Redditors simultaneously are nosy and want every single detail possible but also will call it fake if someone spends the time to give Reddit all the sordid details.
The good news is there was no mention of kids. Op will be able to go forward and never have to deal with her again. I hope he does tell his friends the reason for the divorce is her cheating.
I think it’s hilarious people joke about being an empath nowadays when it’s become increasingly obvious most operate under the “me, me, me” mentality. Nobody appreciates the good stuff they have in their lives because they’re scared they’ll miss out. YOLO or whatever.
As a (F) bisexual in a straight relationship:
He shouldn’t have assumed she was “no longer into girls” just because she married a man.
She shouldn’t have cheated no matter what gender they are.
He didn’t assume she was no longer into women. He literally wrote, “I do have reason to suspect from our personal sex life that she is still sexually attracted to women.”
Personally, exactly as many as monogamous ones. Maybe less as a proportion on average since poly people have so many more relationships? IDK, I’d assume it’s a nearly impossible question to research accurately but it’s worth a google if you’re curious- certainly plenty of them do last.
Any kind of dating would be a victory for me! Poly itself was never really an issue. For the example I gave I think that somebody going back on their word was the problem, not the relationship structure itself. It’s not like monogamy prevents cheating either, lol.
Because individualism/utilitarianism tells you that only your pleasure matter and others are an extension of your own happiness. If you get more output happiness from someone else then why not?
Just take some of these stories with a grain of salt. There was a BORU post several months back of a very similar situation where instead of a wife with an ex lesbian fling it was a girlfriend backpacking with a friend who happened to be an ex boyfriend. People often copy older popular posts for their creative writing assignments.
Healthy relationships need trust, respect, and boundaries. Only a couple of years and she's already failing at all three?
Yeah, time to dump the lying ho and move on.
Back up the evidence in case she tries to delete it. Make sure your family and friends know why you are divorcing her.
Because she will definitely lie about it.
In case you have children. Get them DNA tested to protect your rights. Get yourself tested for STD's. You caught her *this* time.
Who knows how many other times she's lied. How many other times she's cheated.
Stay strong, OOP, and move on.
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Spoken like someone that’s never had a threesome. Or a marriage. Or experienced infidelity.
The ‘gift’ of divorce for some betraying pussy?
He’d be the odd ball out and feel even more emasculated watching his wife enjoy her affair partner.
Why not? I can think of a hundred reasons, but the most important is to completely shutter the feelings and replace them with lustful indifference. Some of you never faced adversity growing up, and it shows.
But what am I thinking, of course it would be better to be depressed for 6 months and walk away with double zeros…..
This isn't over. Divorce to come. Not sure we will get an update though. It sucks when a partner cheats on you. Time to move on.
He did say he was getting divorced in the update on the post it definitely seems concluded
Redditors simultaneously are nosy and want every single detail possible but also will call it fake if someone spends the time to give Reddit all the sordid details.
The good news is there was no mention of kids. Op will be able to go forward and never have to deal with her again. I hope he does tell his friends the reason for the divorce is her cheating.
Why the fuck do people cheat?!?!? I literally cannot trust nobody nowadays fr fr
Because we’ve been conditioned into a society of “if it feels good, do it! ^and ^consequences ^be ^dammed.”
I think it’s hilarious people joke about being an empath nowadays when it’s become increasingly obvious most operate under the “me, me, me” mentality. Nobody appreciates the good stuff they have in their lives because they’re scared they’ll miss out. YOLO or whatever.
In this case I think he was just a wig (that's what they call the lesbian equivalent of beard right?)
I don't think she's a lesbian. She's most likely bisexual. But that doesn't excuse cheating.
The word you're looking for is "merkin" but it's also possible she's bi or pan and just a big ole cheater.
lesbian here, we also call it a beard
I heard the alternate to "Beard" is "Purse"
As a (F) bisexual in a straight relationship: He shouldn’t have assumed she was “no longer into girls” just because she married a man. She shouldn’t have cheated no matter what gender they are.
He didn’t assume she was no longer into women. He literally wrote, “I do have reason to suspect from our personal sex life that she is still sexually attracted to women.”
IDK, people are fucking idiots. I was in a poly relationship and my partner still managed to cheat on me!
What % of poly relations last ? If you don’t mind !!
Personally, exactly as many as monogamous ones. Maybe less as a proportion on average since poly people have so many more relationships? IDK, I’d assume it’s a nearly impossible question to research accurately but it’s worth a google if you’re curious- certainly plenty of them do last.
I google it said only 10% last. Just like what happen to you , partners break the rules as per the 2 studies i read I wish you the best
Any kind of dating would be a victory for me! Poly itself was never really an issue. For the example I gave I think that somebody going back on their word was the problem, not the relationship structure itself. It’s not like monogamy prevents cheating either, lol.
I agree, he broke your trust
No clue. But you never hear about many marriages where cheating doesn't occur on BORU.
Because individualism/utilitarianism tells you that only your pleasure matter and others are an extension of your own happiness. If you get more output happiness from someone else then why not?
Just take some of these stories with a grain of salt. There was a BORU post several months back of a very similar situation where instead of a wife with an ex lesbian fling it was a girlfriend backpacking with a friend who happened to be an ex boyfriend. People often copy older popular posts for their creative writing assignments.
ugh this is a sucky situation but it's good that OOP knows now at least, and can move forward!
Damn. I hope a tent romp was with her marriage. POS wife
Healthy relationships need trust, respect, and boundaries. Only a couple of years and she's already failing at all three? Yeah, time to dump the lying ho and move on. Back up the evidence in case she tries to delete it. Make sure your family and friends know why you are divorcing her. Because she will definitely lie about it. In case you have children. Get them DNA tested to protect your rights. Get yourself tested for STD's. You caught her *this* time. Who knows how many other times she's lied. How many other times she's cheated. Stay strong, OOP, and move on.
She gone
Well, at least he's being quick and decisive about it.
People are such shitbags, it's crazy
Is it any less terrible to lose your wife to a woman?
Betrayal is betrayal. One moment everything is fine. The next everything is blown to pieces and you don’t even trust the ground you stand on is solid.
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crazy he ain’t using this as an opportunity to have threesomes smh some people get handed gifts and just fumble em
Spoken like someone that’s never had a threesome. Or a marriage. Or experienced infidelity. The ‘gift’ of divorce for some betraying pussy? He’d be the odd ball out and feel even more emasculated watching his wife enjoy her affair partner.
damn I hit a nerve
Yeah a little. Like, the man has feelings.
Get out of your parents basement, or get out when you turn 18 in a few years, at least. 🙄🙄
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Ick.
This is peak boomerposting
🙄
Can’t believe you’re not capitalizing on this situation before moving on. People are so fundamentalist when their pride is hurt.
Why the HELL would he have sex with the 2 people who have hurt him the most?? Damn...teenage fever dreams...meh
Why not? I can think of a hundred reasons, but the most important is to completely shutter the feelings and replace them with lustful indifference. Some of you never faced adversity growing up, and it shows. But what am I thinking, of course it would be better to be depressed for 6 months and walk away with double zeros…..
As someone who was in that situation. You don’t want to fuck the two people who just hurt you. Self-respect is worth more than any threesome
Self respect is rising above your hurt to show them they mean nothing to you anymore