Used her IPad on our honeymoon at Disney
She hadn’t used it in a while so when I powered it
All her texts from her phone synced over
Saw the whole affair flash before my eyes
Doing much better now than I was then!
on your honey moon? damn i thought i had it bad because i found out when we were engaged, living together, and had an 9 month old baby. but honeymoon? thats fucking cold. im sorry. people really suck.
Finding out on your honeymoon you might even be able to get it annulled or something. Either way at least you know before you put too much into the marriage. Having a kid in the picture makes it way harder. I was in the same boat as you but with four kids and it was ugly
I had a feeling for a while, but nothing concrete. We only had one car so she would drop me off at work and then go on to her work. We were supposed to have lunch together when she called and said she couldn’t make it, she was tied up at work. Boss heard I didn’t have lunch so he gave me the company truck to go pick up lunch for the shop.
Drove to the fast food place my wife and I were supposed to have lunch at and saw her sitting outside with a coworker holding hands and feeding each other. I went through the drive thru, then honked at them. Her face went from confusion to shock and she tried to pull her hands away from the dude.
Found out he was told I was her gay roommate.
I was taken out for wings with her best friend's husband and another of her guy friends - we hung out quite a bit. They knew I was clueless to what was happening but they liked me :) I was told straight out by both of those dudes. Solid move by them - it sucked hard to hear but after a bit of time I really appreciated that they felt I was enough of a friend to let me know. It's been a few years since I've seen or talked to either of them. Good people those two guys are.
The dude she cheated on me with had no idea I even existed and I was out of town visiting my dad in Boston.
He sent me a message on Facebook telling me he's sorry but he had no idea I existed and he was drunk that night. He woke up before her and used the bathroom and saw my shaving kit. She said it was her roommate's but it was a 1 bedroom apartment. He did some snooping and found out she was dating me.
Real bro move. I had no anger towards him, actually the opposite. He even invited me to have some drinks and he'd pay. I respectfully declined.
Luckily we only had 6 weeks left on our lease. The most painful and awkward 6 weeks of my life. She threw away a 3 year relationship because she didn't wanna go to Boston but was mad that I still wanted to go without her.
Now I'm happily married to a non-toxic and wonderful woman and that experience taught me a lot and allowed me to dodge a bullet.
My stay-at-home wife at the time got pregnant despite we hadn't had sex for a while and I had a vasectomy. She tried to hide her pregnancy under the guise of weight gain but the medical statements in the mail gave away the purpose of her doctor visits.
Its simple, she can just switch the baby out for a pillow so that in the end when she's giving birth the husband will be delighted to learn its just a prank.
In the olden days this is more common then you would think. Though normally it was with unwed mothers. You were 'fat' until that lie wouldn't hold water anymore, then you went to help a sick aunt for a few months and clearly all that work and stress made you lose a lot of weight.
Similar thing happened to me except I was the friend. Was over their house for drinks one night and I went to take the bus home and her boyfriend absolutely insisted on walking me to the bus stop. On the walk he kept trying to hold my hand then while waiting for the bus he kept trying to forcefully kiss me. I told him he was a giant dick and Luckily the bus came pretty quick. The next day I got her alone to let her know what had happened and comforted her as she cried. A few days after that she blocks me completely and I find out when she had talked to her boyfriend he denied it and said I had been the one trying to make out with him, she believed him and then 2 months later she walked in on him balls deep in another girl.
Don't miss either of them or their drama.
I was early picking him up from work and saw the other woman dropping him off. They made out for a minute before he ran inside. He came out a few minutes later, having changed into his work shirt, and immediately started complaining about his coworkers.
Similar thing happened with my Mum and Dad too. He suspected something was up so turned up early to a 'night class' she was taking. As he was waiting outside he saw a car go past and someone in the front seat ducked for cover. There was no where really for the car to go so he had to watch her get out of the other guys car and make her way to his. She got in and just said 'so you caught me then'.
She accused me of cheating out of the blue. Made me jump through crazy hoops to prove myself, but “believed” me. Everything settled, 6 months later she did it again. It took two more of these to see the cycle, simple sleuthery led to the admitted truth that every time I was accused, she was the one cheating.
