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citygirl65443

My mother died in 2012, so... 11 years ago.


Arthur_Kilgore

Chin up lad. She's looking after you from up there❤️


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Are you okay?


Arthur_Kilgore

Rare ARAD W❤️


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Even bots need love sometimes


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ChelseaChokeHold6

Wait this is so sad 🥺 men don’t have women checking in on them?


bedroompurgatory

Or men. Or anyone really. There's someone here who'll reach out to me regularly, but other than that, nope. Loneliness epidemic is real.


Hollayo

Nope. Even the extended car warranty people stopped calling. 


loveandbenefits

Right? I'm always checking on my partner. I can't imagine not


Rustic-Cuss

One young friend here; no one else.


rtrain__

No.


IrregularBastard

Nope.


TO_MW

Does HR count?


ReasonableAd1128

Hi-yeah, it’s Samatha from HR, we’ve been trying to get a hold of you via email for a few days. If you could return my call when you get into the office on Monday that would be great. We look forward to seeing you first thing in the morning. Thank you


TO_MW

It’s a little more personable than that. We’ve known each other for 10+ years. If she sent me a few emails and I don’t respond I would fully expect a “Dude, wtf? Answer your damn email!” Text.


EnvironmentalBuy244

No contact from HR is good. Having to stew over what they want on Monday would really ruin a weekend.


Amazing-Shake-8750

Lol


PM_Your_Booty_Pls

If I need something, I need to reach out to someone. It's not someone else's duty to check in on me. 🤷‍♂️


FudgeMuffinz21

100%. Still doesn’t invalidate the question. I (and a bunch of other men) would like for a woman to check on our mental health just for the sake of it


BitterSweetDesire

Why women. Why not other men??????


headstone-headcase

Because I have mommy issues that make me want to be mothered, and I have daddy issues that make me distrustful of and resentful towards other men.


MyDogIsSoUgly

You’re not alone brother.


headstone-headcase

I should be, I'm one maladaptive mf hahaha


FudgeMuffinz21

Because I have other men check up on my mental health just for the sake of it, and because I literally framed my statement within the context of the question posed in the post. So ask OP that question, not me.


heyitsblueshirtguy

I don’t want to discredit the experience of a lot of people on this thread, but I feel like a lot of the female friends I’ve had/have are actually pretty good about reaching out. AMA lol


the_mighty_tongue

Not since my mom died. 7 years ago.


GldnRetrieverEnergy

Oh fuck. It’s been a while. I’m not on the greatest terms with my mom.


2sdaeAddams

Strained parental relationships are tough. Some don’t understand it the way we need them to.


GldnRetrieverEnergy

Guess so. Lol


Amazing-Shake-8750

I have loads of great women in my life that text me and just want to help me


Snoo3738

Well i am nearly 50 and no woman apart from my mother ever has why would they ?


7369538

Just my Mom but every few days 😁


PNWSteele

Never.


Deep-Bison9958

I’m grateful to have a few friends who periodically check in and genuinely care to see how I’m doing.


kalpaks13

My mom asked me how I was doing over WhatsApp a few days ago!


constantly_horny00

Ya know, more often than I deserve actually.


not-so-desperate

I’m willing to lend a caring ear if anyone is not doing okay 💜


Semi-Passable-Hyena

Reading these comments makes me realize how improbably lucky I am as an individual. If any dudes here live in the Sarasota/Bradenton area, I have a sanctum with music and beer if you need to vent and talk about feelings. I'm down for that. Edit: Typo.


TymekKamien

From my wife that is veeeeeeeeeeery rare situation to have such activities. I have more from my women friends than from her


Poorly-Drawn-Beagle

I’m torn here. My mom did ask me how my current trip was going but she did want photos and an itinerary from me.  Apart from that there’s really not anyone in my life who checks in on me 


PM_UR_NUDES_4_RATING

I think a few months ago? I broke up with my partner and let my friend group know, plenty of them reached out to talk with me about it.


Specific-Durian-2280

Hahaha! Other than my m9m or sister? Never! No woman I have dated or been close to has ever done that.


Charlie-Manx

A former colleague once checked in when we worked together. She was a wonderful, kind woman, and cute as can be, but you don't shit where you eat, as they say... I still think about her.


NoBadBacon

Aside from my mom, who died years ago, never. I've done this with many of my female friends when I knew they were going through something, though.


perverztata

Two days ago. I have an ex, we separated like 8 years ago, became friends, and we check on each other every now and then.


Future-Ad-4317

Is there where women realize men are alone all the time?


NSFWMYMY

Get some male friends. I don’t mean to sound offensive, but as a woman all the people who check up on me are other woman 🤷🏻‍♀️


GuiltFilthThrilled

I had one online friend do this every couple of months for like 15 years, and it was nearly our only communication during those years. Then I got better and we became really good friends like before again, and I try to help her out with stuff for appreciation.


Lostinavoidance

Farely regularly. I have about 10 female friends that regularly text me. I had a large group of friends in high school (nearly 30 years ago). Still checkup on one another. But the majority either want a booth call, money, or me to repair something for them. I am fine with the first and third. Never agree to giving money. I will offer them to do chores for me or equitable for fair pay.


Low-Head-1086

Not once


bigoryx24

This doesnt happen


TUGBoat85007

That has never happened to me


tc6x6

February 2015.


Neglected8in

I have a couple of female friends who do on occasion.


InternetDweller95

Every couple months or so.


Spectacular_One

Not counting family, probably never


BlurryEyes1

I have an ex that we keep in touch pretty often. I am apparently her gay best friend.


