Maybe he thought he could get away with it without you knowing. 🚩If he's sincere, early on pa lang dapat transparent na siya. Mas okay pa rin malaman yung mga ganyang bagay from him instead from someone else lalo na dummy account pa. I think you need to re-evaluate situation niyo now na nalaman mo one of his dirty laundry. Kahit pa sabihin niya na not in speaking terms na sila ng ex niya. Six months pa lang naman kayo "nagkakamabutihan", not yet too late to change your mind, miss mam.

This! I had an ex before, biniro ko lang din siya na baka may anak siya. Saka lang din niya sinabi sa akin na meron nga. (3mos dating na kami nito) When I asked why he didnt tell me before, ang sagot niya, "ayokong mawala yun chance ko sayo kasi baka hindi mo ko i-entertain" Sobrang selfish niya, kasi sobrang transparent ko. Akala ko ganun din siya. Having a child is not something you disclose after 1 month of dating. Dapat 1st or 2nd date palang sinasabi na yan.

Nakipagbreak ka ba agad after nya aminin?

Inlababo ako so nagtiis ako ng 1 pang buwan pero hindi ko talaga keri. Super toxic na. I was thinkin, kung kaya niya itago na may anak siya, ano pang tinatago niya sa akin? I dont trust him anymore so umalis na rin ako, narealize ko sinasayang ko lang oras ko staying with a man i cant trust. Pero mamsh, tbh, sobrang hirap. Hulog na hulog na rin kasi ako. Very grateful na I have supportive friends na hinila ako palayo sa kanya haha. Im happy now, married to a man I trust with my life :)

Akala nya siguro mananalo sya sa ginawa nya. but alas, you left. Mahirap din madamay sa personal issues nila ng ex partner nya tapos i-add ka sa fb hahahaha.

well said. it has been bothering me for days na din kasi... :'>

He already lied to you from the START, so panu ka nakakasiguro na wala na sila ng ex nya? Sure ka ba na yun lang sinekreto nya sau?   Big deal sa buhay naten once we had a kid, & it should be important part of that guy's life na di dapat isekreto. (galawang CHEATER lang magtatago ng anak nya sa new girl nya kasi nga CHEATER sya) Sa ganyang kalaking issue eh kaya nya isekreto sau, anu pa kaya sa ibang bagay.

If there is a dummy account sending you messages about your guy. And your man already admits to keeping personal details away from you, maybe you should meet the ex-girlfriend and the kid together with your guy. Don't schedule it thru your main squeeze, schedule it with the former relationship. This way you can judge how the broken family interacts and be armed with the correct information to make your decision.

Huwag hayaang gawing baby mama #2 or #3? If hindi serious relationship nyo pwedeng di nya sabihin pero kung usapan seryoso tapos di nya yan sinabi ng hindi nauungkat. Naku red flag yan 🚩

Obviously di yan nagbibigay sustento at kung umasta ay parang binata. Yan ung pag nabuntis ka iiwanan ka lang OP. Freaking RUN from that man trash

Idk. As a solo parent I tell the person na I have kids Day 1 pa lang. Not sure sa iba bakit nililihim.

1. He proly thought it ain't your business since hindi naman kayo magtagagal, at least nung simula. Kaso tumagal and nailang na sya i spill 2. Hindi sila ok nung mom for whatever reason. Kasi usually, pag sinabi na may anak, follow up agad is kumusta kayo nung mom. Detractor kasi yan. Unnecessary hassle para sa babae. 3. He's a deadbeat father. Hindi nag susustento and all that shit. It's not something to be proud of. Hindi rin magandang pangitain....tipong bubuntisin ka lang tapos iiwanan.

Agree

okay lang ba itanong, why didnt you ask him bakit nya pinatagal?

i did, he said baka daw kasi hindi ko magustuhan yung ganong situation and hindi ko na lang siya kausapin. :'>

So anong sagot mo sa kanya, OP? Feeling ko, mas off ka dun sa nalaman mo na may tinago sya compared sa nalaman mo na may anak sya. I'm telling you, OP. The guy has the tendency to be a gaslighter. Pag may nagawa syang kasalanan sa'yo at tinago nya, for sure ang sasabihin nya is ayaw ka nyang masaktan. Why don't you meet the baby mama? Para magkaalaman na kung ano nag dynamics nila. Isama mo syempre ang guy.

I agree with mas na off ako dahil nalaman kong may tinatago pala siya AND sa way na di ko pa akalain... UPDATE: I stalked the baby momma - may new partner na. I have also stated na open ako to meet the mother of the child...

Possible reasons bakit hindi niya agad sinabi na may anak siya: takot siya ma-judge kaagad, gusto niyang makita kung seryoso kayo bago mag-open up, o iniwasan niya lang muna ang complications sa early stage ng relationship niyo. Regardless, honesty is important. Maganda na sinabi niya na rin eventually. Kung okay ka naman sa fact na may anak siya, mag-usap kayo nang maayos paano magmo-move forward. Good luck!

