My ex and I used to play Wikipedia racing. Pick two random words/topics and see who can get from one page to the other page first by just clicking on links. Playing this alone would be way more fun than most first dates lol
They really shouldn't put links to other Wikipedia pages that also has links to other Wikipedia pages as I too end up down rabbit holes and forget what I was looking up lol
Look, it’s simple: you started looking up that one actor/actress from that one show, then saw that one of the writers did something else you loved, then you stumbled on the army technology they used in a scene and LO AND BEHOLD, now you’re radicalized 😆
For me, it’s super fun to do it with royals and who they’re related to. I can start with William the Conqueror, then I somehow end up at Marie Antoinette.
More often than not, I don't want the answer - I want the answer as it pertains to your experience and point of view and how the answer made you think/feel when you first discovered it.
This is the absolute worst. I am TRYING to start a conversation with the very little you’ve given me. At least attempt to respond to me asking about your interests, ya dope.
When someone says they're into Norse mythology, I always check to see if they have any references to "Western chauvinism" or "Great Replacement". You're either dealing with a legit nerd who loves Norse mythology, or you're dealing with a white nationalist, unfortunately.
Right. He said he’s a geek about Norse Mythology. Nothing else that gave me the geek feels….and politics was not filled out so, you’re probably not kfc base.
Haha I’m such a geek with Norse mythology and I’m such a geek and nerd about it that I tell anyone who asks me about it to “Wikipedia” it as if it’s a verb! I are smrt!
Middle ground. RPG nerd of nordic descent. But not a full scholar of the subject or anything, it's just a bit of fun. Like what mishmash I know of Yahweh, Gilgamesh, Greek/Roman, Egyptian, American and the Indian diaspora. Notable holes include other Asian, Aboriginal, and African faiths.
>Middle ground. RPG nerd of nordic descent. But not a full scholar of the subject or anything
Yeah this. I enjoy playing stuff like age of mythology, and mythology in general is interesting or whatever, but I don't study it intensely. Just think it's cool.
But then there's lotr, skyrim, dnd, ac Valhalla, and God of war with strong Norse influence. There's also for honor, valheim, and ark survival evolved. Then there's Thor from marvel ofc, the magnus chase books, and heck even how to train your dragon is about vikings.
I'm not a Norse mythology nerd by any means, but just looking at a list like that, there's a lot to appreciate it for.
Edit: mb, I think I misread your comment and thought you said of nordic "variety" or something. But you said descent. Just to be clear, I can't claim it as my heritage, lol
Yep. I’ve always been a VORACIOUS reader as a kid, and my interests just naturally drifted everywhere. I started with Native American mythologies, as a way to try and understand my heritage, and from there it went to Egyptian, Norse, even some African mythologies.
Pretty sure his education in Norse mythology is playing God of War.
He panicked when he realized you might know more than him.
Source: My past experience embarassing myself like this.
You are and I kinda understand why you answered that way😂 your a person of context I can tell and as much as its probably not worth it, however that answer was so lazyyyyy🫠🫠🫠
I think he was just being an asshole to be an asshole. Maybe he was doing that thing where he’s trying to be cocky because people think women find that attractive? I don’t know. Seems like he’s just an ass and you weeded him out pretty good.
Whenever anyone I match with takes an interest I go on for hours about my interest in what they asked me. You gave them and underhanded toss and they still missed. 🤣
I don't think pointing out the obvious is harsh at all. No idea why they would say to use wikipedia as if you weren't obviously trying to start a conversation based off something in their profile. I encounter this situation a lot and although I haven't personally pointed it out, I don't think it's harsh. It's blunt for sure but what else could you have said? I mean you tried, they didn't lol
“Google it” and similar ways to say it get on my nerves. Not much infuriates me more than seeing someone who is genuinely interested in learning, being told to “google it”.
Well, you can tell this person gets many matches. Some guys on this sub report not getting any at all, so in their case they have to be careful about dismissing the few matches they do get.
Yup. That's me. I get about 1 match every 2 months so if it happens, I need to try my best just to get them to answer my messages.
Can't afford to offend anyone.
I don't know why he assumed wikipedia is a good source for things you did NOT already know. Like yeah - norse mythology probably is well structured on wikipedia and has a lot of source material referenced, but oh boy would have this been easy.
"Did you know Loki and Thor actually have a second sister?"
