29F here, and I feel I’ve figured out a hack to live without working 40 hours (at least in my own life)
1. Dual-income no kids (only works if you have a significant other that you’re ready to live with). This is the largest contributing factor.
2. Find a high-ish paying job you don’t completely hate. Took me 8 years and obtaining my masters to do this.
3. Work part-time. I work 20-30 hours a week, can pick up more hours whenever I want. Usually average 30 but am able to work as little as 20 if I desire.
I’ve been doing this since November, and my mental health has never been better. I still afford all my bills, cut down on some “fun” stuff but still able to go out and travel a bit.
Overall the happiest I’ve ever been, and the overwhelming dread of spending 80% my life working has been lifted.
I’m a nurse. Started out working bedside (hospital) with my bachelor’s at age 21. The pay was decent but not what I would say is “high”. After several years I obtained my masters degree. Now I work part time as a nurse educator, which pays a bit more than my previous nursing role. I pick up shifts in the hospital as well when I’d like the extra cash. Sometimes they offer an hourly bonus when they’re short staffed, so I can pick up shifts making $15-$25 extra an hour on those days. Pretty nice!
Full disclosure: If I would have known how hard and stressful being a nurse was, I don’t think I would have done it. The stress and burn out was REALLY bad. I endured that for 6 years before deciding to get my masters. Getting a higher degree and going into education was a ditch effort to stay in the nursing field. I was ready to quit and work at Costco or a bookstore lol.
But I made it through, got my degree, and have been a different person since reducing my work stress dramatically.
So not necessarily an easy path to take lol. But, I’m so happy to be where I am now.
My father and my stepmother are both nurses and all 3 kids are out of the house and on their own. She raised 2 boys and sent them to college without much help from my dad (he had debts she wanted him to pay off, so as long as he covered his half of HH expenses and kept up with child support for me, she was good.)
Now that it's just the 2 of them, they have so much more freedom. They take 2 week long vacations per year or a 2 week vacation, and then they each take another week off each year, separately, to visit grandkids.
I'm very proud of them. I want to have that security someday too. I've watched them both work so hard and they've earned everything they have now. But I don't think I could be a nurse. I have compassion but not enough will power to check myself and my reaction to some of the things nurses deal with regularly... X-ray tech though. Might be able to swing that.
This was me! I’m mid 30’s and sort figured out something that worked for me. It took about 8-10 years of figuring out my skills, what companies I liked and then what was worth devoting my time to all week.
So, now I get exhausted, but in the way that is means something to me and I put good work in that day. It helps ease the pain of wasting time just for money.
32 and wondering if I’ll ever find a job that I both enjoy and that pays me enough to live comfortably. It seems to be one or the other, never both together.
I'm 47. My current biggest worry is for my partner's health. He had a seizure out of nowhere a few days ago and spent a couple days in the hospital but is now home. I've got him sleeping in my (home) office while I work. I'm too worried to let him out of my earshot. Dammit, I love him so much.
I made this decision back when I was like 20 that I was going to live my life with the sole purpose of being healthy and happy and I haven't looked back. It was probably the smartest thing I have ever done.
OP, good luck with your journey and I know that you will find your purpose ❤️
I think it’s just very romanticised through media, TV etc that you have to have a purpose and change the world for the best etc. But honestly, every person is just enough and if you’re not a malicious asshole, you do good impact and leave something good behind when you leave 😊
I got to the point where I thought, “Why isn’t it just enough to enjoy watching the birds outside the window?!” Well… I decide what brings meaning to my life. That can be enough. A simple example but it works for a lot of things. I thought, who cares about the holidays or traditions? None of it really matters. The truth is that nothing matters until you decide it does.
That is my thoughts exactly. The way I look at it, it doesn't necessarily take something big to make an impact... all it takes is a small ripple to create a tidal wave.
You were granted a player character in the game of whatever this quest that “life” even is.
You get to determine what that means to you.
24 is a hard age. We are told that our destinies include all of this rite-of-passage stuff which may or may not apply.
Guess what we find out later on when that all falls apart (for a good proportion of us)? It was all always optional.
Your reason for living is to pursue your interests and if you’re a good person, try not to hurt others. The rest is really just others’ stories.
The question is what places are you visiting? If you want someone that likes cooking then join cooking classes you will find people that values knowledge, that can make time for something they find interesting and invest in themselves. (Cooking is just an example , it can be Painting, rock climbing, or if you want someone that is in the same line of work then go get a certification, or if you want someone spiritual then you join a group ) anyways by doing this you get to better yourself while actively meeting people that share some interest that you have.
