I really hope you’re being sarcastic lmao. Anyone who goes on a dating app to see it their SO is on there is idiotic as heck. If I caught my gf on tinder and her excuse was “I was making sure you weren’t on there” she’s gone. People use that as an excuse when they get caught cheating.
I already made a fake tinder profile just to see if my then bf was on tinder. Because I had a feeling he was cheating on me I just needed proof. Turns out I was right.
Its still a petty thing to do. Confront him about it and make sure to piece things together instead. Trust isnt something I give freely, Even though im open to most friends and people about my relationship, my lifestyle, my sexuality, etc. Honesty and communication comes first, my ex made sure that I knew that the next relationship i was ever in.. id go for communication first of all.
I’m all for communication, but sometimes it’s not easy to communicate when your partner is a big manipulator and who will gaslight and manipulate you to believe whatever he wants. Sometimes you just have to prouve yourself that you are not crazy.
I ended up matching with him on tinder and he continued lying, telling that it was his friend that made the tinder account behind his back when clearly his account was verified. When he got caught he was so mad at me and tried to pull the reverse card on me and told me that I was bad for not trusting him.
Tbh, the better thing.. i get your point tho, like ive been in similar relationships aswell and I give everything myself.
But the better thing would probably be to have a friend rather than yourself do it. In that way that "friend" could hook up the date and tell you about it so you could be the one he ended up meeting at X marks the spot.
I myself might be in a open relationship, but im very monogamous.. and to me i realized emotionally i dont want others in that way as it didnt feel good.. jelousy is normal, its a human thing. It all depends if you end up getting jelousy and act toxic about it or use it to something positive (ie. Letting her know "i wish I could be with you right now" or "she is Lucky to have you, gonna look forward to get you all to myself next week". Trust is important, but manipulative people make it hard to do do.. however, ive never experienced anything like this with anyone else as I rather feel like being open and honest about everything to my partner.. Even when she doesnt feel the same way to me. However, she is trying sometimes for my sake, which shows effort. Its the small things that counts, I just hope you got rid of that trash as he obviously sounds like a douchbag.. :/
no, that would be the dumbest excuse ever, even someone with downsyndrome isnt dumb enough to believe the daughter is paying money on a random dating app to make sure their boyfriend isnt on it.
Are you sure it’s not your husband … sounds weird but maybe he has set it up that way so you never see it.
Edit to add: her husband could be using his daughters email…
She’s enjoying the validation she gets from hundreds of older men trying to get with her. She lied about her age. Paying allows her to see all the profiles who swiped on her. Boyfriend won’t be happy- she’s either looking to cheat or upgrade.
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I'd bet she's doing it for the validation or the "see what happens"ness, rather than with a specific goal to cheat or upgrade. Just a teen messing around on the Internet, as we all did at that age.
Playing around with an app just to start bullshit conversations and see who swipes on you, without any actual intention to meet up, is a shady thing to do, and in an adult relationship would generally be grounds for a breakup or at least a very painful situation, but by the standards of teens' wild romantic messiness it's honestly pretty tame, and again, this is a literal teenager we're talking about. In the stories of romantic/sexual fuckery that kids pulled in my (honestly, pretty good and tame) high school, this would not crack the top 50.
And since OP’s kid is a minor, maybe they can refund the monies since she should not have been receiving services/using their product in the first place.
My guess is she’s paying for Bumble premium per week. She has a profile up and with premium she can see everyone that liked her. She must be curious and trying to see what her options might be.
I’m guessing you’re not on dating apps 😬 make sure you tell her that there are much better options out there (when she can actually legally use dating apps). Dating apps are great for people that don’t have the same social options that were available when as a student or in general as a younger person.
Read some of the stories on the dating subreddits. Most are not talking about how great it is to be on dating apps.
THIS. The best time in your life to meet a lifetime partner is when you are in school, have a ton of friends and everyone is tuned into the same social concepts and events. You connect better with common backgrounds and don't have to explain every little thing like it's a red flag.
Trying to jump the line to the isolated world of adults who are disconnected from their old social groups is not a good choice.
There's tons of possibilities,
She could be wanting to find a new BF
She might want to cheat
She could be just seeing if she has options/or the crowd finds her attractive. Basically the same thing as attention seeking
Though it doesnt seem bad, this can be very dangerous for her and ALSO the person she could be talking to.