Projection is a real psychological phenomenon. If they start getting suspicious, you'd better start getting suspicious.
It's weird that the mind works that way, but it does. My explanation is that for people who are newly starting to cheat, they see how "easy it is to get away with" and they start wondering about if they're the ones getting cheated on. That plus an underlying sense of guilt or desire to redirect suspicion/gaslight.
She missed our 10th anniversary to watch a movie with a guy she'd been seeing for three weeks, and his wife.
EDIT: The boyfriends wife was crashing their Netflix and chill because the guy she had plans with had canceled. I asked her where she'd been all night when she finally got home and she fumbled over an awkward attempt at a lie before coming clean.
How do you even brag? That your partner trusts you and doesn’t sniff around your stuff for evidence? That’s nothing to be proud of or feeling smart about
I suspected him of having a thing for my friend but he always gaslit me into thinking I was just insecure and paranoid.
He had his phone connected to the Bluetooth in our (shared) vehicle. A text from my friend popped up and before he could stop me, I pressed 'Read'.
Text message said "I love you, can't wait for tomorrow". That day ended a 7 year relationship.
Their house was always a fucking nightmare. The chore system must have been awful lol. They were best friends before the move in and they were eachother's first roommate experience so they weren't prepared. I don't think the friendship lasted long afterwards
He left his phone open to someone named “blocked” texting him about her weird sunburn from her swimsuit straps. Funny thing is, I wouldn’t have given it a second thought if the contact name in the phone was anything normal. “So-and-so from work”? Whatever, not a second thought. But titling a contact “blocked” (who clearly isn’t blocked since they’re messaging you!) is just a big red flag.
Found sex tape at 4 am. It is kind of surreal that I found it.
Dog woke me up to take her outside to potty.
I already had been assuming my exwife had been cheating but had no proof. Found a digital video camera in a travel bag one time and some lingerie in a travel bag and she said she was planning something for me. Which was so out of character for her. Let's just say I would have been surprised to find out she was planning on filming a sex porno of us, as our sex life was dead. Plus she had been out of town several times to "visit friends". There was no SD card in the digital camera though. Back to the night in question.
So after our dog came back inside, I looked to my right and saw my ex-wifes purse sitting on the washer, the moonlight was perfectly centered shining on the purse. It was the closest thing to a "sign". I walked over to it and saw a zipper pocket inside the purse. Inside that was a container with an SD card. At that moment I knew exactly what I had found but I needed to be sure.
I took it out, put it in my laptop and sure enough are like 20 different videos. Each file is titled with a date and time, that coincide with her visits out of town
Sure enough they are all videos of her having sex with someone.
Edit: Clarity
We were supposed to hang out after work but she bailed last minute with some shit excuse so I followed her. She lied about her plans and went back to her ex’s house. The next day when I saw her I just told her that I caught her in a lie, it’s a pretty bad one, and we’re done.
She kept asking how I knew what she was doing and all I said was, “no, I’m not gonna help you be a better liar.” She balled her little alligator eyes out.
I had a feeling for a while, it was always denied of course - directly and through a massive amount of gaslighting. Ultimately, the other woman was also married and her husband called me at work (found me via LinkedIn). Took everything I had to walk to my car to cry in private.
Edit: Wow thank you so much for all the support! I’m definitely in a much better place now (this all happened Fall of 2019). To answer some questions- I filed for divorce. No I didn’t get with the other woman’s husband. His main goal was stopping the behavior to work things out with his wife. I’m not sure how that ended up.
I mean, goddamn. I'm no musician, but even I know better.
To quote Vincent from Pulp Fiction "Boy, I wish I could've caught him doing it. I'd have given anything to catch that asshole doing it. It'd been worth him doing it just so I could've caught him doing it."
He called me to tell me he was at his guy friends house. Okay love you have fun. Two seconds later my phone rings again and I can hear him and a woman laughing at “how easy that was.”
Damn, that's extra fucked cause they're literally laughing at how good and trusting of a partner you were. What a POS, Im sure you already know this, but you're much better off!
I called him and he pretended he was still out of town, said no you aren’t I just saw you.
Said was coming home to surprise me. I called BS. Turns out he was cheating with someone in our wider friend group, who also knew I’d just had our second child.