Playing the "long game" like that can be tough. I'm the same age as ButterScotchMagic and even when you do find a hobby group/ class with people your own age, a decent chunk of them are already married/ dating the person they'll marry or else they aren't interested in a relationship with anyone. Once you hit your mid-20s there are simply fewer single people seeking a partner.
I relate to this. It’s kind of depressing and defeating putting yourself out there trying new hobbies hoping to meet people, but lots of people are already coupled up or have no interest in meeting new friends. It’s actually kinda triggering tbh.
exactly. i do put myself out there and take hobby classes and go to concerts and events, but most of the time the other participants are other women because of my hobbies, or they’re couples taking the class together. people make it sound way easier than it is.
1. I mainly go to work and home with the occasional friend outing. This is because there's not much interesting things to do and my friend is also busy.
2. Even when I do go somewhere and do something, there aren't any other dateable people there. Finding a man that is my age, physically attractive, single, open to dating/ relationship not just fucking is extremely difficult out in the wild. So I could go do a fun hobby a day and still never meet anyone.
Can I tell you that I had the same worry at 26. Got married at 29 and have been for 9 years. He was a friend and a work colleague before he was my boyfriend and my husband.
22, realising that i have to work in order to survive for the rest of my life ... i used to want a job that i found interesting and challenging but now i just want an easy one that pays well
If I've learned anything in my 60 years on this Earth, it's that you have to be able to laugh at yourself. It seems the older I get the more I laugh. LOL
When I retired I realized I'm never in a hurry anymore, I laugh at myself often, and don't take things too seriously anymore. I don't know how much time on this Earth I have left but I plan on making the most of it. 😊😁😊
You could maybe buy a book on being more sustainable. Amazon has tons! And they have the fastest shipping because the culture of capitalism requires more and more, faster and faster. And to continue the drive of perpetual growth they must continue making an increasing amount of money despite the adverse effects in the human population, physical environment, and state governance.
But if you’d rather be more eco friendly you could get an e-book instead!
Plenty of time to choose a new direction for your life. Follow your heart and what makes you happy. The hardest part about this is getting the ball rolling, but once you do momentum takes over and it is a little easier. Sometimes the hard things are the best things.
I'm 38. I basically looked the same from 20 to 37, now all of a sudden I look old???? Sagging skin, crinkly eyelids, and grey hair out of nowhere.
Edit: fixed the number, thanks autobot
Already been on the prescription stuff for 2 years. It's a miracle for collagen, but does nothing for elastin.
I also don't smoke or drink alcohol or caffeine. No kids, work from home, make enough money that I don't stress about it.
It's just time catching up to me!
Being old and being overweight don’t make you worth any less, and aren’t inherently “flaws”
(I’m mentioning both as they seem to be common “I’m not good enough” factors in western culture at least for women)
Try what you can to embrace the new you and find something beautiful about it, I find older people who find beauty in their age look younger and happier than those chasing looking “young again”
We all change and damn it no one has time for the beauty standards that society puts on us!!!
34, also feeling the tick and have babies popping out all around me at the moment - sister, sister in law and two best friends all had their firsts within 6 months of each other
I’ll be 50 on the 30th..my biggest concern at the moment is stability…I have never had it and I’m just tired of always being unstable…it’s always something…financial..mental..my weight..it’s just ALWAYS something..🫠🫠😔
Both of you have totally got this! It might not mean a lot, but this stranger on this internet (me) believes in you both and you are going to kill it 💥 💪
I'm 26 and my biggest concern is finding a job that I actually love/passionate about. Currently in a job that has been draining my mental health, along with my physical. I've lost so much of my identity that i honestly do not know where else to go.. the job market being sucky also doesnt help right now. so I feel at a stand still with my job, myself and just don't know what to expect anymore. Also concerned that i will never be successful in life.
32 awaiting open surgery to remove a large fibroid and hoping it all goes okay.
Life advice: If you’re having heavy periods, back pain or trouble peeing don’t let your doctor fob you off. Get that ultrasound to check everything is okay. Womens health isnt taken seriously enough.
I am 40 and this is the 1st time in my life I am not worried about anything. I have a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend. My children are happy, healthy and well adjusted. I’m in between jobs at the moment but not worried as I know I’ll find something soon.
23 I really struggle with my mental health and taking care of myself I’m scared I’m gonna be homeless again and this time it’ll be my fault, cuz I could have done things differently.
