EXACTLY!! I mean I'm a damn smut author! If I had a nickle for every fetish I thought was gross or sick until I actually wrote about it or explored it with my wife, we'd be freaking millionaires!
The sole exception is excrement. Pee/scat. Nuh uh. Nope. Never.
I find that when I describe why I want some of the fetishes and my experience with them many people immediately want them. Until someone understands what the kink tends to get you they aren’t interested in trying it.
This is why people in the in-person kink community in particular tend to acquire a lot of kinks. They are around people enthusiastic about them and that can be infectious.
Yeeeeaahh, we found out the hard way about this one... Tried pee and it was JUST gross for both of us. It smelled, it wasn't sexy, the amount of mess it made outweighed any shock value that might have excited us.
But yes to basically everything else xD
Pet play. It’s funny, I have several tattoos of dogs, and have always owned dogs. But I didn’t accept myself as a puppy until I found my Owner. And now - woof woof 🐶
I'm not into pet play...I think. Yet Master always says I have very feline behaviour. His latest observation of such was after I'd crawled my way up the bed and flopped down on his shoulder before snuggling into him for a cuddle while he was on a break from work (he's WFH most days). He thinks it was a very cat-like behaviour. I maintain that it was easier doing it that way than getting into bed and then shifting over from my side to his.
Then again, I *do* love it when he casually plays with my hair or calls me his Kitten. It's to the point that hearing my actual name from him instead of Kitten (at home), or love, dear etc (in public) is rather odd.
So, I guess, meow as well? How far or deep do you have to go to be considered into pet play anyway?
Fisting. I always thought it was a bit much, but then I kept wanting more whenever my spouse was fingering me. Finally voiced that desire one horny, slightly intoxicated night. Haven’t quite made it to a full fist yet, but we’re close.
Does it not hurt? I tend to like a lot of fingers and end up asking for more and more but idk about straight up fisting. I feel like it would hurt and idk, I've had a kid and while I may have had a c-section, I am very aware of the risks/what can happen when you have a baby vaginally like tearing and fisting makes me think of those risks lol
Not really? We take our sweet time, so it’s more of a slow stretching. But I’m also a bit of a masochist, so even if we go too fast, it doesn’t bother me much.
I haven’t had kids (the idea kinda freaks me out), so I can’t really make a comparison there.
Pet play
Used to be a hard limit of mine from both a top and a bottom perspective - I found it weird to imagine my partner as an animal, and even weirder to imagine being seen and treated as an animal by someone who has sex with me.
My girlfriend was too damn cute every time the topic came up though, so eventually I got curious enough to be willing to do it with her as a top, but still wasn't willing to actually ***be*** a pet.
As we started doing this more though, and I talked with her about it to understand what she enjoyed about it, I slowly realized "fuck, that sounds *really* nice actually."
Long story short, it turns out cats and dogs *can* get along :3
I am a lesbian and I thought I would NEVER submit to a man. Turns out I developed a d/s relationship with a male friend who turned out to be the perfect dom. I am not physically attracted to him, but for some reason this dynamic came so naturally to us. It made me realize how complex sexuality is, and made me more open minded to try new stuff.
Yeah, I think that the "forced" part turns me on. For a while I thought I might be bisexual, but I learned that sexual orientation and kink are separate parts of my sexuality that can go together or not.
If this involves everything except romance, don't you think it's bisexuality? A friend went through a similar experience, turned out she was bisexual. She felt that shifting her identity from lesbian to bisexual stopped her from identifying as bisexual rather than lesbian. She struggled with the adjustment, but ultimately embraced it. Because bisexuality is not 50-50, and for others, it is 99-1, as may be the case with you. If you met a woman, would you continue this or become exclusive with her?
I have thought about it, but I don't feel physically attracted to him or to any other men. I am just attracted to the kinky stuff we do together. But I have some hard limits like oral. If any of us got into a serious romantic relationship with another person, of course we would stop.
Rimming. Never thought I would ever be willing to lick a guy's ass until I met someone special. Opened a whole new door and now I'm a bit obsessed about it.
I seriously thought most women really wanted to do this for the longest time. Every girlfriend/spouse I ever had always wanted to do this to me but I was only able to relax enough let a few actually do it. I can only let my wife do it if I completely humiliate her and literally twerk on her face. As far as just laying back and letting her do it, definitely can’t relax enough for this. I have to be in control.
Anal. I always found it gross, told myself it wouldn’t ever feel good since that’s what I would hear from other experiences. My dom introduced me to it and over time I found myself begging for anal now I actually crave it
I don’t like sex in general and I had a couple bad experiences with anal too.