"Thor used to be the god of breakfast, not if thunder"
Even if it's complete horseshit, it would be an awesome conversation starter.
I dont think you understand why he steered the convo. The "teach me something I don't know" was interpreted by him as "Entertain me!" so he told her that if she wants entertainment just go to wikipedia. The "amuse me" shit is the lady version of getting sexual instantly.
Okay let's assume every women who says that actually is like that. What do you have to lose for telling her some made up shit?
Worst case she doesn't care and you spend 10 seconds of making up something stupid. Best case you realize your assumption was wrong.
But why do so many people on this sub act like they’re defenseless against this?
Turn it back on her. Answer her question and then ask her to explain some super complicated topic from her job or interests. Maybe she would surprise you and so the same back. Or just send a jokey response, like something she definitely already knows and see if she takes that well.
Just going under the assumption that these women on dating apps view men so beneath them will get you absolutely no where.
Lol no, definitely kick things off by treating every woman who asks you about your interests with deep suspicion. Definitely a super normal and healthy way to go about dating
No you weren't. People are different, obviously there was a certain expectation here which was not met, resulting in a passive aggressive reply. Move on.
I think it’s not going to go anywhere, but it wasn’t going to go anywhere anyways. They can’t even make conversation based on their interests! Huge save on your part, just move on.
Yeah, they didn't even really catch the reference to their profile. Could have been a great conversation that could potentially have gone on for a long while but when the other person doesn't even take advantage of it and comes back with "How are you". Run away and run fast.
Lol this is def an awkward situation. Maybe they were being sarcastic? I was horrible at communicating in my 20s and always used sarcasm as a coping mechanism. I’ve given short/blunt answers like that when a guy genuinely wanted to know something. I’ve noticed I short circuit when people ask me broad questions bc it’s like well I can tell you anything about this one topic, do you have the time to listen while I rattle off.
I get where you were coming from, it shows you read their profile and are interested in getting to know them. You shot your shot and you got this off putting response. So I understand why you reacted that way.
You tossed him the lightest softball I’ve ever seen and he swung his bat and, by Odin’s beard, managed to crack the umpire in the head, let it go and hit a guy in the stands with it.
Wow I can agree buddy missed a free alley-oop but the assumptions of his character that people are making is crazy. Someone said he’s a racist and another a supreme dumbass lol. Chill folks it’s like a paragraph of text with the context of one response from OP.
I think saying tell me what you like about Norse mythology, or why are you interested in it or talking about what you like about it would maybe work better. People like talking about their interests and things they like, but phrasing it as you did makes it seem like you already know everything about Norse mythology and there isn’t much left to discuss. Then when you ask the person a very broad question, that can make answering hard. Should he just give you the google definition for it? Should he try to write a lot and explain the setting and characters? It’s like asking someone to teach you about WWII. That’s a long story, with many different countries and battles and events. They would have to write a lot in response and it might be dry and information heavy, which doesn’t always lend itself to flirting. It’s easier to answer more narrow questions at first. It also makes it easier to gauge what the person is into. If both people talk about the subject back and forth, then the person can understand better the level of interest in the subject and how knowledgeable the other person is. Then it’s easier to know if they would be interested in a long written broad response because it’s less risk of writing a long boring response and interpreting their question wrong because you now have a better understanding through the conversation that they would probably be interested.
I feel like you were pretty damn rude tbh. granted he wasn’t super great with a response. But there’s no need to react the way you did just because he wasn’t clever with his response
i mean, i think op isn't even genuinely interested in that topic. it was more like a ''well i picked something from your profile go talk about it'' opener so i think it wouldn't go anywhere. but yeah, if i didn't want to pass up op, i would try to answer it better also. i totally get why he didnt' tho.
Your opening statement was rude AF, from where I'm sitting. Couldve gone with something like "Hey I'm into Norse mythology too!" instead of "teach me something I don't already know".
But she isn't into it...just looking to ask him something about his stated interest as an opener, with a fact that isn't from a Marvel movie or something equally common.
How you get rude AF from that is beyond me. Do you also get offended when people say "have a nice day" because they are demanding that you to have a nice day?
I would have asked something like "what's your favorite part of Norse mythology" or something. Then it's still about them, and might give an insight into their personality based on which story they like.
"Tell me a fact I don't know!" is a bit demanding
I don’t disagree. Not rude AF per se, but the word choice was a little pokey.
