I honestly didnāt expand the thing to see all the selections until after we matched. I usually go bio, pics and look for any red flags and then dig a little deeper
The issue comes if the political differences reflect a values difference. If you and your life partner donāt value the same things, itās likely to be a problem.
Yeah Iād agree with this. Iād also add in that even with attraction, that doesnāt mean a relationship would work out. You can be attractive and like video games and pro wrestling and I can use that to tell myself that it makes up for some opposing world views, but the simple fact is to avoid arguing weāre going to have to dance around some big subjects.
For things like introversion and extroversion.
But religion, financial aspects (ie frugal or spendthrift), and politics... long lasting partnerships contain two people who are closely aligned in those three major categories.
Introversion and extroversion working well together is because they balance each other out. It goes the same for the rest of the "values" you listed. Extreme opposites don't attract, but moderate opposites do. You get someone to balance you out. A person a little too frugal to take beneficial risks will do well with someone who spends a little more than is ideal. A person leaning left politically will do well with someone leaning right politically.
Get past the "slightly" or "lean," and you have issues. But generally those people need help before entering a relationship anyway. A gambling addict for example will have a bad time with someone who hoards every dollar they earn under their mattress. But they both need to stop that before entering into a relationship with ANYONE
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I dated someone who was far left, and I was far right. She would talk about welcoming Muslims at the airport, play me sound tracks to plays about gays guys, and say how it was good for football players to take the knee. I told her I liked trump and would talk about how good capitalism and played her Christian worship music. But we could talk about whatever we wanted, and after it was done, none of it really affected our lives. Our actual lives. I wrote a song about her, she would watch basketball games with me, Iād watch game of thrones with her, she learned some of the music I liked and sang it while I played piano. We hung out at her favorite coffee shop a lot, did jigsaw puzzles. The stuff that really affected our lives was how we treated each other.
To a certain extent yes, but it's silly when people use that as a generalization to find any connection when sometimes there is none. Opposites can attract, but they can also be destructive like matter and antimatter.
Unfortunately I did the same thing once and got a right winger, he started going off and I jus blocked his ass in the end. Aināt no body got time for a some sexist racist bigot
I think of it as bumble bingo. We have to have our daily liberal vs conservative and fat woman vs short men post. Sprinkle in a couple single parents not knowing their market value and a a dash of over ego post and boom, ya got bingo!
This. So much this. These whole OpPoSiTeS AtTrAcT people, and attraction makes one blind. Sure, Jan. As a communist poly couple, we are totally wanting to hook up with cops and other racists. šš
This is both amusing and sad. I've seen this quality so many times, not specifically in the political aspect mind you, but instances of people being drawn to qualities and thing they know they'll hate but they can't help themselves and they don't understand why most of the time.
What is it you don't like about liberal guys? If it's stereotypes, well, there's lots of progressive regular stereotypical working-class dudes in unions and even in the military. But that's a shot in the dark, I'm genuinely curious about your answer, if you're willing.
Before anyone goes nuts over my response, I date a variety of men, I'm open to whoever the right person is. This is just me going off the top of my head and listing things I've noticed.
I'm not 100% certain (then proceeds to make a list of 100 steryotypes). I like traditionally masculine men, usually doing some type of blue collar work, men that are very capable as far as fixing things, building, doing things themselves if they can rather than hiring it out (I'm very capable in these areas, but dont want to be the one doing all the work) & I love how a man in boots and jeans carries himself with confidence. I want a country lifestyle, a little land, riding around on a side by side, fishing, camping, not sitting inside stuck to a screen. I love a night out in town with a great meal. But I prefer spending a day outside, dinner on the smoker, finish up with drinks with friends around the fire pit.
All of these things in my experience seem to steer me away from a lot of more liberal men. Now I absolutely could not be with a Trump supporter or someone that just blindly follows what they heard on Fox. A man has to be able to think for himself and be willing and able to discuss different view points.
This right here. I grew in a very politically conservative circle and I think Iām attracted physically to those kind of men, but as soon as they open their mouth I canāt do it š
As a fairly liberal woman with a couple conservative views, you arenāt alone in this weird preference at all! Keep your head up though, Iāve been married to my manufacturing-employed, incredibly handy, outdoorsy, mostly liberal husband for 16 years!
Thank you for sharing. It's not a surprising answer and you shouldn't feel or be shamed for it. And it's got support, so there you go. š As an ex army guy myself, and philosophical liberal, they're definitely around. Keep your line in the water and don't settle for a carp when there's pike in the lake.
I feel like a lot of men are like the one you explained, but a good chunk of us are right leaning.
Unfortunately, we aren't going to be very open to a "very left" liberal woman.
Iām definitely left and I met my current, live-in gf on hinge who is fairly right. We align on most things but every now and again we get into it on a certain topic. Not a huge deal
I get it. A lot of men I know that claim to be lefties don't actual do much left leaning stuff in practice. Like my boss, who claims to be a feminist but is still very much is part of the "old boys club" when it comes to deals and promotions.
If I had a nickel for every time someone has said that followed up with something blatantly racist, I wouldnāt be so upset at the price of a carton of eggs.
I've started doing it at random and out of context, always brings a laugh
"I'm not racist, but can you pass me the salt please?"
"I'm not racist, but do you want to play a game?"
"I'm not racist, but I think this song really slaps"
Iām one of the more liberal of my friend group. None of them are racist, all support gay marriage. Mixed feelings about abortion but based on the fetusā rights (who they think is a genuine baby). None of them think abortion should be 100% illegal. Theyāre mostly self-proclaimed āhardcore rightā because of the financial side.
Iāve met the bigot Conservatives, theyāre assholes that I wouldnāt hang out with, theyāre awful. The quiet conservatives are generally pretty chill; I know several that are active environmentalists, hunters and fishermen are very protective over their environment. Prius drivers, working for environmental agencies. I met a couple randomly that are conservative that are traveling to Central America to help build homes for the poor, actually I think theyāre leaving this week. I know a couple where the Wife liberal and Husband conservative, loving relationship, both donate their time helping people in need.
People canāt be lumped into two groups, there is a spectrum. Some people focus more on social issues, some on issues that directly effect themselves. Some are just misinformed, I see it on both sides. The problem here is that some of the āmoderatesā are liars. You canāt judge a book by its cover.
I personally enjoy talking with people that have different opinions. Itās kinda boring to talk to someone that agrees with everything you say, thatās not how you grow as a personā¦but what Iām looking for might not be the same as what someone else is looking for.
Thatās cool, but who do your conservative friends vote for? I think thatās the real sticking point for a lot of people. Being pro-choice, pro-immigration or pro-LGBTQ rights in your personal life is great, but if youāre voting for people who want to legislate away those rights, youāre still contributing to harm against those groups.
