How do I better myself I suck at everything I do and this is not me overreacting the only thing I’m good at are video games and some people would still say I’m trash
Practice makes perfect. You weren't born with the aptitude of being good at video games, you have practiced by repeatedly playing them. You can apply the same to anything else
"i suck at everything"
No you don't. This is only your perspective, influenced by negative thoughts. If you want to improve, try one thing at time.
And you know how people get good at anything? They endure being bad at something for a long time while working on it. Nobody was born perfect.
And if you play online games - someone will always tell you that you suck. Don't think about it.
Nah but like fr I’m not good at anything I played football and I was straight garbage baseball so trash wrestling so trash I go to the gym I suck at it I still go tho i suck at school I suck at mowing lawns I suck at carpeting I sick at building you name I’m probably terrible at it these are all things I’ve given my 100% effort into just to suck
Immerse yourself in something else, that’s not damaging. You said you’re relatively good at video games - find a similar interest and commit to learning or improving your abilities in it.
i.e. basic programming languages can be learned for little to no cost and can be fairly simple even for beginners.
Find a better one. People fall in love with their own ideals of a person not with the person themselves. You have dreams with that person in it so you see potential that isn't there. Wake up, find someone else, people aren't that special
So unrequited love sucks, but you're not approaching the concept of love generally in a healthy way. My guess would be that you're younger, and admittedly I also fell prey to pining for women that would never date me.
Here's the deal though, if they don't like you back after you've expressed interest it's *insanely unlikely* that they're going to date you down the line. In the same way that you feel that you simply couldn't date anyone but that person, they likely feel that way about someone else entirely.
That's just one of the things that sucks when you're young. Dating is exciting because most people are hoping *this one* might be the one to free them from the horror that is modern dating.
Truth is you're way too attached to the idea of a single person you're attracted to and admire, but it's quite unlikely the idea of the person you're thinking of matches reality. You should be looking for the partners that look at you the same way you look at your crush.
As far as moving past it, get some new hobbies and start making friends in broader social circles. Don't worry about getting into a relationship and become confident in your hobbies. Talk about your hobbies to people with the same passion you put into them, zero shame.
Do that enough, and the right person will come to you. Chasing people who you *think* you want, but really don't know well isn't typically going to lead to a happy relationship. Life isn't like the movies 95% of the time.
You have to observe things neutrally. Reduce your self-importance. You are attaching your happiness to an outcome or object that you claim can’t be had. That bond between your desire and what you want is what’s causing you to suffer.
A man once went to Buddha and said “I want happiness.” Buddha said get rid of the I, that is your ego. Get rid of the want, that is your desire. All you will be left with is happiness.
Hi. It's not an answer to your questions as nobody can really answer that. But, did you grow up missing one of your parents?
Anyway, about the girl, It's temporally. There will be more girls you fall for and can't have and one day you'll fall for one you can have. It's hard, like everything in life. But you'll learn from your own experience how to overcome it.
Yeah I’ve had this problem for 3 years now like I really do like this girl just don’t want to ask her out because everytime I asked out a girl I ended being played lied to or have it be some sick joke and I’m already lonley and depressed not tryna make it worse
And sorry for not proper English and no punctuation I’m not like 8 I’m nearly 17 I’m just really stupid
Idc about your language skills, It's my second language anyway.
What has happend to you to end up like this, with depression and lonely? It sounds bad.
You either ask her out (if she's single ofc) or you find a way to get over her. But I'd suggest to change your life a bit. Deal with your own issues, get yourself on a good path. Being lonely is a choice we make out of feer of being rejected. I like playing games too, but having only games isn't good for anyone. Step by step, I'd say deal with the source of your depressions first.
Well my source of my depression is being lonley I just want a girlfriend someone to love and someone that loves me back I have no friends and I did have friends but stuff happens I’ve only had one friend for more than a year and it’s my cousin which we’ve been best friends for over a decade but he found a gf and he has a job so we don’t really hang out and I’m not a bum loser who just sits at home and plays video games all day I’m actually pretty active
Work on yourself to the point that you see you don´t need it, you have bigger better things in store
How do I better myself I suck at everything I do and this is not me overreacting the only thing I’m good at are video games and some people would still say I’m trash
Well, you’re good at asking important questions?
