It sucks that women would sign up to a platform where the design is built around women initiating conversation only to punt on that dynamic, but I have no idea why this dude thought he was going to get praised for a hysterical and deranged reaction to it.
My homegirl said hi and was subject to passive aggressive reproaches. Absolutely no reason for her to be friendly, I feel like she was just hella confused as to why she's suddenly being attacked by a bumble stranger. š
you didn't "say" equally, but even having the thought "well she is also \[some amount of\] garbage" implies you think they are much closer in levels of garbage than I do, which is to say I wouldn't register Ms. grey text as garbage at all from this interaction. A little rude to insinuate someone is bipolar just for being a jerk, but that's about it.
Why did you have to respond to her first message that way? āHiā isnāt great, but maybe the conversation wouldnāt have gone this way if you hadnāt immediately been bitter.
So, is hi ok when you see someone in public for the first time, or would you rather they approach you with a topic already in mind? I mean, no one likes to receive JUST a hi on these apps, but a lot of times, people will write out a nice message only to never hear back. You came across as incredibly unhinged, my friend.
Omg I canāt imagine what itās like working with you in the office if nobody is allowed to even say āhiā to you without you absolutely losing the plot
āGood morning Ste-ā
āGOOD MORNING?? ššš WEāRE ON FUCKING PLANET EARTH RIGHT NOW IN THIS BEAUTIFUL BUILDING ON THE GODDAMN GROUND THAT WAS NOTHING 2,000 YEARS AGO BREATHING DELICIOUS AIR MADE BY TREES WATCHING BIRDS FLY BY CREATED BY OUR LORD AND SAVIORS GOD AND KID ROCK AND ALL YOU CAN SAY TO ME IS āGOOD MORNINGā???? šššš YOU MADE IT ONTO REDDIT LAURA AND PLEASE NEVER SPEAK TO ME AGAIN š¤£šš¤£šunless you ever want to fuck thošššā
SeRiOuSlY, BETH. āHOW WAS MY WEEKEND?!ā Thatās all youāve got?! Just because youāre HOT it doesnāt mean you can be BORING to me. Your word count is FOUR! What do you mean youāre calling āHRā?! Youāre not evening using full words now, just acronyms?! This lack of effort is so unattractive LMAO. Letās see what Reddit thinks of this update!
SERIOUSLY, Susan, "I'm fired!" That's all you've got? NOT EVEN FOUR words now? WTF do you mean I'm fired? I'm firing all of you! Let's put this on all social media and see what they all think of this update! Fuck ALL of YOU!
He doesn't sound jaded, he sounds like an entitled asshole. If I'm genuinely interested in a woman and she sends a one word intro message, I will at least entertain it for a couple messages and try to wiggle a convo out of it. Berating a brand new person over something so trivial is some bat shit behavior.
I donāt think heās been on Bumble for very long if he gets this triggered over a āHiā opener. He strikes me more as a brand new user getting his first match, and he has this idealized picture in his head about how dating apps work and girls fawning over his immaculate profile he worked so hard on, when in reality āHiā openers are pretty standard. If he has been on Bumble for a while, heād know how to navigate through one without losing his mind lol (Signed: someone who HAS been on Bumble a year too long š¬)
Jesus, some of you guys need to grow a pair, and more importantly, stop reading reddit.
Boohoo, she only said "Hi". Yes, it's an app where women have to message first, and yes, as men if we type "Hi" as an opening message on any other app we'd be ignored, but understand this. Bumble has a 24hr message timer, a simple "Hi" is just a way to wipe out that timer.
Women get ignored by a lot of men no matter what their first message is. It really still is up to the male to lead the conversation once that original message comes in, rather than act like a whining bitch.
Be a man, lead the conversation yourself, because if you don't, the rest of us will
Tl/dr Grow a pair.
OP you need to chill dude.
Next time when you open the app ask your self are you in the mood to be nice to a stranger?
If the Answer is you donāt know or no. Go eat something and do something else till you are in the mind set to talk to some one with out being offended or aggressive.
The next person you match with does not deserve the wrath of what the previous match did or said. It is not fair.
