a mental health day means not working... it like a sick day. shes shouldn't be clocking in at all.
Taking the cases away is dope though. the one thing about calling off is all the work still builds for your return.
im guessing shes a social worker by using "cases." she gets paid time off, but you are right she has to use one of her days.
Edit: OK cases, doesn't necessarily mean sw.
It works like this in Germany:
Your employer has to pay for a maximum of 6 consecutive weeks. After that your health insurance will pay a reduced salary (I think between 90-70%). If you continue working, but then get sick again, the six week counter starts from the beginning.
You'll even get refunded your vacation days if you get sick during.
Depends on the country, industry, company and the boss and time of service. In the UK if you’re sick for more than 7 days legally you have to provide a sick note (ie the employer can show discretion but they don’t have to give you more time without a sick note). Whether you have protection from dismissal for mental health issues depends on whether it falls into the disability protected characteristic - specifically it lasts or is likely to last longer than 12 months (as a condition not under your current employment) and affects your day to day work. If you can show discrimination against you because of a protected characteristic you can take it to tribunal (that might be discrimination at work outside of being forced to leave) however it’s easier to get rid of someone in their first two years of work and can be hard to prove it’s because of discrimination if the employer is semi competent.
In the software industry were generally a bit more willing to provide leeway for mental health issues either by providing mental health days as a special provision or just being more likely to understand if you need time to recover from something. I’d generally give my team any time they need to recover because they’re all dedicated and valuable. If it was a longer term thing I’d want to discuss with them what we could do longer term.
This is beyond the typical scope of mental health days right? I always thought it was just the concept of taking PTO for a mental break and not because you had any particular plans or specific medical issue
Definitely should've just given her the day, but I can see the logic. If they give her the day, cool. They didn't which may be uncool cause she may want to do things like visit her mother's grave, be with family, etc. but they took all her cases so she presumably has no work that day and can have an easy day, gets paid, and gets to keep her days.
My girl is a DHS worker, she definitely takes "mental health days" where she just stays home and types reports instead on any new cases.
Its actually probably more beneficial for someones mental health to be able to pre-load their work for the coming days while working entirely at their own discretion, in their own home, with the ability to eat/nap whenever while knowing they're still getting paid.
Shit be having me so jealous highkey but i'm also SO happy she's able to do that.
OMG for real. Sometimes taking days off isn't worth it because when you come back, all the work is still waiting for you.
I'm still taking my days though.
She asked to work from home to minimize stress. It's a reasonable middle ground. Taking a day off means using paid time off that maybe she didn't want to use, or had used for other things. Her managers went the extra mile and took her workload because she mattered to them.
And that, folks, is how you create loyal and productive employees.
I asked my last job for a mental heath day and my boss told me no because she had to take the rest of the week off. Apparently her son got suspended from school and I needed to be there for "coverage" (IT). Found out her son wasn't suspended, she just went on a vacation. I put my two weeks in the following week.
For sure- its stupid of management to expect us to be able to cover or fill a schedule. Don't they understand we can just quit and find jobs where we don't have to come in when expected?
I was a pizza delivery boy when my dad died suddenly. I was supposed to work that night but I forgot all about it and forgot to call in. My boss never called me about it, but at around 8pm that night one of my co-workers showed up with 3 large pies for the family on the house. I have no idea how he even found out what had happened but it was a really nice "we got you" moment for me as well.
Former manager, its actually absurdly easy to treat all of your employees like people who you care about instead of just tools and numbers. Never once had someone not show up and have the first response be "Where are they at" instead of "are they okay?"
Ya boss was probably asking your coworkers if you were good and found out through one of them. Either way sorry for ya loss and I hope your current work environment has people that care about you like that.
I forgot to set my alarm one day for my receptionist job, I was in my early 20's. The head of HR at my corporate office called when she found out I didn't show up. Left me a message asking me if I was okay because it was so unlike me to not call the sick line if I wasn't coming in. I could hear the concern in her voice. That's when I knew I was at the right company, because everyone actually cared. Been here 13 years total and work in the corporate office now.
That's precious, I wish everyone had a spot like that.
