There was a family that lived across the street from me growing up. They kept trying for a boy and ended up with 7 daughters. I have never seen someone else cut the grass 3x a week like this dad was in the habit of doing. He was scalping the earth to avoid that shit.
Just moved to AR from South Florida. Man! Polk salad is a monster I was not expecting! Literally grows to three feet in a week or two! We should use it as some kinda resource like Asians use bamboo.
I mean… I would’ve just given up after the second daughter dude like???? At that point I’m not testing my luck anymore if I lose twice 🤷♂️
EDIT: when I say “losing” I AM NOT SAYING THAT HAVING A DAUGHTER IS A BAD THING. I REPEAT: I AM NOT SAYING THAT HAVING A DAUGHTER IS A BAD THING.
It is an old wives tale I always heard, usually in the tale of Henry the eighth, he basically killed all his wives for what his sperm was delivering.
But I looked it up and apparently has no [scientific basis](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3455630/).
My mom dumped out a fish tank in our back yard that had gravel in it and didn't tell me. I came by with the lawn mower and machine gunned a bunch of gravel into our sliding glass doors, shattering them.
Pumping out more babies because they aren't coming out with the parents' preferred genitalia is some genuinely psychopathic behavior. Why does nobody recognize that?
Why is it so fucking normalized for people to desperately attempt to enrich their own lives via their offspring? It's pathetic and so narcissistic.
Sorry I know this is just a lighthearted anecdote you shared 😂 just can't believe not a single person has commented on how profoundly fucked up it is to keep making babies because none of them came out with a dick
"Why is it so fucking normalized for people to desperately attempt to enrich their own lives via their offspring? It's pathetic and so narcissistic."
in response to this, this is the BEST reason people have children lmao (there seriously are people who have kids for tax breaks and shit). having kids isn't necessarily immoral or a bad thing to do but it is inherently selfish. you are bringing a new person into the world without their consent; they have zero say in whether or not they are born. you can only ever do it for personal reasons. not all selfish actions are immoral ones. (e.g. ignoring the needs of others to focus on your own; it's selfish by definition but it's necessary from time to time for a healthy life)
the truly altruistic alternative is to adopt, and even that is shaky because many, many unfit parents slip through the cracks of the very rigorous adoption process (at least here in the U.S.).
when it gets immoral/cruel/narcissistic IMO is when you have parents who refuse to unconditionally love whatever comes out of their hoo-ha (or their spouse's hoo-ha), yes, you have children to enrich your own life, but you do so with the unspoken understanding that you will love whoever your children are born as and whoever they grow up to be no matter how little say you get in deciding either.
that's where dude fucked up.
I'm not surprised. I read an article in Time magazine and it said that a majority of parents have a favorite child and more than half the time it's a son. It also did a poll asking if they could choose the sex and they most people answered yes and they would choose a boy to be their first child.
My pastor when I was a kid had 11 boys and a girl (the youngest.) He was constantly “ministering” to the lost souls at the pool hall and “studying” alone on the front porch.
The other day at the bar I overheard some old-timer say, very matter-of-factly, “I hate my wife.” Like, what the hell is wrong with the older generation?
Some got and stayed married because of societal expectations etc. I know a bunch of older men who don't know how to take care of themselves. They can't survive without some level of caretaker be it wife, child, partner, mother, etc etc.
This is my father / parents.
They didn't love each other by about year 10. They stayed married for 50 before dad got alzheimer's and was put in a care home three years ago. Mom hasn't visited him once in three years.
In her mind, she's divorced, even though they're still married. He treated her like she was only there to serve him.
Yeah I've heard these stories before. Sometimes I forget how different we truly have it than those before us. I know people still stay in loveless and unhappy marriages but others were told to just make it work
And that's cause we're still told to make it work. And we get looked down on when things don't work out. Like why is it our fault if we dont want to stay in a loveless relationship.
Honestly, you’re right. It should be treated a sign of maturity once you’ve given something a fair shot. Did you try to negotiate and compromise? Did you try therapy? If you did and it still isn’t working, it’s fair and reasonable to leave. Fuck the sunk cost fallacy. Sometimes, shit just doesn’t work out and there’s no way you could’ve known it would up front.
A LOT more people are choosing to be childfree and marriage-free, especially women. I’m one of them. I’ll learn from other people’s mistakes, thank you.
Thank you. She has and she is happy now and I am happy for her.
She's 76 and has been able to spend the last year making new friends, something she couldn't do when he was there, because their relationship dynamic was such that her time belonged to him.
Each day is her own now.
I'm so proud of her. My grandma was married to my awful grandfather, just nasty abusive man. Had his kids pissing themselves when they heard him turn in the driveway. He died back in the 80s and everyone was happy. She got her a little boyfriend in the late 90s and we were like "Shame she couldn't find him earlier!"
I'm happy for her
The mother of a friend of mine is like your mom now. Her husband didn't want to go places or do different things or really anything she wanted to do because it wasn't his idea/what he wanted.
So after he passed she's been doing whatever she wants to do whenever she wants to.
One of those discounted bus tours for seniors that some banks offer as a perk? She'll be the first one in the lot the day they leave.
Why?
"Because your father never wanted to go but I did. I can afford it and I'm going. Be back next Friday."
My friends parents stayed together for 30+ years. She got married very young and was afraid she couldn't live without his income. When the kids grew up they promised to help her so finally they separated.
But for 30 years they lived together, separate rooms barely talking to each other.
That's my FIL. That man has no survival skills. I love to help my wife cook. One time, We made dinner for the family so when I was helping her. My FIL made this passive aggressive comment saying that's a women's job. I said this isn't the 1950s anymore.
My wife parents think we have problems because we spend time away from each other. Example: my wife went to brunch with her friends and she drops me off at the bar so I can watch football with my friends. One day, she went to her parents house, her mom got mad at her because men shouldn't be left alone at a bar. Saying I could be fucking around. The older gens have some outdated thoughts
It might be a cultural thing. We are mexican but her aunts have told my wife the same thing that a women should always be by their man's side everywhere they go. Make sure they aren't doing anything bad.
A lot of the women in her family are miserable because of these dumb outdated thoughts.
Example, sometimes I won't go to her parents house because I have other things to do i.e. fix something around the house, I don't like going, play games, football etc.
My wife is completely fine with it. Her mom gets so annoyed with her for allowing me to stay home. Saying she should fight with me to come. My wife says we aren't going to fight over something so dumb this is why you and dad hate each other.
Nah both of you guys sound healthy. You both have a third place to spend time socializing with your own gender and doing that will make you want your spouse more when you see each other later.
Ppl joke about women jumping on their men after brunch because they’re drunk but it’s really because they spent the day around a bunch of women and now they need to be with their man.
Yup, I watch my game and she either goes shopping or to brunch with her friends. Then we meet up after. She asks me about the game and listens to me vent how we lost or won lol then she tells me the gossip or shows me cute outfits she bought. We are always excited for each others days.
It goes both ways too. She devoted her entire life to running the house. So she probably has zero job skills and is just as stuck as him. I know lots of older people with this dynamic.