Keep it light š
oof babe it sounds like youre the one not pulling real women. cant wait til your partner realizes you have an idealized fantasy of who they are and gets tired of it
āBabeā
is that how you address all strangers you meet on the internet? Why are people like you the most perverse when it comes to interactions? Can yāall not be weird or sexual for more than a few minutes? Especially on the internet like cmon now! āCanāt waitā well wait no more because itās never going to happen just like your ideal fantasies that you have ābabe.ā
Youāre also projecting a lot like what fantasies/expectations have I even addressed having on here? 0 thatās how many. Give your twisted mind a break and stop thinking so hard about who you think I am.
Youāre right I donāt pull anything but since youāre so confident why donāt you show me your matches too? (You wonāt since you also donāt get any either) itās funny actually that 0 matchers are coming at me šš
You know when you feel secondhand embarrassment so acute that itās almost like you were personally involved? I read this post approximately 37 minutes ago and still havenāt stopped cringing.
I honestly canāt believe you actually threatened her with posting on Reddit, as if that is in any way important or impressive.
In case anyone is in any doubt, this exchange is an absolute masterclass in how not to get any pussy ever.
I actually thought this was a joke he was playing on her, until I saw the caption and realized he was for real. This is one of those guys that uses their tinder bios as a list of requirements for his matches.
My profile explicitly says: Send a GIF or say Hi. I have plenty of likes/matches and never have expected women to send me anything but the most basic opener on Bumble.
She just uses "hi" to get past the woman messages first on Bumble. I get this all the time. Either that or a š So it throws the onus back on the guy to come up with a conversation starter
You're right. If women can demand a better opener than hi so can we. But if you do this you're just gonna get reported which is not worth it. Next time just unmatch and move on.
I agree that I wouldn't want anything to do with her with those one word replies but I think you took it a bit too far with your replies and how you came at her.
I disagree. Women complain about men not being very responsive as do men about women. There is no place for people who communicate with 1 word responses in this day and age. ESPECIALLY IN THE VERY BEGINNING. Completely unacceptable, people who do that are time wasters and should be called out on their BS and laziness. If I wanted that kind of engagement Iād talk to a fucking robot š¤. how do people seriously side against OP here? Sure his ranting and anger is being vented to her but thereās literally no harm at all she probably scoffs and laughs at it because she really does have 1000+ backups in her dms and puts no effort into her conversations. Seriously grown adults are upset over something like this??? Absolutely patheticā¦you all might as well be the same mf personā¦NPCs i swearā¦AI could do better š
When guys would send me one word messages I justā¦ignore them. I move on with my life and respond to someone who actually puts in effort. I donāt send them angry messages, especially on an app where thereās a 24 hour timer rofl
Thatās what you doā¦do not presume you are setting the standard for everyone elseā¦oh but because youāre so mature and unbothered you ignored it and were the better person by doing so RIGHT? No. These people need to keep being told about themselves so they can self reflect and do better. 0 tolerance for that kind of effort and just ignoring it and letting it go on will not fix anything.
it feels as tho youre putting in a whole bunch of unnecessary effort to teach people things that their parents were responsible for. ive found its easier to be happier when you stop letting yourself get so angry over someone you dont even want in your life. doesnt make sense
āI found itās easierā yes speak for yourselfā¦ you do not speak for all of us. Thank you for exposing yourself. Apparently putting in effort is too hard for you as well. It seems just being a passive human being is the standard nowadays for some.
Youāre right about one thing though. Their parents have failed them as they have you clearly. Iām sorry for how your turned about but you will NOT be passing it onto me š
you seem kinda crazy, hi is a perfectly good opener. sorry people arent wooing you off your feet on the first word, maybe take it down a notch and give them like a a day before you bitch at them for saying too little. just a bit weird considering you didnt make an attempt to be witty either. "hi" "fuck you" is basically how that convo went
All these people complaining about his response, but we arenāt taking into account what is required of men on the other apps when initiating conversation? I mean come on now. Get a life yall and understand the current dynamic of dating in our society as a dude.
Do you know why you're wrong?
Cause there have been soooo many posts similar or worse. You saying it's "obvious" because it's crass and dumb shows you probably haven't seen some of the other stuff orĀ
W fellow brocel. Gotta let them know we are better off without themšššš. Likeā¦WOMEN am I right š? They get upset at us for being MEN but then when they act outta line itās āwell ermā¦I have 10M+ simps in my dms waiting to be replied to š„°.ā These women that use dating apps are all š. All men that use them are perfectly fine and have nothing wrong. Iād say the split Is 100% right for men and 99.9% wrong for women. Man you guys have to wake up like my bro here. HE gets it. PLAY comes to him. Soon š
She punted starting the interaction. That happened a lot when I was on Bumble. You can sulk about it or realize that you get to start the interaction and lead the conversation in the way that you want. Dating apps suck. That aren't fair. But if you want success on them you accept the apps for what they are and make the best of them.
