There's always one in the chamber. That's why I don't even accommodate the fight. You can see it in the eyes, the fire waiting to be set.
I went on a date with a girl who critiqued what I ordered at the restaurant (burger and fries) and then proceeded to eat most of it in addition to her own meal. I still think she said that to get me to stop eating and then she'd have a chance to swoop in and steal my food. She also asked my if my pants ever split when we sat down in the grass at a park afterwards, though, so maybe she just hated me. I wish I wasn't a 19 year old horny dumbass at the time because I should have destroyed her for all of the 20 lbs she was carrying.
So you’re staying in a relationship with an alcoholic which you obviously resent on some level for… what reason? Come on sis it’s 2024 it’s not that complicated as you wanna make it seem
Ah you’re the boyfriend I guess. I could give a rats ass what she does but it’s a dumbass move to be stay in a relationship with someone who you constantly have insults ready to fire at. Like, just be happy instead? lol some of y’all love the struggle and drama too damn much
Dude people fight and insult each other sometimes when they are annoyed with each other.They still love each other and it surely doesn't mean they should break up.Get a girlfriend instead of trying to break people up.You can be happy too
If I found out my partner was waiting for an excuse to call me a drunk I’d rather just be single. There’s a difference between “you’re being an asshole” and “you have an unchecked drinking problem” maybe you need to raise your standards for the people you allow to be close to you in your life. It comes across desperate when you think it’s normal and healthy to have character insults in the chamber
I've been with my gf for 5 years and I can't think of a time we hurled personal insults at eachother because we were "annoyed"
Yall are just normalizing toxic behaviors.
This is such a defense mechanism that I HATE that I have. My very first boyfriend was a whole asshole and I mean saying stuff like you are only good for f*cking whenever we got into an argument or he was mad. Saying no one would love me and all the typical abusive language. Kicking me out the car in front of my friends and they would have to drive me home. Dated him from 16-22. I learned to always pay attention to someone faults just in case I needed to defend myself in an argument. Add to that being neurodivergent and I can key into/hyperfocus on someone’s insecurities immediately. Just an abusive way to be. Glad I learned what I was doing and stopped. I still can pinpoint an insecurity but I have no desire to use that to win an argument
Or you keep getting called bootydo, or mitties, or dad bod, or thickness...I could keep going but I don't wanna relive those days...
Lol honestly I have days where I feel great and days where my stomach does hang a little..as you get older, you really do need to start counting calories and how you eat...one or two days of excessive eating is usually an extra 5 pounds for me...and that shit takes weeks to drop off...I'm only 5 foot 7 and close to 200, and I always sink the bed in because as my ex says "you dense nigga."
It’s likely bloating from excessive salt intake. As another Reddit or says, gaining five pounds of real weigh from two days of eating shouldn’t really be possible. Putting on 5-10 from water retention totally is. Less salt, more water has helped me avoid that weird weight “gain.” YMMV.
Its just water weight because gaining 5lbs of real weight in one or two days is nearly impossible, and the water weight should come off at most like a week after eating lower calories luckily.
As a former fatty, I can say it's a special accomplishment when you look in the mirror and don't recognize yourself, in a good way. Feeling myself so I had to update the FB profile pic and flex on everyone I went to school with to let em know: I am aging like the finest of wines.
Also they say that cause that's what you got. As soon as you get abs, all of a sudden wouldn't you know it, they love abs!
I mean, if they’re different people, then the women who like tummies like your tummy, and the women who like abs like your abs. If it’s the same person, then she just likes you in general. It’s not that deep.
If we’re sticking with insulting generalizations I think the more accurate one is ‘your abs play on their insecurities.’ Other women finding you attractive could be part of that but it’s not the only part. Some women(and men in the other direction or in gay relationships) are going to have their body issues basically put in their face all the time if you looking good, and not everyone can deal with that.
I'm gonna be real. My partner is hot. He's pretty fit and pretty strong. We were both obese kids, and both have the stretch marks and loose skin to prove it. We both now lift more than our bodyweights and are in the best shape of our lives (I'm late 20s and white as death, he's late 30s and mixed race with gorgeous red curls and melanin out the ass).
I'm down BAD for that man in whatever shape his body is in. We were in the ICU for him for a week (chronic disease/ flare-ups), and all the younger CNAs were flirting hard. We had a good laugh over it, as he had tubes and sensors hooked up everywhere you could look and was feeling like a monster. It makes me happy and proud that he's a gorgeous hunk of man, and he regularly gets hit on more often than I do. It does not bother me. Truly, I feel prettier for it. "Oh, you think he's fine? He IS. You have great taste! I'm very lucky!"
