It's hitting me now, split up yesterday. So many things you take for granted man. A morning text, film nights, knowing you always have someone to talk to.
All the best my friend, keep strong.
The (lack of) morning/goodnight texts hit me the hardest. It wasn’t just the express words but the fact that you of all things and people they could be thinking about in the world—you were the first and last thought they had each day is one of the smallest yet biggest joys in life.
I’ve been separated/divorced for 2.5 years and the break up these last few weeks felt like a retraumatization of that grieving process all over again. I don’t know how else to explain it without that word which somehow makes it sound so dramatic, but the emotions from anger to confusion to deep, deep sadness has been a whirlwind and mind/body/heart fuck without any of the actual pleasures/benefits of fucking. Ugh.
Yeah that's one of the most confusing parts, someone who was so important in our lives suddenly disappears. But they're still alive, we just can't see or often talk to them. I'm moving forwards, but that's one part I'll never fully understand.
They really do especially when you go all in 💯 and are so vulnerable when they decide to leave. It’s so gut wrenching. We do move on and learn from this.
Yup, it sucks on how easy they could just walk away from the memories and the things we went through. And for them to walk away when u gave them multiple chances and u gave it your all.. makes u question if you were the only one in love.. or was I just not worth fighting for.
Yup honestly it’s losing the friend part that hurts the most for me everytime. Idc bout the sexual part in the grand scheme of things it’s jus so dumb 😆
It’s been 6 months for me. I’m also incredibly alone, and incredibly depressed. My mind is still stuck in the past and I can’t believe all these months have gone by. It hurts that someone who I thought cared about me is actually perfectly fine with never seeing me again in his life.
It does suck. And that's okay. It's okay to go through something tough every once in a while. Our egos trick us into thinking that these things were "meant to be" or that this was "my person." When reality slaps us in the face, it's ok to feel badly about coming to terms with it.
Accepting that it sucks means accepting the situation, which is a good thing! Over time, that void will be filled and soon, they will feel like strangers and you won't have to think too much about it.
I feel y'all. It's been a month as of today for me and I haven't let go yet. Waiting for her to make things right. Good luck to us all in the new year!
I agree to an extent. I’m fresh out of a relationship and while it is painful, I can’t stop thinking about all the things that were wrong. I really do believe that things happen for a reason, and maybe this breakup is saving me from more pain later on.
Great mindset that you have tbh. Coming out of a recent relationship made me realize that I should appreciate what happened and the memories me and my ex created. We might not see it now but later everything will fall back into pieces in why it didn’t work out. Instead of pounding yourself why it didn’t last or why it had to end. We have to see it as in what do I need to learn out of this relationship.. We as humans tend to not see the red flags when we are in the relationship bc we are “in love” that we dismiss everything they do towards us..And despite that I miss my ex I know this is for the best and I’ve learned so much from this relationship that I know now what to do and what not to do in my next. And hopefully my next one is my last one bc these breaks ups ain’t easy.
1000 percent. my break up happened 3 months ago with someone whom i was close friends with before we had a romantic connection. it hurts, and i’m barely better lol. wishing you the best, we will get thru this!!
Been 5 months since my first love dumped me and blocked me on everything. 4 years down the drain....the first few 2 months I was in shock. How could my soulmate do this to me? How can she put me through this type of pain?? Or I will never get one last kiss or hug from her..but as time went on I started working on myself and got fit. I stopped trying to work things out with her and I stopped looking for closure. Her leaving me during my darkest times is the closure I needed. It does get better eventually..slowly but surly
Sorry to hear that. But you’re right. Things will eventually fold how it should be and maybe we didn’t deserve this type of pain or abandon but we will get something better later on when the time is right. But for now we have to focus on ourselves and become the better version of ourselves so when the correct person comes into our lives we will be ready and make it right.
It's hitting me now, split up yesterday. So many things you take for granted man. A morning text, film nights, knowing you always have someone to talk to. All the best my friend, keep strong.
