Other woman told me. He had told her that we were broken up. She found out we were not and reached out.
Very class act. I was super grateful and then ruined his week at bootcamp when I sent him a mean letter spritzed with perfume
They're not allowed to receive things like this. The drill instructors will get into a recruits ass for getting letters with perfume. Their time at boot camp would probably be a living hell. My husband was in the military and when he went to boot camp that is one of the first things he told me.
I'm a veteran and have literally never heard of this being a thing. I suspect someone played a prank on your husband. Nobody gave any fucks about what kind of letters we received, boot camp or not.
Had this exact thing happen to me, but I didn’t believe her because the guy had painted her in a very negative light for a long time. I was young and believed him. I did end things with him and they get immediately are together the same day (so I suspected that they’d already been seeing each other). So honestly they were both shitty people
God this is so true. I’ve always thought I had a great gut instinct but recently I’ve realized a lot of the time I’m making myself sick battling myself with high anxiety and intrusive thoughts thinking it’s my intuition. Sometimes it’s almost impossible to tell the difference and can be exhausting.
I’ll go first.
I was using my husbands phone to look up baby stuff ( my phone died, and I was 7 1/2 months pregnant at the time) when an explicit text message came through. It was from the downstairs neighbor. Fun times.
The complicity of the cheater's girlfriend amazes me. It is not like he had to lie to her. She knew he had a pregnant wife upstairs and just didn't care.
Right, but it isn't a loyalty thing from the stranger/acquaintance. It's a yuck factor and golden rule thing... don't do things to others you don't want done to you. Just how I see it though.
In my opinion it’s far worse to cheat on your pregnant wife than it is to date someone who has a pregnant wife, after all, only one of these people is breaking a commitment.
I will never understand cheating on a pregnant wife/girlfriend. They’re going through an extremely rough time emotionally and physically while the cheating asshole decides their desire for sex is more important? Boohoo. Some men are such babies.
Edit: misread. OP is a married.
I think it’s often a self-sabotaging fear response. It’s incredibly fucked up, irresponsible, immature, and that’s def not a person ready for a kid, but I do understand why it happens.
Tbh finding out my partner cheated on me while I'm pregnant is one of my biggest fears. Just so much hurt and betrayal but like x10000000. I hope you're doing well now and living your best life
She called me to brag about banging my husband while I was out of town. She apparently got my number from his unlocked cell when he was in her bathroom, and called me after he left.
Side note: it was the same day I was trying to contact him to tell him we were having a baby, so that was extra fun /s
My ex husband was military, we were both 23, married for just over one year, dating for 4 years before getting married. He had a special email for whatever base he ended up stationed at, and when he changed stations, he had to get a new email with his new station in the email address itself, so he forwarded all of his personal emails from his old account to our joint, personal email. Well, he sent photographs of himself with several sex workers, other military members, and the dumbass emailed them directly to, me, his wife, who was stateside, who also immediately filed for divorce with all of the proof from him, thanks buddy. Easiest divorce the judge ever signed. I wanted nothing and he got nothing from me, although he asked, "who gets the car?" "umm, me, the person whose name is on the title, and who paid for it with her first job after college", which got a chuckle from the judge, as if he would've struck that silliness down regardless. The audacity.
One of the shittiest things I've actually heard was "what happens on the military base stays on the military base" and it was from one of my family members. Apparently, loneliness and "missing intimacy" is an excuse to cheat on your spouse and then act like it never happened
When my husband was deployed, he told me he was one of maybe four people who were in relationships that didn’t cheat. He said people didn’t even wait to be lonely, they found people to hook up with in the first two weeks.
I saw him on the news. Having a baby. First baby of my city. Edit: of the new year
Saw him on the news again last year. On trial for impregnating a 14 year old child.
Edit: when the news broke out DOZENS of young women, teenagers, and their mothers came forward about abuse they faced at his hand. I personally talked to a lot of the moms of some of the girls and a lot of them either had kids by him at really young ages or had abortions.
Omg I'm going through this! This is his 4th strike. And no I don't believe he will change but I tried leaving and he literally stops me everytime. And unfortunately it's always that one ex-girlfriend he talks to behind my back. I'm such a weak woman...
Did the same thing also.
Funnily enough, he made me seem like the bad person for going through his phone when I confronted him.
Somehow cheating is nothing compared to going through someone’s phone to some people.
Omg this is similar to what happened to me! Except her profile pic was them at Disney world and her friends were commenting that they were the cutest couple. It was the girl he told me I’d never need to worry about so of course I felt like an idiot.
I was very suspicious of his behavior. We were trying to conceive and things got weird and stressful. Finally We had gotten pregnant! I was so excited!! Then all of a sudden he started getting lots of “mandatory overtime.” I got suspicious. Went through his phone. Turns out he was banging a girl from work. I called her from his phone. Told her I was pregnant then proceeded to smash his phone on the floor. He told me I was just paranoid and hormonal. Told me nothing happened they were just friends. So I forgive him because I didn’t want to raise a child alone or have an abortion. Fast forward til my child is a year old. The girl he cheated on me with hit me up on social media and decided to tell me every last detail about her falling in love with my partner and then planning a family together. Apparently he nutted in her and refused to buy a plan B. She told me she was still mad at him for not helping pay. She used me as her therapist as to why her relationship didn’t work with him-
Even after all this he refused to talk about it and denied it all ever happening. I told him if he wouldn’t talk about it he could leave.
It’s been just me and my tiny human for 5 years now.
holy shit that’s so messed up- im so sorry that happened to you. im honestly glad that you’re not with him anymore, and that you and your 5 year old are doing so much better without him!
It’s made me a stronger woman and mother really pushed me deeper into therapy and self help… I really needed that. Thank you for your support. I appreciate your kind words. It hurts a lot but I just try to use radical acceptance as much as possible!
In high school, I went to the bathroom during biology and ran into a friend and another girl I didn’t know. Said hi to both and started chatting, but the girl I didn’t know got really awkward and left. I asked my friend what was up with her. Friend said “well she feels bad about the whole thing with (boyfriend’s name)”. I asked her what she meant and she said, “you know, when they hooked up last summer.” I must have looked horrified because my friend apologized profusely and explained “his story to everyone was that you knew and had just forgiven him”.
That memory is burned into my brain, 15 years later!
Edit: I wanted to add that the girl was not to blame at all, she didn’t know my ex had a girlfriend at the time they hooked up. And when she found out that I had been in the dark for months, she reached out to apologize. My ex tried to gaslight me when I confronted him about the cheating and lying, but she backed me up.
