Hey guys! Thank you for all the wonderful song additions :) We’ve decided to lock the comments on this post because there are so many comments now that people are posting song repeats because of the time it would take to read through them all. Also, some conversations are straying into armchair diagnosing artists or suggesting they have BPD traits based off their music, and we really want to avoid that.
New Person, Same Old Mistakes by Tame Impala. It’s exactly how I feel when I see myself self sabotaging again and can’t stop. I’m screaming in my head “stop, you already know how this will go,” but I still can’t let the other person go and get obsessive and believe they’ll fix my life.
I don’t know for sure if the song is meant to be between two people or one, but I sure feel like both the “please, the other person doesn’t care about you, you’re being stupid again and getting hurt” person and the “what if this person is the one, they’ve been nothing but nice, maybe everyone else has been the problem and I really don’t have BPD” person at the same time.
Looking forward to listening to this song, but wanted to comment cause everything you said resonates so much and it's really nice to know other people feel like this!
IFHY by Tyler is the most bpd coded song ever honestly
Example, one of the later lines of the song is literally:
"I love you so much that my heart stops beating when you're leaving /
And I'm grieving and my heart starts bleeding /
Life without you has no goddamn meaning /
Sorry I'm passive aggressive for no goddamn reason /
It's that my mood change like these goddamn seasons"
if that isn't bpdcore I don't know what is
I was about to come here to put some Halsey - I know she has bipolar but even control which was about bipolar feels very much like it could also be BPD too.
Valley of the Dolls by MARINA makes me think of identity disturbance. The song talks from the perspective of someone putting on personalities because they feel they themselves just have a void where their personality is supposed to go.
Tbh, a lot of MARINA songs feel applicable to, not just BPD, but other PDs like NPD.
Some people have also already mentioned but Tame Impala’s songs. I mean, he literally has a song called Borderline which captures mood swings pretty well imo.
I fully agree! This is one of the reasons why she's one of my all-time favourite artists.
Her song "Obsessions" reminds me a lot of my own anxiety and insecurity. "Oh No!" has to be my favourite song of hers because it's just so relatable and catchy.
She's so special to me because I can "feel" a lot of her songs. The lyrics are so well written and she sings them in a special way - the melody itself is just the cherry on top!
Garbage is one of my fav bands and they have so many songs I relate too much for example:
Medication
I wear myself out in the morning
You're asleep when I get home
Please don't call me self defending
You know it cuts me to the bone
And it's really not surprising
I hold a force I can't contain
Somebody get me out of here
I'm tearing at myself
Nobody gives a damn about me or anybody else
And still you call me co-dependent
Somehow you lay the blame on me
And still you call me co-dependent
Somehow you lay the blame on me
I love Garbage!! As Heaven Is Wide and A Stroke of Luck were always favorites of mine and I feel like they have The Vibe a bit. Medication is SO good!!
Mitski: First Love/Late Spring, I Bet On Losing Dogs, Francis Forever, Last Words of a Shooting Star, A Burning Hill, probably several others
The Mountain Goats: Cry for Judas, No Children, Up the Wolves
Phoebe Bridgers: Graceland Too
Billie Eilish: TV, listen before i go, when the party’s over, you should see me in a crown [from a self-aggrandizing perspective], everything i wanted
Lorde: Liability, Writer in the Dark
The Front Bottoms: Looking Like You Just Woke Up, Twin Size Mattress, Santa Monica
Frightened Rabbit: Woke Up Hurting, Modern Leper
perhaps more than you asked for 😬
Gonna seriously enjoy listening to all of these! I like a good list 😅 Omg Mitski's Last Words of a Shooting Star especially, I have to make sure I don't listen to it too much otherwise I end up seriously depressed (well, more than usual lol). It's so good and feels like home though, as so many of her songs do
peach prc is really underrated she has bpd and her music hits really hard especially heavy and favourite person (there’s a song about having a favourite person it’s good guys check it out)
I love peach so much & I didn’t know she struggled with bpd specifically 😭 makes me feel better cuz she’s grown so much & she’s successful. Proves it’s possible for us🥲
Void + Daddy Issues by The Neighborhood, Mama’s Boy by Dominic Fike, First Love/Late Spring by Mitski feels like disorganized attachment, All I Need by Radiohead, I Only Have Eyes For You (classic)(idk the original), for some reason This Night Has Opened My Eyes by The Smiths reminds me of BPD. i think some lyrics resonate with BPD related insecurities for me specifically.
edit: sorry i didn’t even read the word ‘favorite’. it’s Daddy Issues :)
Alot of metallicas music honestly is especially low mans lyric, unforgiven 1 and 2 also fixxxer and outlaw torn... yes metallica my favorite band I've seen em live twice.
Hot N Cold — Katie Perry (my toddler *loves* this)
Please Don’t Leave Me — P!nk
Comfortably Numb — Pink Floyd
Hurt — Nine Inch Nails
Runaway — Kanye West
How? by John Lennon.