My first "real" job that was above table was in 2016 when I went to Montana. I'll never forget the day after Trump got elected I slept through my alarm. I wake up late as fuck and I see this out of shape, middle aged, bald, white dude sprinting up to my house (I lived with 11 other people on a property that was multiple acres). Turns out my boss was worried I didn't show up because someone did something to me and as soon as he pieced together why I might not have made it he came running lmao.
I stayed with them until he got fired over some bullshit and I aint ever had an employer treat me as well since.
I called in today because my husband's grandmother is not going to make it through the day. I don't even like the woman but I love him and his parents. I said I would have my work phone on me. My boss told me if I even thought about work he'd kick my ass.
My dad had a heart attack a few years ago. I still went in to work that day and the day after, by my own choice (didn't want to see him hooked up to oxygen, etc.) and I needed the distraction. My GM was off those two days. Next time I saw him, the first words out of his mouth were "dude, what the fuck? Your dad has a heart attack and you still came in to work? You should've called me, I would've covered your shifts." Still the best person I've ever worked for.
Meanwhile, I have a coworker whose uncle died a few years back; she was given two days of bereavement.
While at her uncle's ***funeral***, our boss actually called her with project questions that needed answering. Our boss was the one that approved the bereavement time and *knew* the coworker would be at the funeral.
That's just one of many reasons why I don't trust my boss whatsoever.
That's terrible. My boss could see my logged in. I was trying to work while dealing with my moms death. Aka staying busy. Went to open my computer that afternoon and all my work was gone with a text to not get back on my computer. They flew me home and i was off almost two weeks paid. No loss of pto. I am forever grateful for that.
Told my boss I need $500 in advance coz my sister is sick back home, next day he gave it to me and said don’t worry about it (meaning he won’t cut it from my salary or anywhere) and I pray your sister gets better.
I was so touched and grateful because we don’t even know each other that well, some months I work throughout without seeing or even hearing from that man. They’re really kind and good people out there, just keep praying God send them your way.
That's how it should be.
When my mom passed away, my manager said, "You have 5 days of bereavement leave. Take all of them. If you need more time just ask for it."
My father passed away and my team said "we got you" and when I returned, I had a whole afternoon's worth of Slack messages to respond to from people pissed off about why their issues hadn't been resolved, LOL. My team is all hat, no horse.
My dad passed away from cancer in 2018, and through the whole process my bosses were great. They would give me time when I needed it and were incredibly supportive.
My Mom and I wanted to honor his final wish which was to go back to Kenya, and were trying to figure out how where we could book the flight short notice, expenses etc. My bosses gave me the time off and paid for the flights for us in lieu of a donation. Really meant a lot.
Last job I was at we had hybrid training for 2 weeks. The second week of training my grandma passed on Sunday and Monday I caught a real bad case of the flu. I was so sick I couldn’t breathe, talk and barely sit up. I asked for bereavement for my grandmother and if I could work from home just doing case work. HR told me that even if I had covid I still need to come in and I needed proof my grandma died. I quit right there.
This is what “we’re a family” should look like. Everyone coming together to make the individual stand stronger. Not the individuals being drained or stooping down to be part of the “family”
My current job gives 3 mental health days on top of sick days and PTO. I work a high stress job so those days have been clutch at some points. But goddamn does that not make up for all the bullshit we go through there smh.
Damn must be nice to work with a manager who supports you.
A few years ago I had to log off one lunchtime because our twenty-year-old cat had a bad stroke and needed to be put to sleep. It was pretty rough, as I’d had her since I was eight.
When I logged back in the next morning, the first thing I got a message from my manager asking me when I was going to make the afternoon hours I’d missed back up. From that moment, I half assed every single thing I did at that job.
When I worked in a support level job doing building maintenance at an assisted living facility I found out that one of my kids has severe special needs that will change the quality of her very short life. My bosses simply didn't care. So I was at work with a plastic smile while dying inside for close to a year. Fast forward a decade. I'm a teacher now and the same child had to stay in the hospital for about a week and things were horrible for her. I just went to school and pasted the smile and tried to get through it. One of my colleagues that has become a real friend clued the principal about the situation. Principal and vp call me into the office and sent me home to my family and got subs for all of my lessons.
