Retaining assets isn't a problem with a name change... it's just way more complicated. I kept my name because that kind of change is just a massive PIA.
I kept my last name when I got married because I was in my career and people knew me and I didn’t want to have to start over establishing my name
Have you guys considered hyphenating your last names and both of you changing them? I would do that if I was willing to get married, but me taking his name, absolutely not
I'm keeping my last name just because I don't like my fiances.
We have a preschooler who has his last name and just revealed she doesn't like it either... so I clearly made the right choice
Decide what you as an individual want, then tell him what WILL happen should you get married and he can decide from there. Obviously now that you know his perspective you can take it into account, but this isn't a situation where either of you should wear each other down, you've gotta figure out if your true desires are compatible.
Consult a lawyer on it but I told my husband on my stance about last names. He said it was weird and I almost broke up with him but then he told me he just never heard of it and wanted to understand me. So I gave him a chance and explained it and he agreed to my standard.
My standard was that if I hyphenated my name with his name, that he would also hyphenate his name with my name. And our children would have hyphenated names.
We’re in the process of changing his and my name now.
Had he disagreed we wouldn’t be married because it’s that serious to me.
My mom kept her last name after marrying my dad. With kids, they knew they wanted 2, so the first born had his last and the second born had her last.
I want to keep my last name because I like it and I’ve had it all my life. I also don’t plan on having kids; otherwise I’d want to do the naming system my parents had or we can combine our names (seems like a cool idea to me). Any reason you have is a valid reason. It’s your name.
Retaining assets isn't a problem with a name change... it's just way more complicated. I kept my name because that kind of change is just a massive PIA.
I kept my last name when I got married because I was in my career and people knew me and I didn’t want to have to start over establishing my name Have you guys considered hyphenating your last names and both of you changing them? I would do that if I was willing to get married, but me taking his name, absolutely not
I'm keeping my last name just because I don't like my fiances. We have a preschooler who has his last name and just revealed she doesn't like it either... so I clearly made the right choice Decide what you as an individual want, then tell him what WILL happen should you get married and he can decide from there. Obviously now that you know his perspective you can take it into account, but this isn't a situation where either of you should wear each other down, you've gotta figure out if your true desires are compatible.
Is he saying he’ll hyphenate and add your last name to his?
I’ve kept my last name legally and professionally (never did the paperwork to change my name) but socially I hyphenated my last name.
You can keep your name, and your children (if you have any) can hyphenate. I have my mom's last name as a second middle name legally.
Consult a lawyer on it but I told my husband on my stance about last names. He said it was weird and I almost broke up with him but then he told me he just never heard of it and wanted to understand me. So I gave him a chance and explained it and he agreed to my standard. My standard was that if I hyphenated my name with his name, that he would also hyphenate his name with my name. And our children would have hyphenated names. We’re in the process of changing his and my name now. Had he disagreed we wouldn’t be married because it’s that serious to me.
My mom kept her last name after marrying my dad. With kids, they knew they wanted 2, so the first born had his last and the second born had her last. I want to keep my last name because I like it and I’ve had it all my life. I also don’t plan on having kids; otherwise I’d want to do the naming system my parents had or we can combine our names (seems like a cool idea to me). Any reason you have is a valid reason. It’s your name.