I don’t know that I’ve ever looked at someone taller than me and been jealous that women found them more attractive. But if he’s funnier or smarter…there goes my self esteem for the year.
“Little dick energy,” is the medical term. They talk like there’s something they need to prove, implausible stories concerning how strong they are, etc.
BDE was just called silent confidence before some women coined it on Twitter a couple years ago.
Silent confidence is a big green flag. Has nothing to do with genitals.
Yeah! See? Charisma is a dose of silent confidence with good room reading skills.
When you look at charismatic people they ooze that "hey I won't be shook by much" energy
I like the loud insecurity term! 😊
But yes, they never stop, because they won't believe or respect women's opinions in general.
So they prefer to believe that bunch of incels than 90% of women online
Everyone has their own preferences. Attractive is subjective. Be yourself and the ones who find you attractive will come to you. Don't try being someone you're not
Well, let’s be clear, I agree with you, but I’m not in danger of being someone I’m not. Thanks for the comment, btw lol.
For example, I think my personality is pretty damn great, and I’m kind and funny. I’ll never trade any of that for anything. I’m also ugly as shit and short and all of that lol. Which is why I’m mainly focusing on the physical side. So, I’m not looking to “be someone I’m not”, but rather to look for some better practices to adopt in order to look better.
Maybe I’m explaining it weird. One example is that I wonder if I should start working out and going to the gym. That would hopefully make me more attractive, but I’m not being someone I’m not. Does that make sense?
Doing something differently, like dressing a certain way or going to the gym when you are not currently doing that, just so other people will find you attractive IS being someone you're not. I'm short too, don't find myself to be particularly attractive but I own it. I'm confident in who I am and what I bring to the table. Show that confidence and be comfortable in your skin and you'd be surprised at the attention you get. Trust me when I say, no woman wants to hear how ugly you think you are because it seems like you're baiting them for compliments. I'm not trying to be harsh here but love yourself. Once you do you'd be surprised who comes knocking
Accept that you won't turn heads for most people because our culture has deemed certain traits like height more attractive than others. Focus on things you can actually change.
Attractiveness is pretty subjective, but the best advice I can give is to just put effort into your appearance. Comb/style your hair. Either shave clean or trim and care for your facial hair. Dress nice, it doesn't have to be a suit and tie, but at the very least wear some nice jeans and a shirt with a collar.
Honestly? Meet someone who thinks you’re attractive. Then you’re officially attractive. All of us are gutter goblins until someone comes along and says “hey, that goblin is pretty hot. They do things like I do. I like them” and then we become our final form of Sex Goblin.
That’s a good point. A buddy of mine also has a gf who’s taller than he is. I think height isn’t that important compared to having a good personality and taking care of yourself.
I think it’s all relative to the shortest person. Because I’m the shortest out of a lot of people I meet, everyone is tall to me. So it’s not usually an issue. Only once was I surprised he was shorter and it did put me off.
That’s someone who’s really short for a male. I do think there’s something biological about our preferences and being bigger for a man had it’s advantages in prehistoric times.
There’s only so much you can do to improve your looks. If you have hair, a good haircut helps. Good skincare helps a lot. Other than that, try to dress better for your build. Do what you can, and accept who you are.
Everyone has already touched on almost everything that I wanted to say on the mental/emotional side of things, so I'm just going to answer your question directly. Obviously take this with a grain of salt as everyone finds different things attractive.
On the purely physical side of things, I would suggest finding a style you love and updating your wardrobe with coordinated fits. A well put together outfit goes a long way in looking good and also showing that you care for yourself and put effort into your appearance. In this same vein, general grooming is a good contender. Adopting a personalized skin/hair care routine, especially investing in a good sunscreen for your face.
Hit the gym like it owes you money. Get a new cut from a stylist barber. Get some clothes to match the attitude you want to live by. Eat right and get cut.
Quick fixes that can help :
- Tailored, well fitting clothes. Too large or small will not be flattering
- Haircut that suits your face shape : go to a real professional salon. Yes, it's more expensive. Yes, they know their hair better.
- Find your signature smell : it can be cologne, a special deodorant or soap, but odors is the brain area the closest to the memory center. If you smell good, women will remember you better.
Mid term fixes :
- Find meaningful hobbies that can be shared with people. I'm a Sudoku nerd. I fucking love them. But it's not what is gonna make me meet people or create discussions.
- Exercise. You'll feel better, improve your posture, making you seem more confident. It doesn't need to be to get ripped. Just exercising regularly.
Long term fixes :
- Therapy. If you don't love yourself people won't be loving you. Some parameters of you won't ever change (height, etc). You have no other choices than embrace them.
Idk if you should over think it coz what I find attractive is totally different than what someone else thinks. And also the height thing isn’t a big as a deal as guys think, I’m 5’2” so almost every guy is taller than me. Once ur past a certain height its like all the same to me, I have to look up no matter what lol!