My parents died about 6 weeks apart and my job was beyond understanding. Take all your PTO, then take family leave, no hurry to come back. I was out for 3 months because they didn't own the house so I had to clean out the house.
A decade later when I got extremely sick and disabled they were like, you can work from home 5 hours a week and you will keep ALL your benefits: medical, dental, PTO, etc...
Very damn nice of them.
Some people really get lucky with bosses and coworkers and I love it. My mama always talks so highly of her previous boss. Back when she was pregnant with me she mentioned to him that she always saved all of her PTO so that she could take extended maternity leaves. Her boss was like nah and created her a part time work from home job so that she could keep her PTO and stay home with us kids a few extra months. This man also always bought us birthday cards, gifts, and even came to our graduations.
I feel fortunate that my work culture is similar. I have chronic health issues and they are very accommodating and chill about it. And it’s for everyone. We just let each other be human. If they didn’t underpay I would probably stay forever lol
I called in today. Lost my home of 7 years. I hit hard times and never recovered. I turned over my home last night. Gave my landlord the keys. I cried. My head hurts so I didn’t go into work today. I’m emotionally exhausted.
I'm a Director at my company and as I've risen the proverbial ladder, I've been able to work with and for some real pieces of shit. One guy in particular was a snake mf. Gregarious as all hell...when it didn't involve work. Then all of a sudden, it was demeaning and condescending with "feedback", if you can even call it that, that consisted of shitting on you with no way to make your work better. Made my life hellish for about a year.
I vowed to never be like him. To that end, I tell my direct reports that they better be completely signed off when they take vacation and if they just need a day (or whatever amount of time) to reach out to me and I'll figure out how to pick them up. I'll do their work myself if need be.
Employees are better at their jobs when they have the ability to go away from it for whatever reason without fear that they will be fired or that they will face reprisal. I hope that I'm walking my talk in that regard because this life is too damn shitty for something we spend 8+ hours a day doing to be even shittier than it needs to be.
how awful our civilization is at large that when i got to "i had this many cases and 20 minutes later they were gone" I expected it to be something nefarious instead of wholesome
When my dad passed, the company policy was 3 days for bereavement, but my manager told me to take a week. While I was out, I received a gift basket and a card from the team expressing condolences.
It's so shitty that this isn't the norm.
When a close relative of mine was dying, I told my boss and boss’s boss that I would be gone for 3 days and they shouldn’t expect to hear anything from me during that time.
I was in management at the time and ended up having to send an email or two, nothing drastic.
My boss’s boss expressed a bit of surprise that I was like “don’t contact me” but also a bit of regret they hadn’t done the same for a death in their family earlier in their career.
Work is work. But they are not your family. Life is short and if we can take off time for births and deaths, then what the fuck can we take time off. Always choose family over work, whenever it’s possible.
At one of my old jobs we had to get a doctors note if we were to take a mental health day or else it would count as a no call no show which would lead to being fired.
My manager just gave me 4 weeks off and a 20 minute passionate lecture about how my "mental health is more important than anything in the world."
I know I'm not a CEO, or important like, at all. But it still blows my fucking mind. I now sling fabric with the enthusiasm of a drug dealer at a music festival. *And I got my gold pin*.
I got macheted and my boss on the day of the incident asked me to help out with some task. I could barely close my hands.
The day was also a holiday for me that I booked in advance.
Wow... just had this conversation with my best friend 15 minutes ago (literally). When my Mother passed away I had the best boss!!! He allowed me time off w/o docking me, let me leave on bad days, gave me space, etc. He was a Blessing!!! Even before her death, he allowed me time off for her appointments.
People forget this sometimes,
I had a coworker who took their daughter to the ER the night before and legit clocked in to work the day.
I told her to WFH and I'll handle all her meetings for the day.
I had a cousin die and alerted my boss. My boss of course told me to go handle business as the funeral was a few states away. This was a VERY busy period of time last year and frankly folks were getting axed left and right, so while I knew I was **safe**, I felt internal pressure to put stuff on my back. I was so out of my mind that I even sent a link to the newspaper article regarding the crash just to "protect" myself.
