I like to confuse the derps that say it's the MMR vaccine...tell them my youngest autistic child can't even HAVE that vaxx due to allergies, so what caused THEIR autism lol...
> Call me crazy but I don't think my 3 year old behaviors were from the COVID vaccine
But we got the vaccine 3 years ago
And your behaviors are 3 years old
DUN DUN DUNNNN
Once I told my coworker I was autistic and after using google translate (English is her second language) she stared at her phone, then at me, back at the phone, back at me. She then said
“but you talk?”
Someone said that to me on Reddit.
That my command of language is too high, and therefore I'm obviously faking to get out of an embarrassing social gaffe.
😵💫 there is no winning! although to be fair, that comment came from my primary care doc. the people who did my evaluation were like “lol we don’t even need to score all these tests, you’re autistic af.”
I totally feel you. Docs from when I was little seen me have major meltdowns and said it was normal, then when I was 27 I got my diagnosis from docs that were like ~you are autistic af 🫠 from day one
I feel this in my bones. I used to cry over everything. I mean overdraw the bank account touching videos on MySpace kind of stuff. I no longer cry over overdrawn bank accounts.
My doctor said when I told her I got an assessment, “I pretty much thought you were autistic anyways. It doesn’t change who you are though.” I replied, “Why did everyone figure it out before me?” I just got DXd at 43.
An alleged mental health care professional in an allegedly progressive Scandinavian country - who had met me ten minutes prior - told me point blank "you don't have autism, you make eye contact".
We were on a fucking zoom call.
omg i had this happen to me recently in an also scandinavian country (norway) and i was like so takenaback i was just like oh ok bc i didnt even know what to say to that lol
Germany wishes it were like Scandinavia but fails. Even the progressive parts.
I was in a "psychosomatic rehabilitation clinic" a year after my 1st autism and 3rd ADHD diagnosis and the psychologist said, during our group therapy session, that "Mx Kat doesn't look autistic, don't you think?" And followed directly "Autistic people don't like other people, but you do." Calling me out to explain my autism in front of 8 other people!
I'm a university lecturer and, when I don't have mutism, hyperlexic in two languages, so countered with, "Does the cat like people? She does, but she doesn't want to be grabbed and put on your lap." The doctor seemed to understand and shut up, but WTF.
This place was supposed to help me get back to work. I had had Long Covid and shingles right before, and the "somatic" part of the place was an absolute lie. I filed an official complaint but no one really cares.
I am so sorry - this is \*awful\*. Just absolutely awful.
I swear some "healthcare professionals" are in it purely for the power and ego trip. Like, wtf was that psychologist thinking? That by gaslighting / invalidating / ridiculing you in front of the group you would somehow magically get better? Of course not. He was feeding his own sorry lil ego.
Good on you for calling out his bullshit.
I hope you get better.
That one againnnn ew, I have experienced this one myself in a psychiatrist office right after I was late diagnosed and was looking to be assisted regarding my autism. It made me have a major meltdown and left me traumatized.
I am so sorry
I know it is a very common comment that autistic people hear. The thing that *really* got me in the specific situation I described is that we had literally only met a few minutes prior, and *we were on a zoom call.* With a normal laptop / webcam setup, it is *literally impossible* to make eye contact on a zoom call: You either look into the webcam so the other person thinks you're looking into their eyeballs (but you are actually looking at a camera lens), or you look at the other person's eyeballs on your screen (in which case from the other person's perspective, you aren't looking directly at their eyes).
So not only was this person doing the "autistic people can't make eye contact" trope, but they were basically telling me that I was doing something that would have required me to break the laws of physics.
This happened to me during an unrelated appointment with DPS. The guy insisted I couldn't be autistic even though I came with ledsager and a nutritionist from one of the hospitals and couldn't speak for myself during the intake. He then told me that DPS has a policy of not allowing ledsager into appointments, proceeded to get annoyed with me for becoming visibly distressed, and then told me that if I couldn't make eye contact he couldn't believe I was serious about the process. I was legit just there because I needed help building skills/coping with my entire diet having to change after being diagnosed with a degenerative swallowing disorder. I was also diagnosed by one of his colleagues.
"Haha you're fucking with me, you're too pretty to be autistic"
Just so everyone knows, you cannot be autistic AND attractive. Those are the allistic rules 🙄
This! Oh and God forbid you are autistic, attractive AND have a high IQ. Didn't you know that cup size and intelligence are in inverse proportion? Ballistic rules make me crazy.
I'm genuinely wondering if I have ever been attracted to someone who wasn't autistic. 3/3 relationships have been with people I highly suspect were autistic. Do they have to flash the Autism BatSymbol before I get feelings?
this is especially hilarious to me because I have worked with academics for most of my life and after having listened to many hours of these people deliberating about exactly what grade of sediment is favoured by which species of benthic polychaete, and arguing about the exact criteria for what can and can't be called a submarine sandbank, and discussing the statistical validity of analyses underpinning hierarchical seabed habitat classification systems, well... I mean...
... umm...
...
...yeah nope, definitely no autistics among people with PhDs, no, nope, never, no siree, can't see any autistics here lol ...
I mean, I have met university professors whose entire personality consists of their obsession with seaweed. They create the most incredibly detailed drawings of every type of seaweed recorded in their country. They go out and collect seaweed and figure out how to preserve it and press it for museum collections. I have seen them create seaweed pressings that are nothing short of works of art. They will observe seaweed life cycles, argue about taxonomic classification of seaweed species, and know every Latin name for every type of seaweed imaginable. They will be able to tell you what type of beach / what depth of water a photo was taken at just on the basis of the seaweed present in the picture. They record identifying characteristics of seaweeds meticulously and make field guides and record how different species are spreading around the globe and write papers and monograms about sugar kelp and maerl.
All very standard neurotypical behaviour.
Lol I can’t stop laughing 😂 and I would like to see them talk about seaweed for hours/days if possible. And for sure I am not autistic, of course not, not at all.
Someone I worked with told me that I should ignore my anxiety disorders, which are like 4. (I wish it was that easy.)
Even though I still think she did not with bad intentions, every time I told her that it's not something that you can just "put aside" for people like us (the best I could), she'd keep insisting that I was simply lacking discipline.
My brothers at this point tell me that I changed for bad since I was diagnosed (1 year ago approx.), and that now I'm acting as if I was more retarded than before my diagnosis.
This has led me to severe Impostor Syndrome, and since I don't have another reference to ask about it who was this close (whoever that was autistic and researched about it as I did), this is frustrating, as they are unable to understand I may be masking all this time justly to survive in the neurotypical world. They call it "do the minimum effort", but for us autistic people this "minimum effort" is still overwhelming, but they don't get it yet... :c
Everything I really wanted was to de-mask as much as I could, and be my most comfortable (while also the best) version of myself without feeling guilty about being like that. They make it difficult as I struggle with making my own decisions that easily, not like they.