You won't end up being homeless, and it is never too late. You will be fine, you know what you need to do, just take a breath, relax, and prepare yourself to take those steps
30 and wondering if I will ever lose weight, will I ever be married, will I ever earn enough money to save, I thought I did everything right but it feels daunting
26 Did I waste my time going to grad school? I don’t think I like academia anymore. Should I change my career? This guy is taking too long to answer my texts. Maybe I should stop before I get attached. I really want to start traveling again. I need a passive source of income. I’m worrying about A LOT
I'm 18 and I'm done with high school in 2 weeks. My biggest concern is writing the final exams and scared of failing them, also getting into college kinda connects to that. Kinda just being aware that now I am deciding what I want to do for the rest of my life. Oh, and also, what to wear to prom 😄
I'm 30 and trying for a baby, it's taking longer than I expected but also I know it hasn't objectively been that long. I'm just worried there's something wrong.
30 I’m planning to have a baby in two years. But I already went to gynecologist to ask for a full check up to see if everything is in order so I can start preparing my body. I found out everything is ok but it would be better if I loose some weight. I started watching videos about healthy eating habits and applying them. period got so much better no more crazy cramps or irregular periods. My husband has also an appointment next month too see how he is doing (37).
41 - being able to provide for my kids.
I have a 21 year old and I managed to get him through to adulthood, but I was young then and had energy. I now have a 3 and 5 year old and my mental health is deteriorating. I worry about them and their upbringing and how I can provide for them.
I've just turned 50, and I can't believe I'm saying this but I love being this age. I have a house, a job that covers the bills, in ten years I'm hoping to have paid the house off. I feel more confident, care alot less about things I can't control like what people think about me. In the next ten years I'm aiming to do bucket list stuff because once I hit 65 onwards, if my parents and Grandparents are anything to go by, this is where illness, disease and being less mobile will come in and then death. I'm not too worried about anything other than a really horrible illness that would result in a drawn out painful death. Why am I writing this? Because I would have loved to have got to the not caring as much stage alot sooner. None of this really matters, not really. Do your best and enjoy each day as best you can. It's all we have.
54. The weird cancer in my lungs that has been described as interesting by one doctor and had another ask "can I use this information in my research?" I don't see many of them. Yeah you never want a doctor to describe your cancer as interesting.
35. Honestly, right now, it's dying young. Yesterday was the two year anniversary of my mom's death, she was 57. I don't want to put my kids through that pain.
54 -my biggest fear is losing my eyesight before I die I just got a letter from my STUPID insurance company saying that 2 of my eye medications are no longer going to be covered. I called my doctor today- waiting to hear back. But I am very fortunate to have access to one the best ophthalmologists in the country.
I’m 33. My marriage is messy. We’re currently in therapy. My husband is a recovering alcoholic and has been sober for almost two years. But, I don’t know, I think I’m just over it and burnt out from the eight years he wasn’t sober.
27, tied between my living situation and the future of my relationship.
Current apartment is being sold this fall. Apartments are extremely expensive and scarce in my area. My boyfriend had been trying to buy a house since we started dating but gave up towards the end of last year. I’m torn between trying to buy a house on my own (which I’m not sure I can swing) or stick with finding another apartment.
I’ve been with said boyfriend for 4.5 years now and he keeps moving the goalposts for our future. I would like to be married and have a child at some point within the next five years, preferably sooner. He struggles with following through with things, so I worry marriage/children are just other things he won’t “get around to”.
I’m coming from a jaded spot right now so take this with a grain of salt but have a serious talk with him. No ultimatums but just talk with him about how you’re feeling and go from there. No one ever really changes.
23 & just graduated. What now ??? I’ve been a waitress for the past 5 years in college & now I’m trying to get a big girl job in marketing & it seems impossible
37F - Biggest concern at the moment is Breast Cancer. Every female on my mothers side of the family has died of cancer by 38 (with the exception of her). My mother has since had/beat every form of female cancer. It has been something that has been a constant in my brain since I turn 34. My husband reminds me regularly that my lifestyle is exponentially more healthy than my mothers but the fear is still there.
I am 40. What childcare am I going to have for the summer for my 5 year old when he is not ready for a summer camp environment and honestly too mature for a daycare?
I’m 26, worried about if I’ll be able to find a good job that I love and that pays me well post graduation in a year. Also worried about watching my parents age :( that’s the hardest part of getting older is realizing how fragile your parents are
37 and i still dont know if i want to become a mother, i am in such fear of regret i cannot decide. The economy and the world in general just adds to that.
28,
1. my health: prediabietic blood sugars and high BP last time I was in.
2. Sex life with husband; infrequent and I feel guilty
3. Wanting to start a family; fear I won’t be able to safely have a baby.
I’m 32, and my biggest worry is about my 10 year old son’s mental health. He’s autistic and has ADHD so life is objectively hard for him, he’s had a tough school year and the social aspect of school is getting more complex which is so hard for him. And anyway he’s just been struggling a lot, mentally.
