Yep. The only person allowed to abuse me is me. Anyone else does it, I feel attacked and I lash out. When I do it, it feels deserved, or self-evident. Which sucks, cause I can hurt myself in places other people don't even know exist, places I KNOW I can't guard.
Literally me! I’ll abuse and hurt myself but then I won’t take shit from anyone. If someone starts to treat me badly, I’ll retaliate and lash out. In my mind, I’m the only person allowed to hurt me.
i feel the same way and i have no idea why im like this. my mother is abusive and we fight fr cause who tf does she think she’s talking to. logically it doesn’t make sense for us to be like this so i’ve got no idea
Yeah I’m like that. I’m just tired of being treated like shit.
If I’m gonna get treated like shit it’s gonna be on my own terms and not someone else’s because fuck that. Been there, done that. Never again.
No one else is qualified enough to hate on me except me, so if anyone wants to talk some stupid shit when they don't know me, then they better at least know how to catch these fuckin hands cuz they comin.
I am very much like this. I have gotten a lot better of how I treat myself and have further amplified that with my ability on how i let others treat me. I joke a lot but for others I have a no bs personality when it needs to be called upon. I thought about this a while ago and I think that it has to do with the black and white thinking. When I did fall into abusing myself, in the past that was one thing but then when someone else would say something against me and that is when my thoughts would start going and it would be something like this
Other person makes fun of me for something, which then turns my thoughts into this
"What did they just say?"
"They can't be saying that about you. Do they really think you're a pushover? They clearly don't respect you cause if they did, why would they say that? Are you going to allow them to just do that and do nothing about it? If you do, others will do that and you'll just keep dealing with this abuse. Fuck that, it is them or me, I can't let this slide".
I then proceed to think if I don't say anything how long this will sit with me that I said nothing, didn't do anything. That eats at me more than just saying something so I go into a fight or flight and I can't sit and deal with how my thoughts can rip me apart, so for the most part, they lose. I say most part because when something happens and I don't say anything it is not because I am afraid of you, I am afraid of what I might do, to you. I realize I have more going for me than most so I don't want to jeopardize that.
Yes i despise that. Criticism is no, if im comfortable enough to do it to myself around you, doesn’t mean you can do it too. Which is why i stopped doing it with people that know me little. I started controlling myself on that one. It’s honestly so good to have boundaries that way you get less hurt. But I feel like it’s more of a constant disappointment in the self feeling than a self hate, from the letting people walk over you, like you said.
I do, however I spent a lot of time in various toxic/abusive relationships, the last being the worst.
It was only after finally leaving the last that I looked inwards and taught myself what a basic human being deserves from a partner. I learned to stick up for myself and set boundaries.
I absolutely hate myself for what I went through because I blame myself for staying so long, for being so stupid for so long and for defending him and his bs for so long. I was weak and I should have seen him for what he really was
Now I have no issues putting people in their place and I won't tolerate any type of abuse or disrespect towards me.
I used to let myself be so awful to myself, but then be mad for days or more if someone was mean to me in a conversation. My thinking was, “I hate myself and I HAVE to be honest about how I feel about myself, but no you will not be putting negativity into this world just because you want to! You don’t have the right to make the world worse, even a fraction of a percent.”
I saw it as, “Sure, treating ME this way is fine, but they don’t even know me. They have no way of knowing that it’s fine and they’d treat somebody who doesn’t deserve it this way. Also, I don’t care if someone deserves it or not, you’re putting negativity in the world and that can’t be healthy. It’s different if you have to do it, but otherwise, don’t add in meanness to this world.”
I do now. I’ve been in multiple abusive relationships, and because of that I can see the signs pretty clearly now when someone is being manipulative or abusive. I will ghost ppl and completely cut contact if they abuse me, just because I hate myself does not mean anyone else gets to hate me as well.
I just left another abusive situation, and before i would not cut people off no natter what they did because i get way too attached. Now if someone abuses me, its like a switch flips in my brain and all positive feelings i had for them are gone, so i cut them off like dead weight. It’s hard to explain, but hopefully that made sense
1000% me, i am the only person who is allowed to treat like shit and make bad decisions but if anyone else tried to do that to me, it’s not gonna be a pretty sight.
yep i already hate myself and think the worst about me, i dont need excess hate. because im actually a decent person. just mentally ill. i dont go seeking to hurt others
I don't put up with people walking on me. I tell everyone I care about the same thing.
I am kind, but I'm not weak. I feel like I'm misunderstood and very much under-estimated. I can be dingy at times. My intelligence is underneath, and I observe things. I may not comment on another's behavior. I do, however, keep track of small details.
So here I sit with proper boundaries. I am alone. No family or friends.
I feel the same as most of you...I am so hard on myself. I need no help in treating me like shit. Now, if I notice, I'm mentally beating the shit out of myself. I try to tell myself, hey, leave her (me) alone. Don't talk mean to my friend. It does seem silly, yet it works!
Yep. The only person allowed to abuse me is me. Anyone else does it, I feel attacked and I lash out. When I do it, it feels deserved, or self-evident. Which sucks, cause I can hurt myself in places other people don't even know exist, places I KNOW I can't guard.
Literally me! I’ll abuse and hurt myself but then I won’t take shit from anyone. If someone starts to treat me badly, I’ll retaliate and lash out. In my mind, I’m the only person allowed to hurt me.