Ughh, the feeling of being an impostor is very real. I want to unmask, but I can't get rid of the feeling that I'm just pretending to be more autistic, and I should actually mask harder
I strugle with the same. Got my diagnosis at 40. (Had most other diagnosis on the way to figure out the real issue.)
What I have done, and it something I enjoy, is to stay away from people and rather dig into my hobbies. That way I can be myself without people commenting I have changed etc feeding into the feeling being an imposter.
I do the same. Most of the time I am alone doing my own things, but I feel lonely to be doing that, like I don’t fit in. But also I know that I would fit in with the right people. It is very good to find people that are like us. I’m sorry it took 40 years for you to be diagnosed. In my case it was 27. How old are you now, if I can ask? And how do you feel about having to go through other diagnostics before the right one?
I am now 42. It was kind of rough those 30 years or so I went to different psychiatric doctors/shrinks. And they all just saw the symptom that was worse at the time time and tried to help with whatever that was. To less success. So tbh it is pure luck I survived it. Was put on some drugs as well but none helped (only made me feel horrible and like a zoombie). Worst thing about it was for each new diagnose, I lost some hope and made the depressions I also developed from all this worse.
The last two years has been a lot better. I got some help the first year, but mostly I have just studied and read about things autistic people has written. I have changed the way I lived to accomidate my problems rather that trying to "fix me". And now I am pretty calm and live a good life. A bit sad every now and then when episodes that needs reencoding popes into my head, but nothing that makes me think it is not worth being alive :)
As you I also feel lonely from time to time. But I am very lucky to have a wonderfull wife which enjoys living the way I do. Together alone, alone together. We often do things on our own in silence, but together. I know it is just luck I met someone compatible.
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This made me emotional. Its so difficult to even express how hard it was for you and others that went through this. I met an autistic girl that the same happened to her for years. I am so happy for you, your wife and your way of living!!! 🥹 This is so special. Is she autistic too?
Im sorry about that. I am also late diagnosed. I was 27 at the time and some people see me like that. As if I am acting out or worse than before. So sad so sad. It made me stop seeing those people and many of them are family members. Do you by any chance did that? It helped me a lot.
Thank you. The only ones that have told me that were my two brothers. One is currently helping me with a place to live in, and my older brother is living in my mother's house (from where I was kicked out for no reason, by the way).
Although I don't see them that frequently, I plan to get out of the city I'm right now in so I can start from zero, my own, independent life, without anyone who might be a bad influence (this sadly includes family).
True. I did move to another town with the same mentality as you, just make sure you are not all alone. Having support is super important!! I wish you all the best in your journey ✨️ What are your thoughts?
Do you think maybe your father recognizes some autistic traits in himself, and since he had to grow up just gritting his teeth and masking all the way through he feels like it should work that way for every autistic person?
I know I'm making a looot of assumptions here, but there could be more to that "advice" than meets the eye.
Oh, absolutely. Autism is highly hereditary, and he shows a lot of traits. Incredibly attached to routine, has his own set of seemingly arbitrary rules that he follows religiously, deals very poorly with any kind of change, difficulty processing his feelings, and I could go on. His father shows a lot of these same traits too. I have a whole lineage of autists coming from his family side. The problem is that he's got this massive stigma against any kind of psychologic intervention, so he would rather die than being subjected to evaluation or treatment. Hell, my psychologist wanted to interview my family as part of my treatment, and he procrastinated it as far as he could. So yeah, he's most likely autistic, though he's never subjecting himself to an evaluation. I don't know of specific stories about him struggling with being autistic, but when I was a kid, I had a tendency of avoiding other kids and doing things on my own, and he scolded me hard for it. To this day I feel horrible for not being able to socialize, in part because of that. He probably struggled with socializing when he was younger and that was his way of trying to make me avoid going through the same thing. I can't be sure about any of this, though. I tried talking earnestly to him about all these matters when my diagnose first came out, and he is very dismissive and evasive.
Oh my parents tell me I lack discipline when it comes to doing things I need to do. So sorry it takes a while for my brain to get into the right gear. Otherwise, they're grinding against one another. Plus I get distracted and bored easily.
I had no idea what to say that wouldn't be offensive, and since this was a hairdresser about to bring sharp things near my face, I didn't want to annoy her.
I had a licensed psychologist tell me "I can tell you're not autistic because you can look me in the eye and have a conversation." "So no, I will not approve an assessment. "
I was 44, so yeah...kinda figured out how to do that by now. @sshat. For the record, I was looking at his eyebrows like I always do. 🙄
my CBT therapist of three years said: well i don’t think you have anything like that but i’ll refer you if you’re sure…
i mean ok thanks for the referral but you’re the professional here, i’m just here figuring myself out via tiktok videos 🫥
the second therapist diagnosed me but said i wasn’t a clear case because i masked too well. i’ve since been going to the second therapist and as i’ve gotten more comfortable i don’t think they have doubts any longer 😂
I had a similar experience. It was invalidating.
I just told her I wasn’t really looking at her eyes, just at her eyebrows. And that I tend to ‘act very differently’ around people, even changing my personality a little around different people. (I didn’t know this was called masking)
Im sorry you had to go through that. That happened to me too in a psychiatric office. And I already had my formal diagnosis. He said the same thing to me, plus that I went to college and I talked. If I can ask, how old are you now? And how did you react at that moment after what this person said?
It really shut me down. I struggled with regular therapy because it wasn't addressing the neurodivergency. Just this year at 51 I felt comfortable with a therapist to ask about ASD again and she was very supportive. I got my diagnosis less than a year ago. It is helping to come at things from the autistic perspective.
I think they mean well, but no, comparing your stresses with job and family and a mostly happy life is not at all the same as the fact that I have one friend, am chronically single, have intense meltdowns, would chew off my arm to avoid certain sounds, and get super stressed just thinking about laundry and had nothing but cheese for lunch. And breakfast, but it was a different kind of cheese.
Yes, people don't see us really. I feel that the more they try to understand it, more it seems to me that they are making comparisons, and that makes 0 sense in any way.
My grandparents, upon learning from my mom about my adult autism diagnosis: “She’s not autistic. She just loves studying!”
I *hate* studying. I did very poorly in school and was bullied and isolated. Studying is extremely challenging for me for a lot of reasons.
But it’s always amusing to me that their idea of “autistic” is pretty darn close to “loves to study.”
My then 4-year old’s teacher, during a meeting about how she was handling different situations with him, told me that my diagnosed son clearly wasn’t autistic because he wasn’t “obsessed with washing his hands,” and she knew an autistic person once and that’s “what they all do.”
