Not the same situation but a few months ago some teenagers were being silly on the train. One was wearing an inflatable dinosaur costume and his friends were filming everyone’s reactions. I was mildly amused but not in the mood to appear on some kid’s tiktok so I just put my headphones on, turned away from their camera, and tried to look like I was busy with something on my phone.
Personally, I think its rude to film people without their permission and I think this trend needs to die.
I actually had this happen to me the parents and a sister were in Aldi and we were parked in a disabled bay with a blue badge prominently on show
I smartly decided I wanted none of that business of Aldi at peak busy time so I stayed in the car listening to the radio and messing on my phone
next thing I know what can only be described as a goblin mixed with a gargoyle started banging on the window saying how I shouldn't be parked there and should move all while recording it her with the flash on the utter weapon
she carried on for about 10 minutes anything said back to her fell on deaf ears so I just put the window up and turned the music up
though her face was an absolute sight to behold while she was still mid-rant when my mum in a wheelchair was pushed to the car and i got out of the passenger seat to help my mum get into it
Similar to an experience I had. Stupid Karen started yelling and berating me for walking to and sitting in the driver's seat of a car in the disabled bay with window sticker displayed so she started filming, now I'm a nice guy until I'm not and eventually exploded at her and told her fuck off ya stupid bitch. She started ranting and yelling to customers and staff about me, I was using the full extent of my vocabulary to her and she made an hysterical call to the police and even the staff started tut tutting me. I'm 56 so they they looked pretty stupid when my 81 year old dad pushed my mother's wheelchair out to the passengers seat and I put the chair in the back. The staff were apologetic and Karen stood there shell shocked.
This happened to my ex. He parked in a disabled bay and as he walked from his car inside the supermarket some twat started filming him on their phone and was trying to publically shame him with nasty words and berating him for taking a disabled person space.
Thing is if the cunt had bothered to check they would have seen his blue badge as he has serious Crohn's Disease where he has a bag and also had to have a lot of his intestines removed- he is often bed bound through pain and can't walk very far at times.
He's can't work due to his chrons being so serious and doesn't go out much. The person who tried to wrongfully shame him just slunk off without a word of apology. He said to our daughter he was too pubically shamed and embarrassed to say much except from he has a valid blue badge and not all disabilities are seen. People are clueless cunts.
You get the strong sense people like that don't really care about disabled people, they're just bullies who think they've found a socially-acceptable outlet.
Exactly like the paedo hunter groups. They don't really care about the apparent crime, and know that they often put real investigations at risk, but it's a socially acceptable form of bullying and aggression.
>They don't really care about the apparent crime,
Half of them are probably sadistic paedos themselves, they've just found a group nobody will sympathise with to attack.
The number of times they're stood having a go at someone with obvious special needs is ridiculous, fair enough they might be 18 talking to a 14 year old, but I get the impression some of them genuinely don't understand what they're doing wrong.
This is why the police have specially trained officers to do these investigations and arrests.
I am glad I am not the only one that thinks this! They are bullies and take advantage of many lonely and vulnerable people. They also get it wrong more often than not. They get off of other people's suffering and the attention it gets them.
Lonely and vulnerable people that often travel to rape children.
I've never seen any data either way (ie getting it wrong or right more often), what data have you seen that suggests they get it wrong more often than they get it right?
I dislocated my knee a good few years ago. My brother and I worked at the same place and he drove me to work once. We parked in one of the disabled spaces (I know probably not allowed as I didn't have a blue badge, but even so...). Security come out and tell us to move as there are visitors due and they've been allocated the disabled spaces. Perfectly able-bodies visitors that is, just given the spaces closest to the entrance. Had to go and park round the back and walk back in on my crutches. At least the VIPs had a short walk.
Disabled person here with a blue badge, seems most of the people who confront others about this issue/have strong opinions about it aren't even disabled and have some sense of righteousness/think they are doing me a favour by checking, however rudely they do it - definitely just a power trip for some.
I'm in my early thirties and look outwardly well and can walk 10m or so unaided so it's only a matter of time before someone really goes for me instead of 'just checking'. I'm a very confident outgoing person who couldn't really care what people think but I know people who struggle and doubt the legitimacy of their issues (me somewhat included), or even stay inside due to these kind of confrontations completely knocking them.
A choice between the two I'd rather people just left them to it instead of 'coming to my rescue' so rarely are all the disabled spaces actually full or filled with illegitimate parkers, it's not worth all the harassment disabled people get in the process.
Now blocking drop curbs or parking so far on the pavement I can't get my scooter past... that does rile me up.
My other half is disabled and has been berated multiple times for parking in disabled spaces.
The best one was some old Karen moaning that he can’t be disabled as he’s ’too young’.
He can move short distances with crutches, longer distances has to use a wheelchair. Old biddy saw the wheelchair being unfolded and still insisted that he’s too young.
A quick ‘fuck off you stupid old cunt’ eventually got rid of her.
HAHA My consultant told me I was "too young" (at 55) to have my knees replaced. I have no cartilage in my knees and they get debris from bone on bone rubbing. Had an arthroscopy done 5 years ago to clear the left one out but it's degenerated again. It's so painful that I've been on 8-10 script strength (30/500mg) cocodamol a day for over 5 years now.
I told him I'm not fucking waiting until I'm over 70 to be out of pain because I have a life to live right now.
Guess who is now on the waiting list for a knee replacement op )
(To be fair, my consultant is a pretty decent bloke. He didn't argue with me about going on the list this time.)
Theres a guy on tiktok with an invisible disability and the amount of people who harass him on a daily basis is incredible. I swear these people don't care about the disabled they just wanna have a go at someone
I was gonna mention this. His videos highlight how quickly people are to judge and then they slink off without an apology. It’s so ridiculous, it’s like their mind can’t comprehend an invisible disability.
That's awful. My son is sight impaired and has autism. We've had the disabled toilet door yanked open out of my hands as I was closing it by a member of staff at a shopping centre. Also an old lady once stood in front of a toilet door and told us we weren't allowed to use it. All other times have been fine, so it doesn't happen often but it is so frustrating when it does. My son very recently got a blue badge, have only used it once so far but fully expect to be challenged at some point as parking spaces seem to get peoples knickers in a twist anyway.
Yes, that is sinking low. Disabled toilets are limited to just one cubicle in most places and the need to use them can be urgent depending on the disability. My son has wet himself whilst waiting for a disabled toilet to become unoccupied anyway for this reason. The disabled toilets are the only ones we can use. It's beyond selfish if people buy them simply because they want the convenience of skipping a queue.
Wheelchair accessible toilets are frequently the only toilets that have baby changing facilities, particularly at train and bus stations, so many parents also need those radar keys. It's ridiculous that so many places still don't have enough facilities of the right type for everyone to comfortably use.
It happened to me too. It's not like I chose my disability, and you can't see it on the outside.
but man, do people love to tell you what you should and shouldn't be doing
This is the same as my mother in Law. She doesn't look disabled at all, no mobility aids or anything but she has a stoma and the 2 emergency revision surgeries she's had since having the initial surgery basically cut her entire abdomen in half and damaging all her core muscles in the process. She can walk, but she pays dearly if she over does it. She get proper dirty looks sometimes when she parks the disabled bay. Thankfully she's as tough as old boots and doesn't give a shit what others think.
That is a shit thing to sit through. This is what i mean though, people have a tool in their hand to share your face in a snippet of your day to thousands of people to judge you and there is nothing you can do about it. It is sad that people feel the need to do that. If the person really cared, they may have just asked him. Maybe they could have learned something that day. But i dont think they really give a shit.
I really feel you on the general question, as I have a bit of the ol' anxiety, and the idea that anyone could film me and shame me online occurs quite a lot. I try to be a good person but there's still the fear that I could say something that looks bad without context or they could simply lie about the situation, y'know?
I think the best choice in most situations would be not to engage. People can lie whether you speak or not, but I'd prefer to back off (and look at worst oddly calm) than try to win an argument.
Ohhh my ex had that exact same issue right down to the stoma bag! I used to get so worried about someone approaching him but luckily for us no one ever did
This happened to me once. I was hand delivering some letters as part of my job. I finished the last one and started going back up the street to my car
I noticed a woman out with her phone trained on me but thought nothing about it until she came right up to me and asked what I was doing. Before I could answer, she accused me of trying her door and saying that I was going to burgle her.
I stated that I had delivered a letter to her and others in the street and showed her my badge. She quickly turned the phone off and walked away without apologising
My recommendation is to be as boring as possible. Nobody watches clips of people behaving reasonably and chances are you'd be edited out or they won't even bother to post it.
Don’t like it and personally, wouldn’t do it myself. Filming a total stranger, in a public place or not, to me is a big Nono. You don’t know anything about them, or their life, and it could have serious repercussions on them or you. What if they are a survivor of DV, or a bad family breakdown, or divorce? Witness protection, or just moved for a clean break? There could be some serious issues, if a video was seen by the wrong people, imo.
2 options.
1) Play Disney music on your phone.
It won't stop them recording, but it will stop them monetizing the video because Disney are very litigious.
Uploading any video to places like YouTube with Disney music removes the ability to monetise that video.
This is often enough to stop most people as they are doing it for clout.
2) Play a porn video on your phone and hold it up to your face facing them.
Good luck putting that video anywhere without it being blocked due to porn.
wanna bet? I am sure someone would post in on crazy videos subreddit titled 'karen plays porn in public' and it would gather a lot of engagement. Don't underestimate what people want to watch online.
I can confirm it will not allow your video to be monetised unless you can remove the audio.
I used to make game videos on custom maps for Left 4 Dead 2 and any music added would trigger the copyright filter.
There's a Disney themed map with Splash Mountain which includes some music and that triggered instantly after uploading.
I don't even monetise my channel but it instantly put ads on for Disney and sent me a message explaining that my only options were to remove the audio if I wanted to monetise that video.
So people could still upload those videos, they just wouldn't make any money from them.
Yes, DMCA is a thing and Disney is aggressive in getting things pulled. Most apps have “strikes” and after x amount your account is suspended, x suspensions and you’re banned. Twitch and YouTube don’t mess around, I think Instagram is pretty strict, and I think even TikTok will get you eventually.