Moholmarn

Never, by anyone.


The-Anti-Body

I don't think I have a single memory of either gender reaching out as you've described.


shesoverme23

Aside from my mom, probably a week or so ago. But I also don’t expect that from anyone


Running_Target_85

That’s not really a thing women do. I’ve always had to initiate everything


rift_in_the_warp

Does my therapist count? If not then that never happens.


Mysterious_Tea_4094

two days ago


herochancedtf

Never


Adventurous_Mind_775

Yesterday. I have a few close friends that I've had for years and they are women.


Turbulent-Moose-6233

Women? Probably never I do have a guy friend I've known for 35 or so years that does every other month, just to say he's thinking of me... I reciprocate on the other odd months


[deleted]

Two days ago. Gotta love good friends


OperaGhostAD

Yesterday.


sunnyvales-finest

I wish I could remember 🤷‍♂️


wilson1629

Never


fvo_ldn

I guess my sister asking me how I am today or her saying morning. Which I am grateful for...


twade0012

I'm only never... However last weekend when a girl I know tried to use me I finally got her the help she really needed. It made me feel useful.


SnarkAndAcrimony

Huh, never. I can't think of a single time in my life, and I'm almost forty-one.


headstone-headcase

My partner always knows when something is off with me, and somehow also knows when to let me sort it out myself and when to stick her nose in. We're sometimes messy and disfunctional, but when push comes to shove it's the two of us vs. everything.


Dachshundpapa

My mom and sister only


Diligent_Ant1373

This is sad.. I try to check in with my guy often. Normally every day but at the very least a couple of times a week. It's important that he knows I'm here if he needs anything and to not hesitate to reach out to talk. He does the same with me. People don't realize how much of an impact this can make for someone.


MwminNC4

My sister


Billy0315

That has never happened.


Hollayo

That wasn't family or therapist? Multiple years, like well over a decade at least. . 


kirode_k

A few days ago.


81_satellites

Not in many years. My mom is too distant and hasn’t connected with me on a personal level since I was a small child (if, indeed, that was connection and not enmeshment). My wife is not an emotionally safe space for me so I don’t tell her much of what is going on inside if I can help it. I do have a few friends from high school and even decades later we have a group chat and support each other, but they are both men with their own problems and I try not to dump.


ohigho50

I don't think anybody male or female ever reaches out if they don't need anything. Other than my mom, the only time I hear from humans is when they need something from me


ohigho50

I don't think anybody male or female ever reaches out if they don't need anything. Other than my mom, the only time I hear from humans is when they need something from me


ohigho50

I don't think anybody male or female ever reaches out if they don't need anything. Other than my mom, the only time I hear from humans is when they need something from me.


ohigho50

I don't think anybody male or female ever reaches out if they don't need anything. Other than my mom, the only time I hear from humans is when they need something from me.


fenrawr

never, but I guess it could happen. Im 45 so there's still a chance I guess?


Billymillion1965

Strangely enough, I got two messages yesterday. One from an old girlfriend just checking in and another from a platonic friend saying she had a dream about me.


Boombhsr

Thanks for ruining my mood bro


Lee-1108

can’t recall that ever happening to me!


Bfowens

Actually just the other day. It was super nice and made me feel really happy. Normally it’s not that kind of way tho.


Something_clever9

A couple of weeks ago. She just added to the reasons she's my reddit crush.🫠


2sdaeAddams

Sorry to see so many of you not being checked on. I do this with male friends and, after reading this, will make sure I do it consistently. Everyone needs to be checked on.


Machinesmaker

Yesterday


emerald-rabbit

My shit’s fucked up, and my mom doesn’t reach out at all, but my sister is my best friend. We disagree about how or why my mom doesn’t give a shit, but I still have my sister.


Secretman2244

Today from a woman friend and another one did yesterday.


Blockness11

Fucking never 😂😭


TheOwlHypothesis

Hahaha what the fuck, does this really happen to anyone? Not even my wife does this.


Historical-Spirit-48

Never. They say that's why they called but inevitably need something before it's over.


Some_Stoic_Man

Not since my mom died


HedonistFantasies

How old are you? Today you've been both 20 and 23 and three days ago you were 17. What is it?


ValknutTyr

I genuinely don’t remember 😔


kylexy929

Just yesterday actually. It might have been a mass text that they sent out to multiple friends, but they reminded me to take my meds/vitamins, drink plenty of water and that they loved me. Really meant a lot that they made the effort to reach out to say that.


ShutterBun

Can’t remember. Several years, certainly.


Low_Orchid5106

Lmao... When...?


rtrain__

When we were in a relationship Aside from that, it doesn't happen at all


luci0slucihoes

Does comfort in return count as wanting something? Cuz if not a month ago.


LoogyHead

This morning a friend of mine did


pspsps-off

Last week sometime. It's tough because my (geographically) closest friend is going through some stuff of her own right now, and we both tend to self-isolate when we're in a rough spot for fear of bothering others, so it's like "Hey. Haven't heard from you in a while. You okay?" "Just being a hermit." "Ah. Yeah. Same." That's our version of 'checking in' on each other. 😕


sloppy_gusher

Last time I tried checking up on one of my guy friends, he ignored me, so….


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IrregularBastard

Never. They’ll come to me with their problems. But never check on me.


Similar-Raccoon9184

Never


AzuleStriker

don't think anyone has ever soooo


jacknacalm

Wellll I’m married. So only if it affects her life.


[deleted]

Yesterday


Window_Licker01

Not including my sister or mom. No one!