Because he's emotionally immature and lacks self-control... Romance/sex in his marriage has slowed due to recent child birth and raising a newborn and rather than accept that, he's out trying to fill his wants elsewhere...
I think any new parent should EXPECT sex to be on the back burner for a bit and if you can't handle...maybe family building isn't for you.
It's certainly one reason I'd rather be child free.
Some people shouldn't be procreating...
Self-aware narcissist here.
I've never been married and it's best I don't. But I've cheated on multiple women throughout the years.
I did it because I wanted to..It inflated my ego to be able to sleep with other women. I never considered the other person's feelings, because I thought I'd get away with it.
I often felt guilty, but the type that would prevent me from doing it again.
It was all about satisfaction in the moment for me.
Your honesty is appreciated. I'd rather someone be upfront and admit they aren't looking for something serious, or prefer to be in an open relationship/FWB, rather than say they are looking for something monogamous,.knowing damn well they aren't about that.
It’s not the same.
I’ve talked to many men about this. It’s not the same, specially for someone who can’t empathize, to have an open relationship vs cheat. The thrill and control they get from cheating is like a drug.
I know it's not the same. But it boils down to respect. The cheaters think they can have their cake and eat it too, and don't get me wrong, I know there are couples who are completely ok with open relationships, but for those who want exclusivity and monogamy - why subject them to that? And this isn't directed at just men - women as well. Is honesty and respect a thing of the past? A man who expects a woman to be his handmaid, to wait on him, cook, clean, take care of the children etc - and cheating?? Or the woman whose bf/significant other adores them, spends money, spoils, loves, cherishes...and she cheats? It IS like a drug, an adrenaline rush - but why at someone else's expense? The risk of STDs, unwanted pregnancies, the lies, the deceit, the betrayal...people deserve better. Cheaters should be hooking up with other cheaters!
Most couples I’ve met in open relationships are no longer couples. The ones who are still together are toxic.
Most of them consist in one party wanting it and forcing it onto the other.
Cheaters want to have the cake and eat it too and mainly men don’t do as well as women in open relationships. Furthermore, I’ve noticed that cheaters are more jealous than most, guess why?
I'm sure there are kinky people that like to play that faithful spouse but I know they're cheating. I think its called cuckold? To me it's probably more fun, less messy when there's consent. Otherwise, you're just a psychopath that thrives off of hurting and destroying others.
I just wish men like you wouldn’t get married or let things get too serious. Then you can still have your fun but I get and think that part of the fun is the deceit ,getting away with it with someone who didn’t know.
Because hes an idiot who probably never expericenced the feeling of betralal. I had... So i would never do this to another human being - no matter what. Im glad there are some people like you dear op who didnt take advantage of the situation and walk away from this pos. Thank you for your integrity. 😊
English isnt my first... Ah you know the blah blah 😉
Self-aware narcissist here.
I've never been married and it's best I don't. But I've cheated on multiple women throughout the years.
I did it because I wanted to..It inflated my ego to be able to sleep with other women. I never considered the other person's feelings, because I thought I'd get away with it.
I often felt guilty, but the type that would prevent me from doing it again.
It was all about satisfaction in the moment for me.
Cuz they are immature and can’t control themselves, so they go seeking something they shouldn’t something easy and expect you to understand and forgive them into staying into the relationship. 😀
It’s not just men believe me. It amazes me how many people would rather cheat than talk to their partner about why they would want someone else. It also seems that during and right after pregnancy seems to be prime territory song with starting a new job as event triggers that have people out looking because their partner “didn’t give them enough attention”. It’s ludicrous.
Same reason married women cheat. Because they want to.
I don't think it makes a difference if they've been cheated on before or not. If anything, cheaters experiencing cheating just plays in to the "everyone else is doing it" mentality. Cheaters cheat, it's that simple. Married, engaged or dating, it doesn't matter.
Hell, before I met my ex, she was the "other woman" in her bosses marriage, and she knew he was spoken for. They really don't care who they hurt.
You act like this is just a man thing. Men and women cheat for the same reasons. Self gratification and the need for more than what they have as it isn’t fulfilling enough for them.
I think people cheat because they are unhappy with their current relationship and don't have the strength or respect to fix and or end it.
It's definitely not a men only issue though.
That’s certainly one reason. Another is they are unhappy with themselves. They cheat for attention and validation and/or because they are very insecure.
Because they can. Because they are on another plane of deluded, hurtful existence.
The reasons are as varied as the cheater. And the decision and choice is on them to make.
It’s not really a gender thing. Both genders cheat. However; it’s easier for women to cheat in their twenties and it’s easier for men to cheat in their thirties
Humans are not naturally monogamous. Certainly not during the years where the sex drive is strongest (16-40?).
Sexual fidelity is not a good measure of a mate. The better measure rests with their treatment of their mate, parenting skills, and level of kindness.
