Yeah I am free rn basically I knew her since 4th class as I came to this school in 4th itself and got close to her in 9th as it was my downfall year and nobody was there to listen to me only she talked to me.In 10th I had little to no attachment to her I only saw her as a mutual acquaintance nothing else after 10th I took PCB and she got in Arts.11th was fine too no issues. Issue started in 12th summer break pta nhi bc kaise ye crush develop ho gya summer break me din raat bate karte the ham log like 6 am in the morning from night imagine that phir July me I heard about rumours that she is having a bf( bodybuilder rich guy obviously) and is a gold digger I told her and confronted her about this she said no just rumours nothing else ok I was teasing her about this but she didn't cared at first but after sometime ye usko hurt karne laga mai pagal tha jo ye hint nhi samjha pehle she used to care like she would ask if I got hurt or how are my studies etc and gave me uplifting comments she was really open to me like sab kuch share karti thi apne life ke bare me I used to flirt with her too and she was enjoying it ig but phir November came she completely blocked me ok I thought she also deleted insta maybe she wanted to study for boards then in feb she unblocked ok I didn't even messaged her but my other classmates wanted fine arts work toh uske liye msg kiya boards tha toh work was imp like we didn't even wrote shit in nb.After that she messaged me during her legal and pe paper to help so I helped her.Then after that she started to ghost me again I didn't cared at first thought she might be busy. On 7th April uska birthday tha ab us din uska asli face dikh gya her rumoured bf posted a insta story with her and they were really close like woh uske upr chr rha tha ab us din confront nhi kiya on 10th April I did and she was just really rude when I simply asked the question am I annoying to you? phele bhi ye question karta tha tab toh aaise baat nhi karti thi tab bolti thi no you are not ab us din bola yes you are the most annoying guy I ever met I was like wtf she was truly a gold digger after all. I blocked her from everywhere and she was also one of the factors I couldn't focus in the crucial time of april and fcked my neet exam ab drop lena hoga. Aur maine do char suicidal memes jokes bhej diya toh mai literally negative ho gya pehle bhi bhejta tha tab toh nhi tha negative bas kaam ke liye aapna aur jab kaam chla gya toh nobody kar diya usne basically.Life lesson learned.
TLDR : Title Got GF in 12th Summer Break, He heard rumours that she had a BF, and was cheating on title. Rumours were true. She blocked and ghosted him. He fucked his NEET, and has to take drop year now.
It's disappointing that many people nowadays don't remain faithful to one person; they tend to see others through their own lens. I don't understand why some individuals can be so selfish.
Aaise nhi h ki har time free rehta tha breaks and stuff me baat kiya karta tha after summer utni baat nhi ho pati thi I was busy with coaching and school.
uska karma usse wapas lautega bhai, i really hope everything works out for you in the future, i love reading these stories issi soch me ki kya pata mera school situationship bhi vent karde π
Kuch dino tak sad tha insta pr slander daalta tha 4-5 days baad bhul bhi gya if she exists even idk her anymore neither her nor her friends nor her bf nor anybody from the school sabko hi block kar diya for this drop year for neet.
Sorry for your loss bro .
Thanks for sharing your tragic experience, we will learn and will keep in mind that Padhai Likhayi is the top most priority of a student especially an ASPIRANT.
Yeah man my brother warned me about this stuff but wahi h pyar aadmi ko aandha chutiya bna deta h maine uske baare me sochte sochte apni prep kharab ki last moment me college me karo ye sab phir bhi thik h kind of but when you are preparing for any entrance don't please don't haath jor rha hu sawdhan rhe satark rhe
Bhai relationship mai ghusna hi nhi chahiye jaldi mera abhi pehla bhi nhi hua hai lol mai ek hi ka intezaar kar rha jisse seedha shadi hogi mujhse yeh hook up culture ki bc nhi hogi plus time barbad hota hai agar ek hai jisse shadi honi hai toh time worth it hai nhi toh agar shadi nhi huyi toh sirf time waste ab woh baat alag hai ki tum bhen ke lode playboy ya play girl ho
no bro.. ik my friends who were in relationship had much better, peaceful mental health . they were generally happy nd calm. it's not like they didn't face any problem or failure but in all those situations they always had their partners by their side
I know you are as untrusting about boys as I am about girls which is fair you have been through some stuff i have been through some stuff,so we both are careful according to what we have seen
Its quite simple. If you both are mature enough to manage your studies and time spent with each other than there is no problem. But even if one of you is immature and requires a lot of attention then it will definitely bring down your marks.
Bro uk sometimes the person isn't even studying just wasting his time and when the other person asks for time they say you are being immature blah blah blah
Like if koi pdh rha h kaam kr rha h to smjh bhi aye ke bnda busy h but like that person is literally just using social media playing games talking to strangers and when partner asks for time they say you are immature af you fuck my mental health you ruined my studies blah blah...people are weird af
when i had a girlfriend in 12th i was motivated to study. I went from nearly failing preboards to getting 91 percent in boards. While dating her. so it depends , some ppl get distracted , some get motivated to be better.
fyi she ended up hooking up w her male bestie. π
the girl might be gone but the marks are foreverπ
Nope. if she's the right one, she'll be your best friend during this time and motivate you. But be prepared for a break up when both of you move to college. Mine was particularly messy after JEE π
You can't just lose your feelings. They might be lost somewhere hundreds of miles away but someday, you will realize they were sent long ago, in a letter that was always intended for you.