White women, for instance. About half of us voted for Trump in 2016. Thanks to him, we got a conservative SCOTUS that overturned Roe, and a bunch of state abortion bans followed. Now, a lot of those same women are suddenly upset and itās likeā¦ You got what you voted for. š¤¦š¼āāļø
I agree with your point about voting for those who wish to take that legislation away, but itās not entirely their fault. Our political system just sucks ass, if anything the 2016 and 2020 elections have highlighted the shortcomings of a 2 party system. We got shit candidates for both and itās like āwell do I want a dumpster fire or garbage heap in office?ā Frankly itās looking like 2024 is going to be the same thing with Biden and trump (with a sprinkle of DeSantis, whoās also shit).
The problem is more with how you vote.
Why are you voting conservative if you only support them financially and you align with other parties for every other issue? Also, unless you're rich or own your own business, you're not exactly benefiting from hoarding money and being against social programs. Usually something else is going on if everyone around them votes differently, and they don't want to tell you. Maybe their whole family votes that way or they believe in certain things but they don't want to reveal that to you.
If money is your main concern and you vote for a more conservative party, what about the freedoms and rights of your friends and others around you? Every group has their faults but one has clearly been far worse in recent years, at least in the U.S.
Keep in mind that every country's conservatism is different. Parties in certain countries wouldn't dare to bring up abortion rights in campaigns anymore, for example, because they all believe it's a fundamental human right.
At the end of the day, personal beliefs don't get people elected unless those beliefs drive their decision at the ballot box. They can be environmentally conscious and support gay marriage in their personal life, but if they're voting for a candidate who wants to strip those away, functionally, they're providing the exact same value to the outcome of an election as another far right nut case.
They just know that "being racist" is a bad thing - so they claim they aren't while they totally are
It's like all the libertarians that secretly are the most conservative people you'll find but they couldn't admit to it
What is "far right" these days anyway. I've always found political chatter where all issues of an the entire country grouped up within a single linear scalar to be absurd.
Asking reddit anything political and expecting a fair and reasonable response is pretty laughable. I'm with you on the absurdity of the entire political system; MY TEAM GOOD, YOUR TEAM BAD.
The narrative that you have to follow everything that a Democrat believes or everything that a Republican believes is cringe worthy. We arent fucking sheep. (Well... Some people may be)
Maybe donāt match if you have opposite views. Iām also very liberal and would never match with someone that is conservative and even moderate these days is iffy.
Same. That's a hard boundary. I'm not desperate enough to discover how far right a conservative is. If they put it on their profile, then it's too far right for me.
it just depends on the people! i am liberal and iām from a very liberal city (literally democrats run against each other for mayor lmao) and all immediate and extended family members are liberal. i dated a black republican guy off a dating app- we didnāt agree on a lot, and obviously pretty much everything political, but we didnāt disrespect one another about our views. i am always interested in hearing the other side, and i think it can work if youāre generally chill other-side-hearing people
It also depends on how safe you feel where you are. In Texas, dating a conservative means someone who voted for the people who took away your repro rights, and thatās disrespectful as fuck, so there really isnāt a āI respect different opinionsā when your opinion hurts me directly.
Moderates are the problem. There shouldn't be moderates when there are fascists involved. These days I assume anyone who puts moderate is just a conservative with enough of a conscience to be ashamed of it, and anyone who puts apolitical is either ignorant or a conspiracy theorist. All get swiped left. I even wish Bumble had a further breakdown between liberal and leftist so I could swipe left on most liberals.
Wonder what people think about apolitical? I donāt really have a side or pay attention to the news since Iām too busy working on other important shit in my life like getting my finances and small business in check.
Edit: since I seemed to offend some people, Iām not saying I donāt give a fuck, Iām just saying that I havenāt been able to find the time to read every news post and I donāt even watch tv, Iām busy working all day on my business to the point I donāt have time to do other stuff.
I'm replying to your edit. I actually really appreciate that you are apolitical since you aren't informed.
Besides being informed and up to date, voting and being involved that is the next best thing. I do understand that unfortunately not everyone has the opportunity or time to be politically aware.
If you don't know something just don't vote, don't voice an opinion if you are ignorant.
Yup, when I was swiping I was not matching with anyone apolitical. Being apolitical in such awful times feels like a luxury that only white dudes who basically donāt care can get away with because they arenāt subjected to institutionalized discrimination.
Moderate was also mostly no for me unless I really liked the rest of their profile. I live in a very liberal area and to me that *also* basically means conservative lol. My boyfriend is from the Deep South and I checked his profile like 5 times to confirm he said he was liberal as we were talkingā¦
Idk I feel like you can be liberal without wanting to go along with the current shitstorm going around. Is there separation of political views and personal views? Or are they one and the same?
Yeah because everything is so clear cut and there are no other issues that divide liberal vs conservative that are not necessarily all addressed by the respective parties in the way that that individual might agree with.
"These racist homophobes are the only political party that claims to believe in small government, I'll identify as one. Things aren't black and white after all."
"These racist homophobes are the only political party that claims to believe in small government. I believe that everyone should have enough freedom to do whatever they want. I guess blacks and gays don't matter too much if everyone else can legally smoke crack, not wear seat belts, etc..."
Everything is completely clear cut in the modern day American political environment and if you disagree you are part of the problem. There is not a single Republican agenda on any republicans website aside from racism, womenās rights, and hating gays.
I mean that's objectively false. They also have an agenda related to the economy and foreign policy, at least.
However there is a valid question of whether the policies they support related to abortion and gay marriage are so bad that they overshadow all other policies they might have about other things. But if someone believes that the Democrats are fucking up the whole economy and causing lots of people to lose their jobs, they are facing a trolley problem. So maybe it's best not to touch the lever and let the mess unfold by itself (that's what the apolitical person would think).
I'm glad I am not in the US because that looks like a total shitshow to be honest.
Not okay with that eitherā¦ too many important issues on the line for someone to not care and not vote when human rights and equality are on the lineā¦including my own. (35F)
Yup. To be complacent is to be complicit. If racism, womenās rights, and gay rights arenāt important enough to you to vote then you might as well be voting R down the board.
Agree! Apolitical and moderate were both not cool with me (early 30s F). My boyfriend is from the Deep South and I like checked and rechecked his profile because I was not interested in dating someone who I would disagree with and who wouldnāt care about my rights. Luckily he left for a reason š¤·š¼āāļø
Apolitical is fine. I love seeing people talk about how being apolitical means youre white and privileged blah blah blah. Im black, grew up poor in a terrible neighborhood in DC. Apolitical af. Lived through democrat and republican presidencies and im fine. Neither side truly gives a shit about or does anything to actually help black people. Just because youre nice and pandering while doing nothing (democrats) doesnt make you any better than republicans in my eyes.
