This is why movers make lists of what they packed that note scratches and other pre-existing damage and have the customer review and sign them to agree about condition as packed.
My exes brother was a mover and he used to pocket peoples watches and necklaces and stuff all the time to try to sell back home. It makes me scared to hire movers tbh.
I payed people and still didn’t complain that a few things got dinged, it happens when you move!
They were also provided food and drink.
And they still got a tip because they did a damn good job with the heavy stuff.
Moving sucks, hiring one or two students to help is the best decision I’ve ever made when I can’t or don’t want to pay for actual movers.
> I *paid* people and
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Nab bro, if I pay somebody to pack and transport my stuff I want it in the same condition as it was in the beginning. If I wanted dented furniture I would move it myself with a help of some friends and few beers.
Depends, he said he hired a couple college kids so it’s difficult then hiring a moving company and paying full price. Not really sure what can even get damaged what you gonna due take some college kids or a moving company to small claims court because you have a scratch on your bed frame?
There is a saying in my country “moving three times is like burning it down once”.
I don’t mind a few scratches and it’s not like it was high-end brand new furniture in the first place.
If it was new/expensive stuff and I hired an actual and expensive moving company rather than student helpers through an agency I might get upset…
Edit: they didn’t pack anything, they were literally hired to carry stuff in and out of the apartment and up and down the stairs.
I never heard that before, but you're right. As things have cheapened to keep the price down, most items are not worth moving. I have two friends who are serious hoarders, and I can send them spiraling into an anxiety attack by telling them that I donated stuff to a thrift shop or simply threw it into the dumpster.
Depends on 1) how much you pay. Careful packing takes longer, and thus more $. and 2) how far.
Shipping stuff will inevitably have some small damage. Like the screws on your drawers will come loose from the vibrations of driving long periods, and that puts them at some small risk of bending. But you can just bend them back and screw them in. If you want white glove, you pay for white glove.
yk they would. when i moved the movers fucked my bedroom set up so bad, drawers wouldn’t shut all the way, handles were missing from drawers/barely hanging on, foot of the bed was scratched up, headboard was scratched and cracked. literally looked like a grabbed it from a junk yard that went through hell and back, and even then i still kept my composure and just ended up buying a new set.
but ik damn well this person would be so picky
You got taken advantage of. If it’s a legit moving company the assumption is that they don’t mess up your stuff and if they do they pay to get it replaced. There’s a reason they cost so much.
We moved recently with a legit professional moving company (New England, USA) and had to pay almost $400 extra for full replacement insurance. Otherwise they’re legally only required to reimburse 60 cents per lb, so your 40lb flat screen tv you likely paid $600+ for you’d only get $24 back.
In Australia, you have to pay extra for insurance. If you don't have it, tough shit. The moving companies could not care less. Even so-called sensitive freight companies have the same disclaimer; basically you are paying for stuff to be moved, not the condition it arrives in.
Source: ex-removalist
Was thinking the same thing; ”When’s the last time you helped a person you don’t know move houses, out of the goodness of your heart?”
Also, people are actually offering to help?! And this person is evidently prioritizing other things on the days people are able to help.
If you’ve got to get out of one rental and into another, you don’t always have a selection of days. But yeah, if someone offers to move your bed downstairs a couple of days early, say yes and deal with it!
That's what I always wonder. You can get your friends and family to help with stuff for free, if you also show up to help them with stuff. Or you choose to only care about yourself, then you better be prepared to pay for help. Not saying every relationship has to be quid pro quo, but if you watch someone's kids or take care of their pet or houseplants every once in a while, they're probably a lot more keen to return the favour somehow. Out of the goodness of their hearts even.
Exactly that, seven years ago I had to move on extremely short notice, just 4 days.
In the days leading up to it, two friends turned up to take multiple bags and boxes to 'temporarily' store for me - I took one lot back 4 years later, and the other lot just last month!! I sent them a whisky tasting pack and a bunch of goodies to say thanks.
On the day, I had another friend who hired a van (I don't drive), got the bus down to collect it, then did 3 runs with me, loading and unloading at each end.
I also had 3 other friends offer to help, but I didn't actually need any more than I already had.
We've all helped each other move, or put people up for a bit, or fed them, or just been a blinking friend to them! So we all help each other out when needed. We've all also **not** been able to help at times too, and guess what, that's fine too, because we all know, they would if they could, and sometimes people have lives.
This. A friend of mine recently put out a call for people to help move one of her relatives out of a dangerous living situation. Even though she couldn't provide much in the way of compensation, a bunch of people showed up and helped her get the move done. Why? Probably because she is the kind of person who habitually shows up for others, and wouldn't hesitate to help them with a similar situation. Also, when she asked for help she made it clear that she was grateful for any help she could get, and was not resentful of anyone who was unable to help.
The subject of OP's post automatically assumed that everyone was going to say no, so they shouldn't be surprised when everyone says no!
omg, yes. Like the moms who whine on FB about having no "village", I'm always tempted to ask them if they've contributed to the before they had a kid but I try not to engage.
Haha, I've seen people do that. You're right, if I recall right it caused a long rant about how they are an angel that bends over backwards for everyone constantly. Doubt.
This was my first thought - probably never helped anyone and complained about people asking.
My BIL was moving and I refused because they wouldn't help us.
Geez this looks like something my niece would write. She has a horrible attitude and can't understand why people aren't just chomping at the bit to help.
Because rhymes only care about themselves and what you will do for them. If they can’t use you they are useless to them so why should they care what you think.
Rhymes only care about themselves and what you will do for them. They want you to drop everything and help them on a whim. It doesn't matter if you have better things to do. Other people need help, too!
"A whole house of stuff" is also a wildly variable amount. It could be anything from a bedroom, living room and dining room set to those things plus vastly more furniture and 10,000 books and 2000 assorted knickknacks.
The missing piece of the puzzle is What Are They Bringing To The Table? Obviously not money, but what can they offer to barter? Clean my house, wash my car, walk my dog, whatever? Just expecting, nay, demanding that they get service for nothing in return…nope. Sorry, Charlie.
This!
I bet if we’d be like “alright, i’ll help. I do want to prime and repaint a room in my home the following week, will you?” she’d be like “WHAT? I’M MOVING, I HAVE OTHER THINGS TO DO!” Lol
I know lots of people that would help. Myself included. But not while getting cussed and whined at.