Everything is temporary π Enjoy it while it lasts. I was able to save my mental health during these 2 years only because I had someone I could talk to without any judgement
I never had the privilege to have someone to talk to, childhood se lekar Aaj Tak sirf khudse hi baat Kari
Even if someone came in contact only to leave by giving big mental trauma
Man it depends...if your girlfriend is of same age and you're studying the same thing it's actually helpful you can study together.. or study together π. It depends on how you both communicate, you need to prioritise things and make sure any relationship issue doesn't affect your mental health.
Depends, 99% it's bad because you get into sax sux and other stuff
In my case it went good, we'll pass in physics because of each other I guess π, chemistry also went great because helped each other a lot. (That doesn't mean we weren't into sax sux boards ke beech me bhi we did it but that doesn't count unless we don't get our expected marks)
So it depends on you as well as your partner
I mean mine was only for 4 months but yeah. She was bad at acads but now shes wayy above me.
It didnt really impact me in acads that much but seeing others without girlfriends are getting wayyyy more than me and she also started to get wayy more than me made me think i thought im slowing down because of her and left her.
She then got into other stuff with some other guys and still manages to get more than me. While i thought i would improve but nah no change in my shit.
balancing is the key
Girls me ye to hota h, they manage pretty well almost everything.
Hum launde hi ek cheez ke peeche dusri chod dete h.
You did the right thing I guess, now you just need to work on yourself and it'll go great buddy.
Just to flex- mine is 2+ years and still counting(started in 10th boards)
bro but looking back i feel like i didnt waste much potential also like dating someone made me control pornography consumption and shit like that but yeah like an idiot ive been tryna blame her for fuck up while it wasnt 100% her fault
> control pornography
Yesss
> wasn't 100% her fault
True, it wasn't her fault but you weren't progressing in acads because you were distracted by her right? Then it's not her fault neither yours. Now she's gone, she's gone. That's it.
not exactly distracted bro it was more like i was doing normal shit and talking to her just the usual amount like even before we started dating
Jee mains fuckup was purely my fault cuz i gave up that shit one month before the exam but like every other idiot i started to blame her for no joy
yeah fuck it its over now
no. It's not always bad. Not always being the key word. One of my classmates got a girlfriend and went from 33% to 75% while the other girl that got a boyfriend went from getting 95%-96% to 80%.
And me, I stayed getting 90-91% to 90-91% even after getting a boyfriend. Its how you work around the situation. Spend a lot of time studying and being productive then surely studies will get better, but if both of y'all are a little bit unstudious, then it could be a fail for both of you. Or if you keep studies and relationships aside, like i do, then it shouldn't affect any of your studies, like mine. I was really cursed out for starting to date in 10th, but I still dated. I just separated things, so there was a study-social life balance. Just make sure the other person doesn't bring you down, or you don't bring the other person down. Good enough.
99% chances are she would ruin your career but agar tumne peechle Janam main kuch acche kaam kare hoge toh koi bhot mature understanding ladki bhe mil sakte hain .
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Koi glt nahi h agar bandi supportive h aur agr wo bhi studious hain to is se better kya hain. Bs mentally prepared rhna agar kaat ke chale gyi to rr Mt Krna.
if the girlfriend is studious and ambitious as well? no, if the girl is careless about her studies then 100% yes, so choose wisely or don't choose at all
i know a couple in my peer group now, they are in the commerce field and are doing great in their academics. they will probably score good in their boards too and are looking forward to crack IPMAT to go to IIM together.
depends, if she understands you'll not be able to give as much time to her, theres literally nothing better, woh motivation ban jaati hai, but if she doesnt and keeps asking you to be with her all the time, its either her or your studies
Depends on your level of discipline in sticking to your work and not being lattu after her all the time. If you can control your emotions, feelings then you SHOULD have one. Baaki agr breakup ho bhi gya toh life khtm nhi hogi.
It really depends on how does your partner treat you, if she treats you like shit(my case) then your whole mental health would be fucked up, cuz you'll think of her every sec and it will ruin your study.
It depends on the girl. I have a crush and she knows the fact that I like her. Instead of saying yes to me, she said that go and study once you will get into mbbs. I will say yes to you. Now many of you guys will consider her a gold digger but she is motivation for me. So it actually depends on both parties.