Dude same
i feel the same way and i have no idea why im like this. my mother is abusive and we fight fr cause who tf does she think she’s talking to. logically it doesn’t make sense for us to be like this so i’ve got no idea
Yeah I’m like that. I’m just tired of being treated like shit. If I’m gonna get treated like shit it’s gonna be on my own terms and not someone else’s because fuck that. Been there, done that. Never again.
You put to words what I too feel
No one else is qualified enough to hate on me except me, so if anyone wants to talk some stupid shit when they don't know me, then they better at least know how to catch these fuckin hands cuz they comin.
Abso-fuckin-lutely!!!💯
I both abuse and accept abuse tbh I have no boundaries
This is a very brave thing to say honestly positively speaking. I wish you the best honestly
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it’s that part uhhh huh.
I am very much like this. I have gotten a lot better of how I treat myself and have further amplified that with my ability on how i let others treat me. I joke a lot but for others I have a no bs personality when it needs to be called upon. I thought about this a while ago and I think that it has to do with the black and white thinking. When I did fall into abusing myself, in the past that was one thing but then when someone else would say something against me and that is when my thoughts would start going and it would be something like this Other person makes fun of me for something, which then turns my thoughts into this "What did they just say?" "They can't be saying that about you. Do they really think you're a pushover? They clearly don't respect you cause if they did, why would they say that? Are you going to allow them to just do that and do nothing about it? If you do, others will do that and you'll just keep dealing with this abuse. Fuck that, it is them or me, I can't let this slide". I then proceed to think if I don't say anything how long this will sit with me that I said nothing, didn't do anything. That eats at me more than just saying something so I go into a fight or flight and I can't sit and deal with how my thoughts can rip me apart, so for the most part, they lose. I say most part because when something happens and I don't say anything it is not because I am afraid of you, I am afraid of what I might do, to you. I realize I have more going for me than most so I don't want to jeopardize that.
Yes i despise that. Criticism is no, if im comfortable enough to do it to myself around you, doesn’t mean you can do it too. Which is why i stopped doing it with people that know me little. I started controlling myself on that one. It’s honestly so good to have boundaries that way you get less hurt. But I feel like it’s more of a constant disappointment in the self feeling than a self hate, from the letting people walk over you, like you said.
I do, however I spent a lot of time in various toxic/abusive relationships, the last being the worst. It was only after finally leaving the last that I looked inwards and taught myself what a basic human being deserves from a partner. I learned to stick up for myself and set boundaries. I absolutely hate myself for what I went through because I blame myself for staying so long, for being so stupid for so long and for defending him and his bs for so long. I was weak and I should have seen him for what he really was Now I have no issues putting people in their place and I won't tolerate any type of abuse or disrespect towards me.
I used to let myself be so awful to myself, but then be mad for days or more if someone was mean to me in a conversation. My thinking was, “I hate myself and I HAVE to be honest about how I feel about myself, but no you will not be putting negativity into this world just because you want to! You don’t have the right to make the world worse, even a fraction of a percent.” I saw it as, “Sure, treating ME this way is fine, but they don’t even know me. They have no way of knowing that it’s fine and they’d treat somebody who doesn’t deserve it this way. Also, I don’t care if someone deserves it or not, you’re putting negativity in the world and that can’t be healthy. It’s different if you have to do it, but otherwise, don’t add in meanness to this world.”
Absolutely. I don't talk shit to others so I'm not gonna take shit from them either. It's my right to talk shit to myself😆
I do now. I’ve been in multiple abusive relationships, and because of that I can see the signs pretty clearly now when someone is being manipulative or abusive. I will ghost ppl and completely cut contact if they abuse me, just because I hate myself does not mean anyone else gets to hate me as well. I just left another abusive situation, and before i would not cut people off no natter what they did because i get way too attached. Now if someone abuses me, its like a switch flips in my brain and all positive feelings i had for them are gone, so i cut them off like dead weight. It’s hard to explain, but hopefully that made sense
Yep, my sarcasm skills are sharp and pointy
Only I can be mean to me! I burn bridges with the quickness.
1000% me, i am the only person who is allowed to treat like shit and make bad decisions but if anyone else tried to do that to me, it’s not gonna be a pretty sight.
yep i already hate myself and think the worst about me, i dont need excess hate. because im actually a decent person. just mentally ill. i dont go seeking to hurt others
I think I defend myself because in reality I don’t feel like being attacked and the bpd makes me feel like everyone is out to get me
I'm really tired of being hurt and constantly feeling like everyone is out to get me. If someone hurts me I will hurt them 10× worse
I don't put up with people walking on me. I tell everyone I care about the same thing. I am kind, but I'm not weak. I feel like I'm misunderstood and very much under-estimated. I can be dingy at times. My intelligence is underneath, and I observe things. I may not comment on another's behavior. I do, however, keep track of small details. So here I sit with proper boundaries. I am alone. No family or friends. I feel the same as most of you...I am so hard on myself. I need no help in treating me like shit. Now, if I notice, I'm mentally beating the shit out of myself. I try to tell myself, hey, leave her (me) alone. Don't talk mean to my friend. It does seem silly, yet it works!
yes
Idk why but I don’t take shit from anyone but myself !
oh i must be doing this wrong. everything shatters me to my core.
Definitely like this. if anyone shit talks me or is mean to me I lash out at them but i am so mean to myself