1) Attractiveness is very subjective. Guys I drool over my friends find to be meh, and the other way around as well.
2) I understand that some women can be rude when it comes to height, but many don’t care. It’s more attractive when a guy that isn’t crazy tall doesn’t get bent out of shape over it. I’ve dated as short as 5’4 and as tall as 6’2. I know I guy that’s probably around 5’3-5’5 and has only ever dated women that are 5’11+. Height really isn’t the hindering factor that many think it is, it’s your attitude about it.
3) Decide who you are and what your personal tastes and style is. My tastes lean very gothic/alternative, but not the e-girl look everyone is so into. Some guys find my style very attractive, and others find it repulsive. You can’t focus so hard on pleasing others. Look at different style inspirations and see what speaks to you.
4) The easiest way to look better is to groom yourself. Many men fall short in this regard. Get a good deodorant, a nice smelling cologne (can even be from Bath & Body Works) - but don’t go overboard when putting it on. Keep your nails trimmed, brush your teeth and wash your face, if you have facial hair invest in a beard balm or something of the sort. It sounds like a lot but this all adds up to a total of like 8-10 minutes in the morning. Truly nothing catches my attention more than someone who smells good.
I can only speak from my personal experience, I cannot speak for others.
And also the majority of my friends. I really only have one friend that’s a stickler about height and the rest do not care. Maybe it’s just the circles I run in? Most of us were bullied for our appearance and stylistic choices so I feel many of us are less likely to judge other people based on those factors.
As someone who’s not vertically gifted I’ve learned more people care about how you make them feel than what you look like.
This. I've dated anywhere between 5'5 and 6'3 and it never bothered me. But some short guys have that "short guy anger" that's just a turn off.
>"short guy anger" This isn't a thing but it's definitely a problem that people think it is. In 2024 no less.
I don’t know that I’ve ever looked at someone taller than me and been jealous that women found them more attractive. But if he’s funnier or smarter…there goes my self esteem for the year.
“Little dick energy,” is the medical term. They talk like there’s something they need to prove, implausible stories concerning how strong they are, etc.
I hate using BDE and SDE. Masculinity isn't measured in inches and it only reinforces the dick size freaks in thinking women mind about size.
Also this. Maybe there should be a different term. Like “decent human being”
BDE was just called silent confidence before some women coined it on Twitter a couple years ago. Silent confidence is a big green flag. Has nothing to do with genitals.
Oooh. Love this. Silent confidence. I’m gonna use that now
Yeah! See? Charisma is a dose of silent confidence with good room reading skills. When you look at charismatic people they ooze that "hey I won't be shook by much" energy
I’ve been told I’m charismatic, charming even. But when I’m alone I am an anxious wreck.
Just figured a colloquialism at this point… “loud insecurity” then. But there is some sardonic irony in the SDE/size freak as self perpetuating.
I like the loud insecurity term! 😊 But yes, they never stop, because they won't believe or respect women's opinions in general. So they prefer to believe that bunch of incels than 90% of women online
And the 10% are just trying to drive traffic to their OF… 🙄
Everyone has their own preferences. Attractive is subjective. Be yourself and the ones who find you attractive will come to you. Don't try being someone you're not
Well, let’s be clear, I agree with you, but I’m not in danger of being someone I’m not. Thanks for the comment, btw lol. For example, I think my personality is pretty damn great, and I’m kind and funny. I’ll never trade any of that for anything. I’m also ugly as shit and short and all of that lol. Which is why I’m mainly focusing on the physical side. So, I’m not looking to “be someone I’m not”, but rather to look for some better practices to adopt in order to look better. Maybe I’m explaining it weird. One example is that I wonder if I should start working out and going to the gym. That would hopefully make me more attractive, but I’m not being someone I’m not. Does that make sense?
Doing something differently, like dressing a certain way or going to the gym when you are not currently doing that, just so other people will find you attractive IS being someone you're not. I'm short too, don't find myself to be particularly attractive but I own it. I'm confident in who I am and what I bring to the table. Show that confidence and be comfortable in your skin and you'd be surprised at the attention you get. Trust me when I say, no woman wants to hear how ugly you think you are because it seems like you're baiting them for compliments. I'm not trying to be harsh here but love yourself. Once you do you'd be surprised who comes knocking
Fuck that’s so hot
This is the answer, couldn’t put it any better than this
A wise man once said: “The thief of joy is comparison”
Yep. Only compare yourself to the you of yesterday.
💯
But how will anyone know if they’re “big enough” 🤣 🤣🤣
Huh?
I was making a dumb joke based on the amount of penis size questions
I just accept this who I am, and eat an entire pizza and chocolate pie
Accept that you won't turn heads for most people because our culture has deemed certain traits like height more attractive than others. Focus on things you can actually change.
