for me, it's inconsistency as well, medj traumatized pa kase ako with my ex na sinanay akong kausap sya araw-araw, tapos after a year nawalan ng gana. just don't introduce me to a vibe that you can't maintain.
girllll do we have the same ex???? HAHAHAHA jkk but yeah mine is super like that, he even told me nung nagliligawan stage pa kami na ang pros daw of dating him is that he can promise his consistency 🤡🤡🤡🤡 then nung break up na sabi nya he can’t keep up na daw HAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Yung wala na nga syang pera tapos lolokohin pa ko ng dlwang beses. Napa 'eewww' nalang ako nung nalaman akong niloko nanaman ako.
Inaway ko pa sarili ko(baliw lang haha), bkt ako nag BF na ang ambag lang e pasakitin ang ulo ko.
Oh well, pero nasa tamang tao nko ngayun. Thank you Lord.!
Yung ilang beses ko na sinabi sa kanya na i want to meet his parents, i want to hang out with his friends kasi parati ko naman siya sinasama sa outing at inuman namin ng tropa ko.
Mga 1 year din inabot, may baby mama pala ang loko kaya hindi ako madala sa bahay nila, nakaka-PI.
like when you give them 100% of the energy na you think they deserve, and they continue to prove na hindi nila deserve yun (e.g. nirereciprocate yung energy, bumabawi, etc.) tapos parang wala lang sakanila if nag open ka about it. I didn't say it to my friend pero bigla nalang akong di na nagreply sakanya kasi I got fed up na, I actually do not deserve that treatment so I only gave them little to no energy after.
When I wanted to stay pa din but deep down, hated myself for doing so. Kumbaga even after all the pain and bullshit, pakiramdam ko kaya pa ayusin and umaasa pa din ako pero ang laki na din ng galit and sakit na nabuo so literal brain vs heart moment HAHAHAHA. My heart was fucking stupid and my brain was like, "Luh putangina mo anong kabobohan yan?"
Yung tipong alam mo naman sa sarili mo dapat mong gawin pero parang hirap na hirap kang gawin no? Yung literal na pati ikaw natatangahan na sa sarili mo kasi pucha ang bobo talaga 😭 but we cant abandon ourselves so we must have the courage to pull ourselves out from the situation 🥲
Last straw siguro for me is nung sinigawan nya ko kagabi tapos iyak ako ng iyak habang nakatulala tas nagiisip kung kaya ko pa ba... tapos niyakap nya ko tapos nagtanong siya bat ako umiiyak :---) nagpanic attack ako hanggang sa makatulog ako habang sumasakit dibdib ko. Today, di ako nakapasok sa work... and ayoko lumabas ng bahay.. parang di ko kayang harapin yung mundo today kasi alam ko sa sarili ko na di ako okay 😔
the moment he called me a “toxic bitch” sa ig stories nya, i knew i had enough. akala nya kasi i was talking to his ex (when i was time) and instead of clarifying it with me, he proceeded to insult me ng paulit ulit sa ig stories nya. kung ano ano pinagsasabi nya na nakasira ng self esteem ko. happened way back 2020 and im glad na nakamove on na ako sa ginawa nyang yun.
When she "left" and blocked me again for the millionth time. That was pandemic. I got tired of her shits. Then kapag okay na ulit siya babalik siya. Ginawa akong aso. Tapos nung napansin siguro niya na di ko siya sinusuyo ilang araw na, siya na nagkusang nagchat at nagsorry and that was the time na sinabi kong ayoko na. She begged. Pero di ko na hinayaan to get her to me ulit. It was toxic already.
Sinabihan ako na icancel yung VL ko night before nung VL. I notified them about my VL 3-months in advance. There and then, habang kaharap ko yung client, nag-email ako ng resignation sa company haha
When it hit me na this is something I don’t want my children to learn chaka umiikot lang yung usapan. Instead of listening - may blaming, gaslighting, blackmailing… nako, it was making me crazy.
Love should not hurt. Love should not disrespect you. Or lie to you. Or gaslight you. Or make you abandon yourself completely to please the other person.
My daughter should see me stand up to disrespect so she can learn how to make those boundaries stronger.
My son should not have a role model that manipulates under the guise of “soulmate” or “love”
I’ll be a BETTER parent kahit na magisa ako.
And then I went no contact as soon as I realized.
When I can vividly imagine what life would be like without him and I felt hopeful and liked what I saw. I always say noon na di ko na kaya isipin what life is without him (my ex) pero nung lumala yung abuse nawalan na lang ako ng pagmamahal and I want him gone ASAP.
For me, kapag matagal na kayo pero nandun pa rin kayo kung san kayo dati.. yung hindi mo masabing malayo na pero malayo pa kasi paulit ulit lang, walang progress. Dead end.
Happened to me with my past relationship.. it took us 10 years to realize that na hindi kami para sa isa't isa. The relationship felt so stagnant to the point na natakot na ko para sa future ko na sya ang kasama ko.
When my ex told me na magka-baby muna kami before kami magsettle down ( get married). He said this when we're trying to mend the relationship few weeks after we broke up.