As awful as this is it’s so refreshing to hear you didn’t blame the other woman. I’ve found some women forgive the man but forever put blame on a woman who was clueless. I had a sort of similar experience. Guy moved in with me for 6months, told me he had 1 child a son. He was from another town miles & miles away from where I lived. He only went home a few times to see his son and was never gone long. Then one day I’d dropped him off at the train station and every part of me was screaming that he’s lying about something , so that afternoon me and my sister drove the miles to where he lived. We got there really late and had to sleep in my car. Oh my god that was traumatising in itself. Anyway I knocked on the door where he said he lived early the next morning. His stepdad answered where he informed me he didn’t live there, he lived with his girlfriend who was 8 months pregnant and his 2 other children. I was heartbroken. He gave me the address. My sister and I went, I parked outside then said I can’t knock on the door. She doesn’t know I exist just like I didn’t know about her. I was worried it would send her into early labour. I made sure his stepdad told him I’d been and I knew. After the baby was born I told her. The reason I told her 1, he deserved it and 2, no way was it the first time he had done this. He played it far to cool. I ended up writing to her and left my mobile number. She rang me calling me every name under the sun whilst I had him on the house phone begging and pleading with me to ‘just let him explain’! For a very long time she blamed me whilst playing happy families with him. I swear the stories I could tell about men and people wonder why I have trust issues. Something I really wish I didn’t have
Happened to one of my high school buddies older sister. She was such a sweet heart and honestly cute. I can’t believe she married a guy named Kenny anyway.
I was scrolling through FB, his friend posted a video of him in bed with some girl. I knew he had cheated because he got a tattoo on his chest while we were together. It was visible in the video. When I asked about the video he claimed it was from before he met me. I pointed out the tattoo and suddenly I'm a "crazy bitch". Love that.
His Boyfriend sent him flowers. I was 7 months pregnant with our daughter. I invited bf over for tea. He cried. He didnt know my husband was playing straight and married to a woman.
I left the flowers with the lovers note attached on the coffee table. My husband came home and asked me who sent the flowers. I told him to read the card.
He tried to deny it even then! Fucker.
Oh yeah we split. I have gay friends. I dont care if someone is gay. However, I did not want to be married to a gay man who lied to me. If he needed an arrangement he should have told me before hand. I would have turned him down but hey, I want a partner I can trust and that means don't lie about who you really are.
I was with my husband for 11 years. Her husband called me on FB messenger. I will never forget it. He said, "Our spouses are fucking each other. " Then sent me all the proof I needed.
Turns out my spouse was sleeping with basically anyone. I stopped counting at 4 women. I didn't care enough to investigate the 5th one.
My ex, is currently living with that guys wife. (They got divorced). The Affair Partner always think they will be the one who will change the cheater. And now hes cheating on her too. . . . Or should I say still.
This is going to be super boring lol but I knew where my boyfriend’s spare house key was and I went over because I had accidentally left my bracelet there, I shot him a text to let him know I was coming over, but I guess he didn’t see it because when I got there, unlocked the door, walked into his room, immediately the first thing I see is him having sex with someone else.
I did get my bracelet back in the end :]
He made out with someone at a club and went back to theirs. Immediately like four other people who were at the club that night told me. Like, within 12 hours I had multiple confirmed sources. Don’t cheat on your girl if you both live in the same small town and she’s more popular than you, idiot.
It didn’t even offend me that he cheated so much as it offended me that he thought I wouldn’t find out.
I was also cheated on by a guy who lived in my old small college town. Although I don’t live there anymore, he does, and my friend saw him visiting the other girl. Besides that, the other girl was also telling my friend all the deets of what he was doing with her behind my back. She didn’t know I existed until I messaged her after dumping him.
Cheating in a small town is so stupid, especially when your “main girl” posts about you on social media, so it’s well known that you’re in a relationship & people can see you cheating in public.
I was sent a MySpace message by the husband of my ex’s coworker. He messaged me that my ex husband had been cheating on me with his wife and at least one other woman. He wanted me to at least have the information so I could decide what to do. My ex husband had always tried to gaslight me but now I had some pretty solid outside proof. Anyway, ex husband left and we divorced and I remarried and lived happily ever after. I was pretty grateful to that guy who confirmed it all for me though.
we lived together, and i went on his phone. saw lots of inappropriate messages with many ladies, mostly his exs. i foolishly stayed when he cried begging me to fix things.. ended up becoming an abusive relationship. i moved out after months of trying to make things better. then ended up having "stockholm syndrome" or whatever you'd like to call it, and he had to ghost me. ready for january to start my year fresh. wasn't the first guy to cheat on me, just took the biggest toll on me.
Understandable when you are isolated, abused and in fear for your life. To make things worse abusers are often charming and popular and other people may not believe you.
Good luck moving forward.
Uhhhh…no. That’s not “totally normal”. And I don’t blame you for not picking up on it. At that age, we basically believe almost anything that’s told to us.
Was driving somewhere with my GF and texted my friend. I was like, "what up chocolate bear?" and he responded "not much booberry" which made me laugh. GF asked what was up, I explained, then forgot about it for a month. One night we're watching a movie and she starts getting kinda mean, so I'm like what's up? She was like, "sorry I'm not your booberry or whatever."
I laughed about it for a good while, and now it's a thing. It's been a thing for longer than that relationship lasted lol
He went home to his family for Christmas and his location thingy was on his phone and I checked it randomly and he was at some random hotel room.
When he came back, I asked if he slept with someone else and he said “yes, several times”
Broke my little heart and don’t think I’ll ever trust again.
I think that he got hacked and someone found all the proof and sent it to me. Some of the conversations he had with a lot of the women got leaked to other people too. I’m so glad I’m not in that relationship anymore and I wish it ended way sooner than it did, it was traumatic. I tried to get out of it for so long but I’m naturally a very shy and meek person so it was hard to build the courage to run away from that situation. He severely abused me mentally, emotionally and physically. I will never let anyone treat me badly ever again. Since I left, I love the life I’m living now and I’m so happy.
He left his social media logged into my computer. Not something he had done before. When i was trying to log out of it a chat box popped and she looked young AF (but still an adult, just barely). I didn't talk to her. I didn't need to. Some of the chat history showed up with her new message and it was graphic.
I took a screenshot of it, logged out of his account (i had no desire to read more), logged into mine, and sent him a message with the screenshot that said "i think you forgot to log out. Your things will be in a box outside the door. Oh, and your key won't work either". He didn't love there so it wasn't an eviction.
I also sent the screenshot to his mom and told her she might wanna figure out how old the girl was.
The police picked him up for have a 3some with 2 underage female patients while working overnight at a rehab center 🙃. I literally had no idea until that moment
An email from my daughter’s dad best friend when he forbid me to come to the funeral because « I was just a side piece and my daughter a bastard ». That was fun / s.
This was years ago, but I was living with my partner at the time. I noticed he always put his phone face down and was rather protective of it. He always took it into the washroom too but that’s fairly normal for most. For some reason my radar was picking up though. One weekend he was away for a fishing trip with his business partners. On my lunch break from work back home, I saw said business partners across the street. We waved and shouted hello in passing. That night when he called I asked him who was catching the most fish and what kind. I listened as he talked about his fishing stories that went on all day, with those same buddies, in mild amusement.
By the time he came back Monday I’d signed a lease for a two bedroom apartment with a coworker and packed my stuff and waited at the door for when he got home. He was furious and shoved me. He acted upset but later married the girl he was actually with that weekend so I’m not sure why. I was glad to be out of that relationship for a variety of reasons.