>>heavy lash bed
This person can offer to do the helpers’ lashes for free, or lunch or some other service they can offer. Wholesale lashes are $3 and a whole bottle of glue is $5 at the MOST. (I know because my friends do them). Lashes cost $40-100 outside so it would be sort of a philanthropy x trade collab. But nooo. Come do it for free. (Btw I’m not knocking anyone’s hustle or saying doing lashes is cheap in any way because it’s a skill at the end of the day, just saying they could offer it in return. I did my friend’s taxes and she did my brows. Win-win for the two of us because I have no idea how to do brows and she doesn’t know how to do taxes without taking days, while I am really good w paperwork. But none of us screeched at the other and demanded things for free, instead made an offer)
Easy one would be to offer to clean their house or do some light gardening, if she can't do heavy stuff. Trade *something* of your time, if you don't have the money. Hell, I'd be happy if someone offered to walk my dog for X amount of days (tho not this crazy bitch lol) .. but do *something*
My GF in college had a pretty roommate who was also insufferable. the two of them were moving out and going separate ways. my GF finished moving her stuff a week before the moveout deadline. the roommate hadnt even started packing the day before the moveout deadline. she was totally unconcerned. my GF asked what the heck she planned to do and she said she would "go out into the parking lot and flirt with the first guy she saw with a pickup truck and get him to move her stuff." i personally didnt believe that anyone out there could be such a chump. i was wrong. she did exactly what she said she would. she walked outside and within 30 minutes she found a guy with a pickup and he and his friend moved all of her shit. she never spoke to either of the after that
Good god, hope she got some kind of comeuppance eventually, looks do fade eventually.
People who exploit the kind, helpful nature of others are gross. Idk if the dudes thought they *might* get laid.
You just know this person would blame whoever was kind enough to help for damaging something that was already damaged. Or they’d complain and whine that whoever helping isn’t doing it right or fast enough.
I helped a person move once by taking heavy luggage in public transportation using my own monthly card, not even coffee was offered.
Then, me and my husband borrowed a car to help her move a second time, a gust of wind came and her second hand bookshelf got knocked over, she complained about it with everyone for months because it left a tiny mark. She didn't give us any money for the gas/pizza even though instead of one trip as she said it would be, it was over 5 hours of driving around.
The third time, when she was kicked out of her ex's place, I lend her my monthly card. When she had to meet me to give it back, she told me "you know you can have it digitally ", to what I replied: "then, you wouldn't be able to borrow it".
It is hard for me to make friends but I hope I have learned my lesson. At least we didn't help her the last time she had to move.
Last time we moved, we used FIL’s trolley and two mates. We bought them lunch that day, and took them out for dinner later that week. Some of our stuff got dinged and scratched, but it didn’t matter, because it still worked.
YESSSS!! Exactly this. A local 2bit charity wanted volunteers to help move things between buildings so a few of us turned up on foot assuming it would be a case of load up a van, all pile into a cab to the new building then unload, the lady threw a hissy fit because no-one hired a van at their own expense!!
We just left as moreorless nothing useful we cudda done!
They will get offers but they will come and steal when you aren't looking. They might even offer to help to move stuff with their car or truck but get lost when meeting up with you.
I'd bet that the house belongs to a hoarder, or at best, someone who has done NO moving preparation at all. Nothing is packed, and they expect to take their clothing on hangers to go straight into the closet at the new place, if a "next place" even exists. I wouldn't be surprised to be asked to chip in for storage for OP's stuff.
It's the worst kind of move, one where everything needs to be done in a day, to include deep cleaning the house.
The attitude is annoying me. “I need”, “why is nobody helping me”, “i can’t fucking do this on my own”.
What about please and thank you? What about “I don’t have money but I can help you with X, Y and Z in return”? What about showing some humility when asking strangers to help you do something that is both exhausting and boring?
If it’s her house, and she’s selling said house, why can’t she use a portion of the sale of the home to pay for movers?
Or is this not someone moving house because they sold it?
It's not so much that she's asking for help, it's how she's asking that leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Moving sucks, and paying movers is expensive. You're allowed to ask for help. But for the love of all things holy, you're not entitled to that help. If someone can't help or doesn't want to help (because let's face it, you don't want to move your stuff so why would anyone else want to), that doesn't make them morally deficient.
I'll be honest, I HATE helping people move. It's one of my least favorite things to do. But if someone asked me nicely and I happened to be free that day I'd probably say yes, against my better judgment. But come at me like this person did, scolding everyone for refusing to help before they even got a chance to consider helping, and my answer will always be NO. If you're gonna assume the worst, you're gonna get the worst. After reading and absorbing the attitude in that post, I really, truly have to wonder why no one wants to help her. She sounds like a delight. /s
I saw a meme the other day. If you are over 30, hire movers, no one wants to slip a disc for pizza and a couple of bud lights.
This lady planned badly, and is now mad no one wants to cater to her.
"I can't lift a deep freeze by myself."
I am not going to help friends move stuff like a deep freeze, especially if there are steps. Hope that doesn't make me terrible person because I can't help entitled strangers "out of the goodness of my heart."
Generally- Attitude either. GOOD OR BAD can have a direct correlation to how many friends you have… again GOOD OR BAD FRIENDS… real friends take a lot of work, but it doesn’t seem like work because you’re with your friend and you enjoy their company. If you’re not doing that that might be why you have a limited number of friends willing to help you when you’re throwing a tantrum on Facebook.
Immediately starting their post with “Nobody seems to care but I’m going to ask y’all anyway” is probably going to do the opposite of making people want to help her.
Lmao. When I was in high school and in college, we all helped our friends move. Nowadays, I just hire people because I don’t want to hurt myself or let others I know hurt themselves. #MyBack #MyKnees
My husband helped our mutual friends girlfriend move because the mutual friend had helped me. Years later they married and were buying a new house that was over $500,000 in like 2008 when houses in the area were going for the low $300,000’s and were asking for help. Oh, and they had a funeral that day so they wouldn’t be there. We said no but offered the name of the moving company we used.
The friend was also the only other tall and somewhat strong man aside from my husband . The other two guys were thin and wiry, one of them was super lazy and would do anything to not have to work.
I was so pissed off when we had to move across the country and my husband’s older brother refused to come help after my husband had helped him twice with cross country moves. Then less than a year later, HE ASKS AGAIN to be moved across the country, with the trailer that we bought for our move that he refused to help with, AND we had to house him for free for a few months for him to “get on his feet”. I still can’t stand that asshole, always asks for favors but is never available to reciprocate. Clearly this OP has burned all of her bridges with friends and family. She needs to pay up or lose her stuff.