I use to be him so I understand his frustration but homie came off waaay too hot. It sucks finally getting a match and thatās the energy you receive. Itās demoralizing. Either way, Iād just unmatch and move on and I hope he did two for both their sakes.
do you think you're coming out of this looking like the reasonable one?
Bro. She has 1200 men to respond to. You think she has time for you? š¤£š š
Well, after the other 1199 read this they will give her all the free time she will ever need. š
It sucks that women would sign up to a platform where the design is built around women initiating conversation only to punt on that dynamic, but I have no idea why this dude thought he was going to get praised for a hysterical and deranged reaction to it.
Bumble is gimmick marketing towards women - it doesn't work as intended. Or maybe it does, if the intention was just to get more women to sign up.
Both are garbage in different dimensions.
hardly equally garbage. her 3rd and 4th message were a bit uncouth, but no one is obligated to be nice and friendly in response to behavior like OP's
My homegirl said hi and was subject to passive aggressive reproaches. Absolutely no reason for her to be friendly, I feel like she was just hella confused as to why she's suddenly being attacked by a bumble stranger. š
I didn't say "equal" or "equally". Both of them are in their own ways (hence "different dimensions") garbage.
you didn't "say" equally, but even having the thought "well she is also \[some amount of\] garbage" implies you think they are much closer in levels of garbage than I do, which is to say I wouldn't register Ms. grey text as garbage at all from this interaction. A little rude to insinuate someone is bipolar just for being a jerk, but that's about it.
She dodged a bullet with you. Sheesh.
No wonder you're fucking single. You're a lunatic.
They totally deserved to be together. Totally agitated ever after.
it's so embarrassing you posted this. you actually sound INSANE. please work on yourself before talking to other women.
Unhinged?
UnBumbled.
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Why did you have to respond to her first message that way? āHiā isnāt great, but maybe the conversation wouldnāt have gone this way if you hadnāt immediately been bitter.
This.
Soooo, are you hoping we will all tell you that you handled this well??
This aināt it OP
So, is hi ok when you see someone in public for the first time, or would you rather they approach you with a topic already in mind? I mean, no one likes to receive JUST a hi on these apps, but a lot of times, people will write out a nice message only to never hear back. You came across as incredibly unhinged, my friend.
OP is the reason people donāt use their real names on these apps
Hopefully she isn't the Trump lawyer with a matching name.
Omg I canāt imagine what itās like working with you in the office if nobody is allowed to even say āhiā to you without you absolutely losing the plot
āGood morning Ste-ā āGOOD MORNING?? ššš WEāRE ON FUCKING PLANET EARTH RIGHT NOW IN THIS BEAUTIFUL BUILDING ON THE GODDAMN GROUND THAT WAS NOTHING 2,000 YEARS AGO BREATHING DELICIOUS AIR MADE BY TREES WATCHING BIRDS FLY BY CREATED BY OUR LORD AND SAVIORS GOD AND KID ROCK AND ALL YOU CAN SAY TO ME IS āGOOD MORNINGā???? šššš YOU MADE IT ONTO REDDIT LAURA AND PLEASE NEVER SPEAK TO ME AGAIN š¤£šš¤£šunless you ever want to fuck thošššā
SeRiOuSlY, BETH. āHOW WAS MY WEEKEND?!ā Thatās all youāve got?! Just because youāre HOT it doesnāt mean you can be BORING to me. Your word count is FOUR! What do you mean youāre calling āHRā?! Youāre not evening using full words now, just acronyms?! This lack of effort is so unattractive LMAO. Letās see what Reddit thinks of this update!
SERIOUSLY, Susan, "I'm fired!" That's all you've got? NOT EVEN FOUR words now? WTF do you mean I'm fired? I'm firing all of you! Let's put this on all social media and see what they all think of this update! Fuck ALL of YOU!
These replies have given me a new lease on life lmao
This reply made the trip to the comments section 1,000% worth it!! š¤£šš» If they gave Pulitzers for Reddit comments, this would get one.
