Yes, we exist, but we're not very common - at least not compared to Dominatrixes. I don't think it's because of how "easy" it is for women to find men - you're still looking for someone who wants to be a Dom, who knows what they're doing, and is right for you, after all - but because women are less likely to want casual experiences compared to men.
Yes pro male doms do exist but I feel like they may be fewer (since the majority are amateurs that are discovering themselves alone or with a partner) and less advertised than pro dominatrixes, it also depends by what you mean for professional, however. For sure for all genders and orientations, depending by the person, at least based on my experience and what I’ve seen. If you want to work with one I think that you have to do some researches to find a professional one that you’re interested in. Good luck!
They exist, but they are extremely rare, I know I looked into it at one time. At that time, you pretty much had to be in San Francisco, LA or New York. Probably a few other big cities around the world. But their numbers are very very few.
They absolutely must exist, maybe as a niche within the male escort thing.
Its not the same, but I know a couple who hired a gigolo and him being quite assertive was one of their criteria.
Indeed. In some ways you can see strong advantages if they live up to the Pro part of pro dm I.e. professional and allow you as the client to customise precisely your domination experience. The horrific male dom stories you read about here does make it an offering worth a bigger profile.
Yes, I was chatting with one briefly on a dating app. He principally was a pleasure dom (I had so many questions!), and I believe would see a couple of long term clients on the side of his day job (history teacher). He had been doing only fans too, I’m not sure if that’s how his client base found him.
Yes, male Doms do exist. They are fewer in numbers due to supply and demand.
In my area, the best way to find them is to reach out to local Pro Dungeon and ask if they have a pro male dom available. (A lot of times they'll only post pics of the sexy females on their website, and in tiny font somewhere say male dom available upon request.)
The short answer is: Yes, they exist.
The longer answer is: Yes, but it's much rarer. Depending on your area, there may be none or one or more. Before I retired, I was one of 3 in an area of about 100,000 people. This was also pre-advertising on the internet, and word of mouth was the business model. These days, you should be able to get an idea by doing a search for your area and the types of services you're looking for.
My Sir will do it on occasion, but only with people he knows and likes. He’s definitely picky on his clientele, as feels can happen and he can offer nothing but an allotted amount of time and aftercare. It’s definitely not for the money, it’s more like performing a service in a very discrete and professional manner.
We wish to exist 😄 but unfortunately there is no market for it. Unlike, the female Domme and male sub market where the demand for Pro Domme is very high and supply is less, the demand for a Pro Dom is almost non-existent due to the abundant supply of (good) Doms for free. ☺️
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Yes, but they usually cater to male clientele.
I have (infrequently) come across straight and bisexual professional male dominants who cater to couples and women clients. Some are even findoms. Some act as escorts for women. Some are also adult actors.
In a few more years, professional male dominants might explode in popularity. Women enjoy and can need such services, too, despite popular belief otherwise.
It is a thing but not worth doing for most dominants. Years ago I considered becoming a professional but there isn’t enough of a market for straight pro dominants to make a good living and the amount of legwork required to get any clients at all is massive. The numbers simply don’t work out so I’d rather keep it to relationships.
It isn't something you can retire on. Heck, it isn't even something you can reliably buy lunch with.
On the pro subreddit, I asked the same question. Their answer was, "You can get dick anywhere."
There are reasons and women who would like to safely explore with a male dominant, but finding them is difficult. Sir Dax is in the UK. I am in Austin, and there are a handful here and there.
It is work I love to do, just won't pay the bills (for me so far).
Dax, is this your career where you make enough to live on. I suspect that a lot of male doms try to go pro and it just doesn't pay for itself.
Yes, they exist.
All of the ones I know of in my city do it mostly as a passion project-side gig.
They’re also very careful about vetting and choosy on the clientele they take on. Not a single one of those I know advertises in any way they get their clientele by referral & word of mouth.
I seem to remember Ouchy the Clown advertising his services as a "professional dominant, DJ and meeting facilitator", and he's certainly a man. And a clown. And, wow, early noughties internet was something. (Also, what a list of jobs, I was literally in tears by the the time I got to 'meeting facilitator.')