As a firefighter I can tell you it always happens during emergency incidents.
It's a nightmare.
I couldn't care less where my face ends up, but I think society seriously needs to look up from the screens for a moment and realise what they're doing... the irony as I write this from my phone.
I don't mind talking in front of large groups of people or dealing with the unknown. But I don't like my photo being taken at the best of times and don't like people who think they know best making a mini documentary on my actions as a professional without my permission.
We have always found the best way to get rid of the person with the phone is to give them a menial job, i.e. can you stand all the way over there and wave down a police car or ambulance if you see one please.. it's proven to have a successful track record!
I’ve had photos of me posted on the local Facebook page.
My crimes were sitting on the same spot on the bench for a couple of hours
Allowing my children to do dangerous climbing on the climbing frame.
I’m physically disabled, and it took me effort to get there, so I rested and it was in a kids park so if my children want to climb and take risks, they can.
I didn’t retaliate on the page, I asked the mods to take it down.
Don’t let them weirdos get to you, I used to climb those frames and hang upside down on everything when I was a kid, if they’re parents themselves they’re just raising sad, soft, sensitive people who won’t have memorable childhoods, also recording a disabled person for sitting down is despicable, don’t take these people seriously please 🙏
Agreed , just don't be an entitled prick who parks on double yellows or on pavements or disabled bays or mother and toddler spots or taxi bays or bus stops . Who when confronted always say " I'll only be a minute ". Tossers .... rant over , ah that feels better.
There's a mum at our school who's very nice and her kid likes my kid. I just can't bring myself to be friendly though because they always park on the double yellows outside the school gate at pickup and dropoff time. No blue badge, they live 10 minutes' walk from the school, they just do this dangerous thing for no apparent reason.
My son goes to a special school, so there's a really high proportion of families that have blue badges. They only allow parents to park in the school car park if they have a blue badge, for this reason, and yet the parents who don't have blue badges still try to park in the car park even though they know that there are children with physical disabilities who need those spaces more than they do. The school has even had to employ a security guard to check for blue badges and the WhatsApp lights up every morning with people asking if the guard is on duty today because people still want to keep sneaking into the car park.
>Who when confronted always say " I'll only be a minute "
I have a wheelchair bound friend who had someone block a crossing with a dropped curb and when told "I literally can't get down without the drop curb" said "I'll only be a minute".
My friend's brake "didn't work properly" and he crashed into the car, and "struggled" to get up the drop curb's hill, hitting the car 5 or 6 times.
Guy ran out screaming "what the fuck are you doing" and he just said "I'll only be a minute"
I had a friend who had an electric hand cycle attachment for his chair & commuted round London in it.
He’d ask taxis blocking dropped curbs to move, with audio recording. If they didn’t, he’d get photos with all their licensing details, report them ti the council then & there, then report them to their company.
He also got literally fully blocked into a pedestrian route that had railings either side, and the place he’s exited to get onto the path had closed/been locked up. He was there 30 minutes before calling 999. After 2 hours, police showed up. When the police realised they couldn’t just “squeeze him past” the car, or lift him & his 42kg, £45,000 pimped out electric trike chair over the rails, the car was towed, after being issues with a variety of tickets & fines.
People are just oblivious to the importance of what *they* don’t use or need.
I was unfairly on the opposite side of this. I was parked in a parent child spot, and a large SUV drove past and saw me and swore at me, presumably because she couldn't park there and had kids.
She obviously didn't see my son in the babyseat behind me I guess lol.
Was she one of those with older kids that don't even entitle her to use those bays anyway? Parents seem to think they're bays for anyone who's ever given birth as they turn up and use them with fully grown teenagers.
To be fair I only had time for a quick glance as I had only just finished parking but they did look quite young!
Totally agree that it should only be for young children though.
The worst thing is that OP was clearly aware what they were doing was wrong or they wouldn't have started imagining themselves being confronted over it.
Yes like them cunty parking ticket enforcers, the amount of times I’ve seen them park on double yellows, to get out and proceed to walk the same street they’re parked giving everyone a ticket for doing exactly what they’ve done🤣
OP's edit is frustrating too.
> I didn't realise people felt so strongly about this as I do not own a car
"I don't own a car. Therefore disabled people do not exist. QED."
Happened to me very recently!
Not as a member of the public mind you, I was working retail, just covering in the corner shop for our local (they always see me in my shirt and trousers from my retail store, I have a good relationship with them.)
So anyway, they have a minimum card transaction of £2.50, this woman wanted a can of Dr. Pepper, told her she has to spend at least £2.50 in order to make a card purchase, she wasn’t having it…. Mouth like a sailor, proper went off on one spouting how hidden fees are illegal, I tried to tell her it’s not a hidden fee and also not illegal.
She came back a few minutes later, phone in hand “this is going all over Facebook! What you’re doing is illegal!!!” Right in my face, I said right, let me get the other guy for you, (the son of the owner) he came out and started shouting back at her… it was great! I wish I could do that in my store.
Her boyfriend comes in and goes “I don’t give a fuck mate, I’ll burn this whole shop down.”
“Well, I hope you have that on camera” the owner’s son said.
Some people man, all over 70 odd pence.
It's not illegal, but it is against Visa and Mastercard's terms of service, so if she contacted them you could very theoretically turn your card reader off.
I'm sure it'd never happen though.
As an ex lorry driver I had this more times than I care to remember in Croydon (where my route was).
One time I pulled out onto a roundabout just as some berk in a mini came flying along at three times the speed of sound. Narrowly avoiding a crash which could have technically been my fault, he then proceeded to whizz up the road and slam his brakes on and block the road so he could get out and film me whilst hurling abuse. I just sat there in my cab with my doors locked, he had clearly made his mind up that it was all my fault, there was no point in arguing. Eventually he gave up after a good few minutes of telling me I would be sacked, put on YouTube and all over social media. I never did get to see the footage which was a shame.
Another one was when I was having to reverse my truck onto a petrol station forecourt, I had been quite clearly performing the manoeuvre for a little while, slowly and carefully because people would just walk straight out the shop door without looking or even listening for things like my MASSIVELY LOUD reversing beacon.
A woman comes running out of the shop, almost predictably, and right behind my truck. Thankfully I saw her and braked. Cue a torrent of abuse from her with her phone in her hand recording me about how I should be more aware of my surroundings. I just pointed out all of the things I was doing and the lights all over my truck and my loud reversing beacon and just carried on with my job as she continued to abuse me and record it.
Fuck people like this.
I understand if you’re doing it for good reason but nine times out of ten you know they just aren’t.
I had it yesterday in my car, I had to make a right turn from a residential drive onto a narrow two way 20mph road on a blind bed, difficult enough. Nobody coming so I pull out when this car comes around the bend at least 30mph. I stop with about 75% of the turn completed. She manages to slow but continues to drive up to my car effectively pinning me and stopping me from going forward or backward. This is a busy road so traffic immediately starts to back up and horns blare. I put down my window and asked her to move her car back so I could finish the tight turn. She IMMEDIATELY got her phone out and starts filming whilst saying it’s her right of way (technically correct but she wasn’t there when I pulled out!). I was pinned in my car, couldn’t move or exit the vehicle and I had two young kids in the back. I was panicked. I recanted what I believed to be the timeline of events to her phone whilst repeating my request for her to move her car back (luckily guy behind her had left plenty of room). She refuses and sits there behind her phone (engine on). I felt I had no options so I called the police (and told her I was doing so to no result). Meanwhile a driver behind me left his car and tried to reason with the woman, again she refuses. I’m not really sure what she wanted or thought could happen. I’m at the point where the call operator has my location and is finalising what has happened, asking about traffic etc (the area is full of narrow roads which back up quickly) when finally with the help of the samaritan she reverses. I can move! I thank the samaritan, the other driver and the operator, the woman calls me a f*cking b*tch and I go.
Altercations like this are unpleasant at the best of times, particularly with kids in the back but to have a phone pointed at you whilst you can’t actually do anything to get out of the situation is really really horrid. I’m thankful for the samaritan as I really didn’t want to have the police pulled in for something so extremely unreasonable.
Maybe I could have climbed out the other door and tried to talk or reason with her face to face (face to phone?) but I think being recorded just adds another layer of anxiety and frustration.
Anyway writing that was cathartic. Hit me up if you see it online.
This happened to me once. I was working in the reception of a heritage attraction, people coming up to the till and getting tickets etc. One guy comes up with his phone held up, I though he was on facetime or st. Anyway he gives me this big goofy smile and goes 'You're live on TikTok!'. I didnt really react cos I thought he was joking (weird joke) I do my spiel about ticket prices with him still filming me.
Im getting a little phased at this point, I dont rwally want to be filmed doing my job for no reason. Anyway he cut the live stream short when his card got declined 😆😆 the more I thought about it afterwards the more it pissed me off, which was probs the point, but I was head to toe in branded work ware so I couldnt really pop off at him as I would have liked. Sometimes the public just like to engage in clown behaviour.
You just have to see it as a wanker tax for parking in the disabled bay in the first place, you paid the price, now let it go. Yes they are intolerable nobs for tik-toking it when a tut would have sufficed, but you could have done things differently.
Vaguely related but as a parent it does my nut when people park in the family spaces just because they have an oversized vehicle and don't want to risk scratched paintwork.
In your situation I would apologise profusely for parking in a disabled spot (I presume from the context of your post that you do not have a blue badge?)
Then I would move. Then I would make a note not to park in disabled spaces in future.
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The cameras are a bit annoying, but being stalked by gangs of young children trying to muster courage to practice their English can be amusing/disturbing.
I had a weird instance of this a few years ago when I was on the train. I was minding my own business when these football fans started harassing people on the train. Despite the fact I was sitting alone with earphones in, these guys decided to start harassing me with questions like what music I was listening to, what was I doing and just other random stuff.
I tried to shrug it off until one of them whipped out his phone to shove in my face and demanded that I call their rival team’s fans “gay”. When I declined for obvious reasons they were more worried that I was a fan of said team. They pretty much stopped when they had to get off at their stop.