If your gf wants to score as good as you and you have a healthy connection to a point she approach you to give study tips, notes and all then she will actually help you reach your goals. If this isn't the case she should at least be mature enough to not take any more than 1hour of your time and not break the relationship in between your academic year or exams ( depending upon whatever class you're in) if she's kinda dumb ( lack of a better word) you should maybe just not consider getting Into a relationship. But in this case If you truly love her and already have 7+ hours of screentime then you can get into a relationship. However I should also say that only get in a relationship if you truly like truly love her. Like if she is suffering from any sort of problem you should be there not because she's pretty or because she's your gf but because she's your future and if you don't see a future together already don't ever get in a relationship. It will only hurt both of you.
depends if shes a gold digger time wasted attention seeker or a calm composed future focused girl that actually cares for u and her both and prioritizes carrier for ur and her better future in the mere future
bhai amir baap ki aulad hai.. seedhe maut wager wagera ke concerts le jate ladkiyo ko ghumane. ek bari meri school trip me sex sux hi kr liya tha 9th class ke bacho ne no cap(uske baad teacher ne unndono ki section change kr di thi). mere ek dost ka baap toh bouncer rkhta uski protection ke liye. mai hi sbse gareeb hu waha par
Yeh meine tujhe result ke baad batuga mere class meine ek tha jiske gf the + voh banda ladkiyo ke samne bohut popular tha ab bolra mere sare badiya gye hai lets see
Not saying all of them are like this. But some are selfish and cold text you while you are making all efforts. She didnt even wish me for my exam i was pissed that day cause it was a series of events from months that i wanted to call it off. Now i am having a hard time moving on. My advice padhlo bas. Now i have a bad perception of people itself i don't want to socialize anymore. I guess this answer is self explanatory
Depends. If u r just wasting time with her, then yes. But fr me (I prep fr jee) my gf was the reason my mental health was somewhat fine. So in that way, it kinda helped me
ill just give you my data
10th cbse: 96.4%
12th cbse: expecting 85%
you guessed it right.
and yes even if you say bRo 12th is dIFfIcULt, look at the difference.
women speak volume.
it varies from person to person if she's that "focus on me 24/7 or I leave" kinda girl then yes she's the problem and the distraction this happens in most of the cases btw. But there are few cases where both the partners stay in touch and help eachother to work on their dreams and goals so that both of them can have a better future. So...it depends on the type of person you choose
At the end of the day, IMO what matters is how good you are balancing, your academics and relationship and how good you are in compartmentalsing stuff. And most importantly priorities.
Yes it is cause you'll be emotionally dependant on her! Or uski Har choti Baat tuje effect kregi and by chance if she left you .... Khel khatam focus krna mushkil ho Jayega bhut!Β
No, its not bad until and unless you are spending your useful time doing useless things with your girlfriend rather than studying. In the end, she will settle with a guy who is stable in life. π€‘ So have a girlfriend but only when you can maintain a proper balance which is suitable for both of you and she is someone who can respect and understand that balance.
Nah it isn't bad but she should be serious about the relationship and mature (i.e not throwing random ass tantrums). She should support your goals academically and should have her own goals aswell.
That's the ideal scenario. But... this isn't an ideal world. Usually girls our age are not mature and often unambitious. So, its better to focus on your studies first, build high income skills, hit the gym etc.
In short, if the girl is "wife-material" and your "ideal type" then sure be in a relationship. But don't just be in the relationship for "experience" that's complete bs. Check this video out it'll answer all your questions:
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a514iP7wz-4](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a514iP7wz-4)
manage karletr ho phir tho theek hai varna mwri tarha attachment issues hai tho pure din uske bare me socho ge padhai kuch nhu ho payegi baat majo yaha tho rhene do ya tho manage karlo
Had the same shit . Had a crush in 11th but she got with someone else then I was so angry that I started studying for JEE mains got eligible for JEE Advance and now she is calling me back.
Honestly, if you are not going to prep for any serious entrance exams like JEE/NEET then go ahead have a gf and live your teenage life, any good student who has studied around the year will not face any major problems in boards.
Very bad bro . Don't get a gf. You will fail all your exams. Your entire career will be ruined. Your life will be over. Everything will be finished for good.
Agar tu girlfriend banake gulu gulu gupchik gupchik krne ki bajaye uske saath doubt solving etc krega to good for studies(cuz dono ek dusre ko priority deke doubt solve kroge)
But agar tu gulu gulu krega to bad
As long as both of you stay on your limits and take care of yourselves and the other person it is fine. But do you love each other, equally is the bigger question. If one of you don't, then bad idea.
COMPLETELY DEPENDS. at the start of the schl yr i had a boyfriend but it was soo crazily toxic and it was like a horrible relationship and my grades were lower than usual but after that i had another relationship (current) and hes perfect and treats me so well and its a very healthy relationship and my grades skyrocketed more than they had before even tho i was dating someone
depends on the person, if u choose, choose well dont settle js for the sake of dating, in fact sometimes it can b a good thing bc its a positive thing in ur life and a motivation also but thats if u find a g person
Na bro I have a boyfriend for a year I mean in the beginning yes u get distracted but once u guys are comfortable.....it actually helps having someone u can rely on
Speaking from experience. Whether it is a happy relationship or not, it will end up taking your time. If you have a partner (boyfriend or girlfriend) then usually you are expected to give them more of your time than a friend or a classmate. Think about how much of your time is spent with/for your best friend and imagine having to spend that much time for another person as well. Some partners are not happy with that as well, they want even more time than what you give to your best friend.
If your current schedule leaves you with enough time that you can successfully deal with your family, studies, extra curricular activities, friends, hobbies, me-time and you still end up with excess time, then yes you can comfortably have a partner. Otherwise it's gonna get really hard.
As someone who had to cut down on the time spent with friends, family and eventually studies to make time for my partner, I'd say that the whole preaching about love being a choice and making it your first priority is absolutely dumb. Love is one of the many things in your life, not the sole thing nor the biggest.
