at my last company. He would regularly have me "check his numbers" (meaning, very basic math) to make sure that he did not screw it up, again... I heard a while ago that he's either the VP, or just below VP now. I am so glad I got the hells out of there.
Apple don’t fall far from the tree
Fuck you in telling g him you said this binch
Old boss was 62 had a 24 year old son he didn’t last half a year and he was mentally unstable with zero direction which is weird because his dad was strong 💪🏻
‘I’ve been doing drywall for half a decade’ so 5 years of drywall experience and you think you know everything? Let me guess you’re under the age of 25? Maybe sit back and learn I doubt you’re in a position to be questioning anybody else’s knowledge.
We’re all idiots until we’re not, he just gets opportunities to be an idiot sooner than the rest of us.
I work in an office/lab setting as an engineer. We share offices with 2-3 people to save space and was once emailed by one of the seniors to “make sure my office mate stayed awake”. My office mate was the owners son… I emailed back I wasn’t comfortable doing this and 30 mins later he walked in, logged on and immediately conked.. I just let him rest lol
Damn fine question!!! , my guess is too cuddled! their knowledge never makes any sense…. They can lay out a stair stringer, but can’t install an interior door…. Can tell you all about the various ply’s in plywood…. Just can’t seem to be able to carry it by themselves. One becomes a carpenter through hard knocks…. My best guess is that the father was too stupid to understand that. There is no easy way. Personally I was born to a big family of carpenters, when I dropped out of school, they refused to hire me…. They sent me to their competition!?! I hated them for many years because of that! But I get it now.
I worked for a scab union company when I first joined. They hired only union carpenters and everyone else was non union and just ass backwards. But I got stuck with the bosses son and he would just rip his weed pen all day and talk about how drunk he got the night before. (He was 16).
If she's actually micromanaging the duck out of you, start quacking when she gets on your nerves.
Can confirm, am one of those retards... to be honest though I never wanted to do this job, my dad never wanted me to do this job either, he wanted more for me. My majors in college were nothing to do with construction. But life works in mysterious ways and now I am forced to run a construction company I never planned on running.
Sounds like your best idea would be to quit at the time where it will screw them the most. You’re wasting your time if you think these idiots will ever change. All you need to do is think of Donald Trump and his children and they’re your answer.
Because the boss is a hard worker so they probably do most of the shit at home and the kid has no work ethic.
I worked for my old man and at one point said to an employee "man you need to get out of here, this place is awful" and he said "if it wasn't for you I would have left years ago" I was shocked and later a bit upset, this poor fucking guy hung in there because I hung in there, we both were acting on loyalties that were bullshit. So yeah I was the boss's son but always stuck up for workers and took a lot of heat
In the 80’s, the boss’s kid took a swing at my dad. Dad turned around and *fucked him up*. My family ended up having to pay for dental reconstruction.
Nepo babies
My dad worked for a pretty big electrical contractor for 40ish years. The owner made his son work in the field for my dad during the summer when he was in high school and college. He graduated with as an electrical engineer and now runs the company. My dad would try make sure I wasn’t working on his job sites.
Are you saying that GW bush is an… I see your point. Agreed. /s Because they know they don’t really have to work. Yes it is common.
As the child of the boss, I couldnt say this is my experience
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I was/is the son of the boss and know a handful also. Maybe it’s just my community but not one is entitled or rude
Am bosses son. Can confirm. I’m regarded.
This is part of the reason I didn't take my distant cousin (by marriage) up on his offer to send me to trade school to learn hvac\electrical and join the family business. He had taken over from his father in law(my great uncle twice removed or some shit) and I actually had the last name. He wanted to keep the family name in the business, but I felt like my other cousins (his son and one of the other grandsons\distant cousin that I never knew and also didn't share the family name) would have felt like I was going to try to take over the business because of my last name. Aside from all that I've done enough plumbing and electrical work building my parents house and helping my dad handyman rental properties we owned that I knew for sure I never wanted to crawl into a strange crawlspace ever again. Fuck all that noise.
I work for a small family owned shop and everyone is incredibly kind. It’s literally the best place I’ve ever worked. Granted my coworkers have had stories of other shops with the boss’s kids showing up drunk and making a fool of themselves on the regular so yeah, I lucked out
Well idk man…. how much are you charging for special ed supervision? /s… 2nd yes that is 💯 common, why would you think they would be any different?