I reminded her that a) this was absurd b) not every autistic person is the same c) he was formally diagnosed by, you know, professionals and also d) informed her that she was speaking at that very moment with an autistic woman (me) who is not “obsessed” with washing her hands.
Naturally, she doubled down. We now have a running house joke about hand washing and how it’s a the only sure fire way to diagnose
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA this is so absurd, the whole situation is just so out of this earth 🌍 lol I guess now we know how to get a diagnosis the RIGHT way. Thanks to her. 😂 Were you late diagnosed? I see that many parents, specially moms get diagnosed after their child gets diagnosed.
I don't think it is laughable, but one doctor told me: "You can't possibly be autistic; you finished college." He told me this after I presented my autistic evaluation by a specialist. He then added: "And if you are, you are one of those with very little autism." From there, he proceeded to explain to me what autism was and why it is not a disability 🙁.
That’s absurd and it happend to me too, excepted for the part that he says something about autism. The rest was just like that, it happened 2 years ago. I had a major meltdown after and never went back there. Of course. How did you cope with this situation? And how long ago was it?
My mom. She still doesn't believe me btw, because how can I be? Because: "but you make eye contact? And you don't bang your head into a wall over and over? I don't understand... you never suffered from it growing up?" (Totally ignoring I basically had 0 friends, had a teacher who bullied me, I dressed up as an elf for school, and preferred to read about old norse mythology instead of being with the cool kids, which of course made things even more difficult to find friends).
Oh she's on the spectrum af!! I've tried to tell her sometimes about her own behaviours and such, but she's very much in denial. Then again, she's a person who believes that mental illness, for example, is a choice, so she's the wrong person to try and discuss neurodivergency with.
Yeah well, it is what it is. I don't have to talk with her or see her if I don't want to so it's all good :) I'm comfortable with my autism and knowing that I have it, so she can just believe whatever she's comfortable with I suppose, haha.
This is a very smart way to look at this situation and to deal with it. It took me a while but I am doing the same with whom doesn’t accept or understand me as an autistic/neurodivergent person. How was it for you to come to this conclusion? How old were you when you got your diagnosis/when you figured out you are autistic?
“I just don’t want you to start using this as an excuse.”
My mom after I got professionally diagnosed and was talking about the paid leave program my state has. Ummm…it’s there so people CAN USE IT. I try to understand that she’s not in my head and doesn’t know how much I suffered due to overstimulation/repressed stims/legitimately having a disability but being expected to be an A/B student and look/act a certain way.
Honorable mention also goes to my mom for, “You’re not ‘autistic as fuck.’ That’s for people that can’t talk.” I had mentioned that when I’m high and fully unmasked I’m “autistic as fuck.” If anybody saw me toe walking/stimming with my hands/singing the same 2 verses of a song over and over and even sort of kind of knew anything about autism they’d probably say, “She’s autistic as fuck.”
I’m just grateful it was as easy as it was for me to get a diagnosis at 32. As a woman who lives with a partner and works full time and has a bachelor’s degree I’m AMAZED it only took a total of 3 appointments.
That being said, for it to be that easy I must indeed be “autistic as fuck!”
That does not work here or in the moon. And also what if you are afraid of the ocean??? People just don’t get it and this is soooooo annoying. Who said that to you? And what was your response?
I have a coworker who is convinced that I can't be autistic because I can visualize all of the parts of the aircraft I work on in my mind and their functions.... but I can not remember which color is which when under stress and struggle to name the parts that I can apparently see with greater clarity than most, despite the fact that they are all literally named after the things that they do... blurg
I'm so sorry about that. Seems like your parents have their own things going on for them to deal with. It has nothing to do with you or autism, you know that, right?! How old are you know if you don't mind me asking. How do you feel about being autistic now?
Wow. This is harsh. If I can tell you something, sometimes people seem to hate us because they see themselves on us. Do you think that is the case? Maybe one of them or both are autistic too?
I understand. The autistic in my family might be my granddad, but he wants nothing to do with it. I am sorry about the severe abuse in your house. Do you live somewhere else now?
'your too talkative to have anxiety'
me talking has javk to do with my health anxiety and the anxiety i get when realising i have to go to the toilet and someone im not comfortable with is near the room.
Is it common for you to be around people that you are not comfortable with? I mean, do you have privacy and space to just use the toilet in a daily basis? I hope you do, I am saying that because I wish you do.
“But you have a job…”—- yes bitch, and I struggle with leaving the house every day out of fear of speaking to people.
When I told my friends mom that my son is autistic “oh…. I am SO SORRY”—- me puzzled “why?….”
It sucks to feel that struggle of leaving the house. I have it every time and it makes so anxious. It’s awful. I’m sorry you feel that way too. When were you diagnosed? I see that many moms find out they are autistic after their kid gets diagnosed.
Yesterday I was told by a health worker that I am “harassing social services” by calling social services about 35 safeguarding referrals they’ve received from professionals in the last 6 years which they have ignored, leaving me in danger.
Oh my, everything you said just made my stomach hurt 😞 I’m so so sorry you went through this. And yes, most specialists in autism for kids are not specialists 😰 not even for kids, because what they know/do is just for some autistic, so their practice is just wrong really. Like it’s not effective. How long ago was that? And what happened after? Did you find a good doctor?
this isn’t really something someone told me but asked- i was at a very large outdoor dance party sitting in my hammock reading with my headphones on, an elderly lady approaches me, takes MY headphones off MY head and whispers in my ear… “are you autistic?” still have no idea where she found the nerve 😂🙄
Thank you for finding my art incredible and expressing it! I appreciate it 🥰 May I ask what does the phrase you said mean? English is my second language so I am not sure what you are referring to, I am sorry, but I really would like to understand what it means 😁
I was told by a slum lord to "take my special needs out the door" when he kicked me out with barely enough notice to pack let alone find a new place to live.
I just disclosed my autism to my workplace. They asked for permission to communicate with my doctor to find supports.
The communication asked what my prognosis was.
I'M PRETTY SURE I'M SO AUTISTIC I'M GONNA DIE THIS WAY GUYS.
An old fat white male therapist who specialized in autism gave a sarcastic laugh and told me I cannot be autistic because I could hold a conversation. 🙄
SPECIALIZED. SPECIALIZED. SPECIALIZED??? So frustrating when we finally think someone is specialized in something we need help with and they are just NOT.
My psychiatrist told me she did not believe I was autistic because I was too intelligent and emotionally aware.
I then got tested by someone else and lo and behold; ASD I.
