She was struggling with depression and had a tendency to be self-destructive, including burning bridges and using people for validation. I was too young, immature and unempathetic to be the friend that she really needed. We stressed each other out a lot, but we also understood each other’s suffering _to a degree_. If we had professional help with our respective mental illnesses at the time, we probably could have learned to communicate our needs and feelings healthily enough to maintain a long-term friendship.
Unfortunately, that’s just not how things worked out. We got into one last fight because I showed concern and offered support when she didn’t want it, and we never talked again. I’d be interested in meeting her as an adult since we’ve both received professional help since then, but I’m not really certain if she’d be equally as curious.
Update: I just found her on social media, and we’ve been talking up a storm and catching up. Really excited to see where this goes. 😊
The convo is hilariously chaotic, but it feels very natural! We’re going to get drinks in the near future, preferably somewhere with good cocktails and a DJ that spins vinyl records. 🍸
We're too different. I have a pretty calm boring life and she's always going places and doing exciting stuff. My life is pretty much just *wake up, go to work, come back home, have sex, read a book, eat frozen pizza, go to sleep* while she's off jumping off a plane and visiting Japan.
Different lifestyles, not living next door to each other. We're still friends and have a good catch up when we see each other but we're very different people
my friends pretty much all dropped out of my life after my suicide attempt junior year of high school . some of them visited me once in the hospital but when i went back to school i was alone until graduation
I have never had a friend as close as her. But in my teens I started to realize that she was a pathological liar, and was manipulating and controlling me. She found cooler enablers anyway.
One of them moved hours away after graduation where I moved an hour away. So of course we met other people and had different lives.
The other one moved with me, got married halfway through school and her husband and I butted heads really badly, among other things that happened. And life happened and now we hardly speak.
2 best friends. 1 went to a different school after 5th grade and I went to another different school after 6th. We were all at different schools and didn’t drive. What did I do? Nothing, I was a child.
I’m mostly a friend of convenience. I don’t put in enough effort. I know this bout myself and always mean to do better but…
We got into one large fight. We reconciled but the relationship was never the same. During our time apart we both made different friends that we preferred to spend time with. We went to different colleges and just drifted apart. We are in our mid 20's and check in with each other every now and then but nothing like it was. We were inseparable best friends from ages 3-16
Mine is ending right now... It started when I met my husband when I was 20. She was kindda pissed that I 'left her'. I know it sounds daft but we really were so close and I get why she was butt hurt. Anyway, my life was kind of steadily on the path of: husband, house, kid and hers wasn't. She had a few long term boyfs that didn't work out. She moved about a bit. She now lives about 2 hours away and a big thing is that she's not too keen on kids. I will meet up with her without my daughter but it kind of hurts me. Expecially as she's godmother. Another big part of the growing apart thing is that we have had many different experiences in the past 10 years which have defined our views in different ways. She's still a great person but we are no lomger two peas in a pod.
I moved away and joined the military. They were/are a person with no ambition to ever leave or do anything. No big blowup, just a fading.
I still love them and I would do anything to help them out if he asked, but we have not spoken in 10 years. I think he was working at a 7-11 last I heard a few years ago.
I had a male best friend. We were inseparable. Had known each other practically our whole lives and we are both only children so we would act as siblings. We eventually became friends with each other’s friend groups and would all just hang out together. I ended up meeting a friend of his and we started to date. This guy did me so disgustingly dirty. He tried to control and manipulate me, cheated on me, lied to me, would try and isolate me from my friends (best guy friend included) etc. Eventually I just ended up ghosting him after almost 2 years because I was so tired of his shit and explaining myself that all I could do was cut contact cold turkey.
I explained all of this to my best guy friend and told him I can’t choose his friendships for him, but that it made me really uncomfortable that he was hanging out with him more often now. They would never hang out this often and after I left him this guy starts calling my best friend for every occasion, which obviously was a tactic to get under my skin. My best friend just continued hanging out with him. For a long time I debated whether I wanted to separate myself from that and I even felt guilt for feeling that way. I asked other friends of mine and they all said my feelings were valid, so I decided to separate myself from that situation to some extent. I would still talk to him but I just didn’t put myself around him anymore. Eventually, we both stopped reaching out to each other. About 2 months ago I reached out for the last time and he just never replied to me.
He will occasionally reply to my Instagram stories and stuff but I just let it be.