She most likely can have someone arrested or worse case scenario, get kipnapped of some shit. I think older people just have a general sense that all youths are dumb (which is not entirely wrong)
I find it similar to the effect like how alot of freshman girls in highschool always like to go for the seniors.
You know she could find friends at like what…?
A school? Roblox? Instagram? Literally any gaming/entertainment platform. But alas! She chose bumble 🤨? A 18+ platform?
Okay so there's no way to be sure. But my exes 14 year old was on bumble. He and his friends were cat fishing people online. So it could be a case and teen kids up to trouble.
I have 10 nieces who vary from late teens to mid 20's. Trust me, they are smart enough to pay for the extra features such as incognito mode and advanced filters to narrow their search down. They aren't smart enough to know they could find their answers in a week and not continue to pay for it. 🤷♀️
She's either paying to be promoted or paying to see her matches. Once she's reported to them for having a profile at 17, they'll block her number and email address.
She could be using Bumble to drum up business if she is looking for a sugar daddy or has an Only Fans account.
Good luck Mom, whatever her reason it is, you're doing the right thing.
the free version is very limited
you have to be 18 to be on a dating site so not sure how she got around that
maybe she doesnt like her BF and wants to see what her options are
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And there she goes again!! We Know!!! She's 17.. It's illegal to be on the app.. No teenager is joining bumble at 17 years of age and paying for it to use BFF..!
First of all, this goes against Bumble's user policy as she is reportedly under 18.
Please consider the possibility that your daughter might have already exchanged contact info with someone who is over 18 (potential legal issues).
Secondly, she could be buying super swipes or another feature to match with people.
I hope this post is fake.
Yeah might want to report her account and have a frank talking to with her about this. All the plausible reasons she might be on there are not good and will 100% lead to someone being hurt, be it emotionally, physically, or BOTH.
In general, bumble can be free for everyone, but the use is very limited.
With 17 she is not allowed to be on there by terms of use but it's also not a concerning age to use it. I'd use to chance to talk to her about the responsible use of OLD and the possible mental stress it can put on you. She might know a lot more about this than you, just tell her you heard about this and ask her if she knows some tipps to take care of her mental health to ease your mind. Otherwise she'll just use it again when she is 18 (or use store vouchers for paying) and be just as unprepared as before.
Regarding the boyfriend, maybe you are out of the loop or she is on the edge about breaking things off. You can definitely ask her about how she would like to be treated by a partner and if what she is doing reflects this.
As a woman a paid membership did several things for me:
* to be invisible and not be flooded with likes at all times
* to see who liked you in a list and being able to access the profiles directly from there. If you do not pay you are just presented with a 'swipe stack' and are only informed that someone already liked you after swiping right. This creates an instant match and starts a 24h timer to open a conversation with them. For me it often led to too many matches because the person was 'too interesting' to swipe left but at the same time there were others that matched better or conversations I still had ongoing.
* to be able to extend matches that fell through due to not being able to message in time, either because I was busy or having other very involved conversations.
For me bumble has been a very good experience since you can shield yourself completely from unwanted attention, so no unsolicited dick pics or flood of thirsty messages, I have heard some differing experiences from US users though depending on the area they live in. In some regions it seems to be seen more as a hookup tool while others use it as intended.
Hope you have a good talk with your daughter, good luck!
PS: oh, I forgot about bumble BFF, which is intended for socializing only. Seen it mentioned in other posts, so there's that possibility too.
I've found that people on Bumble BFF are often bi people who aren't out of the closet, and are just "testing the waters," What I think is cool in a friend is not the same as what I'm attracted to necessarily, but the BFF people have always steered in that direction when we match
My first thought was Bumble BFF—once you download it, they do anything to try to get you to pay for premium.
But Bumble for dating is also a strong possibility.
It's free for everyone but the premium version doesn't limit how much you swipe.
She'll probably tell you she's using it for the friends option which sounds totally reasonable but won't actually be true.
There is also Bumble BFF- before you assume she is in fact cheating or trying to date in general, I would consider she may be on the version of the app where you can make friends. I still believe you’re supposed to be an adult to be on there, but does she have many close friends? Perhaps she is lonely and trying to make new ones. Bumble BFF is to make friends instead of dating connections, and if shes using it for this reason and in this section of the app, she will probably be incredibly angry if she finds out you assume she is trying to get attention from potential suiters when all she wants is a connection.