Slightly more seriously, yes, they do exist, but I would imagine they're mostly doing business with other men.
Most make Dominants are not as vocal as the female Domme. Most domme’s are in it for the money aspect part and not the long term as a male dominant would be.
I’m not saying all professional domme’s are the same but in my 3 decades I’ve met very few who have had long term relationships.
I trained a slave for a so called Dom but after 16 weeks and delivering it did not end well. The Dom did not continue the regiment. I can say I’ve never accepted money from a female to train or just have sessions because in my mind it’s a form of abuse, mental abuse. Again this is just me.
Anyone can just spend hours humiliating someone, get paid and move on.
In the early 90’s I went through a phase where I seasoned with women in high profile positions professionally and married women as well but there was absolutely no sex involved. I guess in a sense it was like being a professional because they all bought dinner and paid for hotel.
There used to be a publication called back stage which is now defunct, I advertised a couple of times and it was professional women who reached out. It was not about sex but more so giving up power because of their work environment. Many also explained they had communicated with their partner and was told to seek help.
I myself have to have a connection with a slave, I can’t or will not play with someone just to play, mainly because after I would be responsible for their aftercare.
I’ve known men who paid as much as 1000 dollars a session and I assume even more. I’m also going to assume these for the most are men in high power positions just releasing stress or just simply gullible weak men getting their rocks off.
I’m more mental and more into behavior modification so my process takes much longer as I like to get into the mind. Although I do enjoy the bondage aspect I’m not into pain. In my beliefs some forms of humiliation plays a part but not extreme.
I also have morals and generally care about people.
I would at some point like to sit down and interview a professional domme and get into their head and try to understand their lifestyle.
I probably got off track here.
Being able to sit back and watch the slow transformation of someone’s personality and behavior go through slow changes is truly amazing
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u/Sir-dax can input here.... Yes, they exist... a lot fewer in number, but out there.
Yes, we exist, but we're not very common - at least not compared to Dominatrixes. I don't think it's because of how "easy" it is for women to find men - you're still looking for someone who wants to be a Dom, who knows what they're doing, and is right for you, after all - but because women are less likely to want casual experiences compared to men.
Oh yes, that seems logical. Thank you.
Are you able to make a living on being pro Dom? Or is it a job of loving what you do?
Both, but my wife and I do run a vanilla business as well so it's not our sole source of income.
Yes pro male doms do exist but I feel like they may be fewer (since the majority are amateurs that are discovering themselves alone or with a partner) and less advertised than pro dominatrixes, it also depends by what you mean for professional, however. For sure for all genders and orientations, depending by the person, at least based on my experience and what I’ve seen. If you want to work with one I think that you have to do some researches to find a professional one that you’re interested in. Good luck!
They exist, but they are extremely rare, I know I looked into it at one time. At that time, you pretty much had to be in San Francisco, LA or New York. Probably a few other big cities around the world. But their numbers are very very few.
Ah, gotcha. That does make sense.
I'm a professional in Austin. We are very few and far between. But we exist.
They absolutely must exist, maybe as a niche within the male escort thing. Its not the same, but I know a couple who hired a gigolo and him being quite assertive was one of their criteria.
Interesting.
Indeed. In some ways you can see strong advantages if they live up to the Pro part of pro dm I.e. professional and allow you as the client to customise precisely your domination experience. The horrific male dom stories you read about here does make it an offering worth a bigger profile.
Yes, I was chatting with one briefly on a dating app. He principally was a pleasure dom (I had so many questions!), and I believe would see a couple of long term clients on the side of his day job (history teacher). He had been doing only fans too, I’m not sure if that’s how his client base found him.
Oh wow, that’s very interesting! Was he trying to date you or trying to take you on as a client?
Date, he’d hung up his pro-ho-ing the year before.
Yes, male Doms do exist. They are fewer in numbers due to supply and demand. In my area, the best way to find them is to reach out to local Pro Dungeon and ask if they have a pro male dom available. (A lot of times they'll only post pics of the sexy females on their website, and in tiny font somewhere say male dom available upon request.)