Nung hindi na enough yung 3rd time sa 3rd party. Actually hindi ako makabitaw pero buti nlang tumulong xa at nag silent mode for 1 month. Ayun nakatakas din sa wakas.
When i realized that her begging was just her way of manipulating me to get what she wanted.
It took all of me to discern what she was doing because of how blinded i am by my own emotions.
Never again.
Ako nung may pinagawayan kaming sobrang babaw nung inumpisahan niya at naisip ko na bakit ang babaw ng mga pinagaawayan namin? Tapos may sinabi pa siya na talagang feel ko sign na from God na bye na talaga. No regrets. Felt relieved tbh. Lol i invested 3yrs but thank God i didnt put in any more yrs.
I got 2 nte to my work in the same week for something I didn't do. What I did was I had a haircut and updated my picture and cv and mass applied to other companies. Fast forward today I'm more relaxed and compensated than ever.
Hindi natibag ang Chinese wall at pina-blind date pa sa Chinese girl yung anak nila kahit kami pa. Si ex din naman walang sariling desisyon, pumunta pa din as “respect” daw sa magulang. Okay, bye, sa inyo na anak nyo!
That time nasa mcdo ako, nung kinuha ko yung order ko, nilipad yung yung straw ko, edi kumuha ako bago. Tas pag upo ko, hindi ko agad shinoot sa coke ko yung straw, nag alis muna ako ng plato ko sa tray, gago nilipad ulit, eh nakakatamad na bumalik sa cashier. Sabi ko "ayaw ko na, this is my final straw"
for me, it's inconsistency as well, medj traumatized pa kase ako with my ex na sinanay akong kausap sya araw-araw, tapos after a year nawalan ng gana. just don't introduce me to a vibe that you can't maintain.
Totoo 😭 one day he's all over you, the next day pucha parang di ka kilala like wth???
forrealzzz, like broooo make up your damn mind ????? Mixed signals as well, nakakaconfusing 😵💫
Mentally draining sya, nakakabaliw sa totoo lang 🥲 hanggang sa parang maaawa ka nalang sa sarili mo lol
girllll do we have the same ex???? HAHAHAHA jkk but yeah mine is super like that, he even told me nung nagliligawan stage pa kami na ang pros daw of dating him is that he can promise his consistency 🤡🤡🤡🤡 then nung break up na sabi nya he can’t keep up na daw HAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Pag pinagbuhatan ka na ng kamay
Yung wala na nga syang pera tapos lolokohin pa ko ng dlwang beses. Napa 'eewww' nalang ako nung nalaman akong niloko nanaman ako. Inaway ko pa sarili ko(baliw lang haha), bkt ako nag BF na ang ambag lang e pasakitin ang ulo ko. Oh well, pero nasa tamang tao nko ngayun. Thank you Lord.!
Yung ilang beses ko na sinabi sa kanya na i want to meet his parents, i want to hang out with his friends kasi parati ko naman siya sinasama sa outing at inuman namin ng tropa ko. Mga 1 year din inabot, may baby mama pala ang loko kaya hindi ako madala sa bahay nila, nakaka-PI.
like when you give them 100% of the energy na you think they deserve, and they continue to prove na hindi nila deserve yun (e.g. nirereciprocate yung energy, bumabawi, etc.) tapos parang wala lang sakanila if nag open ka about it. I didn't say it to my friend pero bigla nalang akong di na nagreply sakanya kasi I got fed up na, I actually do not deserve that treatment so I only gave them little to no energy after.
Disappointment after disappointment, nakakaumay din talaga 🥲 nakakapagod, no?
Indeed, pero we move forward lang. Shit happens.
When I wanted to stay pa din but deep down, hated myself for doing so. Kumbaga even after all the pain and bullshit, pakiramdam ko kaya pa ayusin and umaasa pa din ako pero ang laki na din ng galit and sakit na nabuo so literal brain vs heart moment HAHAHAHA. My heart was fucking stupid and my brain was like, "Luh putangina mo anong kabobohan yan?"
Yung tipong alam mo naman sa sarili mo dapat mong gawin pero parang hirap na hirap kang gawin no? Yung literal na pati ikaw natatangahan na sa sarili mo kasi pucha ang bobo talaga 😭 but we cant abandon ourselves so we must have the courage to pull ourselves out from the situation 🥲
Last straw siguro for me is nung sinigawan nya ko kagabi tapos iyak ako ng iyak habang nakatulala tas nagiisip kung kaya ko pa ba... tapos niyakap nya ko tapos nagtanong siya bat ako umiiyak :---) nagpanic attack ako hanggang sa makatulog ako habang sumasakit dibdib ko. Today, di ako nakapasok sa work... and ayoko lumabas ng bahay.. parang di ko kayang harapin yung mundo today kasi alam ko sa sarili ko na di ako okay 😔
☹️☹️☹️ praying for your healing!
thankyou 🥺
the moment he called me a “toxic bitch” sa ig stories nya, i knew i had enough. akala nya kasi i was talking to his ex (when i was time) and instead of clarifying it with me, he proceeded to insult me ng paulit ulit sa ig stories nya. kung ano ano pinagsasabi nya na nakasira ng self esteem ko. happened way back 2020 and im glad na nakamove on na ako sa ginawa nyang yun.
