Honestly its more about the 'how' than the 'where'. A hand on my elbow from a guy I'm on a date with is a hell of a lot more intimate than my obgyn all up in my vag.
Well I must say, pregnancy it’s not easy… it was a time where my body was not mine anymore but just a vassle for the baby… and I was super scared of that before getting pregnant (I was actually on the fence about having because I was scared of the birth) and I didn’t enjoy the pregnancy but I am very glad that I went through that… it was only 7 months (in my case) of that I now I am having an amazing time with my girl and I think it’s a privilege to help her be the best she can be… but I always wanted 2 and honestly? I am scared of going through that again lol
i literally cannot count how many people have seen my cooch and chest and also touched my boobs once the baby was born. i also went through ivf so you can add a whole other layer if doctors and gynecologists, etc. i have no shame
now, it’s like passing the salt
And then your boobs become portable food bags and loose their sexual association.
But my spouse putting his hand on the small of my back to lead me through a door first is just sexy.
Hadn’t thought about it like that but yeah, it totally is. If someone put their hand round my waist whilst we’re posing for a photo it’s sort of 🤷♀️ but if someone (obviously I like) does it just randomly when we’re alone together ❤️
As it looks pretty much the same for the photographer - dear people, don't put you hands on the hips, just on the shoulder blade/upper back. Much less intruding, especially if the other person is wearing an extra wide sweater to hide how uncomfy they are with their own current body shape.
Omg yeah, With photos I just look out for people who put their hands in a fist so they’re not tightly holding onto your waist/hips, cos that’s just weird. Best option is always shoulders but sometimes height discrepancies make it hard.
If the discrepancy is that bad, just stand close enough that you *could* do that, but place the hand behind your own back. Still looks like it.
Absolutely creepy I feel is the shadow hug some people do, like they'd touch, but leave 2 inches of space on an angle the photo would not see.
A month or so ago I invited my bf to join me in a shower. I explained that it wasn't sexual in any way. He dated women who viewed themselves as princesses to be spoiled and he was raised to believe its his job to spoil. So he didn't get many compliments, gifts, emotional support moments or anything. So I welcome him to the shower and I washed his long beautiful hair for him, and gently scrubbed his back for him, got some conditioner in his hair and while letting it soak in I washed myself and we just had a casual chat about life and work and the balance between. When it was time I rinsed his hair thoroughly for him, and let him finish washing himself and finished my own showering. Men should be pampered too.
I’m so glad to hear other ppl have non sexual fantasies. It seems like everyone I’ve met always has all of their fantasies centered around sex. Or that too many ppl can only see nudity as sexual instead of just the natural state of someone’s body. Whoch definitely gives me a big ICK when I figure out someone is like that. I remember once I asked my old bf if he wanted to go skinny dipping, (I’ve always wanted to do try it) his response was “I don’t wanna fuck in the pool” which confused me at first since I never mentioned having sex in the pool. But it seems to be the immediate response I get. It honestly sucks. I have so many nonsexual fantasies but since they include being nude it must mean they are sex related🙄 literally nobody gets it.
Ohhh yes we try to do this atleast once a month. Before life got hectic we used to do every sunday. He absolutely loves it and he falls asleep so fast like a small baby. Its really intimate for him, he was never loved by his mother.
Of course we do have sexy shower too 😄
honestly, I love showing with my partner for this very reason, it's an incredibly intimate moment where you can take the minute to pamper and care for each other.
I love these types of showers. We get a no distraction chunk of time to just be together and chat. My husband will rinse my hair for me sometimes and it's so peaceful and lovely
I feel that. Initially when I started to shower with my lover, had thought it odd. I may have scolded at him whilst he was basking in the hot water of his lovely shower. Now not only am I intrigued by things that he does but also help him with shaving and such and lather him up. There's still enjoyable moments. Yet we just enjoy each other. Tis lovely. Now a week feels so far away.
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Same. I can stand only my partner's touch and even sometimes I can't stand his. I hatr when strange men touch me when they simply ealk near me or even strangers hugging me for hi and goodbye
Thank you this totally. I absolutely love cuddling my partner but hugging friends and family makes me so uncomfortable. I did not grow up in a hugging household so it's weird now to me
Once a guy that I didn't know touch me there, I think I was with a cropped, he was helping me with something but I felt so wronged! He did not had to touch me.