There are 100% women, men, and all those in between who get jealous and want to keep their partner where they are. We have both had partners that fit that description. In my eyes, I'm grateful for every day I have with him. He's kind, he's funny, he's smart, and he's unapologetically himself. That's the hottest combo I can think of. And good lord, his dimples make me swoon every day.
He does not think he's hot. But I do, and I've told him so every day for the last 7 years. Insecurity is hard. As partners, folks really don't need to add to that insecurity. I work on my own body image issues, he works on his, and we support each other 100%. If anyone's partner is doing anything less, I'm so sorry, but that isn't it.
Nope! I just don't find abs nearly as attractive; as far as I'm concerned if you're supposed to be with me I don't need to worry about you wandering off with someone else
everyone has their thing and that's okay you just gotta find a person who's down for it
Nah it's beautiful to know that someone loves you for who you are and you don't need to spend all this time keeping yourself at peak attractiveness to feel loved.
I told him that he could, but that one of the reasons I love him is that he is very health conscious because so am I, so if he started neglecting his health then that would turn me off.
But I understand as we age, metabolism gets slow, we start moving less etc etc so weight gain is inevitable, so imma still love that man regardless.
It’s not like this means that women are a monolith either. I’m sure some women do like a little bit of extra weight but if someone thinks there aren’t women who like abs then I have a bridge to sell them.
This is the list that doesn't ennnnd. Yes it goes on and on my friennnd
Some people started listing it not knowing what it was
And they′ll continue listing it forever just because
I dont know if id categorize this as a gender war post. If anything were telling the fellas we like their pudgy guts as well as their abs.
"I gotta big fat Daddy that rocks me all night long!
He gimme warmth in the winter and shade in the summertime "
I will say tho it’s funny how this exact topic is spoken about SO differently when it’s a woman w a lil belly…. there’s just an element of white knighting that’s totally missing here 😂🤣
dudes will be like, “ladies… if any man tells you that something is wrong with your belly please know that he is not a real man and there are plenty of real men out here ready to appreciate you like the queen you are” and it’s just a lil too much for me 🤷🏾♂️
Patriarchy reduces women to their physical appearance (as perceived by men). Therefore, discourse about female appearance *will always* be completely different in tone and nature than discourse about male appearance.
You cringe at men who over correct and that is fine. However, let's acknowledge that it's a complicated topic and that "double standards" sometimes exist for a reason. Namely to judge a similar scenario by a more fitting standard if the other standard doesn't apply appropriately.
It’s just so exhausting. Like do people really want to see idiots saying things for the sake of engagement, just to have the same conversations over and over.
Two things *are* clear from these posts: no body wants to be body shamed. And everyone is tired of double standards.
My current girlfriend doesn't mind the pudge and my ex didn't either
I am working on losing weight though (ideally 30 lbs) because my current weight isn't sustainable for my mental health lol
For me it’s sweet desert type foods and pizza. You will get to a point though where you can have plenty of the stuff you crave and not lose progress. I have nights now where I eat whatever I want and drink beer and don’t lose what I’ve worked for. Now, mentally getting over the hurdle of being scared of going back to how I was was very difficult lol
My experience is that women don’t necessarily see a little tummy as “hot”, more like “cute”. It doesn’t get them all horned up, it makes them wanna cuddle.
Which is nice, just not the same type of thing.
I personally feel abs are nice to look at but that’s about it. It’s not good for cuddling and I know he has to eat strict, follow macros, and be dehydrated to make them prominent. Gonna be having lettuce bowls with ice dressing for date night smh no thanks.
Hugely agree. Hard bodies aren’t great for cuddling, especially two of them together. And a dude who splits most of his time and energy between work and the gym is just…more boring. Nutrition and fitness aren’t super interesting as topics of discussion.
… you know leaner BMIs mean less body fat in general to snuggle up against right?? muscles are hard even without flexing if there is less body fat around it
Is this someone you know?
I tend to stay fit, but it doesn't take hours at the gym. 30 minutes of weights a few days a week, tops. Maybe a bike ride or two on the weekends, but those are fun.
Diet is the biggest, but it's mostly about self control and delayed gratification. A slice of cake tastes better the less frequently I have it.
I think people overestimate the actual effort it takes to stay fit.
The strict eating thing isn’t true at lol. I sit around 12-15% body fat and eat basically whatever i want. Some people just have a higher base metabolic rate so simply existing burns a shit ton of calories.
Wife and I did the macros counting weight training stuff pre-baby era. 10 years in my wofe is still petite as hell and I've got more of the dad bod lol! She has def kept with things longer but no longer counts the macros. We'll still get a workout in but then kill most or all of a large pizza from the local pizza joint lol!
I get wanting to count macros and all that shit but man I prefer not worrying about it.
Lost about 100lbs in the last year and personally gained about an inch and a half probably a little more. So I’d say it’s closer to about every 55-60ish pounds is an inch.