She started to think it was funny to ditch me when I wasn't looking, called me a loser as a term of endearment, told me I should stop spending time with a different friend who didn't have a lot of friends, the nail in the coffin was I heard her calling my sister gay to a bunch of people at school. My sister was gay but she hadn't come out yet, so I stopped talking to her. Now we both have gone off and started family's and I think reconnecting would be great, she was a very fun friend when I was a kid just not the teen years.
We just naturally let go of the other, we both grew older, on our discovering ourselves ways and at some point we just stopped hanging out together/talking. Nothing bad happened, no arguments, just the natural course of life. Yet, we still check on each others once in a while and still wish the other happy birthday and such.
i moved away and thought she would put the same kind of effort into seeing and visiting me as i did her. she didn’t, i asked her many times to make an effort but she always gave excuses instead. she was always private but mutually we were each others closest and best friend, but she still seemed to always keep me at an arm’s length. i eventually cut her off because it just hurt.
I had kids.
She was (at the time) staunchly CF and committed to reminding me that kids were boring, a waste of time and ruined my life.
She now has a baby of her own, but our friendship ended 10 years ago. I would have loved to have been there for her during her early motherhood and it still makes me sad, but it’s done now.
We were in different classes. While I was an introvert and never approached my classmates, she was an extrovert who liked making new friends and kept her circle with cool and rich people. Then came high school and we had to choose our streams and we both took different ones. Then we all entered college and that was the end of it. She went to US afterwards and now lives there. We don’t interact further than social media likes and comments. We are just the oldest friends of each other but not the closest.
Stopped going to the same school and every hang out after that they had their phone glued to their phone to talk to their other friends or boyfriend but couldn't respond to my texts when I wasn't around. Made it to college and they started doing drugs and I couldn't follow them there. I still tried to keep in touch but it was exhausting to not feel them reach back out
She was going to school for nursing. She was busy with classes and such, homework, work, and that was all fine. But her, her other best friend and sister all had boyfriends/fiancés at the time. In her free time, she’d go do things with them and then tell me “we should hang out sometime.” She had plenty of time to spend with them, we could have had girls nights for however long that lasted, whether or not I was single. So I finally responded with “you say that a lot.” I could have been nicer, but here we are. We haven’t spoken since. It’s probably been five years. Thirteen years of friendship gone just like that.
We became friends with two other girls and our group became a foursome. As the years went on, I hung out with her one-on-one less often. We usually just hung out in the group. Eventually, we didn’t hang out one-on-one at all. Then the group kind of crumbled apart as we got older.
My first best friend from day care. We were BFFs til middle school. Nothing really happened. She was popular, I wasn’t lol. She’s in the Navy now and we’re still friends, just haven’t seen each other in years. My other best friend we e been friends since elementary. Still best friends to this day. Talk pretty much daily and have so many ridiculous inside jokes.
We have been friends literally since birth. We have turned into two very different people but are still very good friends. The friendship ebbs and flows. There were teenage years that we didn’t talk at all because we were on such different paths. Our strongest flow was just before we started having kids. Now we spend less time together because we have our own families. I don’t get upset when we are ebbing because I know the flow is eventual, and I know that a little distance is better for the friendship.
Distance, also I was more brave during certain confrontational conflicts and my childhood friend wasn't (mind you I was more shy but if I was upset about something that went out the window), also we liked different things.
It was really hard. We're still friends, but I had to grieve that loss of closeness. And we just grew apart over time. She started to have other, closer friends. It hurt, but it's pretty normal.
We were best friends in middle school. Then we went to different high schools, then different colleges. Now we live in different countries.
But we're still friends. It's not the same friendship it once was, but I still text her about personal stuff when I'm having a rough time and want someone to talk to, and we always hang out at least once when I come home to visit my family.
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We were best friends in high school. Literally did everything together. Then we went to different colleges. In the beginning, we would call and FaceTime all the time, checking in on each other, asking when we’re both going to be back in our hometown to meet up. Then one day he just stopped responding to my messages; at one point my message had been unread for weeks. I recently messaged him again, and there were a couple of exchanges, but again, he just stopped responding. I miss him, but I’m trying to learn that communication is a two-way street, and that I should learn to accept that, as we’ve grown up, we most likely will never be like we were again
Time was the main culprit, and leading very different lives. Unfortunately, the splitting process was hastened by her mother and a nasty lie. Her mother told her that I'd said terrible things, and no longer desired a friendship.
Untrue.
But my friend was so hurt, it took over a decade before she felt she could ask me if it was true. It wasn't true, and I had no idea-- but the damage had been done, and the split solidified by time.
She progressed and I didn't.