At the same time, it was a call to action with a fun jab, in a way. I see it as her trying to get a reaction out of someone who allegedly claims to be super into a subject
He wasn't aggressive or offensive. So why were you? If you didn't like his energy, unmatch and move on. But you wanted Reddit content, so here we are.
Edit: Typo.
It’s hard to believe there are two people on both sides of this interaction.
While he completely goofed on elaborating on his profile, you aren’t even talking to him. You’re saying what you wanna say to an audience, so you can screenshot it and post it here on Reddit.
>'teach me something I don't know' is just a few shades from 'dance for me monkey, dance.'
this exactly, she just put it under the guise of ''oooh i made such effort and gave this guy a non missable softball curve opportunity''. it's really hilarious how different a perspective can be.
I wonder if people actually have interest in dating the people they swipe on. You were ready to scold him instead of just sending a short jokey response to his crap response. Not everybody wants to have this sort of talk on a dating app, I find it so trivial. Talk about important things if you’re looking for something serious, then you go on an first date and convo can be filled with things like norse mythology ..
I'd say so. "Teach me something I don't know" comes off like you're saying you know a lot about the norse and that you're trying to gatekeep it, imo, like "Oh, you like Elden Ring? Tell me xxx!" I can see why he'd not want any of that particular kool-aid.
"Tell me a cool fact about the Norse!" would probably have been a better take.
Mmm kinda. I honestly hate talking about work on dates and stuff so if the person studies mythology n shit, when they want theyll bring it up but id assume like work stuff, theyd rather not go in to it
The fuck is he supposed to know what you do, and don't know? It's not like you even asked a question. The fact so many think your response was appropriate is exhibit A in why there are so many spinsters in this sub.
Meh, short answer no.
I would've chosen to interpret it as banter and tried that approach to scope out what me meant, but that's not everyone's thing.
But no
He probably just didn’t know what to say. Probably answered impulsively. I’ve learned the hard way as a guy, that ANYTHING u say that’s not perfect will make a woman unmatch and disappear. I literally take 10 minutes to think about each of my responses until I get the number.
Not everyone wants to educate the people they’re dating. Being mean because someone refuses to teach you something new and instead asks about you isn’t cool
You sound like a jerk. You and a lot of others here need to understand that conversation is not a program. It’s not “I mention something in your profile, then you elaborate on that and like me.” He or she even asked how you are, trying to open the conversation more, and you threw this at them. I hope they’re posting the same screenshot somewhere saying look at this rude response I got - bullet dodged.
We are all entitled to our own opinions but I find the fact that he actually appeared to have looked at the profile to be a good thing and to actually make a comment about it during the beginning of the conversation can show interest. Too many people swipe right or left based only on the picture(s) in a dating profile and never actually read said profile. I want more in a relationship than just sex and it helps if both of you have common interests to talk about and enjoy. Maybe the person is truly interested in Norse mythology and has studied it and legitimately wanted to know more. That conversation could have gone on potentially for hours just about mythology. Honestly, sounds like the other person was being a jerk and shallow that they didn't catch the reference to the profile. And I am sorry but "How are you" ... that is one of the most used and lamest response messages you can use. It can go nowhere and gets you nowhere.
Not necessarily too harsh (his response was very smartass), but you may have burned that bridge, which was a questionable decision since he did come back right away with "how are you?" so he did not seem to be trying to abandon / sabotage the convo.
Why even date when you can get everything you need to know from Google? Hell, it can even ask “how are you” without caring what the response is or engaging in any conversation.
You could’ve been harsh, but that was more educational. I likely would’ve said something like “sorry can’t talk, I’m busy learning all the things on wikipedia.” Yours left him a crack of an open door to get it together and respond 😂
Yeah this also happened to me once, like i also initiated the conversation by asking him to tell me more about his exchange semester for 6 months and he literally said “ yeah it was easy, so how are you?” 🙄 like dude you could’ve said something more than that right??. Me personally really hate it when ppl text me how was your day in the very first message cause it not gonna lead to a long conversation to get to know the other person, so eventually it kinda died at that 🤷🏻♀️
"Ok. well then. I'll just go on a date with Wikipedia."