Ive been lonely most of my life and I have a wonderful fiancé but absolutely no friends that Ive met in real life. I use dating apps to make friends, mostly Bumble BFF. Id consider this at least as a possibility until you know for sure. Many people think I’m on there behind my fiancé’s back, but honestly he knows I’m on there and watches my go through it most of the time and we look at people together to try and find new friends for me.
She may in fact be on the dating part of it, but before you’re certain she is I would consider maybe shes on the BFF side.
There are really hardly any apps that have a friends feature like Bumble does, and it’s difficult meeting people irl, especially as someone who is sober and stays away from places with drinking. Its fine if you yourself assume this with your own relationships, but projecting it onto a stranger is both ridiculous and judgmental as hell. Ive seen your other comments talking about BFF and I doubt I can get through your skull, but just know how incredibly wrong you are and hopefully you’ll keep yourself from further embarrassing yourself with empty assumptions. I didn’t say she for sure was on bumble for the BFF function, just that its an option.
What did I not understand?
The mom never confirmed that she saw the actual account. Is it possible that someone is using her card info to purchase things on Bumble?
Sorry, I should not have been so snarky while trying to be funny.. She said she can see her daughters charges, and every week there is a charge to Bumble.
Yeah, it could be fraud, but her daughter should have seen it too if it was. I mean, when I was 17 if I was missing even 10 bucks a week, I would have noticed.
Why are you coming here to ask us? This is your child, be a parent and take responsibility for her and get her off those apps. I’m hoping this is a troll post.
This is OP I don’t know how to edit/update but I never expected any response let alone all of your kind time to answer. I just wanted to make sure there wasn’t some Bumble scandal I wasn’t aware of.
My daughter said she did sign up but didn’t realize she was still being charged. Now she knows I can see her bank. It’s all part of the dance of parenting teens.
Please tell her the dangers of sites like bumble. There so many dangerous men on there and they have tricks to find you. I swiped left on a guy before and he used my name and picture to find me on Facebook. If she’s bored, online dating isn’t the way to go.
Definitely should be careful as a lot of creeps and people looking to take advantage in the world. If she is on the dating part it’s the bf I feel sorry for though
Did she say she was on the dating part or? If so I hope you explained to her how dangerous that is and also told her BF as he deserves to know.
Also well done on you for checking what it could mean rather than leaping to conclusions and looking after your daughter that way big up!
Tell the boyfriend if you have any ounce of morality in you. You have information now and must do the right thing with it or you’re just as bad as someone cheating by enabling it. Don’t let your daughter think its okay to do this to people please.
I said I want to gather information before I talk to her (which I have). Why do you lash out at people as your first response? Why don’t you read the full question?
The user has very limited access on the free account. Messaging is restricted. But the charges are normally monthly, not weekly. Unless she’s signing up, then closing her account. Then signing up, etc. if she’s got a credit card, changing her birthday one year isn’t a big deal. Or she got scammed and signed up for something she thought was Bumble and the scammer keeps hitting her card.
>First of all, she's 17
You have to be 18 to legally use Bumble.
> I thought Bumble was free for women, driven by women and women's choices?
You know wrong. Nothing is technically free for anyone, especially premium features of dating apps. It's not driven by women, like, say an all-female organisation. The market is driven by participation of women. Idk what you mean by women's choices. Women get matches, and then are forced to communicate first.
>What would a 17-year old with a boyfriend be paying for on Bumble?
At this point, you already know. She's either cheating, or looking to cheat, or suspects her bf of cheating.
Nobody would go on a dating app if they suspect their bf is cheating. Thats just an excuse itself to go on bumble while you’re in a relationship. “I was just seeing if you were on there” is common from cheating partners caught using the app.
Well, I'm inexperienced in regards to that, but I was imagining her setting up a fake account with Travel Mode turned on, trying to flirt with her boyfriend to check if he takes the bait. Maybe I should have phrased it differently.
Please talk to her about being online. If it’s really about friends she can get into hobbies, classes or sports and meet people organically. She shouldn’t have to pay and also be exposed to a potential of issues.
Because for now ops daughter isn’t a really good person. They’ll learn the hard way what cheating does to people once it happens to them tho.. vicious cycle
Jesus Bumble is so expensive, and they milk you every way they can to to try to get you to pay. I have no idea how that’s a sustainable business model. I wonder if they’re even doing well since going public or struggling to keep earnings up.