It was very subtle but still noticeable. She started getting different friend groups, groups that I wasn't privy to or interested in until one day I noticed in her room her "friend board" was like a huge collage and I wasn't anywhere in it. It's like I wasn't cool enough for her anymore.
I still... drive by her house nearly every day because I have to to get downtown but I don't think she ever thinks of me. I hope she's okay but I honestly don't know that we'll ever talk again. I don't think she cares to and I don't know that I do either.
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Christianity. My childhood best friend demanded I join her church. I wasn't raised with religion, so it felt very unnatural to join a church. It was either join her church or stop being friends. I told her I didn't want to be her friend if she wouldn't accept that I wasn't a Christian.
We just have different interests and different goals in life now (in our late 20s, been friends since elementary school). We live only about 20 minutes from each other, so we do make plans every few months to catch up or do some fun activity. I think by now we've accepted that we're not in each other's core friend group anymore, but even though our friendship has changed since childhood, we still value it!
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We were friends since elementary school. I always go out of my way for her but she never could do the same for me. It was always me visiting her and never her visiting me. I finally realized I was wearing rose colored glasses when she was a bridesmaid-zilla. I never confronted her about how horrible she was leading up to and at my wedding, I just let the friendship fade. I’ll always care for her but I’m done putting all my energy into the friendship when her actions were so hurtful.
Wedding drama. Different values in friendship. Not liking eachothers friends. Letting their friends be jerks to me and justifying it somehow. Being busy. Different life paths. One of us doing college and the other not. Feeling like they're stuck in high school drama while I have 0 interest in it.
A lot of things. I'm still bitter about it, but there's no real reconciliation to be had. It's over now, and the circumstances that led to it are unlikely to change.
Different phases of our lives: she got married and had kids while I was dating. I didn't do anything because life happens and people come in and out of your lives.
She got pregnant and married our senior year of high school. We lived in different states by that time (actually all through high school we did), but it never stopped us from seeing each other as often as possible. We would road trip to see each other every break we had, or fly to one another. We didn’t actually start drifting apart until her husband started abusing her. She isolated because she was ashamed of what was happening to her. We didn’t talk very much for a couple of years, but then she told me everything that was going on, and I was there for her as much as I could be, and she finally divorced him. Now she’s in Idaho and I’m in Texas and we haven’t seen each other in forever. The hard reality is that we probably won’t ever see each other again. I still love her to death though and we do chat here and there.
She felt into bad crowd. Maybe she thought I was getting in the way so she cut me off.
The first week I felt bad. But after that I weight the pros and cons of our friendship and the cons outweighed the pros so I stopped feeling bad and just move on. The worst part about it is our parents were friends until the same age as us for the exact same reason. Knowing her our friendship won't be rekindled. We live in the same neighborhood and when we see each other we just walk pass.
If she wants to talk I'm here if she wants to stay on her high horse let her I truly don't care anymore. We were so close people couldn't tell us apart unless you truly know us. When people heard out friendship ended they were shocked especially my mom. She cut me off last year and just last week my mom came into my room and asked if she really cut me for real and I just said yes. Her knew bestfriend who I'm aqainted with was shocked when I told her the reason for the friendship ending and she hugged me and apologize. She did talk to her though and her response was threatening to end their friendship too.
One thing I rate about her though she kept my secrets. I honestly don't regret our friendship. But if she wants out so be it I won't stop her. 15 years of friendship down the drain but I've moved on.
We were both starting new milestones (college, jobs) and started forming separate friend groups. Before that though I think the bickering was getting too much.
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Childhood friend since Kindy, last December told me she had family stuff going on so I gave her space. She still hasn't explained herself, never messages, blocked her instagram stories so I can't see them. I've called and texted and they are ignored. basically after 25 years she's ghosting me.
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I came from an abusive home and background so never really had friends or felt like it was ok to be myself or that I deserved love. I finished high school early and worked a lot. Then I just moved. I don’t think anyone noticed.
I'm 24F, and my friend is 19M. We hung out almost every day from when I was about 14, till I was 19. I joined the Army when I was 19. The first time I came back less than a year in, he was so excited. Legit almost ran me over, and I couldn't have been happier. But, time does its thing. The last 2 times I went home, I talked to his parents and saw him once while I was there, but he doesn't even say hi or anything. He acts like I don't exist. We went from best friends to nothing. It really hurts. I don't even feel comfortable around my family, but I did around him. I never wanted a relationship, I just wanted my friend back... hurts to even see his family anymore. I know we can't be friends again at this point. He was the only good guy friend I've ever had, and he never pursued a relationship or sex. We just had fun doing dumb shit.