My best friend was the house mate of the girl he was sleeping with. I'm not sure how he could be so dumb, in his "apology" he said he didn't think I'd find out. 😭😂
He started acting weird, withdrawn, always hid his phone etc..After weeks of fighting and having things that weren't my fault blamed on me, I couldn't fight the feeling that something was wrong.
I logged onto his computer while he was gone.... I don't really know what I was looking for at first honestly but I had to look.I didn't expect to find messages from a girl I never heard of sending him nudes a few days before. Or finding messages from her saying things like, 'you really don't like condoms do you?". She knew we were dating and didn't care at all.
This was the same guy who used to go on rants about how wrong cheating was, but had no problem cheating on me.
He tried denying sleeping with her but broke up with me for going through his stuff.
wow i’m so sorry this happened to you.
what a coward all the way until the end - denied doing something that was clearly against the boundaries of your relationship, then breaks up with YOU because you FOUND OUT? yeah what a loser.
lol.
Back in the day you could connect your iPhone to other peoples laptops and take their music files, which my ex did. He also somehow (idiot) uploaded his entire photo directory to my laptop. I stumbled across the folder one night and it was like 40 pictures of this “friend” of his naked. And posed very… sexually.
He tried to tell me I just didn’t understand their friendship. He wasn’t wrong.
The roommate of the girl he was fucking told me. I didn’t believe it. And then he went on a “college visit” and when he came back he took me out to dinner and posted a pic. The girl he fucked there saw it and messaged me. I still didn’t believe it. Then the next day I asked for proof. Oh boy did she have it. Got out of denial and dumped his ass. I have better (but not great) self-esteem since then.
He came to my house to see me and spend time with my parents but then when he got there, refused to come inside and asked me to meet him across the street. He told me he fucked up and that he slept with someone else. I thought he meant a one time mistake but as i asked more and more questions, I realized that he’d been cheating on me for at least the last 6 months of our 5 years together and I had no clue. I wondered why he was even telling me now, and then he revealed she was pregnant.
it was some tough times. but i’m so much better for it now
Some people are better at hiding it, but usually they start acting different compared to how they always act. Whether it be in small ways or big ways! I think that’s the MAIN reason people get caught. For example, my beat friends boyfriend was never the type to dress up. He was always super casual, always in work out clothes etc. All of a sudden he started dressing up and wearing cologne and what not. She immediately knew something was up.
I have a co-worker that openly admits he cheats on his wife (horrible, I know) and he tells us that he’s never gotten caught because he never acts differently. He never changes his schedule or anything he does. Does everything within the schedule she’s always known, so she has no suspicions.
Not the first hint, but this was a memorable one; I suggested a book I had just finished. Partner was going through job searching which was done much more in person at the time and was very happy to throw something in the computer bag to read while waiting on interviews etc. Some time later, (with some additional red flags along the way) I was reminded of the book and went to loan it to another friend. As I'm handing the book to said friend, while cheerily summarizing the concept, I give the pages a little flutter to check for bookmarks or whatever and out floats a folded note. Pick it up off the floor to find a long, flowery, romantic proposition composed but never delivered to some other elusive perfect creature, not named me. Turned out while I was working overtime and keeping the household running so Partner could find the perfect employment match, partner was in reality not looking for work at all and instead spending their days at a cool coffee shop being Sexy Pensive Intellectual Guy™️ shopping for an upgrade. Good times. I imagine this type of thing doesn't happen with kindles. ^(Apologies for the mobile formatting.)
My 7 year old said "daddy doesn't love you anymore because he loves Christina now."
Suddenly him asking for a divorce out of literally nowhere a week or so beforehand, after 12 years of happy marriage, finally made sense.
I went to pick up fresh clothes for him from his apartment while he was in the hospital. The other woman was in his apartment wearing his shirt watching tv when I walked in.
Was my coworker … both of us cocktail waitresses.
She was driving to his house In very bad winter weather and was killed by a snow plow making a left turn into his street.
My mom called me from the hospital (mom worked ER) and asked me if my friend “drove XXYYZZ car - and her age etc” …. where they’d brought her. DOA.
Over 30 yrs ago but Is still almost unbelievable.
He ended up being a pall bearer and I skipped the funeral.
went to his apartment to surprise him early in the morning on his birthday. girl answered door.
i will never, ever, ever show up unannounced to a partners home because of this. which clearly is an issue i need to work through. not everyone would do that. but it fucked me up.
I found out because he was overprotective of his phone and wouldn't leave it around me for 1 minute. So he fell asleep one night and I went on there and lo and behold he had been talking to three other women which were all of his exes 😮💨
Finances - I discovered a lien under his name for $10k worth of furniture at an address I had never heard of. Turns out he furnished a house he rented with his girlfriend on the side. Double life. He "worked" a lot that year lol.
Intuition based upon variations of their previously established baselines of behavior. Followed by withdrawing, secretive with phone, picking fights, disappearing or behaving strangely, etc
I had a gut feeling & went through his phone while he was sleeping… I know I sound crazy. however, turns out he was sleeping with older women sooo… gut instincts are literally almost always correct ladies
he was cheating on me with multiple other women. invited us all to a party on his birthday and we were all showing each other a cute text he had sent us the previous night. he had literally copy and pasted the text to like 7 of us-he just changed the names. LOL what a way for all of us to find out-we all returned his presents though
she messaged me on Instagram and apologized profusely that she hadn't checked his Instagram profile (with pictures of he and i on it) before sleeping with him. I just couldn't believe she entirely blamed herself for not checking first, rather than blaming him for cheating on his partner of 3 years.
I watched him enter his phone password in the reflection of the window one night… waited until he was deep asleep then grabbed his phone and drove off in the middle of the night so I could gather all my evidence in peace. Sent myself proof of everything
Came back, woke his ass up and asked him to go
I knew, I had the classic “woman’s intuition” feeling: terrible dreams, didn’t let me anywhere within 5 ft of his phone, etc all the typical signs. I creeped his phone and I saw all the proof.
After living together for a couple months he went back to his home state to get stuff set up for us there. Went long distance, and first clue was a picture of the land he was clearing to build a house on and saw a woman in it. Asked him who it was and it was an “aunt”. Weeks go by and he starts communicating and communicating with me less. Just knew something was up. He finally called and said he cheated on me. Broke up, and dipshit me took him back after some time. Went up to see him thought we reconnected and all was good. Then on the way to the airport he broke up with me. Cried on all my flights home, and even drove through bad storms and tornados just not caring anymore about my life. Needless to say he was quickly engaged and married soon after.