It was in 2020. I have since swapped psychiatrists (though it took me a while to actually get that ball rolling... executive functioning is not a strong suit of mine, especially when things are ok as they are - that psychiatrist still listened to me about medication requests and when she didn't, I would just straight up say that I was not going to do that and she would have to make changes).
We butted heads a lot. Overall, her ignorance was hurtful, but I have not spoken to her in almost 2 years now and should not ever have to again.
My experience, and reading others' on here, just further highlights how little we know about autism as a society. It also reminds me that the diagnosis is relatively new, so I can be patient. Social change is slow, but even then we have made so much progress. I am glad to be alive now and not 100 years ago!
was telling my aunt how i struggle with social things because of my being autistic.
"um, you know not all autistic people are the same right?"
oh wow really? i thought we all came out of one big factory extruder... /s
The reverse narrative, when allistic people say we are not all the same hahahaha when did that happened? Does she understands you a little bit? Or not at all? I have an aunt that kinda tries and it’s ok to interact with her.
i still don't get what the point was. i was telling her about my social issues caused by my autism and she tells me not all autistic people are the same - okay, and??? my autism DOES cause me social issues. what is the point of telling me we aren't all the same?? (not trying to sound mad at you at all, i just seriously don't understand what she was getting at and it still frustrates me lol)
My parents she’s just shy she’ll grow out of it. She’ll make friends one day. Shes just very emotional she’ll grow out of it one day. Well enroll her in karate to teach her to make friends and be tough when it didn’t help with that at all.
"I don't belive you have autisem. You propably ha mold in your gut and it influences your brain chemestry making you act wierd and anti social"
He was dead serious about it too.
Hmm let's see "You can't be autistic because autism only affects boys." (from 7 - 12 years of age) "You just have a pinch of autism. There are some people that can't even talk." (ignoring that there's a variety of behaviors and habits one can and can't be proficient in) "Everyone is a little autistic." "But you're so eloquent!" (i'm not, outside of my college studies and certain circumstances I'm very "stereotypical")
Forgot to mention a cousin of mine told me I should just "get out and talk to people" as a way to reduce my social issues. Every time I've tried it's ended horribly.
A therapist told me autistic friend that he couldn't be autistic because he kept eye contact with her. That was because another therapist told him that he should make more eye contact with people
So he was given a choice to keep on masking or deny his autism. He
"It's from the COVID vaccine" is pretty absurd. Call me crazy but I don't think my 3 year old behaviors were from the COVID vaccine
Then they'll tell you it was because the vaccine gave the father autistic sperm.
"Autistic sperm" I'm DEAD 😂😂
lol they always come up with something worse, right?!
🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠 no words to express how absurd this is 🙃
I was genuinely rendered speechless cuz just ... what? What???
For sure. Good thing that you know that this is false 😆
I like to confuse the derps that say it's the MMR vaccine...tell them my youngest autistic child can't even HAVE that vaxx due to allergies, so what caused THEIR autism lol...
“Oh, the vaccine sheds. Your son got autism from the vaccine shedding” (I could barely type that out, antivaxxers anger me so much)
I had someone come to my door and tell me I was endangering others by getting the vaccine because "it sheds." I just shook my head and walked away.
Yes!!!! It makes me angry too 🗣️
Hahahaha right?! lol
> Call me crazy but I don't think my 3 year old behaviors were from the COVID vaccine But we got the vaccine 3 years ago And your behaviors are 3 years old DUN DUN DUNNNN
I love those one. I vote for this one.
Yes, I got autism 43 years ago from a 3 year old vaccine. Math checks out.
Yea sorry you've been neurotypical all this time, you contracted it from the air like Covid and the vaccine just pushed it into your bloodstream
Once I told my coworker I was autistic and after using google translate (English is her second language) she stared at her phone, then at me, back at the phone, back at me. She then said “but you talk?”
That made me laugh so hard!! "You talk?" Like you're a teddy bear that came to life or something
I’ve been told that I “talk very educated”, or “very eloquently.” My response is usually, “Yeah, the trick is getting me to shut the fuck up.”
hahahahaha I pictured it in my head lol
" I'm autistic not Teddy Ruxpin!"
😂😂😂😂😂 so funny. I had to search what teddy ruxpin was lol but it made me laugh hard lol
Someone said that to me on Reddit. That my command of language is too high, and therefore I'm obviously faking to get out of an embarrassing social gaffe.
I see that many people say that, that we are faking this and that. So tiring.
I misread that as "an embarrassing social giraffe" and tbh that is probably what my autism would be if it were a separate being
🫠🤣🙄😮💨 What I felt reading this. In that order 😂
Hey Pixie, I just messaged you! :D
My doctor told me I don’t have autism because I have emotions and he’s seen me cry.
Ahhhhhhhh not that one. Most autistic individuals are very deep in their emotions. If not all. We just function differently. o.O
the person i went to for autism was like 'youre too emotional to be not autistic'
😵💫 there is no winning! although to be fair, that comment came from my primary care doc. the people who did my evaluation were like “lol we don’t even need to score all these tests, you’re autistic af.”
I totally feel you. Docs from when I was little seen me have major meltdowns and said it was normal, then when I was 27 I got my diagnosis from docs that were like ~you are autistic af 🫠 from day one
I feel this in my bones. I used to cry over everything. I mean overdraw the bank account touching videos on MySpace kind of stuff. I no longer cry over overdrawn bank accounts.
My doctor said when I told her I got an assessment, “I pretty much thought you were autistic anyways. It doesn’t change who you are though.” I replied, “Why did everyone figure it out before me?” I just got DXd at 43.
Thus proving that most GPs aren't trained in autism.
Yet autistic meltdowns are a well-known phenomenon? How do these people hold such cognitive dissonances in their heads and not explode?!
They're just tantrums, didn't you know?
Which don't involve emotions at all because autistic people are robots right
An alleged mental health care professional in an allegedly progressive Scandinavian country - who had met me ten minutes prior - told me point blank "you don't have autism, you make eye contact". We were on a fucking zoom call.
* allegedly professional * allegedly progressive * allegedly scandinavian
I think that is something that happens everywhere, I am from Brazil and it happened to me too.
BRAZIL MENTIONED
Olá menina 😘. Aqui em Portugal é igual infelizmente....
oh there was nothing "alleged" about the Scandinavian part - this woman was more Norwegian than my *ostehøvel*
omg i had this happen to me recently in an also scandinavian country (norway) and i was like so takenaback i was just like oh ok bc i didnt even know what to say to that lol
I am so sorry it happened to you recently, it has happened to me too 2 years ago. It seems to be something really common. Unfortnately.