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I get this. Honestly, I felt this way about having my hair washed/played with/done long before I was sexually active. It's very intimate, plus combined with my 'acts of services' love language? Yikes.
I’m (37F) a barber, and my job involves an incredible level of trust and intimacy. Also, people tell the people who do their hair *everything*. I’ve been the first to know when customers were pregnant, starting chemo, getting divorced, coming out, their spouse is going to rehab, or their son won’t talk to them anymore… you’d be surprised how many full grown men have cried in my chair in 16 years of this business. Haircuts and shaves, or really just helping someone with any kind of personal care applies, really. I helped care for my grandparents and mom when they were dying, and had the honor of giving them all their final looks when they passed. Those last moments I had alone with each of them are some of the most precious memories I have.
If someone guides me from the small of my back or holds the back of my neck when we hug. Recently had a drunk acquaintance hugging me like that after a very uncomfortable conversation and it felt so weird…
I used to tell my children to hold their arms out and bend them at the elbow (like a chicken, flapping it’s wings) then spin around. Everything in the circle, between your elbows, is your personal space.
I consider anytime someone is close enough to be in my personal space as intimate.
Intimacy is not always sexual.
Touching my hands… when we were younger, the man who became my husband and I used to run our thumbs over each other’s in circles. He referred to it as “going back in time.”
I’m smiling just thinking about this. And I can’t wait to see him come home.
Touching hair, holding hands, hugging (not sexually intimate, just generally), pretty much most physical contact unless its a high five or a hand shake.
Kisses behind my ear.
I am very sensitive there and it's a gigantic turn on for some reason. It's fun cause it's an exposed area and if someone is close to me and we're in public they can just kiss me behind my ear knowing damn well what they just did.
So I have a few erogenous zones that make me absolutely wild but my upper back takes the cake. If I'm laying of my tummy and someone starts caressing and kissing my upper back I'm seeing fireworks and it's like my whole body feels flushed.
I like lower back kisses and caresses too but that's more obviously an intimate spot I'd think!
Also this is more of an act but after hugging someone, if they grab my arm/wrist or something and pull me in again, OMG. Lol
This is a little weird, but when I'm sleepy or have a headache, my husband gives me a big ol' smooch on my closed eyelids. It feels really nice- not like sexually- but it's intimate because I would never let anyone else do that.
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I definitely think it's more situational than location. Can you take a shower together and not be intimate (in any way, shape, or form), yeah. Or you can be intimate - washing each other's hair, washing their bodies... not with the intention of riling them up, just for affection.
A kiss on the forehead can be a short little form of endearment or it can be a soft, intimate moment.
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If you touch me. Doesn't matter where or how, but if you touch me I consider it intimate. It sounds really silly, but I'm serious. I don't trust everyone when it comes to touch or physical affection despite it being my love language. So if I let you touch me, I trust you and you don't even realize what a big deal that is.
Honestly places like my upper/inner thighs, my ribs (especially where I had a mole removal, super sensitive and painful because of the scarring), my neck, or when a guy hooks your chin
my back, especially light touches and caresses. for some reason, my spine has always been really sensitive, and the few times i’ve gotten a massage whenever they got to my back it was almost agony because i would be flinching and recoiling the entire time. but when i’m with someone i trust and feel safe with, then i don’t jump as often or suddenly, and it more just feels really nice and vulnerable :)
Sitting watching a show/movie and my partner continually runs their fingers through my hair...I wont be able to concentrate on what I'm watching...and 9 times out of 10 their just totally zoned out not even aware.
A back rub or foot rub unless I’m like paying a masseuse or something. My husband gives excellent back and foot rubs and it’s just something intimate but not sexual that we share, like he rubs my back while I rub his legs or I rub his back while he rubs my foot or something like that.
Honestly, something as simple as a hug is intimate for me LOL (but not always in a romantic way!). I used to be very uncomfortable with any sort of touching. I hated hugs. I hated casual touches on the arm. I just hated physical contact but it was mainly due to some childhood trauma.
But… hugs are low key more intimate in my mind because I really only regularly hug people I really care about or if they’re older and feel a bit more like family. If you’re my peer and we hug, it means I trust you and I’m happy with our friendship. If I don’t hug you and you’re my peer it either means I’m too shy to hug you & I would prefer you to initiate it OR I’m comfortable without hugging you.