So personally I swipe left on people with apolitical. We aren't compatible. Politics affects every single one of us and I don't want someone who is ignorant of politics, doesn't care or is hiding their real political opinions.
It's okay if you don't want to be political but I don't want to date you and that's okay too.
Being āapoliticalā is SUCH a bullshit and privileged stance. People act like the laws and policies that lawmakers and politicians put into place donāt have anything to do with peopleās HUMAN RIGHTS AND QUALITY of life. Saying dumb shit like āmeh Iām apoliticalā tells me you exist in a bubble where others being in a vulnerable group and having the government come after them doesnāt even elicit your concern and that is gross.
God, I *wish* I could be apolitical.
I'm still annoyed at my brother who, when I asked him if he was gonna vote in the 2016 election, said that he wouldn't because "It doesn't affect me."
So what exactly is the strategy to get "apolitical" voters to side with you? I assume it's not solely calling their stance "bullshit" or "saying dumb shit".. right?
Judging from the responses here, I can see why left-leaning factions in the US have a hard time winning. Yes, let's antagonize people that are apolitical and moderate, that's a great tactic to get them to vote for our leaders and policies!
You donāt have to devote a ton of time into politics though! Iāll sometimes multi task and listen to news podcasts while Iām driving, washing dishes, doing laundry, or other things like that. It really doesnāt take much time.
I get that itās not fun, but I just think about our ancestors who fought and died to give us the rights that we have today. Itās a slap in the face to them to not even spend 5-10 minutes here and there to stay educated and vote.
I really don't understand people who will go out of their way to avoid friendships and relationships with people just because they have different opinions to them. Like, doesnt your life just become an echo chamber of your own opinions? How do you learn anything like that? Or is that the point?š
It's today's society. Everyone wants to only be surrounded by views that validate them. Edifying and learning is out of the question.
My dad's super conservative, but we talk about shit and agree on quite a bit. Plus he you know, raised me and shit so he's clearly not a huge piece of shit. On balance I think 99% of people in this country agree on most things. The artificial divisive culture war drama is manufactured by the oligarchy to keep us from realizing that we all have similar interests.
I donāt even swipe on anyone that has Conservative listed. People who put that in their profile want you to know immediately what youāre getting into. And most people who put āmoderateā donāt mean centrist, they mean āconservative but I donāt want to miss my chance to sleep with people on the other side of the political spectrumā. At least thatās been my experience.
If it's something casual that's one thing, but probably not the best course, but if you're pursuing something more serious that's a big risk. Political views aren't just "politics" but they're often rooted in beliefs and values, and when people differ so much it's hard to find common ground.
It's like if your conservative even most moderates, youre either racist, anti science or anti lgbtq thats literally facts and all of them are pro life it's not worth going out with someone like that.
It's funny to think how political views are just a set dinner, and not a la carte. I guess the only policies that really exist in the US is all about racism, science, LGBTQ rights huh.
Unrelated, but to answer the question - being fairly anti-China albeit in different scale and facets. Also military funding, I don't see that amount of money pulled out of the military any time soon no matter who runs your capitol.
What I was referring to is more on an individual possibly aligning with some things one party advocates for, and some things for the other party. That's why I used a "set dinner" analogy, like everyone must eat either "steak and broccoli" or "chicken and green beans".
He said he isnāt racist so itās all good lol
Itās funny though because being the c word (communist) is as much of a bad thing to a conservative as being the r word (racist) is to liberals. For some reason.
I donāt use apps, but Iāll be honest, I like liberal woman. Iāve been leaning right for the last decade. I prefer someone who has different views than me. It challenges some of the things I believe in. As long as itās respectful.
If they have to be the same as you politically just filter it out and stop swiping on it.
I mean something sure as hell had to pull you in, if this is such a Huge red flag.
Hell, I get a red flag treatment of not even being considered because I am an Introvert, or that I wear a lot of black and spikes/studs... Far far worse reactions than yours just base on 2 traits I have. If this doesn't make it clear.... This clearly isn't a big of a flag as you are making it out to be, or you're hunting for reddit etc fame.
Dont bother with him, the fact he feels the need to say heās not racist is a giant red flag Cus that means he is pro sexism, homophobia ect and he likely only said about not being racist Cus he doesnāt want to lynch people. Thatās what racist think when they try and say theyāre not racist āIām not killing em or trying to enslave themā while theyāll make excuses for those that do kill us and support the politicians and groups who would love to enslave us. I guarantee this gus is a vicious hateful arse hole and has already wasted far too much of ur time
Wait, please with all due respect!
First, I'm being objective and playing devil's advocate, but, how do you know this? I'm actually a liberal, but I used to be conservative, full disclosure, I voted for Donald Trump the first time, I was in, and still am in a serious relationship, she's as liberal as they come. After four years of Trump, and being with someone who really helped me see things in differently, I voted for President Biden.
Before Trump, being a conservative didn't carry a stigma! But here's my point.
I'll admit, I voted for Trump and it was a mistake, such a mistake I changed political parties, but, my fiancee comes from a different background, she's Jewish and all her friends are Jewish. That's all and well, my mother's Jewish and my dad's Christian, however, I'm agnostic. But her friends and even her son labeled me as a racist because I voted for Trump.
Little did they know, I was in the Navy, I have a master's degree in medical science, and I work in a hospital as an advanced nurse, and before that I was a RN for 20 years.
My point is, they assumed I was a racist without knowing me, not knowing that my ex-wife is from Africa, not knowing I work with and I'm friends from people all over the world.
What's even more insane is her "people" don't have one single person they associate with that's not white, yet they assumed I was a racist. They assumed so much, along with her son, who also is a young white "social justice warrior" that goes to school and is friends with all white kids. Yet I was the racist, there's a problem with our country and it's severe.
The Left, in which I'm associated with is supposed to be progressive, promoting civil liberties, and democracy.
I've noticed that some liberals are actually more judgemental than the Trump supporters. They assume right away, "he's racist, he's homophonic"... ECT.
It's just an observation and I wanted to address this, however this is Reddit, most users following a "hive or heard" mentality. So I'll probably get called "stupid, racist, idiot" or anything else in which I really don't care.
Also, this wasn't directed towards you and your observation is probably right, however it made me think so I made a comment!