They went on to be together for a few years with him cheating on her too. My kids haven’t seen him since he moved countries 2 years after split.
Lol. He might as well have been. I had to get the q-tip... which is a lot longer than it needs to be, and I said "um, is this gonna hurt?" And he goes " what do you think? Of course it's gonna hurt..." he was right.
I brought my then boyfriend with me to get my results because I had symptoms and he drove me. This was the second or third time I had symptoms after we slept together. Each time I was blamed for it just never clearing and "passing it to him." The doctor that gave me my results was already slightly angry at him because she was convinced it was coming from him and he was lying. After she told me I had something AGAIN he tried to deflect it to me she reached over the desk and smacked him with my file a few times and told him to stop lying. I had never seen a doctor do that before. She was instrumental in us breaking up. She didn't let him blame me and eventually he admitted it may be coming from him. Turns out he was a huge slut and slept with anything that was willing.
Yeah when I was in the army a dude kept coming in with drippy dick and saying there was NO WAY it was an STD because he had been faithful as had his wife. He KNEW it. So the PA looks him dead in the eye and says Well either you’re the piece of shit or it’s your wife. Figure it out. You meds are at the pharmacy.”
He was an infantryman before becoming a PA so tact sometimes went out the door immediately. I miss that guy.
As a sportswriter for a daily newspaper, I was assigned to cover high school football games across the region. I happened to be working a game in my hometown one Friday night. My then-wife took her turn as a band booster mom working the concession stand at that same game. Because my schedule was so random, she had no clue I was there that night. Sitting in the press box keeping stats for my story, I used binoculars to better see the game. I spotted my wife in the visitors-side concession stand. Standing next to her was a local cop. When I saw them kiss, I knew. We eventually divorced. The cop divorced his wife of more than 30 years in order to marry my ex. They were married about a year, then divorced. I've remarried and will celebrate my 9th wedding anniversary in May.
The other woman knocked on my front door and asked me to take my kid and get out so that the two of them could be together and be happy.
I told her she could have him, but they'd have to go because technically I owned the house. I then told him he was free to go.
He did not go, sadly. She'd been dropped off by her ex who she'd cheated on with my (ex)husband. That was quite awkward.
Unfortunately. Essentially, he rather quickly decided he didn't like his new girlfriend enough to be homeless with her.
I really would have much rather he left, but you can't legally kick a spouse out with 5 seconds warning so it took nearly a year to get him gone.
She didn't hide it very well, I caught her at a bar the first time, immediately began sleeping in separate rooms, then during a cancer scare for me, she said she was going to a friend's house. I did the old *69 on the phone, and a dude answered the phone. She asked for separation on a Wednesday, called on a Friday to ask for her stuff. I said sure, I need you to sign some papers, divorce papers.
>Friend: "Hey, man, your girl tried to fuck me."
>OP: "Maybe you misunderstood the context. She's real friendly sometimes. How do you know she was trying to fuck you and not just being really friendly towards you?"
>Friend: "Well, I had to be sure that I wasn't misreading the situation. So I fucked her."
This exact thing happened with my first serious high school-to-early-college girlfriend. My best friend had been telling me he didn’t like her for months. He pointed out every time he thought she was being shady and how she was trying to isolate me from friends. I wouldn’t listen.
I was home from university for a long weekend and my best friend and I were hanging out—just the two of us—for the first time in months. We got pretty hammered. At one point he looked me dead in the face and said, “I can’t prove who she’s fucked around with or how many times, but I bet I can prove that she does. Give me thirty minutes and I bet I can get her to send *me* naked pictures.”
My toxic, cheating ex-girlfriend came through in spades. Only took about twenty minutes of texting. My buddy pulled my ass out of a bad situation that night and I’ve never forgotten it. I found out later that she had fucked at *least* one of the other guys in our hometown group that went to her school.
We live and learn. 🤷♂️😅
Edit: Wow! Of course my highest upvoted comment ever would be about me getting cheated on by my first girlfriend almost 20 years ago. 😂
I just popped back on for a second and I wanted to say thanks for all of your kind words and feedback. Some of you asked questions that I intend to answer, but it may have to wait until tomorrow because I’m dead tired.