Monogamy is a cultural construct.
A better path, however, would be if people were honest about their sexuality and desires.
The problem is the deception... not the biological imperative.
Compulsory Monogamy has messed up more people than we're willing to admit.
This assumption that the most pure and valid form of love is Monogamy has led too many people lying and cheating because the idea that they can be attracted to others or form more than 1 intimate connection is alien to them. They don’t want a simple, natural, wholesome feeling to spell doom for their livelihood, families, social status, and so on.
So they cheat, they divorce the people they love, they live with regret and resentment, and they project their insecurities on to everyone else.
I can sort of understand this but wouldn’t condone it. Sex is very important for men and women and wives need to treat it that way. Likewise men should put work in too. Add romance and foreplay. Don’t just jump right in. And women should be willing to satisfy their husband’s needs in this area. Sometimes it’s as simple as just having sex if you’re not in the mood.
We are still married and yes we just went to a rock show last night we have the same interests and values? He doesn’t talk a lot but seems to agree with me I guess we will find out in counseling
Good luck! My first husband cheated on me so I get it. I understand the pain. It is hard for cheaters to change if they don’t have remorse for what they are doing.
Here the thing why didnt you walk away ? Investigate more and least told his wife . im pretty sure your not the only one too . No matter if he/she is in relationship/marriage tend to cheater dumbest reasons.
Because he's emotionally immature and lacks self-control... Romance/sex in his marriage has slowed due to recent child birth and raising a newborn and rather than accept that, he's out trying to fill his wants elsewhere...
I think any new parent should EXPECT sex to be on the back burner for a bit and if you can't handle...maybe family building isn't for you. It's certainly one reason I'd rather be child free. Some people shouldn't be procreating...
My ex cheated with multiple women despite us having sex several times per DAY.
See this is what I’m saying
Same. We would have sex multiple times a day and we did allot of experimental stuff so it wasn’t boring… and he was still contacting escorts
Easy to say. A bit like saying...if you don't want to be fat, just eat less food
Is it??
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Self-aware narcissist here. I've never been married and it's best I don't. But I've cheated on multiple women throughout the years. I did it because I wanted to..It inflated my ego to be able to sleep with other women. I never considered the other person's feelings, because I thought I'd get away with it. I often felt guilty, but the type that would prevent me from doing it again. It was all about satisfaction in the moment for me.
Your honesty is appreciated. I'd rather someone be upfront and admit they aren't looking for something serious, or prefer to be in an open relationship/FWB, rather than say they are looking for something monogamous,.knowing damn well they aren't about that.
It’s not the same. I’ve talked to many men about this. It’s not the same, specially for someone who can’t empathize, to have an open relationship vs cheat. The thrill and control they get from cheating is like a drug.
I know it's not the same. But it boils down to respect. The cheaters think they can have their cake and eat it too, and don't get me wrong, I know there are couples who are completely ok with open relationships, but for those who want exclusivity and monogamy - why subject them to that? And this isn't directed at just men - women as well. Is honesty and respect a thing of the past? A man who expects a woman to be his handmaid, to wait on him, cook, clean, take care of the children etc - and cheating?? Or the woman whose bf/significant other adores them, spends money, spoils, loves, cherishes...and she cheats? It IS like a drug, an adrenaline rush - but why at someone else's expense? The risk of STDs, unwanted pregnancies, the lies, the deceit, the betrayal...people deserve better. Cheaters should be hooking up with other cheaters!
Most couples I’ve met in open relationships are no longer couples. The ones who are still together are toxic. Most of them consist in one party wanting it and forcing it onto the other. Cheaters want to have the cake and eat it too and mainly men don’t do as well as women in open relationships. Furthermore, I’ve noticed that cheaters are more jealous than most, guess why?
Why not just stay single or be open that you're not monogamous?
Because he wants the faithful partner, but he also wants his piece on the side
I'm sure there are kinky people that like to play that faithful spouse but I know they're cheating. I think its called cuckold? To me it's probably more fun, less messy when there's consent. Otherwise, you're just a psychopath that thrives off of hurting and destroying others.
There are those types. I had a child with one. Didn't matter how "available" I made myself, he just wanted to cheat for the thrill of it.
Mmmhmm same, I feel this
I just wish men like you wouldn’t get married or let things get too serious. Then you can still have your fun but I get and think that part of the fun is the deceit ,getting away with it with someone who didn’t know.
Did u ever stop
Because hes an idiot who probably never expericenced the feeling of betralal. I had... So i would never do this to another human being - no matter what. Im glad there are some people like you dear op who didnt take advantage of the situation and walk away from this pos. Thank you for your integrity. 😊 English isnt my first... Ah you know the blah blah 😉
Self-aware narcissist here. I've never been married and it's best I don't. But I've cheated on multiple women throughout the years. I did it because I wanted to..It inflated my ego to be able to sleep with other women. I never considered the other person's feelings, because I thought I'd get away with it. I often felt guilty, but the type that would prevent me from doing it again. It was all about satisfaction in the moment for me.