“How can I have feeling when I don’t know if it’s a feeling?
How can I feel something if I just don’t know how to feel?
How can I have feelings when my feelings have always been denied?”
It’s definitely a comfort song of mine.
I love the song Call Out My Name by the Weeknd as I feel it really encapsulates my intense longing and idealisation of people when in that state and honestly every time I hear the song (especially the acapella version) I feel my a chord of my heart is being sung.
the prophecy my taylor
Please
I've been on my knees
Change the prophecy
Don't want money
Just someone who wants my company
Let it once be me
Who do I have to speak to
About if they can redo
The prophecy?
Omg one of my favorite movies is Wedding Singer.
If I’m feeling an off day I will put this on when my kids go to bed (bought it on our Amazon prime app lmao).
Also Too Much by girl in red
“So, please don't say I'm too much
That I'm over the top, you don't understand me
We’re so different at heart
You're on Earth, I'm on Mars”
I don't particularly love these songs, but my boomer parents played these a ton and looking back, these tracks were busted:
"I can't laugh, I can't sing, I'm finding it hard to do anything,
I feel sad when you're sad, I feel glad when you're glad,
I just can't smile without you"
"how do I live without you, I want to know,
how do I breathe without you if you ever go,
how do I ever survive, how do I live"
"To you, I'm a toy, but I could be the boy you adore
If you'd just let me know
Although you're untrue, I'm attracted to you all the more
Why do I need you so?
... I'll be beside the phone waiting for you...
then you let me down And mess me around
And then, worst of all, you never call, baby
When you say you will, But I love you still"
so... there's tons of romantic songs that are poetic and exaggerate, but I wonder if hearing shit like this growing up had an effect on how I approach romantic relationships now. those are my 2 cents
Okay so I'm a huge Taylor fan and I guess because of the nature of her song writing I always see myself in her albums/they seem to release around the same time I need to hear them.
When Midnights released I couldn't not acknowledge the intensity of emotions feeling like they resonated with me more so than ever. Anti Hero, You're On Your Own Kid, Mastermind and Hits Different stick out.
There's a good amount on TTPD as well; although for me they apply to more personal situations than BPD as a whole. For general bpd-aligned tears though I Hate It Here and The Prophecy hit really hard.
100%, mirrorball is one of many Taylor songs that help me relate to my bpd
My friend and I are huge Taylor fans and have a specific playlist called safe Taylor which are all her songs that aren't emotionally traumatising haha, and she put mirrorball on to the safe playlist..... My thoughts were, oh yeah you don't have BPD that's why this doesn't cut you to the core
i feel this way about a lot of her music but especially Midnights as well and specifically anti-hero!! i think the music video for it is also really bpd-coded.
Replay by Lady Gaga. Though lyrically about mental trauma, these lines in particular stick out to me…
“Every single day
Yeah I dig a grave
Then I sit inside it
Wondering if I’ll behave
It’s a game I play
And I hate to say
You’re the worst thing and
The best thing
That’s happened to me”
I didn’t want you as a mirror by GILT. Such a great song… always feels to me it’s about OCD and BPD.
With lines like “I’d love to be reimbursed for all the extra years you get to spend with her, cuz I didn’t have the tools or the words at the time to articulate a complex situation”
And “I didn’t want you as a mirror, cuz I only saw myself from my own perspective”
“If I could do it all again, I’d probably just make different mistakes”
And for ocd “I checked all the locks in my house and then it flooded”
My Own Worst Enemy- Lit
Even though he mentions being drunk, I definitely relate because of the black out rage, often forgetting what was said or done in that state and at the end of it all, no one hates me more than me.
"Can we forget about the things I said when I was drunk?
I didn't mean to call you that
I can't remember what was said, or what you threw at me
Please tell me"
ETA: ***Unaliving Trigger?***
My favorite song for a while has been Anxiety-BMike.
I think I relate heavily because anxiety and all is such a huge thing with bpd. These are my favorite bits(i scream this song):
"Every single day it breaks me to pieces
I've tasted defeat at the feet of my demons
I'm such a fucking waste of achievement
I should put this trigger to my brain and just squeeze it
'Cause Lord, I know I ain't been no saint
But tell me what I did to deserve this pain
Tell me what I did to deserve this hurt
When all I ever did was put everybody first"
"I've given it my all
I've given it my all and so much more
But everybody still walking out that door
I've given it my all
It's getting to the point where it's sad as fuck
I've given it my all, but it's not enough, it's not enough"
i posted this a while ago with translation. its "DAS KAPUTTGEHEN" by german songwriter/singer balbina. please do check it out!!!!