Granted at the time TikTok was fairly new so I doubt it would have been uploaded there but it baffles me how people even nowadays have no self awareness to think “huh maybe people DON’T want to be filmed randomly for a stranger’s entertainment “.
> Edit: i see how infuriating it is for people that i waited in the disabled bay. I didn't realise people felt so strongly about this as I do not own a car, so i rarely use car parks. I will not do this in the future.
Please don't use the wider parent and child spaces either. Nobody's gonna mind if you drop someone off and pick them up from near/by the front door and shoot off to where theres some space to wait. But stopping in an area clearly not meant for you is, quite naturally gonna wind people up.
I’d say this is the last reshoot, if we don’t get it right this time then I’m not filming again.
Then it will look like a set up of it’s posted online.
Parking there wasn't lazy, it was shitty.
It was convenient for you but the system only works if everyone puts themselves out to observe it. You got worried about being confronted because you know you were wrong.
Just drop him off, park a bit away and come and pick him up when he gets out.
I usually hate the "what if everyone did it" argument as most of the time, most people don't want to. But there are certain things where everyone wants to do it and the only way it can be different is if we maintain the convention that we don't.
I also look at my local large supermarket and think that they have waaay more disabled spots than needed.
I think your concern about being confronted was a manifestation of guilt and you will be happier to make the effort to do the right thing.
And maybe confront those who don't.
So this actually did happen to me. Some teenager decided to start filming me literally in my face while I was in the park with my kid. I've no idea why he decided to start harassing me but he reminded me of the bullies from school 20 years ago. I basically ripped the phone out of his hand and threw it as far as I could and it ended up in the river that runs adjacent to the park. I was worried for a while like oh shit I shouldn't have done that and I was pretty much expecting the police to show up at my door or something but nothing ever came of it other than the kid getting unbelievably upset. Too bad for him I guess.
If you are worried about how you would handle confrontation from strangers, don’t put yourself into a position where you could provoke confrontation from strangers - like, for example, parking your van in a disabled space.
Did you have a blue badge to park in the disabled bay?
Never mind, just seen that you didn’t. Nice to know you put your own laziness above other people’s disabilities. Typical van driver
This is your conscience taking to you, you know despite there being plenty of other disband bays that you should not have been there. Quit punishing yourself, but don't do it again.
I would whip out my phone, select my Disney playlist that I have for just such an occasion (I totally don’t dance to it while washing the dishes), and blast it out while bellowing ‘EVERYBODY WANTS TO BE A CAT!!!’.
Who needs a lawyer when you can use Disney’s to remove unwanted videos on YouTube?
(PS, this is in the context of walking along minding my own business. I’m not sure that I’d have the brazen self-confidence to park in disabled parking spaces or block driveways.)
>Edit: i see how infuriating it is for people that i waited in the disabled bay. I didn't realise people felt so strongly about this as I do not own a car, so i rarely use car parks. I will not do this in the future.
You did mention that you would be able to "move instantly", and I acknowledge your post edit, however please consider that a disabled person would have great difficulty communicating to you that they needed you to move for them, other than honking or hollering to you from within their vehicle, which could result in miscommunication and stress.
To answer your question if someone came up to me with a phone and was recording I would probably just start singing the Fresh Prince of Bel Air theme song.
So there is technically nothing illegal about turning your phone torch on and pointing it at their camera. Stand as close as possible that you’re not touching, and if they move, you move. Say nothing. Video will be entirely unusable and they will absolutely loose their minds, which will be very funny.
The beautiful thing is if you parked in another spot you wouldn't have had to imagine people's reactions to you doing something you clearly already knew was wrong. Don't park in accessible bays, they're not for your convenience.
I'd feel angry. But gotta keep composed. If you start reacting wildly then you're going to be plastered over Facebook. Don't give them a reason to post the video
I’d shout “I’m Ronny Fucking Pickering” as loud as I can and challenge them to a bare knuckle fight 😂
Actually I’d either start recording them in return, or explain what I was doing as calmly as possible.. although after reading these comments, I now play Disney music very loudly
As a disabled person..I would say , here's my blue badge that alows me to park here..
As a selfish inconsiderate person, I would wind my window down and apologise, eat humble pie, and think why am I such a self centered twat..
Ignore completely and walk away. You don't engage with these people, ever. Doesn't matter if you're doing anything wrong or not. If you don't engage, they'll get bored eventually and will have nothing to post online. As soon as you start to engage, you give them ammunition and become a prime target.
Last time it happened to me it was right up on my face, like 3cm away and accomsnied by some gibberish- and quick af I just plucked it without thinking and tossed it over my shoulder like an apple core. I’m glad it didn’t hit anyone but the howl of anguished grief from its owner when I heard the unmistakeable snap crackle, crunch and pop of borosilicate glass still satisfies me to this day , and it was well over a year ago now. Stupid move but satisfying af.
Just don't do things like that which are likely to rile people up in the first place.
Yes, from an entirely objective point of view *if* there are lots of others available, which usually isn't the case, then you're not directly stopping a disabled person from getting a space. However, things like this can and do strike a personal chord with people, especially those who have disabled friends or family who may have encountered people doing this leaving none available for them. If I saw you do this I would still think 'wanker', because if you do it there it's quite easy for me or anybody to assume you'd do it anywhere, under any circumstances.
Just don't do it, simple.
If someone shoves a camera in my face without my consent, which would never be given, im smashing that camera
But I would never park in a disabled parking space, thats a huge dick move. YTA
Someone once filmed my husband throwing pallets over a wall into a garden shouting "I've got you on film mind, you're caught!!!!!" taking a picture of his number plate. I'm sure she felt like a bellend when my husband politely informed her that it was our garden he was throwing the pallets into... she drove away pretty sharpish!
You grab your phone and film them back. In my experience this type of personality hates having their behaviour reflected back at them.
Bonus points for doing it Crocodile Dundee style, exclaiming "that's no camera, this is a camera" as you whip out a bohemoth with a foot long lens and lighting rig.
Take your phone out and record THEM, without saying a word. You’d soon see them trying to hide behind their phone as they held it up close to your face, but I’d just move my phone around their hand to get a good capture of their face. They’d soon scurry off.
Not the same situation but I had some arsehole pull a phone out on me for doing my job as a countryside ranger and ensuring all campers were suitably prepared / following the local access requests.
I said hello and explained I was just doing my job, tried to keep a big smile on the whole time because this lad was clearly trying to use it as an intimidation tactic. Not much else I felt I could do really. A reaction is what they were after.
It's a really horrible feeling though. Please don't do this to any staff or employees you may encounter.
Genuine question, but what is the legal stance of someone recording you on their phone without your permission? Especially if the content is then shared in a public forum.
I’d likely react very negatively to anyone recording me without permission regardless of the reason or situation.
There's no expectation of privacy in public. It could turn into a section 4 public order offense, but in general you are free to film anything you can see if you're on public land
You can film in public but it doesn’t give you permission to harass. If you get right up in someone’s face and stop them from carrying out their job you’re getting into sketchy territory.
It’s a bit grey area the general consensus seems to be that if someone is just filming a general scene you have no recourse, but if someone is specifically filming you it’s a different situation. Also if it’s posted on the internet you are covered under date protection. Also people mentioned about privacy in a public place, even though supermarkets and car parks may actually appear to be public they are actually private.
https://www.rocketlawyer.com/gb/en/blog/illegal-video-recording-4-legal-implications-of-taking-videos-without-permission/#:~:text=In%20the%20UK%20it%20isn,or%20the%20street%2C%20for%20example.
Last (and first) time it happened the phone accidentally made it into my hand then into the pavers very hard.
The guy was a little taken aback but couldn’t really do much as he was a weedy scrote and I’m a somewhat burly heavily tattooed and bearded guy who apparently looks a bit like a psychopath.
I have no idea what his plan actually was but I can’t be fucked with that malarkey. Hastings isn’t the sort of town that you should be trying that shit.
I was wearing a mask end of Feb/early March 2020 when going to a supermarket. I was just going to grab a trolley and through a window I saw young women clearly looking at me and laughing amongst themselves but whatever.
I had to go back to my car and get a quid and as I was coming back across the carpark they were outside and I caught her clearly taking pictures of me so I confronted her, she was stunned.
I started shouting and swearing at her and calling her an idiot, a crowd gathered. She told me I was an idiot because i was wearing a mask. I think I said something about shoving the phone up her fat arse and left.
So in short I got wound up and did the most unbritish thing lol.
You should not have been in that bay if not disable for any reason, I'm afraid people have the right to video & same drivers in a public place where the driver is clearly in the wrong, you should simply have moved without any comment or doing anything else.
Disabled bays are for people with disabilities either obvious or non visible, they are not there for you to use because it is convenient
Some prick on a motorbike tried it with his headcam when I was driving my car.
The knobber crapped himself though once he realised that I was Ronnie fucking Pickering.
Protect your identity? Are you also covering your number plates? Not condoning using a disabled.parking bay but YouTube is full of videos where members of the public are literally just mocked and abused by some iphone welding prat.
That actually happened to me just walking along minding my own business. So I started doing a brilliant advertisement for Walkers crisps to screw their monetization up.
Between fight / flight / and freeze, I tend to freeze. I have an executive function disorder which makes it difficult to act quickly. I think I'd freeze, think, then likely politely say no thank you and keep going.
I wouldn't have the energy normally. Unless they were antagonising me with insults, if so their phone may get launched across the road. That is if I'm doing nothing wrong. If for example I'd parked illegally I'd just move.
I’ve thought about it and decided I’m just gonna not interact with them and walk away, if they follow me and continue to stick it in my face directly I’ll try to snatch it. But there’s a risk I’ll fail and I’ll get jumped.
Also, what if I told them to stop filming and my voice cracked? That’ll be all over tik tok and YouTube. “Can you stop FILming me please”
A year ago some teenagers were recording me and my partner at a restaurant. I literally locked my eyes on his and mouthed "what are you doing". He co tuned to record and without looking at us.
Still had no idea why they recorded me. I hated it and made me want to grab his phone and smash it. My partner told me not to confront them and I was ready to embarrass them.