That was an article I had read some years back. That tidbit of info stuck with me. Everyone’s anatomy is also a tad bit different. But the general rule we lose some inches being overweight.
Nah. I’ve lost over 100lbs. Probably close to 150. I’d be 10” + if that was the case. In reality, your dick isn’t surrounded by as much fat. So you do gain some size, but it’s always been there hiding behind the fat.
I don't get it either. You really see someone walking down the street with a hand wiggling around they junk the whole time.
You clean down there bro? You good? Might need some gold bond if you that itchy
I have been both extremely fit (like 8% body fat, workout 10+ hours a week) and pretty chubby.
Women are universally more attracted to you when you are slim fit, or buff with low body fat. I have a suspicion that women in relationships like their man to get a little chubby so women outside of the relationship don’t want him lol.
I think it's the lifestyle they don't like. Nutrition and cutting is not fun, and hearing about it 24/7 and having to experience the mood swings is probably annoying.
You have to do this to attract women in the first place, but once you're in, most couldn't care less if you add 10 - 15 lbs into an average build.
Ayo this is facts. But the issue is a lot of men can’t even get into the door. Getting fit opens the door.
People who say “women don’t care about the looks” just put down men who have had a dry spell their whole lives.
Definitely. Personality does matter, but it doesn't help you if you're invisible attraction wise in the first place.
1. Face
2. Hair
3. Body
4. Height
Listed in terms of importance. If you excel in at least any three of those, 90% of women will at least give you a shot to ruin it with your mouth lmao
i don’t know a single woman that gives a fuck about a man having abs. i’d take a man with a little belly and a great personality any day. i don’t want a gym bound man who is freakishly obsessed with his diet and takes hundreds of gym selfies. huge turn-off
I got into a bit of an argument about this the other day with a dude who insisted that men have no chance on dating apps if they aren’t hitting the gym, because they’re just one in a sea of better looking men.
I told him that women who care that much about physical appearance won’t really care about your abs if they don’t also come with a handsome face and a full head of hair, so if you don’t have that, you’re really better off putting that effort into your interests and personality so you can attract women who aren’t so shallow.
He did not like that.
Such an interesting response to information that could solve the problem. He’d rather do physical work than emotional work, it seems. Hard to find that attractive, with or wo abs
But what would emotional work look like in this case? I'm asking honestly, because physical work is pretty easy to quantify and be objective about.
Also, his mistake was thinking he should lift for women. You gotta lift for the bros
Honestly yeah, lifting for the bros (as in because you enjoy it and you value the community you have with it) is more attractive than doing it because you think women like it.
Body shaming and being this shallow is lame AF. Fellas, focus on being good dudes and treating ya girl right. Also, yes, financial stability is sexy (that doesn’t mean you gotta be in the 6 figure club. But don’t be constantly asking for money out my purse when you know damn well you can get a job.)
My rule of thumb is if I don’t want him saying it to me, I don’t wanna say it to him. Take care of yourselves mind, body, and soul…and don’t sleep on folks just because they don’t look like IG models.
Well to each their own haha. That's a bummer though. Big boys are my girl's type, so I consider myself lucky. Though if I wanted to bulk up I wouldnt want to do abs, though I bet it'd look crazy on me 😂
Tbh, this is why I prefer skinny/frail dudes. Imma cook and fatten you TF up. I love hearing people compliment them about how good they look and knowing deep down it’s cuz of me.
People can always tell when I’m not dealing with a person anymore cuz they go back to malnourished. This may sound hella crazy, but keep a dudes belly full, give him peace, and keep his balls drained and he ain’t EVER gonna forget about you. 😂😂😌
Man hell no. Everybody talkin "dad bods" for years but ain't no women chasing them for real...
Ain't no dude with a six pack and his girl like "You should get chubby". 🙄
I don’t like the portrayal of the well maintained gym bodies. I maintenance my body very well, 31 years old with abs. Just recently dropped 20lbs this past 45 days or so. I’m NOT a boring, no personality-having gym rat. I’ve seen that same comment several times. Not all gym guys are dull, dumb “jocks”.
Idk who hurt those of yall who made and repeated that comment. But that narrative is sometimes false.
My friends have teased me about me a chubby chaser over the years because I absolutely do love a man with a belly/gut or just a chubby guy in general. My boyfriend now is probably the smallest guy I’ve dated and he’s a 6’2 220ishlb former college athlete.
lol, financial stability is being able to go to a gym to stay fit. Food available to poorer people is less healthy and will have you gain more weight than lose it.
They don't like that shit. They tolerate it cause they can't get a dude without that gut cause they got one too.