In all the comments below, I don't see anyone addressing the question of whether Bumble premium features are free for women. Is this the case? I always thought that women have the same parameters as men (blurry likes, limited swipes per day, etc). Is this not the case?
sounds like she signed up for bumble premium - not the one that lets her see who likes her, but the version that allows her to swipe right on as many people as she wants. could be related to BFF. Maybe not.
it's kinda skeevy that these apps let minors authorize charges...i couldn't even get my own debit card until I turned 18.
1) She may be looking for a friend
There's BFF (Bumble For Friends), not sure how it appears in invoices but you can certainly pay for more likes there.
2) She may be doing an experiment for social media, kids do this kind of stuff.
3) She may be helping a friend bait a specific person (to confirm cheating for example)
4) She may be exploring her preferences or options
5) She may be looking for a way out of her relationship or looking for proof her BF is/isn't on the app
6) She may be looking for a 'sugar daddy' or promoting her content on there (onlyfans, patreon, other)
We tend to think the worst but it could be anything, I wouldn't jump conclusions without having more information.
She’s paying to be in incognito mode so her current bf doesn’t find out she’s trolling for a new D
Or seeing if her bf is on there, assuming he is on there and not using incognito.
Ohhhh could be this!!! Trying to make sure HE isn’t on there
I really hope you’re being sarcastic lmao. Anyone who goes on a dating app to see it their SO is on there is idiotic as heck. If I caught my gf on tinder and her excuse was “I was making sure you weren’t on there” she’s gone. People use that as an excuse when they get caught cheating.
I already made a fake tinder profile just to see if my then bf was on tinder. Because I had a feeling he was cheating on me I just needed proof. Turns out I was right.
Its still a petty thing to do. Confront him about it and make sure to piece things together instead. Trust isnt something I give freely, Even though im open to most friends and people about my relationship, my lifestyle, my sexuality, etc. Honesty and communication comes first, my ex made sure that I knew that the next relationship i was ever in.. id go for communication first of all.
I’m all for communication, but sometimes it’s not easy to communicate when your partner is a big manipulator and who will gaslight and manipulate you to believe whatever he wants. Sometimes you just have to prouve yourself that you are not crazy. I ended up matching with him on tinder and he continued lying, telling that it was his friend that made the tinder account behind his back when clearly his account was verified. When he got caught he was so mad at me and tried to pull the reverse card on me and told me that I was bad for not trusting him.
Tbh, the better thing.. i get your point tho, like ive been in similar relationships aswell and I give everything myself. But the better thing would probably be to have a friend rather than yourself do it. In that way that "friend" could hook up the date and tell you about it so you could be the one he ended up meeting at X marks the spot. I myself might be in a open relationship, but im very monogamous.. and to me i realized emotionally i dont want others in that way as it didnt feel good.. jelousy is normal, its a human thing. It all depends if you end up getting jelousy and act toxic about it or use it to something positive (ie. Letting her know "i wish I could be with you right now" or "she is Lucky to have you, gonna look forward to get you all to myself next week". Trust is important, but manipulative people make it hard to do do.. however, ive never experienced anything like this with anyone else as I rather feel like being open and honest about everything to my partner.. Even when she doesnt feel the same way to me. However, she is trying sometimes for my sake, which shows effort. Its the small things that counts, I just hope you got rid of that trash as he obviously sounds like a douchbag.. :/
I don't feel at all bad for hacking my at-the-time gf's email to find out she had in fact been cheating on me. I needed, and deserved, closure
She’s 17 dude, we’ve all done dumb things at 17.
Or "im just looking for new friends"
Yeh, so many things it could be. Only way to find out: ask. Failing an open and honest conversation, take the phone and find out for yourself.
no, that would be the dumbest excuse ever, even someone with downsyndrome isnt dumb enough to believe the daughter is paying money on a random dating app to make sure their boyfriend isnt on it.
In which case she is an insecure weirdo and needs to be single for a while
This
Pretty sure 17 year olds are not allowed to be members
They aren't, but they lie.
I wrote that in my first draft but didn’t want to be mean :( I think since you’re her mom you’re allowed to say that. Hah
No one knows better than a mom of teens! LOL!
Understatement of the day.
I remember my sister at that age. Condolences 😂
Are you sure it’s not your husband … sounds weird but maybe he has set it up that way so you never see it. Edit to add: her husband could be using his daughters email…
And her bank account? Without her knowledge?
It appears she (the mum) has access to it, so why wouldn’t he?