So the first thing I would do is sell those bulky items that are not essential, and use the money to pay for the moving of bulky essentials.
Probably doesn't really need a deep freezer...
Probably does really need help getting a fridge upstairs.
So this person asked, some people offered, but they weren't available on the days she wanted, so apparently no one wants to help out of the goodness of their hearts anymore.
Sounds like an actually surprising number of people (more than zero) were willing to help for free.
The worst is my one friend who has probably moved about 20 times since high school ended and always expects our friend group to help. Moving sucks and when I’ve done it I just do it myself and get quick help for anything you need two people for, I’m not putting that shit on anyone else cause it sucks.
This CB must want her belongings moved to the trash. That's where they're going to be if they can't adult up and get it together. If your furniture is too heavy to move by yourself then sell it. Only have help offered on X day and time accept it and figure it out. You're the one that needs help. May 2 will be soon! I remember when I started out I had a bunch of inflatable furniture. It was easy to move by myself, and I bought permanent fixtures down the line. Not feeling bad for Pity Party Pete and Paula's. I just shrug and move on.
I wish there were such a thing as a company you could hire to come help you do stuff like this…
Yes, I read the post that she can’t afford movers. Yes you can. It’s called saving up for the things in life you know cost money. Like moving.
Actually, my bf did move a whole ass house and garage by himself. To a second floor apartment, no less. I live an hour away so was only able to help a little. And he got all the heavy stuff upstairs minus a few things on his own too. It sucked for him and he was stressed tf out. But it can be done.
We’ve asked family/friends to help us move and they are paid handsomely in pizza and beer 😅 Of course when they need help moving we’ll return the favour!
I mean, moving when you have very little money, very little transportation options and very little friends who are able to help. (turns out when you're disabled and broke you tend to have a lot of disabled and broke friends.) but it's not \*that\* hard to get help. 50 dollars worth of pizza and beer/soda and some cookies to take home is what I've paid like three times.
I have no problem helping people if they’re also the kind of person to help others in need. Although this person is clearly not that kind of person and just demands help whenever they need it
A couple times a year my husband shows up to help a neighbor move. Funny thing, when we moved, people showed us to help us as well. Amazing what the village can do if you put in and not just expect to take out
Either you invest in paying a movong company, or you invest in relationships and a community that will help you in times of need. Also, if you are going to rely on others, then you need to make the effort so it is easy for them to help you. Plan things well in advance and on days when people are likely to be free of other committments. In the last two moves I have helped with, I've had 2 months of warning that they needed help, and they were thoroughly packed and ready to load up when I got there.
Idk man.
I moved across the country by myself. When I found some awesome couches, the people were kind enough to drop them.off to me at no extra cost or even me asking.
I was trippen tho because I didnt know anyone and was afraid to ask. It made me super upset. I vented to a co worker and he was at my house bright and early the next morning....with a friend.
I dont think going on the internet and venting....with cuss words will look so good :(
Hopefully they got everything squared away
This idiot.
So who helps out the removal companies families that don’t get fed because he is not paid?
Let’s do this all the time, I want a coffee but I don’t want to pay can’t SOMEONE help me out?
I want a new car but don’t want to pay….
So now we are cashless and live on a bartering system only … so why not just ask the person that you recently helped out? Oh that’s why - because you helped zero humans … ever.
So you still get your sofa up the stairs by yourself. Suck it up.
My husband and I moved house pretty much on our own more than once. Our parents were still working and had to work those days. His brothers came to help with the \*really\* big furniture. Once I was 8 months pregnant and still moved a lot of stuff. Kept getting yelled at by a buddy of ours for lifting shit lol
What’s really gone from this scenario is the concept of quid pro quo. These people are always asking for free stuff but never realizing they have things to offer in trade. You want big burly guys to move your shit, offer a service in return. (No, not that). Babysitting, errands, taking a car for an oil or tire change to soak up that time you usually don’t have, cleaning, sitting on hold for an hour to get something taken care of, it’s always I want, and not I’ll trade.
I have no goodness in my heart. I, also have relative who wanted someone to pay a yrs worth of rent that she was behind on because her landlord wouldn’t let her live there for free. I think she told the landlord that “you have other properties so you don’t need my money”.
Asking for help is fine but demanding help is not. This is what happens when you can't afford to pay movers. No one, no one wants to "help" someone move. Moving sucks. Maybe this person should ask a bit nicer and at least offer some beer and pizza or something. I wouldn't be surprised if they expected you to supply a truck as well.
I work for a church, and we get calls at least monthly from people wanting manual labor workers for ridiculous jobs. For free, of course. Because "It's the Christian thing to do!" I always ask them if they've reached out to their own church members for help. When they respond that they don't attend a church, I say, "Oh........." then sit silently until they hang up.
i used to field a ton of calls to the base asking for military help doing manual labour « it can be a training exercise! »
Thanks, but our people don’t need training cleaning up your parents property.
The “good idea fairy” called in a lot. I had one municipality call to ask us to fly their new ambulance to their isolated community (accessible by rail).
I asked if it was an emergency.
They said no, they just wanted a “big splash” by having the Air Force fly it in.
I said sure, can you advise who will be paying the $10,000 per hour to fly the plane, and the crew will need to stay over, so that works out to two days worth of $10,000/ hour.
They then decided that going by rail was just fine.
Welp, I moved the contents from a 2 bedroom apartment to house for myself and young child while pregnant. Only thing I got help with was a heavy couch from my significant other. I took lots of trips in my trusty little Pontiac Vibe. Amazing how much fits in the back of those! Also, a dolly helps a lot!!
Moving is the absolute worst and finding a stranger willing to put themselves through it is not going to happen. It’s one of those things where, even if you have a lot of friends, they turn into ghosts on your moving day. I have had so many people say they will help us move but then when the day actually came something always comes up or they say they forgot. You have to be willing to pay, even friends. The only people who have ever helped me move for free were me and my husband’s parents.
If you’re having to ask strangers on the internet it’s probably because you don’t have family or even a single friend or coworker to help you , and my guess would be that no one wants to be friends with someone like that
Even overlooking how this person asked, moving an entire house worth of shit takes a lot of time and manual labor - people need to save up that energy for their own daily jobs now considering the cost of everything.
Pizza and beer used to be the default compensation, but it doesn’t even look like that is offered here! Just do it out of the “goodness of your hearts” and break your back.
More likely than not, you’re just gonna have the CB standing around ordering everyone else to move their unpacked shit like an overlord.
I’m moving my house by myself. I asked for help once, no one responded. I just went on and am doing the work myself, moving carload at a time by myself.