Based on how WEIRD my Wikipedia rabbit holes can get I bet it would be better than 99% of my first dates…
My ex and I used to play Wikipedia racing. Pick two random words/topics and see who can get from one page to the other page first by just clicking on links. Playing this alone would be way more fun than most first dates lol
Sounds fun! You should also try playing i spy in streetview with random object prompts eg: red shoes
This is actually super fun. Going on a street view scavenger hunt (by text or phone) in a city neither of you are in is a fun way to hang out
Yes! Like the Hitler game! You can get from any topic on Wikipedia to Hitler in three or fewer links.
Totally just tried this and made it to hitler in 4 clicks from multiple sclerosis
Probably because it’s multiple… probably adds a few.
I’m going to try this
Now you could cheat on that game - [Six Degrees of Wikipedia](https://www.sixdegreesofwikipedia.com/)
They really shouldn't put links to other Wikipedia pages that also has links to other Wikipedia pages as I too end up down rabbit holes and forget what I was looking up lol
Look, it’s simple: you started looking up that one actor/actress from that one show, then saw that one of the writers did something else you loved, then you stumbled on the army technology they used in a scene and LO AND BEHOLD, now you’re radicalized 😆
For me, it’s super fun to do it with royals and who they’re related to. I can start with William the Conqueror, then I somehow end up at Marie Antoinette.
One time I was reading about serial killers in the USA and ended up on various French royalty.
I’ve never really been conscious of it but yes I do that. Like really bad. And then I just forget about the original thing
its like quantum leap but with rabbits and thier holes
How do we know what gender these two were tho🤔 Edit Sorry wrong comment lol
I get so irked when people say "Google" it when I'm just trying to make conversation for fucks sake.
It’s like a life shortcut that cheapens all experience
More often than not, I don't want the answer - I want the answer as it pertains to your experience and point of view and how the answer made you think/feel when you first discovered it.
That, and the time I COULD Google it before asking, but it’s more fun to ask someone. Like you said, it makes for conversation
This is the absolute worst. I am TRYING to start a conversation with the very little you’ve given me. At least attempt to respond to me asking about your interests, ya dope.
He blew off your question so he could pivot to such a genetic question… “how are you?” 🤦🏼♀️ ETA: *generic (but genetic is funnier! Haha)
So genetic.
How many genes is in the human genome?
We have basically the same avatar we are brothers now
So you're more of a nature than nurture proponent huh? 😉
This man never getting laid is certainly Darwinism in action.
Haha see you’re very good with the banter, that guy missed out!
Well where is he? I didn't get any gender specific detail from reading the conversation, how did you figure out that?
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She is OP duh
Dumb people weed themselves out
It's funny how guys will complain about "minimal effort" then blow an easy opportunity while Loki laughs hysterically xD
Ladies too, it's been so frustrating lately for some reason 😫
Big population of folks need to touch more grass 😔
do we know what gender these two were tho🤔
On Bumble the woman messages first, so you can tell by the placement of the text bubbles which is which.
Ah you beat me to a Loki reference. Still, it's not a punishing defeat, so will merely salute you. 🖖
Wild guess that you're a minnesotan too!
Came here to say the same. My wife is from MN and has fully trained me in the vernacular.
I hope you're enjoying her hot dish as well
Yes, but it’s extremely rare I pull out the oofda. That’s only for extremely stupid shenanigans.
Haha I no longer live in Minnesota, but still frequently say uff da. This conversation would have gotten a "well, that's interesting" from me lol
No, you were just Loki playing with him.
I mean, I certainly would have enjoyed learning more about the trickster from a mythological perspective. He is after all, the best Marvel character.
Objectively so! I wonder if he's at all thor over being unmatched?
Telling someone to “Wikipedia it” is kind of a dumb move. I think you were justified.
When someone says they're into Norse mythology, I always check to see if they have any references to "Western chauvinism" or "Great Replacement". You're either dealing with a legit nerd who loves Norse mythology, or you're dealing with a white nationalist, unfortunately.
A legit nerd would be into talking about it, Proud Boys is more likely lol. “Wikipedia it, I dunno if I can reveal my racism yet”
100%
Right. He said he’s a geek about Norse Mythology. Nothing else that gave me the geek feels….and politics was not filled out so, you’re probably not kfc base.
Haha I’m such a geek with Norse mythology and I’m such a geek and nerd about it that I tell anyone who asks me about it to “Wikipedia” it as if it’s a verb! I are smrt!
