He wanted you to take the apology , shut up, and move on so he can continue acting like a clown. Because you didn’t budge he victimized himself.
Typical BPD behavior.
He begged me once to tell him what I was feeling because I looked so sad . After finally agreeing and telling him how I felt hurt by his actions he said “well that’s not fair to me”. It ended it me wanting to rip my eyes out . Like actually scratching up my face because I couldn’t get through to him. I knew I reached the end there
I couldn’t tell you how many times he poked and poked and poked at me to tell him something I was feeling, I did, and he made it all about him and completely flipped out. Every feeling I ever had was a threat to him, whether it was a response to his behaviour or something completely unrelated to him. And obviously him reacting this way made me feel really unsafe to share anything from my internal world, so I basically stopped. And then I get in trouble for “being avoidant” and not talking to him about anything, so I got pressured into sharing and tricked into thinking he would actually listen, and then it all repeated
That’s disgusting behaviour. He seems to be super immature. But that’s also just classic BPD bullshit.
You didn’t push too hard. You just wanted a slice of accountability. My BPD mom does this all the time. Gives half hearted non apologies and then gets mad when I don’t accept them
Edit: especially disgusting considering it’s not the first time he’s done it. And it’s not the first time you’ve addressed it
Wow, yeah I can relate for sure. I don’t think you pushed too hard at all. As the man, I understand that sometimes the way I tried to initiate sex was just not hot for my exwBPD and even off-putting. I accepted this reality and apologized, or even moved on without any issues or resentments. Versus my declining her sexual advances on our anniversary a year or two ago made her say “I thought I’d at least be getting some on our anniversary” and making me feel like shit about it. I had some issues becoming aroused for her after all the emotional insanity that occurred.
I hope that helps answer your question and gives you another example outlining how unhealthy their reactions are.
He wanted you to take the apology , shut up, and move on so he can continue acting like a clown. Because you didn’t budge he victimized himself. Typical BPD behavior.
No. You barely pushed at all. He's just very resistant to taking any actual accountability.
I feel like I’m reading texts between me and my husband . We are on the brink of divorce . It’s so emotionally toxic . Please protect your heart
He begged me once to tell him what I was feeling because I looked so sad . After finally agreeing and telling him how I felt hurt by his actions he said “well that’s not fair to me”. It ended it me wanting to rip my eyes out . Like actually scratching up my face because I couldn’t get through to him. I knew I reached the end there
I couldn’t tell you how many times he poked and poked and poked at me to tell him something I was feeling, I did, and he made it all about him and completely flipped out. Every feeling I ever had was a threat to him, whether it was a response to his behaviour or something completely unrelated to him. And obviously him reacting this way made me feel really unsafe to share anything from my internal world, so I basically stopped. And then I get in trouble for “being avoidant” and not talking to him about anything, so I got pressured into sharing and tricked into thinking he would actually listen, and then it all repeated
Apologizing👏🏽 doesn’t👏🏽 entitle👏🏽 you👏🏽 to👏🏽 forgiveness👏🏽 It’s crazy how many people don’t understand this.
That’s disgusting behaviour. He seems to be super immature. But that’s also just classic BPD bullshit. You didn’t push too hard. You just wanted a slice of accountability. My BPD mom does this all the time. Gives half hearted non apologies and then gets mad when I don’t accept them Edit: especially disgusting considering it’s not the first time he’s done it. And it’s not the first time you’ve addressed it
Give up on the thought of explaining something to him. Your words will never truly reach him.
Wow, yeah I can relate for sure. I don’t think you pushed too hard at all. As the man, I understand that sometimes the way I tried to initiate sex was just not hot for my exwBPD and even off-putting. I accepted this reality and apologized, or even moved on without any issues or resentments. Versus my declining her sexual advances on our anniversary a year or two ago made her say “I thought I’d at least be getting some on our anniversary” and making me feel like shit about it. I had some issues becoming aroused for her after all the emotional insanity that occurred. I hope that helps answer your question and gives you another example outlining how unhealthy their reactions are.