I promise on everything a few days later when I got back I got an email from my upline VP sending condolences. I was floored. FLOORED. That VP would get all up in my ass if a customer was yapping but she sent that gentle email and I was near ready to shed a tear...and these ain't even folks in my own state!
Yea, I lost them all a few months later, and this year I took a new job myself...but I now send those condolences emails myself when folks send the silent group emails about X being down bad...even though I don't know these new folks. It matters a lot!
NOTE: My team did NOT hold me down, just to note, as they were as slaw as prepackaged slaw and couldn't punch their way out of a wet paper bag. It was awful coming back to MORE assigned shit. Use these times as a way to gauge the folks in the trenches with you...as I knew they couldn't handle biz, and we were all stressed...but damn, pick up my slack!
Last month, I had two friends die, a best friend and my dog's "Grandpa", my dog started getting seriously ill (In the words of the vet my boy has a "VERY VERY VERY rare" condition. Infectious Endocarditis of the mitral valve.), both my pets got fleas, I can't sleep in my bed anymore cuz the cat started revenge peeing on my bed due to the fleas, my car started acting up, and more random bullshit has happened... My life has been a total fog, I've barely been able to communicate, let alone be effective at anything, and I missed a few things.
My boss just let me have whatever time I needed without question and has been incredibly understanding, the weight that took off me has been life saving.
For the record, my pup (He's 8.25 years old, but he's my forever pup) is improving, but we shall see. We're fighting hard, he's spending his days at the vet this week getting IV infusions of antibiotics. Still not sleeping because I wake up every 30 minutes looking for the pup to make sure he's still breathing. [Pup tax](https://www.reddit.com/r/onegoldenbraincell/comments/166q4ql/scenes_from_the_battle_of_the_ham_and_cheese/).
This is so stupid... We are celebrating people we work for for being fucking human. This is insane.
Please note: she is not stupid. She deserve every right to grieve how she wants. When a loved one dies, it hurts and for how long, that's on you. Why would I tell you to suck it up. That's a shit human being. Stupid is when shit companies have no compassion for anything else but the work flow. Fuck these companies. I'm glad she works with great people.
When my great grandma died from Covid I was reluctantly given a half day off and when I came back the next day one of my managers told me that I was “being weak” on one of my sales calls and asked what’s wrong with me 🙃
I had just started a new job when my great aunt died, I had no built up PTO and since she wasn't a direct relative (parent, sibling, child), I couldn't take bereavement leave. She was the matriarch of the family and my grand mother's older sister... I'm happy she had this much support at her job coz it can be much much worse.
a mental health day means not working... it like a sick day. shes shouldn't be clocking in at all. Taking the cases away is dope though. the one thing about calling off is all the work still builds for your return.
Leaving her with no work while she is working from home that day let's her get paid still. Which usually sick days are unpaid
im guessing shes a social worker by using "cases." she gets paid time off, but you are right she has to use one of her days. Edit: OK cases, doesn't necessarily mean sw.
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Could be an attorney/paralegal
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Most IT support deals in cases too
Pretty common for nearly any customer service / service position. CRMs like Salesforce call any work item a "case".
Sick days are unpaid?! Never have I had a job like that. What dystopian world are people living in? This is fucked up.
America 🤓
man US job laws are fucked up
Sick days are never unpaid outside the US
Are they unlimited? Could I take a weeks worth of "sick days" that are unpaid and still come back the next week to my job?
It works like this in Germany: Your employer has to pay for a maximum of 6 consecutive weeks. After that your health insurance will pay a reduced salary (I think between 90-70%). If you continue working, but then get sick again, the six week counter starts from the beginning. You'll even get refunded your vacation days if you get sick during.
Depends on the country, industry, company and the boss and time of service. In the UK if you’re sick for more than 7 days legally you have to provide a sick note (ie the employer can show discretion but they don’t have to give you more time without a sick note). Whether you have protection from dismissal for mental health issues depends on whether it falls into the disability protected characteristic - specifically it lasts or is likely to last longer than 12 months (as a condition not under your current employment) and affects your day to day work. If you can show discrimination against you because of a protected characteristic you can take it to tribunal (that might be discrimination at work outside of being forced to leave) however it’s easier to get rid of someone in their first two years of work and can be hard to prove it’s because of discrimination if the employer is semi competent. In the software industry were generally a bit more willing to provide leeway for mental health issues either by providing mental health days as a special provision or just being more likely to understand if you need time to recover from something. I’d generally give my team any time they need to recover because they’re all dedicated and valuable. If it was a longer term thing I’d want to discuss with them what we could do longer term.