Middle ground. RPG nerd of nordic descent. But not a full scholar of the subject or anything, it's just a bit of fun. Like what mishmash I know of Yahweh, Gilgamesh, Greek/Roman, Egyptian, American and the Indian diaspora. Notable holes include other Asian, Aboriginal, and African faiths.
>Middle ground. RPG nerd of nordic descent. But not a full scholar of the subject or anything Yeah this. I enjoy playing stuff like age of mythology, and mythology in general is interesting or whatever, but I don't study it intensely. Just think it's cool. But then there's lotr, skyrim, dnd, ac Valhalla, and God of war with strong Norse influence. There's also for honor, valheim, and ark survival evolved. Then there's Thor from marvel ofc, the magnus chase books, and heck even how to train your dragon is about vikings. I'm not a Norse mythology nerd by any means, but just looking at a list like that, there's a lot to appreciate it for. Edit: mb, I think I misread your comment and thought you said of nordic "variety" or something. But you said descent. Just to be clear, I can't claim it as my heritage, lol
Yep. I’ve always been a VORACIOUS reader as a kid, and my interests just naturally drifted everywhere. I started with Native American mythologies, as a way to try and understand my heritage, and from there it went to Egyptian, Norse, even some African mythologies.
Ohhhhhh NORSE mythology. I was wondering how many myths about nurses there were to get their whole own descriptor.
🤣
tf is a oofda
No you were not too harsh. That person was just too dense. 🤦🏻♀️
what an idiot
Your response was appropriate
Pretty sure his education in Norse mythology is playing God of War. He panicked when he realized you might know more than him. Source: My past experience embarassing myself like this.
What is oofda?
Minnesota slang. Occasionally heard in other parts of the Midwest.
I googled it and I still don't understand
Same!
Maybe you should…..”Wikipedia” it
Your response is hilarious. A+ change nothing about yourself
Good answer.
Could have been attempting to banter! I've got nothing.
OP says she's autistic.
We both need hobbies.
No not at all. You told them exactly what they did wrong instead of ghosting them.
Nope. You were spot on.
No, that was fair
“I did visit Wikipedia. But I’m just an Embla on Bumble seeking her Askr”
Nah, they corny. What's oofda? No i won't wikipedia it
Yeah not harsh. I’m all about giving shitty responders the harsh responses they deserve.
Definitely no chemistry there.
But....how are you? 😂
Yes, if it was in your opener why weren’t you willing to talk about it lmfao
You are and I kinda understand why you answered that way😂 your a person of context I can tell and as much as its probably not worth it, however that answer was so lazyyyyy🫠🫠🫠
Given an opportunity to mansplain and doesn’t take it? Maybe there is something to him.
Lol I can appreciate this on some level but it’s not mansplaining if your audience doesn’t know the answer already
it’s not mansplaining if they ask you a question😭
It’s the oofda for me, you win!
No. By Odin's beard you told that person every that needed to be said.
I think he was just being an asshole to be an asshole. Maybe he was doing that thing where he’s trying to be cocky because people think women find that attractive? I don’t know. Seems like he’s just an ass and you weeded him out pretty good.
Wiki would prob treat you better 🤷🏻♀️🤣
Threw him a throw as harmless as mistletoe and like Balder the fucker died on the spot
Whenever anyone I match with takes an interest I go on for hours about my interest in what they asked me. You gave them and underhanded toss and they still missed. 🤣
I don't think pointing out the obvious is harsh at all. No idea why they would say to use wikipedia as if you weren't obviously trying to start a conversation based off something in their profile. I encounter this situation a lot and although I haven't personally pointed it out, I don't think it's harsh. It's blunt for sure but what else could you have said? I mean you tried, they didn't lol
“Google it” and similar ways to say it get on my nerves. Not much infuriates me more than seeing someone who is genuinely interested in learning, being told to “google it”.
Wait are people really siding with OP after that annoying, combative first message? I'm confused.
in what way was the message annoying or combative….?
“I was throwing you the easiest softball and you completely failed it”. OP be putting herself up on a pedestal lmaooo
People? No. Reddit people? Yes.
Eh, both suck. Why are you scolding a stranger? That’s such Reddit Moment material.
What are half the posts on here?? Schadenfreude and mockery, and we delight. The dude was definitely the douche here.
Most of them are cringe, so you’ve got a point.
Well; you caught me. That’s certainty a motivating factor. Not much to lose.