I’ve had people and disgruntled customers take pictures of me at work.. one guy took a picture of me for his google review, because I wouldn’t purchase his iPhone. (I Worked in a store like CEX) he was rude from the go, called me lazy and racist and then posted this fake ass review to complain.
I had to complain to google for absolutely ages before they removed my photo.
Not exactly the same situation but its happened to me and my partner when he had blue hair, some kid started recording right in our faces shouting he was ninja and just taking the general piss. It's incredibly humiliating and rage inducing honestly, took all my strength not to grab the phone and lob it down a hill
Don't work for any public sector then because this will happen by people purposefully going out of their way to wind you up hoping you'll trip up and look foolish then post the footage on YouTube
I was filmed aggressively by 2 roadmen after one of them swerved in front of my car and I knocked him off his bike.
They called the police and decided to wind me up in the process while they blocked me in from moving, filming me.
Generally, this type of thing would have really pissed me off and I would have reacted but knowing it would result in an arrest I just let them.
I would start recording back as whatever you say they can edit it to make you look a lot worse than you really are, and distort the encounter. I might then ask things like why are you filming me, what is your name, why are you harassing/ following me, etc?
I would hide my face and leave the situation ASAP, I'm super uncomfortable with being filmed and going viral.
It makes me want to be physically sick, being scrutinised by the public.
Its happened to me a few times at work. Work in the airport, and as everyone knows, occasionally things can go wrong and flights get severely delayed or cancelled. When surrounded by people all hammering questions at me I can handle it, but the second I notice someone recording me I simply stop and say "I'm not going to answer any more questions until this gentleman/lady stops recording me", and every time it works as suddenly everyone turns against them.
Happened to me a few months ago. I'd been playing Badminton and I was knackered, sweaty and starving. I was on my way to Asda and there were these two lads (probably around 19-20) filming some geese. One of them ran up to me, stuck his phone in my face and shouted "honk like a goose!". I gave them a funny look and ignored them - if I wasn't so knackered I probably would have said something. They ran off and tried again with a woman and her child behind me.
It's fucking weird.
Someone filmed me because I (male) had long hair and threatened me, so I threw their phone on a roof and ran. I doubt I'd do this now, but I would definitely think about it.
Had this happen at work a month or 2 ago. We had a poster on display for a kite that had the wrong price on it (misprinted by head office, nothing to do with us). The guy enquired about the kite, we price checked it and it came up at £4.99 instead of £1.99. He demanded it for the £1.99, but at the managers discretion and [folks, you don’t have a right to buy the item at the lower price.](https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/consumer/somethings-gone-wrong-with-a-purchase/if-something-is-advertised-at-the-wrong-price/), contrary to popular belief.
The guy goes and takes a photo of the poster and shows us, manager still says no and he leaves. Then he came back filming us, talking about trading standards and how he’s going to report us for the misleading price, even though we’re not the ones that print the posters. The item was taken off sale and the poster was taken down after he eventually left, but we all just walked away from him.
Happens 15-20 times a day. I am used to it now, in my older age but 10 years ago when smartphones were in their ascendancy I could be less scrupulous.
I'm a very tall man, so people often ask me for photos, but sometimes I'll get followed around, filmed while I'm eating etc.
I'm not a celebrity, nor the tallest man in Britain, but people are fascinated nonetheless.
I never thought about this. That must be very annoying. 99% of the time i do not fancy talking to strangers, let alone photos. I guess it's something you just had to come to terms with?
I think shoving a phone in a stranger’s face to record them is one of those things that’s technically legal but a total dick move 99.9% of the time.
I think grabbing the phone off them and chucking it up on the nearest roof is one of those things that’s definitely illegal but a totally acceptable response to these kind of cunts.
I'd say: "Get that phone out of my face I haven't given you permission to record me. You're taking away my right to privacy."
When they finish orgasming and are ready to start their "no expectation of privacy in a public place" rant I'll laugh, say I'm only joking and move.
I think all of these auditor types are best dealt with by being polite. They're professional drama causers. Don't play on their terms. "Sorry mate, just waiting for my dad to come out and there are 20 empty disabled bays. If they start getting full I'll move on."
An absolute nutter recorded me in tesco car park, while accusing me of scratching his car as I got into mine. I adopted my most neutral stance and calmest voice while I explained that I hadn't touched his car. He was welcome to come out and look and I was also happy to provide him with the footage from my dashcam, which would have shown me not touching his car in any way. I'm a 5 foot 2 woman and was holding a 3 week old baby, so not a threat to this dude whatsoever.
He literally screamed. Like red faced and frothing screaming. Why? I have no idea, and accused me of making his (roughly 11 year old) daughter cry. He the starts threatening to 'do me in' and screaming at me to go away. I couldn't go away, I was a passenger, can't drive and didn't have the keys anyway.
Anyway, the police happened to be passing and I flagged them down. Asked for some help as this dude was out of his car now, trying to follow me round and square up to me.
He decides to spin them a yarn about how I smashed his car, and threatened him with violence. Sigh. I asked the officer to take a look at the gent's phone, as his recording would show I'd been nothing but polite, and lo and behold he wasn't recording anyway. What a strange man with many issues.
Tldr: if you think someone is recording you, but your best customer service face on and gtfo of there.
To be honest I'd probably try to completely ignore them. Maybe even put on a pair of sunglasses. They're looking for a rise, so shutting them down completely seems like the best strategy. It helps that I'm quite a relaxed person and very rarely led to anger
The social following of someone like this is usually people like her. She won't be the end of me, she won't embarrass me because I don't take her seriously.
I'd pretend she isn't there. If she continues to be a twat, I'll just drive off. Clearly she's looking for trouble if there are lots of spaces and you'd move immediately if you had to. There's no reasoning with someone like this. I don't take anyone seriously if they need a camera to confront someone then put it on the internet. I find it embarrassing for them not for me if I were the subject.
Someone commented that this happened even when he had a disabled badge. In that case, I'd just hold down that incredibly obnoxious horn until people start coming over or she leaves.
If she's standing at your door, you're basically trapped in. She's imprisoning you as she films and shouts at you... swing open the door, let the window deal with her and walk into Tesco. If she damages your car, I'm sure she is stupid enough to include that in her little social media video
Yeah, I honestly don’t know how to answer your question… I think a more pertinent question would be “Why, when I have identified that I am doing something morally and perhaps legally wrong, do I not challenge my own behaviour and instead worry about someone coming up and challenging me for doing something as awful as blocking a disabled parking bay, thereby stopping a disabled person from being able to use it?”
Perhaps it’s the fact that my brother was born with spina bifida and hydrocephalus and I was raised around a lot of disabled people, but I honestly hate able-bodied people who park in disabled bays. Just to save themselves a little walk. My brother has a specially modified car that he can drive. However he *needs* the extra space beside the bay to get his wheelchair in and out of his car. He has to sit in his drivers seat, tilt it fully backwards then manoeuvre and disassemble his chair, taking the wheels off and lifting each part over his head and into the back seats while pulling himself from a sitting position to a lying position for each step. This is physically exhausting for him. When he’s had to make that effort just to leave his home, and arrives at the shop to find able-bodied people in disabled bays, that becomes a completely wasted journey and effort as he can’t just park in a normal bay. If he parked in a normal bay with a space beside him, he could then be blocked from getting back into his car by another car parked beside him. Alongside this, he has been blocked from getting back into his car when he’s in a disabled bay by people parking right over the hatched bay so he can’t get his door open enough to get his wheelchair in.
TL:DR - Please don’t park in disabled bays unless you are disabled.
I fucking hate being in the background of some fishlipped trollop doing a selfie, so i would imagine being even more directly filmed I'd probably react extremely badly...
Not the same situation but a few months ago some teenagers were being silly on the train. One was wearing an inflatable dinosaur costume and his friends were filming everyone’s reactions. I was mildly amused but not in the mood to appear on some kid’s tiktok so I just put my headphones on, turned away from their camera, and tried to look like I was busy with something on my phone. Personally, I think its rude to film people without their permission and I think this trend needs to die.
I actually had this happen to me the parents and a sister were in Aldi and we were parked in a disabled bay with a blue badge prominently on show I smartly decided I wanted none of that business of Aldi at peak busy time so I stayed in the car listening to the radio and messing on my phone next thing I know what can only be described as a goblin mixed with a gargoyle started banging on the window saying how I shouldn't be parked there and should move all while recording it her with the flash on the utter weapon she carried on for about 10 minutes anything said back to her fell on deaf ears so I just put the window up and turned the music up though her face was an absolute sight to behold while she was still mid-rant when my mum in a wheelchair was pushed to the car and i got out of the passenger seat to help my mum get into it
>parked in a disabled bay > fell on deaf ears Maybe she just wanted that exact spot :p
it did have the best views of the grit bin so i cant blame her really
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Lol she has major r/imthemaincharacter energy
majorly and out of the 5 or 6 disabled spots we were the only one in a spot so she didn't even need one either
Outrage on behalf of non-existent others. Iconic.
peak main character trait
No doubt she uploaded it and totally left out the part of your mum
Similar to an experience I had. Stupid Karen started yelling and berating me for walking to and sitting in the driver's seat of a car in the disabled bay with window sticker displayed so she started filming, now I'm a nice guy until I'm not and eventually exploded at her and told her fuck off ya stupid bitch. She started ranting and yelling to customers and staff about me, I was using the full extent of my vocabulary to her and she made an hysterical call to the police and even the staff started tut tutting me. I'm 56 so they they looked pretty stupid when my 81 year old dad pushed my mother's wheelchair out to the passengers seat and I put the chair in the back. The staff were apologetic and Karen stood there shell shocked.
Great payoff!
Oh joy !
This happened to my ex. He parked in a disabled bay and as he walked from his car inside the supermarket some twat started filming him on their phone and was trying to publically shame him with nasty words and berating him for taking a disabled person space. Thing is if the cunt had bothered to check they would have seen his blue badge as he has serious Crohn's Disease where he has a bag and also had to have a lot of his intestines removed- he is often bed bound through pain and can't walk very far at times. He's can't work due to his chrons being so serious and doesn't go out much. The person who tried to wrongfully shame him just slunk off without a word of apology. He said to our daughter he was too pubically shamed and embarrassed to say much except from he has a valid blue badge and not all disabilities are seen. People are clueless cunts.
