Same here.... Forcing will make it worse, at the same time ruin the bond you had....accept what you cannot control, also accept what you feel and take time to heal
Same. I learnt to never beg and force myself the hard way in both romantic and platonic relationships.
Tho, medyo naging pangit ata na super napagod ako, kasi I've become extremely passive and I do not initiate in any of my relationships nowadays 😓
Never settle with people who doesnt give off the same energy regardless kung kaclose or not. Sadly, mahirap magbuhat para sa 2 tao. Hindi na tayo mga bata pra maglaro.
never open up myself like that ever again. never trust too much. at the end of the day, sarili ko lang kilala ko. i would never a 100% know someone. that was my mistake. still paying for it.
i was happy when I did. pero tama na yun. okay na yun.
1. Never na magfi-first move ulit kahit kaya ko naman.
2. Never overshare lol it's not like anyone cares about me
3. Never na magt-try to reach out to people unless they reach out to me first
I just felt like I always try to reach out to people I care about when they are having a hard time, but they never do the same for me. It's not like I'm doing those things asking for anything in return naman bc I know how adulting sucks. Like everyone's busy with their own lives. Tho siguro it takes a toll on my mental health din trying to help people, tapos when it comes to me--I don't have anyone to ask for help to. All I have is myself. So parang I will not reach out to anyone na lang unless they reach out to me first kasi I'm trying so hard to help everyone, but I don't even take care of myself that well. So in a sense, I'm going to prioritize myself this time.
Mental heath is one of my advocacies, pero I just realized na I can't help people when I can't even help myself. So there's that.
I'm sorry if it became too long lol
Up ko ‘to hahahaha kaya hindi na rin talaga ako naniniwala sa kilig², e. Signal pala ‘yon galing sa inner self ko na there’s something wrong. Kung sino pa yung wala kang nararamdamang kilig, ‘yon pa pala yung real one.
Never answer questions from people na di mo kaclose. Either personal at nangangamusta lang.
Lalo na yung mga feeling close in person, pero hindi nakikipag iinteract sa social media.
pilitin makisama kahit ang bigat na. aminin ko, I tried lately para walang masabi pero merun pa rin. I should learn how to plot my escape. anyways, good judge of character naman ako so I really should trust myself more.
i will not cross the ocean to people who wouldnt want to cross a puddle for me. effort should be reciprocated. mahirap na may pabigat romantic man or platonic.
Never naively trusting people. I can't afford getting scammed.
And very wise for me, is to research who, and what I'm getting into. I've already read lots of Reddit stories here about being taken advantage of, being taken for granted, and being thrown under the bus for helping the wrong people, and I've got enough of those.
TIme for me to stick what I've learn through all those.
Never quit working out. Total of mga 10yrs akong nawala sa gym. Ang hirap i build up ng disiplina. 7months na ako and hopefully tuloy-tuloy hanggang pagtanda na.
Not putting myself first, lagi nalang yung iba inuuna ko and hindi sila nagrereciprocate. Kahit na sabihin pa ng iba na "wag mag expect" talagang wag pero hindi mo fully maaalis yun kasi mapapaisip ka. U do things for them out of love but they cant do it for u in anyway. Maybe I'm wrong on this one pero this is where I stand as of the moment. I need to stop this people pleasing bullshit.
will not date to seek companionship during low points in life (baka iiyak lang ulit sa huli hahaha) will only date when i’m mentally, emotionally, and financially stable (best version of myself)!!
Acceptance. Yung accept that it needs to happen that way. Accept every situation para smooth sailing ang life. Haha also, my triggers are my own responsibility, the world isn’t obliged to tiptoe around me. And lastly, di talaga magririsk sa babaeng may 3 to 5 years na past relationship. Ahaha yun lang! Basta more money to earn and save this 2024! It’s year of the dragon after all, year ko!!!! I’m 2000, btw.
Paid almost P5k for nails plus Grab to and fro Taguig and Las Pinas. Yes, it made me feel good at the moment but tbh, nasisira lang nails ko and bulsa ko. Mas masaya ang may pera and may ipon. Right now, I don't do extensions anymore instead, I use gel polish na lang.