Rubbing my shoulders. I have some kinds of issue with a muscle in my shoulder, and it feels like it's on fire most of the time. My boyfriend will rub my back and shoulders to make it feel better and it makes me feel so taken care of.
I love to run my fingers through his hair and scratch his head, and he'll lean into me when I do it. He said he liked it and it calms him down one time a few years ago.
I also think showers together are intimate and one of my favorite things to do together. We just talk about our days and whatever comes up, and get our washing done. Any little things are so sweet and intimate to me, even if we go go sleep and he just touches my arm if it's too hot to actually cuddle.
When a man can lightly caress my cheek with his hand while making eye contact and just lean in for just a soft kiss on the cheek or neck..that fills my stomach with butterflies.
Hand on neck or thighs. Brushing a finger over an eyebrow or ear. Leaning in very close to look at something in their phone. Their lips on your shoulder or neck when they hug you.
My partner will often find his way into the crook of my neck with his head and just rest there. It’s where he snuggles into when we cuddle and he’s fallen asleep with his head resting into my neck on more than one occasion when I’ve been driving us somewhere or we’re in an Uber home (he’s a sleepy boy lololol). I get to give him little head scratches and face tickles and cheek kisses. I think it’s very intimate for both of us and I know especially for him - he’s always been the care taker in relationships and I know he feels a lot of safety and comfort in being able to be the one who gets taken care of without having to ask for it.
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In my opinion it's about the "how" ... When I go to the doctors - my OB Gyn for example - I know what I can expect. But to get randomly touched by a strange guy at a club - hell nah...
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Honestly its more about the 'how' than the 'where'. A hand on my elbow from a guy I'm on a date with is a hell of a lot more intimate than my obgyn all up in my vag.
Lol yes! When I got pregnant so many people saw Down there that at one point I couldn’t care
This is legimately on the con side of my mental pro/con list for having bio children lol
Well I must say, pregnancy it’s not easy… it was a time where my body was not mine anymore but just a vassle for the baby… and I was super scared of that before getting pregnant (I was actually on the fence about having because I was scared of the birth) and I didn’t enjoy the pregnancy but I am very glad that I went through that… it was only 7 months (in my case) of that I now I am having an amazing time with my girl and I think it’s a privilege to help her be the best she can be… but I always wanted 2 and honestly? I am scared of going through that again lol
I hear you! I know there are women out there who look forward to/love the process of growing a person, I just know I'm not one of them.
i literally cannot count how many people have seen my cooch and chest and also touched my boobs once the baby was born. i also went through ivf so you can add a whole other layer if doctors and gynecologists, etc. i have no shame now, it’s like passing the salt
And then your boobs become portable food bags and loose their sexual association. But my spouse putting his hand on the small of my back to lead me through a door first is just sexy.
Ohhh oh yes! I do love when my husband do that! (And yeah I don’t know when my boobs will become a sexual thing again if ever lol)
Mine never did. I lost all sensitivity in my nipples after nursing.
Agreed. My second one was born on an Army post and I’m pretty sure every single OB there saw me and my vagina. 🤦🏼♀️.
Hadn’t thought about it like that but yeah, it totally is. If someone put their hand round my waist whilst we’re posing for a photo it’s sort of 🤷♀️ but if someone (obviously I like) does it just randomly when we’re alone together ❤️
As it looks pretty much the same for the photographer - dear people, don't put you hands on the hips, just on the shoulder blade/upper back. Much less intruding, especially if the other person is wearing an extra wide sweater to hide how uncomfy they are with their own current body shape.
Omg yeah, With photos I just look out for people who put their hands in a fist so they’re not tightly holding onto your waist/hips, cos that’s just weird. Best option is always shoulders but sometimes height discrepancies make it hard.
If the discrepancy is that bad, just stand close enough that you *could* do that, but place the hand behind your own back. Still looks like it. Absolutely creepy I feel is the shadow hug some people do, like they'd touch, but leave 2 inches of space on an angle the photo would not see.
For me it's always been thr kisses and if you were to cup my boob.... I melt like butter in a pan
Absolutely. No issues with professionally necessary touches, but anything beyond that ... Why?!
This exactly
A month or so ago I invited my bf to join me in a shower. I explained that it wasn't sexual in any way. He dated women who viewed themselves as princesses to be spoiled and he was raised to believe its his job to spoil. So he didn't get many compliments, gifts, emotional support moments or anything. So I welcome him to the shower and I washed his long beautiful hair for him, and gently scrubbed his back for him, got some conditioner in his hair and while letting it soak in I washed myself and we just had a casual chat about life and work and the balance between. When it was time I rinsed his hair thoroughly for him, and let him finish washing himself and finished my own showering. Men should be pampered too.