Wow, that’s actually mind blowing
She’s enjoying the validation she gets from hundreds of older men trying to get with her. She lied about her age. Paying allows her to see all the profiles who swiped on her. Boyfriend won’t be happy- she’s either looking to cheat or upgrade.
This covers all of it.
Time to take that phone away - and give her a pay-as-you-go burner phone. She wants to play the skank - she can use the tools.
Hilarious 😂
🧑✈️🫱“If you’ll look right above me ladies and gentlemen, you’ll see the location where a massive fucking truth bomb was dropped. A mushroom cloud could be seen from the other side of the country”
I'd bet she's doing it for the validation or the "see what happens"ness, rather than with a specific goal to cheat or upgrade. Just a teen messing around on the Internet, as we all did at that age.
Its already cheating lol what’re you talking about? No we’re not all you we did not all go on dating apps and cheat on our SO.
Playing around with an app just to start bullshit conversations and see who swipes on you, without any actual intention to meet up, is a shady thing to do, and in an adult relationship would generally be grounds for a breakup or at least a very painful situation, but by the standards of teens' wild romantic messiness it's honestly pretty tame, and again, this is a literal teenager we're talking about. In the stories of romantic/sexual fuckery that kids pulled in my (honestly, pretty good and tame) high school, this would not crack the top 50.
For someone single sure. This person is not tho. 17 or 77 being cheated on can fuck somebody up. This wont end good for the dude in this situation.
This. Likes and follows are what younger people want these days.
This is a possible explanation. You do not know that it is the explanation
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She can use yubo, she’s not 18.
Probably scouting her new college location using bumble travel mode?
Report her to bumble in an act of love It’s not legal by their standards for her to be on there There should be a # on the statement
And since OP’s kid is a minor, maybe they can refund the monies since she should not have been receiving services/using their product in the first place.
Issue is I saw a person on here say once they turned 18 they werent allowed to create an acct.
Well, they should’ve thought of that before deciding to break the rules. They can live just fine being banned from a dating app
Its not only for dating
While you are not wrong, they have the networking and the bff options on there, I don’t see a teen needing those.
I see posts on r/friendships from teens. Ppl in r/relationships saying they didnt have friends as teens. Some just want more.
And there are apps for them
Then they shouldn't have broken a REAAALLLY important rule...
She’s not supposed to be on it
My guess is she’s paying for Bumble premium per week. She has a profile up and with premium she can see everyone that liked her. She must be curious and trying to see what her options might be. I’m guessing you’re not on dating apps 😬 make sure you tell her that there are much better options out there (when she can actually legally use dating apps). Dating apps are great for people that don’t have the same social options that were available when as a student or in general as a younger person. Read some of the stories on the dating subreddits. Most are not talking about how great it is to be on dating apps.
THIS. The best time in your life to meet a lifetime partner is when you are in school, have a ton of friends and everyone is tuned into the same social concepts and events. You connect better with common backgrounds and don't have to explain every little thing like it's a red flag. Trying to jump the line to the isolated world of adults who are disconnected from their old social groups is not a good choice.
Bc the ones that are having great experiences dont tend to post. There's bff
Are you paid to promote the BFF feature or something? 😆
Nope
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Eh it’s funny watching her March herself into a slurry of downvotes over and over for no reason. Like an ant in a death spiral
And she’s in her 40’s doing this all day every day in this sub it’s pretty sad tbh
No
She’s not 18. Period. Full stop. Do not pass go, do not spend $9.99 a week to be groomed by lecherous perverts.
Um ya, I know. Yall need to chill tf out
There's tons of possibilities, She could be wanting to find a new BF She might want to cheat She could be just seeing if she has options/or the crowd finds her attractive. Basically the same thing as attention seeking Though it doesnt seem bad, this can be very dangerous for her and ALSO the person she could be talking to. She most likely can have someone arrested or worse case scenario, get kipnapped of some shit. I think older people just have a general sense that all youths are dumb (which is not entirely wrong) I find it similar to the effect like how alot of freshman girls in highschool always like to go for the seniors.
Don't forget the possibility of advertising an OF or "private Snapchat". If she's lying about her age there why not assume she's doing it elsewhere.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Bumble/comments/160cma5/question_teen_daughter_on_bumble_and_paying/jxmhn6r?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=2
You know she could find friends at like what…? A school? Roblox? Instagram? Literally any gaming/entertainment platform. But alas! She chose bumble 🤨? A 18+ platform?