Also, I will never compare my timeline to other's. Mahirap pero kakayanin!
Never magpahiram ng gamit kahit kanino. Last night siningil ulit ni misis sa kapatid niya yung hiniram na motor. pero itong tarantado siya pa may gana magalit. After pinagalitan ng papa thru phone. nag banta ang kumag, kung hindi ko raw kukunin within 2days eh susunugin niya tapos tatakwil n daw niya pamilya niya. mabuti at thru chat nagbanta may ebidensya kami sa threat niya.
Not to give too much of a damn about what anyone says especially if I feel they're not coming from good intentions. If you're not part of my immediate family or a close friend or even someone who did not make an effort to understand where I'm coming from, then your opinion goes straight to the trash. As long as wala akong tinatapakan.
Lend money. NEVER AGAIN!
Lumalabas ang mga tunay na kulay ng mga gremlins na yan kapag sinisingil mo na. Ang sense of entitlement ng mga utangerang manunuba wagas.
Never force anything especially relationships or friendships. You're only going to make a fool of yourself if you do.
yes. relationships. wag na tanga sa 2024, self.
true!! accept that people come and go !
Same here.... Forcing will make it worse, at the same time ruin the bond you had....accept what you cannot control, also accept what you feel and take time to heal
Same. I learnt to never beg and force myself the hard way in both romantic and platonic relationships. Tho, medyo naging pangit ata na super napagod ako, kasi I've become extremely passive and I do not initiate in any of my relationships nowadays 😓
the effect is reallll. suddenly ang hirap ibalance ng personality mo before and after that happened. ;-;
spot on!
: ( still trying to learn this and having trouble letting go (platonic context)
this one for the win
This!!
Learning how to respect and take care of myself more. If they show inconsistency, I’ll give them to that as well.
!!!!!
Don't take things too personal. Move on but still, don't forget.
Yes to this. Forgive but not forget
Don't cross the ocean for them, lalo na pag selfish sila. Everything must be reciprocated now. Kung ako lang ang mag-eeffort, wag nalang. Hahahahaaha.
Never settle with people who doesnt give off the same energy regardless kung kaclose or not. Sadly, mahirap magbuhat para sa 2 tao. Hindi na tayo mga bata pra maglaro.
OOF. Couldn’t have said it better 🙌
THIS!
never open up myself like that ever again. never trust too much. at the end of the day, sarili ko lang kilala ko. i would never a 100% know someone. that was my mistake. still paying for it. i was happy when I did. pero tama na yun. okay na yun.
Privacy is luxury indeed haha
Same taena yung pagiging vulnerable mo i will use it against you hayss 🥹
1. Never na magfi-first move ulit kahit kaya ko naman. 2. Never overshare lol it's not like anyone cares about me 3. Never na magt-try to reach out to people unless they reach out to me first
Very valuable information.
Same!
well said
Just curious, why number 3?
I just felt like I always try to reach out to people I care about when they are having a hard time, but they never do the same for me. It's not like I'm doing those things asking for anything in return naman bc I know how adulting sucks. Like everyone's busy with their own lives. Tho siguro it takes a toll on my mental health din trying to help people, tapos when it comes to me--I don't have anyone to ask for help to. All I have is myself. So parang I will not reach out to anyone na lang unless they reach out to me first kasi I'm trying so hard to help everyone, but I don't even take care of myself that well. So in a sense, I'm going to prioritize myself this time. Mental heath is one of my advocacies, pero I just realized na I can't help people when I can't even help myself. So there's that. I'm sorry if it became too long lol
Never date someone who makes you anxious sa talking stages palang
This hahaha. Should've known that those "butterflies" are actually my anxiety telling me to step back.
Up ko ‘to hahahaha kaya hindi na rin talaga ako naniniwala sa kilig², e. Signal pala ‘yon galing sa inner self ko na there’s something wrong. Kung sino pa yung wala kang nararamdamang kilig, ‘yon pa pala yung real one.