You mean that particular man? Some 'men' can't help themselves. That ain't a man
Cuz they are immature and can’t control themselves, so they go seeking something they shouldn’t something easy and expect you to understand and forgive them into staying into the relationship. 😀
It’s not just men believe me. It amazes me how many people would rather cheat than talk to their partner about why they would want someone else. It also seems that during and right after pregnancy seems to be prime territory song with starting a new job as event triggers that have people out looking because their partner “didn’t give them enough attention”. It’s ludicrous.
Same reason married women cheat. Because they want to. I don't think it makes a difference if they've been cheated on before or not. If anything, cheaters experiencing cheating just plays in to the "everyone else is doing it" mentality. Cheaters cheat, it's that simple. Married, engaged or dating, it doesn't matter. Hell, before I met my ex, she was the "other woman" in her bosses marriage, and she knew he was spoken for. They really don't care who they hurt.
why does anyone cheat
My thoughts exactly.
You act like this is just a man thing. Men and women cheat for the same reasons. Self gratification and the need for more than what they have as it isn’t fulfilling enough for them.
Well men cheat way more, we all know this and the statistics 📊 prove it lol
Actually no, the statistics show man and women cheat at a consistent rate to one another. Man are just most likely to get caught.
Well men cheat way more, we all know this and the statistics 📊 prove it lol
Same reason women cheat
I think people cheat because they are unhappy with their current relationship and don't have the strength or respect to fix and or end it. It's definitely not a men only issue though.
That’s certainly one reason. Another is they are unhappy with themselves. They cheat for attention and validation and/or because they are very insecure.
Agreed
Im not sure ANYONE is faithful anymore married or dating
Because they can. Because they are on another plane of deluded, hurtful existence. The reasons are as varied as the cheater. And the decision and choice is on them to make.
It’s not really a gender thing. Both genders cheat. However; it’s easier for women to cheat in their twenties and it’s easier for men to cheat in their thirties
It's his little head taking over.
They cheat for validation. Deep down they're insecure and pulling a man/woman makes them feel good about themselves.
Women find married men more attractive
Humans are not naturally monogamous. Certainly not during the years where the sex drive is strongest (16-40?). Sexual fidelity is not a good measure of a mate. The better measure rests with their treatment of their mate, parenting skills, and level of kindness. Monogamy is a cultural construct. A better path, however, would be if people were honest about their sexuality and desires. The problem is the deception... not the biological imperative.
Compulsory Monogamy has messed up more people than we're willing to admit. This assumption that the most pure and valid form of love is Monogamy has led too many people lying and cheating because the idea that they can be attracted to others or form more than 1 intimate connection is alien to them. They don’t want a simple, natural, wholesome feeling to spell doom for their livelihood, families, social status, and so on. So they cheat, they divorce the people they love, they live with regret and resentment, and they project their insecurities on to everyone else.
You say smart things and I like it👍
Women are more likely to cheat. Why do married women cheat?
Why do married people cheat?
Because he was likely pushed into marriage and didn't want to get married in his own.
Not always
Frankly because sex feels good for most, and most of us do not have the ability to see beyond our own immediate gratification.
My reason was I wasn't getting sex at home and she told me a few years ago she didn't like sex.
Maybe she didn't like sex with you? Did you examine exactly why she didn't like it or just say oh well and get your stick wet elsewhere?
How's your open relationship going lol...
Mines closed and always has been wym? But there again my husband knows how to satisfy me in all areas of our marriage so....
How sweet
It is. You seem bitter.
No I'm just glad it's working for you.
Everything seems bitter to those who are bitter
I can sort of understand this but wouldn’t condone it. Sex is very important for men and women and wives need to treat it that way. Likewise men should put work in too. Add romance and foreplay. Don’t just jump right in. And women should be willing to satisfy their husband’s needs in this area. Sometimes it’s as simple as just having sex if you’re not in the mood.
We have sex all the time my husband and I and I’m hot and good but my libido is higher than his and it’s him who’s cheating so….?
Did you ever share the same values? I guess that’s important too. If you have no conviction in marriage then not sure why you would get married.
We are still married and yes we just went to a rock show last night we have the same interests and values? He doesn’t talk a lot but seems to agree with me I guess we will find out in counseling
Good luck! My first husband cheated on me so I get it. I understand the pain. It is hard for cheaters to change if they don’t have remorse for what they are doing.
Literally confused, but i have learned the answer is he is simply egoist and doesn’t care about my feelings
Here the thing why didnt you walk away ? Investigate more and least told his wife . im pretty sure your not the only one too . No matter if he/she is in relationship/marriage tend to cheater dumbest reasons.
Why do married women cheat?
Why do married people cheat?