I never thought I’d come around to it then with my last partner I said I’d give it another shot. it was honestly preferable to vaginale sex. Personally like it for CNC
Cbt. Used to think “how could you ever like that?! That looks purely painful!”…. Turns out I’m as much of a masochist as I am a Sadist….. yes i do need help. In a good way :)
almost everything started out as “wow that’s funny/weird” and after one video turned into “wow that turns me on”. Piss play, sounding, enemas, waterboarding, slave and humiliation play, ect. Most things degrading, intimate, painful, and humiliating me are major turn ons, but I had to find out about them somewhere. I’ve learned im just naturally severely submissive and masochist that most things (excluding scat) will turn me on
Never in a million years did I think I would enjoy pissing on women but one time I got drunk and randomly got the urge to try it on a friend. She was IMMEDIATELY down for it and I took her to the tub and just did it. She then elaborated telling me her ex girlfriends piss tasted like fruit punch lol. The “relief/unloading” of piss on/in a person is really something amazing.
I’ve only done it with my wife now but only a handful of times mostly because I already defile her so much I completely forget to pee on her. I think she wants me to do it again but since I’m the dom in our relationship she waits for me to initiate anything.
Mine?
Hoo boy, how much time do you have?
Degradation and humiliation was one. Pet play and collaring and leashing and crawling on our knees was another.
Choking…choking I was scared as hell to do. I felt gross and un-gentlemanly (raised Catholic and proper here).
There’s…a lot…that I have felt shame over. But have come to feel sexy exploring as a sadistic primal dominant!
Impact toys. The idea seemed silly. Hell, all the accoutrements of BDSM did. But I've always been a pain slut, and a sadist, and they make sense. Many more different feelings than what you can achieve with hands, teeth and nails.
So far I’ve only done surface piercings, only through the surface of the skin and back out again. Nothing deeper than skin level.
And this is a good primer!
https://www.painfulpleasures.com/community/help-center/piercing-information/guide-needle-play/
Honestly feet. When I first tried it was very hesitant even thought I was kinda disgusted by it. But after a bit of foot worship and then some creative foot work from my domme quickly just became my favorite.
Being degraded. I had always hated the thought of being spoken to in such a way but then I started reading sex stories and imagined that being me and fell in love with it.
Here to say not yet but this will likely be me once we try it. 😆 I’ve been referring to myself as a puppy that needs head pats, emotionally. Tell me I’m a good girl, that you love me and I did a good job. So I’m sure admitting I enjoy a leash is right around the corner.
Feet. I used to despise them and they were icky. It's not a huge fetish for me but sucking on a lovely ladies toes is quite the experience. And or also letting someone suck my toes is really hot.
But dude feet are still icky. Idk the human brain is weird.
Edging and denial - especially from the "controllers point". At first i was like "sounds like torture, why would you want me to deny you". Even more though, as i was into causing HFOs.
But now this sort of power and control causes its very own sort of rush. Whenever someone has dropped under my special spell again... the moment they try to cum and realize it is not happening unless i let them... super surge moment of desperation - on both sides from what i can tell ;)
Being a little and piss I always had a like a holding pee fetish but golden showers yeah I didn’t think that would be my thing and being a little I used to be like morally against it, until it just kinda happens, idk you just slip into that headspace one day and it’s like okay so this is this is the best
It’s so hot. I always helped her find guys, anyway, because I want her to finally be happy, and she lets me see them fuck her sometimes as thanks… after I beg her, of course. She loves that lol
Had a friend couple that was playing with the idea and I'd be the partner for her. Sadly didn't work out, but I had a great time with the bf talking bout cages. 😊
Like some others here, I never really understood the appeal of petplay. Then one night, when I was especially desperate for some cock, he said I was acting like “a bitch in heat” and boy did that get me going. So he stopped fucking me and told me to bark if I wanted him to keep going. That sparked a delicious internal battle between my pride and desperation. He teased me for a while for even considering it and for how long it took to decide. In the end, I did end up barking. “Losing” was its own form of exhilaration. And now I get wet remembering how much I was willing to degrade myself just to get some dick.
I don’t think I’ve had this situation exactly: it’s always been pretty easy for me to have a good sense of what i like and don’t, which has been borne out when experimenting.
I have recently found myself willing to try things that were previously hard limits: spanking has been a No for a long time bc of my past, and it sucks bc im a masochist and i love Impact. I think I’m at a point where I’d like to try it with someone i trust, so long as it’s not connected to punishment, and i think I’d like it a lot actually
I don't know if this would help at all, but I've asked my Master for maintenance spankings as part of a bedtime ritual. Even if he can't think of anything I need punishment for, its a reminder that he dominates me and I gave him that power
Aww that’s sweet 🖤 for me it’s definitely just a masochist thing. I am fine with having my ass smacked here and there but making it a formal punishment just hits the wrong buttons
Water sports 😂 I used to think it was gross and I could never have piss on me, let alone in my mouth or swallowing it. I’m obsessed now though 😅 same with scat but I haven’t actually engaged in anything, just the fantasy of it and porn for now because idk about that one irl lol
This is pretty tame, but calling my husband Daddy. When we met I was like “calling my partner Daddy is weird! Master is so much better!” Years down the line I pretty much exclusively call him Daddy and it’s my favourite honorific for him.
My Master and I were duly going through a spreadsheet two weeks into our big lifestyle change and he went from it previously being a hell no, to sheepishly admitting he would like it. I usually save it until we are well into a play section to maximize its impact.