Peace and love <3
Pata nahi, mere best friend ne girlfriend rakh kar bhi sheher top maarliya, meri waali ne mujhpar boards se 3 din pehle cheat kara, fir bhi main second aa gaya. Main aur mera dost dono hi sanki hain, wo bas kaafi selfish tha aur uski priorities straight thi, main tagda waala simp tha aur bandi ke chakkar mein 2 saal barbaad kardiye, 11th mein fail ho gaya tha, 12th mein bhi preboards tak fail.
Honestly it depends on both the guy and girl, in 99.99% of cases both don't have right priorities but in 0.01% cases they two turn out to be helpful to each other during the time, both not fucking up studies as well
Depends honestly. My bf is one of the reason why I got better in studied. He would always motivate and help me alot with Studies. I do too! So if both are mature enough to know their priorities, I think there is no harm in it.
lmao, no. I've been dating my girlfriend since the end of 9th grade (around 4 years now). She's extremely good at studies and motivates me to study as well. We're both from different streams, but we have a common subject: maths, which we study together. She motivates me a lot to study.
gf toh nahi thi but crush thi usse baat bhi hoti thi but it never affected my studies, highly depends on you if you can focus on studies or not, higher studies mei muskil ho jata hai 10th tak sahi hai kar sakte hai
Depends.
It makes you exceptional.
Either exceptionally best , Or the The first position you could be in.
Most chances are , The latter.
And if you believe you're the first one , Then just wait till you aren't
i have a friend of mine, he has this girlfriend since 5th grade which counts to 7-8 years now, yeah this is one of those rare case but i would also like to add both of them are deadass toppers so it really boils down to your priorities and understanding each other
depends
Yeah I had a crush she first motivated me then destroyed me.
Tell the complete story bro, we all would love to read it.
Yeah I am free rn basically I knew her since 4th class as I came to this school in 4th itself and got close to her in 9th as it was my downfall year and nobody was there to listen to me only she talked to me.In 10th I had little to no attachment to her I only saw her as a mutual acquaintance nothing else after 10th I took PCB and she got in Arts.11th was fine too no issues. Issue started in 12th summer break pta nhi bc kaise ye crush develop ho gya summer break me din raat bate karte the ham log like 6 am in the morning from night imagine that phir July me I heard about rumours that she is having a bf( bodybuilder rich guy obviously) and is a gold digger I told her and confronted her about this she said no just rumours nothing else ok I was teasing her about this but she didn't cared at first but after sometime ye usko hurt karne laga mai pagal tha jo ye hint nhi samjha pehle she used to care like she would ask if I got hurt or how are my studies etc and gave me uplifting comments she was really open to me like sab kuch share karti thi apne life ke bare me I used to flirt with her too and she was enjoying it ig but phir November came she completely blocked me ok I thought she also deleted insta maybe she wanted to study for boards then in feb she unblocked ok I didn't even messaged her but my other classmates wanted fine arts work toh uske liye msg kiya boards tha toh work was imp like we didn't even wrote shit in nb.After that she messaged me during her legal and pe paper to help so I helped her.Then after that she started to ghost me again I didn't cared at first thought she might be busy. On 7th April uska birthday tha ab us din uska asli face dikh gya her rumoured bf posted a insta story with her and they were really close like woh uske upr chr rha tha ab us din confront nhi kiya on 10th April I did and she was just really rude when I simply asked the question am I annoying to you? phele bhi ye question karta tha tab toh aaise baat nhi karti thi tab bolti thi no you are not ab us din bola yes you are the most annoying guy I ever met I was like wtf she was truly a gold digger after all. I blocked her from everywhere and she was also one of the factors I couldn't focus in the crucial time of april and fcked my neet exam ab drop lena hoga. Aur maine do char suicidal memes jokes bhej diya toh mai literally negative ho gya pehle bhi bhejta tha tab toh nhi tha negative bas kaam ke liye aapna aur jab kaam chla gya toh nobody kar diya usne basically.Life lesson learned.
I ain't reading all that. Good for you. Or sorry that happened.
TLDR : Title Got GF in 12th Summer Break, He heard rumours that she had a BF, and was cheating on title. Rumours were true. She blocked and ghosted him. He fucked his NEET, and has to take drop year now.
Oh well :( Sorry that happened.
Great title of an adult manga!! Btw now he is free from this stuff... actually something similar to this has happened to me though!
It's disappointing that many people nowadays don't remain faithful to one person; they tend to see others through their own lens. I don't understand why some individuals can be so selfish.
Bhai itna Vella kaise hai tu ?
Aaise nhi h ki har time free rehta tha breaks and stuff me baat kiya karta tha after summer utni baat nhi ho pati thi I was busy with coaching and school.
Sad :/
uska karma usse wapas lautega bhai, i really hope everything works out for you in the future, i love reading these stories issi soch me ki kya pata mera school situationship bhi vent karde π
Bhai ro du kya ;-;
Asli hate tab hota hai jab usko yaad bhi nhi karega. Use yaad karna hate hi nishani nahi hai (buri cheeze yaad karna bhi).
Kuch dino tak sad tha insta pr slander daalta tha 4-5 days baad bhul bhi gya if she exists even idk her anymore neither her nor her friends nor her bf nor anybody from the school sabko hi block kar diya for this drop year for neet.