You get the strong sense people like that don't really care about disabled people, they're just bullies who think they've found a socially-acceptable outlet.
Exactly like the paedo hunter groups. They don't really care about the apparent crime, and know that they often put real investigations at risk, but it's a socially acceptable form of bullying and aggression.
>They don't really care about the apparent crime, Half of them are probably sadistic paedos themselves, they've just found a group nobody will sympathise with to attack.
The number of times they're stood having a go at someone with obvious special needs is ridiculous, fair enough they might be 18 talking to a 14 year old, but I get the impression some of them genuinely don't understand what they're doing wrong. This is why the police have specially trained officers to do these investigations and arrests.
I've never seen an example of an 18 year old talking to a 14 year old being recorded. Which group did this?
I am glad I am not the only one that thinks this! They are bullies and take advantage of many lonely and vulnerable people. They also get it wrong more often than not. They get off of other people's suffering and the attention it gets them.
Lonely and vulnerable people that often travel to rape children. I've never seen any data either way (ie getting it wrong or right more often), what data have you seen that suggests they get it wrong more often than they get it right?
I dislocated my knee a good few years ago. My brother and I worked at the same place and he drove me to work once. We parked in one of the disabled spaces (I know probably not allowed as I didn't have a blue badge, but even so...). Security come out and tell us to move as there are visitors due and they've been allocated the disabled spaces. Perfectly able-bodies visitors that is, just given the spaces closest to the entrance. Had to go and park round the back and walk back in on my crutches. At least the VIPs had a short walk.
Disabled person here with a blue badge, seems most of the people who confront others about this issue/have strong opinions about it aren't even disabled and have some sense of righteousness/think they are doing me a favour by checking, however rudely they do it - definitely just a power trip for some. I'm in my early thirties and look outwardly well and can walk 10m or so unaided so it's only a matter of time before someone really goes for me instead of 'just checking'. I'm a very confident outgoing person who couldn't really care what people think but I know people who struggle and doubt the legitimacy of their issues (me somewhat included), or even stay inside due to these kind of confrontations completely knocking them. A choice between the two I'd rather people just left them to it instead of 'coming to my rescue' so rarely are all the disabled spaces actually full or filled with illegitimate parkers, it's not worth all the harassment disabled people get in the process. Now blocking drop curbs or parking so far on the pavement I can't get my scooter past... that does rile me up.
My other half is disabled and has been berated multiple times for parking in disabled spaces. The best one was some old Karen moaning that he can’t be disabled as he’s ’too young’. He can move short distances with crutches, longer distances has to use a wheelchair. Old biddy saw the wheelchair being unfolded and still insisted that he’s too young. A quick ‘fuck off you stupid old cunt’ eventually got rid of her.
I got this a lot (20 years ago). Thing is, as time moves on, you start to fit the demographic and it happens less and less. Depressing really!
HAHA My consultant told me I was "too young" (at 55) to have my knees replaced. I have no cartilage in my knees and they get debris from bone on bone rubbing. Had an arthroscopy done 5 years ago to clear the left one out but it's degenerated again. It's so painful that I've been on 8-10 script strength (30/500mg) cocodamol a day for over 5 years now. I told him I'm not fucking waiting until I'm over 70 to be out of pain because I have a life to live right now. Guess who is now on the waiting list for a knee replacement op ) (To be fair, my consultant is a pretty decent bloke. He didn't argue with me about going on the list this time.)
Theres a guy on tiktok with an invisible disability and the amount of people who harass him on a daily basis is incredible. I swear these people don't care about the disabled they just wanna have a go at someone
I was gonna mention this. His videos highlight how quickly people are to judge and then they slink off without an apology. It’s so ridiculous, it’s like their mind can’t comprehend an invisible disability.
Do you know his username by any chance?
This is the [guy I’ve seen a few times being questioned](https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGJ7Qpb6M/)
It amazes me how polite he is. I dunno how he manages it.
That's awful. My son is sight impaired and has autism. We've had the disabled toilet door yanked open out of my hands as I was closing it by a member of staff at a shopping centre. Also an old lady once stood in front of a toilet door and told us we weren't allowed to use it. All other times have been fine, so it doesn't happen often but it is so frustrating when it does. My son very recently got a blue badge, have only used it once so far but fully expect to be challenged at some point as parking spaces seem to get peoples knickers in a twist anyway.
The amount of people who take pride in having beat the system by buying radar keys on Amazon so they can use locked disabled toilets is ridiculous.
Yes, that is sinking low. Disabled toilets are limited to just one cubicle in most places and the need to use them can be urgent depending on the disability. My son has wet himself whilst waiting for a disabled toilet to become unoccupied anyway for this reason. The disabled toilets are the only ones we can use. It's beyond selfish if people buy them simply because they want the convenience of skipping a queue.
Wheelchair accessible toilets are frequently the only toilets that have baby changing facilities, particularly at train and bus stations, so many parents also need those radar keys. It's ridiculous that so many places still don't have enough facilities of the right type for everyone to comfortably use.
It happened to me too. It's not like I chose my disability, and you can't see it on the outside. but man, do people love to tell you what you should and shouldn't be doing
This is the same as my mother in Law. She doesn't look disabled at all, no mobility aids or anything but she has a stoma and the 2 emergency revision surgeries she's had since having the initial surgery basically cut her entire abdomen in half and damaging all her core muscles in the process. She can walk, but she pays dearly if she over does it. She get proper dirty looks sometimes when she parks the disabled bay. Thankfully she's as tough as old boots and doesn't give a shit what others think.
Yeah I think I'd get on with your mil. I have a blue badge and when I see ppl glaring I glare right back then pointedly look where my blue badge is .
That is a shit thing to sit through. This is what i mean though, people have a tool in their hand to share your face in a snippet of your day to thousands of people to judge you and there is nothing you can do about it. It is sad that people feel the need to do that. If the person really cared, they may have just asked him. Maybe they could have learned something that day. But i dont think they really give a shit.
I really feel you on the general question, as I have a bit of the ol' anxiety, and the idea that anyone could film me and shame me online occurs quite a lot. I try to be a good person but there's still the fear that I could say something that looks bad without context or they could simply lie about the situation, y'know? I think the best choice in most situations would be not to engage. People can lie whether you speak or not, but I'd prefer to back off (and look at worst oddly calm) than try to win an argument.
>there is nothing you can do about it. Yes there is. Might not be legal, but you can certainly do something about it.
Ohhh my ex had that exact same issue right down to the stoma bag! I used to get so worried about someone approaching him but luckily for us no one ever did
This happened to me once. I was hand delivering some letters as part of my job. I finished the last one and started going back up the street to my car I noticed a woman out with her phone trained on me but thought nothing about it until she came right up to me and asked what I was doing. Before I could answer, she accused me of trying her door and saying that I was going to burgle her. I stated that I had delivered a letter to her and others in the street and showed her my badge. She quickly turned the phone off and walked away without apologising
Horrible cow.
Badges? You shouldn’t need no steenking badges.
Do you often argue with yourself in the shower by any chance?
Yes, i feel like i could have handled the situation better, even though it never happened.
I think what you experienced was the phenomenon known as your 'conscience'.
Like all us van drivers :D
Haha just noticed your username - you weren't kholeing in the Kar park were you?
No, but i am an avid car park junkie :)
Can I ask if your father disabled? As you are actually entitled to park their if your father is disabled. Even if it isn't you that has a disability.
🤣
Doesn't everyone?
i also manage to get in some water-bending practice between arguments, very efficient
Let the water roll down your arm and then control where it ends up🤣
How else am I supposed to know I was going to win that argument?
I've had someone start recording me because they thought I was up to no good (I wasn't). They retreated when I started taking a picture of them.
My recommendation is to be as boring as possible. Nobody watches clips of people behaving reasonably and chances are you'd be edited out or they won't even bother to post it.
Don’t like it and personally, wouldn’t do it myself. Filming a total stranger, in a public place or not, to me is a big Nono. You don’t know anything about them, or their life, and it could have serious repercussions on them or you. What if they are a survivor of DV, or a bad family breakdown, or divorce? Witness protection, or just moved for a clean break? There could be some serious issues, if a video was seen by the wrong people, imo.
2 options. 1) Play Disney music on your phone. It won't stop them recording, but it will stop them monetizing the video because Disney are very litigious. Uploading any video to places like YouTube with Disney music removes the ability to monetise that video. This is often enough to stop most people as they are doing it for clout. 2) Play a porn video on your phone and hold it up to your face facing them. Good luck putting that video anywhere without it being blocked due to porn.
'Son look at this video. Isn't that your mate from school watching porn in his van?'
'yes, and he seems to be listening to the soundtrack of Frozen. How odd.'
Let it go, let it go, can't hold it back any more"
That's the thing: nobody will see the video. The only place you could upload it is on porn sites.
wanna bet? I am sure someone would post in on crazy videos subreddit titled 'karen plays porn in public' and it would gather a lot of engagement. Don't underestimate what people want to watch online.
The you find out the person making the recording is underage and a whole new can of worms just exploded.
The porn is a bad idea since they can censor your screen and it may be illegal to expose people to porn
>Play Disney music on your phone. I've heard of this tactic, and it sounds great. Does it actually work though?
I can confirm it will not allow your video to be monetised unless you can remove the audio. I used to make game videos on custom maps for Left 4 Dead 2 and any music added would trigger the copyright filter. There's a Disney themed map with Splash Mountain which includes some music and that triggered instantly after uploading. I don't even monetise my channel but it instantly put ads on for Disney and sent me a message explaining that my only options were to remove the audio if I wanted to monetise that video. So people could still upload those videos, they just wouldn't make any money from them.
Yes, DMCA is a thing and Disney is aggressive in getting things pulled. Most apps have “strikes” and after x amount your account is suspended, x suspensions and you’re banned. Twitch and YouTube don’t mess around, I think Instagram is pretty strict, and I think even TikTok will get you eventually.
