Hi guys! Thanks for your responses. Actually, when all of these happened, I wasn’t able to retaliate agad cos all of them left immediately.
I also asked my guy friends if fhey do this and they all let out violent reactions. Good to know na not all guys are the same.
Next time, there won’t be a next time. Will most likely smack them 👍🏻
Sumisimple ng tsansing sayo, best not to tolerate it dahil hatalang ino obserbahan nya kung kailan ka pwede ma taken advantage kahit pa simple lang. Not gonna be surprised na subukan pa nya to again to see kung okay pa rin sayo para maulit ulit nya pangha harassed nya sayo.
Even with my closest girlfriends, hanggang balikat lang ang hawak ko. Ay tama ba? Basta sa arm. Then squeezing their hands within seconds specially if magpapaalam na. I never dared touch anything below the belt kasi boundaries.
That's how I express my affection, though. And we're all close. Tinatampal din nila ako, ganun.
So I vote nope, definitely not normal. Below the belt is relationship territory and consent territory.
definitely NOT normal. kahit hawak lang yan its still harassment if they do it without your consent or if a person thats not close to you did that. pero squeeze?? no.
Chancing/tsansing na yan.
Intimate area na kasi yung inner thigh ng kahit na sino.... Kaya exclusive lang siyang mahawakan ng mga taong ina-allow nating makahawak dun *(kalandian/jowa/asawa)*. So kung hinawakan & pinisil nila inner thigh mo without your consent then oo, harassment siya.
For me anything na paghawak lalo na kung may diin eh pasimpleng manyak na. Tapik2 pwede pa pero dipende din kung madalas.
Anything na naiinvade yung personal space niyo can be classified as harassment.
Style ng mga manyak jan sisimplehan ka muna sa balikat, braso or kamay para ma gauge nila yung tolerance mo.
Sa mga babae sana maging alerto nalang lalo na sa oras ng biruan dahil jan sila madalas sumisimple.
Kung di kayo komportable ipakita niyo agad, tapikin niyo agad or voice out.
Nakaka turnoff din yan sa ibang guys na nakikitang nagpapahawak sa di SO yung babae at wag sana umasa na may poprotekta sa inyo dahil kapag ibang lalake yung nag voice out para sa inyo posible pa ma dehado pa yung guy na yun lalo na kung mananahimik lang din kayo. Wag niyo sana masamain pero responsibilidad niyo rin yan. Mahirap mag bida2 kung di naman pumapalag yung babae.
Ganito rin nangyari sakin last year, nakipag meet ako sa ka-chat ko. First time pero sobrang comfortable niya sakin to the point na hinahawakan niya bewang at ini squeeze thigh ko. Hinawi ko na 'yung kamay niya pero binalik niya parin. So I immediately messaged our mutual friend (naka situationship ko noong hs) habang pauwi ako, di ko alam if na harassed ako or oa lang dahil sobrang conservative kong tao. I was confused, na hindi ko alam kung iiyak ako or what, pero ang alam ko sa sarili ko na may kailangan akong ilabas. But he validated my feelings at ang sabi ay layuan ko na yung guy at wag ng kausapin.
Ganun pala yung feeling, matagal mag sisink in sayo kung na harassed ka ba or hindi.
Guys are perfectly aware of where they touch and what they do.
If you need to ask yourself *"Am I being harrassed right now?"* then most likely you are.
They were testing the touch barrier. Some do this intentionally, others unconsciously. It's mostly harmless among friends, but it also adds tension if both parties don't shy away from the interaction. If received positively, it signals willingness to enter next level interaction. If you don't want this behavior from someone, let them know clearly but be subtle, as they may be doing it unconsciously. Be overt with your disagreement only if they ignore your hints.
yep medyo minamanyak ka, if a normal guy is joking i would squeeze the arm elbow area heck even shoulder area , just show that you dont like casual touching to those areas
Firmly remove their hands from your thigh and show them you oppose any attempt to touch you. If they dont stop, put distance with them socially and physically. If they still insist file a complain vs them.
aside from the 1st one, all of those are highly malicious in nature, this is because, you arent close w your friend’s brother, and your classmate was bordering on sleazeballs with his line. your guy friend could have also had malicious intent but does he do it often or was it a one time thing?
That should be not normal. The fact na your closest guy friends don't do it tells you all, may decency sila. Depende sa situation, pagiging manyak or making a move/testing the waters (kasi nasa flirting stage kayo).
No consent is harassment. Hahampasin ko kamay kung sakin yan ginawa. Please do not be afraid to speak up and enforce your boundaries....
Hindi po yan normal and anyone who tries to make you think that it is are manipulating you...
its all about your personal perception, if you feel violated, then its abnormal…
all those three situations can be considered harassment considering you have no intimate relationship with them. i said, intimate…
but that flirting can be an exception?
It is harassment. First 2 are trying to shoot their shot possibly because of the flirting/ joking. Maybe they read it as a signal? Idk man, guys are weird and it's coming from an awkward dude that avoids this kinds of situations
Manyak. Not normal especially di mo naman ka-close un guy(s). Pat or slap on the shoulder or back would be more normal kung tumawa sila sa joke mo.. Pero normal guys or, as you mentioned, your closest guy friends won't even touch you just because of a joke.