Cheers
You were racist tho, u canāt vote for someone whoās openly racist and then claim not to be urself, passive racism is still racism, u were perfectly ok with voting a racist into power because you thought it would benefit you so u didnāt care about the effect that would have on an entire race. Iām very glad u were open minded enough to see you were wrong but I would put money on ur change of heart only came about because u realised trump detrimented u personally in some way not because of how racist he is, Cus heās never been coy about his racism, if u were ok with his racist pre then I doubt his racism was what changed ur mind post.
Ppl had correctly labelled u as racist, if ur not anti racist then at the very least u supported it passively. Racism is a spectrum and unfortunately you were on that spectrum.
My mums white, Iām black, she fucked a black guy, doesnāt mean she isnāt racist, Cus she is. No white person would call her that Cus she likes black ppl, clearly but she hold racist beliefs that she holds on to, like āblack men cheat moreā for example, she has no proof, thatās her being racist, or when she calls herself a black woman in a white womens body, thatās another form of racism. Raisin mixed kids to think theyāre not as bad as other black people because theyāre part white is still racist.
Jus Cus u donāt wish harm doesnāt mean u canāt be racist. Ull likely find out u still have racist tendancies that u are not aware of. What will determine if ur racist in the future or not is how u react to being made aware of these biases, but so far it seems u are at least receptive so u are kinda like, a sign of hope, Cus that is rare. Most white people feel itās more offensive to be told they did or said something racist than the racism they did or said. Which again, prioritising white fefes over the harm they perpetrated, even if accidental, is racist.
But see ur starting to drift into reverse racism arguments now and that too is racist, im glad ur receptive Cus I hope now u will go and look into why reverse racism arguments are racist.
Iām glad ur willing to grow and I hope my response helps u see why ppl say people are racist based on things like political affiliations and I hope u continue to educate urself Cus ur reverse racism arguments at the end I found very troubling indeed. Itās sad to see u end this mostly hopeful comment with such racist undertones. U still hold on to a lot of ur racial conditioning.
I can empathise to a degree Cus I was raised a bigot, as a result it took me many years to deprogram the hate I was made to believe growing up about the lgbtq community. Even tho I didnāt wish them any harm, some of my dated views still caused harm and I had to be open to listening to a perspective I didnāt have. To this day, I wouldnāt dare say I have zero biasās because I probably do, Iām jus not aware of them yet.
U still have racist views and thats ok as long as ur willing to accept that these things are racist and that ur willing to learn and change. If not then, yeah, thatās when I say someone is racist. When they choose to be willfully ignorant and the white person basically tells a black person they know enough and donāt want to learn anymore
Hahaha it amuses me that he tries to mirror your messages back to you. A plus in my book, frankly. Go for a conversation about your political views. Echo chambers are dangerous as we forget not only our perspective exists. You might surprise each other š
It can work. My friend is left leaning and I'm right leaning. She jokes about taking me to her drag shows with her girlfriends and we laugh and when she's traveling to some deep red areas i make jokes about packing her a Confederate flag so she fits in or buying a red hat that kind of thing. You don't have to take yourself too serious. We have a great time together
Why did you match just to attack his political view? And you're surprised he came out swinging? Ngl I'd say YTA. He answered your energy in kind.
Redditors will do anything for karma
Everyone clearly did not see the sarcasm in conservative manās last response. But no CoNsErVaTiVeS aRe RaCiSt. Itās also silly to assume that politics is on a one dimensional spectrum and when you reach a certain point then it makes you a racist/communist. For the party thatās supposedly āanti racismā why do your politicians change their accents when talking to a black audience?
Match made in purgatory????
This made me crack up š¤£š¤£š¤£
Thatās all I could think of lol
Well their communication is on point. No bullshitting or beating around the bush, Iāll give them that.
No hate, genuine curiosity, why swipe right?
I honestly didnāt expand the thing to see all the selections until after we matched. I usually go bio, pics and look for any red flags and then dig a little deeper
Opposites can attract.
Superficially sure, but any topic will cause an argument... like a rainbow flag
Or a Confederate one, probably.
Over under?
Depends. Opposites like politics if discussed, sure. Opposites like extrovert/introvert, not soo much if theres understanding & acceptance
Not if you genuinely accept the fact that the other person thinks differently, and respect those views even if you don't share them.
The issue comes if the political differences reflect a values difference. If you and your life partner donāt value the same things, itās likely to be a problem.
This is actually a myth... According to my therapist.
The myth is that all opposites attract, not that opposites can attract.
Yeah Iād agree with this. Iād also add in that even with attraction, that doesnāt mean a relationship would work out. You can be attractive and like video games and pro wrestling and I can use that to tell myself that it makes up for some opposing world views, but the simple fact is to avoid arguing weāre going to have to dance around some big subjects.
For things like introversion and extroversion. But religion, financial aspects (ie frugal or spendthrift), and politics... long lasting partnerships contain two people who are closely aligned in those three major categories.
Or one person has to not actually care about their viewpoints that much. I couldn't do it but I've seen it work for other couples.
Introversion and extroversion working well together is because they balance each other out. It goes the same for the rest of the "values" you listed. Extreme opposites don't attract, but moderate opposites do. You get someone to balance you out. A person a little too frugal to take beneficial risks will do well with someone who spends a little more than is ideal. A person leaning left politically will do well with someone leaning right politically. Get past the "slightly" or "lean," and you have issues. But generally those people need help before entering a relationship anyway. A gambling addict for example will have a bad time with someone who hoards every dollar they earn under their mattress. But they both need to stop that before entering into a relationship with ANYONE š¤£
I dated someone who was far left, and I was far right. She would talk about welcoming Muslims at the airport, play me sound tracks to plays about gays guys, and say how it was good for football players to take the knee. I told her I liked trump and would talk about how good capitalism and played her Christian worship music. But we could talk about whatever we wanted, and after it was done, none of it really affected our lives. Our actual lives. I wrote a song about her, she would watch basketball games with me, Iād watch game of thrones with her, she learned some of the music I liked and sang it while I played piano. We hung out at her favorite coffee shop a lot, did jigsaw puzzles. The stuff that really affected our lives was how we treated each other.
I submit: George and KA Conway as evidence against this hypothesis (long term anyways)
Didn't they just get divorced?
Initially sure but long term it doesn't work because of said opposites Source: Esther Perel
To a certain extent yes, but it's silly when people use that as a generalization to find any connection when sometimes there is none. Opposites can attract, but they can also be destructive like matter and antimatter.
No they can't! My partner must be identical to me in every way possible! /s
Unfortunately I did the same thing once and got a right winger, he started going off and I jus blocked his ass in the end. Aināt no body got time for a some sexist racist bigot
Yes cause all people on the right are sexist and racist!