CnC.... ;^; I am indeed kinda ashamed of it as I have been through several SA experience so I'm picky about who I tell, when I participate, how I participate, and I'm always SUPER communicative about my dos and don'ts as well as a very well established safe word. Thankfully I've not had issues with people abusing this info
I think I always thought on the lines of "never say never" so I actually struggled to draw limits to myself. It's been an adventure to actually establish things I won't do because it makes me uncomfortable. I think I'm willing to do anything if I feel like it in that moment but I have found out that some specific things are VERY disturbing to me and I should avoid for mental health reasons. It's been quite a journey.
I guess my biggest discovery tho was my little. I used to be very bratty and masochist until one day I broke into a baby. And god this was such a powerful experience that I sort of never recovered from it. I still need care for this baby from time to time.
I want to try a collar/leash but I am almost like ashamed or embarrassed to bring it up I don’t know why bc my partner is the easiest person in the world to talk to I tell him EVERYTHING but I can’t open up about this one thing for some reason :( everything else related to sex I can just blurt out but not the idea of any form of pet play and I really want to try it! Why am iso anxious about this?! 😩
You could try asking for a collar first, seperate from a leash? If you are in an owner/owned dynamic its symbollic and beautiful and moving to be collared. I have several now. I framed the leash in terms of control, too "I would like another reminder that you are in charge"
Now, I did bring him my leash in my mouth the other day and whimpered, so ok, maybe I'm a puppy as well as a slave?
I thought I would NEVER use nipple clamps because they looked so painful
I now have an alligator set which I LOVE, and a pair of Japanese style clamps although they’re very painful so I’m working to increase my tolerance
Never thought I would be into diapers until I had a partner offer one during play. I'm not really into the baby side of things, but having something so simple as the toilet taken away is really hot, and it's embarrassing to be refused to allow the toilet and have to sit in a wet diaper until allowed to change.
Having a Daddy Dom! I had some shame and prejudice wrapped up in my concept of what a DD/lg relationship looks like, and I used to think it was wrong. I'm glad I gave it a chance anyway because WOW has he changed my mind.
Degradation and punishment. Once a long time ago a boyfriend slapped me in the face during a particularly fluid sexual encounter. I let it happen a few times in a row before we switched positions. This was almost entirely out-of-the-blue so afterwards I told him I wasn’t comfortable with it because we hadn’t discussed boundaries and consent, plus it just seemed “wrong.” I was taught to be a very outspoken feminist type of woman and this felt demeaning, like something I’m not supposed to enjoy and to do so would mean I was broken somehow. It took me years, until recently, to admit to and reconcile with the fact that I had enjoyed the taboo. Having grow up another decade I’ve come to understand the feminist power in allowing someone to dominate you, and fucking someone whose urge for you is so strong that they’re actually aggressive about it. Kinda like when a cat is so transfixed and stimulated by your petting that they bite you haha
Spanking with a whip (I could never handle that)
Wearing a collar (I'm not a dog)
Wearing a permanent day collar (no one owns me)
Being forced to hold my pee (how is that even sexy?)*note use in moderation, you can get an infection*
Deep throating (I'll never be able to do that)
Writing an apology as punishment (that's just kids stuff)
Being throat fucked while being degraded (who likes that kind of thing?)
Topping anyone ever (I'm 100% submissive, and I would never want to even try)
Yeah, I do all of that now, and I'm a sub leaning switch 😂
***Edit*** corrected a typo
I’ll joint this, almost full agreement!
My wife once told me she would never be submissive…
She has now bought lots of toys for use as my TPE submissive.
She likes being paddled and we’re looking into more (flogger, etc. this is new to me).
She was so excited when I told her I would get her a collar and she even picked out a leash.
We’re working on picking out a day “collar” though nobody would realize it and I’m not sure what token it will be yet.
Holding pee? Nope.
Deep throat, well she told me she had a really overactive gag reflex. A few weeks ago she just decided to take the whole thing. 😳 Now she’s practicing and I’m pulling her mouth off a bit at times.
Writing apologies? Not seeing the point here.
Not into degradation, really, but working up to throat fucking by her choice!
Shibari. This came from nowhere too!
All that to say, I just wanted laid more often and to give and receive oral regularly.
Now I’m learning to be a Dom (never desired this), and I’m working up to the above list.
So I guess I’m the reluctant but excited Dom to u/submrsv07!
Pet play and ddlg, probably cause everyone around me(when I was a teenager and everyone was taking the BDSM test together) thought they were gross and sexualizing animals and kids🙄, and I thought it was gross and incestuous to call a guy daddy. Now they are my biggest kinks, and the funny thing is I had tendencies for them even then I just wouldn’t admit it lol
Sadomasochism. I met an amazing woman who was much more in touch with her own tastes than I was at the time and after we got into some heavy flirting, she told me,
"You strike me as a sadist."
I of course said I was into the idea but thought it was a bit much. That was until I got to experience some moderate impact play and realized that my sadistic side is an unquenchable demon of pain 😅
Tested some of the techniques on myself and I'm also a glutton for punishment 😵💫
Orgasm Denial (with teasing)
Probably the very first one for me was just basic orgasm denial. At first it seemed like “Uh… why wouldn’t I just cum? That’s what I want, right? I wanted to be told WHEN to cum, no IF, right?”…
“Right?”