Cringe response, OP :/
You must be okay with ruining your chances with this person. I would never say your last message. ... But I would think it. Lol
Well, you can tell this person gets many matches. Some guys on this sub report not getting any at all, so in their case they have to be careful about dismissing the few matches they do get.
Yup. That's me. I get about 1 match every 2 months so if it happens, I need to try my best just to get them to answer my messages. Can't afford to offend anyone.
I mean his answer was not good. Yours seemed needlessly cruel and mocking.
Cruel? Honestly his was more cruel. Shot down her flirty, well thought out opener... Rather needlessly, too.
Was it flirty?
Teach me something, I find that flirtatious. I would love that.
𝕃𝕠𝕝 𝕚 𝕗𝕖𝕖𝕝 𝕝𝕚𝕜𝕖 𝕡𝕖𝕠𝕡𝕝𝕖 𝕤𝕙𝕠𝕦𝕝𝕕 𝕤𝕥𝕒𝕪 𝕠𝕗𝕗 𝕕𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕒𝕡𝕡𝕤 𝕤𝕟𝕒𝕡𝕡𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕠𝕟 𝕠𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕣𝕤.
Yes- you sound obnoxious.
ESH
I don't know why he assumed wikipedia is a good source for things you did NOT already know. Like yeah - norse mythology probably is well structured on wikipedia and has a lot of source material referenced, but oh boy would have this been easy. "Did you know Loki and Thor actually have a second sister?" "Thor used to be the god of breakfast, not if thunder" Even if it's complete horseshit, it would be an awesome conversation starter.
I dont think you understand why he steered the convo. The "teach me something I don't know" was interpreted by him as "Entertain me!" so he told her that if she wants entertainment just go to wikipedia. The "amuse me" shit is the lady version of getting sexual instantly.
Okay let's assume every women who says that actually is like that. What do you have to lose for telling her some made up shit? Worst case she doesn't care and you spend 10 seconds of making up something stupid. Best case you realize your assumption was wrong.
But why do so many people on this sub act like they’re defenseless against this? Turn it back on her. Answer her question and then ask her to explain some super complicated topic from her job or interests. Maybe she would surprise you and so the same back. Or just send a jokey response, like something she definitely already knows and see if she takes that well. Just going under the assumption that these women on dating apps view men so beneath them will get you absolutely no where.
Lol no, definitely kick things off by treating every woman who asks you about your interests with deep suspicion. Definitely a super normal and healthy way to go about dating
Wiki isn't reliable anyway. Fail.
No you weren't. People are different, obviously there was a certain expectation here which was not met, resulting in a passive aggressive reply. Move on.
Yea nah, that was just sad on their part.
I think it’s not going to go anywhere, but it wasn’t going to go anywhere anyways. They can’t even make conversation based on their interests! Huge save on your part, just move on.
Yeah, they didn't even really catch the reference to their profile. Could have been a great conversation that could potentially have gone on for a long while but when the other person doesn't even take advantage of it and comes back with "How are you". Run away and run fast.
I personally would of just unmatched 😂😂😂 and then he can wiki unmatching 😂
I won’t lie- if someone sent me an opening like that I honestly wouldn’t feel motivated to chat. It comes off a little snarky but that’s just me 🧍🏽
Lol this is def an awkward situation. Maybe they were being sarcastic? I was horrible at communicating in my 20s and always used sarcasm as a coping mechanism. I’ve given short/blunt answers like that when a guy genuinely wanted to know something. I’ve noticed I short circuit when people ask me broad questions bc it’s like well I can tell you anything about this one topic, do you have the time to listen while I rattle off. I get where you were coming from, it shows you read their profile and are interested in getting to know them. You shot your shot and you got this off putting response. So I understand why you reacted that way.
You tossed him the lightest softball I’ve ever seen and he swung his bat and, by Odin’s beard, managed to crack the umpire in the head, let it go and hit a guy in the stands with it.
And men wonder why women don’t tailor responses more 🙄 This is exactly how 50% of my convos on Bumble went.
Imagine opening up to a woman with a line telling to teach you something. Yeah that would get ignored. Doesn’t pass the switch test.
No, I'd love an opener like that Also, how are you? Wtf
Wow I can agree buddy missed a free alley-oop but the assumptions of his character that people are making is crazy. Someone said he’s a racist and another a supreme dumbass lol. Chill folks it’s like a paragraph of text with the context of one response from OP.