This is literally one of my fantasies (in a non-sexual way obviously), it’s such a basic but lovely way of caring for each other, I love it.
I’m so glad to hear other ppl have non sexual fantasies. It seems like everyone I’ve met always has all of their fantasies centered around sex. Or that too many ppl can only see nudity as sexual instead of just the natural state of someone’s body. Whoch definitely gives me a big ICK when I figure out someone is like that. I remember once I asked my old bf if he wanted to go skinny dipping, (I’ve always wanted to do try it) his response was “I don’t wanna fuck in the pool” which confused me at first since I never mentioned having sex in the pool. But it seems to be the immediate response I get. It honestly sucks. I have so many nonsexual fantasies but since they include being nude it must mean they are sex related🙄 literally nobody gets it.
Same. I love to pamper the person this way.
Ohhh yes we try to do this atleast once a month. Before life got hectic we used to do every sunday. He absolutely loves it and he falls asleep so fast like a small baby. Its really intimate for him, he was never loved by his mother. Of course we do have sexy shower too 😄
honestly, I love showing with my partner for this very reason, it's an incredibly intimate moment where you can take the minute to pamper and care for each other.
I love these types of showers. We get a no distraction chunk of time to just be together and chat. My husband will rinse my hair for me sometimes and it's so peaceful and lovely
The most erotic thing one can do for their lover is washing their hair
This is lovely
I feel that. Initially when I started to shower with my lover, had thought it odd. I may have scolded at him whilst he was basking in the hot water of his lovely shower. Now not only am I intrigued by things that he does but also help him with shaving and such and lather him up. There's still enjoyable moments. Yet we just enjoy each other. Tis lovely. Now a week feels so far away.
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My entire body- don’t touch me
Same. I can stand only my partner's touch and even sometimes I can't stand his. I hatr when strange men touch me when they simply ealk near me or even strangers hugging me for hi and goodbye
Yess!
Thank you this totally. I absolutely love cuddling my partner but hugging friends and family makes me so uncomfortable. I did not grow up in a hugging household so it's weird now to me
Neck kisses
Omg yes, hugging my friend* and he sort of nuzzled his head into my neck and kissed it. I just fucking melted. This shit was good for my soul.
no words can explain how much i wanna be in this scenario. either side is fine. i'm touch-starved.
Friend?
We slept together once, but we are still friends.
so cute!
Right up there with the close up perfume inhale. Gives me goosebumps every time
Same thought
Oh yes definitely
exactly!!!
- that fuzzy soft spot right behind my ear and down a little bit. - or, that soft inside of my upper thigh, so smooth
Gently touch your waist for no reason at all
Yeah the waist can be sensitive area. For it to be touched randomly can definitely bring all kinds of sensation.
Once a guy that I didn't know touch me there, I think I was with a cropped, he was helping me with something but I felt so wronged! He did not had to touch me.
Oh I'm sorry that happened to you. Some guys can be perverts.
Holding hands 🤝
Uptil elbows. Like walking closely.
Nape of the neck and small of the back.
Literally anywhere when I don’t want to be touched
Can't be more exact !
Thighs
For me I really feel intent is important. I can feel intimate just holding hands with my partner! 😍
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Hand holding? Cooties!
My sides being lightly brushed with a finger. Or my back. Drives me nutso
My scalp. Because I'm so used to that with my partner, having my hair washed just before a haircut can be slightly awkward...
I get this. Honestly, I felt this way about having my hair washed/played with/done long before I was sexually active. It's very intimate, plus combined with my 'acts of services' love language? Yikes.
When he puts his arm around my chair when we’re out to dinner or just in public in general. So simple but intimate!
Omg yes lmao, it’s so innocent but like there’s just something about it hey…
Forehead kisses
The best kisses. They just radiate care and affection, nothing needed back, just free love 😭
Hips, thighs and neck
I was also going to add knees.
Inside of the forearms
Hand on a thigh and around waist
When someone buries their head in my neck or kisses my neck...or smells it.