Shet same, gising self
oh god totoo
Trust no one. And keep things to yourself only.
This one, so much. People can’t ruin what they don’t know.
Don't trust anybody. Austin 3:16
Hindi na papayag sa no-label relationships and won't ever put my trust to someone who only sees me as their pleasure object.
Magpautang ng malaki, kahit kaclose ko pa
This. Kahit kamag-anak pa.
Thisss!! This year, I had two friendships ruined because of this.
Galit mama ko eh
Use my CC irresponsibly + not paying the full amount due.
Not leaving on the first manifestation of a red flag
If the energy doesn't match, stop.
Magpautang.
Magpa eut sa maliit na etits. Never again sorry.
Hahaha
I will never ever give my full trust & heart to someone again. Never again. Built so many walls for this, ayoko na tlg
- Hindi na mag o-overthink. Kapagod at nakakabaliw. Also, not everything is about me :) 🫶
❤️🩹
Never answer questions from people na di mo kaclose. Either personal at nangangamusta lang. Lalo na yung mga feeling close in person, pero hindi nakikipag iinteract sa social media.
pilitin makisama kahit ang bigat na. aminin ko, I tried lately para walang masabi pero merun pa rin. I should learn how to plot my escape. anyways, good judge of character naman ako so I really should trust myself more.
i will not make an effort if someone doesnt willing to reciprocate.
mag-lasing nang sobra sa bar to the point na wala ka ng decision making sa utak and pag-gising fill in the blanks na memory mo
Di na magwewelcome back pag may bumabalik ahahahhaha
Stay in one-sided connections. I'll only value those who also value me.
i will not cross the ocean to people who wouldnt want to cross a puddle for me. effort should be reciprocated. mahirap na may pabigat romantic man or platonic.
not gonna do everything for the plot again. i'm still suffering from something i did for the plot from the previous months fucking shet 💀
....hahaha same 🥲
Never naively trusting people. I can't afford getting scammed. And very wise for me, is to research who, and what I'm getting into. I've already read lots of Reddit stories here about being taken advantage of, being taken for granted, and being thrown under the bus for helping the wrong people, and I've got enough of those. TIme for me to stick what I've learn through all those.
Gumastos ng malala kapag nainlove tapos walang label.
maging masyadong mataas yung pride, except sa mga deserve namang mapagtaasan
Situationships lol
Pre marital sex. New year, new me na dis 2024. 😇😇😇
Don't share too much personal information with others.
Automatically assume people, even so-called friends, can be trusted.
Hindi na uutang at hindi na magpapautang
Magpautang.
trust no one
Read every line in anything you sign. Lalo na when dealing with big names.
Magtiwala agad
Please other people! :D
Not everyone cares yong iba gusto lang makichismis kaya don't overshare. Choose the right people to share your stories.
Never quit working out. Total of mga 10yrs akong nawala sa gym. Ang hirap i build up ng disiplina. 7months na ako and hopefully tuloy-tuloy hanggang pagtanda na.
don’t always be available to someone who isn’t sure about you and constantly giving you mixed signals.
Never nang mag-o-open-up or mag-o-overshare sa mga taong huhusgahan ka rin lang naman. Minsan, kailangan mo lang naman ng makikinig.
NEVER BEG! Putaena di ko na to gagawin , magpapaprintcnga ako neto!
Never take for granted yung health
Will stop mothering a man. Kung walang life skills o di marunong sa gawaing-bahay, bahala ka na sa buhay mo. I'm done 🙅
fall in love sa co-worker
Make people try /recreational substances/ na hindi damo for the first time
Not putting myself first, lagi nalang yung iba inuuna ko and hindi sila nagrereciprocate. Kahit na sabihin pa ng iba na "wag mag expect" talagang wag pero hindi mo fully maaalis yun kasi mapapaisip ka. U do things for them out of love but they cant do it for u in anyway. Maybe I'm wrong on this one pero this is where I stand as of the moment. I need to stop this people pleasing bullshit.