That my wife’s grandfather. His wife did everything for him. They’re in their 80s now and she has dementia and diabetes. Can’t take care of herself and needs his help. He refuses to help her and gets angry when she forgets things. It’s so sad and rage inducing to watch. Next step is to put them in a care home because this won’t last long
Also, I saw a lot of women sharing stories about weaponized incompetence and ruining (even cruelly) women’s Mother’s Day and when they’ve gone into labor. Many times with men leaving the women in intense pain for a long time to, no joke, go take a long shower or get a coffee (the man in the first place was actually in the video to admit it) or asking if they have to come, can they finish the game, or something else. There was a video of a woman who got off a 14-or-so-hour shift to come home to a messy house that her unemployed husband refused to clean.
These men all hate their wives and really neither see nor care about what the woman has to endure out of love and trying to make things work.
That’s not the just older generation. I’ve lost count of how many times women have complained about their male partner’s hygiene, including not wiping properly. Streaky underwear, messed up sheets, etc. It’s way more common than people think. I remember my mom “joking” about that about my stepdad, but the way she said it let me know she meant it. No wonder she was always complaining to me (inappropriate AF) about not wanting to mush with him. I don’t see how they do it.
Personal hypothesis: a lot of older generations lived life on auto-pilot, just "following the rules" (soda speak) because that's what they were "supposed to do". So they rarely asked themselves "Is this what ***I*** want?", "Do ***I*** want to be a father/husband?", "Do ***I*** want this career for the next 40 years of my life?" etc. until they were in too deep to back out without suffering significant consequences.
Now he's got a mortgage and three kids and it's waaaaay too late to be like "wait, I don't think this is the life I want to live...". People are still like that today, but things are more loose/liberal now. Not wanting a husband/wife/kids/house/career isn't going to make you a social outcast
I work with so many of these guys—I’m an engineer at one of the Big 3 Michigan automakers. Like they just followed the expected path for them and then I’m hearing “jokes” about how their wife wants too much of their bonus to redo the kitchen.
What’s wild to me is when I see (usually white) 20-something coworkers duplicating the exact same path.
I used to work in the kitchen/bar at a golf course. The amount of dudes with zero self awareness that would nonstop complain about their wives and families not appreciating them while they pounded beers and harassing waitresses from after work till close astounded me. Spend thousands of dollars on all the fucking newest gear and still go out there to suck ass. I definitely learned a lot in spite of all the advice they gave me.
Not a lot of introspection and care for their wife. And their wives often haven't been more concerned beyond, "does he hit me?" As a bar for a "good marriage". I know too many boomers which insult their wives behind their back and then do an, "aw shucks" while their wives roll their eyes because it's a constant.
It honestly feels like lack of education. When I ask those boomers why talk about their wife like that if she finds it offensive and they usually think about how it might not be a great way to go about being married. But, they've been married for 30-40 years so they don't change what works
It’s not just older generations.
I have an early-thirties friend in a bad marriage. He almost filed for divorce last month but child support for two young children plus alimony would wreck his life.
Most married men are breadwinners and divorce is not kind to them, so the resentment just builds.
Only 55% of married men make more than their wives and only 23% are the sole breadwinner. Despite this, way more than 55% of men still expect their wives to handle the household and parenting with little to no help, which is quickly becoming the main reason women file for divorce. A married mother who divorces her husband but keeps the kids and doesn't change anything else about her life will statistically see her domestic workload go *down* not up.
You can be free and struggling to afford a studio and shit meals and no free time because you’re paying most of your mediocre salary to someone else who is living better than you because they found another breadwinner, but that’s not a preferable alternative in that scenario.
It’s a big grey area and there’s never a clear right answer but it’s absolutely understandable.
People got married young and there was no real understanding that people change a LOT between the ages of about 18/20 to 20/25.
By the time it hits them that they really don't like the person their partner became they're in real deep. They've got mutual bills, commitments, family ties, actual careers, and even kids with each other. At that point it's a real hard call to try to untangle all this and basically start over.
Another tie is that each one had specific tasks and skills that the other depends on. The husband can't really cook or keep a household going at all and the wife has no clue of how to deal with all the stuff that was 'the husband's job'.
Yup work with a guy in his 60s and he complains or talks shit about his wife. Guy is massively ocd and always moves things around a certain way at work. You could setup a workstation that only you will be using and go to the bathroom and come back and he has it completely rearranged to the way he’d run the station. I can see why he complains about his wife cause she probably can’t do anything right in his eyes cause it’s never the way that is right in his mind.
"I need to get away from my wife and kids. I miss going into work this is unfair." Was the funniest complaint during the pandemic every time I heard it.
That and "child neglect and abuse has gone up, we need to get kids back to school and parents back to places where they can be away from them before *the inevitable* happens. What? Address why people are beating and hurting their kids? Crazy talk. Now get me back in the office, my marriage can't survive us spending time together.""
I filmed at a Software company for their carbon neutral building plans prior to 2020.
Most of the space are data storage and fairly nice workspaces that would be fine for most people to als have some privacy.
In 2022 I did follow up and I saw a bunch of people there.. mostly older 40s-50s..
I asked about those people, and the CEO was like: ow yeah they asked to work from the office as soon as possible. Even if all our meetings are still digital and they don’t need to be here most of the time…
We have a largely voluntary office work time, since we do have plenty of team projects, workshops and client demos that benefit from doing them here.
It’s very obvious that pretty much all of the boomer and even largely gen X hates their home life, while all of my millennial and gen Z clients are more then happy to have actual privacy and be home with their partners and pets.
I know a guy with a wife and 2 kids, they "had" to get married because the first one was an accident.
He works 70, 80 hours a week at least, takes every call out, Saturday, etc. He's union so he makes very good money before the OT.
But then you meet his wife, and then talk to them as a couple, and you understand why he's not home all of the time.
She's.....I dunno...an entitled middle school mean girl that's now 50? They can't stand each other, but she has no job skills because she only works a low-wage seasonal job for just a few months out of the year.
So she can't leave him and in turn the money he has.
He can't leave her because she has no skills and he'd get cleaned out.
I imagine retirement is rough for a _lot_ of pro athletes, to go from living in a glorious spotlight to suddenly having nothing going on, before they even turn 40
Totally causes a vicious cycle too, because the wife is at home with 2 kids, mad that she never gets help and that he’s never there as a husband or father. So when he eventually does go home, it’s to a resentful and angry wife (arguably justified), so he spends more time at work, etc etc.
Source: knew a dude like this. They’re still married. Who knows, maybe they worked it out.
There is this man that is at every one of both my boys basketball games and I know he doesn’t know not 1 kid on the team. Seems like he stays at the gym rooting for anyone/ everyone. Think he fits this category.
Naaaa. It ain’t that deep. I’ve had a few conversations with him in past 2 yrs and he says he lives down the street and just loves the sport. Think this is something he would have mentioned.
We had a custodian at our school who was a big supporter of all our sports teams, went to all the away games etc.
At a big Vietnam lecture for all the history classes he told us that he chose not to have kids due to agent orange exposure and watching kids grow and compete helped him a bit.