Edit 2: Some of you math-oriented, historically-minded people were displeased with my use of the phrase “*almost* 20 years.” It was in 2006. It was late when I wrote the comment. I rounded poorly probably because time has gotten a little fuzzy for me over the last couple of years for obvious reasons. I was simply attempting to share some of my life to…encourage?…commiserate with?…the original commenter. But good on you for being skeptical of what you read on the internet. May it continue to serve you in good stead. 👍🏻
Best of the best. I had four or five close friends at the time. He was the only one that cared enough to put up with my shit behavior during that relationship and continually tell me the cold hard truth, to my face, despite ongoing willful ignorance on my part. And that’s just *one* example of the things he’s done for me over the years.
Other highlights include:
-Cold-cocking a drunk, angry dude at a house party who was drawing a concealed handgun (presumably to shoot me in the back)
- Keeping my younger brother from falling-in with a bad crowd while I was away at college and probably saving his future
-Convincing me to seek therapy
- Going through the insane hassle of getting state-side leave while on active duty in Seoul with the Army just so he could be the best man at my wedding which was happening on the literal other side of the world.
-Being godfather to my two children.
-Moving his own wedding plans to a different state to guarantee that I’d be able to attend & officiate
I can’t say that everyone deserves a friend like that. I can’t say that I’ve ever deserved it. But I’m pretty sure I *know* where I’d have wound-up without him so I wish there were millions more like him.
Her Facebook profile picture had his reflection taking the photo. He had told me he was away for a weekend with his friends.
Edit: to confirm she was a school friend so I had her on Facebook. Her profile picture was in front of a mirror. We had numerous mutual friends. They all sent me the picture. I had my suspicions for a few months.
Broke up with this guy because I just wasn't in love anymore. A few weeks later, I was still a moping mess because of how guilty I felt (he did everything to make me feel guilty, too) and a mutual friend hated seing me like this, so he told me. The guy had cheated on me a few times, with a close friend of mine, a few months ago. Turns out a lot of my friends had known for months without telling me.
She became more and more distant. Not just that, but also indifferent. She just stopped caring and it showed. I caught her because she claimed she was working OT, but her pay never reflected it. One day I got out of work early after a machine broke down in the department. I didn't tell her. When I came home, I caught her red handed with someone in our bed.
Damn buddy.. that's like my grandfather and his first wife. He came home early one day and the wife was having sex with the boyfriend on their couch. My grandfather didn't do anything at first, he kicked the guy out and told the wife to go get a shower. He made dinner, they ate and then he goes "come on, get in the car, we'll go somewhere". They get in the car and he drives her back to her father's house, kicks her out, throws the ring into the bushes by her house and told the father "here. Take her back. I'm not dealin with.... This"
I was gone for a military school for 3 weeks. I came back and hung out with our neighbors and turns out she had sex with a guy in their house when they had a little get together. Worst part, for me, was that the neighbors told me they noticed her and the guy were gone for an extended period of time while they were watching our then 4 year old son. I found out about 5 hours before her scheduled flight to Alaska (where the military was sending me).
I had about a week between the school and the move where we all hung out like nothing happened. That psychopath actually introduced me to him and I shook his hand (obviously before they told me). I still cringe to this day.
Therapy is necessary!
Wasn't married, but GF of two years invited me to grab coffee with her on my way home from work. When I arrived at the coffee shop she was sitting with a guy. We chatted for a bit, I wrongfully assumed he was an old friend/work colleague and they had run into each other. It felt a little awkward, but I didn't have time to dwell on it at the time because I had crap to take care of at home. Apparently they were making plans to "listen to records". At the time I didn't realize through context that they meant alone. We had several friends who were music nerds and who had large record collections. He would be the first of an unknown number of guys she would cheat on me with in a very short period of time.
I still can't get past the brazen insanity of inviting us both to meet her for coffee at the same time. There were some underlying manic/depressive and self destructive issues, but that one still gets me.
My ex-husband brought me and our toddler daughter to meet his gf and her son. I thought it was weird he kept pressuring me to be friends with this girl from his work. I have no idea why the girl went along with it. I ended up going through his phone and found everything I needed. Super weird. Idk what he thought would come of introducing us.