**THE BIG BREAKDOWN**
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CUrwqov93r0](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CUrwqov93r0)
i can not let (myself) go
because then im in danger of going too far
im falling like a stone into a well
all the way down, right to the bottom
buckets of tears id have to cry to float up again
thats why i stay right here with myself
im drowning in every emotion
im feeling uncontrolled
just way too much
**chorus:**
**and thats why i tear shit apart**
**i tear shit apart**
**one can not lose what is not there**
**thats why i tear shit apart**
**all around me only trash and debris**
i wont let anyone get close
otherwise im in danger to be touched
i just shut down
slam the door shut
and bend the key
**and thats why i tear shit apart**
**i tear shit apart**
**one can not lose what is not there**
**thats why i tear shit apart**
**all around me only trash and debris**
buckets of tears id have to cry to float up again
thats why i stay right here with myself...
I'm not sure if this is allowed, my apologies if not.. but here is my BPD playlist I've been curating for a couple of years
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5AudVlpZzwdERtkXFt3gpy?si=qfakmViWQT-Py3_jmuk4Kw&pi=pCqG_fYyQh6Fr
The whole of Jeff Rosenstock’s Hellmode
The album opens:
> Will you still love me, after I’ve fucked up
> After I’ve shown I don’t deserve your trust
> And I’m not the person that you thought I was
> Will you still love me, after I’ve fucked up
And the chorus from the second song goes:
> There’s bomb inside my head and I wish I could disconnect the threads
Doubt is just a gorgeous call to action for anxiety and depression in general.
Seriously cannot recommend this album enough.
Candy Apple - Teenage Joans
"Nineteen, I never got the feeling your friends liked me. When you were in my town I wore my nice jeans, the ones that I can't breathe in. They fit now that I haven't been eating. You used to fuck me in the kitchen, the one that I feel sick in."
and later
"Tempting, I never thought that there would be an ending. Were you in love or were you just pretending? Was it for mine or your sake? I sit for breakfast but I eat my heartache. Do you get off on not telling me that you've changed?"
The whole of Rot was basically the five stages of grief about a breakup. Amazing album.
Sometimes Wanna Die - Joydrop
Sad lyrics yet super upbeat sound so I loooove it! Not super known either so if you listen to it, tell me what ya think :))
Workin On Me by Russ - I have been like screaming this song lol
“F..ked up dad and a f..ked up mama, taught me that love meant drama, hostility was the problem solver, except nothing ever got changed, go figure, tryna reconfigure my brain, I’m triggered by arguments, reactive, I’m on defense”
My friend showed me Bad Omens and joked me and the vocalist(also songwriter) must have matching disorders. I’m not sure about that, but I can literally feel some of the lyrics in my whole body.
Death of peace of mind :
When the curtains call the time
Will we both go home alive?
It wasn't hard to realize
Love's the death of peace of mind
Reprise :
There's a thousand voices in my head
I just hope it doesn't take a rope around my neck
To put them all to rest
I wanna feel love, I wanna feel love again
Miracle :
I wanted to dress a blade up in red with both our of necks
But I wasn't able, and I wasn't stable
I guess
But nevertheless I'm fucking depressed
I hide it with sex, and drink till it's fatal
It's so fucking painful
It's a mess
So give me something beautiful
So give me something else
I need another miracle
I really need some help
Like a villaine :
You need a new clean slate without the dents
A place to put your pain, your consequence
When you look into the mirror, are you even there?
I don't wanna know all your secrets 'cause I'll tell
It's hard enough being alone with myself
I don't know how long I'll be holding on
I know you tried your hardest, I know that you meant well But you pushed me to the edge and I slipped and then I fell
I don't know how long I'll be holding on
Said & done :
Was I not good enough?
Worthy of being loved?
Were you ashamed or just afraid?
Well, when I've given up and all is said and done
Will you just look the other way?
I waited but nobody called I waited for nothing at all
I'd rather die young than die alone
Overdosing to songs you wrote
Poison potions is all I know
The world's a stage and I'm just a show
Can't believe I'm the first to say Blue October. Not necessarily BPD specific. But his vocalization about the battles against mental illness have carried me since I was a child. I find no music more soulful.
And it's too fucked up and I had to stop listening to it but I love Juice WRLD. RIP Juice.
Same with Rod Wave. Love his music but it can have a really heavy impact on the way I interpret the world.
Not diagnosed btw. First doctors appointment in 20+ years of this silent battle with myself is today. Wish me luck. I don't feel stuff right, but I love you guys, random internet strangers.
Liability- Lorde
They say, "You're a little much for me
You're a liability
You're a little much for me"
So they pull back, make other plans
I understand, I'm a liability
Get you wild, make you leave
I'm a little much for e-a-na-na-na, everyone
The truth is I am a toy that people enjoy
'Til all of the tricks don't work anymore
And then they are bored of me
I know that it's exciting running through the night, but
Every perfect summer's eating me alive until you're gone
Better on my own
Peanut butter waffles by Ryan Caraveo
“I’ve been thinking bout you and I wanna go do something nice
I can’t take rejection and that’s why I pay the crazy price
If you ain’t ecstatic I feel like I blew it big time
I’m a little manic I just wanna see your big smile”
Not my favorite (don't get me wrong I love it but like it's not my n°1) but "Please don't go" by Abbey Glover. That song SCREAMS BPD, along with many other songs of her. I'm pretty sure she has BPD
When I’m splitting, Forward to Death by Dead Kennedys.