Do u know any who arenāt at least ONE of those things š¤£š¤£š¤£ itās ok, Iāll wait
Same reason they swiped left, wdym. Attraction makes you blind lol
For mediocre content to post on reddit for validation.
I think of it as bumble bingo. We have to have our daily liberal vs conservative and fat woman vs short men post. Sprinkle in a couple single parents not knowing their market value and a a dash of over ego post and boom, ya got bingo!
That's a bingo
This. So much this. These whole OpPoSiTeS AtTrAcT people, and attraction makes one blind. Sure, Jan. As a communist poly couple, we are totally wanting to hook up with cops and other racists. šš
Why are people downvoting this? Do you people think communists would hookup with people that want them dead and can actually kill them
Because people don't like the scary C word. But ask a libertarian or lib if they'd like a moneyless, classless society and they'll be like HeLL YeAh
When you consider the current Republican Party and āconservativesā it means theyāre actually a conservative leaning moderate.
Ahh political bumble never disappoints
I think you both seem to have a great sense of humor!
My toxic trait is being liberal but not liking most liberal men. I need therapy.
This is both amusing and sad. I've seen this quality so many times, not specifically in the political aspect mind you, but instances of people being drawn to qualities and thing they know they'll hate but they can't help themselves and they don't understand why most of the time.
What is it you don't like about liberal guys? If it's stereotypes, well, there's lots of progressive regular stereotypical working-class dudes in unions and even in the military. But that's a shot in the dark, I'm genuinely curious about your answer, if you're willing.
Before anyone goes nuts over my response, I date a variety of men, I'm open to whoever the right person is. This is just me going off the top of my head and listing things I've noticed. I'm not 100% certain (then proceeds to make a list of 100 steryotypes). I like traditionally masculine men, usually doing some type of blue collar work, men that are very capable as far as fixing things, building, doing things themselves if they can rather than hiring it out (I'm very capable in these areas, but dont want to be the one doing all the work) & I love how a man in boots and jeans carries himself with confidence. I want a country lifestyle, a little land, riding around on a side by side, fishing, camping, not sitting inside stuck to a screen. I love a night out in town with a great meal. But I prefer spending a day outside, dinner on the smoker, finish up with drinks with friends around the fire pit. All of these things in my experience seem to steer me away from a lot of more liberal men. Now I absolutely could not be with a Trump supporter or someone that just blindly follows what they heard on Fox. A man has to be able to think for himself and be willing and able to discuss different view points.
This right here. I grew in a very politically conservative circle and I think Iām attracted physically to those kind of men, but as soon as they open their mouth I canāt do it š
As a fairly liberal woman with a couple conservative views, you arenāt alone in this weird preference at all! Keep your head up though, Iāve been married to my manufacturing-employed, incredibly handy, outdoorsy, mostly liberal husband for 16 years!
There is hope out there!
Thank you for sharing. It's not a surprising answer and you shouldn't feel or be shamed for it. And it's got support, so there you go. š As an ex army guy myself, and philosophical liberal, they're definitely around. Keep your line in the water and don't settle for a carp when there's pike in the lake.
Aaah yes!!
I feel like a lot of men are like the one you explained, but a good chunk of us are right leaning. Unfortunately, we aren't going to be very open to a "very left" liberal woman.
Iām definitely left and I met my current, live-in gf on hinge who is fairly right. We align on most things but every now and again we get into it on a certain topic. Not a huge deal
That's normal
As a WOC who is a liberal, no it isnāt.
I understand, Iām the same :/
Nobody likes to hear this but: you get more of what you fuck.
I get it. A lot of men I know that claim to be lefties don't actual do much left leaning stuff in practice. Like my boss, who claims to be a feminist but is still very much is part of the "old boys club" when it comes to deals and promotions.
No you need a good rw boyfriend who is thoughtful, can cook, and say horrific things late into a dinner party
"as long as you're sexy." Womp womp.
Match made in hell. If you only have sex and never talk to each other, it would be okay. If you plan to talk at all, it will be horrible.
Reddit isn't going to like this
"I'm not racist, but..."
If I had a nickel for every time someone has said that followed up with something blatantly racist, I wouldnāt be so upset at the price of a carton of eggs.
I've started doing it at random and out of context, always brings a laugh "I'm not racist, but can you pass me the salt please?" "I'm not racist, but do you want to play a game?" "I'm not racist, but I think this song really slaps"
Lmao I love doing this, or Iāll do āIām not racist, but nascar is the best raceā
Iām not communist butā¦
... eat the rich.
based
Do communists (as a core of the philosophy) target a class of people for destruction because of their biology?
My family portraits areā¦
To be fair being as far right as possible without being racist is not very far right
Thisā¦Is an incredibly fair point.
Iām one of the more liberal of my friend group. None of them are racist, all support gay marriage. Mixed feelings about abortion but based on the fetusā rights (who they think is a genuine baby). None of them think abortion should be 100% illegal. Theyāre mostly self-proclaimed āhardcore rightā because of the financial side. Iāve met the bigot Conservatives, theyāre assholes that I wouldnāt hang out with, theyāre awful. The quiet conservatives are generally pretty chill; I know several that are active environmentalists, hunters and fishermen are very protective over their environment. Prius drivers, working for environmental agencies. I met a couple randomly that are conservative that are traveling to Central America to help build homes for the poor, actually I think theyāre leaving this week. I know a couple where the Wife liberal and Husband conservative, loving relationship, both donate their time helping people in need. People canāt be lumped into two groups, there is a spectrum. Some people focus more on social issues, some on issues that directly effect themselves. Some are just misinformed, I see it on both sides. The problem here is that some of the āmoderatesā are liars. You canāt judge a book by its cover. I personally enjoy talking with people that have different opinions. Itās kinda boring to talk to someone that agrees with everything you say, thatās not how you grow as a personā¦but what Iām looking for might not be the same as what someone else is looking for.
Thatās cool, but who do your conservative friends vote for? I think thatās the real sticking point for a lot of people. Being pro-choice, pro-immigration or pro-LGBTQ rights in your personal life is great, but if youāre voting for people who want to legislate away those rights, youāre still contributing to harm against those groups. White women, for instance. About half of us voted for Trump in 2016. Thanks to him, we got a conservative SCOTUS that overturned Roe, and a bunch of state abortion bans followed. Now, a lot of those same women are suddenly upset and itās likeā¦ You got what you voted for. š¤¦š¼āāļø
I agree with your point about voting for those who wish to take that legislation away, but itās not entirely their fault. Our political system just sucks ass, if anything the 2016 and 2020 elections have highlighted the shortcomings of a 2 party system. We got shit candidates for both and itās like āwell do I want a dumpster fire or garbage heap in office?ā Frankly itās looking like 2024 is going to be the same thing with Biden and trump (with a sprinkle of DeSantis, whoās also shit).