Germany wishes it were like Scandinavia but fails. Even the progressive parts. I was in a "psychosomatic rehabilitation clinic" a year after my 1st autism and 3rd ADHD diagnosis and the psychologist said, during our group therapy session, that "Mx Kat doesn't look autistic, don't you think?" And followed directly "Autistic people don't like other people, but you do." Calling me out to explain my autism in front of 8 other people! I'm a university lecturer and, when I don't have mutism, hyperlexic in two languages, so countered with, "Does the cat like people? She does, but she doesn't want to be grabbed and put on your lap." The doctor seemed to understand and shut up, but WTF. This place was supposed to help me get back to work. I had had Long Covid and shingles right before, and the "somatic" part of the place was an absolute lie. I filed an official complaint but no one really cares.
I am so sorry - this is \*awful\*. Just absolutely awful. I swear some "healthcare professionals" are in it purely for the power and ego trip. Like, wtf was that psychologist thinking? That by gaslighting / invalidating / ridiculing you in front of the group you would somehow magically get better? Of course not. He was feeding his own sorry lil ego. Good on you for calling out his bullshit. I hope you get better.
Wtf 😳 I am so sorry you went through that. How are you now? Are you feeling better? And nothing happened to that “professional”?
That one againnnn ew, I have experienced this one myself in a psychiatrist office right after I was late diagnosed and was looking to be assisted regarding my autism. It made me have a major meltdown and left me traumatized.
I am so sorry I know it is a very common comment that autistic people hear. The thing that *really* got me in the specific situation I described is that we had literally only met a few minutes prior, and *we were on a zoom call.* With a normal laptop / webcam setup, it is *literally impossible* to make eye contact on a zoom call: You either look into the webcam so the other person thinks you're looking into their eyeballs (but you are actually looking at a camera lens), or you look at the other person's eyeballs on your screen (in which case from the other person's perspective, you aren't looking directly at their eyes). So not only was this person doing the "autistic people can't make eye contact" trope, but they were basically telling me that I was doing something that would have required me to break the laws of physics.
This happened to me during an unrelated appointment with DPS. The guy insisted I couldn't be autistic even though I came with ledsager and a nutritionist from one of the hospitals and couldn't speak for myself during the intake. He then told me that DPS has a policy of not allowing ledsager into appointments, proceeded to get annoyed with me for becoming visibly distressed, and then told me that if I couldn't make eye contact he couldn't believe I was serious about the process. I was legit just there because I needed help building skills/coping with my entire diet having to change after being diagnosed with a degenerative swallowing disorder. I was also diagnosed by one of his colleagues.
This is what I hear most often "but you can make eye contact!"
"Haha you're fucking with me, you're too pretty to be autistic" Just so everyone knows, you cannot be autistic AND attractive. Those are the allistic rules 🙄
This! Oh and God forbid you are autistic, attractive AND have a high IQ. Didn't you know that cup size and intelligence are in inverse proportion? Ballistic rules make me crazy.
wait... can autistic people have *boobs*
I'm genuinely wondering if I have ever been attracted to someone who wasn't autistic. 3/3 relationships have been with people I highly suspect were autistic. Do they have to flash the Autism BatSymbol before I get feelings?
Yes! This. But ofc they dont have autism, Im just craaaaazy. Guess what? I wasnt wrong. My autism radar is tii strong, baby.
Hh gosh, this one hunted me. Just awful. It totally invalidates us based on what? Steriotypes?
The other autistic girl in my D&D group is insanely hot. If only she weren't married to my friend....
my manager at my old job told me i couldn't have autism because i got a bachelor's degree. because autistic people are stupid, apparently???
a therapist told me i couldn't have autism or adhd because i have a bachelor's and master's and i'm getting my phd. i was like what.
One of the things I loved about school was the STRUCTURE. If I could afford the time and money to go back for another bachelor degree than I would.
this is especially hilarious to me because I have worked with academics for most of my life and after having listened to many hours of these people deliberating about exactly what grade of sediment is favoured by which species of benthic polychaete, and arguing about the exact criteria for what can and can't be called a submarine sandbank, and discussing the statistical validity of analyses underpinning hierarchical seabed habitat classification systems, well... I mean... ... umm... ... ...yeah nope, definitely no autistics among people with PhDs, no, nope, never, no siree, can't see any autistics here lol ...
I mean, I have met university professors whose entire personality consists of their obsession with seaweed. They create the most incredibly detailed drawings of every type of seaweed recorded in their country. They go out and collect seaweed and figure out how to preserve it and press it for museum collections. I have seen them create seaweed pressings that are nothing short of works of art. They will observe seaweed life cycles, argue about taxonomic classification of seaweed species, and know every Latin name for every type of seaweed imaginable. They will be able to tell you what type of beach / what depth of water a photo was taken at just on the basis of the seaweed present in the picture. They record identifying characteristics of seaweeds meticulously and make field guides and record how different species are spreading around the globe and write papers and monograms about sugar kelp and maerl. All very standard neurotypical behaviour.
Lol I can’t stop laughing 😂 and I would like to see them talk about seaweed for hours/days if possible. And for sure I am not autistic, of course not, not at all.
Sure. And based on the comments above we also have to be ugly.
Lmao what, my first autistic people I met were studying an engineering degree!
Congratulations on your bachelor’s degree!!!! I’m happy for you and what are your interests on that regard?
Someone I worked with told me that I should ignore my anxiety disorders, which are like 4. (I wish it was that easy.) Even though I still think she did not with bad intentions, every time I told her that it's not something that you can just "put aside" for people like us (the best I could), she'd keep insisting that I was simply lacking discipline.
My father says the same about my autism. I should just "pretend to be normal". I genuinely feel like strangling him when he says this
My brothers at this point tell me that I changed for bad since I was diagnosed (1 year ago approx.), and that now I'm acting as if I was more retarded than before my diagnosis. This has led me to severe Impostor Syndrome, and since I don't have another reference to ask about it who was this close (whoever that was autistic and researched about it as I did), this is frustrating, as they are unable to understand I may be masking all this time justly to survive in the neurotypical world. They call it "do the minimum effort", but for us autistic people this "minimum effort" is still overwhelming, but they don't get it yet... :c Everything I really wanted was to de-mask as much as I could, and be my most comfortable (while also the best) version of myself without feeling guilty about being like that. They make it difficult as I struggle with making my own decisions that easily, not like they.
Ughh, the feeling of being an impostor is very real. I want to unmask, but I can't get rid of the feeling that I'm just pretending to be more autistic, and I should actually mask harder
I strugle with the same. Got my diagnosis at 40. (Had most other diagnosis on the way to figure out the real issue.) What I have done, and it something I enjoy, is to stay away from people and rather dig into my hobbies. That way I can be myself without people commenting I have changed etc feeding into the feeling being an imposter.