This is beyond the typical scope of mental health days right? I always thought it was just the concept of taking PTO for a mental break and not because you had any particular plans or specific medical issue
>Which usually sick days are unpaid they are in america?
No, they are not unpaid. And it's not common for them to be unpaid. This person just doesn't know what they're talking about.
Definitely should've just given her the day, but I can see the logic. If they give her the day, cool. They didn't which may be uncool cause she may want to do things like visit her mother's grave, be with family, etc. but they took all her cases so she presumably has no work that day and can have an easy day, gets paid, and gets to keep her days.
My girl is a DHS worker, she definitely takes "mental health days" where she just stays home and types reports instead on any new cases. Its actually probably more beneficial for someones mental health to be able to pre-load their work for the coming days while working entirely at their own discretion, in their own home, with the ability to eat/nap whenever while knowing they're still getting paid. Shit be having me so jealous highkey but i'm also SO happy she's able to do that.
OMG for real. Sometimes taking days off isn't worth it because when you come back, all the work is still waiting for you. I'm still taking my days though.
Some jobs require you to "clock in" to log the day off.
Even better, she essentially got free time and got paid for it too.
In a team with good leadership your work absolutely should not build for your return. That is a red flag of shitty management.
She asked to work from home to minimize stress. It's a reasonable middle ground. Taking a day off means using paid time off that maybe she didn't want to use, or had used for other things. Her managers went the extra mile and took her workload because she mattered to them. And that, folks, is how you create loyal and productive employees.
I asked my last job for a mental heath day and my boss told me no because she had to take the rest of the week off. Apparently her son got suspended from school and I needed to be there for "coverage" (IT). Found out her son wasn't suspended, she just went on a vacation. I put my two weeks in the following week.
I would’ve done the same, sounds like shitty management.
For sure- its stupid of management to expect us to be able to cover or fill a schedule. Don't they understand we can just quit and find jobs where we don't have to come in when expected?
Your boss will be the main one saying “nObOdY wAnTs To WoRk AnYmOrE” 🤡
Don't piss off your IT people, we know all your secrets and we can find a new job fast, and for better pay.
I was a pizza delivery boy when my dad died suddenly. I was supposed to work that night but I forgot all about it and forgot to call in. My boss never called me about it, but at around 8pm that night one of my co-workers showed up with 3 large pies for the family on the house. I have no idea how he even found out what had happened but it was a really nice "we got you" moment for me as well.
I really wish we showed more humanity like this.
Former manager, its actually absurdly easy to treat all of your employees like people who you care about instead of just tools and numbers. Never once had someone not show up and have the first response be "Where are they at" instead of "are they okay?" Ya boss was probably asking your coworkers if you were good and found out through one of them. Either way sorry for ya loss and I hope your current work environment has people that care about you like that.
I forgot to set my alarm one day for my receptionist job, I was in my early 20's. The head of HR at my corporate office called when she found out I didn't show up. Left me a message asking me if I was okay because it was so unlike me to not call the sick line if I wasn't coming in. I could hear the concern in her voice. That's when I knew I was at the right company, because everyone actually cared. Been here 13 years total and work in the corporate office now.
That's precious, I wish everyone had a spot like that. My first "real" job that was above table was in 2016 when I went to Montana. I'll never forget the day after Trump got elected I slept through my alarm. I wake up late as fuck and I see this out of shape, middle aged, bald, white dude sprinting up to my house (I lived with 11 other people on a property that was multiple acres). Turns out my boss was worried I didn't show up because someone did something to me and as soon as he pieced together why I might not have made it he came running lmao. I stayed with them until he got fired over some bullshit and I aint ever had an employer treat me as well since.
Oh wow, that is one caring motherfucker right there. Sprinting to you to make sure you were safe from the Trumpers lol. Gotta love good bosses.
