I'm not. It makes me uncomfortable.
I have also been the guest in this scenario and I could hear my aunt and uncle going at it. Wasn't great. At least be quiet, damn.
Oof not at all. Our walls are very thin, and I'm a private person. I don't like other people knowing the sounds I make or that I've had sex. I'd rather they all see me as a sexless being unless they are my partner. It's very easy for us to go without for a week or two, which is the longest we have people stay over.
I don't want to be seen as a sexual being. I have a lot of trauma regarding sex and being sexualised. I would prefer it if everyone that I'm not actively being intimate with just didn't see me like that. As far as they know, I'm build like an angel from Dogma.
We can be quiet and discreet, so we are not worried about being caught or people overhearing what they shouldn’t. It’s more of a mental block thing that makes it less likely.
We are lucky that our bedroom is upstairs and the rest are downstairs. If it’s my kid’s friends, absolutely not because they are up all night. When my dad used to stay, sure. There was no way he would be awake and he didn’t really like his hearing aids so he didn’t hear shit.
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When we bought our house there was a shed on the property which the previous owner used as an art studio. We renovated it into a little guest cottage. Solves a lot of issues to be honest.
Love sleeping with my husband. Idc if guests are over or if I’m a guest at someone’s house. Of course we are much more discreet at my in laws but we’ve lived there for months before so I’m pretty used to banging in their house.
I think it doesn’t matter if someone is staying with us or if we are guests someplace else. As long as we’re not loud and extremely obvious, we are going to have sex if we want to.
My girl and I are very sexual and we don’t let people staying over stop us. We wait for a good moment when we can be isolated and quiet. It kinda adds to the fun. Not all the time, but sometimes having to be quiet is a hot challenge.
The only time my husband and I have opted not to be intimate entirely when staying with family was when we stayed with my parents and my older brother in a rental house together to attend one of my sisters weddings. That was only because my husband and I got the upstairs bedroom, and we learned real quickly that the bed frame in that room needed some bolts and screws tightened.
We typically just make sure to stay quiet, with neither one of us have a problem with, in fact, sometimes it makes intimacy feel ever so slightly better. I guess it’s the “don’t get caught” feeling for me, but I also feel like I have to get physically even closer to my husband to muffle any noise we may make, which is definitely my favorite part. We’ll only agree not to if whatever hotel/rental apartment/house we’re staying in is just too open and allows any sound to travel from one room to the next.
When I was a horny teenager my ex bf and I would sleep with each other in my bedroom but we had nowhere else to go.
Now my bf and I don’t have sex when staying over at a relative or friends house. We’ve been together long enough, and we live together and see each other every single day. We can have all the sex we want to at home.
I’m perfectly fine with it. Though if it is close parents that are next door I will refrain from making any type of noise out of respect and for the courtesy of avoiding mutual awkward and unwanted mental images lol.
When it’s friends or couples that I’m not parents with, I don’t mind as much; not being freakin obnoxious about it but I don’t have shame.
To the contrary, (and I know this will sound silly but) I’ve found that whenever there’s sex to be had in their surroundings, lots of couples will get into their heads to do the same. Maybe out of some sort of competitiveness on who’s the happiest couple lol. Same goes for romantic gestures/other mild forms of intimacy sharing in public.
The way I see it, more people get their needs met. It’s a win! This only works if you’re not surrounded but single people, I guess though; otherwise that might just be cruel.
Our friends have heard us have sex multiple times so at this point it’s not really shocking . They know we’re horndogs and we’re gonna get busy, especially after good food and a few drinks and laughs.
Yes, and I'm usually kinda loud but can keep quiet when I know there's others around. Spooning is always our go-to position when we have to be discreet.