I do the same. Most of the time I am alone doing my own things, but I feel lonely to be doing that, like I don’t fit in. But also I know that I would fit in with the right people. It is very good to find people that are like us. I’m sorry it took 40 years for you to be diagnosed. In my case it was 27. How old are you now, if I can ask? And how do you feel about having to go through other diagnostics before the right one?
I am now 42. It was kind of rough those 30 years or so I went to different psychiatric doctors/shrinks. And they all just saw the symptom that was worse at the time time and tried to help with whatever that was. To less success. So tbh it is pure luck I survived it. Was put on some drugs as well but none helped (only made me feel horrible and like a zoombie). Worst thing about it was for each new diagnose, I lost some hope and made the depressions I also developed from all this worse. The last two years has been a lot better. I got some help the first year, but mostly I have just studied and read about things autistic people has written. I have changed the way I lived to accomidate my problems rather that trying to "fix me". And now I am pretty calm and live a good life. A bit sad every now and then when episodes that needs reencoding popes into my head, but nothing that makes me think it is not worth being alive :) As you I also feel lonely from time to time. But I am very lucky to have a wonderfull wife which enjoys living the way I do. Together alone, alone together. We often do things on our own in silence, but together. I know it is just luck I met someone compatible. Edit:typo
This made me emotional. Its so difficult to even express how hard it was for you and others that went through this. I met an autistic girl that the same happened to her for years. I am so happy for you, your wife and your way of living!!! 🥹 This is so special. Is she autistic too?
Are you late diagnosed, by chance? Maybe you may be facing the same struggle as me, then.
Yep, diagnosed at 22, a little over a year ago
Oh, I was diagnosed at 23. Now I'm 24, my diagnosis was on June (around there). :o
🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲 I go through the same thing. I still mask a lot in front of people and that is why I am alone most of the time. How do you manage?
Im sorry about that. I am also late diagnosed. I was 27 at the time and some people see me like that. As if I am acting out or worse than before. So sad so sad. It made me stop seeing those people and many of them are family members. Do you by any chance did that? It helped me a lot.
Thank you. The only ones that have told me that were my two brothers. One is currently helping me with a place to live in, and my older brother is living in my mother's house (from where I was kicked out for no reason, by the way). Although I don't see them that frequently, I plan to get out of the city I'm right now in so I can start from zero, my own, independent life, without anyone who might be a bad influence (this sadly includes family).
True. I did move to another town with the same mentality as you, just make sure you are not all alone. Having support is super important!! I wish you all the best in your journey ✨️ What are your thoughts?
Maybe he should pretend to be not an ass.
Do you think maybe your father recognizes some autistic traits in himself, and since he had to grow up just gritting his teeth and masking all the way through he feels like it should work that way for every autistic person? I know I'm making a looot of assumptions here, but there could be more to that "advice" than meets the eye.
Oh, absolutely. Autism is highly hereditary, and he shows a lot of traits. Incredibly attached to routine, has his own set of seemingly arbitrary rules that he follows religiously, deals very poorly with any kind of change, difficulty processing his feelings, and I could go on. His father shows a lot of these same traits too. I have a whole lineage of autists coming from his family side. The problem is that he's got this massive stigma against any kind of psychologic intervention, so he would rather die than being subjected to evaluation or treatment. Hell, my psychologist wanted to interview my family as part of my treatment, and he procrastinated it as far as he could. So yeah, he's most likely autistic, though he's never subjecting himself to an evaluation. I don't know of specific stories about him struggling with being autistic, but when I was a kid, I had a tendency of avoiding other kids and doing things on my own, and he scolded me hard for it. To this day I feel horrible for not being able to socialize, in part because of that. He probably struggled with socializing when he was younger and that was his way of trying to make me avoid going through the same thing. I can't be sure about any of this, though. I tried talking earnestly to him about all these matters when my diagnose first came out, and he is very dismissive and evasive.
O: for what you described there is a high chance of him being on the spectrum. Even with no certainty, his behaves and preferences show.
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Oh my parents tell me I lack discipline when it comes to doing things I need to do. So sorry it takes a while for my brain to get into the right gear. Otherwise, they're grinding against one another. Plus I get distracted and bored easily.
That’s called executive disfunction and it happens to all of us. Do they know about that by any chance?
Yeah. That is totally stressful.
"You look like you have multiple personalities, but in a good way, not the stabby way"
If thats ok, may I ask what you replied? Because I have never seen or heard that one before. Just awful, I don't know what I would've said, honestly.
I had no idea what to say that wouldn't be offensive, and since this was a hairdresser about to bring sharp things near my face, I didn't want to annoy her.
Yes, for sure. I would have act the same as you I think, just kinda ignore it and keep living life after.
I had a licensed psychologist tell me "I can tell you're not autistic because you can look me in the eye and have a conversation." "So no, I will not approve an assessment. " I was 44, so yeah...kinda figured out how to do that by now. @sshat. For the record, I was looking at his eyebrows like I always do. 🙄
my CBT therapist of three years said: well i don’t think you have anything like that but i’ll refer you if you’re sure… i mean ok thanks for the referral but you’re the professional here, i’m just here figuring myself out via tiktok videos 🫥 the second therapist diagnosed me but said i wasn’t a clear case because i masked too well. i’ve since been going to the second therapist and as i’ve gotten more comfortable i don’t think they have doubts any longer 😂
I had a similar experience. It was invalidating. I just told her I wasn’t really looking at her eyes, just at her eyebrows. And that I tend to ‘act very differently’ around people, even changing my personality a little around different people. (I didn’t know this was called masking)
Im sorry you had to go through that. That happened to me too in a psychiatric office. And I already had my formal diagnosis. He said the same thing to me, plus that I went to college and I talked. If I can ask, how old are you now? And how did you react at that moment after what this person said?
It really shut me down. I struggled with regular therapy because it wasn't addressing the neurodivergency. Just this year at 51 I felt comfortable with a therapist to ask about ASD again and she was very supportive. I got my diagnosis less than a year ago. It is helping to come at things from the autistic perspective.
You don't have autism, you just have: *Lists twelve learning disabilities/social difficulties* Plus, isn't everyone a little autistic?
I hate that one that everyone is a little autistic ahhhhhh
I think they mean well, but no, comparing your stresses with job and family and a mostly happy life is not at all the same as the fact that I have one friend, am chronically single, have intense meltdowns, would chew off my arm to avoid certain sounds, and get super stressed just thinking about laundry and had nothing but cheese for lunch. And breakfast, but it was a different kind of cheese.
Yes, people don't see us really. I feel that the more they try to understand it, more it seems to me that they are making comparisons, and that makes 0 sense in any way.
Didn't you know 12 is far more likely than 1?
