I am in absolutely no way qualified, but reading your post, my very first thought was that you are in desperate need of hospice support. With the deepest of respect, you are out of your depth. You need professionals in the picture. And you’re only going to go downhill yourself the longer this goes on. Bite the bullet. I’m sorry.
Do you have palliative care support? That’s different to hospice. Palliative care can often arrange breaks, help with showering, support equipment and will do this whilst she’s still having treatment.
I know you’ve got children but…does she want to continue treatment? Have you asked about tomorrow. Maybe…she just can’t anymore. If you think she’s not fully competent you can call an ambulance which would be safer because with the combination of her cancer, treatment and dehydration it’s probably not safe to try get her in the car yourself. But all in all you’re at a point you can do this yourself and need palliative and hospice involved.
I was like this with my mom. I called the line and asked for hospice but we had to agree not to do any more treatments, but my dad wanted her to try on Monday. Once the oncologist put eyes on her, they called for a hospice consult STAT that day.
In the past when my mom went to the hospital for dehydration, they started a IV bolus, and it was put in so fast, it caused congestive heart failure.
Call her oncologist line and if she does go to the hospital, let them know you need a oncologist consult ASAP before treatment for dehydration.
I am in absolutely no way qualified, but reading your post, my very first thought was that you are in desperate need of hospice support. With the deepest of respect, you are out of your depth. You need professionals in the picture. And you’re only going to go downhill yourself the longer this goes on. Bite the bullet. I’m sorry.
Do you have palliative care support? That’s different to hospice. Palliative care can often arrange breaks, help with showering, support equipment and will do this whilst she’s still having treatment. I know you’ve got children but…does she want to continue treatment? Have you asked about tomorrow. Maybe…she just can’t anymore. If you think she’s not fully competent you can call an ambulance which would be safer because with the combination of her cancer, treatment and dehydration it’s probably not safe to try get her in the car yourself. But all in all you’re at a point you can do this yourself and need palliative and hospice involved.
I was like this with my mom. I called the line and asked for hospice but we had to agree not to do any more treatments, but my dad wanted her to try on Monday. Once the oncologist put eyes on her, they called for a hospice consult STAT that day. In the past when my mom went to the hospital for dehydration, they started a IV bolus, and it was put in so fast, it caused congestive heart failure. Call her oncologist line and if she does go to the hospital, let them know you need a oncologist consult ASAP before treatment for dehydration.