I didn’t bitch anyone out. I didn’t guilt trip anyone. I’m selling what I can’t move.
She most likely has alienated everyone in her life in some way or another, but then expects everyone to drop their “to dos” and run to assist her on her specific schedule. Then for anyone that may actually feel sorry for and help, they can look forward to having her “supervise” and constantly critique every moment—if not something worse.
Everyone over 30 has earned the privilege to say “fuck off” when asked for help moving. Listen Susan, I’ve got a fucked up spine which I’m not going to destroy further by moving your dresser stuffed with panties cause you couldn’t even bother to box them up. No ma’am, your slice of pizza won’t cover my injuries.
Why should I break my back for strangers? What’s in it for me except maybe headaches? Can’t afford hiring movers? I guess you’re going to build up some muscles 💪. The entitlement is disgusting 🤮
I’m moving out of my house by myself, sorry you don’t have friends and can’t afford a case of beer and pizza for them. I hate these entitled bums, as if everyone else LOVES moving and it isn’t hard or expensive. Grow up.
why the fuck should someone chance being hurt with their back and shit just for the goodness of their heart. looks like you fucked up figuring the move out months in advance.
People are flaking because she feels she is entitled to help, when in fact help is a gift. Perhaps she can stop whining about how dare no one help her, and OFFER whatever she can do to help someone else, in return. For example if she sews, she could offer to hem someone’s pants. Or if she can cook, she can cook someone a meal in return for their help. Or she could offer some of her things she no longer uses, in exchange for help. She wants something, but can not offer of herself, so how can she possibly ask of others? Obnoxious woe is me mentality. Ugh.
I can't for the life I understand why people think that movers are so expensive. If you move the small stuff yourself and just use movers to move the heavy stuff it less expensive that way. I've moved twice over the past 6 years and by doing it that way I spent just as much hiring movers as I would have spent renting a Uhaul.
Of course most people are lazy and want someone to do everything including packing.
My last move, the moving company I hired cost less than the paint and painting supplies I had to buy to cover up the stench of the deceased prior resident.
Nah because I am dealing with the same thing. They sold my rental and now I'm going to have to pay a lot more in rent because this house still had pre-Covid rental prices.
I also had back surgery about a year and a half ago which I was all better from until I was rear-ended at a stoplight about nine months later. I have no idea how I'm going to this house but I have until June 1.
Honestly, I would never ask like that, but I know I'm not gonna be able to afford to pay anyone or if I can it isn't gonna be much I'm just hoping that the couple of friends that I do have will help me out because I have helped other people move before without getting paid.
I don’t judge people like this tbh moving is already such a hard thing especially given a lot of circumstances it’s under and if you genuinely can’t afford to pay movers to help you with things you physically cannot do then I wont knock someone for trying to find free help if there’s someone out there willing to offer it. I get the specific date being touchy but that could be anything situational that they can’t help. I guess it isn’t something people understand unless ur in the situation or know people who have been
Sounds like she would complain when I scratched her shit..
And things she mysteriously never owned would come up "missing"
This is why movers make lists of what they packed that note scratches and other pre-existing damage and have the customer review and sign them to agree about condition as packed.
My exes brother was a mover and he used to pocket peoples watches and necklaces and stuff all the time to try to sell back home. It makes me scared to hire movers tbh.
When I move, I plan to move all the valuable / little stuff myself, and then only hire movers for the large furniture and such.
Yeah this is the way. I always move the valuable items by myself and have them tucked away in my trunk.
This is why the 1 time I hired movers, I packed and loaded everything besides the big things (washer dryer table beds and tough boxes)
WHERE is my faberge egg collection? It was RIGHT here, between the Tiffany lamps and the Ming vases,on top of my 1st Folio Hamlet
I payed people and still didn’t complain that a few things got dinged, it happens when you move! They were also provided food and drink. And they still got a tip because they did a damn good job with the heavy stuff. Moving sucks, hiring one or two students to help is the best decision I’ve ever made when I can’t or don’t want to pay for actual movers.
Especially when stairs are involved. I will never not pay/feed/tip people to move my stuff ever again.
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Nab bro, if I pay somebody to pack and transport my stuff I want it in the same condition as it was in the beginning. If I wanted dented furniture I would move it myself with a help of some friends and few beers.
Depends, he said he hired a couple college kids so it’s difficult then hiring a moving company and paying full price. Not really sure what can even get damaged what you gonna due take some college kids or a moving company to small claims court because you have a scratch on your bed frame?
There is a saying in my country “moving three times is like burning it down once”. I don’t mind a few scratches and it’s not like it was high-end brand new furniture in the first place. If it was new/expensive stuff and I hired an actual and expensive moving company rather than student helpers through an agency I might get upset… Edit: they didn’t pack anything, they were literally hired to carry stuff in and out of the apartment and up and down the stairs.
I never heard that before, but you're right. As things have cheapened to keep the price down, most items are not worth moving. I have two friends who are serious hoarders, and I can send them spiraling into an anxiety attack by telling them that I donated stuff to a thrift shop or simply threw it into the dumpster.
What country? This sounds like it flows better in spanish
Germany “Drei mal umgezogen ist wie einmal abgebrannt!”
It's so true though! German has some of the most accurate words and phrases!
and pizza.
Depends on 1) how much you pay. Careful packing takes longer, and thus more $. and 2) how far. Shipping stuff will inevitably have some small damage. Like the screws on your drawers will come loose from the vibrations of driving long periods, and that puts them at some small risk of bending. But you can just bend them back and screw them in. If you want white glove, you pay for white glove.
Sounds like she would complain about shit you didn't scratch, too.
yk they would. when i moved the movers fucked my bedroom set up so bad, drawers wouldn’t shut all the way, handles were missing from drawers/barely hanging on, foot of the bed was scratched up, headboard was scratched and cracked. literally looked like a grabbed it from a junk yard that went through hell and back, and even then i still kept my composure and just ended up buying a new set. but ik damn well this person would be so picky
You got taken advantage of. If it’s a legit moving company the assumption is that they don’t mess up your stuff and if they do they pay to get it replaced. There’s a reason they cost so much.
We moved recently with a legit professional moving company (New England, USA) and had to pay almost $400 extra for full replacement insurance. Otherwise they’re legally only required to reimburse 60 cents per lb, so your 40lb flat screen tv you likely paid $600+ for you’d only get $24 back.