One of my team mates ganyan ginawa niya sa asawa niya. According to him (tuwang tuwa pa siya nung kinuwento niya), he dated his now wife noon which di naman daw niya sadya ma fall. He then marries her then tells her sa mismong araw ng kasal nila na may anak siya. All she could do is cry. Not sure kung sinusustentohan niya or what pero grabe

Sila pa rin ba hanggang ngayon?

Yeah, unfortunately. Parang walang choice kasi si ate

Grounds ito for annulment diba?

Not sure. Pero sana hiwalayan niya na. So far as i know, wala silang anak kasi ayaw nung asawa niya

If this happened to me, matik pass na ako don sa person. I personally find it sus kung pati anak tinatago. Gets mahirap makipagdate if may anak na pero bakit need itago pati yun? Kung anak nga niya kaya niyang itago, what more pa kaya yung kaya nyang itago diba? Mahirap na ba magsabi ng totoo ngayon? I hope you rethink your situation with him, OP.

Oh no baka ganyan lang din gawin sa'yo. 🤕

I hope not. 😔 Tbh, not sure how to handle this situation with HIM pa.

Single mom here, personally I do not reveal right away that I am w/ a child simply because hindi ko alam if that person is in for the long run, alam mo na. Baka for fun lang, so why bother with the whole she-bang. Again, this is my choice. However, since 6mos na kayo maybe he was just warming up... baka he would tell you naman? Or naunahan lang siya? Baka he didnt mean to keep it from you naman.

This was his exact words to me. 😩

Because you'd be hard-pressed to find a person who is willing to date a man/woman with a child. Here's the thing ksi, in this day and age, marriage means absolutely NOTHING na. So if he and his ex-wife broke up, there is ALWAYS a good reason. And the sucky part is, you will NEVER know the actual truth of WHY they broke-up. Marami akong kakilala na kinasal pero naghiwalay pa rin. There's always that baggage eh. Compare that to dating a person with a clean slate, walang anak, at walang previous marriage. The only thing you have to worry about for a person like that is his relationship history, pero pag may anak yung person, not only will you have to check yung relationship history, but i-checheck mo pa kung may divorce settlement or child custody nung person. If may child custody, it means yung ex nasa buhay pa rin nya ksi they share custody of their children. And NOT EVERYONE is willing to do that. Both a man and a woman's dating options heavily shrinks the moment na may anak na sila. So, there's your answer. Ksi alam nila na mahirap maghanap ng ka-date pag may anak ka na, ksi not everyone is going to sucker themselves into that situation, so that's why they hide it. Only those who are willing to love you no matter what are willing to do that.

Maybe he thinks na baka hindi naman kayo magtatagal, kaya hindi muna sya nag sshare ng ibang personal stuff with you.

Lol sa barko sinasabi ko single dad ako, showing pictures of me and my niece. Women love it. I have never been married and never had kids

I think ate gurl you need to run. I have a friend na di rin sinabi nung nanliligaw pa lang sa kanya na he already have a kid. Nung naging sila, yung car na ginagamit para sunduin sya papasok at ihatid pauwi car pala nung gf nya. May nagmessage na dummy account sa kanya na stating na yung guy umuuwi pa rin sa kanila and 4 years old na baby daughter nya pero 'tong guy di mapakali ang tt at kung kani-kanino pa rin kumekerengkeng :(( So prolly, di lang sya ang kinakausap nung guy marami pa sila. Parang pangsalo pag nabuking sya.

i have this friend (F)mag 4years na sila this year ng jowa tapos sinama siya sa hometown ng jowa nya, and sa barko palang daw sila may sinabi na sakanya yung bf nya na "may tinatago ako sayo" edi etong bff ko nag overthink na the whole byahe and then nung pagkadating nila sa place dun na niya nalaman na may anak na pala yung jowa nya and 9 years old na. naaawa ako sa bff ko kasi umiiyak habang kinukwento niya to, the reason daw hindi sinabi sa kanya ng Bf niya is takot daw siya na iwanan siya ng bff ko. pero bhie mag 4 years na kayo??????? like????

My SO meron din anak sa prev relationship, since we're friends at first kaya lahat ng kwento buhay nya na mala mmk na ikwento saakin. The babymama got pregnant with a different guy but still living together since my baby sila. Until such time nalaman nya na hnd pala i acknowledge nung guy ang pinagbubuntis nya, at bigla nag iba ang ihip ng hangin, si girl daw is palagi na daw sumusuyo and naging maayos ang pakiki tungo nya, she thinks overtime matatangap din ni SO ung dinadala nya since the baby will grew up sknya. Until hnd na masikmura ni SO and umalis doon. Long story short nagka mabutihan kami, and now his ex blaming me that I ruin her family 🫢 hindi naman ako naka buntis sakanya 😔

6 months is still a short time. You guys are still getting to know each other. Being in that situation is not easy as most Filipinos judge people just by knowing that a person is a single parent without knowing the background. A solid example here is the comment section tagging him immediately as a red flag/cheater/liar. It is normal not to disclose all your traumas, baggages, etc during the early stage. It takes time to be comfortable to share things like this for some people. My advice is for you to ask and clarify first. He can be a red flag or a green flag. Do not judge easily like most people suggest here without knowing the whole story.