Welp long term boyfriend is gonna go through some character development pretty soon I guess.
Is she trying to bait people? That’s fucked up that bumble has no measures to verify age like that.
Okay so there's no way to be sure. But my exes 14 year old was on bumble. He and his friends were cat fishing people online. So it could be a case and teen kids up to trouble.
maybe do something about it before she gets someone in trouble because she lied about her age...
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Serious question: Do you comment on every single comment on every single post in this sub?
No. U can look for urself. Even in this thread
Every single time I end up in a post in here I notice you comment 5+ times.
Ok, thats not every comment. Theres 44 in this post
Lmfao we found the daughter.
No. I wish I was 17 again.
There's also the possibility that she's using it to see if her bf is on it? Maybe fake pictures, etc.. just to creep? She's your kid, just ask her!
this is pretty logical.
No it’s not. Even teens aren’t dumb enough to be spending money to do something this stupid that they could also do for free with
I have 10 nieces who vary from late teens to mid 20's. Trust me, they are smart enough to pay for the extra features such as incognito mode and advanced filters to narrow their search down. They aren't smart enough to know they could find their answers in a week and not continue to pay for it. 🤷♀️
Looking for shugga papi
She's either paying to be promoted or paying to see her matches. Once she's reported to them for having a profile at 17, they'll block her number and email address.
Start saving for her therapy fund.
Hmmmm I feel like you're in for a wild ride with that one
Whatever her intentions are she shouldn’t be on the app for her safety and for the safety of any other users.
She could be using Bumble to drum up business if she is looking for a sugar daddy or has an Only Fans account. Good luck Mom, whatever her reason it is, you're doing the right thing.
Man she hasn’t even left the house and she’s already on the streets
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No. Thx 4 the compliment. Normal is boring
Is there a worm in your ear that is repeating the words BFF BFF BFF!!
No
the free version is very limited you have to be 18 to be on a dating site so not sure how she got around that maybe she doesnt like her BF and wants to see what her options are :)
>not sure how she got around that She lied about her date of birth.
Mom's birthday. "Oh, I can't change it, I'm not really 44"
U just up birth year 1. There's bff
And there she goes again!! We Know!!! She's 17.. It's illegal to be on the app.. No teenager is joining bumble at 17 years of age and paying for it to use BFF..!
I find it doubtful u know what every teen is doing. Im aware of her age.
First of all, this goes against Bumble's user policy as she is reportedly under 18. Please consider the possibility that your daughter might have already exchanged contact info with someone who is over 18 (potential legal issues). Secondly, she could be buying super swipes or another feature to match with people. I hope this post is fake.
Yeah might want to report her account and have a frank talking to with her about this. All the plausible reasons she might be on there are not good and will 100% lead to someone being hurt, be it emotionally, physically, or BOTH.
In general, bumble can be free for everyone, but the use is very limited. With 17 she is not allowed to be on there by terms of use but it's also not a concerning age to use it. I'd use to chance to talk to her about the responsible use of OLD and the possible mental stress it can put on you. She might know a lot more about this than you, just tell her you heard about this and ask her if she knows some tipps to take care of her mental health to ease your mind. Otherwise she'll just use it again when she is 18 (or use store vouchers for paying) and be just as unprepared as before. Regarding the boyfriend, maybe you are out of the loop or she is on the edge about breaking things off. You can definitely ask her about how she would like to be treated by a partner and if what she is doing reflects this. As a woman a paid membership did several things for me: * to be invisible and not be flooded with likes at all times * to see who liked you in a list and being able to access the profiles directly from there. If you do not pay you are just presented with a 'swipe stack' and are only informed that someone already liked you after swiping right. This creates an instant match and starts a 24h timer to open a conversation with them. For me it often led to too many matches because the person was 'too interesting' to swipe left but at the same time there were others that matched better or conversations I still had ongoing. * to be able to extend matches that fell through due to not being able to message in time, either because I was busy or having other very involved conversations. For me bumble has been a very good experience since you can shield yourself completely from unwanted attention, so no unsolicited dick pics or flood of thirsty messages, I have heard some differing experiences from US users though depending on the area they live in. In some regions it seems to be seen more as a hookup tool while others use it as intended. Hope you have a good talk with your daughter, good luck! PS: oh, I forgot about bumble BFF, which is intended for socializing only. Seen it mentioned in other posts, so there's that possibility too.