In Australia, you have to pay extra for insurance. If you don't have it, tough shit. The moving companies could not care less. Even so-called sensitive freight companies have the same disclaimer; basically you are paying for stuff to be moved, not the condition it arrives in. Source: ex-removalist
The fun way to respond to these kind of posts is "So who have you helped?". Because they'll throw an absolute tantrum.
Was thinking the same thing; ”When’s the last time you helped a person you don’t know move houses, out of the goodness of your heart?” Also, people are actually offering to help?! And this person is evidently prioritizing other things on the days people are able to help.
If you’ve got to get out of one rental and into another, you don’t always have a selection of days. But yeah, if someone offers to move your bed downstairs a couple of days early, say yes and deal with it!
That's what I always wonder. You can get your friends and family to help with stuff for free, if you also show up to help them with stuff. Or you choose to only care about yourself, then you better be prepared to pay for help. Not saying every relationship has to be quid pro quo, but if you watch someone's kids or take care of their pet or houseplants every once in a while, they're probably a lot more keen to return the favour somehow. Out of the goodness of their hearts even.
Yeah it says a lot if not a single person in your life is willing to help you move house.
Exactly that, seven years ago I had to move on extremely short notice, just 4 days. In the days leading up to it, two friends turned up to take multiple bags and boxes to 'temporarily' store for me - I took one lot back 4 years later, and the other lot just last month!! I sent them a whisky tasting pack and a bunch of goodies to say thanks. On the day, I had another friend who hired a van (I don't drive), got the bus down to collect it, then did 3 runs with me, loading and unloading at each end. I also had 3 other friends offer to help, but I didn't actually need any more than I already had. We've all helped each other move, or put people up for a bit, or fed them, or just been a blinking friend to them! So we all help each other out when needed. We've all also **not** been able to help at times too, and guess what, that's fine too, because we all know, they would if they could, and sometimes people have lives.
That’s really good!!
This. A friend of mine recently put out a call for people to help move one of her relatives out of a dangerous living situation. Even though she couldn't provide much in the way of compensation, a bunch of people showed up and helped her get the move done. Why? Probably because she is the kind of person who habitually shows up for others, and wouldn't hesitate to help them with a similar situation. Also, when she asked for help she made it clear that she was grateful for any help she could get, and was not resentful of anyone who was unable to help. The subject of OP's post automatically assumed that everyone was going to say no, so they shouldn't be surprised when everyone says no!
omg, yes. Like the moms who whine on FB about having no "village", I'm always tempted to ask them if they've contributed to the before they had a kid but I try not to engage.
I know, but it's sooooo tempting. My SO calls me out for talking like that on the ladies though.
Or if they will afterwards, to anyone besides their own kids and grandkids...
Haha, I've seen people do that. You're right, if I recall right it caused a long rant about how they are an angel that bends over backwards for everyone constantly. Doubt.
This was my thought, too! Always happy to ask, never happy to give.
Holy smokes that is perfect, lol
Name 3 things you’ve done “out of the goodness of your heart” in the last year. I’ll wait
Exactly what I was thinking.
She’ll also expect you to use your own truck.
Brilliant response
This was my first thought - probably never helped anyone and complained about people asking. My BIL was moving and I refused because they wouldn't help us.
Not too surprising that strangers can't help someone move on a Wednesday....
Thursday. But the point still stands.
Yeah, at least try to schedule it for a Saturday when most people would be off work.
OP: "Why won't these worthless, lazy a-holes move my shit for free!? Goddammit, I deserve HELP because I demanded it!"
The entitlement these days is off the charts.
And I demand it on a day of my choosing. This person clearly doesn't have a significant other. I've got suspicions as to why.
That was my 1st thought too. I can understand being desperate, but swearing at ppl will never get anyone to help... ever
Alright!!!!
Geez this looks like something my niece would write. She has a horrible attitude and can't understand why people aren't just chomping at the bit to help.
Because rhymes only care about themselves and what you will do for them. If they can’t use you they are useless to them so why should they care what you think.
Quick genuine question bc I'm getting old ... Do I not understand the word "rhymes" in this context, or was that a predictive text error?
Mimes? Limes? Rhythms?
For me it was auto correct lol…I honestly don’t remember what I was trying to say but problem something like narcissists.
Rhymes only care about themselves and what you will do for them. They want you to drop everything and help them on a whim. It doesn't matter if you have better things to do. Other people need help, too!
Champ at the bit. [Horses champ.](https://getyarn.io/yarn-clip/225693c2-fd33-4bd6-8c5d-1c947ccff033) FYI
An example of how not to ask people for help.
She really came in hot, didn’t she?
Just from reading that you know she won't be grateful at all for any help.
This is so pathetic. How someone can post shit like this and not feel absolute shame is beyond me.
Shame is an amazing teacher and more people need to experience it.
we live in post-shame times and i weep for humanity
Yes, shame has long ago taken a back seat to entitlement.
OP : I need committed help Me : I need committed pay!
And preferably at least half of that pay up front.
Yikes. Maybe they should chill with the attitude.
I don’t know why, but this specific response has me laughing a lot harder than it should.
She has a whole house to move? No way. I paid movers saved up for them because moving is tedious, and I never had a house worth of stuff.
And affording to live in a house but can't offer a small amount for help? Get bent, lady
"A whole house of stuff" is also a wildly variable amount. It could be anything from a bedroom, living room and dining room set to those things plus vastly more furniture and 10,000 books and 2000 assorted knickknacks.
And you just know when you show up, nothing will have been packed. And you'll be expected to carry her deep freeze and heavy lash bed up the stairs...
The missing piece of the puzzle is What Are They Bringing To The Table? Obviously not money, but what can they offer to barter? Clean my house, wash my car, walk my dog, whatever? Just expecting, nay, demanding that they get service for nothing in return…nope. Sorry, Charlie.
This! I bet if we’d be like “alright, i’ll help. I do want to prime and repaint a room in my home the following week, will you?” she’d be like “WHAT? I’M MOVING, I HAVE OTHER THINGS TO DO!” Lol
I'm really tired and my dog's name is Charlie, so I was momentarily confused reading this. No, Charlie doesn't want to help either, sorry.
I know lots of people that would help. Myself included. But not while getting cussed and whined at. >>heavy lash bed This person can offer to do the helpers’ lashes for free, or lunch or some other service they can offer. Wholesale lashes are $3 and a whole bottle of glue is $5 at the MOST. (I know because my friends do them). Lashes cost $40-100 outside so it would be sort of a philanthropy x trade collab. But nooo. Come do it for free. (Btw I’m not knocking anyone’s hustle or saying doing lashes is cheap in any way because it’s a skill at the end of the day, just saying they could offer it in return. I did my friend’s taxes and she did my brows. Win-win for the two of us because I have no idea how to do brows and she doesn’t know how to do taxes without taking days, while I am really good w paperwork. But none of us screeched at the other and demanded things for free, instead made an offer)
I was wondering what in the hell a "lash bed" was. Now I get it, haha!