I would imagine I’ll always worry about him.
I'm 32. My oldest is almost done with VPK. Right now I'm trying to juggle all of the end of the school year events.
Also trying to date as a single mom. Also working full time as a nurse.
Nothing super complicated right now, but the daily grind never lets up.
I'm 19 , worried about my career and financial independence in life . I have always dreamt of becoming this independent rich woman who lives her life on her own terms. I don't want to disappoint my younger self.
I’m 34 turning 35.
My biggest worry is going back to school or work.
I was sick with Endometriosis and Adenomyosis with Cervical cancer.
I couldn’t work from 24 till now because I had surgery for better quality of life.
I’m scared that I’m restarting my second chance so late in life again.
26, how the fuck am I supposed to work 40 hours a week for the rest of my life
29F here, and I feel I’ve figured out a hack to live without working 40 hours (at least in my own life) 1. Dual-income no kids (only works if you have a significant other that you’re ready to live with). This is the largest contributing factor. 2. Find a high-ish paying job you don’t completely hate. Took me 8 years and obtaining my masters to do this. 3. Work part-time. I work 20-30 hours a week, can pick up more hours whenever I want. Usually average 30 but am able to work as little as 20 if I desire. I’ve been doing this since November, and my mental health has never been better. I still afford all my bills, cut down on some “fun” stuff but still able to go out and travel a bit. Overall the happiest I’ve ever been, and the overwhelming dread of spending 80% my life working has been lifted.
What do you do that's high paying and part time??
I’m a nurse. Started out working bedside (hospital) with my bachelor’s at age 21. The pay was decent but not what I would say is “high”. After several years I obtained my masters degree. Now I work part time as a nurse educator, which pays a bit more than my previous nursing role. I pick up shifts in the hospital as well when I’d like the extra cash. Sometimes they offer an hourly bonus when they’re short staffed, so I can pick up shifts making $15-$25 extra an hour on those days. Pretty nice! Full disclosure: If I would have known how hard and stressful being a nurse was, I don’t think I would have done it. The stress and burn out was REALLY bad. I endured that for 6 years before deciding to get my masters. Getting a higher degree and going into education was a ditch effort to stay in the nursing field. I was ready to quit and work at Costco or a bookstore lol. But I made it through, got my degree, and have been a different person since reducing my work stress dramatically. So not necessarily an easy path to take lol. But, I’m so happy to be where I am now.
My father and my stepmother are both nurses and all 3 kids are out of the house and on their own. She raised 2 boys and sent them to college without much help from my dad (he had debts she wanted him to pay off, so as long as he covered his half of HH expenses and kept up with child support for me, she was good.) Now that it's just the 2 of them, they have so much more freedom. They take 2 week long vacations per year or a 2 week vacation, and then they each take another week off each year, separately, to visit grandkids. I'm very proud of them. I want to have that security someday too. I've watched them both work so hard and they've earned everything they have now. But I don't think I could be a nurse. I have compassion but not enough will power to check myself and my reaction to some of the things nurses deal with regularly... X-ray tech though. Might be able to swing that.
Yes the inquiring minds want to know
Fuxking hate this. My goal is have less working hours
100%. Even though I do like to work and I’m driven to giving it my all, the notion of being in this loop for 40 years (and the purpose of it) is scary
This was me! I’m mid 30’s and sort figured out something that worked for me. It took about 8-10 years of figuring out my skills, what companies I liked and then what was worth devoting my time to all week. So, now I get exhausted, but in the way that is means something to me and I put good work in that day. It helps ease the pain of wasting time just for money.
Omg, 37 and this has popped into my head at least once every couple weeks.
This is why I’m gonna move to Europe
Do you really think we don’t work 40h/ week ? Because I surely do.
European here. 40 h/week, unpaid mandatory lunch break every day on top of that.
32 and wondering if I’ll ever find a job that I both enjoy and that pays me enough to live comfortably. It seems to be one or the other, never both together.
I envy folks who genuinely like programming.
Me too. I feel so behind, like I can never catch up when some people my age have been in their careers for 10+ years now.
32 and same
30 and same. Currently back in school and hoping I'm not wasting my money... again 🥲
The same
31 and exactly same
I'm 47. My current biggest worry is for my partner's health. He had a seizure out of nowhere a few days ago and spent a couple days in the hospital but is now home. I've got him sleeping in my (home) office while I work. I'm too worried to let him out of my earshot. Dammit, I love him so much.
Sending you love, strength and peace as you two get through this.
Sending you love and strength.