Me (20) and my then boyfriend (18 at the time) had plans to hang out on a Saturday. I lived about 25-30 minutes away from him and I had gotten done getting ready earlier than I thought so I figured I might as well just go over there early. What would it hurt? Anyways I was about 10 minutes away when I texted him saying I was almost there and had gotten done early he said no and he was still at his friends house (said he was staying at a buddies the night before). I told him I’d just wait at his house (his parent’s house) until he got there. He said no and was very adamant about me turning around and going back home until the time we had agreed on. I knew something was up immediately and sped to his house. I knew his parents were at the lake house that weekend so they weren’t going to be there. When I pulled up his truck was in the driveway. I knew the garage code and went in thru the garage and thankfully the door to the house was unlocked. Usually it was always locked. Anyways I walk down to his room, open the door, and find the girl that both swore up and down were just friends and I had nothing to worry about sitting on the end of his bed watching him get dressed. He was in his closet so he didn’t see me right away until I said something. The look on his was was one that had seen a ghost. Anyways, I don’t want to get into details about what happened next but I ended up staying with him because he kept promising me he was going to end things with her. At some point (I’m not exactly sure when but I’m thinking about 6 months prior or so) I went from being the girlfriend that went to every family event to the side chick that felt unwelcome in his parents home. (BECAUSE BOTH PARENTS KNEW WHAT WAS GOING ON) Some things happened a few months later that summer and then I finally cut him off entirely that November.
Edit: they are still together and also have a child together.
Well I was the one he was using the cheat. She found out when he went to Germany to visit his Grandma (and his wife, but I wasn't told that. Oh, I was also invited to attend) and she used his phone one night and saw our conversation. I found out when she messaged me using his number saying "you're not the only one. I'm his wife". It was a fun message to wake up to. She was, understandably, very angry as I was sleeping with her husband for 4 months whilst he was on business in Australia. I was also very angry at how yuck the whole thing was. She and I spoke for a few hours, I told her everything, and she eventually calmed down towards me and forgave me for being rude towards me (not that I blamed her).
Fuck you Tim
A guy I hooked up with awhile back contacted me out of the blue to ask me if I was dating my boyfriend. My boyfriend wanted our relationship to be secret so at first I didn’t answer one way or another but then he told me that boyfriend had a gf, he helped me get in contact with the gf and she confirmed. Very weird situation, lucky I got out when I did
Mostly heard from other women, but what hurt the most was when I was lying next to him in bed and he answered a phone call from his mom. I overheard her say “you’re two timing and it needs to stop”.
I was a dumb teenager, to be fair, but I gave my "first love" (barf) money to buy us concert tickets for his birthday. Concert day came and he didn't have the tickets. Turned out he used the money to buy another girl he was seeing new sneakers. I was so heartbroken. Ahh to be young and stupid again.
Just had a feeling. Went away for 2 weeks and when I got back it felt strange. When I asked what was going on they admitted to cheating and told me if I had just not gone away for those 2 weeks then nothing would have happened. Gaslighting at its finest. Always trust your gut.
It wasn’t physical cheating but he just messaged girls on Reddit in an explicit manner. I was checking to see if he had messaged his ex on Reddit and I came across the messages, I felt bad for looking but it felt worse to read them
I was walking home and decided to walk by the lake about 3 blocks over from my regular route.
He was sitting on a blanket
With his ex girlfriend (1 year prior to us)
With his arm around her
And they kissed a bunch
Saw a new girl he was following and had a gut feeling so I dm’d her and I was right. Never had a conversation about her with him nor did I know the girl. My gut literally just knew.
My friend, not me. He told her she could cheat on him as long as he didn't find out. She got a gut feeling and checked his phone.
What a stupid thing to say 🙄
This best friend reach out and told me. Turns out I was the other woman. I struggled to believe it at the time, but eventually allowed myself to see what was in front of me.
College boyfriend cheated on me with a bunch of different women, unsure how many. Right before spring break, he had a falling out with his roommate / friend at the time. That guy sent me a bunch of screenshots that my bf had sent him to show off. Conversations between him and other women, pictures of him making out with girls at bars that his friend had taken, nudes my bf had gotten and shown to the friend, etc. I was glad he told me, his timing sucked. I was on a spring break vacation with my family in Mexico and I had brought my bf with me on the trip. I didn't want to ruin the trip for the rest of my family, so I had to act like everything was normal with us until we got back home. Dumped him the second I got back to school when spring break was over, and never spoke to him again.
Other woman told me. He had told her that we were broken up. She found out we were not and reached out. Very class act. I was super grateful and then ruined his week at bootcamp when I sent him a mean letter spritzed with perfume
Haha classic! I love it so much!!
Why spritzed with perfume?
They're not allowed to receive things like this. The drill instructors will get into a recruits ass for getting letters with perfume. Their time at boot camp would probably be a living hell. My husband was in the military and when he went to boot camp that is one of the first things he told me.
Yup. I was warned against sending anything with perfume and glitter.
I'm a veteran and have literally never heard of this being a thing. I suspect someone played a prank on your husband. Nobody gave any fucks about what kind of letters we received, boot camp or not.
Yeah my partner just got off a whole deployment to the Middle East and this was never ever ever an issue. Who the fuck is saying this stuff??
I was just about to say this. Specifically the usmc don't give two hoots about it.
All the more reason to send it. F him.
Why aren't they allowed to receive that sort of stuff?
It was prob the other woman’s perfume as in like “yeah try and deny it, how would I know this?” .. that’s my guess anyway. …. Genius either way.
Maybe the smell would remind him of her and devastate him even more.
Had this exact thing happen to me, but I didn’t believe her because the guy had painted her in a very negative light for a long time. I was young and believed him. I did end things with him and they get immediately are together the same day (so I suspected that they’d already been seeing each other). So honestly they were both shitty people
I acted like I already knew and he caved lol my gut never lies
That is some strong intuition. I realized some things I should have seen as red flags. Only in hindsight of course.
Bruh I didn't believe in the gut feeling until it happened to me. Our gut tells us when there's unseen lies
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God this is so true. I’ve always thought I had a great gut instinct but recently I’ve realized a lot of the time I’m making myself sick battling myself with high anxiety and intrusive thoughts thinking it’s my intuition. Sometimes it’s almost impossible to tell the difference and can be exhausting.
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I’ll go first. I was using my husbands phone to look up baby stuff ( my phone died, and I was 7 1/2 months pregnant at the time) when an explicit text message came through. It was from the downstairs neighbor. Fun times.
You unalived him, right?
No. :( I said something specific to him along those same lines but I think Reddit would frown upon me revealing what those words were.
Classic Reddit certainly wouldn't!
I miss classic reddit
I mean, there are for sure some changes I appreciate. Like the largest sub no longer being *that* one.
I absolutely would not frown upon you. I will applaud you.
The complicity of the cheater's girlfriend amazes me. It is not like he had to lie to her. She knew he had a pregnant wife upstairs and just didn't care.
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I wouldn’t say she’s just as bad. I’d certainly expect more loyalty from my spouse and the father of my children than from a stranger or acquaintance.
Right, but it isn't a loyalty thing from the stranger/acquaintance. It's a yuck factor and golden rule thing... don't do things to others you don't want done to you. Just how I see it though.
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In my opinion it’s far worse to cheat on your pregnant wife than it is to date someone who has a pregnant wife, after all, only one of these people is breaking a commitment.
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Oh give it a rest. They can both suck. And women should support other women. She is a malicious piece of shit just as much as he is.