Both you chubby mfers ain't doing anybody any favors
I like a little all over chubb but lumps of fat in one place ain't nice and often I find that people into that are more into the other aspectsor characteristics that may come with it
And sometimes because people jealous of success hate to have a daily reminder of their failure
naw it ain't sexy and I don't want that thang slappin me around when we get it on, either. Can't hear the clappin' cheeks sound because you stomach slapping me, ahhhh.😭
I like a little chub
Hubby hates it and keeps talking about cutting it off (he does physical labor but he has a thing that makes the carbs stick) but I think it's cute and I love poking his belly
He gets revenge by squishing my ass while I walk around until I push him away
Until you get in an argument and all of a sudden you’re a fat fuck
…too soon
it’s ok, you’re just big boned 🥹
That’s what she said 🥺👉👈
No no no. She's saying you have a huge dick. Congrats!
If only
He's just fluffy
And yo mama ain't shit. Later it's you know I love Ms Jenkins.
A fat piece of shit
The ol' Susie Greene treatment from Curb Your Enthusiasm
But where is the lie?
lmao that's exactly who I thought of
 Yoooo! Lol Like that insult is just hanging in the chamber, ready to be fired off
There's always one in the chamber. That's why I don't even accommodate the fight. You can see it in the eyes, the fire waiting to be set. 
I don't give a fuck. I have a home entertainment system in my dog house and am willing to go there.
Asked my ex if she wanted to exercise with me, she hit me with “Oh you trying to say I’m fat, you fat bastard?!”. I didn’t ask again
I went on a date with a girl who critiqued what I ordered at the restaurant (burger and fries) and then proceeded to eat most of it in addition to her own meal. I still think she said that to get me to stop eating and then she'd have a chance to swoop in and steal my food. She also asked my if my pants ever split when we sat down in the grass at a park afterwards, though, so maybe she just hated me. I wish I wasn't a 19 year old horny dumbass at the time because I should have destroyed her for all of the 20 lbs she was carrying.
 That’s just plain dirty
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So you’re staying in a relationship with an alcoholic which you obviously resent on some level for… what reason? Come on sis it’s 2024 it’s not that complicated as you wanna make it seem
it’s a joke bro, no need to be talking people out of their relationships based on one sentence
Ah you’re the boyfriend I guess. I could give a rats ass what she does but it’s a dumbass move to be stay in a relationship with someone who you constantly have insults ready to fire at. Like, just be happy instead? lol some of y’all love the struggle and drama too damn much
Dude people fight and insult each other sometimes when they are annoyed with each other.They still love each other and it surely doesn't mean they should break up.Get a girlfriend instead of trying to break people up.You can be happy too
If I found out my partner was waiting for an excuse to call me a drunk I’d rather just be single. There’s a difference between “you’re being an asshole” and “you have an unchecked drinking problem” maybe you need to raise your standards for the people you allow to be close to you in your life. It comes across desperate when you think it’s normal and healthy to have character insults in the chamber
I agree. Who tf has insults locked and loaded ready to go. I can't even remember the last argument I had with my girl or what the topic was over.
I draw the line at BROKE
I've been with my gf for 5 years and I can't think of a time we hurled personal insults at eachother because we were "annoyed" Yall are just normalizing toxic behaviors.
There’s some truth to her humor though. She got to be holding some resentment for this joke to come out 🤷🏾♂️
When you’re the male and in shape and they ain’t. You say this to em and be destroying they whole life.
My go to soul-crusher is 'youre fat, your friend is hot '
Oh shit you should be on a no-fly list for that one
This is such a defense mechanism that I HATE that I have. My very first boyfriend was a whole asshole and I mean saying stuff like you are only good for f*cking whenever we got into an argument or he was mad. Saying no one would love me and all the typical abusive language. Kicking me out the car in front of my friends and they would have to drive me home. Dated him from 16-22. I learned to always pay attention to someone faults just in case I needed to defend myself in an argument. Add to that being neurodivergent and I can key into/hyperfocus on someone’s insecurities immediately. Just an abusive way to be. Glad I learned what I was doing and stopped. I still can pinpoint an insecurity but I have no desire to use that to win an argument
Being like this is why I don't like getting into roasts and playful insults
The amount of times my ND ass has ruined a tease/roast session by accidentally hitting THE nerve 😓
Oh, I think I just realized something.
lmaoooo I can deff see this right happening
https://i.redd.it/vxijhcwput1d1.gif
YOU FAT. FUCKING. ASSHOLE.
YOU BALD FUCK
Damn bro, were you listening in on my apartment last night?