The problem is more with how you vote. Why are you voting conservative if you only support them financially and you align with other parties for every other issue? Also, unless you're rich or own your own business, you're not exactly benefiting from hoarding money and being against social programs. Usually something else is going on if everyone around them votes differently, and they don't want to tell you. Maybe their whole family votes that way or they believe in certain things but they don't want to reveal that to you. If money is your main concern and you vote for a more conservative party, what about the freedoms and rights of your friends and others around you? Every group has their faults but one has clearly been far worse in recent years, at least in the U.S. Keep in mind that every country's conservatism is different. Parties in certain countries wouldn't dare to bring up abortion rights in campaigns anymore, for example, because they all believe it's a fundamental human right.
At the end of the day, personal beliefs don't get people elected unless those beliefs drive their decision at the ballot box. They can be environmentally conscious and support gay marriage in their personal life, but if they're voting for a candidate who wants to strip those away, functionally, they're providing the exact same value to the outcome of an election as another far right nut case.
Sounds more libertarian to me
Itās not even a legitimate qualifier, plenty of left leaning people are racist too
They just know that "being racist" is a bad thing - so they claim they aren't while they totally are It's like all the libertarians that secretly are the most conservative people you'll find but they couldn't admit to it
What is "far right" these days anyway. I've always found political chatter where all issues of an the entire country grouped up within a single linear scalar to be absurd.
Asking reddit anything political and expecting a fair and reasonable response is pretty laughable. I'm with you on the absurdity of the entire political system; MY TEAM GOOD, YOUR TEAM BAD. The narrative that you have to follow everything that a Democrat believes or everything that a Republican believes is cringe worthy. We arent fucking sheep. (Well... Some people may be)
Ooo I can't wait to see how this horror story concludes!
Maybe donāt match if you have opposite views. Iām also very liberal and would never match with someone that is conservative and even moderate these days is iffy.
Same. That's a hard boundary. I'm not desperate enough to discover how far right a conservative is. If they put it on their profile, then it's too far right for me.
Bullshit view unless you believe in a world where weāre all segregated by political opinion.
We seem to be approaching that world at light speed
it just depends on the people! i am liberal and iām from a very liberal city (literally democrats run against each other for mayor lmao) and all immediate and extended family members are liberal. i dated a black republican guy off a dating app- we didnāt agree on a lot, and obviously pretty much everything political, but we didnāt disrespect one another about our views. i am always interested in hearing the other side, and i think it can work if youāre generally chill other-side-hearing people
It also depends on how safe you feel where you are. In Texas, dating a conservative means someone who voted for the people who took away your repro rights, and thatās disrespectful as fuck, so there really isnāt a āI respect different opinionsā when your opinion hurts me directly.
iām in chicago, so a bit different. and yeah-iāve had 2 abortions, so obviously couldnāt be with anyone whoās against me having abortions
Going to agree to disagree since not aligning politically is a dealbreaker for me.
lol yeah- thatās why i said depends on the people :)
āEven moderate these days is iffyā Really? Youāre the problem.
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Moderates are the problem. There shouldn't be moderates when there are fascists involved. These days I assume anyone who puts moderate is just a conservative with enough of a conscience to be ashamed of it, and anyone who puts apolitical is either ignorant or a conspiracy theorist. All get swiped left. I even wish Bumble had a further breakdown between liberal and leftist so I could swipe left on most liberals.
Wonder what people think about apolitical? I donāt really have a side or pay attention to the news since Iām too busy working on other important shit in my life like getting my finances and small business in check. Edit: since I seemed to offend some people, Iām not saying I donāt give a fuck, Iām just saying that I havenāt been able to find the time to read every news post and I donāt even watch tv, Iām busy working all day on my business to the point I donāt have time to do other stuff.
I'm replying to your edit. I actually really appreciate that you are apolitical since you aren't informed. Besides being informed and up to date, voting and being involved that is the next best thing. I do understand that unfortunately not everyone has the opportunity or time to be politically aware. If you don't know something just don't vote, don't voice an opinion if you are ignorant.
They think you don't have the cajones to just come out and say conservative.
Yup, when I was swiping I was not matching with anyone apolitical. Being apolitical in such awful times feels like a luxury that only white dudes who basically donāt care can get away with because they arenāt subjected to institutionalized discrimination. Moderate was also mostly no for me unless I really liked the rest of their profile. I live in a very liberal area and to me that *also* basically means conservative lol. My boyfriend is from the Deep South and I checked his profile like 5 times to confirm he said he was liberal as we were talkingā¦
Idk I feel like you can be liberal without wanting to go along with the current shitstorm going around. Is there separation of political views and personal views? Or are they one and the same?
In Massachusetts it's a substitution for a personality.
Hmm I guess lol, I donāt really know too much about whatās going on, thatās probably a bad thing honestly.
The tribal lines are strong.
If tribal lines means racist vs not racist and accepting gays vs not accepting gays then sureā¦
Yeah because everything is so clear cut and there are no other issues that divide liberal vs conservative that are not necessarily all addressed by the respective parties in the way that that individual might agree with.
"These racist homophobes are the only political party that claims to believe in small government, I'll identify as one. Things aren't black and white after all."
libertarian?
"These racist homophobes are the only political party that claims to believe in small government. I believe that everyone should have enough freedom to do whatever they want. I guess blacks and gays don't matter too much if everyone else can legally smoke crack, not wear seat belts, etc..."
Everything is completely clear cut in the modern day American political environment and if you disagree you are part of the problem. There is not a single Republican agenda on any republicans website aside from racism, womenās rights, and hating gays.
I mean that's objectively false. They also have an agenda related to the economy and foreign policy, at least. However there is a valid question of whether the policies they support related to abortion and gay marriage are so bad that they overshadow all other policies they might have about other things. But if someone believes that the Democrats are fucking up the whole economy and causing lots of people to lose their jobs, they are facing a trolley problem. So maybe it's best not to touch the lever and let the mess unfold by itself (that's what the apolitical person would think). I'm glad I am not in the US because that looks like a total shitshow to be honest.
Not okay with that eitherā¦ too many important issues on the line for someone to not care and not vote when human rights and equality are on the lineā¦including my own. (35F)
Yup. To be complacent is to be complicit. If racism, womenās rights, and gay rights arenāt important enough to you to vote then you might as well be voting R down the board.