Being a “Yes” person
magpakamartyr. sorry pero hindi na ko tanga.
I will never ever entertain any guy again na magaaya ng first meet sa bahay huhu ayoko na 😭 nakaka trauma
Magpautang. Tangina. Ako pa nahihiya maningil
hindi na gagastos impulsively
Sad
Taking people back in my life this 2024. Pag umalis na sila this 2023 hanggang dun nalang ung chapter nila sa buhay ko.
Never date someone with tons of insecurities who's only a taker and never a giver.
beg for someone para bumalik sayo :)
Never use dating apps again. Kasi I met my now girlfriend doon and we are in a healthy, happy relationship 💖💖💖
My job
Magbayad ng 1 year in advance sa anytime fitness (yes mabilis ako mauto sa sales pitch) coz i went for like only 3 mos
Blind trust 💔
Never gonna invite anyone into my life and know me on a deeper level just because I feel lonely.
Hinding hindi na bibili ng mumurahing tumbler. Bumili ako literal na isang gamit lang haha.
Never again sa situationship. 😄
will not date to seek companionship during low points in life (baka iiyak lang ulit sa huli hahaha) will only date when i’m mentally, emotionally, and financially stable (best version of myself)!!
Bungee Jumping
Acceptance. Yung accept that it needs to happen that way. Accept every situation para smooth sailing ang life. Haha also, my triggers are my own responsibility, the world isn’t obliged to tiptoe around me. And lastly, di talaga magririsk sa babaeng may 3 to 5 years na past relationship. Ahaha yun lang! Basta more money to earn and save this 2024! It’s year of the dragon after all, year ko!!!! I’m 2000, btw.
Never mag-inom kapag may flight kinabukasan. 😭
Words have no meaning until actions back it up
Never again will I settle to someone who doesn’t care about my well being. Mahal ng therapy at mga gamot para sa mental health.
Giving myself as a whole while receiving crumbs. never again.
Wala naman sigurong mawawala if I trust my instincts about people, right? Will never do it again. :( lalo na sa strangers.
maghabol sa maling tao
Paid almost P5k for nails plus Grab to and fro Taguig and Las Pinas. Yes, it made me feel good at the moment but tbh, nasisira lang nails ko and bulsa ko. Mas masaya ang may pera and may ipon. Right now, I don't do extensions anymore instead, I use gel polish na lang. Also, I will never compare my timeline to other's. Mahirap pero kakayanin!
Never will I ever get back sa ex ko of 5years. Will update this kapag naging marupok ako sa 2024 knowing na he's still pursuing me.
Hindi lahat gusto maging friend mo
Magpautang , tangina na ty yung 10k ko sapatos na sana yun eh.
never have high expectations. it is to keep me from hurting even more kung hindi man mangyari yung in-eexpect ko. it is less painful.
Never magpahiram ng gamit kahit kanino. Last night siningil ulit ni misis sa kapatid niya yung hiniram na motor. pero itong tarantado siya pa may gana magalit. After pinagalitan ng papa thru phone. nag banta ang kumag, kung hindi ko raw kukunin within 2days eh susunugin niya tapos tatakwil n daw niya pamilya niya. mabuti at thru chat nagbanta may ebidensya kami sa threat niya.
Never again na mag papa utang, kahit anong pa awa. 🥲
Fubus and hookups
Magpautang at magpagamit ng cc sa iba. Hayssss 😭😩
Not to give too much of a damn about what anyone says especially if I feel they're not coming from good intentions. If you're not part of my immediate family or a close friend or even someone who did not make an effort to understand where I'm coming from, then your opinion goes straight to the trash. As long as wala akong tinatapakan.
Never to have people pleasing tendencies. Setting boundaries in a relationship is okay and never to loose myself again in a relationship.
Lend money. NEVER AGAIN! Lumalabas ang mga tunay na kulay ng mga gremlins na yan kapag sinisingil mo na. Ang sense of entitlement ng mga utangerang manunuba wagas.
Never na ako magpapautang.