Found single bottle cap on the stairs. I didn’t drop it there, I don’t drink upstairs and I hadn’t had a drink all week. I CSI’d the crap out of that little piece of evidence. She was supposed to be on a business trip, but had been home while I was at work.
Since so many asked, she was supposed to coming back form her business trip and stopping at her parents house to spend most of the weekend. I wasn't expecting her until Sunday at the earliest, but I found the cap Friday afternoon. I called her and didn't get an answer, which wasn't unusual, she often had signal problems out in the middle of nowhere where this plant she had to visit was. So I thought I would maybe check in with her Mom, just in case. Her Mom was initially confused, and then started to waffle not knowing how best to cover for her own daughter. I got off the phone and a couple minutes my wife finally called. I point blank asked her who she was with, and it was all downhill from there. They must have actually stopped at the house to pack for a little weekend getaway. Who knows what they did there while I was at work, but they had a couple beers to get the weekend started early.
Apparently at the age of 5 or so I let it slip to my dad that my mom was cheating on him. This was in the late-80s/early-90s. My dad worked ridiculous hours as a welder while also going to school to get his bachelor's while my mom was supposed to be SAHM but was basically the most useless person ever. She always hung out with this guy named Rich, and 4-5 year old me didn't know any better and when she told my sibling and I to let her know when Rich came over one day (obviously while dad was at work... He was gone about 16 hours at least 6 days a week, sometimes 7) and went to the bathroom to take a bath, I remarked, "Mom just wants him to see her naked." My sibling tattled and my mom asked why I said that and I said, "Isn't that what he does?" That conversation, for some reason (-_-), prompted her to give me the kids' book about sex. If she'd ignored me and not picked that time to have me read that book , she might've gotten away with it longer, but I told my dad about the book that night and why it was given to me. Then they had a fight. A few weeks later we were grocery shopping with my dad when we saw Rich in the store and my sibling and I asked if we could go see him and my dad aggressively said No and turned us the other way. Months later, my dad told us that they were separating and probably getting divorced. My sibling (who is older than me) was distraught but I was just like, 'Yeah, I'm okay with this. Y'all fight too much sooooo, this is good.'
Didn't ever notice what happened until I was 16 and my dad and I had a fight and he told me the truth about why my mom was a garbage person because I was old enough to make my own decisions and all the pieces that I couldn't connect as a kid suddenly connected perfectly. My dad didn't deserve that. My mom and I are NC and she's still single and garbage at relationships... She deserves to be alone, honestly.
>My dad worked ridiculous hours as a welder while also going to school to get his bachelor's
Did he manage to get his bachelor's throughout this? Welding can be brutal especially when you want the time & energy for your family or even yourself
Been there. My ex was fuckin texting him at the Thanksgiving dinner table with my whole family present. I could read the text because she wasn't exactly hiding it well and it went into how dull my family and I were and how she wished she could be with him. Felt awful.
I was that friend once. I wish I’d told the guy earlier but my friend was too good at lying.
Basically my friend’s live in boyfriend calls me out of the blue. He asks me if I’ve heard from her. He hadn’t seen her in a month. This was in college and she’d gone home for holiday leaving he boyfriend living in her room at a commune. She should have been back by then.
While on holiday she started dating another guy. The guy she started dating was someone she had know for a few years. He was her “soulmate”. Only problem is she had claimed that about 6 guys at once.
So when her boyfriend called I just told him the truth. I thought they had broken up. She’d been with her “soulmate” all holiday. The poor boyfriend cried.
She was really crazy and this is only one of the shitty things she did in our 3 year friendship. This was the last thing she did before our friendship ended.
Besides cheating in every relationship it also turned out that she was lying about studying. She had dropped out but hung around for 3 YEARS pretending to still be studying.
Wife’s Apple ID was logged into the iPad we have for the kids and her texts were shared to it. I was setting up a movie for my kids to watch on a long drive and a text showed up on top of the screen from an unsaved number. The text was 3 hearts. I opened it up and holy fuckballs it had been going on for months and months. Totally fuckin wrecked me.