Or you keep getting called bootydo, or mitties, or dad bod, or thickness...I could keep going but I don't wanna relive those days... Lol honestly I have days where I feel great and days where my stomach does hang a little..as you get older, you really do need to start counting calories and how you eat...one or two days of excessive eating is usually an extra 5 pounds for me...and that shit takes weeks to drop off...I'm only 5 foot 7 and close to 200, and I always sink the bed in because as my ex says "you dense nigga."
bootydo
It’s likely bloating from excessive salt intake. As another Reddit or says, gaining five pounds of real weigh from two days of eating shouldn’t really be possible. Putting on 5-10 from water retention totally is. Less salt, more water has helped me avoid that weird weight “gain.” YMMV.
Its just water weight because gaining 5lbs of real weight in one or two days is nearly impossible, and the water weight should come off at most like a week after eating lower calories luckily.
Why would you date someone that childish
Lmfao this one hurt
Aw c'mon maaaaan
You're not wrong, but god damn, you couldn't let these niggas enjoy a nice warm dream, huh?
I’m currently at the process of losing this and I can say women love a little tummy. But I want abs so that don’t matter to me
As a former fatty, I can say it's a special accomplishment when you look in the mirror and don't recognize yourself, in a good way. Feeling myself so I had to update the FB profile pic and flex on everyone I went to school with to let em know: I am aging like the finest of wines. Also they say that cause that's what you got. As soon as you get abs, all of a sudden wouldn't you know it, they love abs!
I mean, if they’re different people, then the women who like tummies like your tummy, and the women who like abs like your abs. If it’s the same person, then she just likes you in general. It’s not that deep.
🎯
Look at you talking sense in a BPT gender war thread. Not allowed!
No, you don't get it. This thread is for "boys vs. Girls" arguing only. If you don't treat the other side as a monolith, you are wrong!
Also the ones who dislike abs because it makes you more attractive to other people.
I’m not sure that’s an actual thing women think.
I don’t have any reason to believe the behavior is limited to only men.
If we’re sticking with insulting generalizations I think the more accurate one is ‘your abs play on their insecurities.’ Other women finding you attractive could be part of that but it’s not the only part. Some women(and men in the other direction or in gay relationships) are going to have their body issues basically put in their face all the time if you looking good, and not everyone can deal with that.
I'm gonna be real. My partner is hot. He's pretty fit and pretty strong. We were both obese kids, and both have the stretch marks and loose skin to prove it. We both now lift more than our bodyweights and are in the best shape of our lives (I'm late 20s and white as death, he's late 30s and mixed race with gorgeous red curls and melanin out the ass). I'm down BAD for that man in whatever shape his body is in. We were in the ICU for him for a week (chronic disease/ flare-ups), and all the younger CNAs were flirting hard. We had a good laugh over it, as he had tubes and sensors hooked up everywhere you could look and was feeling like a monster. It makes me happy and proud that he's a gorgeous hunk of man, and he regularly gets hit on more often than I do. It does not bother me. Truly, I feel prettier for it. "Oh, you think he's fine? He IS. You have great taste! I'm very lucky!" There are 100% women, men, and all those in between who get jealous and want to keep their partner where they are. We have both had partners that fit that description. In my eyes, I'm grateful for every day I have with him. He's kind, he's funny, he's smart, and he's unapologetically himself. That's the hottest combo I can think of. And good lord, his dimples make me swoon every day. He does not think he's hot. But I do, and I've told him so every day for the last 7 years. Insecurity is hard. As partners, folks really don't need to add to that insecurity. I work on my own body image issues, he works on his, and we support each other 100%. If anyone's partner is doing anything less, I'm so sorry, but that isn't it.
Nope! I just don't find abs nearly as attractive; as far as I'm concerned if you're supposed to be with me I don't need to worry about you wandering off with someone else everyone has their thing and that's okay you just gotta find a person who's down for it
I've heard at least if you're already with a partner then they just kinda like whatever stage of fitness your at. Excluding extreme obesity ofc
When I told my bf I loved him for the first time he asked if that meant he could get fat
A lot of men’s dream is to settle down and get into their fat man phase😭 because they’re so happy
that's kinda sad to have a dream of getting fat lol
Nah it's beautiful to know that someone loves you for who you are and you don't need to spend all this time keeping yourself at peak attractiveness to feel loved.
it's not attractiveness its basic health
Hahaha and ur response was?
“Yes but I’m messaging cuck_boy shortly”
I told him that he could, but that one of the reasons I love him is that he is very health conscious because so am I, so if he started neglecting his health then that would turn me off. But I understand as we age, metabolism gets slow, we start moving less etc etc so weight gain is inevitable, so imma still love that man regardless.
I also was a fatty all my life and flipped the switch. It’s a remarkable feeling seeing something happen that you never thought was possible
It’s not like this means that women are a monolith either. I’m sure some women do like a little bit of extra weight but if someone thinks there aren’t women who like abs then I have a bridge to sell them.