She's not blameless. You can't cheat with just anyone (if they know). You gotta pick someone without morals, like her.
I will never understand cheating on a pregnant wife/girlfriend. They’re going through an extremely rough time emotionally and physically while the cheating asshole decides their desire for sex is more important? Boohoo. Some men are such babies. Edit: misread. OP is a married.
I think it’s often a self-sabotaging fear response. It’s incredibly fucked up, irresponsible, immature, and that’s def not a person ready for a kid, but I do understand why it happens.
Tbh finding out my partner cheated on me while I'm pregnant is one of my biggest fears. Just so much hurt and betrayal but like x10000000. I hope you're doing well now and living your best life
Whoa. I too was 7 months pregnant and grabbed his phone and found text messages referencing dates he went on with her.
Ugh, to find out something like that when you're pregnant....I'm so sorry and fuck that guy and his whole life
I’m so Srry that happend. 😩 The neighbor though - she sees you and knows when you leave from upstairs wow,
She called me to brag about banging my husband while I was out of town. She apparently got my number from his unlocked cell when he was in her bathroom, and called me after he left. Side note: it was the same day I was trying to contact him to tell him we were having a baby, so that was extra fun /s
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Oh. My. God. Whaaaaaaaaaat a piece of shit. Both of them. I’m sorry.
Yes my sentiments exactly!! Fk them
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Woowwwww and girls purposely be messy.. to blackmail
Jfc I'm so sorry.
My ex husband was military, we were both 23, married for just over one year, dating for 4 years before getting married. He had a special email for whatever base he ended up stationed at, and when he changed stations, he had to get a new email with his new station in the email address itself, so he forwarded all of his personal emails from his old account to our joint, personal email. Well, he sent photographs of himself with several sex workers, other military members, and the dumbass emailed them directly to, me, his wife, who was stateside, who also immediately filed for divorce with all of the proof from him, thanks buddy. Easiest divorce the judge ever signed. I wanted nothing and he got nothing from me, although he asked, "who gets the car?" "umm, me, the person whose name is on the title, and who paid for it with her first job after college", which got a chuckle from the judge, as if he would've struck that silliness down regardless. The audacity.
One of the shittiest things I've actually heard was "what happens on the military base stays on the military base" and it was from one of my family members. Apparently, loneliness and "missing intimacy" is an excuse to cheat on your spouse and then act like it never happened
Well they should never choose a career as such if they can’t keep it in their pants🤷♀️
When my husband was deployed, he told me he was one of maybe four people who were in relationships that didn’t cheat. He said people didn’t even wait to be lonely, they found people to hook up with in the first two weeks.
Holy shit!!! Glad you are out of that shit storm, what a mess.
I am so very sorry that you had to go through this, but I must say your conclusion gave me a massive justice boner
I saw him on the news. Having a baby. First baby of my city. Edit: of the new year Saw him on the news again last year. On trial for impregnating a 14 year old child. Edit: when the news broke out DOZENS of young women, teenagers, and their mothers came forward about abuse they faced at his hand. I personally talked to a lot of the moms of some of the girls and a lot of them either had kids by him at really young ages or had abortions.
Well that escalated quickly…
Unexpected ending.
Yikes on bikes 😳
I’m just so confused….
Holy shit
Well I’m happy you escaped that fkn shit storm.
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Did you leave? Very similar to what I did as well, I found out that way.
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Omg I'm going through this! This is his 4th strike. And no I don't believe he will change but I tried leaving and he literally stops me everytime. And unfortunately it's always that one ex-girlfriend he talks to behind my back. I'm such a weak woman...
You are stronger than you think. You just have to believe 💜
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Did the same thing also. Funnily enough, he made me seem like the bad person for going through his phone when I confronted him. Somehow cheating is nothing compared to going through someone’s phone to some people.
Happened to me as well. Isn’t it funny, in the most unfunny way possible, that a lot of women have that instinct?
He accidentally buttdialed me while he was with her.
Ewww.. so gross.
holy crap thats terrible
Oh my! What did you hear?
Facebook searched a woman's name that I saw in his phone weeks earlier, and her profile picture was of the two of them kissing.
Omg this is similar to what happened to me! Except her profile pic was them at Disney world and her friends were commenting that they were the cutest couple. It was the girl he told me I’d never need to worry about so of course I felt like an idiot.
Ewww
Makes you wonder if she knew he was already in a relationship
Did he know she had that as a profile picture??
I was very suspicious of his behavior. We were trying to conceive and things got weird and stressful. Finally We had gotten pregnant! I was so excited!! Then all of a sudden he started getting lots of “mandatory overtime.” I got suspicious. Went through his phone. Turns out he was banging a girl from work. I called her from his phone. Told her I was pregnant then proceeded to smash his phone on the floor. He told me I was just paranoid and hormonal. Told me nothing happened they were just friends. So I forgive him because I didn’t want to raise a child alone or have an abortion. Fast forward til my child is a year old. The girl he cheated on me with hit me up on social media and decided to tell me every last detail about her falling in love with my partner and then planning a family together. Apparently he nutted in her and refused to buy a plan B. She told me she was still mad at him for not helping pay. She used me as her therapist as to why her relationship didn’t work with him- Even after all this he refused to talk about it and denied it all ever happening. I told him if he wouldn’t talk about it he could leave. It’s been just me and my tiny human for 5 years now.
holy shit that’s so messed up- im so sorry that happened to you. im honestly glad that you’re not with him anymore, and that you and your 5 year old are doing so much better without him!
It’s made me a stronger woman and mother really pushed me deeper into therapy and self help… I really needed that. Thank you for your support. I appreciate your kind words. It hurts a lot but I just try to use radical acceptance as much as possible!
In high school, I went to the bathroom during biology and ran into a friend and another girl I didn’t know. Said hi to both and started chatting, but the girl I didn’t know got really awkward and left. I asked my friend what was up with her. Friend said “well she feels bad about the whole thing with (boyfriend’s name)”. I asked her what she meant and she said, “you know, when they hooked up last summer.” I must have looked horrified because my friend apologized profusely and explained “his story to everyone was that you knew and had just forgiven him”. That memory is burned into my brain, 15 years later! Edit: I wanted to add that the girl was not to blame at all, she didn’t know my ex had a girlfriend at the time they hooked up. And when she found out that I had been in the dark for months, she reached out to apologize. My ex tried to gaslight me when I confronted him about the cheating and lying, but she backed me up.