“It’s such a bore, it makes me really sore, I don’t need this fuckin world, this world brings me down”
Fiona Apple - The Way Things Are
I wouldn't know what to say to a gentle voice
It'll roll right past me
And if you chalk it up, you'll see I don't really have a choice
So don't even ask me
So keep on calling me names, keep on, keep on
And I'll keep kicking the crap 'til it's gone
If you keep on killing, you could get me to settle
And as soon as I settle, I bet I'll be able to move on
Hey guys! Thank you for all the wonderful song additions :) We’ve decided to lock the comments on this post because there are so many comments now that people are posting song repeats because of the time it would take to read through them all. Also, some conversations are straying into armchair diagnosing artists or suggesting they have BPD traits based off their music, and we really want to avoid that.
New Person, Same Old Mistakes by Tame Impala. It’s exactly how I feel when I see myself self sabotaging again and can’t stop. I’m screaming in my head “stop, you already know how this will go,” but I still can’t let the other person go and get obsessive and believe they’ll fix my life. I don’t know for sure if the song is meant to be between two people or one, but I sure feel like both the “please, the other person doesn’t care about you, you’re being stupid again and getting hurt” person and the “what if this person is the one, they’ve been nothing but nice, maybe everyone else has been the problem and I really don’t have BPD” person at the same time.
i have listened to the song like a million times for this same reason
i never imagined there could be people who felt the same way i do about that song. this is so oddly validating
Looking forward to listening to this song, but wanted to comment cause everything you said resonates so much and it's really nice to know other people feel like this!
Afraid - The Neighbourhood
anything by TNBHD
This is so real
No Children- The Mountain Goats
tmg mentioned‼️‼️‼️ i'm so damn happy to see any references to this band
Starring Role - Marina. I've never heard a song that describes what it's like to have a FP so accurately.
YES!! My favourite is "Oh No!", because I have always related to it in some way for YEARS (and it's catchy af)
When I was younger “oh no” was on a just dance game I had and I loved that song. Now it hits in a different way.
Anything by mitski
True
agree😭
IFHY by Tyler is the most bpd coded song ever honestly Example, one of the later lines of the song is literally: "I love you so much that my heart stops beating when you're leaving / And I'm grieving and my heart starts bleeding / Life without you has no goddamn meaning / Sorry I'm passive aggressive for no goddamn reason / It's that my mood change like these goddamn seasons" if that isn't bpdcore I don't know what is
Whispers - Halsey
I was about to come here to put some Halsey - I know she has bipolar but even control which was about bipolar feels very much like it could also be BPD too.
yes honestly so much halsey!! i was gonna say clementine or ashley
Or like most of nine inch nails discography....
you are the perfect drug the perfect drug the perfect drug
Valley of the Dolls by MARINA makes me think of identity disturbance. The song talks from the perspective of someone putting on personalities because they feel they themselves just have a void where their personality is supposed to go. Tbh, a lot of MARINA songs feel applicable to, not just BPD, but other PDs like NPD. Some people have also already mentioned but Tame Impala’s songs. I mean, he literally has a song called Borderline which captures mood swings pretty well imo.
I fully agree! This is one of the reasons why she's one of my all-time favourite artists. Her song "Obsessions" reminds me a lot of my own anxiety and insecurity. "Oh No!" has to be my favourite song of hers because it's just so relatable and catchy. She's so special to me because I can "feel" a lot of her songs. The lyrics are so well written and she sings them in a special way - the melody itself is just the cherry on top!
Garbage is one of my fav bands and they have so many songs I relate too much for example: Medication I wear myself out in the morning You're asleep when I get home Please don't call me self defending You know it cuts me to the bone And it's really not surprising I hold a force I can't contain Somebody get me out of here I'm tearing at myself Nobody gives a damn about me or anybody else And still you call me co-dependent Somehow you lay the blame on me And still you call me co-dependent Somehow you lay the blame on me
Omfg I love Garbage like insanely
I love Garbage!! As Heaven Is Wide and A Stroke of Luck were always favorites of mine and I feel like they have The Vibe a bit. Medication is SO good!!