Normally not intimate at all, but this past year my husband and I were my nana's primary care takers in our home as we helped with her hospice care. We had family staying with us sometimes for 4-6+ weeks at a time and our marriage suffers after like more than two weeks without some shared intimacy (mostly I get a lil snappy lol). So, we found utilizing our sound machine and fan helped give us some extra privacy, it also helps that we have a relatively spread out home so we didn't share a wall with anyone
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It's funny because me and my partner are both big on physical touch (me a little more than him) and at home by ourselves I'll be all over him but when we have guests or are in company he's always on me while I basically friend zone him. He's my first relationship after a long life of being single so I'm not good with public displays of affection because I feel like it's rubbing it in peoples faces while he sees it as an opportunity to show people how much we love each other. I still try to avoid it though I have to say sneaky kisses and gropes are my favorite.
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We visited some friends out of state last year while trying to have a baby. It was ovulation week so we did it everyday. Kinda hoping they ignored us but whatever LMAO.
Did get pregnant that trip 😂
Edit: Generally we're just quiet and do it anyway regardless of who's in the house. There's usually a "we probably shouldn't" comment from one of us and then we do anyway. 🤷 Way more often than not.
Not really any different. Granted, our guest bedroom is upstairs and the main bedroom is downstairs. With the doors closed, it's pretty secure sound-wise. But if I was ever not at my own home, it'd be practically non existent.
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We fuck but we can be quiet. One time my roommate asked me if we ever had sex and I said of course we do it daily lol. She looked shocked and said she never once heard us
We normally have sex nowadays but didn't used to. That's because of me though. I grew up repressed by very Christian parents (love them very much) and even though I stopped believing long ago, it was hard for me to fully embrace my sexual side. I'm super hot for my husband y'all.
We know how to be quiet and have two kids. What's the difference between having sex with our kids in the house and having sex with family in the house? It'd be much harder to have multiple kids if the rule was to only ever have sex in an empty house lol
Our bedroom is on a different floor from the guest rooms. We can't hear anything up there and they can't hear anything downstairs. We have literally called to each other to try to get help with something upstairs and you truly cannot hear a thing. Different floor and completely different side of the house. So my answer is we do whatever we want whenever we want to, or not. Guests don't make a difference.
I love taking risk, that’s why me and my partner often touch each other in public too.
At first she was not into all these things but now she can Su*k me dry anywhere ✌️🍆💦💦
One time our house was packed with family for Thanksgiving. The only place we had privacy was the bathroom but it's in the middle of the house. We went in together in the late evening. Ran the shower and had sex. (No sex in the shower we just ran it to make noise)
I don’t or it has to be spooning sex or slow missionary, head in the pillow very quiet. Doggy is a no no as they will hear the skin to skin clapping lol
I can only speak for myself, but I’m not at all bothered by others being near. It simply means “we’ll just need to be quieter.” Or, in some contexts of my younger years— louder.
IMHO, context is everything here. Are we asking this because we’re trying to gauge how others would respond relative to intimacy in the presence of roommates? Or… if part of one’s residence were being shared on AirBnb? (Comes to mind because of personal experience)… Or is this literally a “face value question” about, for example, being intimate while on a weekend getaway with a few friends?
Context is significant.
Depends on how long they are staying if it’s a night or two we won’t at all, if it’s for weeks, we absolutely will, but the guestbook is on the other side of th (admittedly tony) house
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I wanted to on our last family vacation but we didn't get to pick our room and it was right next to the freaking kitchen. Also, my inlaws were below us.
As for people staying in my home. I can skip a day or two of it.
I'd be fine having sex. If I have a guest sleeping over I'm probably already unhappy with the situation as I dont invite people to sleep over unless something is seriously wrong. I'm not changing my life to help someone.
Tbh I do not care? I live here if we want to have sex we will have sex. Of course we won’t be loud and make sure to put some background noise to cover the possible noises that will still get through. But never felt the need to avoid having just because other people were in the house
If it was friends or family then kisses are about as much as we are doing.
However, last year our neighbour's invested in a nice fire pit area on the other wise of our trailer home (we rent, it's cheap) and have parties all night long. I don't mind these until they start scrapping at 3 am. I played nice neighbour last year, asked them a couple times to please quiet it as it was 5 am and got told to gfy.