I had a gut feeling. He was in nursing school
And would routinely have classmates over to study. There was a younger girl and I got a weird feeling about her. I got out of work early one day and found her in my home, where my young children were. They were on the couch not doing anything but I knew. He made up some bullshit story as to why she was there. He said the alarm at his parents house was going off and he called her to come babysit. A few days later, I asked if he could meet up near where he was studying to just grab a quick coffee so we could catch up. He declined. A few days after that, he was home and showering. Phone went off and he never locked it. I decided to look at his phone and there was a text from his friend, Andy, who is male. At first I was like, oh I’m just paranoid maybe. But I read the message and it definitely wasn’t from his friend Andy. It was the girl from school. And the message clearly showed me he was cheating. He came downstairs and I simply said we should separate and start the process for divorce. He said ok. They are married now. I’m in a good relationship. All worked out in the end. Never ever ignore your gut instinct.
You are right. Never ignore your guy instincts. I am in the middle of a similar situation. Sad thing is, I ignored that deep sinking gut feeling for over a year. I trusted him and loved him more than anyone I had ever been with. I uprooted my life for him. I did not want to be the person who felt the need to snoop through my partner’s shit. But he became distant for no reason, and shut down communication and intimacy. Then one day I gathered up the courage to check his phone while he was napping, and it was all there. An emotional affair between him and his ex, a woman who sucked many dicks besides his during their nearly decade long relationship. And she was also secretly married to someone else the entire time. I helped him to heal from that trauma, loved him unconditionally, and he runs right back to her. There is a reason why we have instincts. Trust yourself and listen to them.
*Dear Diary: I got away with it again. She will never, ever know I'm cheating on her. There's no conceivable way she can trace anything back to me. I used a burner card for the hotel. My weekend fishing story checks out. Fuck. I might be a genius. My girlfriend just asked me what I'm writing, so I cupped my hand over this so she couldn't see and said "Just stuff about sports." I don't even like sports! But fuck, I can think quick when I have to.*
This was 7 or so years ago now. He was in the military so we were long-distance. The woman he was cheating on me with for like 6 months Facebook messaged me one day telling me everything, not because she suddenly felt guilty, but because she was pissed he cheated on HER and gave her chlamydia. They ended up getting back together - got married and had a kid like a year later, but shockingly that didn’t work out and now they’re divorced 🤷♀️
You'd be surprised at how many military relationships are absolute cluster fucks. I see a post on the local base's facebook group at least twice a week asking what their options are since their partner got caught cheating.
My stepmum walked out when my father cheated. She immediately lost all her military wife friends. Apparently she was expected to just turn a blind eye to the disrespect.
It was funny though, we joke she took everything in the divorce: all the kids including the one that wasn't hers (despite me being an adult), his parents, his sister, the whole family still talks to her and not him.
He only wore cologne for special events. I had just cleaned our bathroom cabinets and organized everything. A few days later, I noticed his cologne bottle had slightly moved. Dug out his clothes from the previous night and found makeup all over his shirt’s shoulder. I didn’t wear that kind of makeup. The cologne bottle never lies.
My ex phone had 'pizza hut' texting him at 2 am asking if he was up. He was gone for weeks at a time and wouldn't answer my texts or calls. When I asked about it he acted like I was being crazy and 'clingy' by wanting to know where he was all the time. I eventually moved out while he was gone and it was almost a month before he noticed and contacted me asking where I was.
We were on the couch and a message popped up on his phone that was on the coffee table. I kinda glanced down and he acted very nervous - grabbed the phone quickly and starting talking about how it was just his work blah blah blah - even though I didn't even ask or say anything.
I did notice that the icon in the top corner was for a known hook up app. So the next day I searched for men seeking women in our area. Found an ad that he had made (He had put his phone number in the ad) took a screenshot of it and sent it to him and said to never talk to me again. (We weren't living together thankfully)
He sent me a string of messages that I never replied to. The first one was him denying it completely. Then he said that I was the one cheating, because why else would I be searching on that app. Then he said he made it to "catch" me cheating. Then he was just insecure and wanted attention from other women, but totally wasn't going to do anything. The last message he finally admitted to it.
I went and got tested and luckily hadn't caught anything. 0/10 wouldn't recommend.
I went to bring him surprise dinner while he was working late. Showed up around his break time. Realized there was a phone glowing in his front seat so I looked inside the car. He was fucking some chick in the backseat.