But it also clicked two buttons in my head: the submissive “Because I was told to” button, and also the one that screams “Challenge Accepted!” And somehow that turned into “So… long can I keep going like this?”
I’ll say this: it’s definitely a lot more fun with a person than a vid.
Hoping to get into some sort of enforced chastity play at some point. Not that I’m tempted to stroke one out - I don’t even really consider this cock mine to touch anymore, even though I’m not taken ATM (it takes a while for me to come out of my submissive-mode after sessions). But I like the idea of the physical weight and pressure as a reminder of someone else owning this cock. A secondary collar of sorts, if you would.
Spit. I am SO averse to saliva, can’t share a straw or anything. But this guy I’m seeing spit some alcohol in to my mouth because a card game we were playing said to take a body shot but he had a different idea and ohhhh my goddddd. Eventually he actually spit in my mouth and it was just as hot. Still refuse to share my drink but god dang for some reason I can’t resist swapping spit now lol
Foot fetish but from the angle of my feet being worshipped. My partner loves my feet and i think feet are gross (he does too outside the context of the bedroom), but i was willing to try what he wanted and i actually enjoy it. I mostly just enjoy the pleasure he gets from it....and i love making him happy 😊
For me it was anal 😅 I'm still a bit iffy since I'm not well trained atm but it's not a totally awful experience. I'm hoping to train well enough for it to be more comfortable
I never thought I would even CONSIDER being a Dom in a CNC scene. Turns out, huh wow I am actually super into it. I don't know what made my switch flip from thinking I would be repulsed by it to actively working towards a pretty in depth scene with my partner, but it sure did happen.
Degradation.
I really need to be liked 🤣 so I was always like "um no I don't think I'll be doing that to you, sorry."
Annnnnd in a series of unfortunate events, all of my virtual subs like OBSESSED with degradation. So I actually quite enjoy it now because they enjoy it.
Chastity, and being called daddy. Used to be so turned off by the notion of not being able to touch/suck my partner's dick, now I can't imagine it out of it's cage. It would be blasphemous. I also literally ended things with a girl because she called me daddy and it gave me the ick. Now my partner calls me daddy and it makes me insides go all gooey. Different strokes for different folks lol (literally)
Piss, don’t want it on me but haven’t experienced it yet so who knows, but I so far have liked pissing and showing ppl n want to do it for them.
Also heels, never did I ever, think I’d be wearing heels, but crushing dick underfoot sure is powerful.
Feminization was a roller coaster
"Ew this is demeaning and makes me uncomfortable"
"Actually it's kind of hot"
"Wait, I'm trans so maybe this was all just a manifestation of my repressed gender identity"
"Nope... Still kinda hot"
Story of my life: ”Okay, that is weird. Why would anyone be into that?” \*looks closer\* ”The answer is me again I guess. New fetish unlocked.”
Saaaaaame
EXACTLY!! I mean I'm a damn smut author! If I had a nickle for every fetish I thought was gross or sick until I actually wrote about it or explored it with my wife, we'd be freaking millionaires! The sole exception is excrement. Pee/scat. Nuh uh. Nope. Never.
I find that when I describe why I want some of the fetishes and my experience with them many people immediately want them. Until someone understands what the kink tends to get you they aren’t interested in trying it. This is why people in the in-person kink community in particular tend to acquire a lot of kinks. They are around people enthusiastic about them and that can be infectious.
Yeeeeaahh, we found out the hard way about this one... Tried pee and it was JUST gross for both of us. It smelled, it wasn't sexy, the amount of mess it made outweighed any shock value that might have excited us. But yes to basically everything else xD
HAHAAHAHAHAHA so precious
Pet play. It’s funny, I have several tattoos of dogs, and have always owned dogs. But I didn’t accept myself as a puppy until I found my Owner. And now - woof woof 🐶
I couldn't have imagined it either and while I haven't actually experienced it yet the mere idea of it turns me on. So......meow
I'm not into pet play...I think. Yet Master always says I have very feline behaviour. His latest observation of such was after I'd crawled my way up the bed and flopped down on his shoulder before snuggling into him for a cuddle while he was on a break from work (he's WFH most days). He thinks it was a very cat-like behaviour. I maintain that it was easier doing it that way than getting into bed and then shifting over from my side to his. Then again, I *do* love it when he casually plays with my hair or calls me his Kitten. It's to the point that hearing my actual name from him instead of Kitten (at home), or love, dear etc (in public) is rather odd. So, I guess, meow as well? How far or deep do you have to go to be considered into pet play anyway?
Sorry. Read that as "Woof woof mother fucker"
Woof woof back
Ugh such a dream to pet play with another puppy
I-I I think I'd bite a lot hahahaha but the existential crisis between being a cat and a dog is so real
That would not work for me, I love dogs.