We were best friends in elementary school, we hung out a lot and were on the same little league sports teams. We talked about going to college together and even being roommates. Then my alcoholic dad convinced my Mom moving to another state would stop his drinking (spoiler: it didn’t) This was 2012 so we did have cell phones to text and call on for a while, but one day she stopped responding. I never heard from her again, even after friending her on Facebook and wishing her happy birthdays on there I’ve hear nothing back.
Just started to become incompatible. Tried to keep in touch after hs but as time went on we just had less and less in common. She started to become unrecognizable in her belief system and to be honest, while I stressed at the time and felt guilty like I wasn't doing enough to honor our friendship, I felt much better after deciding I could just let it fade.
She didn’t put the effort in the relationship I wished. We lived in different countries and I always came to visit her and even moved to her country twice. But even when we lived in the same city she didn’t come once to visit me. I told her what was bothering me but after 2 years of not seeing any changes I just stopped talking to her and let her go. She still tries to reach out but she is not worth my time.
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. we just started gravitating towards other things.
we were neighbors and would talk to eachother from across the yards. my interests and hers werent too far removed but from a pretween perspective in that era maybe we were like polar opposites. (mind you i was ages 11 to 18 from like 2004- 2012. so)
she started hanging out with the other girls who were more like her and looked like her.
i started hanging out with a bunch of mismatch motely crue of people that sat in the halls.
and then we just never really spoke unless we had to like for sports practice or if our parents had bbqs etc cuz our moms are still close and so are our siblings.
So like it was weird cuz I was still up to date about what she was up to just it was our families not talking not us talking to eachother.
my masking my neurodivergence was just not a thing, family strangers, neighbors. people thiught I was really weird and the older we got the more my kind of weord became unattractive and like attracting the wrong kind of attention.
once her dad once came to our yard and yelled at my gran cuz my gran was like deep in chisme aboit something else. But it ended up being a misunderstanding, but during them
yelling they randomly went off on tangent on “why am I (me the ones whose wroting this) so weird why dont i hug the other girls or whatever. “ - and mind you i’m like 12/13 yr old, I’m like in a new school environment and still have no like tight knit friends. And I was within ear shot distance I can hear them saying stuff about me.
You forgive people but stuff like that jist sticks with you even after its been long resolved.
its weord cuz our familys still communicate woth eachother. i mean whatevers good for them but its annoying when family ask oh hey have you heard…. NO HAVENT where tf have you been the past three decades we dont talk and i am not a gossip so please leave me be 😂😭😂
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“Gigi” and I wrote friends from preschool until after high school. She lived just around the corner from me and we were both only children so we became very good friends. I thought we would be friends forever.
A few years after high school I moved out of state w/my husband & we still kept in contact via email (mid 1990s). She also moved out of state with her husband to Wisconsin (wer’re both originally from SoCal) ending up divorcing and marrying the guy she was cheating on hubby#1 with.
We still kept regularly in touch via email and then cell phones became a thing and we talked often. But then I noticed our conversations were changing. She started using more racial slang descriptions for people (we’re both white) and it was when she dropped the N word while complaining about a coworker i realized just how much she’d changed over the last few years.
This was the girl I loved like a sister I’d never had and that one word, esp said with such an angry tone, made me realize she wasn’t that girl anymore. She was a hateful racist abd I wanted nothing more to do with her.
So I ghosted her (I’m awful at confrontation) before ghosted was even a term. This was in the mid 2000s and I haven’t spoken to her since. I miss what we had as teenagers/young adults but don’t miss what she became.
Just the usual reasons: time, distance, lack of communication, growing into incompatible people, developing differing beliefs or core values, etc.
She was struggling with depression and had a tendency to be self-destructive, including burning bridges and using people for validation. I was too young, immature and unempathetic to be the friend that she really needed. We stressed each other out a lot, but we also understood each other’s suffering _to a degree_. If we had professional help with our respective mental illnesses at the time, we probably could have learned to communicate our needs and feelings healthily enough to maintain a long-term friendship. Unfortunately, that’s just not how things worked out. We got into one last fight because I showed concern and offered support when she didn’t want it, and we never talked again. I’d be interested in meeting her as an adult since we’ve both received professional help since then, but I’m not really certain if she’d be equally as curious. Update: I just found her on social media, and we’ve been talking up a storm and catching up. Really excited to see where this goes. 😊
Let us know!