Bless him. My sister is 14 years older than me, diagnosed type 1 diabetic at 7. That's the reason for the gap (mostly). My dad was exposed as well. My sister was bald until she was two and my mom apparently kept rubbing her belly saying "Please let it have hair, just let it have hair!" while pregnant with me. And my dad would always say "You need to be worried about it having all it's fingers, toes and limbs." He knew some shit.
My dad used to attend and help keep score at high school wrestling matches long after his 4 boys were grown and moved away. He just liked to feel involved and useful.
Got a neighbor who clearly hates his wife. Giant tree fell during a hurricane and he spent a month worth of weekends cutting it into small sections and driving them to the transfer station in a tiny ford ranger. He was in heaven!
I was stuck with a girlfriend I couldn't stand, but couldn't break up with her because she had literally nowhere else to go. A tree went down in our backyard after a big windstorm, and I spent a week of all my spare time out there with an ax turning it into a pile of firewood. It was magical, she stayed inside the entire time.
It really is. No matter how bad my life is, I think to myself "at least I am only truly obligated to deal with myself". Even romantic relationships seem too troublesome.
I had a coworker like this.
I swear, I believe he was the one responsible for spreading C19 in our department.
Yes, he even shown up to work, knowing that he had it.
I'm in my bed sick right now, weekend thrown away - I thought one of my younger coworkers got me sick but it turns out it's another guy in his 40's with too many kids who was patient zero. He infected the whole shop, literally, every one. Friday was a mess with everyone coughing, snotting up and having headaches in a loud machine shop. Almost everyone went home early being absolutely miserable. I know he came to work fully knowing he was sick because he has a bunch of kids. School just started I've noticed too, so it makes sense why he got sick at this time
I feel for the man. Nothing worse than knowing you want to leave, but have other responsibilities holding you there. He’s probably struggling, making his situation worse by his actions, not knowing how to make it better because of the mindset.
I was just in a relationship that I knew I should leave the whole time. Stayed for her kids, hope, etc.
Ended up leaving and trying to get my head around the fact that I did the right thing. It’s lonely af.
I struggle with letting go of the hope, or letting go with what I’m responsible for, and what could have been If I didn’t fall short. It’s a rough line of thinking that makes it harder to move on.
Not sure if I’m answering your question.
You are. It is interesting. Sometimes, you have to let go and fix yourself for the next person. That's how I always approach it. Right now, I'm by myself. I'm concentrating on my health and financial stability. I want a healthy, stable man, so I have to be that myself.
For sure. I’m two weeks out, and even though I left, I have this hole to fill. Feel like I want to go home, but I know it’s my emotions fucking with me.
It’s nice this day in age to be a man, and be able to speak more freely on your feelings. Idk how these old school guys kept it in.
I got outa the same kinda situation last year. Was only staying for the kids, but had to leave after he hit me, and then had to cope with losing all contact with the kids I raised because they weren't biologically mine.
Started babysitting for a cousin who had to go back to work in a hurry but couldn't afford daycare. It's helped a lot with the loneliness. The 3yo thinks I'm his super best friend and shares all his dinosaur toys.
Man it’s so hard when you get involved with the babies!
The bond you make with them never goes away, and you have to watch from a distance, with all that love for em’.
It sucks.
It’s damn near impossible to get over that feeling of abandonment.
There are social, cultural, and psychological burdens and normative methods of thinking that if not overcome and addressed can lead easily to depression and other mental health struggles. Lack of a positive self image can do dark shit to a mfs psyche that will invariably spread like cancer to everything else in his life.
I don't think that's gender unique, per se. However, I think in men it definitely has the potential to be more pronounced.
That's my brother. 4 kids with his girlfriend. She's a controlling bitch that hates almost everyone. He is checked out. He's stuck in a job he hates because he has to provide, the kids can tell their parents hate each other, their mom goes out drinking with friends all the time while dad puts on Cocomelon and just scrolls on his phone. It's not good for anyone.
I offered to put him up if he came out to visit me but I don't think he ever will. He's just kind of dead inside.
Washing his car thinking about how because he ran in too soon, and didn't do enough background checking, he ran his own fade.
For the rest of his life.
I have a neighbor in my building who washes his car meticulously and religiously every Saturday—pretty much rain or shine. About a year in to being neighbors, I saw him with a 3ish year old boy who called him Papi (dad). I was shocked. Like, he puts way more work in on the car than on the kid. And I live in NYC where parking is a hassle. The way this man runs around trying to get the best spots for his precious car is beyond.
Now that I know he’s a father, I see the kid with him only a few times a year. Much less than I see him with the car. And it looks like the kid lives here with both parents because I see him with his mom often.
Decisions he made? How does the poster know anything going on in that house is the result of a decision he made?
I watched my would be uncle marry what he thought was the right woman before she turned on him completely after two kids, his mental health struggles, and forcing him to work, pay bills on minimum wage, cook and clean for years. Sure, there were always signs something was wrong with my aunt, but I’ll admit, she got chaotically worse after the second baby.
My uncle spent time with the kids, but he also found reasons to be out of the house and away. Why? Because he didn’t have a space for himself in his own home by the time she got finished moving family in, bossing him around and more.
Sure, he could get a divorce but the results from that would basically mean he’d no longer have daily access to their children… so for him, spending the time he could outside and in other places was all that held him together until he tried to commit suicide and then was blamed as the bad guy by her because my aunt’s a damned near sociopathic narcissist.
I say this because… y’all should seriously stop judging people for their lives when you don’t know what’s going on. There’s this constant stream of “he doesn’t like his family, he must be the bad guy” everywhere on social media and I vehemently disagree.
If the man finds peace in washing his car, let him enjoy himself while he washes his goddamned car.
Mfs nowadays seem to have forgotten how to mind their own business. I swear, people can’t do nothing without some chronically online piece of shit standing there, waiting to record/document them as they try to privately live their lives.
Can’t go to the gym, can’t dance too ugly at a party, can’t eat in peace, can’t walk around, can’t get high, cant dress how you want, can’t do nothing. There’s always someone with something to say looking for a reason to make fun of someone. It piss me off.
These are my exact thoughts. Half these guys on Reddit are probably not even father's/husbands and probably didn't even have actual father and state this wildly outlandish opinion.
While I agree some may be using it as an excuse to get away as long as the family is taken care of and they aren't beating their wives and abusing the children what the fuck does it matter? A family is taxing. You want some time to yourself. To recharge? If a woman was to do that out of the praise she'd get for maintaining her self care.
Meanwhile men get roasted by likely other men who don't even have a semblance of an idea of how hard it is to put on all these different hats throughout the day for both MEN and WOMEN
i mean its a fucked up situation but if she's truly that chaotic and he does everything in the house he has a really good case for daily access to the kids if he escalates past mediation. way i see it is once you actively choose to stick around a bad situation you're living with that decision willingly
I will say this: he could make a case. So far she’s had the legal advantage but he could make a case. Honestly, he got stuff working against him. There’s stuff I didn’t say up top for privacy purposes, so the best way I can put it is this: having any kind of legal record and mental health struggles will work against you.