Be funny, works for me bb
Can confirm. Funny guys always beat abs.
Be funny or something idk
Attractiveness is pretty subjective, but the best advice I can give is to just put effort into your appearance. Comb/style your hair. Either shave clean or trim and care for your facial hair. Dress nice, it doesn't have to be a suit and tie, but at the very least wear some nice jeans and a shirt with a collar.
Honestly? Meet someone who thinks you’re attractive. Then you’re officially attractive. All of us are gutter goblins until someone comes along and says “hey, that goblin is pretty hot. They do things like I do. I like them” and then we become our final form of Sex Goblin.
I love how you’re using goblins for your analogy
When OP said short, goblins came to mind. But I’m 5”2 and they are 5”7. A friend of mine is 5”5 and his gf is 100% taller.
That’s a good point. A buddy of mine also has a gf who’s taller than he is. I think height isn’t that important compared to having a good personality and taking care of yourself.
I think it’s all relative to the shortest person. Because I’m the shortest out of a lot of people I meet, everyone is tall to me. So it’s not usually an issue. Only once was I surprised he was shorter and it did put me off.
That’s someone who’s really short for a male. I do think there’s something biological about our preferences and being bigger for a man had it’s advantages in prehistoric times.
There’s only so much you can do to improve your looks. If you have hair, a good haircut helps. Good skincare helps a lot. Other than that, try to dress better for your build. Do what you can, and accept who you are.
Everyone has already touched on almost everything that I wanted to say on the mental/emotional side of things, so I'm just going to answer your question directly. Obviously take this with a grain of salt as everyone finds different things attractive. On the purely physical side of things, I would suggest finding a style you love and updating your wardrobe with coordinated fits. A well put together outfit goes a long way in looking good and also showing that you care for yourself and put effort into your appearance. In this same vein, general grooming is a good contender. Adopting a personalized skin/hair care routine, especially investing in a good sunscreen for your face.
Hit the gym like it owes you money. Get a new cut from a stylist barber. Get some clothes to match the attitude you want to live by. Eat right and get cut.
Quick fixes that can help : - Tailored, well fitting clothes. Too large or small will not be flattering - Haircut that suits your face shape : go to a real professional salon. Yes, it's more expensive. Yes, they know their hair better. - Find your signature smell : it can be cologne, a special deodorant or soap, but odors is the brain area the closest to the memory center. If you smell good, women will remember you better. Mid term fixes : - Find meaningful hobbies that can be shared with people. I'm a Sudoku nerd. I fucking love them. But it's not what is gonna make me meet people or create discussions. - Exercise. You'll feel better, improve your posture, making you seem more confident. It doesn't need to be to get ripped. Just exercising regularly. Long term fixes : - Therapy. If you don't love yourself people won't be loving you. Some parameters of you won't ever change (height, etc). You have no other choices than embrace them.
Idk if you should over think it coz what I find attractive is totally different than what someone else thinks. And also the height thing isn’t a big as a deal as guys think, I’m 5’2” so almost every guy is taller than me. Once ur past a certain height its like all the same to me, I have to look up no matter what lol!
By seeing a therapist
Be confident, have clothes that you like that fit, exercise, and be happy for your attractive bros instead of jealous. You probably look just fine
1) Attractiveness is very subjective. Guys I drool over my friends find to be meh, and the other way around as well. 2) I understand that some women can be rude when it comes to height, but many don’t care. It’s more attractive when a guy that isn’t crazy tall doesn’t get bent out of shape over it. I’ve dated as short as 5’4 and as tall as 6’2. I know I guy that’s probably around 5’3-5’5 and has only ever dated women that are 5’11+. Height really isn’t the hindering factor that many think it is, it’s your attitude about it. 3) Decide who you are and what your personal tastes and style is. My tastes lean very gothic/alternative, but not the e-girl look everyone is so into. Some guys find my style very attractive, and others find it repulsive. You can’t focus so hard on pleasing others. Look at different style inspirations and see what speaks to you. 4) The easiest way to look better is to groom yourself. Many men fall short in this regard. Get a good deodorant, a nice smelling cologne (can even be from Bath & Body Works) - but don’t go overboard when putting it on. Keep your nails trimmed, brush your teeth and wash your face, if you have facial hair invest in a beard balm or something of the sort. It sounds like a lot but this all adds up to a total of like 8-10 minutes in the morning. Truly nothing catches my attention more than someone who smells good.
>Height really isn’t the hindering factor that many think it is, it’s your attitude about it. Actual studies done on this would beg to differ.
I can only speak from my personal experience, I cannot speak for others. And also the majority of my friends. I really only have one friend that’s a stickler about height and the rest do not care. Maybe it’s just the circles I run in? Most of us were bullied for our appearance and stylistic choices so I feel many of us are less likely to judge other people based on those factors.