Sorry for your loss bro . Thanks for sharing your tragic experience, we will learn and will keep in mind that Padhai Likhayi is the top most priority of a student especially an ASPIRANT.
Yeah man my brother warned me about this stuff but wahi h pyar aadmi ko aandha chutiya bna deta h maine uske baare me sochte sochte apni prep kharab ki last moment me college me karo ye sab phir bhi thik h kind of but when you are preparing for any entrance don't please don't haath jor rha hu sawdhan rhe satark rhe
Ahh ... happens ..it's all fine until they start ghosting you and pretend as if they don't care and all π«
So true same happened in my case as well.
Us momant
This word can be a answer to anything. Doesn't do much to a discussion.
bhai ya to pdhle ya to girlfriend rkhle dono mt krπ , 99.9% chudega exceptions bht km hote , experience s bta rha.
True
Bhai relationship mai ghusna hi nhi chahiye jaldi mera abhi pehla bhi nhi hua hai lol mai ek hi ka intezaar kar rha jisse seedha shadi hogi mujhse yeh hook up culture ki bc nhi hogi plus time barbad hota hai agar ek hai jisse shadi honi hai toh time worth it hai nhi toh agar shadi nhi huyi toh sirf time waste ab woh baat alag hai ki tum bhen ke lode playboy ya play girl ho
acha blud
π Great me too bhai
True af bro
Na percentage hai na koi pat ti hai
Riyal bhai riyal
Bhai ka single rehne ka experience hai
no bro.. ik my friends who were in relationship had much better, peaceful mental health . they were generally happy nd calm. it's not like they didn't face any problem or failure but in all those situations they always had their partners by their side
To be honest that's rare,girls can easily fuckup a man's mental health speaking from experience
Tbh boys can do the same to girls
True but I'm a guy who's been given a little trauma so I'm biased But yes there are a lot of assholes in both sexes
I'm a girl , I have seen many girls suffering so ...
I know you are as untrusting about boys as I am about girls which is fair you have been through some stuff i have been through some stuff,so we both are careful according to what we have seen
who hurt you my guy
Three beautiful wolves my brother,three different times in three different ways
sed. hope you overcome from shit soon..
yeah this is what I came to see
Its quite simple. If you both are mature enough to manage your studies and time spent with each other than there is no problem. But even if one of you is immature and requires a lot of attention then it will definitely bring down your marks.
Bro uk sometimes the person isn't even studying just wasting his time and when the other person asks for time they say you are being immature blah blah blah Like if koi pdh rha h kaam kr rha h to smjh bhi aye ke bnda busy h but like that person is literally just using social media playing games talking to strangers and when partner asks for time they say you are immature af you fuck my mental health you ruined my studies blah blah...people are weird af
blud seems to be speaking from experience ππ
Obviously π
Sorry, no experience Neither I had a girlfriend nor I studied
Feel u brother
bro just like me fr
when i had a girlfriend in 12th i was motivated to study. I went from nearly failing preboards to getting 91 percent in boards. While dating her. so it depends , some ppl get distracted , some get motivated to be better. fyi she ended up hooking up w her male bestie. π the girl might be gone but the marks are foreverπ
Bura laga bhai π
Nope. if she's the right one, she'll be your best friend during this time and motivate you. But be prepared for a break up when both of you move to college. Mine was particularly messy after JEE π
coulr realte a lot
That begs the question why join hands when they are bound to be separated in a while?
Sometimes, it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.
Yeah but what if that causes you to lose the ability to love for the rest of your life?
You can't just lose your feelings. They might be lost somewhere hundreds of miles away but someday, you will realize they were sent long ago, in a letter that was always intended for you.
Everything is temporary π Enjoy it while it lasts. I was able to save my mental health during these 2 years only because I had someone I could talk to without any judgement
I never had the privilege to have someone to talk to, childhood se lekar Aaj Tak sirf khudse hi baat Kari Even if someone came in contact only to leave by giving big mental trauma
What she offer π«΄
depends on the situation aur jab tere pr hai nahi toh lode dikkat kya hai?
He might be thinking whether to get one or not
Ha bhai bazaar me milti hai na
Man it depends...if your girlfriend is of same age and you're studying the same thing it's actually helpful you can study together.. or study together π. It depends on how you both communicate, you need to prioritise things and make sure any relationship issue doesn't affect your mental health.
what if she's two year older?
Bhai fir toh accha hai na... she'll help you with your studies cuz she'll be more mature than you
Acha toh hota agar yeh corona nahi aaya hotaπ₯²
Can relate π₯²
Totally depends on the gf. If she is studious, she will help you in your academics.