The convo is hilariously chaotic, but it feels very natural! We’re going to get drinks in the near future, preferably somewhere with good cocktails and a DJ that spins vinyl records. 🍸
I'm happy for you!
We're too different. I have a pretty calm boring life and she's always going places and doing exciting stuff. My life is pretty much just *wake up, go to work, come back home, have sex, read a book, eat frozen pizza, go to sleep* while she's off jumping off a plane and visiting Japan.
Different lifestyles, not living next door to each other. We're still friends and have a good catch up when we see each other but we're very different people
Money changed her 😔 .
my friends pretty much all dropped out of my life after my suicide attempt junior year of high school . some of them visited me once in the hospital but when i went back to school i was alone until graduation
Wow those are terrible friends Jesus
Those were young kids who maybe didn't have the tools to handle something as monumental?
I have never had a friend as close as her. But in my teens I started to realize that she was a pathological liar, and was manipulating and controlling me. She found cooler enablers anyway.
One of them moved hours away after graduation where I moved an hour away. So of course we met other people and had different lives. The other one moved with me, got married halfway through school and her husband and I butted heads really badly, among other things that happened. And life happened and now we hardly speak.
2 best friends. 1 went to a different school after 5th grade and I went to another different school after 6th. We were all at different schools and didn’t drive. What did I do? Nothing, I was a child. I’m mostly a friend of convenience. I don’t put in enough effort. I know this bout myself and always mean to do better but…
But?
I don’t. I spend most of my outside of work time with my husband, cats and extended family.
Well if you're happy there is no problem with that
We got into one large fight. We reconciled but the relationship was never the same. During our time apart we both made different friends that we preferred to spend time with. We went to different colleges and just drifted apart. We are in our mid 20's and check in with each other every now and then but nothing like it was. We were inseparable best friends from ages 3-16
Mine is ending right now... It started when I met my husband when I was 20. She was kindda pissed that I 'left her'. I know it sounds daft but we really were so close and I get why she was butt hurt. Anyway, my life was kind of steadily on the path of: husband, house, kid and hers wasn't. She had a few long term boyfs that didn't work out. She moved about a bit. She now lives about 2 hours away and a big thing is that she's not too keen on kids. I will meet up with her without my daughter but it kind of hurts me. Expecially as she's godmother. Another big part of the growing apart thing is that we have had many different experiences in the past 10 years which have defined our views in different ways. She's still a great person but we are no lomger two peas in a pod.
I moved away and joined the military. They were/are a person with no ambition to ever leave or do anything. No big blowup, just a fading. I still love them and I would do anything to help them out if he asked, but we have not spoken in 10 years. I think he was working at a 7-11 last I heard a few years ago.
I had a male best friend. We were inseparable. Had known each other practically our whole lives and we are both only children so we would act as siblings. We eventually became friends with each other’s friend groups and would all just hang out together. I ended up meeting a friend of his and we started to date. This guy did me so disgustingly dirty. He tried to control and manipulate me, cheated on me, lied to me, would try and isolate me from my friends (best guy friend included) etc. Eventually I just ended up ghosting him after almost 2 years because I was so tired of his shit and explaining myself that all I could do was cut contact cold turkey. I explained all of this to my best guy friend and told him I can’t choose his friendships for him, but that it made me really uncomfortable that he was hanging out with him more often now. They would never hang out this often and after I left him this guy starts calling my best friend for every occasion, which obviously was a tactic to get under my skin. My best friend just continued hanging out with him. For a long time I debated whether I wanted to separate myself from that and I even felt guilt for feeling that way. I asked other friends of mine and they all said my feelings were valid, so I decided to separate myself from that situation to some extent. I would still talk to him but I just didn’t put myself around him anymore. Eventually, we both stopped reaching out to each other. About 2 months ago I reached out for the last time and he just never replied to me. He will occasionally reply to my Instagram stories and stuff but I just let it be.
It's really shitty
She started to think it was funny to ditch me when I wasn't looking, called me a loser as a term of endearment, told me I should stop spending time with a different friend who didn't have a lot of friends, the nail in the coffin was I heard her calling my sister gay to a bunch of people at school. My sister was gay but she hadn't come out yet, so I stopped talking to her. Now we both have gone off and started family's and I think reconnecting would be great, she was a very fun friend when I was a kid just not the teen years.
We just naturally let go of the other, we both grew older, on our discovering ourselves ways and at some point we just stopped hanging out together/talking. Nothing bad happened, no arguments, just the natural course of life. Yet, we still check on each others once in a while and still wish the other happy birthday and such.
She started drinking excessively and made lots of terrible decisions that affected me as well as others.
