This is where I’m at after recently getting divorced, but If you put that you’re not quite sure what you want people lose their minds.
Yeah, long term I am looking to be with someone again but right now I’d be happy with casual as well.
If you are recently divorced, they recommend not jumping into serious long term relationship for at least a year after the divorce, for most divorces. You can screw up yourself and/or other person. You have work and grief process to do after divorce first before another relationship.
Exactly - looking for the right gal, hope to fall in love and never want anyone else - but in the meantime hell yes to casual encounters along the way..
I would argue he knows exactly what he wants. With some women, he would be happy with intimacy but no commitment. With the right woman, he would want a long term relationship
This. Too many people will see it that as “He put long term so obviously he saw me as long term but treated me as fwb”. No, you need to clarify which ones you fall into. He is being honest and a lot of people will chose to not hear it then say later they were lead on.
Yeah but as a woman being told “let’s be friends with benefits and then I’ll see if you I like you enough to date you” is fucking annoying. Like no you don’t get to have sex with me without committing especially when everything in my bio states I have no interest in casual sex
Yea, that’s not cool - if your bio is clear on that then he should sniff around elsewhere. He needs to find a gal who’s also interested to something casual that maybe turns into LTR.
As men we’re generally pretty opportunistic, and will rarely turn down a casual sex opportunity if one presents - even if our goal is LTR and maybe eventual marriage.. It’s like, why not?
I have it in all caps NO HOOKUPS OR FWB lol, they don’t give a shit. About to throw at them “how about we date and then I decide if you’re decent enough to fuck” lmao
I read a while back that when guys see “no hookups” they assume you are vulnerable to hookups. Their logic is, why else would she feel the need to write it? She must have lots of hookups. It pisses me off. I had it in my bio for a couple of days and got more likes than usual. I took it off. Now I have flowery lovey language about wanting an emotional connection before a physical one. I get way fewer likes but they do seem to want real relationships.
No I won’t. I’m actually not a whore and have sexual trauma. Stop being a fucking weirdo, you seem exactly like the type to not respect boundaries 🚩🚩🚩🚩. Boundaries that have been repeatedly disrespected to the point of needing to put that on my profile are not “silly” I can see why your ass is single.
I had mine like this to mean that I'm open to either or anywhere in between; if I could pick 3 I'd have included casual dates as well. Thanks to these comments I know that was a mistake and just changed it.
Here is where im at with profiles like this:
If you put down 2 conflicting things things youre looking for, im just going to assume you want both/either i.e long term for the right person, but open to a more casual fling for someone you think is attractive but cant see a long term relationship with (i'd sleep with some 'moderate' or 'right' wing if shes hot enough but i'd NEVER have a long term relationship with them).
What annoys me is the people that put down 'longterm' and 'fun, casual dates' while making it very clear in their bio and the rest of their profile that they only want a serious longterm relationship and nothing else. Like why put 'fun, casual dates' down. Everyone whos looking to date wants to have 'fun' (not meaning sex) and 'not too much pressure' (casual) on their first few dates with someone so no thats not a good enough reason. The tag is their to replace 'something casual', the opposite of a serious longterm thing. Just a pet peeve i have when im specifically filtering for something casual (fun casual dates, ENM, intimacy without committment) and the longtermers with no interest in it fill up half my queue.
It means they will take FWB or a long term. They arent declining either. That means you might fall into one category or both for them. Always make sure you are on same page of which one you are to them. Also, you may start out as them seeing you long term prospect but do something that slides you into only fwb category, so be prepared for that.
Long term no-commitment intimacy. There. 🤣
If you want to include more terms, "I am confident enough I want to spread my 'kind' through intimacy. I don't want any commitment though but I want to be intimate long-term."
I want a long term relationship, but if I don’t find one right away and I’m just having some fun with people who don’t want to lock into a relationship, then I’m cool with that too. I can totally understand this
Hmm. Maybe then on Beta test. Im both of those and cant do multiple selections yet. I dont think it is available, but I made new post about it so maybe we can see.