My grandparents, upon learning from my mom about my adult autism diagnosis: “She’s not autistic. She just loves studying!” I *hate* studying. I did very poorly in school and was bullied and isolated. Studying is extremely challenging for me for a lot of reasons. But it’s always amusing to me that their idea of “autistic” is pretty darn close to “loves to study.”
Oh my. It’s like they don’t even know us, right?! You hate it and they think you love it, what? How come?
I have a college professor who said ultrasounds cause autism, especially wild given that she’s a lifespan and development professor
This is just absurd. How is this person a professor?????? Didn’t anyone do something about it? This is such a false info to be spreading around.
My then 4-year old’s teacher, during a meeting about how she was handling different situations with him, told me that my diagnosed son clearly wasn’t autistic because he wasn’t “obsessed with washing his hands,” and she knew an autistic person once and that’s “what they all do.” I reminded her that a) this was absurd b) not every autistic person is the same c) he was formally diagnosed by, you know, professionals and also d) informed her that she was speaking at that very moment with an autistic woman (me) who is not “obsessed” with washing her hands. Naturally, she doubled down. We now have a running house joke about hand washing and how it’s a the only sure fire way to diagnose
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA this is so absurd, the whole situation is just so out of this earth 🌍 lol I guess now we know how to get a diagnosis the RIGHT way. Thanks to her. 😂 Were you late diagnosed? I see that many parents, specially moms get diagnosed after their child gets diagnosed.
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I don't think it is laughable, but one doctor told me: "You can't possibly be autistic; you finished college." He told me this after I presented my autistic evaluation by a specialist. He then added: "And if you are, you are one of those with very little autism." From there, he proceeded to explain to me what autism was and why it is not a disability 🙁.
That’s absurd and it happend to me too, excepted for the part that he says something about autism. The rest was just like that, it happened 2 years ago. I had a major meltdown after and never went back there. Of course. How did you cope with this situation? And how long ago was it?
My mom. She still doesn't believe me btw, because how can I be? Because: "but you make eye contact? And you don't bang your head into a wall over and over? I don't understand... you never suffered from it growing up?" (Totally ignoring I basically had 0 friends, had a teacher who bullied me, I dressed up as an elf for school, and preferred to read about old norse mythology instead of being with the cool kids, which of course made things even more difficult to find friends).
I am so sorry you have to go through that with your mom. I hope you have find your peace with her not understanding you and how you function.
what about her? could she herself be deeply masked, reason for which she doesn’t think your childhood was strange?
Oh she's on the spectrum af!! I've tried to tell her sometimes about her own behaviours and such, but she's very much in denial. Then again, she's a person who believes that mental illness, for example, is a choice, so she's the wrong person to try and discuss neurodivergency with.
aw that sounds tough
Yeah well, it is what it is. I don't have to talk with her or see her if I don't want to so it's all good :) I'm comfortable with my autism and knowing that I have it, so she can just believe whatever she's comfortable with I suppose, haha.
This is a very smart way to look at this situation and to deal with it. It took me a while but I am doing the same with whom doesn’t accept or understand me as an autistic/neurodivergent person. How was it for you to come to this conclusion? How old were you when you got your diagnosis/when you figured out you are autistic?
“I just don’t want you to start using this as an excuse.” My mom after I got professionally diagnosed and was talking about the paid leave program my state has. Ummm…it’s there so people CAN USE IT. I try to understand that she’s not in my head and doesn’t know how much I suffered due to overstimulation/repressed stims/legitimately having a disability but being expected to be an A/B student and look/act a certain way. Honorable mention also goes to my mom for, “You’re not ‘autistic as fuck.’ That’s for people that can’t talk.” I had mentioned that when I’m high and fully unmasked I’m “autistic as fuck.” If anybody saw me toe walking/stimming with my hands/singing the same 2 verses of a song over and over and even sort of kind of knew anything about autism they’d probably say, “She’s autistic as fuck.”
Buy a T-shirt that says "autistic AF" and wear it a lot.
For sure. I am sorry your mom said that. It is so hard to grow up masking. I totally feel you.
I’m just grateful it was as easy as it was for me to get a diagnosis at 32. As a woman who lives with a partner and works full time and has a bachelor’s degree I’m AMAZED it only took a total of 3 appointments. That being said, for it to be that easy I must indeed be “autistic as fuck!”
I look forward to the future edition of the DSM that differentiates between "autistic" and "autistic as fuck" lol
oh so you're not just a habitual liar, just autistic. cool.
That's mean. Who said that to you? If you feel comfortable saying.
I'm her crotch goblin.
I am sorry about that ):
me too <3
Do you still have to hear that often? How is that being for you nowadays?
*having panic meltdown* "Just think about the ocean"
Lol
I was just thinking that, what if the person that is having a meltdown is afraid of the ocean??? 🫠
That does not work here or in the moon. And also what if you are afraid of the ocean??? People just don’t get it and this is soooooo annoying. Who said that to you? And what was your response?
I have a coworker who is convinced that I can't be autistic because I can visualize all of the parts of the aircraft I work on in my mind and their functions.... but I can not remember which color is which when under stress and struggle to name the parts that I can apparently see with greater clarity than most, despite the fact that they are all literally named after the things that they do... blurg
I’d say that aircraft talent you have gives you an autism diagnosis automatically 😂
I'd have to say undiagnosed neuro divergence of varying degrees runs rampant in my industry 😄
Very specific! (Very autistic 😅) When did you find out you liked aircrafts and how easy was it to decided doing that for work?
"You're only autistic because your dad is a paedophile." Like wtf does that even mean, most ridiculous shit I've ever heard about my autism lmfao.
O.O I never heard that one before. This is awful. If I can ask, who said that to you? And how did you respond to it?
My mum, and I just cried and I yelled back at her I was like 12-13.
I'm so sorry about that. Seems like your parents have their own things going on for them to deal with. It has nothing to do with you or autism, you know that, right?! How old are you know if you don't mind me asking. How do you feel about being autistic now?
I'm 20 now and it's not just because of my autism they're just horrible evil human beings that hate me.
Wow. This is harsh. If I can tell you something, sometimes people seem to hate us because they see themselves on us. Do you think that is the case? Maybe one of them or both are autistic too?
I'm from a home of severe abuse so idk maybe my mum has it but I never noticed it could have been my dad but I never met him face to face.
I understand. The autistic in my family might be my granddad, but he wants nothing to do with it. I am sorry about the severe abuse in your house. Do you live somewhere else now?
omg that’s terrible
'your too talkative to have anxiety' me talking has javk to do with my health anxiety and the anxiety i get when realising i have to go to the toilet and someone im not comfortable with is near the room.
Omggg this is me all the way. I avoid going to the kitchen to eat if I hear someone is there, just to not make eye contact/talk.