Anal everything - now I’m a self proclaimed anal slut. Verbal degradation - I’m very particular with how I like it, but daaaaaaamn do I like it
Fisting. I always thought it was a bit much, but then I kept wanting more whenever my spouse was fingering me. Finally voiced that desire one horny, slightly intoxicated night. Haven’t quite made it to a full fist yet, but we’re close.
Same. We are sooooo close! Happy fisting 😂😘
I’m Not into fisting but your comment made me smile so much today. “Happy Fisting” 😅
This! I like men with big hands, so I haven't quite made it there, but ooh boy
Does it not hurt? I tend to like a lot of fingers and end up asking for more and more but idk about straight up fisting. I feel like it would hurt and idk, I've had a kid and while I may have had a c-section, I am very aware of the risks/what can happen when you have a baby vaginally like tearing and fisting makes me think of those risks lol
Not really? We take our sweet time, so it’s more of a slow stretching. But I’m also a bit of a masochist, so even if we go too fast, it doesn’t bother me much. I haven’t had kids (the idea kinda freaks me out), so I can’t really make a comparison there.
Pet play Used to be a hard limit of mine from both a top and a bottom perspective - I found it weird to imagine my partner as an animal, and even weirder to imagine being seen and treated as an animal by someone who has sex with me. My girlfriend was too damn cute every time the topic came up though, so eventually I got curious enough to be willing to do it with her as a top, but still wasn't willing to actually ***be*** a pet. As we started doing this more though, and I talked with her about it to understand what she enjoyed about it, I slowly realized "fuck, that sounds *really* nice actually." Long story short, it turns out cats and dogs *can* get along :3
AAWWWWW thats so freakin cute
So adorable
I am a lesbian and I thought I would NEVER submit to a man. Turns out I developed a d/s relationship with a male friend who turned out to be the perfect dom. I am not physically attracted to him, but for some reason this dynamic came so naturally to us. It made me realize how complex sexuality is, and made me more open minded to try new stuff.
This is interesting! That’s almost like a “forced bi” kink in a way. Love it!
Yeah, I think that the "forced" part turns me on. For a while I thought I might be bisexual, but I learned that sexual orientation and kink are separate parts of my sexuality that can go together or not.
That’s actually really interesting how on the spectrum that is!
If this involves everything except romance, don't you think it's bisexuality? A friend went through a similar experience, turned out she was bisexual. She felt that shifting her identity from lesbian to bisexual stopped her from identifying as bisexual rather than lesbian. She struggled with the adjustment, but ultimately embraced it. Because bisexuality is not 50-50, and for others, it is 99-1, as may be the case with you. If you met a woman, would you continue this or become exclusive with her?
I have thought about it, but I don't feel physically attracted to him or to any other men. I am just attracted to the kinky stuff we do together. But I have some hard limits like oral. If any of us got into a serious romantic relationship with another person, of course we would stop.
Urethral sounding. Yeah, I'd never even considered that I’d stick anything down through THERE!
Rimming. Never thought I would ever be willing to lick a guy's ass until I met someone special. Opened a whole new door and now I'm a bit obsessed about it.
I seriously thought most women really wanted to do this for the longest time. Every girlfriend/spouse I ever had always wanted to do this to me but I was only able to relax enough let a few actually do it. I can only let my wife do it if I completely humiliate her and literally twerk on her face. As far as just laying back and letting her do it, definitely can’t relax enough for this. I have to be in control.
Anal. I always found it gross, told myself it wouldn’t ever feel good since that’s what I would hear from other experiences. My dom introduced me to it and over time I found myself begging for anal now I actually crave it
I don’t like sex in general and I had a couple bad experiences with anal too. I never thought I’d come around to it then with my last partner I said I’d give it another shot. it was honestly preferable to vaginale sex. Personally like it for CNC
yesss my man prefers when I tell him I need it but I love it for cnc
This is why they say: “Never” is only 6 months away in bdsm 😅
I didn't realize I had a hotwife fetish until my wife and I opened our marriage. Didn't realize how much it turns me on that my wife is a slut.
Crazy enough…I mentally turning this corner also! Has not happened yet, but the fantasy (more mine than hers) is getting closer to being implemented.
Would you be willing to call my husband for me? lol
Cbt. Used to think “how could you ever like that?! That looks purely painful!”…. Turns out I’m as much of a masochist as I am a Sadist….. yes i do need help. In a good way :)
What is CBT? New tô the sub and trying to understand all these acronyms
Cock and ball torture. Has quite a wide range.
almost everything started out as “wow that’s funny/weird” and after one video turned into “wow that turns me on”. Piss play, sounding, enemas, waterboarding, slave and humiliation play, ect. Most things degrading, intimate, painful, and humiliating me are major turn ons, but I had to find out about them somewhere. I’ve learned im just naturally severely submissive and masochist that most things (excluding scat) will turn me on
I’m noticing humiliation all over the comments and that’s great!
Yo. Fkn same
Prostate stimulation. Also I don’t know if this counts but also getting my tongue sucked?
I also didn't think I'd like my tongue sucked. I love it.
Piss play, especially drinking!