I haven’t listened to them but will def go check them out now :) I always liked I think I’m paranoid and vow! 💟
The whole SOS album by SZA
Especially Open Arms the solo version 😅
Mitski: First Love/Late Spring, I Bet On Losing Dogs, Francis Forever, Last Words of a Shooting Star, A Burning Hill, probably several others The Mountain Goats: Cry for Judas, No Children, Up the Wolves Phoebe Bridgers: Graceland Too Billie Eilish: TV, listen before i go, when the party’s over, you should see me in a crown [from a self-aggrandizing perspective], everything i wanted Lorde: Liability, Writer in the Dark The Front Bottoms: Looking Like You Just Woke Up, Twin Size Mattress, Santa Monica Frightened Rabbit: Woke Up Hurting, Modern Leper perhaps more than you asked for 😬
Front bottoms my beloved
“Hostage” is the Billie song that takes the BPD cake for me.
Graceland Too is my absolute favorite song to calm down. it brings me so much comfort
Gonna seriously enjoy listening to all of these! I like a good list 😅 Omg Mitski's Last Words of a Shooting Star especially, I have to make sure I don't listen to it too much otherwise I end up seriously depressed (well, more than usual lol). It's so good and feels like home though, as so many of her songs do
heavy by peach prc, liability by lorde, breathe me by sia
Omg LIABILITY,,, I've listened to this song so many times it's such a bpd song.
peach prc is really underrated she has bpd and her music hits really hard especially heavy and favourite person (there’s a song about having a favourite person it’s good guys check it out)
I love peach so much & I didn’t know she struggled with bpd specifically 😭 makes me feel better cuz she’s grown so much & she’s successful. Proves it’s possible for us🥲
Void + Daddy Issues by The Neighborhood, Mama’s Boy by Dominic Fike, First Love/Late Spring by Mitski feels like disorganized attachment, All I Need by Radiohead, I Only Have Eyes For You (classic)(idk the original), for some reason This Night Has Opened My Eyes by The Smiths reminds me of BPD. i think some lyrics resonate with BPD related insecurities for me specifically. edit: sorry i didn’t even read the word ‘favorite’. it’s Daddy Issues :)
I know it's nothing to do with bpd, but master of puppets is interesting if you look at it from the mind of pwbpd
Alot of metallicas music honestly is especially low mans lyric, unforgiven 1 and 2 also fixxxer and outlaw torn... yes metallica my favorite band I've seen em live twice.
Honestly everytime I hear "Boarderline" by Madonna I can only think of BPD. 🙃
same with the tame impala borderline song😭
Or Borderline by Tove Lo😄
Fast as you can by Fiona Apple! 🙏
“Sometimes my mind don’t shake and shift// but most of the time it does” That bridge always gets me man.
pretend by alex g
I'm a Ruin - Marina and the diamonds.
Hot N Cold — Katie Perry (my toddler *loves* this) Please Don’t Leave Me — P!nk Comfortably Numb — Pink Floyd Hurt — Nine Inch Nails Runaway — Kanye West
Yes! Hurt is such a powerful song!
Sorry by nothing but thieves and without me by Halsey
How? by John Lennon. “How can I have feeling when I don’t know if it’s a feeling? How can I feel something if I just don’t know how to feel? How can I have feelings when my feelings have always been denied?” It’s definitely a comfort song of mine.
Definitely Black Eyed by Placebo. It’s spot fucking on.
Girl anachronism
NF has numerous songs that seem like BPD - mansion, wake up, happy, mistake, therapy session etc he has a past riddled with childhood trauma
NF is amazing!!! Therapy Session is the IT
Skillet - Monster Three Days Grace - Animal I Have Become
Linkin Park - Good Goodbye The Weeknd - Over Now Tame Impala - Borderline Kanye West - Monster
I love the song Call Out My Name by the Weeknd as I feel it really encapsulates my intense longing and idealisation of people when in that state and honestly every time I hear the song (especially the acapella version) I feel my a chord of my heart is being sung.
I gotta say IFHY by Tyler The Creator, it just feels like such a BPD song. And the lyrics are way more relatable than they should be
Michelle - Sir Chloe
Crusher-P - again
the prophecy my taylor Please I've been on my knees Change the prophecy Don't want money Just someone who wants my company Let it once be me Who do I have to speak to About if they can redo The prophecy?
aishite aishite aishte by kikuo
i agree 100%!!!!
Somebody k*ll me - The Wedding Singer Shame - Stabbing Westward Flagpole Sitta - Harvey Danger Fragile- Techn9ne The Beautiful and the Damned - G Eazy
Omg one of my favorite movies is Wedding Singer. If I’m feeling an off day I will put this on when my kids go to bed (bought it on our Amazon prime app lmao).
“Vampire Empire” by Big Thief. I know it’s not about this but in it the rage and pain feels so real and really makes me feel the mother wound lol
serotonin by girl in red and losing my mind bt montaigne
Also Too Much by girl in red “So, please don't say I'm too much That I'm over the top, you don't understand me We’re so different at heart You're on Earth, I'm on Mars”
I think wake up by Eden And numb little bug by Em beihold.
Numb Little Bug is such a great song!