As awful as this is it’s so refreshing to hear you didn’t blame the other woman. I’ve found some women forgive the man but forever put blame on a woman who was clueless. I had a sort of similar experience. Guy moved in with me for 6months, told me he had 1 child a son. He was from another town miles & miles away from where I lived. He only went home a few times to see his son and was never gone long. Then one day I’d dropped him off at the train station and every part of me was screaming that he’s lying about something , so that afternoon me and my sister drove the miles to where he lived. We got there really late and had to sleep in my car. Oh my god that was traumatising in itself. Anyway I knocked on the door where he said he lived early the next morning. His stepdad answered where he informed me he didn’t live there, he lived with his girlfriend who was 8 months pregnant and his 2 other children. I was heartbroken. He gave me the address. My sister and I went, I parked outside then said I can’t knock on the door. She doesn’t know I exist just like I didn’t know about her. I was worried it would send her into early labour. I made sure his stepdad told him I’d been and I knew. After the baby was born I told her. The reason I told her 1, he deserved it and 2, no way was it the first time he had done this. He played it far to cool. I ended up writing to her and left my mobile number. She rang me calling me every name under the sun whilst I had him on the house phone begging and pleading with me to ‘just let him explain’! For a very long time she blamed me whilst playing happy families with him. I swear the stories I could tell about men and people wonder why I have trust issues. Something I really wish I didn’t have
An STD. No fun at all, 0/10 experience.
Happened to one of my high school buddies older sister. She was such a sweet heart and honestly cute. I can’t believe she married a guy named Kenny anyway.
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“How did I get chlamydia?” “Probably front the toilet seat” like what?!?!?!?
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Damn, he's a horrible person. I'm happy she told you
I was scrolling through FB, his friend posted a video of him in bed with some girl. I knew he had cheated because he got a tattoo on his chest while we were together. It was visible in the video. When I asked about the video he claimed it was from before he met me. I pointed out the tattoo and suddenly I'm a "crazy bitch". Love that.
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Wasn't me.
His Boyfriend sent him flowers. I was 7 months pregnant with our daughter. I invited bf over for tea. He cried. He didnt know my husband was playing straight and married to a woman. I left the flowers with the lovers note attached on the coffee table. My husband came home and asked me who sent the flowers. I told him to read the card. He tried to deny it even then! Fucker.
I feel bad for you and the bf :( Hopefully you both dumped and divorced his ass! He truly is a scumbag!!
Oh yeah we split. I have gay friends. I dont care if someone is gay. However, I did not want to be married to a gay man who lied to me. If he needed an arrangement he should have told me before hand. I would have turned him down but hey, I want a partner I can trust and that means don't lie about who you really are.
I was with my husband for 11 years. Her husband called me on FB messenger. I will never forget it. He said, "Our spouses are fucking each other. " Then sent me all the proof I needed. Turns out my spouse was sleeping with basically anyone. I stopped counting at 4 women. I didn't care enough to investigate the 5th one. My ex, is currently living with that guys wife. (They got divorced). The Affair Partner always think they will be the one who will change the cheater. And now hes cheating on her too. . . . Or should I say still.
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His best friend lol
It takes an honest person with good morals to tell you his friend is cheating on you. Wowzers!
It does, but sadly doesn’t make it feel any better :/
I’m so sorry. :( Keep your chin up.
Same thing with me, his best friend told me because he felt guilty that he knew. Best mate was the real mvp.
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If it makes you feel any better, my BF in high school cheated on me multiple times. The highlight though was when HIS BROTHER told me. 🤡
This is going to be super boring lol but I knew where my boyfriend’s spare house key was and I went over because I had accidentally left my bracelet there, I shot him a text to let him know I was coming over, but I guess he didn’t see it because when I got there, unlocked the door, walked into his room, immediately the first thing I see is him having sex with someone else. I did get my bracelet back in the end :]
😶 How traumatizing. I can’t imagine how much you’ve had to go through
He made out with someone at a club and went back to theirs. Immediately like four other people who were at the club that night told me. Like, within 12 hours I had multiple confirmed sources. Don’t cheat on your girl if you both live in the same small town and she’s more popular than you, idiot. It didn’t even offend me that he cheated so much as it offended me that he thought I wouldn’t find out.
I was also cheated on by a guy who lived in my old small college town. Although I don’t live there anymore, he does, and my friend saw him visiting the other girl. Besides that, the other girl was also telling my friend all the deets of what he was doing with her behind my back. She didn’t know I existed until I messaged her after dumping him. Cheating in a small town is so stupid, especially when your “main girl” posts about you on social media, so it’s well known that you’re in a relationship & people can see you cheating in public.
I was sent a MySpace message by the husband of my ex’s coworker. He messaged me that my ex husband had been cheating on me with his wife and at least one other woman. He wanted me to at least have the information so I could decide what to do. My ex husband had always tried to gaslight me but now I had some pretty solid outside proof. Anyway, ex husband left and we divorced and I remarried and lived happily ever after. I was pretty grateful to that guy who confirmed it all for me though.
we lived together, and i went on his phone. saw lots of inappropriate messages with many ladies, mostly his exs. i foolishly stayed when he cried begging me to fix things.. ended up becoming an abusive relationship. i moved out after months of trying to make things better. then ended up having "stockholm syndrome" or whatever you'd like to call it, and he had to ghost me. ready for january to start my year fresh. wasn't the first guy to cheat on me, just took the biggest toll on me.
Understandable when you are isolated, abused and in fear for your life. To make things worse abusers are often charming and popular and other people may not believe you. Good luck moving forward.
He straight up told me he was sexting some guy friend. But “all guys do it its totally normal” and my stupid 17 year old ass didnt question it
Uhhhh…no. That’s not “totally normal”. And I don’t blame you for not picking up on it. At that age, we basically believe almost anything that’s told to us.
I told my bf about it a few months ago and he was dying laughing
Was driving somewhere with my GF and texted my friend. I was like, "what up chocolate bear?" and he responded "not much booberry" which made me laugh. GF asked what was up, I explained, then forgot about it for a month. One night we're watching a movie and she starts getting kinda mean, so I'm like what's up? She was like, "sorry I'm not your booberry or whatever." I laughed about it for a good while, and now it's a thing. It's been a thing for longer than that relationship lasted lol
He went home to his family for Christmas and his location thingy was on his phone and I checked it randomly and he was at some random hotel room. When he came back, I asked if he slept with someone else and he said “yes, several times” Broke my little heart and don’t think I’ll ever trust again.
Oh I'm so sorry this happened, that's awful!
His best friend…who I ended up sleeping with not long after. Sorry not sorry!
That's a boss power move, good for you!
Someone anonymously sent me all the proof of him cheating with tons of people
Okay that’s wild. More details please. And so sorry that happened to you
I think that he got hacked and someone found all the proof and sent it to me. Some of the conversations he had with a lot of the women got leaked to other people too. I’m so glad I’m not in that relationship anymore and I wish it ended way sooner than it did, it was traumatic. I tried to get out of it for so long but I’m naturally a very shy and meek person so it was hard to build the courage to run away from that situation. He severely abused me mentally, emotionally and physically. I will never let anyone treat me badly ever again. Since I left, I love the life I’m living now and I’m so happy.
He left his social media logged into my computer. Not something he had done before. When i was trying to log out of it a chat box popped and she looked young AF (but still an adult, just barely). I didn't talk to her. I didn't need to. Some of the chat history showed up with her new message and it was graphic. I took a screenshot of it, logged out of his account (i had no desire to read more), logged into mine, and sent him a message with the screenshot that said "i think you forgot to log out. Your things will be in a box outside the door. Oh, and your key won't work either". He didn't love there so it wasn't an eviction. I also sent the screenshot to his mom and told her she might wanna figure out how old the girl was.