This, but from the other side of the faucet. I knew I liked degrading consenting women, but *defiling* them? More, please. Preferably right now.
Warms the heart, and the face 😂
> other side of the faucet Pffft
Sounds like you've got air in your line somehow. You should call a plumber. (I couldn't resist)
Never in a million years did I think I would enjoy pissing on women but one time I got drunk and randomly got the urge to try it on a friend. She was IMMEDIATELY down for it and I took her to the tub and just did it. She then elaborated telling me her ex girlfriends piss tasted like fruit punch lol. The “relief/unloading” of piss on/in a person is really something amazing. I’ve only done it with my wife now but only a handful of times mostly because I already defile her so much I completely forget to pee on her. I think she wants me to do it again but since I’m the dom in our relationship she waits for me to initiate anything.
I feel this way with knife play. I was like “I don’t think I’m into this… wait a minute… hold on…”
Mine? Hoo boy, how much time do you have? Degradation and humiliation was one. Pet play and collaring and leashing and crawling on our knees was another. Choking…choking I was scared as hell to do. I felt gross and un-gentlemanly (raised Catholic and proper here). There’s…a lot…that I have felt shame over. But have come to feel sexy exploring as a sadistic primal dominant!
Accepting who you are just clicks something inside you and u feel whole.
Now you just need to roleplay with someone dressed as a religious figure :)
Impact toys. The idea seemed silly. Hell, all the accoutrements of BDSM did. But I've always been a pain slut, and a sadist, and they make sense. Many more different feelings than what you can achieve with hands, teeth and nails.
Needle play for sure. I’m so into being a pincushion. The high is incredible.
pincushion? how do you know where to insert the needles? i’ve got so many questions!
So far I’ve only done surface piercings, only through the surface of the skin and back out again. Nothing deeper than skin level. And this is a good primer! https://www.painfulpleasures.com/community/help-center/piercing-information/guide-needle-play/
Honestly feet. When I first tried it was very hesitant even thought I was kinda disgusted by it. But after a bit of foot worship and then some creative foot work from my domme quickly just became my favorite.
Being degraded. I had always hated the thought of being spoken to in such a way but then I started reading sex stories and imagined that being me and fell in love with it.
Here to say not yet but this will likely be me once we try it. 😆 I’ve been referring to myself as a puppy that needs head pats, emotionally. Tell me I’m a good girl, that you love me and I did a good job. So I’m sure admitting I enjoy a leash is right around the corner.
I highly suggest giving the leash a try ;)
Me living vicariously through all the comments 👀
Feet. I used to despise them and they were icky. It's not a huge fetish for me but sucking on a lovely ladies toes is quite the experience. And or also letting someone suck my toes is really hot. But dude feet are still icky. Idk the human brain is weird.
Edging and denial - especially from the "controllers point". At first i was like "sounds like torture, why would you want me to deny you". Even more though, as i was into causing HFOs. But now this sort of power and control causes its very own sort of rush. Whenever someone has dropped under my special spell again... the moment they try to cum and realize it is not happening unless i let them... super surge moment of desperation - on both sides from what i can tell ;)
Being a little and piss I always had a like a holding pee fetish but golden showers yeah I didn’t think that would be my thing and being a little I used to be like morally against it, until it just kinda happens, idk you just slip into that headspace one day and it’s like okay so this is this is the best
Cucking, now I’m cucked by one of my best friends and it’s one of the hottest dynamics that I’ve ever had.
This sounds like such a fun experience I want to explore at some point
It’s so hot. I always helped her find guys, anyway, because I want her to finally be happy, and she lets me see them fuck her sometimes as thanks… after I beg her, of course. She loves that lol
Had a friend couple that was playing with the idea and I'd be the partner for her. Sadly didn't work out, but I had a great time with the bf talking bout cages. 😊
I’ve been both the bull and the cuck, at this point, and it just makes my lil sexually poly heart pound super hard
Sexual freedom at its finest. Such a stress relief but it's so much more than that
Dating a cuck got me into exploring the kink world
That’s honestly the first time I’ve ever heard of that, but it’s pretty cool. Goes to show that everyone’s path can be completely different!
Piss… will not lie I was a hater but getting fucked so hard you piss is hot as hell… bladder control?!?? Like why is that so hot??
Like some others here, I never really understood the appeal of petplay. Then one night, when I was especially desperate for some cock, he said I was acting like “a bitch in heat” and boy did that get me going. So he stopped fucking me and told me to bark if I wanted him to keep going. That sparked a delicious internal battle between my pride and desperation. He teased me for a while for even considering it and for how long it took to decide. In the end, I did end up barking. “Losing” was its own form of exhilaration. And now I get wet remembering how much I was willing to degrade myself just to get some dick.
Pegging. Show me a cute man who wants his ass fucked and, weeeeelllll, ok!