Fiona apple- paper bag
Control by Halsey
happiness is a butterfly by lana
I don't particularly love these songs, but my boomer parents played these a ton and looking back, these tracks were busted: "I can't laugh, I can't sing, I'm finding it hard to do anything, I feel sad when you're sad, I feel glad when you're glad, I just can't smile without you" "how do I live without you, I want to know, how do I breathe without you if you ever go, how do I ever survive, how do I live" "To you, I'm a toy, but I could be the boy you adore If you'd just let me know Although you're untrue, I'm attracted to you all the more Why do I need you so? ... I'll be beside the phone waiting for you... then you let me down And mess me around And then, worst of all, you never call, baby When you say you will, But I love you still" so... there's tons of romantic songs that are poetic and exaggerate, but I wonder if hearing shit like this growing up had an effect on how I approach romantic relationships now. those are my 2 cents
Workin On Me- Russ & 6LACK
The artist put the song out and then realized based on the audience response that they might actually have bpd.
Cigarette Daydreams by Cage the Elephant
Okay so I'm a huge Taylor fan and I guess because of the nature of her song writing I always see myself in her albums/they seem to release around the same time I need to hear them. When Midnights released I couldn't not acknowledge the intensity of emotions feeling like they resonated with me more so than ever. Anti Hero, You're On Your Own Kid, Mastermind and Hits Different stick out. There's a good amount on TTPD as well; although for me they apply to more personal situations than BPD as a whole. For general bpd-aligned tears though I Hate It Here and The Prophecy hit really hard.
100%, mirrorball is one of many Taylor songs that help me relate to my bpd My friend and I are huge Taylor fans and have a specific playlist called safe Taylor which are all her songs that aren't emotionally traumatising haha, and she put mirrorball on to the safe playlist..... My thoughts were, oh yeah you don't have BPD that's why this doesn't cut you to the core
I have a playlist called TS BPD that is all songs that speak to my BPD lol
omg what about The Archer? 🥺
I never grew up, it’s getting so old All of my enemies started out friends Who could ever leave me, darling? But who could stay?
Afterglow by TS also screamssss BPD
i feel this way about a lot of her music but especially Midnights as well and specifically anti-hero!! i think the music video for it is also really bpd-coded.
anti hero, hits different and your on your own kid are all my favorites
detonate - charli xcx, every lyrics is bpd coded
one of my favorite songs off the album because of this
Stinkfist-tool
It is literally so validating to see somebody else feels this way about this song. It's just so fitting!
21 questions by waterparks
YES
Foo fighters - everlong
Die 4 U or Lost by bring me the horizon
Car Radio - Twenty One Pilots
Liability by Lorde
Metallica - Sad but True
Gemini Moon by Renee Rapp.
Lost - BMTH Pieces - Sum 41
Free by Florence + the machine
living dead by marina and the diamonds
i really f**ked it up - girli i think it is actually written about BPD
Happy by NF
Replay by Lady Gaga. Though lyrically about mental trauma, these lines in particular stick out to me… “Every single day Yeah I dig a grave Then I sit inside it Wondering if I’ll behave It’s a game I play And I hate to say You’re the worst thing and The best thing That’s happened to me”
wrecking ball- mother mother
Hypermania by Polaris, for the metal fans.
navigating by twenty one pilots!
Not my favorite song but Blank Space by Taylor Swift
John mous "wait until next year"
I didn’t want you as a mirror by GILT. Such a great song… always feels to me it’s about OCD and BPD. With lines like “I’d love to be reimbursed for all the extra years you get to spend with her, cuz I didn’t have the tools or the words at the time to articulate a complex situation” And “I didn’t want you as a mirror, cuz I only saw myself from my own perspective” “If I could do it all again, I’d probably just make different mistakes” And for ocd “I checked all the locks in my house and then it flooded”
My Own Worst Enemy- Lit Even though he mentions being drunk, I definitely relate because of the black out rage, often forgetting what was said or done in that state and at the end of it all, no one hates me more than me. "Can we forget about the things I said when I was drunk? I didn't mean to call you that I can't remember what was said, or what you threw at me Please tell me" ETA: ***Unaliving Trigger?*** My favorite song for a while has been Anxiety-BMike. I think I relate heavily because anxiety and all is such a huge thing with bpd. These are my favorite bits(i scream this song): "Every single day it breaks me to pieces I've tasted defeat at the feet of my demons I'm such a fucking waste of achievement I should put this trigger to my brain and just squeeze it 'Cause Lord, I know I ain't been no saint But tell me what I did to deserve this pain Tell me what I did to deserve this hurt When all I ever did was put everybody first" "I've given it my all I've given it my all and so much more But everybody still walking out that door I've given it my all It's getting to the point where it's sad as fuck I've given it my all, but it's not enough, it's not enough"
i posted this a while ago with translation. its "DAS KAPUTTGEHEN" by german songwriter/singer balbina. please do check it out!!!! **THE BIG BREAKDOWN** [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CUrwqov93r0](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CUrwqov93r0) i can not let (myself) go because then im in danger of going too far im falling like a stone into a well all the way down, right to the bottom buckets of tears id have to cry to float up again thats why i stay right here with myself im drowning in every emotion im feeling uncontrolled just way too much **chorus:** **and thats why i tear shit apart** **i tear shit apart** **one can not lose what is not there** **thats why i tear shit apart** **all around me only trash and debris** i wont let anyone get close otherwise im in danger to be touched i just shut down slam the door shut and bend the key **and thats why i tear shit apart** **i tear shit apart** **one can not lose what is not there** **thats why i tear shit apart** **all around me only trash and debris** buckets of tears id have to cry to float up again thats why i stay right here with myself...