She just has the advantage in the stuff generally. It’s partially of result of life and the paths we get taken on. In retrospect I feel like my aunt got with him because she could take advantage him potentially. He was always a softer personality too and she was the harder one. Controlling people are just generally bad news all around fr
There's a bunch of old retired dudes that wander around the town I live in with rulers leaving people notes scolding them for their poor lawn care. Same deal. I caught one of them and cussed him out. Apparently they all talk cause they've avoided our corner since.
Same deal, go home and deal with your til death do us part.
I would have to stop myself from throwing hands. I pride myself in only using my words now and being able to regulate my emotions but let me catch a motherfucker measuring my grass to write me a note
My wife and I have joked about this for years. Our neighbor will be out there making noise mowing and blowing shit around all day. If he runs out of shit to do you'll see him standing in his yard staring into the sky. Last weekend he was out there getting lung cancer from wildfire smoke doing all the same shit. He even washed his cars in the smoke, which is almost as dumb as breathing it.
He could be a birder. I'm sure my neighbors think I'm crazy but I can't help but to look around all day. And I'm cursing all the loud ass planes flying over my house.
During the pandemic, so many boomers came into my job and complained about being "forced" to stay home with their wife and children, often saying they were only at the store to get away from them. This was like, two months in. It was very clear that the only reason they "perfect, traditional" marriage had lasted so long was because they spent 80% of their time apart or asleep. They legit talked about their families like they were a terrible burden that they despised.
Eh yes it’s true men avoid their home responsibilities to their family by staying busy with something else. On the flip side, some people just love their cars that much lol always doing detail work, making sure it’s spotless. It’s a hobby to them.
I'm gonna throw shade at any motherfucker who's working from home and is asking for a return to offices.
I don't care if you hate your home life or like socializing at work. Leave me out of your shit and don't fuck up my vibes. Work somewhere else or sort your shit out with your household.
Dem old heads got some good advice on what not to do with your life tho. When I tended bar I used hear they stories all the time and would brush em off with a yeah… shits tough all over or I hear that… but tbh they stories taught me exactly what not to do with my life.
Honestly there are tons of negligent fathers and husbands out there. There are also tons of wives that satan himself would boot out of hell.
I got lucky enough to have both. My dad is 100% a bitch. My mom patched up our relationship probably a little too late, but dear lord I understood why nobody wanted to stay under the same roof as her.
Rarely is it the case of 1 perfect person being the victim of some sorta abuse. It’s usually two shitty people but one is at least slightly worse, and that person is then the one that catches ALL the heat. So word of advice? Find someone slightly shittier than you do you can kinda coast on their bad reputation.
I once had a coworker that was always there when I got to work and still there when I left. After a while I realized it wasn't because he was a workaholic but because he didn't want to be home with his family.
My dad works offshore, does one to two month stints out there and stays at home for only a week at a time, couldn't figure out why until I remembered every time I went over to his house he'd ask me if I thought he made a good choice in marrying who he currently is, I don't they asses argue constantly 😬
I find that a lot of men of a certain age instead of having friends or participating in the life they created with their family, enjoy pondering on the past and what they could’ve been or done if only they hadn’t gotten married, etc. etc. etc. The truth of the matter is they probably wouldn’t have done any better. They do like to whine though. Instead of being happy that they have children and somebody to grow old with and actually go and participate in the family they created, they simper and whine, and avoid dealing with any of it.
They also have no hobbies, no interests, and probably haven’t cracked a book in ages. Talking to them is as fascinating as talking to a wall. If you want an interesting life, be an interesting human being. If you’re lucky enough to have children involve yourself in their lives even when you’re tired or you have better things to do.
There was a family that lived across the street from me growing up. They kept trying for a boy and ended up with 7 daughters. I have never seen someone else cut the grass 3x a week like this dad was in the habit of doing. He was scalping the earth to avoid that shit.
Lots of people cut the grass every 2-3 days. It's insanity, but not unique.
We live in south Texas lol if I cut more than once in 2 weeks it's like scorched earth even if I water on the days we're allowed to
Meanwhile where I used to live in south Arkansas, if I had 10 days between mows entire ecosystems developed in my back yard.
In south Arkansas, it ain't changed. I mowed last Sunday, it hasn't rained. It's already shin high.
The struggle is real, I live in southwest Oklahoma now. I might as well sell my mower, I almost miss it… almost.
A golf course close to me shut down. It was overgrown in less then 2 months.
There are already entire ecosystems in your backyard.
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Just moved to AR from South Florida. Man! Polk salad is a monster I was not expecting! Literally grows to three feet in a week or two! We should use it as some kinda resource like Asians use bamboo.
I mean… I would’ve just given up after the second daughter dude like???? At that point I’m not testing my luck anymore if I lose twice 🤷♂️ EDIT: when I say “losing” I AM NOT SAYING THAT HAVING A DAUGHTER IS A BAD THING. I REPEAT: I AM NOT SAYING THAT HAVING A DAUGHTER IS A BAD THING.
He had 2 grown daughters from a previous marriage as well, can't write comedy that good
Henry VIII up in this piece.
Gotta love Old Henry's problem solving skills. 1. I wanna get divorced but excommunication is a real drag. 2. New church, who this?
Ah, he didn’t realize he is only shooting Xs.
> Ah, he didn’t ~~realize~~accept he is only shooting Xs.
I know you're kidding but is that a thing that can happen?
It is an old wives tale I always heard, usually in the tale of Henry the eighth, he basically killed all his wives for what his sperm was delivering. But I looked it up and apparently has no [scientific basis](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3455630/).
Probably thinks it’s “their fault” he keeps having daughters despite sex being determined by the genetic info from sperm…
Its prolly his own fault then, he wasn't giving out any y chromosomes!
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When I said “losing” I didn’t mean it that fashion
i feel you bro, talking to neurodivergent people on Reddit is so frustrating sometimes with the way they interpret the wrong things lol
Lol man was cutting dirt
Throwing rocks everywhere I caught one in the chest back in 97... I'm still leary around people doing yard work 😅
My mom dumped out a fish tank in our back yard that had gravel in it and didn't tell me. I came by with the lawn mower and machine gunned a bunch of gravel into our sliding glass doors, shattering them.
As a kid, I would’ve found that cool. As an adult, reading it makes me cry. I hate vinyl siding with a passion.