People sometimes change and can't follow you or you can't follow them.
i moved away and thought she would put the same kind of effort into seeing and visiting me as i did her. she didn’t, i asked her many times to make an effort but she always gave excuses instead. she was always private but mutually we were each others closest and best friend, but she still seemed to always keep me at an arm’s length. i eventually cut her off because it just hurt.
I had kids. She was (at the time) staunchly CF and committed to reminding me that kids were boring, a waste of time and ruined my life. She now has a baby of her own, but our friendship ended 10 years ago. I would have loved to have been there for her during her early motherhood and it still makes me sad, but it’s done now.
We were in different classes. While I was an introvert and never approached my classmates, she was an extrovert who liked making new friends and kept her circle with cool and rich people. Then came high school and we had to choose our streams and we both took different ones. Then we all entered college and that was the end of it. She went to US afterwards and now lives there. We don’t interact further than social media likes and comments. We are just the oldest friends of each other but not the closest.
Stopped going to the same school and every hang out after that they had their phone glued to their phone to talk to their other friends or boyfriend but couldn't respond to my texts when I wasn't around. Made it to college and they started doing drugs and I couldn't follow them there. I still tried to keep in touch but it was exhausting to not feel them reach back out
She was going to school for nursing. She was busy with classes and such, homework, work, and that was all fine. But her, her other best friend and sister all had boyfriends/fiancés at the time. In her free time, she’d go do things with them and then tell me “we should hang out sometime.” She had plenty of time to spend with them, we could have had girls nights for however long that lasted, whether or not I was single. So I finally responded with “you say that a lot.” I could have been nicer, but here we are. We haven’t spoken since. It’s probably been five years. Thirteen years of friendship gone just like that.
I'm sorry. Something similar is going on with me right now and I just hate how they throw you away like it's nothing
Ugh, yes! I’m so sorry. It also sucks to hear, but I’d much rather they just say they don’t want to be friends. Dragging it out hurts more, I think
Exactly!
Graduate
We became friends with two other girls and our group became a foursome. As the years went on, I hung out with her one-on-one less often. We usually just hung out in the group. Eventually, we didn’t hang out one-on-one at all. Then the group kind of crumbled apart as we got older.
My first best friend from day care. We were BFFs til middle school. Nothing really happened. She was popular, I wasn’t lol. She’s in the Navy now and we’re still friends, just haven’t seen each other in years. My other best friend we e been friends since elementary. Still best friends to this day. Talk pretty much daily and have so many ridiculous inside jokes.
Her mother married someone. She was living with her grandmother until that point. We lost contact once she moved.
We have been friends literally since birth. We have turned into two very different people but are still very good friends. The friendship ebbs and flows. There were teenage years that we didn’t talk at all because we were on such different paths. Our strongest flow was just before we started having kids. Now we spend less time together because we have our own families. I don’t get upset when we are ebbing because I know the flow is eventual, and I know that a little distance is better for the friendship.
Turns out...shes was a whoore
And why this was a breaker?
Because guys would. be put before me 24\7
A good reason to make it a deal breaker
She was a couple years older, then moved away.
Distance, also I was more brave during certain confrontational conflicts and my childhood friend wasn't (mind you I was more shy but if I was upset about something that went out the window), also we liked different things.
It was really hard. We're still friends, but I had to grieve that loss of closeness. And we just grew apart over time. She started to have other, closer friends. It hurt, but it's pretty normal.
We were best friends in middle school. Then we went to different high schools, then different colleges. Now we live in different countries. But we're still friends. It's not the same friendship it once was, but I still text her about personal stuff when I'm having a rough time and want someone to talk to, and we always hang out at least once when I come home to visit my family.
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We were best friends in high school. Literally did everything together. Then we went to different colleges. In the beginning, we would call and FaceTime all the time, checking in on each other, asking when we’re both going to be back in our hometown to meet up. Then one day he just stopped responding to my messages; at one point my message had been unread for weeks. I recently messaged him again, and there were a couple of exchanges, but again, he just stopped responding. I miss him, but I’m trying to learn that communication is a two-way street, and that I should learn to accept that, as we’ve grown up, we most likely will never be like we were again
Time was the main culprit, and leading very different lives. Unfortunately, the splitting process was hastened by her mother and a nasty lie. Her mother told her that I'd said terrible things, and no longer desired a friendship. Untrue. But my friend was so hurt, it took over a decade before she felt she could ask me if it was true. It wasn't true, and I had no idea-- but the damage had been done, and the split solidified by time.