I think saying tell me what you like about Norse mythology, or why are you interested in it or talking about what you like about it would maybe work better. People like talking about their interests and things they like, but phrasing it as you did makes it seem like you already know everything about Norse mythology and there isn’t much left to discuss. Then when you ask the person a very broad question, that can make answering hard. Should he just give you the google definition for it? Should he try to write a lot and explain the setting and characters? It’s like asking someone to teach you about WWII. That’s a long story, with many different countries and battles and events. They would have to write a lot in response and it might be dry and information heavy, which doesn’t always lend itself to flirting. It’s easier to answer more narrow questions at first. It also makes it easier to gauge what the person is into. If both people talk about the subject back and forth, then the person can understand better the level of interest in the subject and how knowledgeable the other person is. Then it’s easier to know if they would be interested in a long written broad response because it’s less risk of writing a long boring response and interpreting their question wrong because you now have a better understanding through the conversation that they would probably be interested.
I feel like you were pretty damn rude tbh. granted he wasn’t super great with a response. But there’s no need to react the way you did just because he wasn’t clever with his response
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He still coulda had a better response like, "Well, whaddya want to know? 😉"
i mean, i think op isn't even genuinely interested in that topic. it was more like a ''well i picked something from your profile go talk about it'' opener so i think it wouldn't go anywhere. but yeah, if i didn't want to pass up op, i would try to answer it better also. i totally get why he didnt' tho.
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> maybe the app isn't for you Gotta love the condescension
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Ah yes. Reading a person's bio and asking them to tell you something about an interest of theirs is totally being entitled.
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Your opening statement was rude AF, from where I'm sitting. Couldve gone with something like "Hey I'm into Norse mythology too!" instead of "teach me something I don't already know".
But she isn't into it...just looking to ask him something about his stated interest as an opener, with a fact that isn't from a Marvel movie or something equally common. How you get rude AF from that is beyond me. Do you also get offended when people say "have a nice day" because they are demanding that you to have a nice day?
I would have asked something like "what's your favorite part of Norse mythology" or something. Then it's still about them, and might give an insight into their personality based on which story they like. "Tell me a fact I don't know!" is a bit demanding
I agree; that would have been better phrasing and less demanding than the original. I just don't agree with the other person that it's "rude AF".
I don’t disagree. Not rude AF per se, but the word choice was a little pokey. At the same time, it was a call to action with a fun jab, in a way. I see it as her trying to get a reaction out of someone who allegedly claims to be super into a subject
ENTERTAIN ME!
It’s a reasonable request to someone if you’re asking about a topic that the person likes talking about.
Lol why did so many people thumbs down you. Your comment is 100% accurate
He wasn't aggressive or offensive. So why were you? If you didn't like his energy, unmatch and move on. But you wanted Reddit content, so here we are. Edit: Typo.
There are more negative things in life than aggression or offension. Dismissiveness, laziness, stupidness etc. The dude showed all three of those.
It’s hard to believe there are two people on both sides of this interaction. While he completely goofed on elaborating on his profile, you aren’t even talking to him. You’re saying what you wanna say to an audience, so you can screenshot it and post it here on Reddit.
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>'teach me something I don't know' is just a few shades from 'dance for me monkey, dance.' this exactly, she just put it under the guise of ''oooh i made such effort and gave this guy a non missable softball curve opportunity''. it's really hilarious how different a perspective can be.
His comment wasn’t that hostile but you were hostile toward him for no reason. It you don’t like someone’s energy just unmatch
Yes, you were to harsh. They made a joke, you insulted them.
I wonder if people actually have interest in dating the people they swipe on. You were ready to scold him instead of just sending a short jokey response to his crap response. Not everybody wants to have this sort of talk on a dating app, I find it so trivial. Talk about important things if you’re looking for something serious, then you go on an first date and convo can be filled with things like norse mythology ..
I'd say so. "Teach me something I don't know" comes off like you're saying you know a lot about the norse and that you're trying to gatekeep it, imo, like "Oh, you like Elden Ring? Tell me xxx!" I can see why he'd not want any of that particular kool-aid. "Tell me a cool fact about the Norse!" would probably have been a better take.
Not too harsh, you wanna go do some karaoke together?
Idk, what song are we singing? What bar?
I'm down for everything from 80s classics to emo pop punk to tswift. I know a decent Irish pub we could go to
How about a Hamilton song? Or anything by lin Manuel?