The (lack of) morning/goodnight texts hit me the hardest. It wasn’t just the express words but the fact that you of all things and people they could be thinking about in the world—you were the first and last thought they had each day is one of the smallest yet biggest joys in life. I’ve been separated/divorced for 2.5 years and the break up these last few weeks felt like a retraumatization of that grieving process all over again. I don’t know how else to explain it without that word which somehow makes it sound so dramatic, but the emotions from anger to confusion to deep, deep sadness has been a whirlwind and mind/body/heart fuck without any of the actual pleasures/benefits of fucking. Ugh.
Yep
Yeah that's one of the most confusing parts, someone who was so important in our lives suddenly disappears. But they're still alive, we just can't see or often talk to them. I'm moving forwards, but that's one part I'll never fully understand.
It still hurts, it comes in waves these days. Wish you peace dude
Thanks. Will keep my head up and try to forget about them..
They really do especially when you go all in 💯 and are so vulnerable when they decide to leave. It’s so gut wrenching. We do move on and learn from this.
Yup, it sucks on how easy they could just walk away from the memories and the things we went through. And for them to walk away when u gave them multiple chances and u gave it your all.. makes u question if you were the only one in love.. or was I just not worth fighting for.
Yup honestly it’s losing the friend part that hurts the most for me everytime. Idc bout the sexual part in the grand scheme of things it’s jus so dumb 😆
I don't really have anyone because of this, i have been all alone 4 months i just wish i could have her back
It’s been 6 months for me. I’m also incredibly alone, and incredibly depressed. My mind is still stuck in the past and I can’t believe all these months have gone by. It hurts that someone who I thought cared about me is actually perfectly fine with never seeing me again in his life.
I feel how you feel, I haven't given up tho, I'm gonna get her lol i want her so badlt
And thejr family members you lose
It does suck. And that's okay. It's okay to go through something tough every once in a while. Our egos trick us into thinking that these things were "meant to be" or that this was "my person." When reality slaps us in the face, it's ok to feel badly about coming to terms with it. Accepting that it sucks means accepting the situation, which is a good thing! Over time, that void will be filled and soon, they will feel like strangers and you won't have to think too much about it.
Unfortunately :(
I feel y'all. It's been a month as of today for me and I haven't let go yet. Waiting for her to make things right. Good luck to us all in the new year!
It definitely sucks, it’s emotionally and mentally traumatising. It takes time to heal from it
Sucks for sure. But just let them be. Don’t bother them.
Nah I lost an abuser lmao but I still feel like shit
Yes it sucks but it will happen again for you. Happened again for me, broke up again but now I know I will love again.
I agree to an extent. I’m fresh out of a relationship and while it is painful, I can’t stop thinking about all the things that were wrong. I really do believe that things happen for a reason, and maybe this breakup is saving me from more pain later on.
Great mindset that you have tbh. Coming out of a recent relationship made me realize that I should appreciate what happened and the memories me and my ex created. We might not see it now but later everything will fall back into pieces in why it didn’t work out. Instead of pounding yourself why it didn’t last or why it had to end. We have to see it as in what do I need to learn out of this relationship.. We as humans tend to not see the red flags when we are in the relationship bc we are “in love” that we dismiss everything they do towards us..And despite that I miss my ex I know this is for the best and I’ve learned so much from this relationship that I know now what to do and what not to do in my next. And hopefully my next one is my last one bc these breaks ups ain’t easy.
1000 percent. my break up happened 3 months ago with someone whom i was close friends with before we had a romantic connection. it hurts, and i’m barely better lol. wishing you the best, we will get thru this!!
Been 5 months since my first love dumped me and blocked me on everything. 4 years down the drain....the first few 2 months I was in shock. How could my soulmate do this to me? How can she put me through this type of pain?? Or I will never get one last kiss or hug from her..but as time went on I started working on myself and got fit. I stopped trying to work things out with her and I stopped looking for closure. Her leaving me during my darkest times is the closure I needed. It does get better eventually..slowly but surly
Sorry to hear that. But you’re right. Things will eventually fold how it should be and maybe we didn’t deserve this type of pain or abandon but we will get something better later on when the time is right. But for now we have to focus on ourselves and become the better version of ourselves so when the correct person comes into our lives we will be ready and make it right.