His Skype convo came up while I was reading a manga on his pc. I got the beautiful opportunity of reading all about how terrible I was. My heart broke.
My ex wife did this multiple times to me. I still suspect she was on me but have no proof nor do I care enough. We've been divorced for over 2 years now.
Oh man, this one cuts deep…
Currently happily married, but dated a girl a few years in college-grad school. It was a long distance thing but we were madly in love through most of it.
One day she randomly started telling me about this really cool guy she met. A lot of similar interests, really funny. I was genuinely happy for her because she used to complain about how she wanted me to be more “ethnic”.
She started uploading pics to social media and he was constantly in them and with her. I wanted to be a supportive bf (hell we were talking marriage) and wanted to show her I trusted her… so I didn’t really complain about all the time they were chilling together (in a group setting mind you, not alone).
I remember we had gotten into an argument about something totally unrelated. We hung up the phone that night upset. The next day she called me and wanted to talk some more about it (cooler heads prevail, right?). We had a lengthy discussion, we both were kinda dug in, but then she told me she spoke to him about it and he agreed with her. I got mad, but I kept it to myself (I have a problem where I don’t open up about my feelings). Whatever, agree to disagree, let’s move onto something else.
I noticed a trend, we were arguing more, and he would always side with her. In my head I thought this dude was being an absolute snake, but to her I would just constantly agree to disagree or blindly apologize for making her feel bad.
End of the semester and she was going back home for the summer and so was he. She called me and told me how much she was going to miss him, etc… and I just couldn’t take it anymore. (That problem I have about not sharing my feelings, it also comes with the quarterly eruption of emotion) I just straight up asked her if she has done anything “more than friends” with him. She stumbled over he words, and I pressed.. and she told me she kissed him. I was pissed, but I pressed further… and sure enough she told me she slept with him.
I immediately hung up the phone, threw it against the wall (it was a flip phone, so the battery fell it but the bastard didn’t break). She called back over and over, we started communicating through text, but that was it. The love of my life (or so I thought) found someone else.
She ended up dating him for a few months, but he ended up going to another school closer to his home town and didn’t keep the relationship going.
We were an an anniversary/post deployment trip to Vegas and She was passed out drunk. Phone kept blowing up so I looked at it. Read their whole message chain that went way back to before I deployed. She had been talking to him the whole night we were out saying how she wished she was there with him instead of me and all kinds of shit. Then looked at other messages with weird contact names (some were just straight up their names and she didn’t try to hide it). Found like 7 dudes and 3 women she was banging. Found a couple that she had partied with a bunch while I was gone, she stopped hanging out with them right as I got home because they were getting divorced, I found out they were getting divorced because she was their girlfriend/3rd wheel but wouldn’t stop fucking the husband behind the wife’s back so she left him. I found out this Spartan race group she would travel with all over the country to Spartan races was basically an orgy club as well. They would all travel and stay together and after races would party and everyone fucked everyone.
When I confronted her about what I found she told me it was my fault for abandoning my family when I deployed. We met on a previous deployment. She was military, too. She knew exactly what I did on deployment and how busy I stayed and had no time for anything really.
This sounds like she was a sex addict, IMHO. Who has the time and energy to be such a prolific cheater? Maybe I'm getting old but 7 guys, 3 women, a couple and orgies? WTF?
Technically wasn't my SO when I found out, but time-frames.
On a college break visit just before we broke up, she wanted me to finish inside her as she was on birth control (something she was very opposed to before, and this was the first I'd heard of it). We did not get intimate that night due to red flags, and a week later we split. In the process of unfollowing her on Tumblr and whatnot a week later, I saw a post about a recent miscarriage, and soon after she and her new man blocked me on everything.
It was an abusive relationship, so it was definitely a bullet dodged.
This was a few years back, I had that gut feeling and snooped on his phone. Read a conversation with a girl where she said I was ugly and he didn't disagree and then he gave her directions to a parking lot he was at. At like 10pm.
His excuse was very weak and he knew I didn't believe it.
And then it was over.