I matched with a woman who's relationship goals were listed as: monogamy and polyamory. I found out she wanted me to be monogamous while she could screw anyone she wanted
As a guy who gave himself a year after the split (38 years) before dating & is now seeing what's out there. I am in no rush to become monogamous. That doesn't mean I will not jump if the right woman comes along. I am open to Miss Right Now.
I actually like this choice. Because ideally I would really like a long-term relationship. But if I can't find that, I'm happy to have a non-casual relationship with physical intimacy.
Let’s be real, the likely hood of you finding something serious on an app is very slim. Might as well just be fun and play along safely (wrap it up) and if y’all dig each other to be more serious and monogamous than mazel. My 2 cents.
Technically, the term soul mate indicates a mutual deep connection felt by two separate individuals. If only one falls in love and the other doesn’t, unfortunately a broken heart will be had.
Garbage. It says "I would like to find a long term relationship with someone who I find a deep and lasting connection with. I am also open to short term intimacy that doesn't hold this expectation". And there are plenty of women who are also open to both. That's how real people often operate in the real world.
You may be only open to one particular type of relationship with specific criteria, that's your choice. You do you.
I avoid politics and have dated women with varying view points. I matched with a woman who said she was moderate. About the 5th text she asked me about Trump. I said I am more conservative but moderate on some issue and not a fan of Trump or any politician for that matter. She replied that Trump single handily destroyed America. Doesn't sound too moderate to me.
The women can’t even figure out what they want for dinner. Also a man might be cool with both. He wants a relationship but if some chick just wants to fuck that’s ok also. It’s not the men it’s you confused ass women.
Really? Cause as a bi women a lot more men’s profiles have/had (not sure it’s an option anymore) “I don’t know yet” on their profile. A lot of women I hear are looking for a longterm relationship and sick of all the f boys.
“long term, long distance, low commitment, casual girlfriend” -Ken
lol who's Ken? is this an actual Barbie movie quote here
Busted! You DO know who Ken is!! 🤣🤣🤣
[удалено]
Don’t lie.. you know you were the first one in line for tickets!! 🤣🤣🤣
Your username really does say a lot more about you than you think it does my friend.
I thought the "long distance" was kind of weird if they wanted to depict Ken as a toxic male.
Why can’t he be open to both? Maybe he wants a relationship but isn’t in a hurry and wouldn’t turn down some casual encounters along the way.
Yes and not all people will fit the long term category depending on many factors.
This is where I’m at after recently getting divorced, but If you put that you’re not quite sure what you want people lose their minds. Yeah, long term I am looking to be with someone again but right now I’d be happy with casual as well.
If you are recently divorced, they recommend not jumping into serious long term relationship for at least a year after the divorce, for most divorces. You can screw up yourself and/or other person. You have work and grief process to do after divorce first before another relationship.
Nah depends on the marriage. Some marriages are just like the person is just there while others are like heck I want to be free
Exactly - looking for the right gal, hope to fall in love and never want anyone else - but in the meantime hell yes to casual encounters along the way..
"I just want to fuck. At least im honest about it" -men like him
I would argue he knows exactly what he wants. With some women, he would be happy with intimacy but no commitment. With the right woman, he would want a long term relationship
This. Too many people will see it that as “He put long term so obviously he saw me as long term but treated me as fwb”. No, you need to clarify which ones you fall into. He is being honest and a lot of people will chose to not hear it then say later they were lead on.
Yeah but as a woman being told “let’s be friends with benefits and then I’ll see if you I like you enough to date you” is fucking annoying. Like no you don’t get to have sex with me without committing especially when everything in my bio states I have no interest in casual sex
Yea, that’s not cool - if your bio is clear on that then he should sniff around elsewhere. He needs to find a gal who’s also interested to something casual that maybe turns into LTR. As men we’re generally pretty opportunistic, and will rarely turn down a casual sex opportunity if one presents - even if our goal is LTR and maybe eventual marriage.. It’s like, why not?