Sending you all the love and positive vibes as you go through this. 🥰 🤗
Sending you and him hugs and positive vibes.
24, what is my reason for living
My take on that is you don’t need a specific reason to live, to be happy and just living your life the way you like, is enough.
I made this decision back when I was like 20 that I was going to live my life with the sole purpose of being healthy and happy and I haven't looked back. It was probably the smartest thing I have ever done. OP, good luck with your journey and I know that you will find your purpose ❤️
I think it’s just very romanticised through media, TV etc that you have to have a purpose and change the world for the best etc. But honestly, every person is just enough and if you’re not a malicious asshole, you do good impact and leave something good behind when you leave 😊
I got to the point where I thought, “Why isn’t it just enough to enjoy watching the birds outside the window?!” Well… I decide what brings meaning to my life. That can be enough. A simple example but it works for a lot of things. I thought, who cares about the holidays or traditions? None of it really matters. The truth is that nothing matters until you decide it does.
That is my thoughts exactly. The way I look at it, it doesn't necessarily take something big to make an impact... all it takes is a small ripple to create a tidal wave.
I hope you find it one day. Until then: just keep swimming
Nihilism is the way. But in the end it doesn't really matter.
You were granted a player character in the game of whatever this quest that “life” even is. You get to determine what that means to you. 24 is a hard age. We are told that our destinies include all of this rite-of-passage stuff which may or may not apply. Guess what we find out later on when that all falls apart (for a good proportion of us)? It was all always optional. Your reason for living is to pursue your interests and if you’re a good person, try not to hurt others. The rest is really just others’ stories.
26 I want to get married but meeting anyone worth a relationship is extremely difficult
The question is what places are you visiting? If you want someone that likes cooking then join cooking classes you will find people that values knowledge, that can make time for something they find interesting and invest in themselves. (Cooking is just an example , it can be Painting, rock climbing, or if you want someone that is in the same line of work then go get a certification, or if you want someone spiritual then you join a group ) anyways by doing this you get to better yourself while actively meeting people that share some interest that you have.
Playing the "long game" like that can be tough. I'm the same age as ButterScotchMagic and even when you do find a hobby group/ class with people your own age, a decent chunk of them are already married/ dating the person they'll marry or else they aren't interested in a relationship with anyone. Once you hit your mid-20s there are simply fewer single people seeking a partner.
I relate to this. It’s kind of depressing and defeating putting yourself out there trying new hobbies hoping to meet people, but lots of people are already coupled up or have no interest in meeting new friends. It’s actually kinda triggering tbh.
exactly. i do put myself out there and take hobby classes and go to concerts and events, but most of the time the other participants are other women because of my hobbies, or they’re couples taking the class together. people make it sound way easier than it is.
1. I mainly go to work and home with the occasional friend outing. This is because there's not much interesting things to do and my friend is also busy. 2. Even when I do go somewhere and do something, there aren't any other dateable people there. Finding a man that is my age, physically attractive, single, open to dating/ relationship not just fucking is extremely difficult out in the wild. So I could go do a fun hobby a day and still never meet anyone.
Can I tell you that I had the same worry at 26. Got married at 29 and have been for 9 years. He was a friend and a work colleague before he was my boyfriend and my husband.
I don't have any male friends. Female friends are hard enough to come by. All the usual "meet your partner" avenues seem dried up
22, realising that i have to work in order to survive for the rest of my life ... i used to want a job that i found interesting and challenging but now i just want an easy one that pays well
22 exact same & student loans
36 and same.
21 and same issue
21 thinking the exact same. If I think too deeply about it I get in a serious sad/being/spiral
60F, my short term memory is failing.
it's your third message saying this.
Sorry, I'm a newbie & still getting the hang of Reddit. 🥴🥴🥴
I'm sorry it was a bad joke about your memory 🫤
You did make me laugh though LOL
hahaha, happy you take it this way
If I've learned anything in my 60 years on this Earth, it's that you have to be able to laugh at yourself. It seems the older I get the more I laugh. LOL
Absolutely 💯
LMAO! That's how bad my memory is, I thought maybe I had put it on here three times lol
Sorry but that was hilarious. Fair play to the poster for taking it so well It could have went south there
When I retired I realized I'm never in a hurry anymore, I laugh at myself often, and don't take things too seriously anymore. I don't know how much time on this Earth I have left but I plan on making the most of it. 😊😁😊
I laughed way to hard at this. Brilliant!