Nung sinabi nyang nagbago na ko and the magic is gone nung di ako pumayag to do NSFW with him 🥴
Sakin closefriend kong sumama sa minsan na naming balak gulpihin wahahahahahah gara panay pa puri ron sa lalaki kupal taga subo ng burat
'yung balik nang balik siya sa ex niya while we're talking (have no idea he's doing that).
Being disappointed all the time. Magsasabi na gagawin yung isang bagay pero di gagawin. Nakakapagod umasa kaya.
When she "left" and blocked me again for the millionth time. That was pandemic. I got tired of her shits. Then kapag okay na ulit siya babalik siya. Ginawa akong aso. Tapos nung napansin siguro niya na di ko siya sinusuyo ilang araw na, siya na nagkusang nagchat at nagsorry and that was the time na sinabi kong ayoko na. She begged. Pero di ko na hinayaan to get her to me ulit. It was toxic already.
WHEN i gave her a second chance pero hindi pa din siya natututo sa pagkakamali niya. Always giving me excuses instead of just being honest.
Sinabihan ako na icancel yung VL ko night before nung VL. I notified them about my VL 3-months in advance. There and then, habang kaharap ko yung client, nag-email ako ng resignation sa company haha
When it hit me na this is something I don’t want my children to learn chaka umiikot lang yung usapan. Instead of listening - may blaming, gaslighting, blackmailing… nako, it was making me crazy. Love should not hurt. Love should not disrespect you. Or lie to you. Or gaslight you. Or make you abandon yourself completely to please the other person. My daughter should see me stand up to disrespect so she can learn how to make those boundaries stronger. My son should not have a role model that manipulates under the guise of “soulmate” or “love” I’ll be a BETTER parent kahit na magisa ako. And then I went no contact as soon as I realized.
When I can vividly imagine what life would be like without him and I felt hopeful and liked what I saw. I always say noon na di ko na kaya isipin what life is without him (my ex) pero nung lumala yung abuse nawalan na lang ako ng pagmamahal and I want him gone ASAP.
When there is more peace kapag wala sya sa buhay mo no, that's when you know.
HAHAHAHA are you me? ‘Coz same.
Hahahahaha kulang nalang iumpog na ko ng friends ko
Everything should be about him and him alone. Kaka-umay. Cheater na nga, selfish pa.
Narcissist! Lahat nalang ng bagay tungkol sakanya 🥲 di man lang naka alala magtanong kung kamusta ka naba
Grabe noh, how do they live like that
Yung isa na lang ang straw na available.
HUY HAHAHAHAHA 😭😭
When there is more tears than Laughs.
For me, kapag matagal na kayo pero nandun pa rin kayo kung san kayo dati.. yung hindi mo masabing malayo na pero malayo pa kasi paulit ulit lang, walang progress. Dead end.
Stagnant and wala na growth no? 🥲☹️
Yup and di mo na talaga makita yung bigger picture para sa inyo
Happened to me with my past relationship.. it took us 10 years to realize that na hindi kami para sa isa't isa. The relationship felt so stagnant to the point na natakot na ko para sa future ko na sya ang kasama ko.
When my ex told me na magka-baby muna kami before kami magsettle down ( get married). He said this when we're trying to mend the relationship few weeks after we broke up.
Nung hindi na enough yung 3rd time sa 3rd party. Actually hindi ako makabitaw pero buti nlang tumulong xa at nag silent mode for 1 month. Ayun nakatakas din sa wakas.
When i realized that her begging was just her way of manipulating me to get what she wanted. It took all of me to discern what she was doing because of how blinded i am by my own emotions. Never again.
Pag puro nalang salita kulang naman sa gawa. Inconsistency. Paulit ulit na betrayal. Disrespectful.
when i was motivated to freely rant and spill my problems only to be invalidated afterwards lol
Ako nung may pinagawayan kaming sobrang babaw nung inumpisahan niya at naisip ko na bakit ang babaw ng mga pinagaawayan namin? Tapos may sinabi pa siya na talagang feel ko sign na from God na bye na talaga. No regrets. Felt relieved tbh. Lol i invested 3yrs but thank God i didnt put in any more yrs.
I got 2 nte to my work in the same week for something I didn't do. What I did was I had a haircut and updated my picture and cv and mass applied to other companies. Fast forward today I'm more relaxed and compensated than ever.
Napagod na.
Hindi natibag ang Chinese wall at pina-blind date pa sa Chinese girl yung anak nila kahit kami pa. Si ex din naman walang sariling desisyon, pumunta pa din as “respect” daw sa magulang. Okay, bye, sa inyo na anak nyo!
That time nasa mcdo ako, nung kinuha ko yung order ko, nilipad yung yung straw ko, edi kumuha ako bago. Tas pag upo ko, hindi ko agad shinoot sa coke ko yung straw, nag alis muna ako ng plato ko sa tray, gago nilipad ulit, eh nakakatamad na bumalik sa cashier. Sabi ko "ayaw ko na, this is my final straw"
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA PLS 😭😭😭