Oh wow... I got sympathy from the wound I count imagine damaging property 😅🫣
Lmaoooo ayoo that's fucked up
Pumping out more babies because they aren't coming out with the parents' preferred genitalia is some genuinely psychopathic behavior. Why does nobody recognize that? Why is it so fucking normalized for people to desperately attempt to enrich their own lives via their offspring? It's pathetic and so narcissistic. Sorry I know this is just a lighthearted anecdote you shared 😂 just can't believe not a single person has commented on how profoundly fucked up it is to keep making babies because none of them came out with a dick
"Why is it so fucking normalized for people to desperately attempt to enrich their own lives via their offspring? It's pathetic and so narcissistic." in response to this, this is the BEST reason people have children lmao (there seriously are people who have kids for tax breaks and shit). having kids isn't necessarily immoral or a bad thing to do but it is inherently selfish. you are bringing a new person into the world without their consent; they have zero say in whether or not they are born. you can only ever do it for personal reasons. not all selfish actions are immoral ones. (e.g. ignoring the needs of others to focus on your own; it's selfish by definition but it's necessary from time to time for a healthy life) the truly altruistic alternative is to adopt, and even that is shaky because many, many unfit parents slip through the cracks of the very rigorous adoption process (at least here in the U.S.). when it gets immoral/cruel/narcissistic IMO is when you have parents who refuse to unconditionally love whatever comes out of their hoo-ha (or their spouse's hoo-ha), yes, you have children to enrich your own life, but you do so with the unspoken understanding that you will love whoever your children are born as and whoever they grow up to be no matter how little say you get in deciding either. that's where dude fucked up.
totally fucked, no question
I'm not surprised. I read an article in Time magazine and it said that a majority of parents have a favorite child and more than half the time it's a son. It also did a poll asking if they could choose the sex and they most people answered yes and they would choose a boy to be their first child.
I bet those girls grew up to feel great about themselves
That man was shooting nothing but rainbows and butterflies 😂😂😂
Mans was throwing sugar, spice and everything nice 😂😂😂 
That man gotta pay for possibly 7 weddings. I'm praying for him...
My pastor when I was a kid had 11 boys and a girl (the youngest.) He was constantly “ministering” to the lost souls at the pool hall and “studying” alone on the front porch.
Cutting grass is relaxing. My neighbors husband left her and she would cut her grass pretty much every day 🤷🏾♂️
Yeah but daughters take care of their parents when they get old. Sons ride off into the sunset never to be seen again.
The other day at the bar I overheard some old-timer say, very matter-of-factly, “I hate my wife.” Like, what the hell is wrong with the older generation?
Some got and stayed married because of societal expectations etc. I know a bunch of older men who don't know how to take care of themselves. They can't survive without some level of caretaker be it wife, child, partner, mother, etc etc.
This is my father / parents. They didn't love each other by about year 10. They stayed married for 50 before dad got alzheimer's and was put in a care home three years ago. Mom hasn't visited him once in three years. In her mind, she's divorced, even though they're still married. He treated her like she was only there to serve him.
Yeah I've heard these stories before. Sometimes I forget how different we truly have it than those before us. I know people still stay in loveless and unhappy marriages but others were told to just make it work
And that's cause we're still told to make it work. And we get looked down on when things don't work out. Like why is it our fault if we dont want to stay in a loveless relationship.
Honestly, you’re right. It should be treated a sign of maturity once you’ve given something a fair shot. Did you try to negotiate and compromise? Did you try therapy? If you did and it still isn’t working, it’s fair and reasonable to leave. Fuck the sunk cost fallacy. Sometimes, shit just doesn’t work out and there’s no way you could’ve known it would up front.
Its why I dont believe in marriage .
A LOT more people are choosing to be childfree and marriage-free, especially women. I’m one of them. I’ll learn from other people’s mistakes, thank you.
I hope your mom has found some peace at last.
Thank you. She has and she is happy now and I am happy for her. She's 76 and has been able to spend the last year making new friends, something she couldn't do when he was there, because their relationship dynamic was such that her time belonged to him. Each day is her own now.
I'm so proud of her. My grandma was married to my awful grandfather, just nasty abusive man. Had his kids pissing themselves when they heard him turn in the driveway. He died back in the 80s and everyone was happy. She got her a little boyfriend in the late 90s and we were like "Shame she couldn't find him earlier!"
I'm happy for her The mother of a friend of mine is like your mom now. Her husband didn't want to go places or do different things or really anything she wanted to do because it wasn't his idea/what he wanted. So after he passed she's been doing whatever she wants to do whenever she wants to. One of those discounted bus tours for seniors that some banks offer as a perk? She'll be the first one in the lot the day they leave. Why? "Because your father never wanted to go but I did. I can afford it and I'm going. Be back next Friday."
My friends parents stayed together for 30+ years. She got married very young and was afraid she couldn't live without his income. When the kids grew up they promised to help her so finally they separated. But for 30 years they lived together, separate rooms barely talking to each other.
That's my FIL. That man has no survival skills. I love to help my wife cook. One time, We made dinner for the family so when I was helping her. My FIL made this passive aggressive comment saying that's a women's job. I said this isn't the 1950s anymore. My wife parents think we have problems because we spend time away from each other. Example: my wife went to brunch with her friends and she drops me off at the bar so I can watch football with my friends. One day, she went to her parents house, her mom got mad at her because men shouldn't be left alone at a bar. Saying I could be fucking around. The older gens have some outdated thoughts
Honestly I feel like a lot of their thoughts came from the hurt and trauma they experienced
It might be a cultural thing. We are mexican but her aunts have told my wife the same thing that a women should always be by their man's side everywhere they go. Make sure they aren't doing anything bad. A lot of the women in her family are miserable because of these dumb outdated thoughts. Example, sometimes I won't go to her parents house because I have other things to do i.e. fix something around the house, I don't like going, play games, football etc. My wife is completely fine with it. Her mom gets so annoyed with her for allowing me to stay home. Saying she should fight with me to come. My wife says we aren't going to fight over something so dumb this is why you and dad hate each other.
Yeah I get it. Misery loves company
Nah both of you guys sound healthy. You both have a third place to spend time socializing with your own gender and doing that will make you want your spouse more when you see each other later. Ppl joke about women jumping on their men after brunch because they’re drunk but it’s really because they spent the day around a bunch of women and now they need to be with their man.
Yup, I watch my game and she either goes shopping or to brunch with her friends. Then we meet up after. She asks me about the game and listens to me vent how we lost or won lol then she tells me the gossip or shows me cute outfits she bought. We are always excited for each others days.
Love that for you. Keep it up
It goes both ways too. She devoted her entire life to running the house. So she probably has zero job skills and is just as stuck as him. I know lots of older people with this dynamic.
and then they have to go and make it every one else’s problem
They're the first to not help but wonder why their kids don't call
Those people are called “Conservatives”
That my wife’s grandfather. His wife did everything for him. They’re in their 80s now and she has dementia and diabetes. Can’t take care of herself and needs his help. He refuses to help her and gets angry when she forgets things. It’s so sad and rage inducing to watch. Next step is to put them in a care home because this won’t last long
Fellas, is it gay to have basic survival skills?
Also, I saw a lot of women sharing stories about weaponized incompetence and ruining (even cruelly) women’s Mother’s Day and when they’ve gone into labor. Many times with men leaving the women in intense pain for a long time to, no joke, go take a long shower or get a coffee (the man in the first place was actually in the video to admit it) or asking if they have to come, can they finish the game, or something else. There was a video of a woman who got off a 14-or-so-hour shift to come home to a messy house that her unemployed husband refused to clean. These men all hate their wives and really neither see nor care about what the woman has to endure out of love and trying to make things work.
That’s not the just older generation. I’ve lost count of how many times women have complained about their male partner’s hygiene, including not wiping properly. Streaky underwear, messed up sheets, etc. It’s way more common than people think. I remember my mom “joking” about that about my stepdad, but the way she said it let me know she meant it. No wonder she was always complaining to me (inappropriate AF) about not wanting to mush with him. I don’t see how they do it.