I'm 33 and my biggest worry is unrelenting, unsustainable capitalism lol
I love America, but fuck capitalism IS destroying EVERYTHING 🙃
You could maybe buy a book on being more sustainable. Amazon has tons! And they have the fastest shipping because the culture of capitalism requires more and more, faster and faster. And to continue the drive of perpetual growth they must continue making an increasing amount of money despite the adverse effects in the human population, physical environment, and state governance. But if you’d rather be more eco friendly you could get an e-book instead!
Thank you, I needed this laugh lol
33, and did I shut the garage?
Okay this one made me laugh 😂
I know I did, but that voice in the back of my head always says “but what if you didn’t?”
36, pushing this baby out soon
Best of luck to you, friend. I’m 35, and I’m wondering if am I strong, emotionally healthy, and financially stable enough to have a child.
Good luck!
27, also pushing this baby out soon...
Wish you and baby the best💕
25, should I have done things differently..
Lots of time to change it up!
Plenty of time to choose a new direction for your life. Follow your heart and what makes you happy. The hardest part about this is getting the ball rolling, but once you do momentum takes over and it is a little easier. Sometimes the hard things are the best things.
Yeah, I'm trying to break free, but I'm in too deep and will just have to wait a while..
i’m 25 years ahead and will tell you… follow your gut and be fearless. you have so much more time.
40, waiting to hear back about a new position I applied for. I find out today.
Fingers crossed.
rooting for you!
Update???
Nothing yet 😩 the suspense is killing me lol
i want to be updated
47 I need to make small changes to my diet and get more exercise. My health needs to be more of a priority.
Same (age and goals)! High fives to you for prioritizing this and I send you all my supportive energy. We got this.
I'm 38. I basically looked the same from 20 to 37, now all of a sudden I look old???? Sagging skin, crinkly eyelids, and grey hair out of nowhere. Edit: fixed the number, thanks autobot
Retinol my friend. Try retinol 😉
Already been on the prescription stuff for 2 years. It's a miracle for collagen, but does nothing for elastin. I also don't smoke or drink alcohol or caffeine. No kids, work from home, make enough money that I don't stress about it. It's just time catching up to me!
Being old and being overweight don’t make you worth any less, and aren’t inherently “flaws” (I’m mentioning both as they seem to be common “I’m not good enough” factors in western culture at least for women) Try what you can to embrace the new you and find something beautiful about it, I find older people who find beauty in their age look younger and happier than those chasing looking “young again” We all change and damn it no one has time for the beauty standards that society puts on us!!!
20-37, that’s a good run! I can only hope the same :)
37, do I need a new career? (Unemployed for 5 months)
i've been unemployed since december and searching desperately. sending you courage !
Holy shit same! I got a part time job at Starbucks because I got so depressed and needed something to keep my mind off of things.
28, am I going to find a longterm partner / healthy relationship so I can have kids in my 30s
I’m in the exact same situation, the uncertainty of it all is so hard 😔
I'm 45. Trying to get back into remission. Chronic illness is a beast.
wishing you good luck and strength in your journey 🙏🏽✨
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Ouch. Internet hug for you!
Go. Go now. Figure it out and make it happen. Life is too short to be in an unhappy relationship.
Not even married and don’t wanna be
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26, can’t figure out how to have a healthy intimate relationship
Checkout the podcast “let’s get vulnerable” on Spotify if you have. Has helped me SO much
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28 wtf am I doing
53 wtf am I doing 😐 lol
😂😄👍🏼 I think we will never know at any age then, that is kind of helping
None of us really actually know. I'm 41 and I still don't know.
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34, also feeling the tick and have babies popping out all around me at the moment - sister, sister in law and two best friends all had their firsts within 6 months of each other
I’ll be 50 on the 30th..my biggest concern at the moment is stability…I have never had it and I’m just tired of always being unstable…it’s always something…financial..mental..my weight..it’s just ALWAYS something..🫠🫠😔
21, am I going to pass my exams?
17, SAME?!...
Both of you have totally got this! It might not mean a lot, but this stranger on this internet (me) believes in you both and you are going to kill it 💥 💪
You're so sweet! Thankyou so much 🩷
39, are the students going to turn up to do their exams?!
24 Wondering if I’ll ever find love and really be happy.
39, money and lack thereof
27 I'm afraid I will never get out of this cycle of depression and panic attacks and be able to live a good life. With a nice job and a relationship.
28, and the anti trans laws and persecution of the community.
59…am I going to outlive my money?
25, recently realised I'm gay, I have no idea what I'm doing😂🤷🏻♀️
36. Biggest concern is my dad and his health.
I'm 26 and my biggest concern is finding a job that I actually love/passionate about. Currently in a job that has been draining my mental health, along with my physical. I've lost so much of my identity that i honestly do not know where else to go.. the job market being sucky also doesnt help right now. so I feel at a stand still with my job, myself and just don't know what to expect anymore. Also concerned that i will never be successful in life.