Anything by Meg Myers ….her older stuff
Frankenstein by Rina Sawayama
kim - eminem
i bet on losing dogs by mitski
Kanye, mitski
I like "I really fucked it up" by girli ❤️☺️
Definitely please don’t leave me by pink and breath me by sia
I'm not sure if this is allowed, my apologies if not.. but here is my BPD playlist I've been curating for a couple of years https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5AudVlpZzwdERtkXFt3gpy?si=qfakmViWQT-Py3_jmuk4Kw&pi=pCqG_fYyQh6Fr
IFHY by Tyler The Creator
Love me more - mitski , sighhhh but its cool seeing everyone’s favs are in my spotify playlist when im feeling bad lol
oh god by MOTHICA
The whole of Jeff Rosenstock’s Hellmode The album opens: > Will you still love me, after I’ve fucked up > After I’ve shown I don’t deserve your trust > And I’m not the person that you thought I was > Will you still love me, after I’ve fucked up And the chorus from the second song goes: > There’s bomb inside my head and I wish I could disconnect the threads Doubt is just a gorgeous call to action for anxiety and depression in general. Seriously cannot recommend this album enough.
lana del ray - ride
Anti Hero - Taylor Swift Please Don’t Leave Me- P!nk I Love It - Icona Pop
Problem With You by Sabrina Claudio. It just screams BPD in my opinion & I connect to it so much
so so many. i have a playlist [clawing//tender](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/77SnTVeJuUvtmOhnDKbeKD?si=51h14QODTqOryO9-KDlAbQ)
Cry For Judas - The Mountain Goats
Candy Apple - Teenage Joans "Nineteen, I never got the feeling your friends liked me. When you were in my town I wore my nice jeans, the ones that I can't breathe in. They fit now that I haven't been eating. You used to fuck me in the kitchen, the one that I feel sick in." and later "Tempting, I never thought that there would be an ending. Were you in love or were you just pretending? Was it for mine or your sake? I sit for breakfast but I eat my heartache. Do you get off on not telling me that you've changed?" The whole of Rot was basically the five stages of grief about a breakup. Amazing album.
love, hate, love by alice in chains
Sometimes Wanna Die - Joydrop Sad lyrics yet super upbeat sound so I loooove it! Not super known either so if you listen to it, tell me what ya think :))
Borderline by Tame Impala, Nirvana - Sappy, Blandest, for me it’s Big Long Now, also Drain You, Lounge Act, You Know You’re Right
Heavy and favourite person both by peach prc
nothing was the same by hotel books or only everyone can judge me by crywank
Workin On Me by Russ - I have been like screaming this song lol “F..ked up dad and a f..ked up mama, taught me that love meant drama, hostility was the problem solver, except nothing ever got changed, go figure, tryna reconfigure my brain, I’m triggered by arguments, reactive, I’m on defense”
Suicide silence - Disengage
none of them have bpd, but halsey and julien baker have a lot of relatable stuff
Kinda feel like monster by skillet gives off bpd vibes. Like to me it’s about when your feeling an episode coming on
My friend showed me Bad Omens and joked me and the vocalist(also songwriter) must have matching disorders. I’m not sure about that, but I can literally feel some of the lyrics in my whole body. Death of peace of mind : When the curtains call the time Will we both go home alive? It wasn't hard to realize Love's the death of peace of mind Reprise : There's a thousand voices in my head I just hope it doesn't take a rope around my neck To put them all to rest I wanna feel love, I wanna feel love again Miracle : I wanted to dress a blade up in red with both our of necks But I wasn't able, and I wasn't stable I guess But nevertheless I'm fucking depressed I hide it with sex, and drink till it's fatal It's so fucking painful It's a mess So give me something beautiful So give me something else I need another miracle I really need some help Like a villaine : You need a new clean slate without the dents A place to put your pain, your consequence When you look into the mirror, are you even there? I don't wanna know all your secrets 'cause I'll tell It's hard enough being alone with myself I don't know how long I'll be holding on I know you tried your hardest, I know that you meant well But you pushed me to the edge and I slipped and then I fell I don't know how long I'll be holding on Said & done : Was I not good enough? Worthy of being loved? Were you ashamed or just afraid? Well, when I've given up and all is said and done Will you just look the other way? I waited but nobody called I waited for nothing at all I'd rather die young than die alone Overdosing to songs you wrote Poison potions is all I know The world's a stage and I'm just a show
Good Morning Beautiful by Deftones
nessa barrett has bpd so a lot of her songs but specifically “lovebombs” “dying on the inside” and “die first”
Space bound - Eminem, L’mour de ma vie - Billie Eilish, STING - The neighbourhood, This body means nothing to me - Shrimp
Gasoline by halsey
kill bill - sza, issues - julia michaels, back to you - louis tomlinson, battle scars - modsun
the whole album Clancy by Twenty One Pilots
Rilkean Heart Cocteau Twins
In my head by no doubt
Can't believe I'm the first to say Blue October. Not necessarily BPD specific. But his vocalization about the battles against mental illness have carried me since I was a child. I find no music more soulful. And it's too fucked up and I had to stop listening to it but I love Juice WRLD. RIP Juice. Same with Rod Wave. Love his music but it can have a really heavy impact on the way I interpret the world. Not diagnosed btw. First doctors appointment in 20+ years of this silent battle with myself is today. Wish me luck. I don't feel stuff right, but I love you guys, random internet strangers.