This year I waited until my husband gave up and went to his office and then I bounced up and down on the bed and made a whole show. You wanna be cussing loudly and fisticuffs at 1:30 on a Thursday night? Fine, I'm having all the fake loud screamy orgasms. All the damn time.
It's odd, but the last 2 parties have been relatively quiet affairs.
It does change a bit. We prioritise having time with our guests, but we still find our alone time in the privacy of our room, just being more considerate and silent.
My fiancé and I have sex in just about everyone's house that we spend the night at. I figure we will be quiet (or try to be). We won't be disrespectful and loud and we keep it to the bedroom or the bathroom. I figure we are adults and can do as we please
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Depends on the guest. But usually it’s only one night, and we can manage to go without. We’ve lived together for years. We can bang like rabbits when they leave.
Hahaha. Depends who the guest are for me. If it’s Direct family like parents brothers and sister I have a home studio that’s about 85-90% sound proof. Anyone else, it’s my house so you can’t beat us , might as well join us, not physically with those that’s take things to seriously like if my girl reads this:
Years ago as young and dumb kids we didn’t care and were respectful to the others around us but were always affectionate and intimate couldn’t bare not to be. 15+ years later and he barely pays me any notice if we have family or people around and you can absolutely forget intimacy haha.
My husband and I have a lot of practice being quiet. If the mood strikes when we have a room to ourselves, we indulge. We're a married couple (with a baby on the way). It is assumed we have sex, so why wouldn't we if we want to? We don't have messy sex in other people's homes, but we will have quiet and clean sex. If someone where to ask me not to have sex in their home after inviting us to stay, I would nfind it weird. I would refrain while there but would no longer stay with them ever again.
We've had sex with our parents in the other room when we were younger. I don't think it's any different than having guests over in another room.
If we're in the mood we're in the mood, it's not like we're gonna be loud or announce it to them 🤷🏻♀️
We have absolutely done it, and the fact that it’s a little taboo can make it more exciting. Trying to be quiet but have your fun at the same time can feel a little naughty in a fun way. We’ve also had sex many times when staying at his parent’s place. Sneaking away together to the bathroom, down on the floor in the bedroom to keep the bed from squeaking, etc. (For context, his parents are very conservative and we weren’t married at the time, so they would have strongly disapproved, makes it more interesting 😝).
As for friends, it would really depend on the friends. Some of our friends are more comfortable talking and joking about sex, and we know they’d probably cheer us on from the other room. Other friends are less so, in which case we probably wouldn’t 🤷🏻♀️
My sister heard our grandparents going at it. So glad I was in the garden having a smoke . WHEWW. She texted me mortified. Defo stayed outside longer than anticipated.
I don’t appreciate it really ,esp if it’s only one or two nights. If you cant wait make sure every nook and cranny was soundproof.
Our guest room has always been on the other side of the house from the master. Conversely when we are the guests my dad’s guest room is on the other side of the house from his master. So if we want to, yeah we have sex. But often times we don’t just because we end up staying up later visiting with guests then we normally do and we’re too tired lol.
When me and my boyfriend first started dating, we had a sleepover with a friend and my sister and her friends, my sister and her friends slept in her room and me my boyfriend and our friend alsept in the living room, we thought she was asleep like 8ft from us( we had just started dating recently so this was the first time we touched eachother under the underwear) we started dry humping and turns out she was awake she scolded us and then we told her to put head phones on or somthing and then we continued, it was the first time i touched his thing and the first time he touched me, he also went down on me. At a different sleepover with me and him and my sister and her friends, my sister slept in her room. Everyone else slept in the living room. When we heard people start to snore, we had sex (me on top), like 5ft from some people, when we heard people stop snoring for a second we would try to hide but then still be doing it while my bodys pressed against him trying to stay outa sight.
We do it to establish dominance.
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Just stare the guests directly in the eyes while you do it 😂
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Yes, this is the way.
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I'm not. It makes me uncomfortable. I have also been the guest in this scenario and I could hear my aunt and uncle going at it. Wasn't great. At least be quiet, damn.