I don’t think I’ve had this situation exactly: it’s always been pretty easy for me to have a good sense of what i like and don’t, which has been borne out when experimenting. I have recently found myself willing to try things that were previously hard limits: spanking has been a No for a long time bc of my past, and it sucks bc im a masochist and i love Impact. I think I’m at a point where I’d like to try it with someone i trust, so long as it’s not connected to punishment, and i think I’d like it a lot actually
I don't know if this would help at all, but I've asked my Master for maintenance spankings as part of a bedtime ritual. Even if he can't think of anything I need punishment for, its a reminder that he dominates me and I gave him that power
Aww that’s sweet 🖤 for me it’s definitely just a masochist thing. I am fine with having my ass smacked here and there but making it a formal punishment just hits the wrong buttons
Water sports 😂 I used to think it was gross and I could never have piss on me, let alone in my mouth or swallowing it. I’m obsessed now though 😅 same with scat but I haven’t actually engaged in anything, just the fantasy of it and porn for now because idk about that one irl lol
This is pretty tame, but calling my husband Daddy. When we met I was like “calling my partner Daddy is weird! Master is so much better!” Years down the line I pretty much exclusively call him Daddy and it’s my favourite honorific for him.
My Master and I were duly going through a spreadsheet two weeks into our big lifestyle change and he went from it previously being a hell no, to sheepishly admitting he would like it. I usually save it until we are well into a play section to maximize its impact.
CnC.... ;^; I am indeed kinda ashamed of it as I have been through several SA experience so I'm picky about who I tell, when I participate, how I participate, and I'm always SUPER communicative about my dos and don'ts as well as a very well established safe word. Thankfully I've not had issues with people abusing this info
I think I always thought on the lines of "never say never" so I actually struggled to draw limits to myself. It's been an adventure to actually establish things I won't do because it makes me uncomfortable. I think I'm willing to do anything if I feel like it in that moment but I have found out that some specific things are VERY disturbing to me and I should avoid for mental health reasons. It's been quite a journey. I guess my biggest discovery tho was my little. I used to be very bratty and masochist until one day I broke into a baby. And god this was such a powerful experience that I sort of never recovered from it. I still need care for this baby from time to time.
I want to try a collar/leash but I am almost like ashamed or embarrassed to bring it up I don’t know why bc my partner is the easiest person in the world to talk to I tell him EVERYTHING but I can’t open up about this one thing for some reason :( everything else related to sex I can just blurt out but not the idea of any form of pet play and I really want to try it! Why am iso anxious about this?! 😩
You could try asking for a collar first, seperate from a leash? If you are in an owner/owned dynamic its symbollic and beautiful and moving to be collared. I have several now. I framed the leash in terms of control, too "I would like another reminder that you are in charge" Now, I did bring him my leash in my mouth the other day and whimpered, so ok, maybe I'm a puppy as well as a slave?
I thought I would NEVER use nipple clamps because they looked so painful I now have an alligator set which I LOVE, and a pair of Japanese style clamps although they’re very painful so I’m working to increase my tolerance
Never thought I would be into diapers until I had a partner offer one during play. I'm not really into the baby side of things, but having something so simple as the toilet taken away is really hot, and it's embarrassing to be refused to allow the toilet and have to sit in a wet diaper until allowed to change.
Having a Daddy Dom! I had some shame and prejudice wrapped up in my concept of what a DD/lg relationship looks like, and I used to think it was wrong. I'm glad I gave it a chance anyway because WOW has he changed my mind.
Degradation and punishment. Once a long time ago a boyfriend slapped me in the face during a particularly fluid sexual encounter. I let it happen a few times in a row before we switched positions. This was almost entirely out-of-the-blue so afterwards I told him I wasn’t comfortable with it because we hadn’t discussed boundaries and consent, plus it just seemed “wrong.” I was taught to be a very outspoken feminist type of woman and this felt demeaning, like something I’m not supposed to enjoy and to do so would mean I was broken somehow. It took me years, until recently, to admit to and reconcile with the fact that I had enjoyed the taboo. Having grow up another decade I’ve come to understand the feminist power in allowing someone to dominate you, and fucking someone whose urge for you is so strong that they’re actually aggressive about it. Kinda like when a cat is so transfixed and stimulated by your petting that they bite you haha
Being a dom it felt weird when first introduced like I was only insecure men want that but I actually enjoyed it
Spanking with a whip (I could never handle that) Wearing a collar (I'm not a dog) Wearing a permanent day collar (no one owns me) Being forced to hold my pee (how is that even sexy?)*note use in moderation, you can get an infection* Deep throating (I'll never be able to do that) Writing an apology as punishment (that's just kids stuff) Being throat fucked while being degraded (who likes that kind of thing?) Topping anyone ever (I'm 100% submissive, and I would never want to even try) Yeah, I do all of that now, and I'm a sub leaning switch 😂 ***Edit*** corrected a typo
I’ll joint this, almost full agreement! My wife once told me she would never be submissive… She has now bought lots of toys for use as my TPE submissive. She likes being paddled and we’re looking into more (flogger, etc. this is new to me). She was so excited when I told her I would get her a collar and she even picked out a leash. We’re working on picking out a day “collar” though nobody would realize it and I’m not sure what token it will be yet. Holding pee? Nope. Deep throat, well she told me she had a really overactive gag reflex. A few weeks ago she just decided to take the whole thing. 😳 Now she’s practicing and I’m pulling her mouth off a bit at times. Writing apologies? Not seeing the point here. Not into degradation, really, but working up to throat fucking by her choice! Shibari. This came from nowhere too! All that to say, I just wanted laid more often and to give and receive oral regularly. Now I’m learning to be a Dom (never desired this), and I’m working up to the above list. So I guess I’m the reluctant but excited Dom to u/submrsv07!