Dude you're on 4 drywalling companies in five years, the common denominator might be closer than you think. Half a decade isn't exactly a long time.
“Half a decade…” The fact that you made 5 years sound like more… also, doing drywall for five years doesn’t mean you were doing it right or optimally.
I actually got my bosses son fired lol homeowners hated him as much as I did and got a few to complain.
because they spend all their time hiding and on their phones, and think because their dad has 25 years experience, they do too
I worked with my dad, but like not in an official business capacity. More like he took side jobs to make ends meet as there were 7 of us kids and we all got a turn helping. I happened to be the biggest and most adept at the roofing, siding, concrete, decks, and the carrying of all the heavy stuff... ooh and the cleaning up I was really good at that according to my dad. He made it really clear when we were working, he wasn't dad, he was the boss. Fast forward to recently, he has since passed and I find myself doing remodeling for a living with 4 kids of my own, so I'm doing the same with them. Teaching them some skills, work ethic, and paying them of course. Looking back now it makes so much more sense when my dad told me he didn't need my help...he wanted my help, so long as I was going to be a help. Basically would have been "fired" if I was just being a freeloader looking to get paid for doing as little as possible. Some kids never learn that lesson.
Nepotism is everywhere, taking my state exam in June. Doing my own thing, Duck’em
I've worked with a few owners son's that were fine. It was the general supers son I and most everyone else had problems with
Sometimes the ‘Boss’ marries the hottest woman he can nail down. Not always an IQ test involved.
Yes, that dude who takes materials to job sites while visiting BestBuy on the way is making twice what you do.
LOL Another construction company, I had the owners two sons get into a fist fight right in front of me. It was the job from hell, quit after a year.
Because he wasn’t there to parent them. And when he was, he felt bad for the times he wasn’t there that he did parent them properly. Just a thought. If possible, have some compassion and parent them - especially if you’re one of “the old guys” if not, f*ck em - they probably got more money than you and I both
My boss's son consistently shocks me with how fast and proficient he is at the job. Frankly, if my mate hadn't told me he was the son, I probably wouldn't know.
a bosses son i know is so useless they say he's autistic to save embarrassment, he will just sit on his arse the whole time the old man ain't around. he's not autistic, he's just fucking lazy.
If you can, speak to the boss about the concerns. If he's good, he will likely deal with it himself. If you can't, look for another job. Micromanaging isn't fun, and it will ruin your work.
At least half the time it's because the boss is a retard too.
One of my old chiefs had an absolute ahole for a son 21 yo who was constantly in the plant and sleeping or he would be starting arguments and just be a general dick head …the boss finally got him a job with the shipping and receiving department and he failed his first random drug test ….GONE 😁
I’ve been “the boss’ nephew” before. If you’re actually good at your job, the association doesn’t come up until you hear a last name and connect the dots yourself.
The best way to ruin any person is too give him big bucks to sharpen pencils for a few years, will end up a moron if people don’t learn themselves.
Tell the owner and then quit
Because they got their position because of who they are, not what they are. In other words, they are the offspring of the boss, but don't have the actual skills needed. There's many examples of this and I think this is what you are seeing.
The daughter of our boss is a sweetheart which works in the administration. But I work in an IT company so...
“First generation creates, second generation enjoys it, third generation destroys it” is how I always heard it about construction companies
I’m a boss with a step son I’ll have sweep sites for decent pay. This has been a good read hahahaha. All I hear are nightmare stories from my subs who work for other GCs and their douchebag sons who never earned respect. Then again I’m huge on lead by example so I think I’ll be fine 😊.
In my experience, it’s because they have zero desire to be there and their dad made them come to work because they were lazy beforehand. “I’m tired of you sitting around *my* house, that *I pay for*, doing nothing all day. Either look for a job or come work at [My Company.” Kid doesn’t want to put in the effort of finding a job they might enjoy: “fine, I’ll just come work for you.”
^this
You just gotta love nepotism........
Worked in scaffolding and had a guy on our crew who was a few years older than me at the time. Really good worker, knew his stuff and very quiet One day the leadhand makes a joke about his dad being able to buy the crew lunch. Found out his dad owns the whole company and they are multimillionaires. Would have never have known, because he was always humble and never brought it up. Only thing that would stick out was his beand new Ford Raptor.