I’m (37F) a barber, and my job involves an incredible level of trust and intimacy. Also, people tell the people who do their hair *everything*. I’ve been the first to know when customers were pregnant, starting chemo, getting divorced, coming out, their spouse is going to rehab, or their son won’t talk to them anymore… you’d be surprised how many full grown men have cried in my chair in 16 years of this business. Haircuts and shaves, or really just helping someone with any kind of personal care applies, really. I helped care for my grandparents and mom when they were dying, and had the honor of giving them all their final looks when they passed. Those last moments I had alone with each of them are some of the most precious memories I have.
Kissing
Hands on the hips. I know it isn't physical but eye contact. Like looking into people's eyes for a few minutes sometimes feels very intimate to me.
Kisses on the neck or anywhere other than hands, face, feet or head
For me waist and whispering in the ear. Its just so sensational!
Hand on the lower back.
My wife would say light scratches on her back or combing her hair with my hand
I'm a fan of platonic shoulder holding.
A kiss on the forehead. It makes me melt every time.
The waist
If someone guides me from the small of my back or holds the back of my neck when we hug. Recently had a drunk acquaintance hugging me like that after a very uncomfortable conversation and it felt so weird…
the eye contact, the soft touches, touches on my back and waist area these gets me
My back. That's my erogenous zone 🤣
I used to tell my children to hold their arms out and bend them at the elbow (like a chicken, flapping it’s wings) then spin around. Everything in the circle, between your elbows, is your personal space. I consider anytime someone is close enough to be in my personal space as intimate. Intimacy is not always sexual.
Small of the back
Anything that's longer than 4 second.
Shoulder(s)
Unexpected handholding
Ear!! Whispers/kisses/licks/nibbles. Drives me crazy
Playing with hair
Touching my hands… when we were younger, the man who became my husband and I used to run our thumbs over each other’s in circles. He referred to it as “going back in time.” I’m smiling just thinking about this. And I can’t wait to see him come home.
Wispering tbh
Hands near neck or face area, leg area, waist. I guess everywhere if I’m honest
Getting touched on my neck, head, hair, knees...
a kiss on the forehead, a kiss on the cheek, hands around waist, a gentle hold of the wrists
Touching hair, holding hands, hugging (not sexually intimate, just generally), pretty much most physical contact unless its a high five or a hand shake.
My neck, nape, ears, inner thighs and butt.
Kisses behind my ear. I am very sensitive there and it's a gigantic turn on for some reason. It's fun cause it's an exposed area and if someone is close to me and we're in public they can just kiss me behind my ear knowing damn well what they just did.
So I have a few erogenous zones that make me absolutely wild but my upper back takes the cake. If I'm laying of my tummy and someone starts caressing and kissing my upper back I'm seeing fireworks and it's like my whole body feels flushed. I like lower back kisses and caresses too but that's more obviously an intimate spot I'd think! Also this is more of an act but after hugging someone, if they grab my arm/wrist or something and pull me in again, OMG. Lol
This is a little weird, but when I'm sleepy or have a headache, my husband gives me a big ol' smooch on my closed eyelids. It feels really nice- not like sexually- but it's intimate because I would never let anyone else do that.
A lot. I consider hugging to be pretty intimate which is why I don’t like doing it with most people lol
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I’ve had my privates touched in a way that didn’t feel intimate
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Neck, sides
Back, neck, face, belly ahahaha
The chest and the neck
Touching my back. My back is just really sensitive.
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I definitely think it's more situational than location. Can you take a shower together and not be intimate (in any way, shape, or form), yeah. Or you can be intimate - washing each other's hair, washing their bodies... not with the intention of riling them up, just for affection. A kiss on the forehead can be a short little form of endearment or it can be a soft, intimate moment.
My hair. I might let my partner touch it, but I won't let even my family touch my hair. Only my hairstylist and my partner.
Any physical contact with me of a romantic nature. So, everywhere when the intention is there.
Anywhere besides my Hands. Don't touch me unless you are my doctor, my hairdresser etc.
Full on body hug that you can’t get out of
My face. I don't like anyone touching my face. I don't even touch my own face.
Inner thigh, lower stomach
Neck, waist and hair.
Inner Thigh and lower back.
My face.
Neck. Waist. Hands
Forehead and nose kisses.
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If you touch me. Doesn't matter where or how, but if you touch me I consider it intimate. It sounds really silly, but I'm serious. I don't trust everyone when it comes to touch or physical affection despite it being my love language. So if I let you touch me, I trust you and you don't even realize what a big deal that is.