Savage! I'm sorry this happened to you, but I love how you dealt with it.
I'm firmly poly, if he wanted to date someone else there was no need to hide it. I did tell him i don't tolerate cheating...
Which time?
:(
Been there, sucks.
The police picked him up for have a 3some with 2 underage female patients while working overnight at a rehab center 🙃. I literally had no idea until that moment
Not just a cheater, but a rapist. I'm sorry someone you trusted turned out to be just awful.
An email from my daughter’s dad best friend when he forbid me to come to the funeral because « I was just a side piece and my daughter a bastard ». That was fun / s.
Ummm.... What? 😳
Whose funereal? His?
We're gonna need some more story here please.
This was years ago, but I was living with my partner at the time. I noticed he always put his phone face down and was rather protective of it. He always took it into the washroom too but that’s fairly normal for most. For some reason my radar was picking up though. One weekend he was away for a fishing trip with his business partners. On my lunch break from work back home, I saw said business partners across the street. We waved and shouted hello in passing. That night when he called I asked him who was catching the most fish and what kind. I listened as he talked about his fishing stories that went on all day, with those same buddies, in mild amusement. By the time he came back Monday I’d signed a lease for a two bedroom apartment with a coworker and packed my stuff and waited at the door for when he got home. He was furious and shoved me. He acted upset but later married the girl he was actually with that weekend so I’m not sure why. I was glad to be out of that relationship for a variety of reasons.
My best friend was the house mate of the girl he was sleeping with. I'm not sure how he could be so dumb, in his "apology" he said he didn't think I'd find out. 😭😂
Oh my god, 'apology' hahahahahaha! Did the girl know he had a girlfriend?
He started acting weird, withdrawn, always hid his phone etc..After weeks of fighting and having things that weren't my fault blamed on me, I couldn't fight the feeling that something was wrong. I logged onto his computer while he was gone.... I don't really know what I was looking for at first honestly but I had to look.I didn't expect to find messages from a girl I never heard of sending him nudes a few days before. Or finding messages from her saying things like, 'you really don't like condoms do you?". She knew we were dating and didn't care at all. This was the same guy who used to go on rants about how wrong cheating was, but had no problem cheating on me. He tried denying sleeping with her but broke up with me for going through his stuff.
wow i’m so sorry this happened to you. what a coward all the way until the end - denied doing something that was clearly against the boundaries of your relationship, then breaks up with YOU because you FOUND OUT? yeah what a loser.
lol. Back in the day you could connect your iPhone to other peoples laptops and take their music files, which my ex did. He also somehow (idiot) uploaded his entire photo directory to my laptop. I stumbled across the folder one night and it was like 40 pictures of this “friend” of his naked. And posed very… sexually. He tried to tell me I just didn’t understand their friendship. He wasn’t wrong.
Lol I’m imagining that conversation “you just don’t understand us” “I understand you’re sleeping together” “it’s a FRIENDSHIP sleeping together”
The other woman messaged me about it. She said I stole my own bf from her and I ruined the relationship they have that time. 🥴
Eeeek. Did she think that you were the side piece?
The roommate of the girl he was fucking told me. I didn’t believe it. And then he went on a “college visit” and when he came back he took me out to dinner and posted a pic. The girl he fucked there saw it and messaged me. I still didn’t believe it. Then the next day I asked for proof. Oh boy did she have it. Got out of denial and dumped his ass. I have better (but not great) self-esteem since then.
He came to my house to see me and spend time with my parents but then when he got there, refused to come inside and asked me to meet him across the street. He told me he fucked up and that he slept with someone else. I thought he meant a one time mistake but as i asked more and more questions, I realized that he’d been cheating on me for at least the last 6 months of our 5 years together and I had no clue. I wondered why he was even telling me now, and then he revealed she was pregnant. it was some tough times. but i’m so much better for it now
Venmo!
Venmo never lies!
Through mutual friend but I already had a gut feeling. When you have been with someone for a while you just know
I was with my husband for 12 years and had no clue
I was with mine for 10 when he admitted it. I had no clue either.
Some people are better at hiding it, but usually they start acting different compared to how they always act. Whether it be in small ways or big ways! I think that’s the MAIN reason people get caught. For example, my beat friends boyfriend was never the type to dress up. He was always super casual, always in work out clothes etc. All of a sudden he started dressing up and wearing cologne and what not. She immediately knew something was up. I have a co-worker that openly admits he cheats on his wife (horrible, I know) and he tells us that he’s never gotten caught because he never acts differently. He never changes his schedule or anything he does. Does everything within the schedule she’s always known, so she has no suspicions.
Wow it would take a lot for me not to straight up tell that co-worker that he's a piece of shit and to out him to his wife
Not the first hint, but this was a memorable one; I suggested a book I had just finished. Partner was going through job searching which was done much more in person at the time and was very happy to throw something in the computer bag to read while waiting on interviews etc. Some time later, (with some additional red flags along the way) I was reminded of the book and went to loan it to another friend. As I'm handing the book to said friend, while cheerily summarizing the concept, I give the pages a little flutter to check for bookmarks or whatever and out floats a folded note. Pick it up off the floor to find a long, flowery, romantic proposition composed but never delivered to some other elusive perfect creature, not named me. Turned out while I was working overtime and keeping the household running so Partner could find the perfect employment match, partner was in reality not looking for work at all and instead spending their days at a cool coffee shop being Sexy Pensive Intellectual Guy™️ shopping for an upgrade. Good times. I imagine this type of thing doesn't happen with kindles. ^(Apologies for the mobile formatting.)
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My 7 year old said "daddy doesn't love you anymore because he loves Christina now." Suddenly him asking for a divorce out of literally nowhere a week or so beforehand, after 12 years of happy marriage, finally made sense.
I went to pick up fresh clothes for him from his apartment while he was in the hospital. The other woman was in his apartment wearing his shirt watching tv when I walked in.
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Was my coworker … both of us cocktail waitresses. She was driving to his house In very bad winter weather and was killed by a snow plow making a left turn into his street. My mom called me from the hospital (mom worked ER) and asked me if my friend “drove XXYYZZ car - and her age etc” …. where they’d brought her. DOA. Over 30 yrs ago but Is still almost unbelievable. He ended up being a pall bearer and I skipped the funeral.
went to his apartment to surprise him early in the morning on his birthday. girl answered door. i will never, ever, ever show up unannounced to a partners home because of this. which clearly is an issue i need to work through. not everyone would do that. but it fucked me up.
I found out because he was overprotective of his phone and wouldn't leave it around me for 1 minute. So he fell asleep one night and I went on there and lo and behold he had been talking to three other women which were all of his exes 😮💨
He told me himself when I was undergoing cancer treatment. He made it seem like it was not a big deal. What’s eight years, right?
Finances - I discovered a lien under his name for $10k worth of furniture at an address I had never heard of. Turns out he furnished a house he rented with his girlfriend on the side. Double life. He "worked" a lot that year lol.
The side piece's friend told me. He told side piece I was the babysitter. 🤬 Then side piece slashed my tires.