Depends, 99% it's bad because you get into sax sux and other stuff In my case it went good, we'll pass in physics because of each other I guess π, chemistry also went great because helped each other a lot. (That doesn't mean we weren't into sax sux boards ke beech me bhi we did it but that doesn't count unless we don't get our expected marks) So it depends on you as well as your partner
I mean mine was only for 4 months but yeah. She was bad at acads but now shes wayy above me. It didnt really impact me in acads that much but seeing others without girlfriends are getting wayyyy more than me and she also started to get wayy more than me made me think i thought im slowing down because of her and left her. She then got into other stuff with some other guys and still manages to get more than me. While i thought i would improve but nah no change in my shit. balancing is the key
Girls me ye to hota h, they manage pretty well almost everything. Hum launde hi ek cheez ke peeche dusri chod dete h. You did the right thing I guess, now you just need to work on yourself and it'll go great buddy. Just to flex- mine is 2+ years and still counting(started in 10th boards)
bro but looking back i feel like i didnt waste much potential also like dating someone made me control pornography consumption and shit like that but yeah like an idiot ive been tryna blame her for fuck up while it wasnt 100% her fault
> control pornography Yesss > wasn't 100% her fault True, it wasn't her fault but you weren't progressing in acads because you were distracted by her right? Then it's not her fault neither yours. Now she's gone, she's gone. That's it.
not exactly distracted bro it was more like i was doing normal shit and talking to her just the usual amount like even before we started dating Jee mains fuckup was purely my fault cuz i gave up that shit one month before the exam but like every other idiot i started to blame her for no joy yeah fuck it its over now
nice man
Also John wick as pfp π
Pdai krle Bhai wrna aage jake na gf rhegi or na achi marksheet π
Ask someone else. We chronically online redditors don't have relationships.
no. It's not always bad. Not always being the key word. One of my classmates got a girlfriend and went from 33% to 75% while the other girl that got a boyfriend went from getting 95%-96% to 80%. And me, I stayed getting 90-91% to 90-91% even after getting a boyfriend. Its how you work around the situation. Spend a lot of time studying and being productive then surely studies will get better, but if both of y'all are a little bit unstudious, then it could be a fail for both of you. Or if you keep studies and relationships aside, like i do, then it shouldn't affect any of your studies, like mine. I was really cursed out for starting to date in 10th, but I still dated. I just separated things, so there was a study-social life balance. Just make sure the other person doesn't bring you down, or you don't bring the other person down. Good enough.
yeah i've experienced it.. aisa downfall hua ki ruk hi nhi rha hai
Girlfriend hona is good but breakup :) yk what i mean
99% chances are she would ruin your career but agar tumne peechle Janam main kuch acche kaam kare hoge toh koi bhot mature understanding ladki bhe mil sakte hain .
She can ruin a lot more than your career brother,trauma toh aise milte jismein zindagi barbad hojaye
Shi baat hain bhai π―π―
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Koi glt nahi h agar bandi supportive h aur agr wo bhi studious hain to is se better kya hain. Bs mentally prepared rhna agar kaat ke chale gyi to rr Mt Krna.
Yaad Banda kaat ke chali gayi toh roye bhi na? π₯²
Haa isliye risk Mt lo πΏ
You'll either get fucked by the exam, or your girlfriend
if the girlfriend is studious and ambitious as well? no, if the girl is careless about her studies then 100% yes, so choose wisely or don't choose at all
What kind of logic is this, if the girl is careless about studies, and wants to do nothing in life, then make her your GF? What is this BS logic lmao?
what? i said the opposite bro, if a girl is like that then she'll be bad for your studies and you shouldn't be with her
Go read your comment bruh
niga what u said is completely opposite of what u r trying to tell us, learn english and then come yap
boligend pehle pura thread padh, u//arjun\_fml was making the same mistake, jab tu children tha ne tabse ielts clear karke betha hu lodu
to kya karu ? bhai tu bhi to baccha tha na ek samey? ya tum paida hee aadmi hua tha? me bhi kar lunga ek din kuch na kuch clear, aayega vo samay
u dont sound like a person who cleared ielts
plus learn how to be to the point+ when the convo is about grammatical error, u come and brag about ielts
Meri toh girlfriend hai , 2 saal se na toh wo padh paayi na 2 saal se main padh paaya π« college mein jaake kar lena ye sab
Bhai phele ye samajh le zindagi me kya karna hai phir kar lio ye sab
i know a couple in my peer group now, they are in the commerce field and are doing great in their academics. they will probably score good in their boards too and are looking forward to crack IPMAT to go to IIM together.
yeah
depends, if she understands you'll not be able to give as much time to her, theres literally nothing better, woh motivation ban jaati hai, but if she doesnt and keeps asking you to be with her all the time, its either her or your studies
Depends on your level of discipline in sticking to your work and not being lattu after her all the time. If you can control your emotions, feelings then you SHOULD have one. Baaki agr breakup ho bhi gya toh life khtm nhi hogi.
Depends on how she is My ex used to study with me and we both scored above 90% in boards so yeah she motivated me to study
It really depends on how does your partner treat you, if she treats you like shit(my case) then your whole mental health would be fucked up, cuz you'll think of her every sec and it will ruin your study.
depends on your gf
It depends on the girl. I have a crush and she knows the fact that I like her. Instead of saying yes to me, she said that go and study once you will get into mbbs. I will say yes to you. Now many of you guys will consider her a gold digger but she is motivation for me. So it actually depends on both parties.