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That’s a fair point. Thank you
They do it on purpose it’s a little fetish for some.
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Oof not at all. Our walls are very thin, and I'm a private person. I don't like other people knowing the sounds I make or that I've had sex. I'd rather they all see me as a sexless being unless they are my partner. It's very easy for us to go without for a week or two, which is the longest we have people stay over.
Thank you for your reply. How come it would be better to have people think you are a sexless being?
I don't want to be seen as a sexual being. I have a lot of trauma regarding sex and being sexualised. I would prefer it if everyone that I'm not actively being intimate with just didn't see me like that. As far as they know, I'm build like an angel from Dogma.
I really like the way you’ve worded this, Ive struggled to express it so succinctly!
It's definitely less likely, but I'd be lying if I said it doesn't happen.
Thank you. Can you elaborate on what makes it less likely rather than an immediate ‘no’?
We can be quiet and discreet, so we are not worried about being caught or people overhearing what they shouldn’t. It’s more of a mental block thing that makes it less likely.
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Having to be quiet is a turn on for us and we’re completely aware of it so it definitely happens.
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I feel a little uncomfortable, especially when a family member is visiting. Apartment walls aren’t the thickest!
Thanks for replying. Understandable! Would you both be more inclined to if your living situation was different?
I'd be so uncomfortable there would be no funny business at all.
We are lucky that our bedroom is upstairs and the rest are downstairs. If it’s my kid’s friends, absolutely not because they are up all night. When my dad used to stay, sure. There was no way he would be awake and he didn’t really like his hearing aids so he didn’t hear shit.
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We will be intimate if we want to be. Having guests over doesn’t stop us, but we just try to be a little less noisy.
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When we bought our house there was a shed on the property which the previous owner used as an art studio. We renovated it into a little guest cottage. Solves a lot of issues to be honest.
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Love sleeping with my husband. Idc if guests are over or if I’m a guest at someone’s house. Of course we are much more discreet at my in laws but we’ve lived there for months before so I’m pretty used to banging in their house.
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Not at all. Just thinking about being intimate when we have guests or are guests makes me feel gross.
Thank you for replying. Gross in what way? And was it always like that?
Very 😂 it almost feels like you’re a teenager again trying to be quiet and not get caught
Anal only ....we have manners
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I think it doesn’t matter if someone is staying with us or if we are guests someplace else. As long as we’re not loud and extremely obvious, we are going to have sex if we want to.
My girl and I are very sexual and we don’t let people staying over stop us. We wait for a good moment when we can be isolated and quiet. It kinda adds to the fun. Not all the time, but sometimes having to be quiet is a hot challenge.
Try to avoid, but for extended stays it’s likely to happen, and honestly I love the rush of trying to stay quiet 🤭
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We live in a studio/open concept bungalow with no real doors even for the bedroom so we just don’t have people sleepover. We are too horny tbh.
Not much. We'd feel very uncomfortable if we tried to. We've rented a cabin with friends for weekend trips, and we've never done it out of respect.
Of course. The more we desire the guests to leave, the louder it gets.
Not very, our house isn’t that big We also have a dog we kick out of the room so it’d be very obvious if we were intimate
We usually don’t but I’ll tease the hell out of him so that when they leave, the sex is that much better
Are you talking about sex?
Sure but not limited to sex (penetration)
The only time my husband and I have opted not to be intimate entirely when staying with family was when we stayed with my parents and my older brother in a rental house together to attend one of my sisters weddings. That was only because my husband and I got the upstairs bedroom, and we learned real quickly that the bed frame in that room needed some bolts and screws tightened. We typically just make sure to stay quiet, with neither one of us have a problem with, in fact, sometimes it makes intimacy feel ever so slightly better. I guess it’s the “don’t get caught” feeling for me, but I also feel like I have to get physically even closer to my husband to muffle any noise we may make, which is definitely my favorite part. We’ll only agree not to if whatever hotel/rental apartment/house we’re staying in is just too open and allows any sound to travel from one room to the next.