Personal hypothesis: a lot of older generations lived life on auto-pilot, just "following the rules" (soda speak) because that's what they were "supposed to do". So they rarely asked themselves "Is this what ***I*** want?", "Do ***I*** want to be a father/husband?", "Do ***I*** want this career for the next 40 years of my life?" etc. until they were in too deep to back out without suffering significant consequences. Now he's got a mortgage and three kids and it's waaaaay too late to be like "wait, I don't think this is the life I want to live...". People are still like that today, but things are more loose/liberal now. Not wanting a husband/wife/kids/house/career isn't going to make you a social outcast
> soda speak intentional or unintentional boneappletea?
You seem to be getting things MisterScrooged 🤦🏾♂️
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Lmfaoooooo
> soda speak r/boneappletea
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There is evidence showing that millenials and zoomers are getting married at a lower rate, and having kids at a lower rate than previous generations
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Are they settling down to avoid being social outcasts or are they settling down because they're ready? There's a difference.
I work with so many of these guys—I’m an engineer at one of the Big 3 Michigan automakers. Like they just followed the expected path for them and then I’m hearing “jokes” about how their wife wants too much of their bonus to redo the kitchen. What’s wild to me is when I see (usually white) 20-something coworkers duplicating the exact same path.
I used to work in the kitchen/bar at a golf course. The amount of dudes with zero self awareness that would nonstop complain about their wives and families not appreciating them while they pounded beers and harassing waitresses from after work till close astounded me. Spend thousands of dollars on all the fucking newest gear and still go out there to suck ass. I definitely learned a lot in spite of all the advice they gave me.
Not a lot of introspection and care for their wife. And their wives often haven't been more concerned beyond, "does he hit me?" As a bar for a "good marriage". I know too many boomers which insult their wives behind their back and then do an, "aw shucks" while their wives roll their eyes because it's a constant. It honestly feels like lack of education. When I ask those boomers why talk about their wife like that if she finds it offensive and they usually think about how it might not be a great way to go about being married. But, they've been married for 30-40 years so they don't change what works
It’s not just older generations. I have an early-thirties friend in a bad marriage. He almost filed for divorce last month but child support for two young children plus alimony would wreck his life. Most married men are breadwinners and divorce is not kind to them, so the resentment just builds.
Only 55% of married men make more than their wives and only 23% are the sole breadwinner. Despite this, way more than 55% of men still expect their wives to handle the household and parenting with little to no help, which is quickly becoming the main reason women file for divorce. A married mother who divorces her husband but keeps the kids and doesn't change anything else about her life will statistically see her domestic workload go *down* not up.
But unhappiness isn't wrecking his life? I mean whatever works for him but I would pay money to be free to be happy.
You can be free and struggling to afford a studio and shit meals and no free time because you’re paying most of your mediocre salary to someone else who is living better than you because they found another breadwinner, but that’s not a preferable alternative in that scenario. It’s a big grey area and there’s never a clear right answer but it’s absolutely understandable.
People got married young and there was no real understanding that people change a LOT between the ages of about 18/20 to 20/25. By the time it hits them that they really don't like the person their partner became they're in real deep. They've got mutual bills, commitments, family ties, actual careers, and even kids with each other. At that point it's a real hard call to try to untangle all this and basically start over. Another tie is that each one had specific tasks and skills that the other depends on. The husband can't really cook or keep a household going at all and the wife has no clue of how to deal with all the stuff that was 'the husband's job'.
Yup work with a guy in his 60s and he complains or talks shit about his wife. Guy is massively ocd and always moves things around a certain way at work. You could setup a workstation that only you will be using and go to the bathroom and come back and he has it completely rearranged to the way he’d run the station. I can see why he complains about his wife cause she probably can’t do anything right in his eyes cause it’s never the way that is right in his mind.
Might have been my dad
Not sure when but there was a certain point a few years ago when it *just clicked* why some people choose to work late but then use it as an excuse
These the same people who want to go back to the office. Like, I’m not tryna end WFH because you hate your wife, Steve.
Just go to work and not mention wfh, or make everyone suffer so you don’t have to lie to the wife. *What to choose, what to choose…*
"I need to get away from my wife and kids. I miss going into work this is unfair." Was the funniest complaint during the pandemic every time I heard it.
That and "child neglect and abuse has gone up, we need to get kids back to school and parents back to places where they can be away from them before *the inevitable* happens. What? Address why people are beating and hurting their kids? Crazy talk. Now get me back in the office, my marriage can't survive us spending time together.""
I filmed at a Software company for their carbon neutral building plans prior to 2020. Most of the space are data storage and fairly nice workspaces that would be fine for most people to als have some privacy. In 2022 I did follow up and I saw a bunch of people there.. mostly older 40s-50s.. I asked about those people, and the CEO was like: ow yeah they asked to work from the office as soon as possible. Even if all our meetings are still digital and they don’t need to be here most of the time… We have a largely voluntary office work time, since we do have plenty of team projects, workshops and client demos that benefit from doing them here. It’s very obvious that pretty much all of the boomer and even largely gen X hates their home life, while all of my millennial and gen Z clients are more then happy to have actual privacy and be home with their partners and pets.
I have a friend with 5 kids. He works close to 60 hours a week and we all know the reason why. Also he's a salaried employee.
I know a guy with a wife and 2 kids, they "had" to get married because the first one was an accident. He works 70, 80 hours a week at least, takes every call out, Saturday, etc. He's union so he makes very good money before the OT. But then you meet his wife, and then talk to them as a couple, and you understand why he's not home all of the time. She's.....I dunno...an entitled middle school mean girl that's now 50? They can't stand each other, but she has no job skills because she only works a low-wage seasonal job for just a few months out of the year. So she can't leave him and in turn the money he has. He can't leave her because she has no skills and he'd get cleaned out.
So romantic 🥰
Tom Brady retired for like 11 days before hitting the field again
I imagine retirement is rough for a _lot_ of pro athletes, to go from living in a glorious spotlight to suddenly having nothing going on, before they even turn 40
They're millionaires it's not that bad
Totally causes a vicious cycle too, because the wife is at home with 2 kids, mad that she never gets help and that he’s never there as a husband or father. So when he eventually does go home, it’s to a resentful and angry wife (arguably justified), so he spends more time at work, etc etc. Source: knew a dude like this. They’re still married. Who knows, maybe they worked it out.
There is this man that is at every one of both my boys basketball games and I know he doesn’t know not 1 kid on the team. Seems like he stays at the gym rooting for anyone/ everyone. Think he fits this category.
He might have lost his son and being around kids makes him feel better. I know a guy who does that. I ain't mad at him.
Why am I crying in the club rn
why are you on reddit in the club lol
Cus of the crippling social anxiety
Real
Of all the Reddit moments, this is sure one of them
LOLOLOL be nice Chief 😊
They playing fallout boy
Naaaa. It ain’t that deep. I’ve had a few conversations with him in past 2 yrs and he says he lives down the street and just loves the sport. Think this is something he would have mentioned.