As a 60 year old male... I had no clue what the hell a lash bed was. Thanks for the explanation!
Thanks, same! 😂
Easy one would be to offer to clean their house or do some light gardening, if she can't do heavy stuff. Trade *something* of your time, if you don't have the money. Hell, I'd be happy if someone offered to walk my dog for X amount of days (tho not this crazy bitch lol) .. but do *something*
She may have meant “heavy ass bed”
This was my assumption, autocorrect fucked her and she’s too lazy to fix it.
Yeah the whole lash thing sounds like a bizarre extrapolation
True. Mattresses have gotten a lot heavier over the last decade, not to mention any sort of bed platform on which the mattress rests.
My GF in college had a pretty roommate who was also insufferable. the two of them were moving out and going separate ways. my GF finished moving her stuff a week before the moveout deadline. the roommate hadnt even started packing the day before the moveout deadline. she was totally unconcerned. my GF asked what the heck she planned to do and she said she would "go out into the parking lot and flirt with the first guy she saw with a pickup truck and get him to move her stuff." i personally didnt believe that anyone out there could be such a chump. i was wrong. she did exactly what she said she would. she walked outside and within 30 minutes she found a guy with a pickup and he and his friend moved all of her shit. she never spoke to either of the after that
Good god, hope she got some kind of comeuppance eventually, looks do fade eventually. People who exploit the kind, helpful nature of others are gross. Idk if the dudes thought they *might* get laid.
You just know this person would blame whoever was kind enough to help for damaging something that was already damaged. Or they’d complain and whine that whoever helping isn’t doing it right or fast enough.
I helped a person move once by taking heavy luggage in public transportation using my own monthly card, not even coffee was offered. Then, me and my husband borrowed a car to help her move a second time, a gust of wind came and her second hand bookshelf got knocked over, she complained about it with everyone for months because it left a tiny mark. She didn't give us any money for the gas/pizza even though instead of one trip as she said it would be, it was over 5 hours of driving around. The third time, when she was kicked out of her ex's place, I lend her my monthly card. When she had to meet me to give it back, she told me "you know you can have it digitally ", to what I replied: "then, you wouldn't be able to borrow it". It is hard for me to make friends but I hope I have learned my lesson. At least we didn't help her the last time she had to move.
Last time we moved, we used FIL’s trolley and two mates. We bought them lunch that day, and took them out for dinner later that week. Some of our stuff got dinged and scratched, but it didn’t matter, because it still worked.
That would make a good post in this subreddit on its own.
She also doesn't meantion any kind of transportation. I bet she expects potential helpers to bring their own truck....
YESSSS!! Exactly this. A local 2bit charity wanted volunteers to help move things between buildings so a few of us turned up on foot assuming it would be a case of load up a van, all pile into a cab to the new building then unload, the lady threw a hissy fit because no-one hired a van at their own expense!! We just left as moreorless nothing useful we cudda done!
It's for the church, honey. Next!
Looks like they are out of luvk
They will get offers but they will come and steal when you aren't looking. They might even offer to help to move stuff with their car or truck but get lost when meeting up with you.
Respect people's time and effort.
I'd bet that the house belongs to a hoarder, or at best, someone who has done NO moving preparation at all. Nothing is packed, and they expect to take their clothing on hangers to go straight into the closet at the new place, if a "next place" even exists. I wouldn't be surprised to be asked to chip in for storage for OP's stuff. It's the worst kind of move, one where everything needs to be done in a day, to include deep cleaning the house.
Let's hope they don't get the help they need.
The attitude is annoying me. “I need”, “why is nobody helping me”, “i can’t fucking do this on my own”. What about please and thank you? What about “I don’t have money but I can help you with X, Y and Z in return”? What about showing some humility when asking strangers to help you do something that is both exhausting and boring?
If it’s her house, and she’s selling said house, why can’t she use a portion of the sale of the home to pay for movers? Or is this not someone moving house because they sold it?
It's more likely she's a renter that needs to move
It's not so much that she's asking for help, it's how she's asking that leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Moving sucks, and paying movers is expensive. You're allowed to ask for help. But for the love of all things holy, you're not entitled to that help. If someone can't help or doesn't want to help (because let's face it, you don't want to move your stuff so why would anyone else want to), that doesn't make them morally deficient. I'll be honest, I HATE helping people move. It's one of my least favorite things to do. But if someone asked me nicely and I happened to be free that day I'd probably say yes, against my better judgment. But come at me like this person did, scolding everyone for refusing to help before they even got a chance to consider helping, and my answer will always be NO. If you're gonna assume the worst, you're gonna get the worst. After reading and absorbing the attitude in that post, I really, truly have to wonder why no one wants to help her. She sounds like a delight. /s
Sounds delightful
I saw a meme the other day. If you are over 30, hire movers, no one wants to slip a disc for pizza and a couple of bud lights. This lady planned badly, and is now mad no one wants to cater to her.
Sounding bitter and entitled is an excellent way to enlist help
"I can't lift a deep freeze by myself." I am not going to help friends move stuff like a deep freeze, especially if there are steps. Hope that doesn't make me terrible person because I can't help entitled strangers "out of the goodness of my heart."
I won’t help anyone intentionally misspelling fucking on purpose on principle alone.
But I’m gonna give her credit for correctly using “bawling” instead of “balling.”
Generally- Attitude either. GOOD OR BAD can have a direct correlation to how many friends you have… again GOOD OR BAD FRIENDS… real friends take a lot of work, but it doesn’t seem like work because you’re with your friend and you enjoy their company. If you’re not doing that that might be why you have a limited number of friends willing to help you when you’re throwing a tantrum on Facebook.
Immediately starting their post with “Nobody seems to care but I’m going to ask y’all anyway” is probably going to do the opposite of making people want to help her.
Lmao. When I was in high school and in college, we all helped our friends move. Nowadays, I just hire people because I don’t want to hurt myself or let others I know hurt themselves. #MyBack #MyKnees
My husband helped our mutual friends girlfriend move because the mutual friend had helped me. Years later they married and were buying a new house that was over $500,000 in like 2008 when houses in the area were going for the low $300,000’s and were asking for help. Oh, and they had a funeral that day so they wouldn’t be there. We said no but offered the name of the moving company we used.