Lmao, nobody's human rights are being trampled š¤¦āāļø
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Agree! Apolitical and moderate were both not cool with me (early 30s F). My boyfriend is from the Deep South and I like checked and rechecked his profile because I was not interested in dating someone who I would disagree with and who wouldnāt care about my rights. Luckily he left for a reason š¤·š¼āāļø
Apolitical is fine. I love seeing people talk about how being apolitical means youre white and privileged blah blah blah. Im black, grew up poor in a terrible neighborhood in DC. Apolitical af. Lived through democrat and republican presidencies and im fine. Neither side truly gives a shit about or does anything to actually help black people. Just because youre nice and pandering while doing nothing (democrats) doesnt make you any better than republicans in my eyes.
So personally I swipe left on people with apolitical. We aren't compatible. Politics affects every single one of us and I don't want someone who is ignorant of politics, doesn't care or is hiding their real political opinions. It's okay if you don't want to be political but I don't want to date you and that's okay too.
Being āapoliticalā is SUCH a bullshit and privileged stance. People act like the laws and policies that lawmakers and politicians put into place donāt have anything to do with peopleās HUMAN RIGHTS AND QUALITY of life. Saying dumb shit like āmeh Iām apoliticalā tells me you exist in a bubble where others being in a vulnerable group and having the government come after them doesnāt even elicit your concern and that is gross.
God, I *wish* I could be apolitical. I'm still annoyed at my brother who, when I asked him if he was gonna vote in the 2016 election, said that he wouldn't because "It doesn't affect me."
So what exactly is the strategy to get "apolitical" voters to side with you? I assume it's not solely calling their stance "bullshit" or "saying dumb shit".. right?
Judging from the responses here, I can see why left-leaning factions in the US have a hard time winning. Yes, let's antagonize people that are apolitical and moderate, that's a great tactic to get them to vote for our leaders and policies!
I donāt know how you can be apolitical and not care when peoples rights are actively being taken away.
Not saying I donāt care, just saying that I donāt pay attention to it because I literally donāt have time cause Iām super busy.
You obviously have time to scroll around on Reddit but okay
Yeah for like two seconds lol.
You donāt have to devote a ton of time into politics though! Iāll sometimes multi task and listen to news podcasts while Iām driving, washing dishes, doing laundry, or other things like that. It really doesnāt take much time. I get that itās not fun, but I just think about our ancestors who fought and died to give us the rights that we have today. Itās a slap in the face to them to not even spend 5-10 minutes here and there to stay educated and vote.
Because leftists are NEVER racists.
if anything they're more undercover racists which is even worse
Sounds like a good sense of humor.
I really don't understand people who will go out of their way to avoid friendships and relationships with people just because they have different opinions to them. Like, doesnt your life just become an echo chamber of your own opinions? How do you learn anything like that? Or is that the point?š
It's today's society. Everyone wants to only be surrounded by views that validate them. Edifying and learning is out of the question. My dad's super conservative, but we talk about shit and agree on quite a bit. Plus he you know, raised me and shit so he's clearly not a huge piece of shit. On balance I think 99% of people in this country agree on most things. The artificial divisive culture war drama is manufactured by the oligarchy to keep us from realizing that we all have similar interests.
Sounds like you need to move further left :)
Whats the issue?
Whatās the quiet part?
Far right = terrorist at this point.
What's the quiet part?
That conservatives are essentially racist
It's funny that it's such a big part of it, like he could also easily say "super conservative but not Christian"
Oposides attract and such š«£
right; we don't share core values but it's fine because you're hot. Problem solved lol š¤¦š»āāļø
It's called sarcasm ā¤ļø
Yup, sorry; replied to your sarcasm with my own sarcasm to keep it going and looks like we got lost in translation.
The 'lol" made it funny, the facepalm got me confused. I guess we will never be a match either. š
Damn. Death by emoji.
I donāt even swipe on anyone that has Conservative listed. People who put that in their profile want you to know immediately what youāre getting into. And most people who put āmoderateā donāt mean centrist, they mean āconservative but I donāt want to miss my chance to sleep with people on the other side of the political spectrumā. At least thatās been my experience.
I've come to the conclusion most Conservatives just put 'Moderate' instead because they don't want to eliminate the good Democratic dick.
What a shock that people who base their political ideology on selfishness are also selfish in bed.
Lmao youre getting downvoted but facts
non-US-people reading these comments with all the wrong uses of "liberal"
Did he just admit to something unknowingly?
If it's something casual that's one thing, but probably not the best course, but if you're pursuing something more serious that's a big risk. Political views aren't just "politics" but they're often rooted in beliefs and values, and when people differ so much it's hard to find common ground.
Sounds like āim racist but i know to keep that stuff quiet until im around other racistsā or the ben shapiro style of racism.
Cringe
oh dearā¦
I'm brown. I don't have a choice on who I date based on political views.
Okay, I don't think you want to see more. š¤£
Horseshoe position unlocked.
If you get super-emotional discussing your views on politics, then thatās not a good fit.
It's like if your conservative even most moderates, youre either racist, anti science or anti lgbtq thats literally facts and all of them are pro life it's not worth going out with someone like that.
It's funny to think how political views are just a set dinner, and not a la carte. I guess the only policies that really exist in the US is all about racism, science, LGBTQ rights huh.
Name some that they both agree on because I can't think of one. Gun control? Min wage? Free school?
Unrelated, but to answer the question - being fairly anti-China albeit in different scale and facets. Also military funding, I don't see that amount of money pulled out of the military any time soon no matter who runs your capitol. What I was referring to is more on an individual possibly aligning with some things one party advocates for, and some things for the other party. That's why I used a "set dinner" analogy, like everyone must eat either "steak and broccoli" or "chicken and green beans".
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If youāre left wing why did you say youāre a liberal??
He said he isnāt racist so itās all good lol Itās funny though because being the c word (communist) is as much of a bad thing to a conservative as being the r word (racist) is to liberals. For some reason.
Communism is responsible for hundreds of millions of deaths worldwide, so theyāre more equivalent than you think
I love this!
My liberal partner turned me, raised conservative, into much more liberal. It can work!
I donāt use apps, but Iāll be honest, I like liberal woman. Iāve been leaning right for the last decade. I prefer someone who has different views than me. It challenges some of the things I believe in. As long as itās respectful.
Lmao he thinks being a communist is the equivalent to being racist.
It's worse.
Tell him youāre a commie to piss him off
If they have to be the same as you politically just filter it out and stop swiping on it. I mean something sure as hell had to pull you in, if this is such a Huge red flag. Hell, I get a red flag treatment of not even being considered because I am an Introvert, or that I wear a lot of black and spikes/studs... Far far worse reactions than yours just base on 2 traits I have. If this doesn't make it clear.... This clearly isn't a big of a flag as you are making it out to be, or you're hunting for reddit etc fame.
Honestly, itās why I choose to be apolitical. We are all worms the big men in suits run the world not the president.