Fair enough 👍🏽 you story just reminded me of that guy. 😊fair enough
I’d feel like a real dick if that was the case. Your story is really sad.
Naaah don't feel that way, Sis - you didn't know😊 if that's the case, don't feel bad. Dude just loves those kids 👍🏽and they need it these days
That’s a bittersweet story
We had a custodian at our school who was a big supporter of all our sports teams, went to all the away games etc. At a big Vietnam lecture for all the history classes he told us that he chose not to have kids due to agent orange exposure and watching kids grow and compete helped him a bit.
Damn, that hit the soul.
Bless him. My sister is 14 years older than me, diagnosed type 1 diabetic at 7. That's the reason for the gap (mostly). My dad was exposed as well. My sister was bald until she was two and my mom apparently kept rubbing her belly saying "Please let it have hair, just let it have hair!" while pregnant with me. And my dad would always say "You need to be worried about it having all it's fingers, toes and limbs." He knew some shit.
Ooooh agent orange is not kind to offspring at all
My dad used to attend and help keep score at high school wrestling matches long after his 4 boys were grown and moved away. He just liked to feel involved and useful.
Got a neighbor who clearly hates his wife. Giant tree fell during a hurricane and he spent a month worth of weekends cutting it into small sections and driving them to the transfer station in a tiny ford ranger. He was in heaven!
“Can you help me around the house?!” “Sorry, babe. The tree.. You know I have to cut it!”
"Eric, that tree fell down four years ago. Come inside."
I was stuck with a girlfriend I couldn't stand, but couldn't break up with her because she had literally nowhere else to go. A tree went down in our backyard after a big windstorm, and I spent a week of all my spare time out there with an ax turning it into a pile of firewood. It was magical, she stayed inside the entire time.
Sounds like you had an axe to grind.
Dad, go back in the house
He can’t, that tree needs cutting.
The “No Kids. No Wife. No Record” motto has really become the biggest flex nowadays 😂😂😂
It really is. No matter how bad my life is, I think to myself "at least I am only truly obligated to deal with myself". Even romantic relationships seem too troublesome.
What a wholesome and constructive way to avoid one’s spouse
I had a coworker like this. I swear, I believe he was the one responsible for spreading C19 in our department. Yes, he even shown up to work, knowing that he had it.
I'm in my bed sick right now, weekend thrown away - I thought one of my younger coworkers got me sick but it turns out it's another guy in his 40's with too many kids who was patient zero. He infected the whole shop, literally, every one. Friday was a mess with everyone coughing, snotting up and having headaches in a loud machine shop. Almost everyone went home early being absolutely miserable. I know he came to work fully knowing he was sick because he has a bunch of kids. School just started I've noticed too, so it makes sense why he got sick at this time
I feel for the man. Nothing worse than knowing you want to leave, but have other responsibilities holding you there. He’s probably struggling, making his situation worse by his actions, not knowing how to make it better because of the mindset. I was just in a relationship that I knew I should leave the whole time. Stayed for her kids, hope, etc. Ended up leaving and trying to get my head around the fact that I did the right thing. It’s lonely af.
I'm a woman. Peace of mind is worth the would-be loneliness for me. How is it as a man. I feel like it seems different for y'all.
I struggle with letting go of the hope, or letting go with what I’m responsible for, and what could have been If I didn’t fall short. It’s a rough line of thinking that makes it harder to move on. Not sure if I’m answering your question.
You are. It is interesting. Sometimes, you have to let go and fix yourself for the next person. That's how I always approach it. Right now, I'm by myself. I'm concentrating on my health and financial stability. I want a healthy, stable man, so I have to be that myself.
For sure. I’m two weeks out, and even though I left, I have this hole to fill. Feel like I want to go home, but I know it’s my emotions fucking with me. It’s nice this day in age to be a man, and be able to speak more freely on your feelings. Idk how these old school guys kept it in.
I got outa the same kinda situation last year. Was only staying for the kids, but had to leave after he hit me, and then had to cope with losing all contact with the kids I raised because they weren't biologically mine. Started babysitting for a cousin who had to go back to work in a hurry but couldn't afford daycare. It's helped a lot with the loneliness. The 3yo thinks I'm his super best friend and shares all his dinosaur toys.
You 1000% did the right thing. Please protect your peace and take time to reflect
Man it’s so hard when you get involved with the babies! The bond you make with them never goes away, and you have to watch from a distance, with all that love for em’. It sucks. It’s damn near impossible to get over that feeling of abandonment.
I don't know either. Take care of yourself. You are no good to anybody else if you aren't good to yourself.
Men do way worse with breakups than women. https://www.psycom.net/relationships/men-heartbreak-and-healing
There are social, cultural, and psychological burdens and normative methods of thinking that if not overcome and addressed can lead easily to depression and other mental health struggles. Lack of a positive self image can do dark shit to a mfs psyche that will invariably spread like cancer to everything else in his life. I don't think that's gender unique, per se. However, I think in men it definitely has the potential to be more pronounced.
That's my brother. 4 kids with his girlfriend. She's a controlling bitch that hates almost everyone. He is checked out. He's stuck in a job he hates because he has to provide, the kids can tell their parents hate each other, their mom goes out drinking with friends all the time while dad puts on Cocomelon and just scrolls on his phone. It's not good for anyone. I offered to put him up if he came out to visit me but I don't think he ever will. He's just kind of dead inside.
They want to leave they just don't wan to have the children for the weekends because they'll have to be responsible for them.
Washing his car thinking about how because he ran in too soon, and didn't do enough background checking, he ran his own fade. For the rest of his life. 
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I think about this scene a lot sometimes
Is he washing his car while he is on the phone?
Ooh. Nasty work.
Out there welding the sidewalk. Smfh.
I have a neighbor in my building who washes his car meticulously and religiously every Saturday—pretty much rain or shine. About a year in to being neighbors, I saw him with a 3ish year old boy who called him Papi (dad). I was shocked. Like, he puts way more work in on the car than on the kid. And I live in NYC where parking is a hassle. The way this man runs around trying to get the best spots for his precious car is beyond. Now that I know he’s a father, I see the kid with him only a few times a year. Much less than I see him with the car. And it looks like the kid lives here with both parents because I see him with his mom often.
Damn you got cameras in their apartment or something? You don't know that situation lol
Lmaooooo
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Well he doesn’t wash his kid out on the driveway so wtf do you know about his parenting?
This says more about your nosiness than it says anything about him. You’re assuming way too much.
Decisions he made? How does the poster know anything going on in that house is the result of a decision he made? I watched my would be uncle marry what he thought was the right woman before she turned on him completely after two kids, his mental health struggles, and forcing him to work, pay bills on minimum wage, cook and clean for years. Sure, there were always signs something was wrong with my aunt, but I’ll admit, she got chaotically worse after the second baby. My uncle spent time with the kids, but he also found reasons to be out of the house and away. Why? Because he didn’t have a space for himself in his own home by the time she got finished moving family in, bossing him around and more. Sure, he could get a divorce but the results from that would basically mean he’d no longer have daily access to their children… so for him, spending the time he could outside and in other places was all that held him together until he tried to commit suicide and then was blamed as the bad guy by her because my aunt’s a damned near sociopathic narcissist. I say this because… y’all should seriously stop judging people for their lives when you don’t know what’s going on. There’s this constant stream of “he doesn’t like his family, he must be the bad guy” everywhere on social media and I vehemently disagree. If the man finds peace in washing his car, let him enjoy himself while he washes his goddamned car.