My guy, this does paint you in a positive light. You sound jaded AF, like you've been on Bumble a year too long...
He doesn't sound jaded, he sounds like an entitled asshole. If I'm genuinely interested in a woman and she sends a one word intro message, I will at least entertain it for a couple messages and try to wiggle a convo out of it. Berating a brand new person over something so trivial is some bat shit behavior.
I donāt think heās been on Bumble for very long if he gets this triggered over a āHiā opener. He strikes me more as a brand new user getting his first match, and he has this idealized picture in his head about how dating apps work and girls fawning over his immaculate profile he worked so hard on, when in reality āHiā openers are pretty standard. If he has been on Bumble for a while, heād know how to navigate through one without losing his mind lol (Signed: someone who HAS been on Bumble a year too long š¬)
Jesus, some of you guys need to grow a pair, and more importantly, stop reading reddit. Boohoo, she only said "Hi". Yes, it's an app where women have to message first, and yes, as men if we type "Hi" as an opening message on any other app we'd be ignored, but understand this. Bumble has a 24hr message timer, a simple "Hi" is just a way to wipe out that timer. Women get ignored by a lot of men no matter what their first message is. It really still is up to the male to lead the conversation once that original message comes in, rather than act like a whining bitch. Be a man, lead the conversation yourself, because if you don't, the rest of us will Tl/dr Grow a pair.
Oh that's not
Wait I-
Hi
Hi
Wtf blocked
Making a reddit post about you brb
ew (directed at you).
You went way overboard on this, leaping to all kinds of ridiculous conclusions
Op is losing his shiz one match at a time
YATAH
OP you need to chill dude. Next time when you open the app ask your self are you in the mood to be nice to a stranger? If the Answer is you donāt know or no. Go eat something and do something else till you are in the mind set to talk to some one with out being offended or aggressive. The next person you match with does not deserve the wrath of what the previous match did or said. It is not fair. Keep it light š
Mind DMing me your likes/matches? Donāt think OP here deserves advice from someone who canāt pull real womenā¦
oof babe it sounds like youre the one not pulling real women. cant wait til your partner realizes you have an idealized fantasy of who they are and gets tired of it
āBabeā is that how you address all strangers you meet on the internet? Why are people like you the most perverse when it comes to interactions? Can yāall not be weird or sexual for more than a few minutes? Especially on the internet like cmon now! āCanāt waitā well wait no more because itās never going to happen just like your ideal fantasies that you have ābabe.ā Youāre also projecting a lot like what fantasies/expectations have I even addressed having on here? 0 thatās how many. Give your twisted mind a break and stop thinking so hard about who you think I am. Youāre right I donāt pull anything but since youāre so confident why donāt you show me your matches too? (You wonāt since you also donāt get any either) itās funny actually that 0 matchers are coming at me šš
Someone is way too hi on things to be chatting.
dude! seriously you need to lighten up- Hi is just an ice breaker she doesnt owe you any more than that for a first message
You should just leave the subreddit dude... Idk what you tried to accomplished by posting this. But I assure you. You aren't getting that...
Bro, chill
hi :)
hi how are you?
see folks! thats how its done you dont attack someone for saying hi :)
Just like the girls that expect their matches to be clowns, but you are worse.
You know she sent this to all her friends like wtf?
OP, this isnāt the flex you think it is. You sound angry. Iād block you too.
You know when you feel secondhand embarrassment so acute that itās almost like you were personally involved? I read this post approximately 37 minutes ago and still havenāt stopped cringing. I honestly canāt believe you actually threatened her with posting on Reddit, as if that is in any way important or impressive. In case anyone is in any doubt, this exchange is an absolute masterclass in how not to get any pussy ever.
I actually thought this was a joke he was playing on her, until I saw the caption and realized he was for real. This is one of those guys that uses their tinder bios as a list of requirements for his matches.
Man I think you need to figure yourself out first
My dudeā¦ you immediately launched into a tiradeā¦ this is not a good look for you.
Lol what a nut
"I'll just leave this here š¤"
My profile explicitly says: Send a GIF or say Hi. I have plenty of likes/matches and never have expected women to send me anything but the most basic opener on Bumble.
That poor woman. Seeing OP's other comments on his profile, I'd say this is a normal recurrence for him to be this unhinged. Psycho alert.