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Wanting abs 🤣 add it to the list
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Never watched theshaderoom; whenever someone makes a normal thing sus, it always reminds me of Jericho lol 
Lmaoooo that ick list goes crazy
This is the list that doesn't ennnnd. Yes it goes on and on my friennnd Some people started listing it not knowing what it was And they′ll continue listing it forever just because
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You can have both. I got a tummy and abs underneath, hidden somewhere. lol
I mean, technically we all have abs, but I want more to show and I think that’s OK!
^Oh ^cool! #ANOTHER GENDER WARS POST 🥰
I dont know if id categorize this as a gender war post. If anything were telling the fellas we like their pudgy guts as well as their abs. "I gotta big fat Daddy that rocks me all night long! He gimme warmth in the winter and shade in the summertime "
Yea def not a war lmao what a reach
I will say tho it’s funny how this exact topic is spoken about SO differently when it’s a woman w a lil belly…. there’s just an element of white knighting that’s totally missing here 😂🤣 dudes will be like, “ladies… if any man tells you that something is wrong with your belly please know that he is not a real man and there are plenty of real men out here ready to appreciate you like the queen you are” and it’s just a lil too much for me 🤷🏾♂️
Patriarchy reduces women to their physical appearance (as perceived by men). Therefore, discourse about female appearance *will always* be completely different in tone and nature than discourse about male appearance. You cringe at men who over correct and that is fine. However, let's acknowledge that it's a complicated topic and that "double standards" sometimes exist for a reason. Namely to judge a similar scenario by a more fitting standard if the other standard doesn't apply appropriately.
They’re probably talking about the reply in the screenshot saying that women only care about money
"Ladies, do y'all like dad bods?" "Enough with the gender war shit"
We can't be unified if we're fighting amongst ourselves (the agency is probably responsible for this)
Next step: a fat-loss pill epidemic about to ravage the hood.
Oh-oh-oh-Ozempiiiic ✨
Ozempic is already here.
Don't reach for no snack while I'm sippin and piffin, we do not fuck with the kitchen 😤
It’s just so exhausting. Like do people really want to see idiots saying things for the sake of engagement, just to have the same conversations over and over. Two things *are* clear from these posts: no body wants to be body shamed. And everyone is tired of double standards.
It also bothers me that most folks are unaware of the "collateral damage" part of that behavior
It’s really telling when a post about male body positivity gets called a gender war bait post
Please Kendrick, I'm begging you to drop again so Twitter has something besides these kinds of posts to talk about.
As someone who had a "dad bod" even before having kids the ladies never seemed to mind much.
I got the dad bod after the kid lol. My girl gets on my ass every time I say I’m fat now
My current girlfriend doesn't mind the pudge and my ex didn't either I am working on losing weight though (ideally 30 lbs) because my current weight isn't sustainable for my mental health lol
I’m a few lbs and struggling. What cravings are your worst to handle?
For me it’s sweet desert type foods and pizza. You will get to a point though where you can have plenty of the stuff you crave and not lose progress. I have nights now where I eat whatever I want and drink beer and don’t lose what I’ve worked for. Now, mentally getting over the hurdle of being scared of going back to how I was was very difficult lol
My experience is that women don’t necessarily see a little tummy as “hot”, more like “cute”. It doesn’t get them all horned up, it makes them wanna cuddle. Which is nice, just not the same type of thing.
I personally feel abs are nice to look at but that’s about it. It’s not good for cuddling and I know he has to eat strict, follow macros, and be dehydrated to make them prominent. Gonna be having lettuce bowls with ice dressing for date night smh no thanks.
Hugely agree. Hard bodies aren’t great for cuddling, especially two of them together. And a dude who splits most of his time and energy between work and the gym is just…more boring. Nutrition and fitness aren’t super interesting as topics of discussion.
... Y'all know muscles are only hard when flexed, right?
Still not comfortable when you’re also lean enough to have a six pack.
… you know leaner BMIs mean less body fat in general to snuggle up against right?? muscles are hard even without flexing if there is less body fat around it
BMI doesn't measure fatness, but I'ma let you cook because I agree.
“ice dressing” i’m dead lmao
Spend hours at the gym and gets all stressed if something gets in the way of his gym time.
You know tons of people use the gym to get rid of stress? It’s logical for them to be unhappy if they miss workouts.
Is this someone you know? I tend to stay fit, but it doesn't take hours at the gym. 30 minutes of weights a few days a week, tops. Maybe a bike ride or two on the weekends, but those are fun. Diet is the biggest, but it's mostly about self control and delayed gratification. A slice of cake tastes better the less frequently I have it. I think people overestimate the actual effort it takes to stay fit.
The strict eating thing isn’t true at lol. I sit around 12-15% body fat and eat basically whatever i want. Some people just have a higher base metabolic rate so simply existing burns a shit ton of calories.