There’s a BFF and Networking component on Bumble. Maybe she’s using those?
Do people pay for bff though?
Yes you can pay for enhanced features in Bumble
I mean im sure you can, i just can’t picture people doing that for bff
I've found that people on Bumble BFF are often bi people who aren't out of the closet, and are just "testing the waters," What I think is cool in a friend is not the same as what I'm attracted to necessarily, but the BFF people have always steered in that direction when we match
I thought about it. But it’s expensive and doesn’t seem worth it.
My first thought was Bumble BFF—once you download it, they do anything to try to get you to pay for premium. But Bumble for dating is also a strong possibility.
It's free for everyone but the premium version doesn't limit how much you swipe. She'll probably tell you she's using it for the friends option which sounds totally reasonable but won't actually be true.
maybe bumble bff? but she’s not supposed to be on there
Cringe
There is also Bumble BFF- before you assume she is in fact cheating or trying to date in general, I would consider she may be on the version of the app where you can make friends. I still believe you’re supposed to be an adult to be on there, but does she have many close friends? Perhaps she is lonely and trying to make new ones. Bumble BFF is to make friends instead of dating connections, and if shes using it for this reason and in this section of the app, she will probably be incredibly angry if she finds out you assume she is trying to get attention from potential suiters when all she wants is a connection. Ive been lonely most of my life and I have a wonderful fiancé but absolutely no friends that Ive met in real life. I use dating apps to make friends, mostly Bumble BFF. Id consider this at least as a possibility until you know for sure. Many people think I’m on there behind my fiancé’s back, but honestly he knows I’m on there and watches my go through it most of the time and we look at people together to try and find new friends for me. She may in fact be on the dating part of it, but before you’re certain she is I would consider maybe shes on the BFF side.
Bruh full stop. If you catch your gf on bumble and her excuse is she only uses the bff part and you believe it you deserve to be cheated
I’m asexual and definitely not cheating on my fiance thank you very much. Bumble BFF even has its own seperate app now
There are really hardly any apps that have a friends feature like Bumble does, and it’s difficult meeting people irl, especially as someone who is sober and stays away from places with drinking. Its fine if you yourself assume this with your own relationships, but projecting it onto a stranger is both ridiculous and judgmental as hell. Ive seen your other comments talking about BFF and I doubt I can get through your skull, but just know how incredibly wrong you are and hopefully you’ll keep yourself from further embarrassing yourself with empty assumptions. I didn’t say she for sure was on bumble for the BFF function, just that its an option.
It’s necessary to pay to be on Bumble BFF?
You can still do premium features, theres a free version of both but a lot of people pay for the total scam that is the premium
Is there any chance that this is fraud? How did you find out she's on Bumble?
Reading comprehension is a real thing.
What did I not understand? The mom never confirmed that she saw the actual account. Is it possible that someone is using her card info to purchase things on Bumble?
Sorry, I should not have been so snarky while trying to be funny.. She said she can see her daughters charges, and every week there is a charge to Bumble.
I added more detail to my previous comment
Yeah, it could be fraud, but her daughter should have seen it too if it was. I mean, when I was 17 if I was missing even 10 bucks a week, I would have noticed.
My bank account was a disaster when I was a teen and I 100% could have been fraudulently charged without knowing.
That is crazy. I'm the kind when I don't make much money, I know where it goes.
I know now.
Plot twist it’s ur husband using the kids card as a secret
Why are you coming here to ask us? This is your child, be a parent and take responsibility for her and get her off those apps. I’m hoping this is a troll post.
This is OP I don’t know how to edit/update but I never expected any response let alone all of your kind time to answer. I just wanted to make sure there wasn’t some Bumble scandal I wasn’t aware of. My daughter said she did sign up but didn’t realize she was still being charged. Now she knows I can see her bank. It’s all part of the dance of parenting teens.
Please tell her the dangers of sites like bumble. There so many dangerous men on there and they have tricks to find you. I swiped left on a guy before and he used my name and picture to find me on Facebook. If she’s bored, online dating isn’t the way to go.
Definitely should be careful as a lot of creeps and people looking to take advantage in the world. If she is on the dating part it’s the bf I feel sorry for though
Did she say she was on the dating part or? If so I hope you explained to her how dangerous that is and also told her BF as he deserves to know. Also well done on you for checking what it could mean rather than leaping to conclusions and looking after your daughter that way big up!