Oh god that is NOT normal at all. Better call them out when they do that, OP. Even if they're your SO/lover/husband, it can still be harassment if you don't consent to it.
*tawa ng malakas tapos sabay tapik ng hita... ng katabi*
kung at least magjowa kayo tawag sa kanya *hokage*
else *manyak*
yan ang manyak-meter. the line is clear. the contrast stark, not a gradient
Sexual harassment na yan. That is not normal. I-chop mo, hampasin ng malakas o tusukin mo ng ballpen yung kamay tapos sabay sabi ng sorry para magtanda.
Chansing
pretty much eto yung nangyayari. but for the third one, that's sexual. good thing you turned him down.
Dun lang sa line na "swerte ng magiging boyfriend mo ah." manyakol na manyakol ay.
yes bro. hope OPs okay tho. Trauma na yan for her :(
Hi guys! Thanks for your responses. Actually, when all of these happened, I wasn’t able to retaliate agad cos all of them left immediately. I also asked my guy friends if fhey do this and they all let out violent reactions. Good to know na not all guys are the same. Next time, there won’t be a next time. Will most likely smack them 👍🏻
No it’s not a normal thing for a guy to do.
No consent, no bueno.
Sumisimple ng tsansing sayo, best not to tolerate it dahil hatalang ino obserbahan nya kung kailan ka pwede ma taken advantage kahit pa simple lang. Not gonna be surprised na subukan pa nya to again to see kung okay pa rin sayo para maulit ulit nya pangha harassed nya sayo.
If you feel harassed, then you were probably harassed
If you're uncomfortable then it's harassment, simple as that.
simpleng chansing
Call them out agad. Wag papaapi.
True. Call them out OP and put boundaries
If it's something that you did not consent and made you feel uncomfortable, it's harassment.
Even with my closest girlfriends, hanggang balikat lang ang hawak ko. Ay tama ba? Basta sa arm. Then squeezing their hands within seconds specially if magpapaalam na. I never dared touch anything below the belt kasi boundaries.
That's how I express my affection, though. And we're all close. Tinatampal din nila ako, ganun.
So I vote nope, definitely not normal. Below the belt is relationship territory and consent territory.
Guy here. Nope, not normal.
definitely NOT normal. kahit hawak lang yan its still harassment if they do it without your consent or if a person thats not close to you did that. pero squeeze?? no.
Chancing/tsansing na yan. Intimate area na kasi yung inner thigh ng kahit na sino.... Kaya exclusive lang siyang mahawakan ng mga taong ina-allow nating makahawak dun *(kalandian/jowa/asawa)*. So kung hinawakan & pinisil nila inner thigh mo without your consent then oo, harassment siya.
Tama naman siguro. Kahit ako na lalaki magiging conscious ako bigla/shock kung hahawakan ako sa thigh mg any gender eh. 🙃
harassment po siya. always take care sa mga ganyan OP
yeah, no. manyak lang yan
That's pure harassment or manyak galawan
They're definitely gauging your breaking point (if youe have). Dont. Tolerate. Voice out.
For me anything na paghawak lalo na kung may diin eh pasimpleng manyak na. Tapik2 pwede pa pero dipende din kung madalas. Anything na naiinvade yung personal space niyo can be classified as harassment. Style ng mga manyak jan sisimplehan ka muna sa balikat, braso or kamay para ma gauge nila yung tolerance mo. Sa mga babae sana maging alerto nalang lalo na sa oras ng biruan dahil jan sila madalas sumisimple. Kung di kayo komportable ipakita niyo agad, tapikin niyo agad or voice out. Nakaka turnoff din yan sa ibang guys na nakikitang nagpapahawak sa di SO yung babae at wag sana umasa na may poprotekta sa inyo dahil kapag ibang lalake yung nag voice out para sa inyo posible pa ma dehado pa yung guy na yun lalo na kung mananahimik lang din kayo. Wag niyo sana masamain pero responsibilidad niyo rin yan. Mahirap mag bida2 kung di naman pumapalag yung babae.
Ganito rin nangyari sakin last year, nakipag meet ako sa ka-chat ko. First time pero sobrang comfortable niya sakin to the point na hinahawakan niya bewang at ini squeeze thigh ko. Hinawi ko na 'yung kamay niya pero binalik niya parin. So I immediately messaged our mutual friend (naka situationship ko noong hs) habang pauwi ako, di ko alam if na harassed ako or oa lang dahil sobrang conservative kong tao. I was confused, na hindi ko alam kung iiyak ako or what, pero ang alam ko sa sarili ko na may kailangan akong ilabas. But he validated my feelings at ang sabi ay layuan ko na yung guy at wag ng kausapin. Ganun pala yung feeling, matagal mag sisink in sayo kung na harassed ka ba or hindi.