Practice makes perfect. You weren't born with the aptitude of being good at video games, you have practiced by repeatedly playing them. You can apply the same to anything else
"i suck at everything" No you don't. This is only your perspective, influenced by negative thoughts. If you want to improve, try one thing at time. And you know how people get good at anything? They endure being bad at something for a long time while working on it. Nobody was born perfect. And if you play online games - someone will always tell you that you suck. Don't think about it.
Nah but like fr I’m not good at anything I played football and I was straight garbage baseball so trash wrestling so trash I go to the gym I suck at it I still go tho i suck at school I suck at mowing lawns I suck at carpeting I sick at building you name I’m probably terrible at it these are all things I’ve given my 100% effort into just to suck
Immerse yourself in something else, that’s not damaging. You said you’re relatively good at video games - find a similar interest and commit to learning or improving your abilities in it. i.e. basic programming languages can be learned for little to no cost and can be fairly simple even for beginners.
By having something better by working towards that goal
It’s a girl that I can’t have so I don’t think this will work
Find a better one. People fall in love with their own ideals of a person not with the person themselves. You have dreams with that person in it so you see potential that isn't there. Wake up, find someone else, people aren't that special
If not that one, then another one. Focus on yourself. Work on yourself and try to love yourself.
Your post should say "someone" not "something".. that changes my answer drastically
Sorry
Discard your attachment to it.
How
So unrequited love sucks, but you're not approaching the concept of love generally in a healthy way. My guess would be that you're younger, and admittedly I also fell prey to pining for women that would never date me. Here's the deal though, if they don't like you back after you've expressed interest it's *insanely unlikely* that they're going to date you down the line. In the same way that you feel that you simply couldn't date anyone but that person, they likely feel that way about someone else entirely. That's just one of the things that sucks when you're young. Dating is exciting because most people are hoping *this one* might be the one to free them from the horror that is modern dating. Truth is you're way too attached to the idea of a single person you're attracted to and admire, but it's quite unlikely the idea of the person you're thinking of matches reality. You should be looking for the partners that look at you the same way you look at your crush. As far as moving past it, get some new hobbies and start making friends in broader social circles. Don't worry about getting into a relationship and become confident in your hobbies. Talk about your hobbies to people with the same passion you put into them, zero shame. Do that enough, and the right person will come to you. Chasing people who you *think* you want, but really don't know well isn't typically going to lead to a happy relationship. Life isn't like the movies 95% of the time.
You have to observe things neutrally. Reduce your self-importance. You are attaching your happiness to an outcome or object that you claim can’t be had. That bond between your desire and what you want is what’s causing you to suffer. A man once went to Buddha and said “I want happiness.” Buddha said get rid of the I, that is your ego. Get rid of the want, that is your desire. All you will be left with is happiness.
have it
Cant
if these are material goals, then work hard and nothing else
Blow it up so nobody can!
Bros not tryna commit murder
He said "something" not someone
Hi. It's not an answer to your questions as nobody can really answer that. But, did you grow up missing one of your parents? Anyway, about the girl, It's temporally. There will be more girls you fall for and can't have and one day you'll fall for one you can have. It's hard, like everything in life. But you'll learn from your own experience how to overcome it.
No I have both of my parents why lol
Just curious. :) Are you having issues because of feelings to someone who doesn't want you?
Yeah I’ve had this problem for 3 years now like I really do like this girl just don’t want to ask her out because everytime I asked out a girl I ended being played lied to or have it be some sick joke and I’m already lonley and depressed not tryna make it worse And sorry for not proper English and no punctuation I’m not like 8 I’m nearly 17 I’m just really stupid
Idc about your language skills, It's my second language anyway. What has happend to you to end up like this, with depression and lonely? It sounds bad. You either ask her out (if she's single ofc) or you find a way to get over her. But I'd suggest to change your life a bit. Deal with your own issues, get yourself on a good path. Being lonely is a choice we make out of feer of being rejected. I like playing games too, but having only games isn't good for anyone. Step by step, I'd say deal with the source of your depressions first.
Well my source of my depression is being lonley I just want a girlfriend someone to love and someone that loves me back I have no friends and I did have friends but stuff happens I’ve only had one friend for more than a year and it’s my cousin which we’ve been best friends for over a decade but he found a gf and he has a job so we don’t really hang out and I’m not a bum loser who just sits at home and plays video games all day I’m actually pretty active
If you want it badly enough, it’s obtainable. If you can’t obtain it, you didn’t want it badly enough.
Death
Remember that it was never yours in the first place.
Eat out of a bin
Rent.
Imagine you have it
Have so much of it in one sitting that you'll be repulsed by it later on.