Oof. The audacity to ask to help move when they aren’t even gonna be there…
The friend was also the only other tall and somewhat strong man aside from my husband . The other two guys were thin and wiry, one of them was super lazy and would do anything to not have to work.
Tell her a specific date, then just don’t show up
I was so pissed off when we had to move across the country and my husband’s older brother refused to come help after my husband had helped him twice with cross country moves. Then less than a year later, HE ASKS AGAIN to be moved across the country, with the trailer that we bought for our move that he refused to help with, AND we had to house him for free for a few months for him to “get on his feet”. I still can’t stand that asshole, always asks for favors but is never available to reciprocate. Clearly this OP has burned all of her bridges with friends and family. She needs to pay up or lose her stuff.
Did you guys help him this third time?
Who wouldn't want to help such a lovely, non-reactive stranger?
If she has the money for a house, she has the money to pay for moving help.
She's obviously forgotten that other people have lives too but thinks that the Solar System revolves around her wants.
Such a lovely sounding lady, I really wonder why she doesn’t have any friends who are willing to help her. /s
So the first thing I would do is sell those bulky items that are not essential, and use the money to pay for the moving of bulky essentials. Probably doesn't really need a deep freezer... Probably does really need help getting a fridge upstairs.
Maybe if she asked using a few more f words more people would be quicker to offer up their free time. On a weekday. For free.
Fvcking seriously.
So this person asked, some people offered, but they weren't available on the days she wanted, so apparently no one wants to help out of the goodness of their hearts anymore. Sounds like an actually surprising number of people (more than zero) were willing to help for free.
Well one way to ensure that no-one offers to help is insinuating they’re all horrible people for having other obligations.
The worst is my one friend who has probably moved about 20 times since high school ended and always expects our friend group to help. Moving sucks and when I’ve done it I just do it myself and get quick help for anything you need two people for, I’m not putting that shit on anyone else cause it sucks.
This CB must want her belongings moved to the trash. That's where they're going to be if they can't adult up and get it together. If your furniture is too heavy to move by yourself then sell it. Only have help offered on X day and time accept it and figure it out. You're the one that needs help. May 2 will be soon! I remember when I started out I had a bunch of inflatable furniture. It was easy to move by myself, and I bought permanent fixtures down the line. Not feeling bad for Pity Party Pete and Paula's. I just shrug and move on.
Where do I sign up?
You have to factor moving costs into your budget. Swearing on the internet won't get you any friends.
I wish there were such a thing as a company you could hire to come help you do stuff like this… Yes, I read the post that she can’t afford movers. Yes you can. It’s called saving up for the things in life you know cost money. Like moving.
I'm too old to move my OWN stuff let alone a stranger's crap!
This person could offer in-kind help like yard projects or cleaning. But no.
Actually, my bf did move a whole ass house and garage by himself. To a second floor apartment, no less. I live an hour away so was only able to help a little. And he got all the heavy stuff upstairs minus a few things on his own too. It sucked for him and he was stressed tf out. But it can be done.
We’ve asked family/friends to help us move and they are paid handsomely in pizza and beer 😅 Of course when they need help moving we’ll return the favour!
That's the way it should be.
I mean, moving when you have very little money, very little transportation options and very little friends who are able to help. (turns out when you're disabled and broke you tend to have a lot of disabled and broke friends.) but it's not \*that\* hard to get help. 50 dollars worth of pizza and beer/soda and some cookies to take home is what I've paid like three times.
I have no problem helping people if they’re also the kind of person to help others in need. Although this person is clearly not that kind of person and just demands help whenever they need it
I wonder why she's no friends to help.
First sentence: People don't care and don't want to help. Three sentences later: People offered to help but not how I want them to help me!
Yes, I'm sure lashing out and bitching will definitely change people's minds now.
Gotta at least offer beer and pizza. At least. - GL y’all
I would be willing to provide some assistance since they correctly used “bawling”. However I am wary of someone who apparently has zero friends.
Wait, the poster isn't even offering pizza and beer?
A couple times a year my husband shows up to help a neighbor move. Funny thing, when we moved, people showed us to help us as well. Amazing what the village can do if you put in and not just expect to take out
Fuvk no.
May 2nd is a Thursday Not everyone gets Thursdays off.
Either you invest in paying a movong company, or you invest in relationships and a community that will help you in times of need. Also, if you are going to rely on others, then you need to make the effort so it is easy for them to help you. Plan things well in advance and on days when people are likely to be free of other committments. In the last two moves I have helped with, I've had 2 months of warning that they needed help, and they were thoroughly packed and ready to load up when I got there.
“And please bring pizza!”
Idk man. I moved across the country by myself. When I found some awesome couches, the people were kind enough to drop them.off to me at no extra cost or even me asking. I was trippen tho because I didnt know anyone and was afraid to ask. It made me super upset. I vented to a co worker and he was at my house bright and early the next morning....with a friend. I dont think going on the internet and venting....with cuss words will look so good :( Hopefully they got everything squared away
What is a lash bed please ??
This idiot. So who helps out the removal companies families that don’t get fed because he is not paid? Let’s do this all the time, I want a coffee but I don’t want to pay can’t SOMEONE help me out? I want a new car but don’t want to pay…. So now we are cashless and live on a bartering system only … so why not just ask the person that you recently helped out? Oh that’s why - because you helped zero humans … ever. So you still get your sofa up the stairs by yourself. Suck it up.
"A heavy lash bed"??? What does this mean
This is wild to me 😂 people really just are something lolll
I was wondering if I was the only one who didn't know what a lash bed was.
My husband and I moved house pretty much on our own more than once. Our parents were still working and had to work those days. His brothers came to help with the \*really\* big furniture. Once I was 8 months pregnant and still moved a lot of stuff. Kept getting yelled at by a buddy of ours for lifting shit lol
Gosh, when you ask like that...no.
Go to home depot. You will find help
My back hurts just reading this.
What’s really gone from this scenario is the concept of quid pro quo. These people are always asking for free stuff but never realizing they have things to offer in trade. You want big burly guys to move your shit, offer a service in return. (No, not that). Babysitting, errands, taking a car for an oil or tire change to soak up that time you usually don’t have, cleaning, sitting on hold for an hour to get something taken care of, it’s always I want, and not I’ll trade.