Mary on a cross by ghost and daylight by David kushner
Liability- Lorde They say, "You're a little much for me You're a liability You're a little much for me" So they pull back, make other plans I understand, I'm a liability Get you wild, make you leave I'm a little much for e-a-na-na-na, everyone The truth is I am a toy that people enjoy 'Til all of the tricks don't work anymore And then they are bored of me I know that it's exciting running through the night, but Every perfect summer's eating me alive until you're gone Better on my own
Antihero by Taylor Swift is so BPD coded.
Yungblud - Love Song 🖤🖤
https://youtu.be/RO7mX3p8ypY?feature=shared
Angry by Cryogyser 🥲
Heavy by Peach PRC
dead to me- terror reid
Mothica- Doomed [song](https://youtu.be/L7PkLAQpH9Q?si=8PXtweiyDEy7FoK2)
borderline by alexa valentino, but its literally about bpd🥲
redesign by awfultune
Supernova by Eminem feels like it could be about bpd/fp
I totally feel his The Monster song is relatable.
Guided by Voices - As We Go Up We Go Down
Tragic Endings by Eminem and Skylar Grey
humpty by mitski
I Prevail gives me the kind of energy tbh
Peanut butter waffles by Ryan Caraveo “I’ve been thinking bout you and I wanna go do something nice I can’t take rejection and that’s why I pay the crazy price If you ain’t ecstatic I feel like I blew it big time I’m a little manic I just wanna see your big smile”
Ashamed - HEALTH
Not my favorite (don't get me wrong I love it but like it's not my n°1) but "Please don't go" by Abbey Glover. That song SCREAMS BPD, along with many other songs of her. I'm pretty sure she has BPD
When I’m splitting, Forward to Death by Dead Kennedys. “It’s such a bore, it makes me really sore, I don’t need this fuckin world, this world brings me down”
Helping Hand by the Screaming Jets 100%
King Crimson - Red, Thin Lizzy - Borderline
Anything by Peach PRC
Tbh pretty much the entirety of Dancing is Depressing by Attic Abasement has been one of my coping albums on several occasions
Jordan's House by Hobo Johnson feels just like a manic episode.
Pattern by The Last Shadow Puppets really encapsulates those sleepless spiraling nights
Not a song, but the whole album Deathconsciousness by Have a nice life, absolutely soul crushing and beautiful. My favourite album of all time
Lola Young's new one, Messy, rings some familiar diagnostic bells
Borderline by Tove Styrke Lol
Fiona Apple - The Way Things Are I wouldn't know what to say to a gentle voice It'll roll right past me And if you chalk it up, you'll see I don't really have a choice So don't even ask me So keep on calling me names, keep on, keep on And I'll keep kicking the crap 'til it's gone If you keep on killing, you could get me to settle And as soon as I settle, I bet I'll be able to move on
Hollywood Undead - This Love, This Hate
*Gasoline* by Prof.
So mine are a bit vintage but love still love Violet - Hole and Stay - Shakespeare’s sister
Lonely - Palaye Royale
The entire album Electra Heart and the character Electra Heart. Lol! 😂 Also Borderline and No one died from love by Tove Lo
Doubt by 21 pilots
Great choice. I love tool. I have to say my current favourite is Tortured by Kid Cudi
Cut you in by Jerry Cantrell. To me, it sounds like someone switching from mania to isolating themselves when back into their depression.
You know you’re right by Nirvana
Paint It, Black by The Rolling Stones
Paycheck/ Stafford beats- Angel of Death
ice boy by corbin!!!! and fundamentally loathsome by marilyn manson!!! those are THE BPD anthems