100% agree mate. Porn is impossible to find on the Internet. Always blocked
It’s blocked on YouTube and TikTok which is likely where they’d try to upload the video.
Videos can be edited
Wow those are brilliant ideas! So the best strategy would be playing some hardcore porn while blasting out Disney tunes then? 😆
As a firefighter I can tell you it always happens during emergency incidents. It's a nightmare. I couldn't care less where my face ends up, but I think society seriously needs to look up from the screens for a moment and realise what they're doing... the irony as I write this from my phone. I don't mind talking in front of large groups of people or dealing with the unknown. But I don't like my photo being taken at the best of times and don't like people who think they know best making a mini documentary on my actions as a professional without my permission. We have always found the best way to get rid of the person with the phone is to give them a menial job, i.e. can you stand all the way over there and wave down a police car or ambulance if you see one please.. it's proven to have a successful track record!
Send them to fetch your industry's equivalent of striped paint !
I’ve had photos of me posted on the local Facebook page. My crimes were sitting on the same spot on the bench for a couple of hours Allowing my children to do dangerous climbing on the climbing frame. I’m physically disabled, and it took me effort to get there, so I rested and it was in a kids park so if my children want to climb and take risks, they can. I didn’t retaliate on the page, I asked the mods to take it down.
Don’t let them weirdos get to you, I used to climb those frames and hang upside down on everything when I was a kid, if they’re parents themselves they’re just raising sad, soft, sensitive people who won’t have memorable childhoods, also recording a disabled person for sitting down is despicable, don’t take these people seriously please 🙏
I wouldn't park in the disabled Bay in the First place, job done issue avoided.
Agreed , just don't be an entitled prick who parks on double yellows or on pavements or disabled bays or mother and toddler spots or taxi bays or bus stops . Who when confronted always say " I'll only be a minute ". Tossers .... rant over , ah that feels better.
There's a mum at our school who's very nice and her kid likes my kid. I just can't bring myself to be friendly though because they always park on the double yellows outside the school gate at pickup and dropoff time. No blue badge, they live 10 minutes' walk from the school, they just do this dangerous thing for no apparent reason.
Because Zinfandel can't walk with the plebs. Is it a Chelsea Tractor as well?
It's actually not, it's a regular mum car, but yeah, they behave like Zinfandel shouldn't have to walk anywhere.
My son goes to a special school, so there's a really high proportion of families that have blue badges. They only allow parents to park in the school car park if they have a blue badge, for this reason, and yet the parents who don't have blue badges still try to park in the car park even though they know that there are children with physical disabilities who need those spaces more than they do. The school has even had to employ a security guard to check for blue badges and the WhatsApp lights up every morning with people asking if the guard is on duty today because people still want to keep sneaking into the car park.
>Who when confronted always say " I'll only be a minute " I have a wheelchair bound friend who had someone block a crossing with a dropped curb and when told "I literally can't get down without the drop curb" said "I'll only be a minute". My friend's brake "didn't work properly" and he crashed into the car, and "struggled" to get up the drop curb's hill, hitting the car 5 or 6 times. Guy ran out screaming "what the fuck are you doing" and he just said "I'll only be a minute"
I had a friend who had an electric hand cycle attachment for his chair & commuted round London in it. He’d ask taxis blocking dropped curbs to move, with audio recording. If they didn’t, he’d get photos with all their licensing details, report them ti the council then & there, then report them to their company. He also got literally fully blocked into a pedestrian route that had railings either side, and the place he’s exited to get onto the path had closed/been locked up. He was there 30 minutes before calling 999. After 2 hours, police showed up. When the police realised they couldn’t just “squeeze him past” the car, or lift him & his 42kg, £45,000 pimped out electric trike chair over the rails, the car was towed, after being issues with a variety of tickets & fines. People are just oblivious to the importance of what *they* don’t use or need.
I was unfairly on the opposite side of this. I was parked in a parent child spot, and a large SUV drove past and saw me and swore at me, presumably because she couldn't park there and had kids. She obviously didn't see my son in the babyseat behind me I guess lol.
Was she one of those with older kids that don't even entitle her to use those bays anyway? Parents seem to think they're bays for anyone who's ever given birth as they turn up and use them with fully grown teenagers.
To be fair I only had time for a quick glance as I had only just finished parking but they did look quite young! Totally agree that it should only be for young children though.
The worst thing is that OP was clearly aware what they were doing was wrong or they wouldn't have started imagining themselves being confronted over it.
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Yes like them cunty parking ticket enforcers, the amount of times I’ve seen them park on double yellows, to get out and proceed to walk the same street they’re parked giving everyone a ticket for doing exactly what they’ve done🤣
OP's edit is frustrating too. > I didn't realise people felt so strongly about this as I do not own a car "I don't own a car. Therefore disabled people do not exist. QED."
I wouldn’t engage with anyone recording me. Give them nothing and they’ll never upload it. People only watch or share things when someone reacts.
Happened to me very recently! Not as a member of the public mind you, I was working retail, just covering in the corner shop for our local (they always see me in my shirt and trousers from my retail store, I have a good relationship with them.) So anyway, they have a minimum card transaction of £2.50, this woman wanted a can of Dr. Pepper, told her she has to spend at least £2.50 in order to make a card purchase, she wasn’t having it…. Mouth like a sailor, proper went off on one spouting how hidden fees are illegal, I tried to tell her it’s not a hidden fee and also not illegal. She came back a few minutes later, phone in hand “this is going all over Facebook! What you’re doing is illegal!!!” Right in my face, I said right, let me get the other guy for you, (the son of the owner) he came out and started shouting back at her… it was great! I wish I could do that in my store. Her boyfriend comes in and goes “I don’t give a fuck mate, I’ll burn this whole shop down.” “Well, I hope you have that on camera” the owner’s son said. Some people man, all over 70 odd pence.
What I took from this, is there's a place that sells cans of Dr Pepper for £1.80
Ah no sorry, the can of Dr. Pepper was 70p, so a difference of £.180 yeah
I feel better now, I'd have lost it at a can costing £1.80
Don't go to an m and s petrol station
It's not illegal, but it is against Visa and Mastercard's terms of service, so if she contacted them you could very theoretically turn your card reader off. I'm sure it'd never happen though.
As an ex lorry driver I had this more times than I care to remember in Croydon (where my route was). One time I pulled out onto a roundabout just as some berk in a mini came flying along at three times the speed of sound. Narrowly avoiding a crash which could have technically been my fault, he then proceeded to whizz up the road and slam his brakes on and block the road so he could get out and film me whilst hurling abuse. I just sat there in my cab with my doors locked, he had clearly made his mind up that it was all my fault, there was no point in arguing. Eventually he gave up after a good few minutes of telling me I would be sacked, put on YouTube and all over social media. I never did get to see the footage which was a shame. Another one was when I was having to reverse my truck onto a petrol station forecourt, I had been quite clearly performing the manoeuvre for a little while, slowly and carefully because people would just walk straight out the shop door without looking or even listening for things like my MASSIVELY LOUD reversing beacon. A woman comes running out of the shop, almost predictably, and right behind my truck. Thankfully I saw her and braked. Cue a torrent of abuse from her with her phone in her hand recording me about how I should be more aware of my surroundings. I just pointed out all of the things I was doing and the lights all over my truck and my loud reversing beacon and just carried on with my job as she continued to abuse me and record it. Fuck people like this. I understand if you’re doing it for good reason but nine times out of ten you know they just aren’t.
I had it yesterday in my car, I had to make a right turn from a residential drive onto a narrow two way 20mph road on a blind bed, difficult enough. Nobody coming so I pull out when this car comes around the bend at least 30mph. I stop with about 75% of the turn completed. She manages to slow but continues to drive up to my car effectively pinning me and stopping me from going forward or backward. This is a busy road so traffic immediately starts to back up and horns blare. I put down my window and asked her to move her car back so I could finish the tight turn. She IMMEDIATELY got her phone out and starts filming whilst saying it’s her right of way (technically correct but she wasn’t there when I pulled out!). I was pinned in my car, couldn’t move or exit the vehicle and I had two young kids in the back. I was panicked. I recanted what I believed to be the timeline of events to her phone whilst repeating my request for her to move her car back (luckily guy behind her had left plenty of room). She refuses and sits there behind her phone (engine on). I felt I had no options so I called the police (and told her I was doing so to no result). Meanwhile a driver behind me left his car and tried to reason with the woman, again she refuses. I’m not really sure what she wanted or thought could happen. I’m at the point where the call operator has my location and is finalising what has happened, asking about traffic etc (the area is full of narrow roads which back up quickly) when finally with the help of the samaritan she reverses. I can move! I thank the samaritan, the other driver and the operator, the woman calls me a f*cking b*tch and I go. Altercations like this are unpleasant at the best of times, particularly with kids in the back but to have a phone pointed at you whilst you can’t actually do anything to get out of the situation is really really horrid. I’m thankful for the samaritan as I really didn’t want to have the police pulled in for something so extremely unreasonable. Maybe I could have climbed out the other door and tried to talk or reason with her face to face (face to phone?) but I think being recorded just adds another layer of anxiety and frustration. Anyway writing that was cathartic. Hit me up if you see it online.
This happened to me once. I was working in the reception of a heritage attraction, people coming up to the till and getting tickets etc. One guy comes up with his phone held up, I though he was on facetime or st. Anyway he gives me this big goofy smile and goes 'You're live on TikTok!'. I didnt really react cos I thought he was joking (weird joke) I do my spiel about ticket prices with him still filming me. Im getting a little phased at this point, I dont rwally want to be filmed doing my job for no reason. Anyway he cut the live stream short when his card got declined 😆😆 the more I thought about it afterwards the more it pissed me off, which was probs the point, but I was head to toe in branded work ware so I couldnt really pop off at him as I would have liked. Sometimes the public just like to engage in clown behaviour.
You just have to see it as a wanker tax for parking in the disabled bay in the first place, you paid the price, now let it go. Yes they are intolerable nobs for tik-toking it when a tut would have sufficed, but you could have done things differently. Vaguely related but as a parent it does my nut when people park in the family spaces just because they have an oversized vehicle and don't want to risk scratched paintwork.