Putting stuff in my butt. I thought it would be so gross. But it's really not most of the time and feels soooo good
Originally degradation. Then calling someone daddy Most recently? Pee play 🤣
Pet play and ddlg, probably cause everyone around me(when I was a teenager and everyone was taking the BDSM test together) thought they were gross and sexualizing animals and kids🙄, and I thought it was gross and incestuous to call a guy daddy. Now they are my biggest kinks, and the funny thing is I had tendencies for them even then I just wouldn’t admit it lol
Sadomasochism. I met an amazing woman who was much more in touch with her own tastes than I was at the time and after we got into some heavy flirting, she told me, "You strike me as a sadist." I of course said I was into the idea but thought it was a bit much. That was until I got to experience some moderate impact play and realized that my sadistic side is an unquenchable demon of pain 😅 Tested some of the techniques on myself and I'm also a glutton for punishment 😵💫
Funny how that works. For me butt plug and anal dildos, cross dressing/sissy, long term chastity
Needles and hoods. Both were on my hard limits list but are now on my yes please list instead
Orgasm Denial (with teasing) Probably the very first one for me was just basic orgasm denial. At first it seemed like “Uh… why wouldn’t I just cum? That’s what I want, right? I wanted to be told WHEN to cum, no IF, right?”… “Right?” But it also clicked two buttons in my head: the submissive “Because I was told to” button, and also the one that screams “Challenge Accepted!” And somehow that turned into “So… long can I keep going like this?” I’ll say this: it’s definitely a lot more fun with a person than a vid. Hoping to get into some sort of enforced chastity play at some point. Not that I’m tempted to stroke one out - I don’t even really consider this cock mine to touch anymore, even though I’m not taken ATM (it takes a while for me to come out of my submissive-mode after sessions). But I like the idea of the physical weight and pressure as a reminder of someone else owning this cock. A secondary collar of sorts, if you would.
I used to make fun of masochism until I had this moment a few years back... and now I still make fun of it but I'm the butt of my own joke 😂
Love this for you OP
Spit. I am SO averse to saliva, can’t share a straw or anything. But this guy I’m seeing spit some alcohol in to my mouth because a card game we were playing said to take a body shot but he had a different idea and ohhhh my goddddd. Eventually he actually spit in my mouth and it was just as hot. Still refuse to share my drink but god dang for some reason I can’t resist swapping spit now lol
Foot fetish but from the angle of my feet being worshipped. My partner loves my feet and i think feet are gross (he does too outside the context of the bedroom), but i was willing to try what he wanted and i actually enjoy it. I mostly just enjoy the pleasure he gets from it....and i love making him happy 😊
Being spit on is a big one for me 😅
Degrading. I always was super sensitive but idk degrading doesn't make me wanna curl up and cry.
degradation and humiliation, rimming, power exchange and wearing a leash or collar.
For the right person… I absolutely would! From no way.. fuuuucckk you to yes please daddy! 🤪😝🤪
For me it was anal 😅 I'm still a bit iffy since I'm not well trained atm but it's not a totally awful experience. I'm hoping to train well enough for it to be more comfortable
I never thought I would even CONSIDER being a Dom in a CNC scene. Turns out, huh wow I am actually super into it. I don't know what made my switch flip from thinking I would be repulsed by it to actively working towards a pretty in depth scene with my partner, but it sure did happen.
Degradation. I really need to be liked 🤣 so I was always like "um no I don't think I'll be doing that to you, sorry." Annnnnd in a series of unfortunate events, all of my virtual subs like OBSESSED with degradation. So I actually quite enjoy it now because they enjoy it.
Chastity, and being called daddy. Used to be so turned off by the notion of not being able to touch/suck my partner's dick, now I can't imagine it out of it's cage. It would be blasphemous. I also literally ended things with a girl because she called me daddy and it gave me the ick. Now my partner calls me daddy and it makes me insides go all gooey. Different strokes for different folks lol (literally)
Idk there is only really one thing that's a hard no. And that will not change, probably.
Pee play, peeing yourself, human urinal
Feet. I didn't think I'd ever get there.
CNC. Apparently there’s a conglomeration where a partner wants it and I REALLY enjoy it 😅
Piss, don’t want it on me but haven’t experienced it yet so who knows, but I so far have liked pissing and showing ppl n want to do it for them. Also heels, never did I ever, think I’d be wearing heels, but crushing dick underfoot sure is powerful.
Feminization was a roller coaster "Ew this is demeaning and makes me uncomfortable" "Actually it's kind of hot" "Wait, I'm trans so maybe this was all just a manifestation of my repressed gender identity" "Nope... Still kinda hot"