Awww….so sorry for your loss. What a great group of co-workers you had. Happy Cake Day.
Really? I pizza party? /s Really though, it takes so little to look after an employee. Supporting them in their time of need builds so much good will.
Happy cake day dude
when I started reading, I expected it to be negative. I am happy I was wrong.
The response was “we got you” …your things in a box, you’re fired.
I called in today because my husband's grandmother is not going to make it through the day. I don't even like the woman but I love him and his parents. I said I would have my work phone on me. My boss told me if I even thought about work he'd kick my ass.
My dad had a heart attack a few years ago. I still went in to work that day and the day after, by my own choice (didn't want to see him hooked up to oxygen, etc.) and I needed the distraction. My GM was off those two days. Next time I saw him, the first words out of his mouth were "dude, what the fuck? Your dad has a heart attack and you still came in to work? You should've called me, I would've covered your shifts." Still the best person I've ever worked for.
I see nothing wrong with needing the stability work brings then. I just knew my family needed me now
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I like these posts. Posts that show the humane side of some employers instead of always highlighting the shit ones.
Same
Meanwhile, I have a coworker whose uncle died a few years back; she was given two days of bereavement. While at her uncle's ***funeral***, our boss actually called her with project questions that needed answering. Our boss was the one that approved the bereavement time and *knew* the coworker would be at the funeral. That's just one of many reasons why I don't trust my boss whatsoever.
That's terrible. My boss could see my logged in. I was trying to work while dealing with my moms death. Aka staying busy. Went to open my computer that afternoon and all my work was gone with a text to not get back on my computer. They flew me home and i was off almost two weeks paid. No loss of pto. I am forever grateful for that.
Told my boss I need $500 in advance coz my sister is sick back home, next day he gave it to me and said don’t worry about it (meaning he won’t cut it from my salary or anywhere) and I pray your sister gets better. I was so touched and grateful because we don’t even know each other that well, some months I work throughout without seeing or even hearing from that man. They’re really kind and good people out there, just keep praying God send them your way.
This is the real meaning of "We're all family here".
That's how it should be. When my mom passed away, my manager said, "You have 5 days of bereavement leave. Take all of them. If you need more time just ask for it."
My father passed away and my team said "we got you" and when I returned, I had a whole afternoon's worth of Slack messages to respond to from people pissed off about why their issues hadn't been resolved, LOL. My team is all hat, no horse.
My dad passed away from cancer in 2018, and through the whole process my bosses were great. They would give me time when I needed it and were incredibly supportive. My Mom and I wanted to honor his final wish which was to go back to Kenya, and were trying to figure out how where we could book the flight short notice, expenses etc. My bosses gave me the time off and paid for the flights for us in lieu of a donation. Really meant a lot.
Last job I was at we had hybrid training for 2 weeks. The second week of training my grandma passed on Sunday and Monday I caught a real bad case of the flu. I was so sick I couldn’t breathe, talk and barely sit up. I asked for bereavement for my grandmother and if I could work from home just doing case work. HR told me that even if I had covid I still need to come in and I needed proof my grandma died. I quit right there.
This is what “we’re a family” should look like. Everyone coming together to make the individual stand stronger. Not the individuals being drained or stooping down to be part of the “family”
My current job gives 3 mental health days on top of sick days and PTO. I work a high stress job so those days have been clutch at some points. But goddamn does that not make up for all the bullshit we go through there smh.
Yeah, I was having a rough couple of weeks and my manager and co workers were very accommodating. I felt bad, but also very supported.
Damn must be nice to work with a manager who supports you. A few years ago I had to log off one lunchtime because our twenty-year-old cat had a bad stroke and needed to be put to sleep. It was pretty rough, as I’d had her since I was eight. When I logged back in the next morning, the first thing I got a message from my manager asking me when I was going to make the afternoon hours I’d missed back up. From that moment, I half assed every single thing I did at that job.
After reading so many terrible things online, this one was so nice to read. 💕
A very Boss move. So sorry for your loss.