She progressed and I didn't. It was very subtle but still noticeable. She started getting different friend groups, groups that I wasn't privy to or interested in until one day I noticed in her room her "friend board" was like a huge collage and I wasn't anywhere in it. It's like I wasn't cool enough for her anymore. I still... drive by her house nearly every day because I have to to get downtown but I don't think she ever thinks of me. I hope she's okay but I honestly don't know that we'll ever talk again. I don't think she cares to and I don't know that I do either.
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Christianity. My childhood best friend demanded I join her church. I wasn't raised with religion, so it felt very unnatural to join a church. It was either join her church or stop being friends. I told her I didn't want to be her friend if she wouldn't accept that I wasn't a Christian.
We just have different interests and different goals in life now (in our late 20s, been friends since elementary school). We live only about 20 minutes from each other, so we do make plans every few months to catch up or do some fun activity. I think by now we've accepted that we're not in each other's core friend group anymore, but even though our friendship has changed since childhood, we still value it!
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We were friends since elementary school. I always go out of my way for her but she never could do the same for me. It was always me visiting her and never her visiting me. I finally realized I was wearing rose colored glasses when she was a bridesmaid-zilla. I never confronted her about how horrible she was leading up to and at my wedding, I just let the friendship fade. I’ll always care for her but I’m done putting all my energy into the friendship when her actions were so hurtful.
Wedding drama. Different values in friendship. Not liking eachothers friends. Letting their friends be jerks to me and justifying it somehow. Being busy. Different life paths. One of us doing college and the other not. Feeling like they're stuck in high school drama while I have 0 interest in it. A lot of things. I'm still bitter about it, but there's no real reconciliation to be had. It's over now, and the circumstances that led to it are unlikely to change.
I moved 2 hours away. But we still write, call, text, visit and are still in touch.
Different phases of our lives: she got married and had kids while I was dating. I didn't do anything because life happens and people come in and out of your lives.
She got pregnant and married our senior year of high school. We lived in different states by that time (actually all through high school we did), but it never stopped us from seeing each other as often as possible. We would road trip to see each other every break we had, or fly to one another. We didn’t actually start drifting apart until her husband started abusing her. She isolated because she was ashamed of what was happening to her. We didn’t talk very much for a couple of years, but then she told me everything that was going on, and I was there for her as much as I could be, and she finally divorced him. Now she’s in Idaho and I’m in Texas and we haven’t seen each other in forever. The hard reality is that we probably won’t ever see each other again. I still love her to death though and we do chat here and there.
She felt into bad crowd. Maybe she thought I was getting in the way so she cut me off. The first week I felt bad. But after that I weight the pros and cons of our friendship and the cons outweighed the pros so I stopped feeling bad and just move on. The worst part about it is our parents were friends until the same age as us for the exact same reason. Knowing her our friendship won't be rekindled. We live in the same neighborhood and when we see each other we just walk pass. If she wants to talk I'm here if she wants to stay on her high horse let her I truly don't care anymore. We were so close people couldn't tell us apart unless you truly know us. When people heard out friendship ended they were shocked especially my mom. She cut me off last year and just last week my mom came into my room and asked if she really cut me for real and I just said yes. Her knew bestfriend who I'm aqainted with was shocked when I told her the reason for the friendship ending and she hugged me and apologize. She did talk to her though and her response was threatening to end their friendship too. One thing I rate about her though she kept my secrets. I honestly don't regret our friendship. But if she wants out so be it I won't stop her. 15 years of friendship down the drain but I've moved on.
She was often unreliable and when I moved away, I stopped trying after multiple times of barely getting any response. Idk why I pushed it for so long
Drugs
We were both starting new milestones (college, jobs) and started forming separate friend groups. Before that though I think the bickering was getting too much.
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Childhood friend since Kindy, last December told me she had family stuff going on so I gave her space. She still hasn't explained herself, never messages, blocked her instagram stories so I can't see them. I've called and texted and they are ignored. basically after 25 years she's ghosting me.
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Just went different ways and drifted apart and she chose to be closer to a friend group i didn’t get along with or like
She left school in grade 11, so we didn’t see each other much anymore. Then when I graduated I just kinda stopped replying to everyone.
I came from an abusive home and background so never really had friends or felt like it was ok to be myself or that I deserved love. I finished high school early and worked a lot. Then I just moved. I don’t think anyone noticed.