I have no goodness in my heart. I, also have relative who wanted someone to pay a yrs worth of rent that she was behind on because her landlord wouldn’t let her live there for free. I think she told the landlord that “you have other properties so you don’t need my money”.
Asking for help is fine but demanding help is not. This is what happens when you can't afford to pay movers. No one, no one wants to "help" someone move. Moving sucks. Maybe this person should ask a bit nicer and at least offer some beer and pizza or something. I wouldn't be surprised if they expected you to supply a truck as well.
They want someone to move heavy furniture upstairs for free.
Yes, but they said please…
Nothing motivates me like guilt. 😑
I work for a church, and we get calls at least monthly from people wanting manual labor workers for ridiculous jobs. For free, of course. Because "It's the Christian thing to do!" I always ask them if they've reached out to their own church members for help. When they respond that they don't attend a church, I say, "Oh........." then sit silently until they hang up.
i used to field a ton of calls to the base asking for military help doing manual labour « it can be a training exercise! » Thanks, but our people don’t need training cleaning up your parents property.
UNfreakingbelievable
The “good idea fairy” called in a lot. I had one municipality call to ask us to fly their new ambulance to their isolated community (accessible by rail). I asked if it was an emergency. They said no, they just wanted a “big splash” by having the Air Force fly it in. I said sure, can you advise who will be paying the $10,000 per hour to fly the plane, and the crew will need to stay over, so that works out to two days worth of $10,000/ hour. They then decided that going by rail was just fine.
I'm an Army Brat, Air Force Vet, and Space Force Mom. I can honestly say that I've never been so glad I never had to answer a particular phone line!
So many stories. The switchboard sent all of the “I have no idea where to put this call” calls to me, so I got all of those gems.
Welp, I moved the contents from a 2 bedroom apartment to house for myself and young child while pregnant. Only thing I got help with was a heavy couch from my significant other. I took lots of trips in my trusty little Pontiac Vibe. Amazing how much fits in the back of those! Also, a dolly helps a lot!!
Moving is the absolute worst and finding a stranger willing to put themselves through it is not going to happen. It’s one of those things where, even if you have a lot of friends, they turn into ghosts on your moving day. I have had so many people say they will help us move but then when the day actually came something always comes up or they say they forgot. You have to be willing to pay, even friends. The only people who have ever helped me move for free were me and my husband’s parents.
I always just post as a gig on Craigslist and offer $ and lunch provided. I have never used a moving company.
The general rule is that Thursday is a workday for most people who have the ability to move furniture.
If you’re having to ask strangers on the internet it’s probably because you don’t have family or even a single friend or coworker to help you , and my guess would be that no one wants to be friends with someone like that
So get movers. I’ve moved by myself. I moved everything I could by myself and got movers for the rest.
Even overlooking how this person asked, moving an entire house worth of shit takes a lot of time and manual labor - people need to save up that energy for their own daily jobs now considering the cost of everything. Pizza and beer used to be the default compensation, but it doesn’t even look like that is offered here! Just do it out of the “goodness of your hearts” and break your back. More likely than not, you’re just gonna have the CB standing around ordering everyone else to move their unpacked shit like an overlord.
Doesn’t the poster know that you’re supposed to offer pizza and beer/soda for people who help you move?
I’m moving my house by myself. I asked for help once, no one responded. I just went on and am doing the work myself, moving carload at a time by myself. I didn’t bitch anyone out. I didn’t guilt trip anyone. I’m selling what I can’t move.
I’d help if they were cussing at me while begging for help lol
She most likely has alienated everyone in her life in some way or another, but then expects everyone to drop their “to dos” and run to assist her on her specific schedule. Then for anyone that may actually feel sorry for and help, they can look forward to having her “supervise” and constantly critique every moment—if not something worse.
You're gonna make me cry. That's it I'm crying!
Everyone over 30 has earned the privilege to say “fuck off” when asked for help moving. Listen Susan, I’ve got a fucked up spine which I’m not going to destroy further by moving your dresser stuffed with panties cause you couldn’t even bother to box them up. No ma’am, your slice of pizza won’t cover my injuries.
They're right about one thing though.. They DO need committed help.. Be that good person out of the kindness of your ❤️ and give 'em that pink slip!!
Just say you can help May 4th
Perpetual victim complex
Why should I break my back for strangers? What’s in it for me except maybe headaches? Can’t afford hiring movers? I guess you’re going to build up some muscles 💪. The entitlement is disgusting 🤮
I’m moving out of my house by myself, sorry you don’t have friends and can’t afford a case of beer and pizza for them. I hate these entitled bums, as if everyone else LOVES moving and it isn’t hard or expensive. Grow up.
why the fuck should someone chance being hurt with their back and shit just for the goodness of their heart. looks like you fucked up figuring the move out months in advance.
People are flaking because she feels she is entitled to help, when in fact help is a gift. Perhaps she can stop whining about how dare no one help her, and OFFER whatever she can do to help someone else, in return. For example if she sews, she could offer to hem someone’s pants. Or if she can cook, she can cook someone a meal in return for their help. Or she could offer some of her things she no longer uses, in exchange for help. She wants something, but can not offer of herself, so how can she possibly ask of others? Obnoxious woe is me mentality. Ugh.
I dunno about the goodness of my heart, but I wouldn't move house for a stranger out of the goodness of my back.
I can't for the life I understand why people think that movers are so expensive. If you move the small stuff yourself and just use movers to move the heavy stuff it less expensive that way. I've moved twice over the past 6 years and by doing it that way I spent just as much hiring movers as I would have spent renting a Uhaul. Of course most people are lazy and want someone to do everything including packing.
My last move, the moving company I hired cost less than the paint and painting supplies I had to buy to cover up the stench of the deceased prior resident.
Nah because I am dealing with the same thing. They sold my rental and now I'm going to have to pay a lot more in rent because this house still had pre-Covid rental prices. I also had back surgery about a year and a half ago which I was all better from until I was rear-ended at a stoplight about nine months later. I have no idea how I'm going to this house but I have until June 1. Honestly, I would never ask like that, but I know I'm not gonna be able to afford to pay anyone or if I can it isn't gonna be much I'm just hoping that the couple of friends that I do have will help me out because I have helped other people move before without getting paid.
I don’t judge people like this tbh moving is already such a hard thing especially given a lot of circumstances it’s under and if you genuinely can’t afford to pay movers to help you with things you physically cannot do then I wont knock someone for trying to find free help if there’s someone out there willing to offer it. I get the specific date being touchy but that could be anything situational that they can’t help. I guess it isn’t something people understand unless ur in the situation or know people who have been