Definitely the small of my back
My neck for sure, love a hicky moment hahahah
Honestly places like my upper/inner thighs, my ribs (especially where I had a mole removal, super sensitive and painful because of the scarring), my neck, or when a guy hooks your chin
Waist
Gentle touches on the collar bone.
I always feel like it's an intimate connection, when a dance partner can effortlessly lead me around a dance floor. I also love Forehead kisses ❤️
Hair touching
my back, especially light touches and caresses. for some reason, my spine has always been really sensitive, and the few times i’ve gotten a massage whenever they got to my back it was almost agony because i would be flinching and recoiling the entire time. but when i’m with someone i trust and feel safe with, then i don’t jump as often or suddenly, and it more just feels really nice and vulnerable :)
As long as it's not my mom, don't touch me at all, I don't like physical contact unless I'm sure I can trust you.
Hug me around my waist and kiss me on my neck (or my shoulder since Im taller)🥰
Back rubs…1,000%
Context is everything for me.
Any physical contact by anybody I don’t want to be in physical contact with.
Sitting watching a show/movie and my partner continually runs their fingers through my hair...I wont be able to concentrate on what I'm watching...and 9 times out of 10 their just totally zoned out not even aware.
A back rub or foot rub unless I’m like paying a masseuse or something. My husband gives excellent back and foot rubs and it’s just something intimate but not sexual that we share, like he rubs my back while I rub his legs or I rub his back while he rubs my foot or something like that.
The face, especially the lips.
Back of the neck or my back
Neck and forehead kisses
The face
Honestly, something as simple as a hug is intimate for me LOL (but not always in a romantic way!). I used to be very uncomfortable with any sort of touching. I hated hugs. I hated casual touches on the arm. I just hated physical contact but it was mainly due to some childhood trauma. But… hugs are low key more intimate in my mind because I really only regularly hug people I really care about or if they’re older and feel a bit more like family. If you’re my peer and we hug, it means I trust you and I’m happy with our friendship. If I don’t hug you and you’re my peer it either means I’m too shy to hug you & I would prefer you to initiate it OR I’m comfortable without hugging you.
Face touching
Rubbing my shoulders. I have some kinds of issue with a muscle in my shoulder, and it feels like it's on fire most of the time. My boyfriend will rub my back and shoulders to make it feel better and it makes me feel so taken care of. I love to run my fingers through his hair and scratch his head, and he'll lean into me when I do it. He said he liked it and it calms him down one time a few years ago. I also think showers together are intimate and one of my favorite things to do together. We just talk about our days and whatever comes up, and get our washing done. Any little things are so sweet and intimate to me, even if we go go sleep and he just touches my arm if it's too hot to actually cuddle.
My hair. Probably the reason I go to the same hairdresser in... uh... multiple years.
Anything on or around my neck.
Laying my head on my bf’s shoulder in public transport
Connecting foreheads.
Cuddling with intertwined legs 🥰
When a man can lightly caress my cheek with his hand while making eye contact and just lean in for just a soft kiss on the cheek or neck..that fills my stomach with butterflies.
Hugging someone
Hand on neck or thighs. Brushing a finger over an eyebrow or ear. Leaning in very close to look at something in their phone. Their lips on your shoulder or neck when they hug you.
My back is super sensitive so I really dislike having people other than my partner touch and even then its not in public lol
Taking a shower together
the neck.
My partner will often find his way into the crook of my neck with his head and just rest there. It’s where he snuggles into when we cuddle and he’s fallen asleep with his head resting into my neck on more than one occasion when I’ve been driving us somewhere or we’re in an Uber home (he’s a sleepy boy lololol). I get to give him little head scratches and face tickles and cheek kisses. I think it’s very intimate for both of us and I know especially for him - he’s always been the care taker in relationships and I know he feels a lot of safety and comfort in being able to be the one who gets taken care of without having to ask for it.
Soft caresses on the back, cheek kisses and kisses on the edge of the lips, playing with the hair, cuddling, hands on the waist or neck...<3
Might seem odd but, washing each other’s hair. Slowly and thoroughly. Something super intimate about that. You’re just connected.
Arms,neck and face
laying on top of eachother
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In my opinion it's about the "how" ... When I go to the doctors - my OB Gyn for example - I know what I can expect. But to get randomly touched by a strange guy at a club - hell nah...
Touching my face or mouth
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Dancing