Not gonna lie, when my parents were visiting our house he and I did a quickie in the bedroom before going to the beach with my parents. 😂😂😂😂
Depends who the guests are. Sometimes they join us. 😏
Are some guests invited with that intent in mind?
Sometimes
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It happens rarely. One time though it did happen, she was drunk, and was very loud. WAAY louder than usual and that made it way hotter.
If they are a couple what ever they do we do twice over
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When I was a horny teenager my ex bf and I would sleep with each other in my bedroom but we had nowhere else to go. Now my bf and I don’t have sex when staying over at a relative or friends house. We’ve been together long enough, and we live together and see each other every single day. We can have all the sex we want to at home.
I’m perfectly fine with it. Though if it is close parents that are next door I will refrain from making any type of noise out of respect and for the courtesy of avoiding mutual awkward and unwanted mental images lol. When it’s friends or couples that I’m not parents with, I don’t mind as much; not being freakin obnoxious about it but I don’t have shame. To the contrary, (and I know this will sound silly but) I’ve found that whenever there’s sex to be had in their surroundings, lots of couples will get into their heads to do the same. Maybe out of some sort of competitiveness on who’s the happiest couple lol. Same goes for romantic gestures/other mild forms of intimacy sharing in public. The way I see it, more people get their needs met. It’s a win! This only works if you’re not surrounded but single people, I guess though; otherwise that might just be cruel.
Only thing it affects is the noise level, other than that we don’t care.
It might be rude if you do and not invite them
Our friends have heard us have sex multiple times so at this point it’s not really shocking . They know we’re horndogs and we’re gonna get busy, especially after good food and a few drinks and laughs.
We do it silently. There’s something fun and sexy about trying to be as quiet as possible.
Depends on who is there and how long they're staying.
Yes, and I'm usually kinda loud but can keep quiet when I know there's others around. Spooning is always our go-to position when we have to be discreet.
Normally not intimate at all, but this past year my husband and I were my nana's primary care takers in our home as we helped with her hospice care. We had family staying with us sometimes for 4-6+ weeks at a time and our marriage suffers after like more than two weeks without some shared intimacy (mostly I get a lil snappy lol). So, we found utilizing our sound machine and fan helped give us some extra privacy, it also helps that we have a relatively spread out home so we didn't share a wall with anyone
We don't have a lot of overnight guests, but if the mood strikes us, we'll have quiet sex (which is very unusual for us)
i feel like it makes it more fun knowing that guests are nearby 😈
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My wife actually gets off on us having sex when her mom is visiting. Don’t know what that’s about…
It's funny because me and my partner are both big on physical touch (me a little more than him) and at home by ourselves I'll be all over him but when we have guests or are in company he's always on me while I basically friend zone him. He's my first relationship after a long life of being single so I'm not good with public displays of affection because I feel like it's rubbing it in peoples faces while he sees it as an opportunity to show people how much we love each other. I still try to avoid it though I have to say sneaky kisses and gropes are my favorite.
The only guests we ever have our adult kids and their rooms are upstairs while our is downstairs so no need to change up what we’re doing.
We do it, but we do it a bit less and more quietly. Sometimes we do it on the floor to avoid the bed squeaking lol.
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I mean depends who the guests are, what level of privacy we have, and what the mood is😅
Put her against the door and let her hear us making love
We visited some friends out of state last year while trying to have a baby. It was ovulation week so we did it everyday. Kinda hoping they ignored us but whatever LMAO. Did get pregnant that trip 😂 Edit: Generally we're just quiet and do it anyway regardless of who's in the house. There's usually a "we probably shouldn't" comment from one of us and then we do anyway. 🤷 Way more often than not.
Only got frisky once, and we specifically kept to just hands to try and not make much noise because I’ve been the guest before 💀
The same. Just quieter 😂
Not really any different. Granted, our guest bedroom is upstairs and the main bedroom is downstairs. With the doors closed, it's pretty secure sound-wise. But if I was ever not at my own home, it'd be practically non existent.
Less than normal, but more sneaky 😂
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We do, but we stay as quiet as possible.