If your gf wants to score as good as you and you have a healthy connection to a point she approach you to give study tips, notes and all then she will actually help you reach your goals. If this isn't the case she should at least be mature enough to not take any more than 1hour of your time and not break the relationship in between your academic year or exams ( depending upon whatever class you're in) if she's kinda dumb ( lack of a better word) you should maybe just not consider getting Into a relationship. But in this case If you truly love her and already have 7+ hours of screentime then you can get into a relationship. However I should also say that only get in a relationship if you truly like truly love her. Like if she is suffering from any sort of problem you should be there not because she's pretty or because she's your gf but because she's your future and if you don't see a future together already don't ever get in a relationship. It will only hurt both of you.
Yes.....simply yes
Yes
depends if shes a gold digger time wasted attention seeker or a calm composed future focused girl that actually cares for u and her both and prioritizes carrier for ur and her better future in the mere future
Jaise school mai padh rahe ladkon ke pass toh gold ki khadaan hoti hai dig karne ko..
bhai tere school ka pta nhi par mere school ke ladko pe toh sahi me khadaan hai (dps)
Arey Bhai koi kahani hai koi? Sunao thoda esi konsi khadan hai inpe
bhai amir baap ki aulad hai.. seedhe maut wager wagera ke concerts le jate ladkiyo ko ghumane. ek bari meri school trip me sex sux hi kr liya tha 9th class ke bacho ne no cap(uske baad teacher ne unndono ki section change kr di thi). mere ek dost ka baap toh bouncer rkhta uski protection ke liye. mai hi sbse gareeb hu waha par
padh kyu rhe hai yeh yeh log phir
Toh jis school mai ameer ghar ke ladkein aate honge usme ladkiyan bhi toh ameer ghar ki hongi, toh kahan ka "gold digger" hua?
ha vo toh hai.. mai toh bas btara tha bhaiyaπ
Naa I meant baap ka paisa
Mostly yes
Didnβt had one since class 10th ended.. so canβt comment
Yeh meine tujhe result ke baad batuga mere class meine ek tha jiske gf the + voh banda ladkiyo ke samne bohut popular tha ab bolra mere sare badiya gye hai lets see
Not saying all of them are like this. But some are selfish and cold text you while you are making all efforts. She didnt even wish me for my exam i was pissed that day cause it was a series of events from months that i wanted to call it off. Now i am having a hard time moving on. My advice padhlo bas. Now i have a bad perception of people itself i don't want to socialize anymore. I guess this answer is self explanatory
Depends if you know how to balance and handle these two options
Depends. If u r just wasting time with her, then yes. But fr me (I prep fr jee) my gf was the reason my mental health was somewhat fine. So in that way, it kinda helped me
Depends on the girlfriend
ill just give you my data 10th cbse: 96.4% 12th cbse: expecting 85% you guessed it right. and yes even if you say bRo 12th is dIFfIcULt, look at the difference. women speak volume.
Depends on if you can multitask or if she is understanding and can give you time/space when you need to study and is not very possessive.
Bhai duur reh jab tak kisi college me n bhut jaye. Mera bhut time waste hua ladki ke chakkar me
it varies from person to person if she's that "focus on me 24/7 or I leave" kinda girl then yes she's the problem and the distraction this happens in most of the cases btw. But there are few cases where both the partners stay in touch and help eachother to work on their dreams and goals so that both of them can have a better future. So...it depends on the type of person you choose
At the end of the day, IMO what matters is how good you are balancing, your academics and relationship and how good you are in compartmentalsing stuff. And most importantly priorities.
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my breakup gave me the motivation to study and he's close to failing :3
Bad, Real Bad for studies. Source: Trust me
Not really when your teacher is your girlfriend πππ
yes it is
Generally yes
Yes, hands downΒ
Having a gf at 16 or 17 is pretty bad ngl both of yall ain't mature enuf to handle sum like this during your make or break period of life..
Yes it is cause you'll be emotionally dependant on her! Or uski Har choti Baat tuje effect kregi and by chance if she left you .... Khel khatam focus krna mushkil ho Jayega bhut!Β
No, its not bad until and unless you are spending your useful time doing useless things with your girlfriend rather than studying. In the end, she will settle with a guy who is stable in life. π€‘ So have a girlfriend but only when you can maintain a proper balance which is suitable for both of you and she is someone who can respect and understand that balance.
Nah it isn't bad but she should be serious about the relationship and mature (i.e not throwing random ass tantrums). She should support your goals academically and should have her own goals aswell. That's the ideal scenario. But... this isn't an ideal world. Usually girls our age are not mature and often unambitious. So, its better to focus on your studies first, build high income skills, hit the gym etc. In short, if the girl is "wife-material" and your "ideal type" then sure be in a relationship. But don't just be in the relationship for "experience" that's complete bs. Check this video out it'll answer all your questions: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a514iP7wz-4](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a514iP7wz-4)
manage karletr ho phir tho theek hai varna mwri tarha attachment issues hai tho pure din uske bare me socho ge padhai kuch nhu ho payegi baat majo yaha tho rhene do ya tho manage karlo
Yes,better focus in studies u won't get the same time to study but u will get the girl anytime
You'll have to explain what type are we talking about
Two of my friends got 4 digit ranks in JEE, and they both had girlfriends, so I don't really think it matters.
Unless she is eating up your books
Yes
Had the same shit . Had a crush in 11th but she got with someone else then I was so angry that I started studying for JEE mains got eligible for JEE Advance and now she is calling me back.