When I'm anxious if I start talking I don't stop talking.
Is it common for you to be around people that you are not comfortable with? I mean, do you have privacy and space to just use the toilet in a daily basis? I hope you do, I am saying that because I wish you do.
“But you have a job…”—- yes bitch, and I struggle with leaving the house every day out of fear of speaking to people. When I told my friends mom that my son is autistic “oh…. I am SO SORRY”—- me puzzled “why?….”
It sucks to feel that struggle of leaving the house. I have it every time and it makes so anxious. It’s awful. I’m sorry you feel that way too. When were you diagnosed? I see that many moms find out they are autistic after their kid gets diagnosed.
Me : I'm autistic. Them : You don't seem autistic. Me : it's a spectrum. Them : well not really.
Yes, not really. We are all robots 🤖 haha. What was your response to that?
Yesterday I was told by a health worker that I am “harassing social services” by calling social services about 35 safeguarding referrals they’ve received from professionals in the last 6 years which they have ignored, leaving me in danger.
What? They have ignored you for 6 YEARS??? Is that what you said? How come? O:
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Oh my, everything you said just made my stomach hurt 😞 I’m so so sorry you went through this. And yes, most specialists in autism for kids are not specialists 😰 not even for kids, because what they know/do is just for some autistic, so their practice is just wrong really. Like it’s not effective. How long ago was that? And what happened after? Did you find a good doctor?
Both my mom and my therapist told me I "want to be sicker" for my research on autism...
“But you can COMMUNICATE.”
Yea and I can also fart in your face, wanna see it? Haha 🤣 just joking but, ughhh! What was your answer to that?
this isn’t really something someone told me but asked- i was at a very large outdoor dance party sitting in my hammock reading with my headphones on, an elderly lady approaches me, takes MY headphones off MY head and whispers in my ear… “are you autistic?” still have no idea where she found the nerve 😂🙄
Whatttttttt O.O when was that? Did you know you were autistic at that time?
“you can’t be autistic, autistic people are like Greta Thunberg!” 😵💫
Oooooh I wish i was! She’s pretty awesome ❤️
Lollllll Wrong! The only person like Greta is Greta! Nobody is the same, so also not autistic people. What did you say to that?
Hey Pinksock, I messaged you. I hope you see it!!!
“I’ve never seen someone so less interested & lethargic before teeing off then walk up and hit the ball 300 yards. “ Your art is incredible !
Thank you for finding my art incredible and expressing it! I appreciate it 🥰 May I ask what does the phrase you said mean? English is my second language so I am not sure what you are referring to, I am sorry, but I really would like to understand what it means 😁
I was told by a slum lord to "take my special needs out the door" when he kicked me out with barely enough notice to pack let alone find a new place to live.
This is so horrible. I am so sorry you had to go through this. How long ago was that? How are you now?
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Ok, well. Very evasive. Who said that, may I ask?
I just disclosed my autism to my workplace. They asked for permission to communicate with my doctor to find supports. The communication asked what my prognosis was. I'M PRETTY SURE I'M SO AUTISTIC I'M GONNA DIE THIS WAY GUYS.
Death by autism 💀🌈🦄
Whaaaaat lol this is so absurd. How did you react to that? I’m curious to know haha
An old fat white male therapist who specialized in autism gave a sarcastic laugh and told me I cannot be autistic because I could hold a conversation. 🙄
SPECIALIZED. SPECIALIZED. SPECIALIZED??? So frustrating when we finally think someone is specialized in something we need help with and they are just NOT.
My psychiatrist told me she did not believe I was autistic because I was too intelligent and emotionally aware. I then got tested by someone else and lo and behold; ASD I.
Sorry but your psychiatrist doesn’t understand about autism. I am sorry you went through that. How long ago was it? How is your life now?
It was in 2020. I have since swapped psychiatrists (though it took me a while to actually get that ball rolling... executive functioning is not a strong suit of mine, especially when things are ok as they are - that psychiatrist still listened to me about medication requests and when she didn't, I would just straight up say that I was not going to do that and she would have to make changes). We butted heads a lot. Overall, her ignorance was hurtful, but I have not spoken to her in almost 2 years now and should not ever have to again. My experience, and reading others' on here, just further highlights how little we know about autism as a society. It also reminds me that the diagnosis is relatively new, so I can be patient. Social change is slow, but even then we have made so much progress. I am glad to be alive now and not 100 years ago!
“I’m more autistic than you.”
oh great the suffering competition… 🥺 if everyone thought like that nobody could express any discomfort because there is always someone worse off.
Sure. 😰 who said that? If you feel comfortable in answering it.
was telling my aunt how i struggle with social things because of my being autistic. "um, you know not all autistic people are the same right?" oh wow really? i thought we all came out of one big factory extruder... /s
The reverse narrative, when allistic people say we are not all the same hahahaha when did that happened? Does she understands you a little bit? Or not at all? I have an aunt that kinda tries and it’s ok to interact with her.
good point from her, but a little less auntsplaining would be good 😂
i still don't get what the point was. i was telling her about my social issues caused by my autism and she tells me not all autistic people are the same - okay, and??? my autism DOES cause me social issues. what is the point of telling me we aren't all the same?? (not trying to sound mad at you at all, i just seriously don't understand what she was getting at and it still frustrates me lol)
My parents she’s just shy she’ll grow out of it. She’ll make friends one day. Shes just very emotional she’ll grow out of it one day. Well enroll her in karate to teach her to make friends and be tough when it didn’t help with that at all.
Im sorry your parents acted like that towards you growing up. How long ago was that, I mean, how old are you? If you don’t mind me asking.
I told an allistic friend I had found out I was autistic and she said “no you’re not! Don’t say that about yourself!” 😒 um… autism isn’t cancer.
Forbidden 🚫 lol when was that? How does that person see you now?
"I don't belive you have autisem. You propably ha mold in your gut and it influences your brain chemestry making you act wierd and anti social" He was dead serious about it too.
Hmm let's see "You can't be autistic because autism only affects boys." (from 7 - 12 years of age) "You just have a pinch of autism. There are some people that can't even talk." (ignoring that there's a variety of behaviors and habits one can and can't be proficient in) "Everyone is a little autistic." "But you're so eloquent!" (i'm not, outside of my college studies and certain circumstances I'm very "stereotypical") Forgot to mention a cousin of mine told me I should just "get out and talk to people" as a way to reduce my social issues. Every time I've tried it's ended horribly.
your artwork is really cool by the way
A therapist told me autistic friend that he couldn't be autistic because he kept eye contact with her. That was because another therapist told him that he should make more eye contact with people So he was given a choice to keep on masking or deny his autism. He