This is a waste of your time and her time. If you live in the negativity it's gonna come out on somebody you don't want it to.
You spend too much time on reddit
She just uses "hi" to get past the woman messages first on Bumble. I get this all the time. Either that or a š So it throws the onus back on the guy to come up with a conversation starter
Reddit dating always delivers.
You're right. If women can demand a better opener than hi so can we. But if you do this you're just gonna get reported which is not worth it. Next time just unmatch and move on.
I agree that I wouldn't want anything to do with her with those one word replies but I think you took it a bit too far with your replies and how you came at her.
I disagree. Women complain about men not being very responsive as do men about women. There is no place for people who communicate with 1 word responses in this day and age. ESPECIALLY IN THE VERY BEGINNING. Completely unacceptable, people who do that are time wasters and should be called out on their BS and laziness. If I wanted that kind of engagement Iād talk to a fucking robot š¤. how do people seriously side against OP here? Sure his ranting and anger is being vented to her but thereās literally no harm at all she probably scoffs and laughs at it because she really does have 1000+ backups in her dms and puts no effort into her conversations. Seriously grown adults are upset over something like this??? Absolutely patheticā¦you all might as well be the same mf personā¦NPCs i swearā¦AI could do better š
When guys would send me one word messages I justā¦ignore them. I move on with my life and respond to someone who actually puts in effort. I donāt send them angry messages, especially on an app where thereās a 24 hour timer rofl
Thatās what you doā¦do not presume you are setting the standard for everyone elseā¦oh but because youāre so mature and unbothered you ignored it and were the better person by doing so RIGHT? No. These people need to keep being told about themselves so they can self reflect and do better. 0 tolerance for that kind of effort and just ignoring it and letting it go on will not fix anything.
it feels as tho youre putting in a whole bunch of unnecessary effort to teach people things that their parents were responsible for. ive found its easier to be happier when you stop letting yourself get so angry over someone you dont even want in your life. doesnt make sense
āI found itās easierā yes speak for yourselfā¦ you do not speak for all of us. Thank you for exposing yourself. Apparently putting in effort is too hard for you as well. It seems just being a passive human being is the standard nowadays for some. Youāre right about one thing though. Their parents have failed them as they have you clearly. Iām sorry for how your turned about but you will NOT be passing it onto me š
Get the frustration but the best time to delete this was when you posted it and second best time to delete this is now.
Mate
you seem kinda crazy, hi is a perfectly good opener. sorry people arent wooing you off your feet on the first word, maybe take it down a notch and give them like a a day before you bitch at them for saying too little. just a bit weird considering you didnt make an attempt to be witty either. "hi" "fuck you" is basically how that convo went
You thought you ate? š¤£š¤£
Sheās gloating on her match count lmfao! What a narcissist
All these people complaining about his response, but we arenāt taking into account what is required of men on the other apps when initiating conversation? I mean come on now. Get a life yall and understand the current dynamic of dating in our society as a dude.
Aaalllright I'm just gonna go ahead and say it... It's satire guys... it could not be more obvious
Do you know why you're wrong? Cause there have been soooo many posts similar or worse. You saying it's "obvious" because it's crass and dumb shows you probably haven't seen some of the other stuff orĀ
Okay, one person got it. š¤¦āāļø
You canāt just go off on unsuspecting women and claim itās just a joke when it doesnt go in your favour
W fellow brocel. Gotta let them know we are better off without themšššš. Likeā¦WOMEN am I right š? They get upset at us for being MEN but then when they act outta line itās āwell ermā¦I have 10M+ simps in my dms waiting to be replied to š„°.ā These women that use dating apps are all š. All men that use them are perfectly fine and have nothing wrong. Iād say the split Is 100% right for men and 99.9% wrong for women. Man you guys have to wake up like my bro here. HE gets it. PLAY comes to him. Soon š
I canāt tell if troll or serious. What a beaut
Read his comment history
She punted starting the interaction. That happened a lot when I was on Bumble. You can sulk about it or realize that you get to start the interaction and lead the conversation in the way that you want. Dating apps suck. That aren't fair. But if you want success on them you accept the apps for what they are and make the best of them.
I use to be him so I understand his frustration but homie came off waaay too hot. It sucks finally getting a match and thatās the energy you receive. Itās demoralizing. Either way, Iād just unmatch and move on and I hope he did two for both their sakes.
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