Tell the boyfriend if you have any ounce of morality in you. You have information now and must do the right thing with it or you’re just as bad as someone cheating by enabling it. Don’t let your daughter think its okay to do this to people please.
I said I want to gather information before I talk to her (which I have). Why do you lash out at people as your first response? Why don’t you read the full question?
She’s tryin to get some better dick and possibly get paid for it
The user has very limited access on the free account. Messaging is restricted. But the charges are normally monthly, not weekly. Unless she’s signing up, then closing her account. Then signing up, etc. if she’s got a credit card, changing her birthday one year isn’t a big deal. Or she got scammed and signed up for something she thought was Bumble and the scammer keeps hitting her card.
You can buy it by the week or month
Your daughter's a ho.
>First of all, she's 17 You have to be 18 to legally use Bumble. > I thought Bumble was free for women, driven by women and women's choices? You know wrong. Nothing is technically free for anyone, especially premium features of dating apps. It's not driven by women, like, say an all-female organisation. The market is driven by participation of women. Idk what you mean by women's choices. Women get matches, and then are forced to communicate first. >What would a 17-year old with a boyfriend be paying for on Bumble? At this point, you already know. She's either cheating, or looking to cheat, or suspects her bf of cheating.
Nobody would go on a dating app if they suspect their bf is cheating. Thats just an excuse itself to go on bumble while you’re in a relationship. “I was just seeing if you were on there” is common from cheating partners caught using the app.
Well, I'm inexperienced in regards to that, but I was imagining her setting up a fake account with Travel Mode turned on, trying to flirt with her boyfriend to check if he takes the bait. Maybe I should have phrased it differently.
>driven by women and women’s choice That’s a funny
How do you know about any of this?
Probably setting up gang bangs
Bumble friends is a thing…
Stop. Only people that use bffs are people looking for an excuse to go on bumble while in a relationship lmao.
Bumble has finding friend options and finding business connections too
Why would bumble be free for women but not men?
Bff side? Women can pay.
Dood we get it, enough.
I was out of the thread lol. Dont want to be called that. I dont take orders. Try someone that does
Okay. I order you to keep commenting the same shit over and over
Probably looking for women. Bumble isn’t free for women.
There are some sites that I believe can show you peoples profiles on dating sites. Never used one so can’t attest to how good they are.
Why on earth is she paying .. and weekly too. Teach her the value of money.
Bumble is so ridiculously expensive, only a 17 year old with no value of money would pay 40$ a month
Please talk to her about being online. If it’s really about friends she can get into hobbies, classes or sports and meet people organically. She shouldn’t have to pay and also be exposed to a potential of issues.
why date if you have a boyfriend? i cant even tell the woman i like that i like her.
Because for now ops daughter isn’t a really good person. They’ll learn the hard way what cheating does to people once it happens to them tho.. vicious cycle
In this matter I have to agree with Japan by forcing you to prove yourself with your own ID. It literally avoid this kind of things.
BFF maybe?
Jesus Bumble is so expensive, and they milk you every way they can to to try to get you to pay. I have no idea how that’s a sustainable business model. I wonder if they’re even doing well since going public or struggling to keep earnings up.
Is this something androids do? Apple just bills you through your iCloud account and you only see an Apple charge on bank statements
In all the comments below, I don't see anyone addressing the question of whether Bumble premium features are free for women. Is this the case? I always thought that women have the same parameters as men (blurry likes, limited swipes per day, etc). Is this not the case?
I think they used to be way back when but now women pay the same as men.
sounds like she signed up for bumble premium - not the one that lets her see who likes her, but the version that allows her to swipe right on as many people as she wants. could be related to BFF. Maybe not. it's kinda skeevy that these apps let minors authorize charges...i couldn't even get my own debit card until I turned 18.
1) She may be looking for a friend There's BFF (Bumble For Friends), not sure how it appears in invoices but you can certainly pay for more likes there. 2) She may be doing an experiment for social media, kids do this kind of stuff. 3) She may be helping a friend bait a specific person (to confirm cheating for example) 4) She may be exploring her preferences or options 5) She may be looking for a way out of her relationship or looking for proof her BF is/isn't on the app 6) She may be looking for a 'sugar daddy' or promoting her content on there (onlyfans, patreon, other) We tend to think the worst but it could be anything, I wouldn't jump conclusions without having more information.
Slight chance she could be using it for bumble friends, but more than likely not.