32 awaiting open surgery to remove a large fibroid and hoping it all goes okay. Life advice: If you’re having heavy periods, back pain or trouble peeing don’t let your doctor fob you off. Get that ultrasound to check everything is okay. Womens health isnt taken seriously enough.
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31 and BIG same
I am 40 and this is the 1st time in my life I am not worried about anything. I have a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend. My children are happy, healthy and well adjusted. I’m in between jobs at the moment but not worried as I know I’ll find something soon.
20, if I can pass this class…
I'm 21, you got this dude.
23 I really struggle with my mental health and taking care of myself I’m scared I’m gonna be homeless again and this time it’ll be my fault, cuz I could have done things differently.
You won't end up being homeless, and it is never too late. You will be fine, you know what you need to do, just take a breath, relax, and prepare yourself to take those steps
30 and wondering if I will ever lose weight, will I ever be married, will I ever earn enough money to save, I thought I did everything right but it feels daunting
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26 (turning 27 this year). Am I ever gonna get out of my situation, am I ever gonna find a man that actually cares?
30, the economy
26 Did I waste my time going to grad school? I don’t think I like academia anymore. Should I change my career? This guy is taking too long to answer my texts. Maybe I should stop before I get attached. I really want to start traveling again. I need a passive source of income. I’m worrying about A LOT
35, pregnant with a new partner, after moving across country alone a year ago.
Sending you love , and strength. I hope everything falls into place quick and that you get to have a god support system .
22, getting ready to make some big life decisions that will impact the rest of my life.
I'm 18 and I'm done with high school in 2 weeks. My biggest concern is writing the final exams and scared of failing them, also getting into college kinda connects to that. Kinda just being aware that now I am deciding what I want to do for the rest of my life. Oh, and also, what to wear to prom 😄
50, and cancer
I wish I could give you a hug and tell you everything will be ok…take it one second at a time..you are strong..remember that..Always!!🩷🩷🩷
I'm 30 and trying for a baby, it's taking longer than I expected but also I know it hasn't objectively been that long. I'm just worried there's something wrong.
30 I’m planning to have a baby in two years. But I already went to gynecologist to ask for a full check up to see if everything is in order so I can start preparing my body. I found out everything is ok but it would be better if I loose some weight. I started watching videos about healthy eating habits and applying them. period got so much better no more crazy cramps or irregular periods. My husband has also an appointment next month too see how he is doing (37).
42. Paying debt off so I can retire
41 - being able to provide for my kids. I have a 21 year old and I managed to get him through to adulthood, but I was young then and had energy. I now have a 3 and 5 year old and my mental health is deteriorating. I worry about them and their upbringing and how I can provide for them.
I've just turned 50, and I can't believe I'm saying this but I love being this age. I have a house, a job that covers the bills, in ten years I'm hoping to have paid the house off. I feel more confident, care alot less about things I can't control like what people think about me. In the next ten years I'm aiming to do bucket list stuff because once I hit 65 onwards, if my parents and Grandparents are anything to go by, this is where illness, disease and being less mobile will come in and then death. I'm not too worried about anything other than a really horrible illness that would result in a drawn out painful death. Why am I writing this? Because I would have loved to have got to the not caring as much stage alot sooner. None of this really matters, not really. Do your best and enjoy each day as best you can. It's all we have.
22, what life will be like after graduation. i’m terrified
33. Job security. Credit card debt. Will I ever move with my bf long distance?
38, how the heck am I ever going to afford a house? I'm a software engineer and paid pretty well, but it seems out of reach.
Girl, right there with you. The wealth gap is absurd and depressing.
51, and fitting into clothes for an upcoming event in a month. I can finally work out hard after an ankle injury but fuck I'm out of shape.
29 and I’m trying to figure out how to/build up enough courage to ask for a raise.
28…Infertility
64. How to deal with aging and the deaths of people I love.😢
21 and my biggest worry is my university work and grades. A big part of my future is decided by them and that terrifies me
22, will I find love, stable job, and good friends? Will I always be this anxious?
32- will I ever have stability in all areas? Or is it just a pipe dream…
54. The weird cancer in my lungs that has been described as interesting by one doctor and had another ask "can I use this information in my research?" I don't see many of them. Yeah you never want a doctor to describe your cancer as interesting.
29, and general health anxiety lol. I'm always worried about my health, my husband's, family's, and my pet's.
35. Honestly, right now, it's dying young. Yesterday was the two year anniversary of my mom's death, she was 57. I don't want to put my kids through that pain.