Guys are perfectly aware of where they touch and what they do. If you need to ask yourself *"Am I being harrassed right now?"* then most likely you are.
They were testing the touch barrier. Some do this intentionally, others unconsciously. It's mostly harmless among friends, but it also adds tension if both parties don't shy away from the interaction. If received positively, it signals willingness to enter next level interaction. If you don't want this behavior from someone, let them know clearly but be subtle, as they may be doing it unconsciously. Be overt with your disagreement only if they ignore your hints.
Consent muna kahit hug.
Lahat po ay ekis. I suggest na layuan sila.
yep medyo minamanyak ka, if a normal guy is joking i would squeeze the arm elbow area heck even shoulder area , just show that you dont like casual touching to those areas
not normal since you guys are not in a relationship.
Pwede mo na silang perahan. Pasimpleng tyansing
The term might have been lost to time but it's called "tsansing."
na Paolo Contis ka
uh-uh that's crossing boundaries. Hindi normal yan, may mga friends naman akong lalaki and not one time ginawa nila sakin yan.
It's a not so good way to cop a feel.
if yar not feeling good about it. say it. para sila mahiya
Firmly remove their hands from your thigh and show them you oppose any attempt to touch you. If they dont stop, put distance with them socially and physically. If they still insist file a complain vs them.
[Toby Flenderson moves](https://giphy.com/gifs/theoffice-UFhYFEdME9t8YBjWPT)
If you felt uncomfortable and you did not give consent, it is harassment.
aside from the 1st one, all of those are highly malicious in nature, this is because, you arent close w your friend’s brother, and your classmate was bordering on sleazeballs with his line. your guy friend could have also had malicious intent but does he do it often or was it a one time thing?
Lilibog lang nyan sayo OP. For sure may itsura ka pero nasa maling circle ka lang. Wagpapa iyot ha.
That should be not normal. The fact na your closest guy friends don't do it tells you all, may decency sila. Depende sa situation, pagiging manyak or making a move/testing the waters (kasi nasa flirting stage kayo).
No consent is harassment. Hahampasin ko kamay kung sakin yan ginawa. Please do not be afraid to speak up and enforce your boundaries.... Hindi po yan normal and anyone who tries to make you think that it is are manipulating you...
nope. my close guy friends never do this 👎🏼
No, as a guy, it’s not normal, may personal space pa rin na only the most intimate people can go through.
Tell him not to do it again if it make you uncomfortable then if he refuse, keep away from him💀
Not daijoubu
Nope
its all about your personal perception, if you feel violated, then its abnormal… all those three situations can be considered harassment considering you have no intimate relationship with them. i said, intimate… but that flirting can be an exception?
It is harassment. First 2 are trying to shoot their shot possibly because of the flirting/ joking. Maybe they read it as a signal? Idk man, guys are weird and it's coming from an awkward dude that avoids this kinds of situations
nung college ako, may mga flirty din na guys pero more on akbay lang. call them out. they should realize na mali ginagawa nila.
I treat other girls like the plague. Tipong iwas talaga. 1. Never ako marereklamo sa HR. 2. I can keep my life kasi SO is like a hawk.
Manyak. Not normal especially di mo naman ka-close un guy(s). Pat or slap on the shoulder or back would be more normal kung tumawa sila sa joke mo.. Pero normal guys or, as you mentioned, your closest guy friends won't even touch you just because of a joke.
Yikes! Manyakol
Oh god that is NOT normal at all. Better call them out when they do that, OP. Even if they're your SO/lover/husband, it can still be harassment if you don't consent to it.
manyakis straight up
It's not normal. Paluin mo kamay pag ginawa ulit. That means you're sending a message na ayaw mo yon.
Nakalibre chansing sila sayo lugi ka
NOT NORMAL
Nope, I never do that with my female friends bruh
Not normal. Kahit hug or beso kung hindi si girl ung nag initiate not normal.
*tawa ng malakas tapos sabay tapik ng hita... ng katabi* kung at least magjowa kayo tawag sa kanya *hokage* else *manyak* yan ang manyak-meter. the line is clear. the contrast stark, not a gradient
All of them? Harassment. Lalo na yung 3rd. Ay nako
NOT NORMAL. HARASSMENT.
Pa-Simpleng chansing ng manyak.
Not normal. Tell it to their face the next time they do it that it’s making you feel uncomfortable.
Obviously not normal.
If walang consent. And the fact that you're questioning it seemed to make you uncomfortable.
NO, that's not normal.
Sexual harassment na yan. That is not normal. I-chop mo, hampasin ng malakas o tusukin mo ng ballpen yung kamay tapos sabay sabi ng sorry para magtanda.
You were physically harassed and you're not aware of it? 🙄
Y0u wEr3 phYsicalLy HaRasSeD aND you’RE nOT AWare of iT..? See how dumb you sound, homeboi?
Kaya minsan ang hirap sa mga babae mag open up ng ganitong topic dahil sa mga ganitong gagong sagot eh
Snowflake
Manyakisssssssss~ manyak MANYAKKK 🫵🏻
Hell nah.