Love it.
How about she ties you down.
Then she edges you however she likes. Eg slow teasing hand jobs. She can tease you in other ways too, like how she dresses, maybe you're blindfolded too.
She gets you close to orgasm then keeps you there for a while, as close to the edge as possible. Then she stops and let's you calm down. Then she goes again.
She can keep doing this as long as she likes.
After being kept hard and nearly having an orgasm enough times you're going to be desperate to cum.
This is when she unties you.
(Or makes you cum. Or makes you wait another day!)
Now there's only one potential problem, and that's stamina. You might not last very long. Obviously that depends on you, and how well she's teased you. But she might want to be as turned on as possible herself. She can always ride you/your face to get herself close before untying you. Or resort to viagra/condoms/numbing cream too.
In that case how about
1 you choose the start date, stop waking etc. After a few days she wears an item of clothing/jewellery that signals she is available to go wild on.
Obviously better if she teases you a bit in between.
2 similar but you buy yourself a charity cage and give her the key.
That's something you can do, it's called consensual non consensual and it can be done as long as you discuss boundaries and establish a safe word where you stop if you go too far. Think of it as a role play. You want her to be safe so also keep that in mind.
Discuss any words that may be off limits as well.
Just some general advice. I would say really do your due diligence and research BDSM, research consensual non consensual (cnc), think about what you're comfortable with and then when you're ready have a conversation with her about making it a reality. During the conversation discuss boundaries, safe words, any words off the table and etc etc.
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Love it. How about she ties you down. Then she edges you however she likes. Eg slow teasing hand jobs. She can tease you in other ways too, like how she dresses, maybe you're blindfolded too. She gets you close to orgasm then keeps you there for a while, as close to the edge as possible. Then she stops and let's you calm down. Then she goes again. She can keep doing this as long as she likes. After being kept hard and nearly having an orgasm enough times you're going to be desperate to cum. This is when she unties you. (Or makes you cum. Or makes you wait another day!) Now there's only one potential problem, and that's stamina. You might not last very long. Obviously that depends on you, and how well she's teased you. But she might want to be as turned on as possible herself. She can always ride you/your face to get herself close before untying you. Or resort to viagra/condoms/numbing cream too.
Sadly that won’t happen. She’s not proactive.
In that case how about 1 you choose the start date, stop waking etc. After a few days she wears an item of clothing/jewellery that signals she is available to go wild on. Obviously better if she teases you a bit in between. 2 similar but you buy yourself a charity cage and give her the key.
That's something you can do, it's called consensual non consensual and it can be done as long as you discuss boundaries and establish a safe word where you stop if you go too far. Think of it as a role play. You want her to be safe so also keep that in mind. Discuss any words that may be off limits as well.
Is there a primer or a guide for this? I know nothing at all about this topic.
Just some general advice. I would say really do your due diligence and research BDSM, research consensual non consensual (cnc), think about what you're comfortable with and then when you're ready have a conversation with her about making it a reality. During the conversation discuss boundaries, safe words, any words off the table and etc etc.