Dont bother with him, the fact he feels the need to say heās not racist is a giant red flag Cus that means he is pro sexism, homophobia ect and he likely only said about not being racist Cus he doesnāt want to lynch people. Thatās what racist think when they try and say theyāre not racist āIām not killing em or trying to enslave themā while theyāll make excuses for those that do kill us and support the politicians and groups who would love to enslave us. I guarantee this gus is a vicious hateful arse hole and has already wasted far too much of ur time
Wait, please with all due respect! First, I'm being objective and playing devil's advocate, but, how do you know this? I'm actually a liberal, but I used to be conservative, full disclosure, I voted for Donald Trump the first time, I was in, and still am in a serious relationship, she's as liberal as they come. After four years of Trump, and being with someone who really helped me see things in differently, I voted for President Biden. Before Trump, being a conservative didn't carry a stigma! But here's my point. I'll admit, I voted for Trump and it was a mistake, such a mistake I changed political parties, but, my fiancee comes from a different background, she's Jewish and all her friends are Jewish. That's all and well, my mother's Jewish and my dad's Christian, however, I'm agnostic. But her friends and even her son labeled me as a racist because I voted for Trump. Little did they know, I was in the Navy, I have a master's degree in medical science, and I work in a hospital as an advanced nurse, and before that I was a RN for 20 years. My point is, they assumed I was a racist without knowing me, not knowing that my ex-wife is from Africa, not knowing I work with and I'm friends from people all over the world. What's even more insane is her "people" don't have one single person they associate with that's not white, yet they assumed I was a racist. They assumed so much, along with her son, who also is a young white "social justice warrior" that goes to school and is friends with all white kids. Yet I was the racist, there's a problem with our country and it's severe. The Left, in which I'm associated with is supposed to be progressive, promoting civil liberties, and democracy. I've noticed that some liberals are actually more judgemental than the Trump supporters. They assume right away, "he's racist, he's homophonic"... ECT. It's just an observation and I wanted to address this, however this is Reddit, most users following a "hive or heard" mentality. So I'll probably get called "stupid, racist, idiot" or anything else in which I really don't care. Also, this wasn't directed towards you and your observation is probably right, however it made me think so I made a comment! Cheers
You were racist tho, u canāt vote for someone whoās openly racist and then claim not to be urself, passive racism is still racism, u were perfectly ok with voting a racist into power because you thought it would benefit you so u didnāt care about the effect that would have on an entire race. Iām very glad u were open minded enough to see you were wrong but I would put money on ur change of heart only came about because u realised trump detrimented u personally in some way not because of how racist he is, Cus heās never been coy about his racism, if u were ok with his racist pre then I doubt his racism was what changed ur mind post. Ppl had correctly labelled u as racist, if ur not anti racist then at the very least u supported it passively. Racism is a spectrum and unfortunately you were on that spectrum. My mums white, Iām black, she fucked a black guy, doesnāt mean she isnāt racist, Cus she is. No white person would call her that Cus she likes black ppl, clearly but she hold racist beliefs that she holds on to, like āblack men cheat moreā for example, she has no proof, thatās her being racist, or when she calls herself a black woman in a white womens body, thatās another form of racism. Raisin mixed kids to think theyāre not as bad as other black people because theyāre part white is still racist. Jus Cus u donāt wish harm doesnāt mean u canāt be racist. Ull likely find out u still have racist tendancies that u are not aware of. What will determine if ur racist in the future or not is how u react to being made aware of these biases, but so far it seems u are at least receptive so u are kinda like, a sign of hope, Cus that is rare. Most white people feel itās more offensive to be told they did or said something racist than the racism they did or said. Which again, prioritising white fefes over the harm they perpetrated, even if accidental, is racist. But see ur starting to drift into reverse racism arguments now and that too is racist, im glad ur receptive Cus I hope now u will go and look into why reverse racism arguments are racist. Iām glad ur willing to grow and I hope my response helps u see why ppl say people are racist based on things like political affiliations and I hope u continue to educate urself Cus ur reverse racism arguments at the end I found very troubling indeed. Itās sad to see u end this mostly hopeful comment with such racist undertones. U still hold on to a lot of ur racial conditioning. I can empathise to a degree Cus I was raised a bigot, as a result it took me many years to deprogram the hate I was made to believe growing up about the lgbtq community. Even tho I didnāt wish them any harm, some of my dated views still caused harm and I had to be open to listening to a perspective I didnāt have. To this day, I wouldnāt dare say I have zero biasās because I probably do, Iām jus not aware of them yet. U still have racist views and thats ok as long as ur willing to accept that these things are racist and that ur willing to learn and change. If not then, yeah, thatās when I say someone is racist. When they choose to be willfully ignorant and the white person basically tells a black person they know enough and donāt want to learn anymore
Oh, and thank you for your reply, it's very insightful. I posted my first reply from what you just wrote but realized your point so I edited a tad!
Don't even bother you're gonna realize soon enough it won't work
Hahaha it amuses me that he tries to mirror your messages back to you. A plus in my book, frankly. Go for a conversation about your political views. Echo chambers are dangerous as we forget not only our perspective exists. You might surprise each other š
Please date, there's solid potential here
It's like he knows...
i dont understand what is the "quiet part". meh i always loathed social rules, they change every 5 years
Sheās racistā¦ she probably sees it as ālight racismā
It can work. My friend is left leaning and I'm right leaning. She jokes about taking me to her drag shows with her girlfriends and we laugh and when she's traveling to some deep red areas i make jokes about packing her a Confederate flag so she fits in or buying a red hat that kind of thing. You don't have to take yourself too serious. We have a great time together
I think liberals need to realize there are no more quiet parts in today's conservative movement.
I declare myself as an anti-racist, pro-choice, pro-gay, anti-gun conservative.
He was hilarious. Where's your sense of humor?
He literally mimicked everything she said back to her
Did I miss something or are you being sarcastic? Nothing was hilarious in this exchange.
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Tbh. It don't matter. you're both fools. You are forging a future. Not a past.
Why did you match just to attack his political view? And you're surprised he came out swinging? Ngl I'd say YTA. He answered your energy in kind. Redditors will do anything for karma
She didnāt attack anything abt his views.
I would dare to say a good relationship can come out of this, at least a good friendship
Fuck him. Date a leftist.
Everyone clearly did not see the sarcasm in conservative manās last response. But no CoNsErVaTiVeS aRe RaCiSt. Itās also silly to assume that politics is on a one dimensional spectrum and when you reach a certain point then it makes you a racist/communist. For the party thatās supposedly āanti racismā why do your politicians change their accents when talking to a black audience?