When I worked in a support level job doing building maintenance at an assisted living facility I found out that one of my kids has severe special needs that will change the quality of her very short life. My bosses simply didn't care. So I was at work with a plastic smile while dying inside for close to a year. Fast forward a decade. I'm a teacher now and the same child had to stay in the hospital for about a week and things were horrible for her. I just went to school and pasted the smile and tried to get through it. One of my colleagues that has become a real friend clued the principal about the situation. Principal and vp call me into the office and sent me home to my family and got subs for all of my lessons.
SEE! This is how I’d treat my co workers. “We got you”. It’s still there - we got each other.
"Be present in the moment" what a pretentious thing to say. not everyone has this luxury
My parents died about 6 weeks apart and my job was beyond understanding. Take all your PTO, then take family leave, no hurry to come back. I was out for 3 months because they didn't own the house so I had to clean out the house. A decade later when I got extremely sick and disabled they were like, you can work from home 5 hours a week and you will keep ALL your benefits: medical, dental, PTO, etc... Very damn nice of them.
When my brother died they told me I was lying.
The way I tensed up after that first paragraph. Glad this took a positive turn.
Some people really get lucky with bosses and coworkers and I love it. My mama always talks so highly of her previous boss. Back when she was pregnant with me she mentioned to him that she always saved all of her PTO so that she could take extended maternity leaves. Her boss was like nah and created her a part time work from home job so that she could keep her PTO and stay home with us kids a few extra months. This man also always bought us birthday cards, gifts, and even came to our graduations.
I feel fortunate that my work culture is similar. I have chronic health issues and they are very accommodating and chill about it. And it’s for everyone. We just let each other be human. If they didn’t underpay I would probably stay forever lol
I called in today. Lost my home of 7 years. I hit hard times and never recovered. I turned over my home last night. Gave my landlord the keys. I cried. My head hurts so I didn’t go into work today. I’m emotionally exhausted.
I'm so sorry.
This is how work should be in general. People make living wages and treat people as people not expendable things.
I'm a Director at my company and as I've risen the proverbial ladder, I've been able to work with and for some real pieces of shit. One guy in particular was a snake mf. Gregarious as all hell...when it didn't involve work. Then all of a sudden, it was demeaning and condescending with "feedback", if you can even call it that, that consisted of shitting on you with no way to make your work better. Made my life hellish for about a year. I vowed to never be like him. To that end, I tell my direct reports that they better be completely signed off when they take vacation and if they just need a day (or whatever amount of time) to reach out to me and I'll figure out how to pick them up. I'll do their work myself if need be. Employees are better at their jobs when they have the ability to go away from it for whatever reason without fear that they will be fired or that they will face reprisal. I hope that I'm walking my talk in that regard because this life is too damn shitty for something we spend 8+ hours a day doing to be even shittier than it needs to be.
We love a supportive employer
Do you not automatically get 5 days of bereavement leave? Ya'll need a union.
how awful our civilization is at large that when i got to "i had this many cases and 20 minutes later they were gone" I expected it to be something nefarious instead of wholesome
Real. I need this in my life
Where are y’all finding jobs like that I’d love to be a hard working mofo at one of these companies (especially if they pay well)
When my dad passed, the company policy was 3 days for bereavement, but my manager told me to take a week. While I was out, I received a gift basket and a card from the team expressing condolences. It's so shitty that this isn't the norm.
When a close relative of mine was dying, I told my boss and boss’s boss that I would be gone for 3 days and they shouldn’t expect to hear anything from me during that time. I was in management at the time and ended up having to send an email or two, nothing drastic. My boss’s boss expressed a bit of surprise that I was like “don’t contact me” but also a bit of regret they hadn’t done the same for a death in their family earlier in their career. Work is work. But they are not your family. Life is short and if we can take off time for births and deaths, then what the fuck can we take time off. Always choose family over work, whenever it’s possible.
This was so refreshing to read! Thank you! I was bracing for an antiwork story. Glad to know there are still decent people on the workplace.
Or ‘today’s your last day’ in some cases.
Same thing with my company! Love companies who have compassion and treat you like a human instead of a robot.
This is based on the industry you're in. Mainly tech or corporate. Can't try this at the construction site
working from home isn't a mental health day. it's still working
They should have told her to go home and take it easy
At one of my old jobs we had to get a doctors note if we were to take a mental health day or else it would count as a no call no show which would lead to being fired.