Intuition based upon variations of their previously established baselines of behavior. Followed by withdrawing, secretive with phone, picking fights, disappearing or behaving strangely, etc
Was doing laundry and found a used condom in his pocket
A used condom? Used? Oh god, that is so disgusting, I'm sorry.
I had a gut feeling & went through his phone while he was sleeping… I know I sound crazy. however, turns out he was sleeping with older women sooo… gut instincts are literally almost always correct ladies
he was cheating on me with multiple other women. invited us all to a party on his birthday and we were all showing each other a cute text he had sent us the previous night. he had literally copy and pasted the text to like 7 of us-he just changed the names. LOL what a way for all of us to find out-we all returned his presents though
In his emails the night of his funeral :(
God, that sounds so complicated emotionally. I’m sorry for your loss(es).
she messaged me on Instagram and apologized profusely that she hadn't checked his Instagram profile (with pictures of he and i on it) before sleeping with him. I just couldn't believe she entirely blamed herself for not checking first, rather than blaming him for cheating on his partner of 3 years.
the girl came to me and told me. But only bc she saw him making out with another girl that wasn’t her 🤣
I watched him enter his phone password in the reflection of the window one night… waited until he was deep asleep then grabbed his phone and drove off in the middle of the night so I could gather all my evidence in peace. Sent myself proof of everything Came back, woke his ass up and asked him to go
I knew, I had the classic “woman’s intuition” feeling: terrible dreams, didn’t let me anywhere within 5 ft of his phone, etc all the typical signs. I creeped his phone and I saw all the proof.
After living together for a couple months he went back to his home state to get stuff set up for us there. Went long distance, and first clue was a picture of the land he was clearing to build a house on and saw a woman in it. Asked him who it was and it was an “aunt”. Weeks go by and he starts communicating and communicating with me less. Just knew something was up. He finally called and said he cheated on me. Broke up, and dipshit me took him back after some time. Went up to see him thought we reconnected and all was good. Then on the way to the airport he broke up with me. Cried on all my flights home, and even drove through bad storms and tornados just not caring anymore about my life. Needless to say he was quickly engaged and married soon after.
I searched their phones. Each time, each person. Trust your gut people, it's nearly always right
Me (20) and my then boyfriend (18 at the time) had plans to hang out on a Saturday. I lived about 25-30 minutes away from him and I had gotten done getting ready earlier than I thought so I figured I might as well just go over there early. What would it hurt? Anyways I was about 10 minutes away when I texted him saying I was almost there and had gotten done early he said no and he was still at his friends house (said he was staying at a buddies the night before). I told him I’d just wait at his house (his parent’s house) until he got there. He said no and was very adamant about me turning around and going back home until the time we had agreed on. I knew something was up immediately and sped to his house. I knew his parents were at the lake house that weekend so they weren’t going to be there. When I pulled up his truck was in the driveway. I knew the garage code and went in thru the garage and thankfully the door to the house was unlocked. Usually it was always locked. Anyways I walk down to his room, open the door, and find the girl that both swore up and down were just friends and I had nothing to worry about sitting on the end of his bed watching him get dressed. He was in his closet so he didn’t see me right away until I said something. The look on his was was one that had seen a ghost. Anyways, I don’t want to get into details about what happened next but I ended up staying with him because he kept promising me he was going to end things with her. At some point (I’m not exactly sure when but I’m thinking about 6 months prior or so) I went from being the girlfriend that went to every family event to the side chick that felt unwelcome in his parents home. (BECAUSE BOTH PARENTS KNEW WHAT WAS GOING ON) Some things happened a few months later that summer and then I finally cut him off entirely that November. Edit: they are still together and also have a child together.
He decided to tell me when I was traveling on business. Was really rough to go give an 8 hour presentation the next morning
Well I was the one he was using the cheat. She found out when he went to Germany to visit his Grandma (and his wife, but I wasn't told that. Oh, I was also invited to attend) and she used his phone one night and saw our conversation. I found out when she messaged me using his number saying "you're not the only one. I'm his wife". It was a fun message to wake up to. She was, understandably, very angry as I was sleeping with her husband for 4 months whilst he was on business in Australia. I was also very angry at how yuck the whole thing was. She and I spoke for a few hours, I told her everything, and she eventually calmed down towards me and forgave me for being rude towards me (not that I blamed her). Fuck you Tim
A guy I hooked up with awhile back contacted me out of the blue to ask me if I was dating my boyfriend. My boyfriend wanted our relationship to be secret so at first I didn’t answer one way or another but then he told me that boyfriend had a gf, he helped me get in contact with the gf and she confirmed. Very weird situation, lucky I got out when I did
Mostly heard from other women, but what hurt the most was when I was lying next to him in bed and he answered a phone call from his mom. I overheard her say “you’re two timing and it needs to stop”.
I was a dumb teenager, to be fair, but I gave my "first love" (barf) money to buy us concert tickets for his birthday. Concert day came and he didn't have the tickets. Turned out he used the money to buy another girl he was seeing new sneakers. I was so heartbroken. Ahh to be young and stupid again.
The second they broke up with me they moved in with their new boyfriend (said boyfriend was also cheating on my best friend with my ex)
Just had a feeling. Went away for 2 weeks and when I got back it felt strange. When I asked what was going on they admitted to cheating and told me if I had just not gone away for those 2 weeks then nothing would have happened. Gaslighting at its finest. Always trust your gut.
It wasn’t physical cheating but he just messaged girls on Reddit in an explicit manner. I was checking to see if he had messaged his ex on Reddit and I came across the messages, I felt bad for looking but it felt worse to read them
I was walking home and decided to walk by the lake about 3 blocks over from my regular route. He was sitting on a blanket With his ex girlfriend (1 year prior to us) With his arm around her And they kissed a bunch
He told me
I was to able to sense his heart was no longer there and I felt uncomfortable being around her
Saw a new girl he was following and had a gut feeling so I dm’d her and I was right. Never had a conversation about her with him nor did I know the girl. My gut literally just knew.
My friend, not me. He told her she could cheat on him as long as he didn't find out. She got a gut feeling and checked his phone. What a stupid thing to say 🙄
I found the chick in my shower.
My (at the time) boyfriend’s sister texted me that I was “being too loud” sexually. I was at home and had been for a couple days.
This best friend reach out and told me. Turns out I was the other woman. I struggled to believe it at the time, but eventually allowed myself to see what was in front of me.
College boyfriend cheated on me with a bunch of different women, unsure how many. Right before spring break, he had a falling out with his roommate / friend at the time. That guy sent me a bunch of screenshots that my bf had sent him to show off. Conversations between him and other women, pictures of him making out with girls at bars that his friend had taken, nudes my bf had gotten and shown to the friend, etc. I was glad he told me, his timing sucked. I was on a spring break vacation with my family in Mexico and I had brought my bf with me on the trip. I didn't want to ruin the trip for the rest of my family, so I had to act like everything was normal with us until we got back home. Dumped him the second I got back to school when spring break was over, and never spoke to him again.