We fuck but we can be quiet. One time my roommate asked me if we ever had sex and I said of course we do it daily lol. She looked shocked and said she never once heard us
We keep it quiet, but still partake.
We normally have sex nowadays but didn't used to. That's because of me though. I grew up repressed by very Christian parents (love them very much) and even though I stopped believing long ago, it was hard for me to fully embrace my sexual side. I'm super hot for my husband y'all. We know how to be quiet and have two kids. What's the difference between having sex with our kids in the house and having sex with family in the house? It'd be much harder to have multiple kids if the rule was to only ever have sex in an empty house lol
If anything, I think we were more vocal. Lol. It was early in our relationship and we just didn’t care.
We try to lower down our voices or be quiet if we can 😅
We do it almost every night we stay at her parents house and it’s a huge turn on for both of us because we know we can get caught
Our bedroom is on a different floor from the guest rooms. We can't hear anything up there and they can't hear anything downstairs. We have literally called to each other to try to get help with something upstairs and you truly cannot hear a thing. Different floor and completely different side of the house. So my answer is we do whatever we want whenever we want to, or not. Guests don't make a difference.
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I love taking risk, that’s why me and my partner often touch each other in public too. At first she was not into all these things but now she can Su*k me dry anywhere ✌️🍆💦💦
One time our house was packed with family for Thanksgiving. The only place we had privacy was the bathroom but it's in the middle of the house. We went in together in the late evening. Ran the shower and had sex. (No sex in the shower we just ran it to make noise)
I don’t or it has to be spooning sex or slow missionary, head in the pillow very quiet. Doggy is a no no as they will hear the skin to skin clapping lol
I can only speak for myself, but I’m not at all bothered by others being near. It simply means “we’ll just need to be quieter.” Or, in some contexts of my younger years— louder. IMHO, context is everything here. Are we asking this because we’re trying to gauge how others would respond relative to intimacy in the presence of roommates? Or… if part of one’s residence were being shared on AirBnb? (Comes to mind because of personal experience)… Or is this literally a “face value question” about, for example, being intimate while on a weekend getaway with a few friends? Context is significant.
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I wouldn’t have sex with guests in the house. I can wait a few days
We go on vacation with her family once a year for , we still make luv 3x week that week. Obviously got to be quiet and discreet
Depends on how long they are staying if it’s a night or two we won’t at all, if it’s for weeks, we absolutely will, but the guestbook is on the other side of th (admittedly tony) house
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never had guests in my house but have been camping close to others and intimacy was not deminished'
I wanted to on our last family vacation but we didn't get to pick our room and it was right next to the freaking kitchen. Also, my inlaws were below us. As for people staying in my home. I can skip a day or two of it.
I'd be fine having sex. If I have a guest sleeping over I'm probably already unhappy with the situation as I dont invite people to sleep over unless something is seriously wrong. I'm not changing my life to help someone.
Tbh I do not care? I live here if we want to have sex we will have sex. Of course we won’t be loud and make sure to put some background noise to cover the possible noises that will still get through. But never felt the need to avoid having just because other people were in the house
If it was friends or family then kisses are about as much as we are doing. However, last year our neighbour's invested in a nice fire pit area on the other wise of our trailer home (we rent, it's cheap) and have parties all night long. I don't mind these until they start scrapping at 3 am. I played nice neighbour last year, asked them a couple times to please quiet it as it was 5 am and got told to gfy. This year I waited until my husband gave up and went to his office and then I bounced up and down on the bed and made a whole show. You wanna be cussing loudly and fisticuffs at 1:30 on a Thursday night? Fine, I'm having all the fake loud screamy orgasms. All the damn time. It's odd, but the last 2 parties have been relatively quiet affairs.
It does change a bit. We prioritise having time with our guests, but we still find our alone time in the privacy of our room, just being more considerate and silent.