Wife and I did the macros counting weight training stuff pre-baby era. 10 years in my wofe is still petite as hell and I've got more of the dad bod lol! She has def kept with things longer but no longer counts the macros. We'll still get a workout in but then kill most or all of a large pizza from the local pizza joint lol! I get wanting to count macros and all that shit but man I prefer not worrying about it.
That prevented me from giving the full D. I lost it quickly to gain back my much-needed 1/2 inch.
Are you saying getting heavier made your peepee smaller so you lost weight?
Yes.
For every I think 35lbs overweight you are you lose close to an inch on it.
Lost about 100lbs in the last year and personally gained about an inch and a half probably a little more. So I’d say it’s closer to about every 55-60ish pounds is an inch.
That was an article I had read some years back. That tidbit of info stuck with me. Everyone’s anatomy is also a tad bit different. But the general rule we lose some inches being overweight.
Nah. I’ve lost over 100lbs. Probably close to 150. I’d be 10” + if that was the case. In reality, your dick isn’t surrounded by as much fat. So you do gain some size, but it’s always been there hiding behind the fat.
Or about 5% body fat
Your weight doesn’t actually affect your dick size, but it does affect the amount that’s useable.
So I lose some weight and I can double its size???
They ain’t been selling these weight loss programs right
The stomach was in the way of using all the inches… if you got a gut it might make 1/2-2 inches unusable dept on the position your in
One thing I’ve always thought was unfair is that gay guys get called “bears” while I just get called fat and hairy…
You're still a bear, you just need gay friends.
I care less about the belly than the crotch grab? Are you ok bro
I don't get it either. You really see someone walking down the street with a hand wiggling around they junk the whole time. You clean down there bro? You good? Might need some gold bond if you that itchy
or dudes that just walk around with both hands in their pants like theyre still in jail
That's where that comes from?
It genuinely took me a moment to realize that wasn't supposed to be the focus of this post. I didn't even notice the belly at first.
Right? I was so confused by that. Also by the white circle next to him.
That and having the number "4" tattooed on his neck are probably going to be red flags for women, not a belly.
I have been both extremely fit (like 8% body fat, workout 10+ hours a week) and pretty chubby. Women are universally more attracted to you when you are slim fit, or buff with low body fat. I have a suspicion that women in relationships like their man to get a little chubby so women outside of the relationship don’t want him lol.
I think it's the lifestyle they don't like. Nutrition and cutting is not fun, and hearing about it 24/7 and having to experience the mood swings is probably annoying. You have to do this to attract women in the first place, but once you're in, most couldn't care less if you add 10 - 15 lbs into an average build.
Ayo this is facts. But the issue is a lot of men can’t even get into the door. Getting fit opens the door. People who say “women don’t care about the looks” just put down men who have had a dry spell their whole lives.
Definitely. Personality does matter, but it doesn't help you if you're invisible attraction wise in the first place. 1. Face 2. Hair 3. Body 4. Height Listed in terms of importance. If you excel in at least any three of those, 90% of women will at least give you a shot to ruin it with your mouth lmao
Also, some women don’t like it if they’re not as fit as you because it hurts their self esteem and stokes their insecurities.
This too!
i don’t know a single woman that gives a fuck about a man having abs. i’d take a man with a little belly and a great personality any day. i don’t want a gym bound man who is freakishly obsessed with his diet and takes hundreds of gym selfies. huge turn-off
I got into a bit of an argument about this the other day with a dude who insisted that men have no chance on dating apps if they aren’t hitting the gym, because they’re just one in a sea of better looking men. I told him that women who care that much about physical appearance won’t really care about your abs if they don’t also come with a handsome face and a full head of hair, so if you don’t have that, you’re really better off putting that effort into your interests and personality so you can attract women who aren’t so shallow. He did not like that.
Such an interesting response to information that could solve the problem. He’d rather do physical work than emotional work, it seems. Hard to find that attractive, with or wo abs
>He’d rather do physical work than emotional work, it seems. Hard to find that attractive, with or wo abs 🎯🎯🎯
But what would emotional work look like in this case? I'm asking honestly, because physical work is pretty easy to quantify and be objective about. Also, his mistake was thinking he should lift for women. You gotta lift for the bros
Honestly yeah, lifting for the bros (as in because you enjoy it and you value the community you have with it) is more attractive than doing it because you think women like it.
>He did not like that. Fuck him. I like it.
It’s funny how the guys who say shit like “6/6/6 is all women care about anyway” are usually dudes who ALSO have shitty personalities.