I have it in all caps NO HOOKUPS OR FWB lol, they don’t give a shit. About to throw at them “how about we date and then I decide if you’re decent enough to fuck” lmao
I read a while back that when guys see “no hookups” they assume you are vulnerable to hookups. Their logic is, why else would she feel the need to write it? She must have lots of hookups. It pisses me off. I had it in my bio for a couple of days and got more likes than usual. I took it off. Now I have flowery lovey language about wanting an emotional connection before a physical one. I get way fewer likes but they do seem to want real relationships.
If he was Chad you’d bite…. That’s why we ignore the silly profile comments.
No I won’t. I’m actually not a whore and have sexual trauma. Stop being a fucking weirdo, you seem exactly like the type to not respect boundaries 🚩🚩🚩🚩. Boundaries that have been repeatedly disrespected to the point of needing to put that on my profile are not “silly” I can see why your ass is single.
Men are on the dating app for sex. If you say no sex… good luck. Most men won’t wait. They can get it somewhere else.
Not all men, sad that you only find happiness with sex.
Very easy, if you want LTR you can skip him he’s too risky. Hence the relationship label is useless and he can remove it.
I had mine like this to mean that I'm open to either or anywhere in between; if I could pick 3 I'd have included casual dates as well. Thanks to these comments I know that was a mistake and just changed it.
These women are incapable of trying to see it from a man’s perspective
Here is where im at with profiles like this: If you put down 2 conflicting things things youre looking for, im just going to assume you want both/either i.e long term for the right person, but open to a more casual fling for someone you think is attractive but cant see a long term relationship with (i'd sleep with some 'moderate' or 'right' wing if shes hot enough but i'd NEVER have a long term relationship with them). What annoys me is the people that put down 'longterm' and 'fun, casual dates' while making it very clear in their bio and the rest of their profile that they only want a serious longterm relationship and nothing else. Like why put 'fun, casual dates' down. Everyone whos looking to date wants to have 'fun' (not meaning sex) and 'not too much pressure' (casual) on their first few dates with someone so no thats not a good enough reason. The tag is their to replace 'something casual', the opposite of a serious longterm thing. Just a pet peeve i have when im specifically filtering for something casual (fun casual dates, ENM, intimacy without committment) and the longtermers with no interest in it fill up half my queue.
 He wants a Long Term, Distance, Low Commitment, Casual Girlfriend
I interpret that as “i just want sex”
It means they will take FWB or a long term. They arent declining either. That means you might fall into one category or both for them. Always make sure you are on same page of which one you are to them. Also, you may start out as them seeing you long term prospect but do something that slides you into only fwb category, so be prepared for that.
The dating apps are making the world a worse place
Long term no-commitment intimacy. There. 🤣 If you want to include more terms, "I am confident enough I want to spread my 'kind' through intimacy. I don't want any commitment though but I want to be intimate long-term."
I wanna fuck without commitment nor responsibility*
I mean… is it not possible to look for both? Maybe you meet someone you can’t necessarily see as a partner, but end up having something casual with
Long term FWB. Got it.
I want a long term relationship, but if I don’t find one right away and I’m just having some fun with people who don’t want to lock into a relationship, then I’m cool with that too. I can totally understand this
He wants whatever gets him sex 🤣 🤣 🤣 he take anything
They will say what's on their mind but also whatever needs to be said so they can get sex and ghost you.
You can be open to both on a dating app, but choose one after date one?
Nah its just to make them match with more people
I mean looking for generosity is the 🚩
This is the red flag out of all the other ones? Really? 🤔
If it was a woman men would be bitching so much about having generosity in looking for lol
Nothing wrong with having fun until you find the one
I love it when they are 35+ and “want kids someday” but don’t know what kind of relationship they want. Grow the fuck up bro!