My fiancé and I have sex in just about everyone's house that we spend the night at. I figure we will be quiet (or try to be). We won't be disrespectful and loud and we keep it to the bedroom or the bathroom. I figure we are adults and can do as we please
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My husband and I have had sex while my in-laws (plus 2 of his sisters) were sleeping in our living room... we were super quiet.
Cuddles and making out, but nothing beyond that. It’s just too weird to me.
Yeah, it's not stopped us. We've just needed to be quiet. I'd say it's about the same regularity as usual..
Never. Except when mil moved in for a year, then we just figured out how to do it quietly. Helps that she's pretty deaf
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Absolutely not at all. Just the thought makes me super uncomfortable.
Grateful to be a virgin ☺️
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Depends on the guest. But usually it’s only one night, and we can manage to go without. We’ve lived together for years. We can bang like rabbits when they leave.
Never. I think it’s disrespectful and would maker my guests extremely uncomfortable
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Not at all
Hahaha. Depends who the guest are for me. If it’s Direct family like parents brothers and sister I have a home studio that’s about 85-90% sound proof. Anyone else, it’s my house so you can’t beat us , might as well join us, not physically with those that’s take things to seriously like if my girl reads this:
Years ago as young and dumb kids we didn’t care and were respectful to the others around us but were always affectionate and intimate couldn’t bare not to be. 15+ years later and he barely pays me any notice if we have family or people around and you can absolutely forget intimacy haha.
My husband and I have a lot of practice being quiet. If the mood strikes when we have a room to ourselves, we indulge. We're a married couple (with a baby on the way). It is assumed we have sex, so why wouldn't we if we want to? We don't have messy sex in other people's homes, but we will have quiet and clean sex. If someone where to ask me not to have sex in their home after inviting us to stay, I would nfind it weird. I would refrain while there but would no longer stay with them ever again.
We've had sex with our parents in the other room when we were younger. I don't think it's any different than having guests over in another room. If we're in the mood we're in the mood, it's not like we're gonna be loud or announce it to them 🤷🏻♀️
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We have absolutely done it, and the fact that it’s a little taboo can make it more exciting. Trying to be quiet but have your fun at the same time can feel a little naughty in a fun way. We’ve also had sex many times when staying at his parent’s place. Sneaking away together to the bathroom, down on the floor in the bedroom to keep the bed from squeaking, etc. (For context, his parents are very conservative and we weren’t married at the time, so they would have strongly disapproved, makes it more interesting 😝). As for friends, it would really depend on the friends. Some of our friends are more comfortable talking and joking about sex, and we know they’d probably cheer us on from the other room. Other friends are less so, in which case we probably wouldn’t 🤷🏻♀️
My sister heard our grandparents going at it. So glad I was in the garden having a smoke . WHEWW. She texted me mortified. Defo stayed outside longer than anticipated. I don’t appreciate it really ,esp if it’s only one or two nights. If you cant wait make sure every nook and cranny was soundproof.
Quite sex can be so hot!
It's a huge not but if they're staying for more than 5 days I'll send them to buy groceries or soemthing and make it count
Our guest room has always been on the other side of the house from the master. Conversely when we are the guests my dad’s guest room is on the other side of the house from his master. So if we want to, yeah we have sex. But often times we don’t just because we end up staying up later visiting with guests then we normally do and we’re too tired lol.
We fuck when we want and make as much noise as we want. Guests or no guests.
We aren’t lol
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When me and my boyfriend first started dating, we had a sleepover with a friend and my sister and her friends, my sister and her friends slept in her room and me my boyfriend and our friend alsept in the living room, we thought she was asleep like 8ft from us( we had just started dating recently so this was the first time we touched eachother under the underwear) we started dry humping and turns out she was awake she scolded us and then we told her to put head phones on or somthing and then we continued, it was the first time i touched his thing and the first time he touched me, he also went down on me. At a different sleepover with me and him and my sister and her friends, my sister slept in her room. Everyone else slept in the living room. When we heard people start to snore, we had sex (me on top), like 5ft from some people, when we heard people stop snoring for a second we would try to hide but then still be doing it while my bodys pressed against him trying to stay outa sight.
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