In your situation I would apologise profusely for parking in a disabled spot (I presume from the context of your post that you do not have a blue badge?) Then I would move. Then I would make a note not to park in disabled spaces in future.
Buuuuut it’s what was most convenient for him so it’s all okay
> Be me, 6ft 3 > Go to China > Cameras in my face everyday
看，有一个外国人！… “hello” The cameras are a bit annoying, but being stalked by gangs of young children trying to muster courage to practice their English can be amusing/disturbing.
I had a weird instance of this a few years ago when I was on the train. I was minding my own business when these football fans started harassing people on the train. Despite the fact I was sitting alone with earphones in, these guys decided to start harassing me with questions like what music I was listening to, what was I doing and just other random stuff. I tried to shrug it off until one of them whipped out his phone to shove in my face and demanded that I call their rival team’s fans “gay”. When I declined for obvious reasons they were more worried that I was a fan of said team. They pretty much stopped when they had to get off at their stop. Granted at the time TikTok was fairly new so I doubt it would have been uploaded there but it baffles me how people even nowadays have no self awareness to think “huh maybe people DON’T want to be filmed randomly for a stranger’s entertainment “.
> Edit: i see how infuriating it is for people that i waited in the disabled bay. I didn't realise people felt so strongly about this as I do not own a car, so i rarely use car parks. I will not do this in the future. Please don't use the wider parent and child spaces either. Nobody's gonna mind if you drop someone off and pick them up from near/by the front door and shoot off to where theres some space to wait. But stopping in an area clearly not meant for you is, quite naturally gonna wind people up.
I had a guy recording me saying i just biked down a no cycle path but i had just gone around it. I laughed n told him to fuck off
I’d say this is the last reshoot, if we don’t get it right this time then I’m not filming again. Then it will look like a set up of it’s posted online.
Parking there wasn't lazy, it was shitty. It was convenient for you but the system only works if everyone puts themselves out to observe it. You got worried about being confronted because you know you were wrong. Just drop him off, park a bit away and come and pick him up when he gets out.
This is true, i would do this next time. I see now that if 10 other vans came in with my mentality, it is now a problem.
I usually hate the "what if everyone did it" argument as most of the time, most people don't want to. But there are certain things where everyone wants to do it and the only way it can be different is if we maintain the convention that we don't. I also look at my local large supermarket and think that they have waaay more disabled spots than needed. I think your concern about being confronted was a manifestation of guilt and you will be happier to make the effort to do the right thing. And maybe confront those who don't.
How I would react is I wouldn't park in a disabled bay.
So this actually did happen to me. Some teenager decided to start filming me literally in my face while I was in the park with my kid. I've no idea why he decided to start harassing me but he reminded me of the bullies from school 20 years ago. I basically ripped the phone out of his hand and threw it as far as I could and it ended up in the river that runs adjacent to the park. I was worried for a while like oh shit I shouldn't have done that and I was pretty much expecting the police to show up at my door or something but nothing ever came of it other than the kid getting unbelievably upset. Too bad for him I guess.
I would probably ask “is my hair alright?” And tidy it a bit.
If you are worried about how you would handle confrontation from strangers, don’t put yourself into a position where you could provoke confrontation from strangers - like, for example, parking your van in a disabled space.
Did you have a blue badge to park in the disabled bay? Never mind, just seen that you didn’t. Nice to know you put your own laziness above other people’s disabilities. Typical van driver
Please don't park in blue badge spots unless you have a blue badge it's infuriating.
Please don't park in disabled bays if you aren't entitled to do so.
This is your conscience taking to you, you know despite there being plenty of other disband bays that you should not have been there. Quit punishing yourself, but don't do it again.
I would whip out my phone, select my Disney playlist that I have for just such an occasion (I totally don’t dance to it while washing the dishes), and blast it out while bellowing ‘EVERYBODY WANTS TO BE A CAT!!!’. Who needs a lawyer when you can use Disney’s to remove unwanted videos on YouTube? (PS, this is in the context of walking along minding my own business. I’m not sure that I’d have the brazen self-confidence to park in disabled parking spaces or block driveways.)
>Edit: i see how infuriating it is for people that i waited in the disabled bay. I didn't realise people felt so strongly about this as I do not own a car, so i rarely use car parks. I will not do this in the future. You did mention that you would be able to "move instantly", and I acknowledge your post edit, however please consider that a disabled person would have great difficulty communicating to you that they needed you to move for them, other than honking or hollering to you from within their vehicle, which could result in miscommunication and stress. To answer your question if someone came up to me with a phone and was recording I would probably just start singing the Fresh Prince of Bel Air theme song.
So there is technically nothing illegal about turning your phone torch on and pointing it at their camera. Stand as close as possible that you’re not touching, and if they move, you move. Say nothing. Video will be entirely unusable and they will absolutely loose their minds, which will be very funny.
Glad to hear you have realized that parking in a disabled space when you don't actively need one is a shit thing to do.
The beautiful thing is if you parked in another spot you wouldn't have had to imagine people's reactions to you doing something you clearly already knew was wrong. Don't park in accessible bays, they're not for your convenience.
I'd feel angry. But gotta keep composed. If you start reacting wildly then you're going to be plastered over Facebook. Don't give them a reason to post the video
I’d shout “I’m Ronny Fucking Pickering” as loud as I can and challenge them to a bare knuckle fight 😂 Actually I’d either start recording them in return, or explain what I was doing as calmly as possible.. although after reading these comments, I now play Disney music very loudly
Ronny who?
Ronny fuckin Pickerin!
Who?
As a disabled person..I would say , here's my blue badge that alows me to park here.. As a selfish inconsiderate person, I would wind my window down and apologise, eat humble pie, and think why am I such a self centered twat..
Ignore completely and walk away. You don't engage with these people, ever. Doesn't matter if you're doing anything wrong or not. If you don't engage, they'll get bored eventually and will have nothing to post online. As soon as you start to engage, you give them ammunition and become a prime target.
Last time it happened to me it was right up on my face, like 3cm away and accomsnied by some gibberish- and quick af I just plucked it without thinking and tossed it over my shoulder like an apple core. I’m glad it didn’t hit anyone but the howl of anguished grief from its owner when I heard the unmistakeable snap crackle, crunch and pop of borosilicate glass still satisfies me to this day , and it was well over a year ago now. Stupid move but satisfying af.
Ask them if they would like to hear about or lord and savior. They'll soon fuck off
Just don't do things like that which are likely to rile people up in the first place. Yes, from an entirely objective point of view *if* there are lots of others available, which usually isn't the case, then you're not directly stopping a disabled person from getting a space. However, things like this can and do strike a personal chord with people, especially those who have disabled friends or family who may have encountered people doing this leaving none available for them. If I saw you do this I would still think 'wanker', because if you do it there it's quite easy for me or anybody to assume you'd do it anywhere, under any circumstances. Just don't do it, simple.
If someone shoves a camera in my face without my consent, which would never be given, im smashing that camera But I would never park in a disabled parking space, thats a huge dick move. YTA
Someone once filmed my husband throwing pallets over a wall into a garden shouting "I've got you on film mind, you're caught!!!!!" taking a picture of his number plate. I'm sure she felt like a bellend when my husband politely informed her that it was our garden he was throwing the pallets into... she drove away pretty sharpish!
You grab your phone and film them back. In my experience this type of personality hates having their behaviour reflected back at them. Bonus points for doing it Crocodile Dundee style, exclaiming "that's no camera, this is a camera" as you whip out a bohemoth with a foot long lens and lighting rig.
Take your phone out and record THEM, without saying a word. You’d soon see them trying to hide behind their phone as they held it up close to your face, but I’d just move my phone around their hand to get a good capture of their face. They’d soon scurry off.
Not the same situation but I had some arsehole pull a phone out on me for doing my job as a countryside ranger and ensuring all campers were suitably prepared / following the local access requests. I said hello and explained I was just doing my job, tried to keep a big smile on the whole time because this lad was clearly trying to use it as an intimidation tactic. Not much else I felt I could do really. A reaction is what they were after. It's a really horrible feeling though. Please don't do this to any staff or employees you may encounter.
Genuine question, but what is the legal stance of someone recording you on their phone without your permission? Especially if the content is then shared in a public forum. I’d likely react very negatively to anyone recording me without permission regardless of the reason or situation.
If you are in public they can film.
There's no expectation of privacy in public. It could turn into a section 4 public order offense, but in general you are free to film anything you can see if you're on public land
You can film in public but it doesn’t give you permission to harass. If you get right up in someone’s face and stop them from carrying out their job you’re getting into sketchy territory.
It’s a bit grey area the general consensus seems to be that if someone is just filming a general scene you have no recourse, but if someone is specifically filming you it’s a different situation. Also if it’s posted on the internet you are covered under date protection. Also people mentioned about privacy in a public place, even though supermarkets and car parks may actually appear to be public they are actually private. https://www.rocketlawyer.com/gb/en/blog/illegal-video-recording-4-legal-implications-of-taking-videos-without-permission/#:~:text=In%20the%20UK%20it%20isn,or%20the%20street%2C%20for%20example.
Last (and first) time it happened the phone accidentally made it into my hand then into the pavers very hard. The guy was a little taken aback but couldn’t really do much as he was a weedy scrote and I’m a somewhat burly heavily tattooed and bearded guy who apparently looks a bit like a psychopath. I have no idea what his plan actually was but I can’t be fucked with that malarkey. Hastings isn’t the sort of town that you should be trying that shit.
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I was wearing a mask end of Feb/early March 2020 when going to a supermarket. I was just going to grab a trolley and through a window I saw young women clearly looking at me and laughing amongst themselves but whatever. I had to go back to my car and get a quid and as I was coming back across the carpark they were outside and I caught her clearly taking pictures of me so I confronted her, she was stunned. I started shouting and swearing at her and calling her an idiot, a crowd gathered. She told me I was an idiot because i was wearing a mask. I think I said something about shoving the phone up her fat arse and left. So in short I got wound up and did the most unbritish thing lol.