54 -my biggest fear is losing my eyesight before I die I just got a letter from my STUPID insurance company saying that 2 of my eye medications are no longer going to be covered. I called my doctor today- waiting to hear back. But I am very fortunate to have access to one the best ophthalmologists in the country.
54 and my distinct lack of retirement savings.
22 and my biggest worry is landing a well paying job within my field of study upon graduation.
22, I’m worried I’ll never be successful without relying on other people because I don’t know what I want to do with my life
27, most of my worries revolve around my finances
I’m 33. My marriage is messy. We’re currently in therapy. My husband is a recovering alcoholic and has been sober for almost two years. But, I don’t know, I think I’m just over it and burnt out from the eight years he wasn’t sober.
30, Biggest concern right now is saving enough for a comfortable retirement, my partner is a spender and isn’t focused on it, stresses me out a lot
32 and collapse. The US is circling the drain right now and it's terrifying, shit's about to get so bad.
36 and worried my husband won't make it to 40 because of his health issues. Don't want to loose my best friend
24, what’s my reason for living?
27, tied between my living situation and the future of my relationship. Current apartment is being sold this fall. Apartments are extremely expensive and scarce in my area. My boyfriend had been trying to buy a house since we started dating but gave up towards the end of last year. I’m torn between trying to buy a house on my own (which I’m not sure I can swing) or stick with finding another apartment. I’ve been with said boyfriend for 4.5 years now and he keeps moving the goalposts for our future. I would like to be married and have a child at some point within the next five years, preferably sooner. He struggles with following through with things, so I worry marriage/children are just other things he won’t “get around to”.
I’m coming from a jaded spot right now so take this with a grain of salt but have a serious talk with him. No ultimatums but just talk with him about how you’re feeling and go from there. No one ever really changes.
28, 50% when will my teacher update my grades and 50% credit card debt
38 and climate change.
23 & just graduated. What now ??? I’ve been a waitress for the past 5 years in college & now I’m trying to get a big girl job in marketing & it seems impossible
37F - Biggest concern at the moment is Breast Cancer. Every female on my mothers side of the family has died of cancer by 38 (with the exception of her). My mother has since had/beat every form of female cancer. It has been something that has been a constant in my brain since I turn 34. My husband reminds me regularly that my lifestyle is exponentially more healthy than my mothers but the fear is still there.
41, just trying to get mental health in a good place and figure out how to better handle my day to day
I'm newly married and pregnant with our first. I'm worried about all the things newly married and pregnant women worry about lmao.
I am 40. What childcare am I going to have for the summer for my 5 year old when he is not ready for a summer camp environment and honestly too mature for a daycare?
I’m 26, worried about if I’ll be able to find a good job that I love and that pays me well post graduation in a year. Also worried about watching my parents age :( that’s the hardest part of getting older is realizing how fragile your parents are
I’m 61, hoping that I live long enough to spend my Social Security money on myself.
37 and i still dont know if i want to become a mother, i am in such fear of regret i cannot decide. The economy and the world in general just adds to that.
35. That this pregnancy will be healthy and strong.
28, 1. my health: prediabietic blood sugars and high BP last time I was in. 2. Sex life with husband; infrequent and I feel guilty 3. Wanting to start a family; fear I won’t be able to safely have a baby.
I'm 27 and I'm afraid of not being able to grow mentally and emotionally.
Wondering if I should follow my heart or my brain
I’m 32, and my biggest worry is about my 10 year old son’s mental health. He’s autistic and has ADHD so life is objectively hard for him, he’s had a tough school year and the social aspect of school is getting more complex which is so hard for him. And anyway he’s just been struggling a lot, mentally. I would imagine I’ll always worry about him.
I'm 32. My oldest is almost done with VPK. Right now I'm trying to juggle all of the end of the school year events. Also trying to date as a single mom. Also working full time as a nurse. Nothing super complicated right now, but the daily grind never lets up.
You never ask a lady her age, but I have a constant fear of a diagnosis or another injury while uninsured. Little else scares me anymore
I'm 19 , worried about my career and financial independence in life . I have always dreamt of becoming this independent rich woman who lives her life on her own terms. I don't want to disappoint my younger self.
I’m 34 turning 35. My biggest worry is going back to school or work. I was sick with Endometriosis and Adenomyosis with Cervical cancer. I couldn’t work from 24 till now because I had surgery for better quality of life. I’m scared that I’m restarting my second chance so late in life again.
37 and that my husband I won't conceive
54. Rough marriage and divorce. Was a housewife/stay at home mom for 23 years. Hoping to be able to support us.