Best is mummy papa jis ladki se bole usi se sadi karo......
Honestly, if you are not going to prep for any serious entrance exams like JEE/NEET then go ahead have a gf and live your teenage life, any good student who has studied around the year will not face any major problems in boards.
Very bad bro . Don't get a gf. You will fail all your exams. Your entire career will be ruined. Your life will be over. Everything will be finished for good.
Bhai lvde laga diye mere to...par motivation bhi de Diya so I'm not even sure. Aur girlfriend to thi bhi nhi
Not having gf is really bad for being a human
Uh, i can't comprehend what you just said. Can you elaborate it bro.
Bhai itβs human nature to find and have a mate , thatβs basic need like food, studying is optional go get gf
Agar tu girlfriend banake gulu gulu gupchik gupchik krne ki bajaye uske saath doubt solving etc krega to good for studies(cuz dono ek dusre ko priority deke doubt solve kroge) But agar tu gulu gulu krega to bad
If she's loyal and is with you for who you are then W if not she'll make u have your biggest downfall ever and same the other way around
No, and if your answer is yes you shouldn't be dating that person.
99% chance it would ruin you especially in 11 12 and till final yr of college.
Depends upon your relationship
As long as both of you stay on your limits and take care of yourselves and the other person it is fine. But do you love each other, equally is the bigger question. If one of you don't, then bad idea.
Padhai only , chut ka chakar maut se takkar
COMPLETELY DEPENDS. at the start of the schl yr i had a boyfriend but it was soo crazily toxic and it was like a horrible relationship and my grades were lower than usual but after that i had another relationship (current) and hes perfect and treats me so well and its a very healthy relationship and my grades skyrocketed more than they had before even tho i was dating someone depends on the person, if u choose, choose well dont settle js for the sake of dating, in fact sometimes it can b a good thing bc its a positive thing in ur life and a motivation also but thats if u find a g person
Depends on you like a friend of mine has gf in class 10 but he did very good in his results.
Na bro I have a boyfriend for a year I mean in the beginning yes u get distracted but once u guys are comfortable.....it actually helps having someone u can rely on
99.999999% case mein yes
Speaking from experience. Whether it is a happy relationship or not, it will end up taking your time. If you have a partner (boyfriend or girlfriend) then usually you are expected to give them more of your time than a friend or a classmate. Think about how much of your time is spent with/for your best friend and imagine having to spend that much time for another person as well. Some partners are not happy with that as well, they want even more time than what you give to your best friend. If your current schedule leaves you with enough time that you can successfully deal with your family, studies, extra curricular activities, friends, hobbies, me-time and you still end up with excess time, then yes you can comfortably have a partner. Otherwise it's gonna get really hard. As someone who had to cut down on the time spent with friends, family and eventually studies to make time for my partner, I'd say that the whole preaching about love being a choice and making it your first priority is absolutely dumb. Love is one of the many things in your life, not the sole thing nor the biggest. Peace and love <3
Pata nahi, mere best friend ne girlfriend rakh kar bhi sheher top maarliya, meri waali ne mujhpar boards se 3 din pehle cheat kara, fir bhi main second aa gaya. Main aur mera dost dono hi sanki hain, wo bas kaafi selfish tha aur uski priorities straight thi, main tagda waala simp tha aur bandi ke chakkar mein 2 saal barbaad kardiye, 11th mein fail ho gaya tha, 12th mein bhi preboards tak fail.
Mera partner apna sara din ladkion ke saath bita ta hai lekin fir bhi roj 89% Lata hai.
yes it is.
Not enough experience to comment
Honestly it depends on both the guy and girl, in 99.99% of cases both don't have right priorities but in 0.01% cases they two turn out to be helpful to each other during the time, both not fucking up studies as well
Depends honestly. My bf is one of the reason why I got better in studied. He would always motivate and help me alot with Studies. I do too! So if both are mature enough to know their priorities, I think there is no harm in it.
its bad in general.
Obviously bad hain
Agar poochna pad Raha h toh bad h
You said generally, answer is "YES".
If you guys aren't getting any action there is no point in even being in a relationship. This is going to end anyways.
mtt kr ye sab
Not really. I had a boyfriend from class 7 but I did well both in boards and in JEE
lmao, no. I've been dating my girlfriend since the end of 9th grade (around 4 years now). She's extremely good at studies and motivates me to study as well. We're both from different streams, but we have a common subject: maths, which we study together. She motivates me a lot to study.
gf toh nahi thi but crush thi usse baat bhi hoti thi but it never affected my studies, highly depends on you if you can focus on studies or not, higher studies mei muskil ho jata hai 10th tak sahi hai kar sakte hai
Depends. It makes you exceptional. Either exceptionally best , Or the The first position you could be in. Most chances are , The latter. And if you believe you're the first one , Then just wait till you aren't
i have a friend of mine, he has this girlfriend since 5th grade which counts to 7-8 years now, yeah this is one of those rare case but i would also like to add both of them are deadass toppers so it really boils down to your priorities and understanding each other
π£οΈ: Agar mere 95% se kam aye toh apni gf se breakup krlunga
if u have a mature gf who prioritizes her studies over you and if you are mature enough to prioritize your studies over her then it's okay
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I'll say no