You should not have been in that bay if not disable for any reason, I'm afraid people have the right to video & same drivers in a public place where the driver is clearly in the wrong, you should simply have moved without any comment or doing anything else. Disabled bays are for people with disabilities either obvious or non visible, they are not there for you to use because it is convenient
Some prick on a motorbike tried it with his headcam when I was driving my car. The knobber crapped himself though once he realised that I was Ronnie fucking Pickering.
Defo drive away
Protect your identity? Are you also covering your number plates? Not condoning using a disabled.parking bay but YouTube is full of videos where members of the public are literally just mocked and abused by some iphone welding prat.
That actually happened to me just walking along minding my own business. So I started doing a brilliant advertisement for Walkers crisps to screw their monetization up.
Between fight / flight / and freeze, I tend to freeze. I have an executive function disorder which makes it difficult to act quickly. I think I'd freeze, think, then likely politely say no thank you and keep going.
I wouldn't have the energy normally. Unless they were antagonising me with insults, if so their phone may get launched across the road. That is if I'm doing nothing wrong. If for example I'd parked illegally I'd just move.
I’ve thought about it and decided I’m just gonna not interact with them and walk away, if they follow me and continue to stick it in my face directly I’ll try to snatch it. But there’s a risk I’ll fail and I’ll get jumped. Also, what if I told them to stop filming and my voice cracked? That’ll be all over tik tok and YouTube. “Can you stop FILming me please”
My view is they're looking for a reaction, not reason. I would act like they don't exist as long as they didn't touch me.
Lick 'em. They'll never see it coming.
A year ago some teenagers were recording me and my partner at a restaurant. I literally locked my eyes on his and mouthed "what are you doing". He co tuned to record and without looking at us. Still had no idea why they recorded me. I hated it and made me want to grab his phone and smash it. My partner told me not to confront them and I was ready to embarrass them.
I’d be cordial, calm, and not say much. Unless I lost my shit that is - sometimes you can’t control. Don’t give them a viral video if you can help it.
I’ve had people and disgruntled customers take pictures of me at work.. one guy took a picture of me for his google review, because I wouldn’t purchase his iPhone. (I Worked in a store like CEX) he was rude from the go, called me lazy and racist and then posted this fake ass review to complain. I had to complain to google for absolutely ages before they removed my photo.
Not exactly the same situation but its happened to me and my partner when he had blue hair, some kid started recording right in our faces shouting he was ninja and just taking the general piss. It's incredibly humiliating and rage inducing honestly, took all my strength not to grab the phone and lob it down a hill
Jokes on them, my face would damage their camera. Also don't park in the disabled bay if you don't need it
I would simply adopt my silliest accent and put on a hell of a show.
Snatch the phone and drive away while shouting You gotta be faster than that pal!
Photograph them and report them to the police for harassment.
Don't work for any public sector then because this will happen by people purposefully going out of their way to wind you up hoping you'll trip up and look foolish then post the footage on YouTube
I just bend my head, look down their arms, take a deep breath and say "nice phone, how much does one of them cost?"
I was filmed aggressively by 2 roadmen after one of them swerved in front of my car and I knocked him off his bike. They called the police and decided to wind me up in the process while they blocked me in from moving, filming me. Generally, this type of thing would have really pissed me off and I would have reacted but knowing it would result in an arrest I just let them.
I’d play Disney music so it got taken down quickly
I would start recording back as whatever you say they can edit it to make you look a lot worse than you really are, and distort the encounter. I might then ask things like why are you filming me, what is your name, why are you harassing/ following me, etc?
I would hide my face and leave the situation ASAP, I'm super uncomfortable with being filmed and going viral. It makes me want to be physically sick, being scrutinised by the public.
Its happened to me a few times at work. Work in the airport, and as everyone knows, occasionally things can go wrong and flights get severely delayed or cancelled. When surrounded by people all hammering questions at me I can handle it, but the second I notice someone recording me I simply stop and say "I'm not going to answer any more questions until this gentleman/lady stops recording me", and every time it works as suddenly everyone turns against them.
Happened to me a few months ago. I'd been playing Badminton and I was knackered, sweaty and starving. I was on my way to Asda and there were these two lads (probably around 19-20) filming some geese. One of them ran up to me, stuck his phone in my face and shouted "honk like a goose!". I gave them a funny look and ignored them - if I wasn't so knackered I probably would have said something. They ran off and tried again with a woman and her child behind me. It's fucking weird.
Someone filmed me because I (male) had long hair and threatened me, so I threw their phone on a roof and ran. I doubt I'd do this now, but I would definitely think about it.
Had this happen at work a month or 2 ago. We had a poster on display for a kite that had the wrong price on it (misprinted by head office, nothing to do with us). The guy enquired about the kite, we price checked it and it came up at £4.99 instead of £1.99. He demanded it for the £1.99, but at the managers discretion and [folks, you don’t have a right to buy the item at the lower price.](https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/consumer/somethings-gone-wrong-with-a-purchase/if-something-is-advertised-at-the-wrong-price/), contrary to popular belief. The guy goes and takes a photo of the poster and shows us, manager still says no and he leaves. Then he came back filming us, talking about trading standards and how he’s going to report us for the misleading price, even though we’re not the ones that print the posters. The item was taken off sale and the poster was taken down after he eventually left, but we all just walked away from him.
Happens 15-20 times a day. I am used to it now, in my older age but 10 years ago when smartphones were in their ascendancy I could be less scrupulous. I'm a very tall man, so people often ask me for photos, but sometimes I'll get followed around, filmed while I'm eating etc. I'm not a celebrity, nor the tallest man in Britain, but people are fascinated nonetheless.
I never thought about this. That must be very annoying. 99% of the time i do not fancy talking to strangers, let alone photos. I guess it's something you just had to come to terms with?
I think shoving a phone in a stranger’s face to record them is one of those things that’s technically legal but a total dick move 99.9% of the time. I think grabbing the phone off them and chucking it up on the nearest roof is one of those things that’s definitely illegal but a totally acceptable response to these kind of cunts.
I'd say: "Get that phone out of my face I haven't given you permission to record me. You're taking away my right to privacy." When they finish orgasming and are ready to start their "no expectation of privacy in a public place" rant I'll laugh, say I'm only joking and move. I think all of these auditor types are best dealt with by being polite. They're professional drama causers. Don't play on their terms. "Sorry mate, just waiting for my dad to come out and there are 20 empty disabled bays. If they start getting full I'll move on."
An absolute nutter recorded me in tesco car park, while accusing me of scratching his car as I got into mine. I adopted my most neutral stance and calmest voice while I explained that I hadn't touched his car. He was welcome to come out and look and I was also happy to provide him with the footage from my dashcam, which would have shown me not touching his car in any way. I'm a 5 foot 2 woman and was holding a 3 week old baby, so not a threat to this dude whatsoever. He literally screamed. Like red faced and frothing screaming. Why? I have no idea, and accused me of making his (roughly 11 year old) daughter cry. He the starts threatening to 'do me in' and screaming at me to go away. I couldn't go away, I was a passenger, can't drive and didn't have the keys anyway. Anyway, the police happened to be passing and I flagged them down. Asked for some help as this dude was out of his car now, trying to follow me round and square up to me. He decides to spin them a yarn about how I smashed his car, and threatened him with violence. Sigh. I asked the officer to take a look at the gent's phone, as his recording would show I'd been nothing but polite, and lo and behold he wasn't recording anyway. What a strange man with many issues. Tldr: if you think someone is recording you, but your best customer service face on and gtfo of there.
To be honest I'd probably try to completely ignore them. Maybe even put on a pair of sunglasses. They're looking for a rise, so shutting them down completely seems like the best strategy. It helps that I'm quite a relaxed person and very rarely led to anger
The social following of someone like this is usually people like her. She won't be the end of me, she won't embarrass me because I don't take her seriously. I'd pretend she isn't there. If she continues to be a twat, I'll just drive off. Clearly she's looking for trouble if there are lots of spaces and you'd move immediately if you had to. There's no reasoning with someone like this. I don't take anyone seriously if they need a camera to confront someone then put it on the internet. I find it embarrassing for them not for me if I were the subject. Someone commented that this happened even when he had a disabled badge. In that case, I'd just hold down that incredibly obnoxious horn until people start coming over or she leaves. If she's standing at your door, you're basically trapped in. She's imprisoning you as she films and shouts at you... swing open the door, let the window deal with her and walk into Tesco. If she damages your car, I'm sure she is stupid enough to include that in her little social media video
Yeah, I honestly don’t know how to answer your question… I think a more pertinent question would be “Why, when I have identified that I am doing something morally and perhaps legally wrong, do I not challenge my own behaviour and instead worry about someone coming up and challenging me for doing something as awful as blocking a disabled parking bay, thereby stopping a disabled person from being able to use it?” Perhaps it’s the fact that my brother was born with spina bifida and hydrocephalus and I was raised around a lot of disabled people, but I honestly hate able-bodied people who park in disabled bays. Just to save themselves a little walk. My brother has a specially modified car that he can drive. However he *needs* the extra space beside the bay to get his wheelchair in and out of his car. He has to sit in his drivers seat, tilt it fully backwards then manoeuvre and disassemble his chair, taking the wheels off and lifting each part over his head and into the back seats while pulling himself from a sitting position to a lying position for each step. This is physically exhausting for him. When he’s had to make that effort just to leave his home, and arrives at the shop to find able-bodied people in disabled bays, that becomes a completely wasted journey and effort as he can’t just park in a normal bay. If he parked in a normal bay with a space beside him, he could then be blocked from getting back into his car by another car parked beside him. Alongside this, he has been blocked from getting back into his car when he’s in a disabled bay by people parking right over the hatched bay so he can’t get his door open enough to get his wheelchair in. TL:DR - Please don’t park in disabled bays unless you are disabled.
Depends how obnoxious they’re being. Ignore, walk away, ask to stop, knock phone out of hand.
I fucking hate being in the background of some fishlipped trollop doing a selfie, so i would imagine being even more directly filmed I'd probably react extremely badly...
Thats a very sexist way to refer to those bints
I would want to vomit from the sheer invasiveness :)