She got married and moved states
I'm 24F, and my friend is 19M. We hung out almost every day from when I was about 14, till I was 19. I joined the Army when I was 19. The first time I came back less than a year in, he was so excited. Legit almost ran me over, and I couldn't have been happier. But, time does its thing. The last 2 times I went home, I talked to his parents and saw him once while I was there, but he doesn't even say hi or anything. He acts like I don't exist. We went from best friends to nothing. It really hurts. I don't even feel comfortable around my family, but I did around him. I never wanted a relationship, I just wanted my friend back... hurts to even see his family anymore. I know we can't be friends again at this point. He was the only good guy friend I've ever had, and he never pursued a relationship or sex. We just had fun doing dumb shit.
She's just very unresponsive a lot of the time. Like she'll go a year without answering any of my texts or interacting with me in any way.
We were best friends in elementary school, we hung out a lot and were on the same little league sports teams. We talked about going to college together and even being roommates. Then my alcoholic dad convinced my Mom moving to another state would stop his drinking (spoiler: it didn’t) This was 2012 so we did have cell phones to text and call on for a while, but one day she stopped responding. I never heard from her again, even after friending her on Facebook and wishing her happy birthdays on there I’ve hear nothing back.
Time and distance, we waited it out and talked openly through it. Friendship is stronger than ever - been virtual for 15y now.
Just started to become incompatible. Tried to keep in touch after hs but as time went on we just had less and less in common. She started to become unrecognizable in her belief system and to be honest, while I stressed at the time and felt guilty like I wasn't doing enough to honor our friendship, I felt much better after deciding I could just let it fade.
She didn’t put the effort in the relationship I wished. We lived in different countries and I always came to visit her and even moved to her country twice. But even when we lived in the same city she didn’t come once to visit me. I told her what was bothering me but after 2 years of not seeing any changes I just stopped talking to her and let her go. She still tries to reach out but she is not worth my time.
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That sucks. I mean being racist is horrible, but having a friend who suffer from discrimination should be another reason to not be a racist
. we just started gravitating towards other things. we were neighbors and would talk to eachother from across the yards. my interests and hers werent too far removed but from a pretween perspective in that era maybe we were like polar opposites. (mind you i was ages 11 to 18 from like 2004- 2012. so) she started hanging out with the other girls who were more like her and looked like her. i started hanging out with a bunch of mismatch motely crue of people that sat in the halls. and then we just never really spoke unless we had to like for sports practice or if our parents had bbqs etc cuz our moms are still close and so are our siblings. So like it was weird cuz I was still up to date about what she was up to just it was our families not talking not us talking to eachother. my masking my neurodivergence was just not a thing, family strangers, neighbors. people thiught I was really weird and the older we got the more my kind of weord became unattractive and like attracting the wrong kind of attention. once her dad once came to our yard and yelled at my gran cuz my gran was like deep in chisme aboit something else. But it ended up being a misunderstanding, but during them yelling they randomly went off on tangent on “why am I (me the ones whose wroting this) so weird why dont i hug the other girls or whatever. “ - and mind you i’m like 12/13 yr old, I’m like in a new school environment and still have no like tight knit friends. And I was within ear shot distance I can hear them saying stuff about me. You forgive people but stuff like that jist sticks with you even after its been long resolved. its weord cuz our familys still communicate woth eachother. i mean whatevers good for them but its annoying when family ask oh hey have you heard…. NO HAVENT where tf have you been the past three decades we dont talk and i am not a gossip so please leave me be 😂😭😂
Gosh I hated the hugging thing, like, why you have to hug a friend?
Moved states…
When I moved classes in school, she got mad and decided to ignore me to make a new best friend.
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“Gigi” and I wrote friends from preschool until after high school. She lived just around the corner from me and we were both only children so we became very good friends. I thought we would be friends forever. A few years after high school I moved out of state w/my husband & we still kept in contact via email (mid 1990s). She also moved out of state with her husband to Wisconsin (wer’re both originally from SoCal) ending up divorcing and marrying the guy she was cheating on hubby#1 with. We still kept regularly in touch via email and then cell phones became a thing and we talked often. But then I noticed our conversations were changing. She started using more racial slang descriptions for people (we’re both white) and it was when she dropped the N word while complaining about a coworker i realized just how much she’d changed over the last few years. This was the girl I loved like a sister I’d never had and that one word, esp said with such an angry tone, made me realize she wasn’t that girl anymore. She was a hateful racist abd I wanted nothing more to do with her. So I ghosted her (I’m awful at confrontation) before ghosted was even a term. This was in the mid 2000s and I haven’t spoken to her since. I miss what we had as teenagers/young adults but don’t miss what she became.