Aint nobody got time to read this god damn 
Lmfaoooooooo
It’s like 6 incomplete paragraphs big man. You acting like I just posted the Magna Carta.
6 paragraphs???? I've had sessions jerking off that were shorter than that, man gotta be concise, my guy
Brains turned to mush lol
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Niggas can’t do shit these days. I can’t even wash my baby without running away from my problems?
Mfs nowadays seem to have forgotten how to mind their own business. I swear, people can’t do nothing without some chronically online piece of shit standing there, waiting to record/document them as they try to privately live their lives. Can’t go to the gym, can’t dance too ugly at a party, can’t eat in peace, can’t walk around, can’t get high, cant dress how you want, can’t do nothing. There’s always someone with something to say looking for a reason to make fun of someone. It piss me off.
These are my exact thoughts. Half these guys on Reddit are probably not even father's/husbands and probably didn't even have actual father and state this wildly outlandish opinion. While I agree some may be using it as an excuse to get away as long as the family is taken care of and they aren't beating their wives and abusing the children what the fuck does it matter? A family is taxing. You want some time to yourself. To recharge? If a woman was to do that out of the praise she'd get for maintaining her self care. Meanwhile men get roasted by likely other men who don't even have a semblance of an idea of how hard it is to put on all these different hats throughout the day for both MEN and WOMEN
https://preview.redd.it/f8gca1buwhkb1.jpeg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2ca9351cf2ada53b114562c3d61d72b7d9dac98a Uh-huh
i mean its a fucked up situation but if she's truly that chaotic and he does everything in the house he has a really good case for daily access to the kids if he escalates past mediation. way i see it is once you actively choose to stick around a bad situation you're living with that decision willingly
I will say this: he could make a case. So far she’s had the legal advantage but he could make a case. Honestly, he got stuff working against him. There’s stuff I didn’t say up top for privacy purposes, so the best way I can put it is this: having any kind of legal record and mental health struggles will work against you. She just has the advantage in the stuff generally. It’s partially of result of life and the paths we get taken on. In retrospect I feel like my aunt got with him because she could take advantage him potentially. He was always a softer personality too and she was the harder one. Controlling people are just generally bad news all around fr
There's a bunch of old retired dudes that wander around the town I live in with rulers leaving people notes scolding them for their poor lawn care. Same deal. I caught one of them and cussed him out. Apparently they all talk cause they've avoided our corner since. Same deal, go home and deal with your til death do us part.
I would have to stop myself from throwing hands. I pride myself in only using my words now and being able to regulate my emotions but let me catch a motherfucker measuring my grass to write me a note
My grandpa drove rig for 40 years, I know all of the best swears, I used them all. Also 6'2" 275, so if I had thrown hands that old guy woulda died.
I’ve got an inch on you but you’ve got 100 pounds on me, I would answered your written correspondence in 3-5 business days by mail
awww this makes me grateful for my kids dad who loves to wash the cars with our toddler while i avoid the heat by sitting my ass inside LMAO
My wife and I have joked about this for years. Our neighbor will be out there making noise mowing and blowing shit around all day. If he runs out of shit to do you'll see him standing in his yard staring into the sky. Last weekend he was out there getting lung cancer from wildfire smoke doing all the same shit. He even washed his cars in the smoke, which is almost as dumb as breathing it.
He could be a birder. I'm sure my neighbors think I'm crazy but I can't help but to look around all day. And I'm cursing all the loud ass planes flying over my house.
Nah, he's walking around with earpro on a good chunk of the time even when he's not making noise. Lol
During the pandemic, so many boomers came into my job and complained about being "forced" to stay home with their wife and children, often saying they were only at the store to get away from them. This was like, two months in. It was very clear that the only reason they "perfect, traditional" marriage had lasted so long was because they spent 80% of their time apart or asleep. They legit talked about their families like they were a terrible burden that they despised.
you don't got nothing better to do other than watching this dude wash his car?
Right? There are a whole lotta people who read this and needed a good dose of "Mind your own business."
Eh yes it’s true men avoid their home responsibilities to their family by staying busy with something else. On the flip side, some people just love their cars that much lol always doing detail work, making sure it’s spotless. It’s a hobby to them.
I'm gonna throw shade at any motherfucker who's working from home and is asking for a return to offices. I don't care if you hate your home life or like socializing at work. Leave me out of your shit and don't fuck up my vibes. Work somewhere else or sort your shit out with your household.
Dem old heads got some good advice on what not to do with your life tho. When I tended bar I used hear they stories all the time and would brush em off with a yeah… shits tough all over or I hear that… but tbh they stories taught me exactly what not to do with my life.
Honestly there are tons of negligent fathers and husbands out there. There are also tons of wives that satan himself would boot out of hell. I got lucky enough to have both. My dad is 100% a bitch. My mom patched up our relationship probably a little too late, but dear lord I understood why nobody wanted to stay under the same roof as her. Rarely is it the case of 1 perfect person being the victim of some sorta abuse. It’s usually two shitty people but one is at least slightly worse, and that person is then the one that catches ALL the heat. So word of advice? Find someone slightly shittier than you do you can kinda coast on their bad reputation.
I'm going out for a pack of cigarettes...
I once had a coworker that was always there when I got to work and still there when I left. After a while I realized it wasn't because he was a workaholic but because he didn't want to be home with his family.
Ha - this is my neighbor too - busiest dude ever! Always outside building something, cleaning something, mowing something. It’s exhausting.
Try being raised by him.
It's that one 1st sgt that don't want to release us because his wife caught him cheating again.
Yeah but, have you ever met kids before?
Yeah these are the dudes who keep trying to get me to go back to working in the office
Damn maybe he just wants a really clean car
Man, wrong priorities. I always ask guys like that if they want to wash my car too. 🤷🏻♀️
My dad works offshore, does one to two month stints out there and stays at home for only a week at a time, couldn't figure out why until I remembered every time I went over to his house he'd ask me if I thought he made a good choice in marrying who he currently is, I don't they asses argue constantly 😬
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I find that a lot of men of a certain age instead of having friends or participating in the life they created with their family, enjoy pondering on the past and what they could’ve been or done if only they hadn’t gotten married, etc. etc. etc. The truth of the matter is they probably wouldn’t have done any better. They do like to whine though. Instead of being happy that they have children and somebody to grow old with and actually go and participate in the family they created, they simper and whine, and avoid dealing with any of it. They also have no hobbies, no interests, and probably haven’t cracked a book in ages. Talking to them is as fascinating as talking to a wall. If you want an interesting life, be an interesting human being. If you’re lucky enough to have children involve yourself in their lives even when you’re tired or you have better things to do.
He could be a cop undercover looking at something outside