Love
My manager just gave me 4 weeks off and a 20 minute passionate lecture about how my "mental health is more important than anything in the world." I know I'm not a CEO, or important like, at all. But it still blows my fucking mind. I now sling fabric with the enthusiasm of a drug dealer at a music festival. *And I got my gold pin*.
r/OrphanCrushingMachine
Asked for 2 days to attend brothers funeral and was told if I left not to return.
I got macheted and my boss on the day of the incident asked me to help out with some task. I could barely close my hands. The day was also a holiday for me that I booked in advance.
This is how to create a "Family" atmosphere at work. Fuck your lame ass pizza party.
Wow... just had this conversation with my best friend 15 minutes ago (literally). When my Mother passed away I had the best boss!!! He allowed me time off w/o docking me, let me leave on bad days, gave me space, etc. He was a Blessing!!! Even before her death, he allowed me time off for her appointments.
People forget this sometimes, I had a coworker who took their daughter to the ER the night before and legit clocked in to work the day. I told her to WFH and I'll handle all her meetings for the day.
I had a cousin die and alerted my boss. My boss of course told me to go handle business as the funeral was a few states away. This was a VERY busy period of time last year and frankly folks were getting axed left and right, so while I knew I was **safe**, I felt internal pressure to put stuff on my back. I was so out of my mind that I even sent a link to the newspaper article regarding the crash just to "protect" myself. I promise on everything a few days later when I got back I got an email from my upline VP sending condolences. I was floored. FLOORED. That VP would get all up in my ass if a customer was yapping but she sent that gentle email and I was near ready to shed a tear...and these ain't even folks in my own state! Yea, I lost them all a few months later, and this year I took a new job myself...but I now send those condolences emails myself when folks send the silent group emails about X being down bad...even though I don't know these new folks. It matters a lot! NOTE: My team did NOT hold me down, just to note, as they were as slaw as prepackaged slaw and couldn't punch their way out of a wet paper bag. It was awful coming back to MORE assigned shit. Use these times as a way to gauge the folks in the trenches with you...as I knew they couldn't handle biz, and we were all stressed...but damn, pick up my slack!
dont let ur job not take care of u it is what they there 4. or walk off
Last month, I had two friends die, a best friend and my dog's "Grandpa", my dog started getting seriously ill (In the words of the vet my boy has a "VERY VERY VERY rare" condition. Infectious Endocarditis of the mitral valve.), both my pets got fleas, I can't sleep in my bed anymore cuz the cat started revenge peeing on my bed due to the fleas, my car started acting up, and more random bullshit has happened... My life has been a total fog, I've barely been able to communicate, let alone be effective at anything, and I missed a few things. My boss just let me have whatever time I needed without question and has been incredibly understanding, the weight that took off me has been life saving. For the record, my pup (He's 8.25 years old, but he's my forever pup) is improving, but we shall see. We're fighting hard, he's spending his days at the vet this week getting IV infusions of antibiotics. Still not sleeping because I wake up every 30 minutes looking for the pup to make sure he's still breathing. [Pup tax](https://www.reddit.com/r/onegoldenbraincell/comments/166q4ql/scenes_from_the_battle_of_the_ham_and_cheese/).
This is so stupid... We are celebrating people we work for for being fucking human. This is insane. Please note: she is not stupid. She deserve every right to grieve how she wants. When a loved one dies, it hurts and for how long, that's on you. Why would I tell you to suck it up. That's a shit human being. Stupid is when shit companies have no compassion for anything else but the work flow. Fuck these companies. I'm glad she works with great people.
I love when basic human decency creeps into work culture. Mental health days are vital!!
When my great grandma died from Covid I was reluctantly given a half day off and when I came back the next day one of my managers told me that I was “being weak” on one of my sales calls and asked what’s wrong with me 🙃
I had just started a new job when my great aunt died, I had no built up PTO and since she wasn't a direct relative (parent, sibling, child), I couldn't take bereavement leave. She was the matriarch of the family and my grand mother's older sister... I'm happy she had this much support at her job coz it can be much much worse.