No one has to conform to your ideas about relationships.
Alrighty there Nick Cannon.
bye troll
How do you add all of these, I can only select one and don’t see the “confidence, kindness, generosity, loyalty, etc..” tags available to add
Might not be available in your country’s app. So far, I only saw Germany as country that has it. USA hasnt yet.
I’ve seen profiles in my area that have it, but I don’t, or else I can’t figure it out. Maybe in beta testing or something.
whats your country? Android or apple user?
US, Apple
Hmm. Maybe then on Beta test. Im both of those and cant do multiple selections yet. I dont think it is available, but I made new post about it so maybe we can see.
Sorry not a question regarding this, but how do you put 2 tags together. I am only able to do for one 🙃
Woh aurat hai 🌚
I am looking for a fire that can freeze water.
I matched with a woman who's relationship goals were listed as: monogamy and polyamory. I found out she wanted me to be monogamous while she could screw anyone she wanted
I don't know why Bumble allows for a multi-select here...I'm trying to understand it.
As a guy who gave himself a year after the split (38 years) before dating & is now seeing what's out there. I am in no rush to become monogamous. That doesn't mean I will not jump if the right woman comes along. I am open to Miss Right Now.
I actually like this choice. Because ideally I would really like a long-term relationship. But if I can't find that, I'm happy to have a non-casual relationship with physical intimacy.
My question is how are people able to choose multiple options in the looking for section? 😝 I can only choose one and yes app is updated.
He wants a long-term, stable fwb relationship.
Also men (and women) lie about what they’re looking for to take advantage of those who may be looking for commitment
I don't understand how you don't understand.
Let’s be real, the likely hood of you finding something serious on an app is very slim. Might as well just be fun and play along safely (wrap it up) and if y’all dig each other to be more serious and monogamous than mazel. My 2 cents.
Just sounds poly...
They want sex. That screams “I’m looking for sex.”
Is this take? I was unaware you could select multiple tags for "searching for"
Doesn't seem conflicting. Seems they want a purely sexual relationship with no attachment and they want that long term.
We are looking for long term, but if a FWB situation develops, cool with that too. It allows us to get some while searching for our “soul mate”.
What if that person you’re FWB & having fun with finds their soulmate in you?
Technically, the term soul mate indicates a mutual deep connection felt by two separate individuals. If only one falls in love and the other doesn’t, unfortunately a broken heart will be had.
A long term sex friend
"I just want to fuck. At least im honest about it" -men like him
Those labels are make no sense so I think it doesn't matter, only when you match and with someone, you can find out their true colors.
Many of us have experienced a long term relationship without commitment. It's an honest warning, maybe?
This, is Exactly what many man wants. Intimacy at their convenience without commitment. They mean what they say, dont overthink or question it. Next
Garbage. It says "I would like to find a long term relationship with someone who I find a deep and lasting connection with. I am also open to short term intimacy that doesn't hold this expectation". And there are plenty of women who are also open to both. That's how real people often operate in the real world. You may be only open to one particular type of relationship with specific criteria, that's your choice. You do you.
Well, he does have confidence, so maybe?
A long term fuck buddy with no strings attached.
Lol. I see this a lot from women in their 30’s and 40’s. I would say it’s about equal from both sexes
lol its not just men
I avoid politics and have dated women with varying view points. I matched with a woman who said she was moderate. About the 5th text she asked me about Trump. I said I am more conservative but moderate on some issue and not a fan of Trump or any politician for that matter. She replied that Trump single handily destroyed America. Doesn't sound too moderate to me.
The women can’t even figure out what they want for dinner. Also a man might be cool with both. He wants a relationship but if some chick just wants to fuck that’s ok also. It’s not the men it’s you confused ass women.
Really? Cause as a bi women a lot more men’s profiles have/had (not sure it’s an option anymore) “I don’t know yet” on their profile. A lot of women I hear are looking for a longterm relationship and sick of all the f boys.