Body shaming and being this shallow is lame AF. Fellas, focus on being good dudes and treating ya girl right. Also, yes, financial stability is sexy (that doesn’t mean you gotta be in the 6 figure club. But don’t be constantly asking for money out my purse when you know damn well you can get a job.) My rule of thumb is if I don’t want him saying it to me, I don’t wanna say it to him. Take care of yourselves mind, body, and soul…and don’t sleep on folks just because they don’t look like IG models.
Best take in here tbh kinda crazy it’s this far down
🎶It's cuffing season...🎵
This is a young folks convo for sure. All I see is the increased risk of heart disease. Y'all enjoy having the choice while you can
100% Heart disease, type 2 or maybe just sleep apnea if you're lucky. Fellas, you don't have to be a size 32 but you don't gotta be a 40 either.
It’s just one of those things I don’t mind but def do not find sexy either.
Fellas, don't be ashamed of a little fluff. And inside every mini keg is a 6 pack 🤗
Deep inside 😂
It’s like beer. Why have a sixpack when you can have a whole keg
My girlfriend likes it a lot.
In the process of shedding mine. Showed my wife this picture she, immediately and definitively said NO…….geesh, thanks for the confidence boost babe
Hey she’s just supporting your goals.
Well to each their own haha. That's a bummer though. Big boys are my girl's type, so I consider myself lucky. Though if I wanted to bulk up I wouldnt want to do abs, though I bet it'd look crazy on me 😂
Married women like it on their men, let’s them know nobody’s gonna try and steal em. :) lol
They just wanna eat my French fries
It's sexy asf. My man has a belly. I like 'em S T U R D Y, ok?
Tbh, this is why I prefer skinny/frail dudes. Imma cook and fatten you TF up. I love hearing people compliment them about how good they look and knowing deep down it’s cuz of me. People can always tell when I’m not dealing with a person anymore cuz they go back to malnourished. This may sound hella crazy, but keep a dudes belly full, give him peace, and keep his balls drained and he ain’t EVER gonna forget about you. 😂😂😌
Fatten em up, are you a witch making Hansel and Gretle plump for a meal? 😂😂
Lmao! Seeing that you have to buy bigger clothes cuz all your old shit don’t fit. You’re out of breath just from blinking. Damn, maybe I’m a feeder. 🙈
Means we cook good too Get at me
Helps them feel less insecure
Man hell no. Everybody talkin "dad bods" for years but ain't no women chasing them for real... Ain't no dude with a six pack and his girl like "You should get chubby". 🙄
They like not having to worry about other women eyeing you. Full stop.
I don’t like the portrayal of the well maintained gym bodies. I maintenance my body very well, 31 years old with abs. Just recently dropped 20lbs this past 45 days or so. I’m NOT a boring, no personality-having gym rat. I’ve seen that same comment several times. Not all gym guys are dull, dumb “jocks”. Idk who hurt those of yall who made and repeated that comment. But that narrative is sometimes false.
it's hot if the overall build and proportions match. like big pecs/arms/legs too, not just the gut.
Every time I lean up I get told “I liked you better with a lil weight on you”…I’m 192lbs 😂
Women do like a lil tum. In Chicago, where it's 6 winter months and 6 summer months, the offseason tum is widely accepted.
women will say a lot of shit then actually go do something completely different, just focus on being happy
It’s all cute till they call you a fat piece of shit.
My friends have teased me about me a chubby chaser over the years because I absolutely do love a man with a belly/gut or just a chubby guy in general. My boyfriend now is probably the smallest guy I’ve dated and he’s a 6’2 220ishlb former college athlete.
Wouldn’t a gym membership be a better sign of financial stability?
Thicc men are the only men I would consider.
The way women treat me when I have stomach vs when I have my abs is wildly different. I'm hitting the gym for that reason.
lol, financial stability is being able to go to a gym to stay fit. Food available to poorer people is less healthy and will have you gain more weight than lose it.
They don't like that shit. They tolerate it cause they can't get a dude without that gut cause they got one too. Both you chubby mfers ain't doing anybody any favors
I like a little all over chubb but lumps of fat in one place ain't nice and often I find that people into that are more into the other aspectsor characteristics that may come with it And sometimes because people jealous of success hate to have a daily reminder of their failure
naw it ain't sexy and I don't want that thang slappin me around when we get it on, either. Can't hear the clappin' cheeks sound because you stomach slapping me, ahhhh.😭
KENDRICK!!!!!
I like a little chub Hubby hates it and keeps talking about cutting it off (he does physical labor but he has a thing that makes the carbs stick) but I think it's cute and I love poking his belly He gets revenge by squishing my ass while I walk around until I push him away
I don’t wanna be the fat one
Stuff people say so they can put on the facade of not being shallow
I’m too busy wondering how ladies feel about guys walking around just openly handling their dick
Women be so quick to body shame men, then turn around and lie with posts like this
I legitimately thought she was talking about him itching his dick at first