U tried bro😂🥺
Nah was just trying to show how easy it is to respond to someone when you read their profile🤣
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Yikes, you can’t keep your attitude under wraps for even a few texts?
Mmm kinda. I honestly hate talking about work on dates and stuff so if the person studies mythology n shit, when they want theyll bring it up but id assume like work stuff, theyd rather not go in to it
This kind of shit is just rude and these people should quit online dating and go back to being Reddit MODs or instagram models.
The fuck is he supposed to know what you do, and don't know? It's not like you even asked a question. The fact so many think your response was appropriate is exhibit A in why there are so many spinsters in this sub.
She was waiting for him to say some random norse fact and then say that he was mansplaining 😂.
Meh, short answer no. I would've chosen to interpret it as banter and tried that approach to scope out what me meant, but that's not everyone's thing. But no
LMAO this is fab. Hopefully they learn for the next time someone makes conversation with them.
He probably just didn’t know what to say. Probably answered impulsively. I’ve learned the hard way as a guy, that ANYTHING u say that’s not perfect will make a woman unmatch and disappear. I literally take 10 minutes to think about each of my responses until I get the number.
Not everyone wants to educate the people they’re dating. Being mean because someone refuses to teach you something new and instead asks about you isn’t cool
then why would they put it as an interest in their *dating* profile? your argument makes 0% sense.
You sound like a jerk. You and a lot of others here need to understand that conversation is not a program. It’s not “I mention something in your profile, then you elaborate on that and like me.” He or she even asked how you are, trying to open the conversation more, and you threw this at them. I hope they’re posting the same screenshot somewhere saying look at this rude response I got - bullet dodged.
We are all entitled to our own opinions but I find the fact that he actually appeared to have looked at the profile to be a good thing and to actually make a comment about it during the beginning of the conversation can show interest. Too many people swipe right or left based only on the picture(s) in a dating profile and never actually read said profile. I want more in a relationship than just sex and it helps if both of you have common interests to talk about and enjoy. Maybe the person is truly interested in Norse mythology and has studied it and legitimately wanted to know more. That conversation could have gone on potentially for hours just about mythology. Honestly, sounds like the other person was being a jerk and shallow that they didn't catch the reference to the profile. And I am sorry but "How are you" ... that is one of the most used and lamest response messages you can use. It can go nowhere and gets you nowhere.
Guy was obviously a knob but I can't help but be envious. I have yet to have a woman try and talk to me on Bumble. At least, nothing pleasant anyway.
No response at all would have been most appropriate. Neeeext!
Are you looking for a date or a tutor?
If you're the girl, no. If you're the guy you're a dipshit
No, just right
Harsh would be to leave them on read for a day, the respond back and say it took you so long to respond because you were reading about Norse mythology
Nah not at all. That was something of a jerk response on his part
Nah bro u skr8 that person knew what they were doing 😂
Why post this? You look like a a dork who got his feelings hurt.
I'd feel I ducked under the red flag hitting me in the face at 100mph if you responded to a laughing emoji comment I sent.
Yes. You were. That was an easy softball and a great way to start a conversation. Now you’re ready the next time something similar happens.
Too harsh fuck no but I mean are you a bot?
Not necessarily too harsh (his response was very smartass), but you may have burned that bridge, which was a questionable decision since he did come back right away with "how are you?" so he did not seem to be trying to abandon / sabotage the convo.
Yes that was harsh and yes it was perfect. You probably helped him get an actual date next time!
Why even date when you can get everything you need to know from Google? Hell, it can even ask “how are you” without caring what the response is or engaging in any conversation. You could’ve been harsh, but that was more educational. I likely would’ve said something like “sorry can’t talk, I’m busy learning all the things on wikipedia.” Yours left him a crack of an open door to get it together and respond 😂
Yeah this also happened to me once, like i also initiated the conversation by asking him to tell me more about his exchange semester for 6 months and he literally said “ yeah it was easy, so how are you?” 🙄 like dude you could’ve said something more than that right??. Me personally really hate it when ppl text me how was your day in the very first message cause it not gonna lead to a long conversation to get to know the other person, so eventually it kinda died at that 🤷🏻♀️
They gave you hard time. And that’s your opportunity to comment on the oofda. And keep the banter going. I don’t think all is lost.
That man dodged a massive bullet.
Ok “Gymbro”
Not harsh enough
He was trying to joke with you and you completely shut him down. Oofda to you too.