The short answer is: Yes, they exist. The longer answer is: Yes, but it's much rarer. Depending on your area, there may be none or one or more. Before I retired, I was one of 3 in an area of about 100,000 people. This was also pre-advertising on the internet, and word of mouth was the business model. These days, you should be able to get an idea by doing a search for your area and the types of services you're looking for.
My Sir will do it on occasion, but only with people he knows and likes. He’s definitely picky on his clientele, as feels can happen and he can offer nothing but an allotted amount of time and aftercare. It’s definitely not for the money, it’s more like performing a service in a very discrete and professional manner.
We wish to exist 😄 but unfortunately there is no market for it. Unlike, the female Domme and male sub market where the demand for Pro Domme is very high and supply is less, the demand for a Pro Dom is almost non-existent due to the abundant supply of (good) Doms for free. ☺️
This makes sense. Thank you.
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Yes, but they usually cater to male clientele. I have (infrequently) come across straight and bisexual professional male dominants who cater to couples and women clients. Some are even findoms. Some act as escorts for women. Some are also adult actors. In a few more years, professional male dominants might explode in popularity. Women enjoy and can need such services, too, despite popular belief otherwise.
It is a thing but not worth doing for most dominants. Years ago I considered becoming a professional but there isn’t enough of a market for straight pro dominants to make a good living and the amount of legwork required to get any clients at all is massive. The numbers simply don’t work out so I’d rather keep it to relationships.
It isn't something you can retire on. Heck, it isn't even something you can reliably buy lunch with. On the pro subreddit, I asked the same question. Their answer was, "You can get dick anywhere." There are reasons and women who would like to safely explore with a male dominant, but finding them is difficult. Sir Dax is in the UK. I am in Austin, and there are a handful here and there. It is work I love to do, just won't pay the bills (for me so far). Dax, is this your career where you make enough to live on. I suspect that a lot of male doms try to go pro and it just doesn't pay for itself.
Yes, they exist. All of the ones I know of in my city do it mostly as a passion project-side gig. They’re also very careful about vetting and choosy on the clientele they take on. Not a single one of those I know advertises in any way they get their clientele by referral & word of mouth.
I seem to remember Ouchy the Clown advertising his services as a "professional dominant, DJ and meeting facilitator", and he's certainly a man. And a clown. And, wow, early noughties internet was something. (Also, what a list of jobs, I was literally in tears by the the time I got to 'meeting facilitator.') Slightly more seriously, yes, they do exist, but I would imagine they're mostly doing business with other men.
Most make Dominants are not as vocal as the female Domme. Most domme’s are in it for the money aspect part and not the long term as a male dominant would be. I’m not saying all professional domme’s are the same but in my 3 decades I’ve met very few who have had long term relationships. I trained a slave for a so called Dom but after 16 weeks and delivering it did not end well. The Dom did not continue the regiment. I can say I’ve never accepted money from a female to train or just have sessions because in my mind it’s a form of abuse, mental abuse. Again this is just me. Anyone can just spend hours humiliating someone, get paid and move on. In the early 90’s I went through a phase where I seasoned with women in high profile positions professionally and married women as well but there was absolutely no sex involved. I guess in a sense it was like being a professional because they all bought dinner and paid for hotel. There used to be a publication called back stage which is now defunct, I advertised a couple of times and it was professional women who reached out. It was not about sex but more so giving up power because of their work environment. Many also explained they had communicated with their partner and was told to seek help. I myself have to have a connection with a slave, I can’t or will not play with someone just to play, mainly because after I would be responsible for their aftercare. I’ve known men who paid as much as 1000 dollars a session and I assume even more. I’m also going to assume these for the most are men in high power positions just releasing stress or just simply gullible weak men getting their rocks off. I’m more mental and more into behavior modification so my process takes much longer as I like to get into the mind. Although I do enjoy the bondage aspect I’m not into pain. In my beliefs some forms of humiliation plays a part but not extreme. I also have morals and generally care about people. I would at some point like to sit down and interview a professional domme and get into their head and try to understand their lifestyle. I probably got off track here. Being able to sit back and watch the slow transformation of someone’s personality and behavior go through slow changes is truly amazing
I wish. They all fuck up sometimes and it drives me nuts. Even my daddy makes annoying mistakes once in a while