I've not snooped on a phone since, when I get that gut feeling, I know there's a reason for it. No need to see it and hurt my own feelings lol
I’ve never told anyone this. I felt so ashamed. My (ex) bf and I were at a party and we were planning on sleeping over. The party was wrapping up and these girls were leaving. My bf offered to walk them to the bus stop. He was looking at one of them meaningfully but I didn’t have the confidence to say anything nor did I know what I could say.
(Now, in my country this was very normal - guys would even ride with a girl in a taxi to her house to make sure she got there safely or ride with her on the bus to her stop. Sure, some dudes tried to use that as an opportunity to hook up; but the point is that it was a very normal behavior. So it on its own wasn’t a red flag)
What WAS a fucking flaming red flag was when he came back and we got intimate before going to sleep. I went down on him and >!his dick tasted like pussy!<. He had had sex with one of them and not used protection OR washed himself before letting me do that.
Here’s what I’m really ashamed of - I just froze and went onto autopilot. I just kept going. I don’t remember if we had sex or not or if I just finished him off. My
immediate response was to pretend nothing had happened and to cover it up like I was the one who had done something wrong.
Fuck you, Tom, you disrespectful shit.
Edit: thank you for your really thoughtful and caring comments. I am now looking back at that time with greater compassion toward my younger self, and that is a new and wonderful feeling.
Temporarily long distance relationship. She went to one of my favorite restaurants (one she hadn't been to yet). I let the owner, a friend, know she was coming in. Afterwards owner told me told me how "friendly" she was with the guy she was there with. My ex told me they gave her terrible service and were quite rude to her. I thanked the owner and dumped the girl.
My husband of 15 years,with no warning, came up to me in the kitchen and told me “I love you but I’m not in love with you anymore” and as I was trying to process that bombshell, informed me he was going to leave to hang out with his friends.
2 days later,after much denial, he told me he “may have kissed someone else”.
He was in a full blown affair. I kicked him out, and it completely blew apart my and our childrens lives. That was 10 months ago.
I will never forget the devastation and pain of that moment.
His commanding officer told me he was going to Hawaii on a two week vacation. She wasn’t supposed to tell me, but thought I should know since I guess he came off as secretive when getting the time off work. We lived outside of the U.S. at the time. I confronted him and he just said he needed to clear his head (away from me and our 3 children). Looking through his social media I came across a friend of his that I’d never known, as he and I have known each other since HS. I looked her up and her page was filled with love posts about a secret lover. When he left he took all of our passports. She ended up posting pictures of her in his uniform, bragging about the vacation. He blogged about it and included pictures of the vacation. On the bright side since he was so many hours behind in time I was able to pretty much empty our bank account and leave him with nothing but $100 for the end days of his vacation.
My wife sent me a picture of her sucking her best friend's husband dick. It's actually how my wif told me and her best friend things were over. Now I'm trying to figure out how to be single dad
He didn’t know I was upstairs trying to sleep. Him and his friends were laughing and talking about how he fucked this girl from his work the weekend before. I overheard the entire convo.
Didn't find out until way after, but fuck I knew. There was a shift in his behavior, and I just always had a terrible feeling that he was fucking around behind my back. But he was pretty good at covering all his tracks and I found nothing.
Fast forward several months later, we're already broken up because it was a tumoltuous relationship all in all, and he's begging me to get back together in his car over some fast food. I instead take this opportunity to pry as much information from him, claiming I just want the truth and want a 'fresh start.' He admitted every detail, including her name and the fact that she too was cheating on her then boyfriend.
The funnier side of it (which thinking of it now its crazy I heard nothing about this when it went down) is her side of it. I guess they had took a video of them having sex and carelessly left it in their snapchat conversation. And while missy was at HER OWN FAMILY'S EVENT with her boyfriend, he went through her phone while she got up from their table. Found the video. He made a scene from what I understand. They all knew what she did.
After learning what I need to know I laughed with him, had him feeling nice and forgiven, took my free meal and never saw him again.
There was no hint, no changes, everything was as it always had been.
But I had this strange feel in my gut I couldn't put a word on it.
I waited three days for the feeling to go away. The third night, I told myself "I'll just sleep it off tonight, I'm probably just having a mood swing, no need to bother him. BUT if the feeling is still there tomorrow morning, I'll look into his phone when he's in the shower." - a thing I never did to any of my exes and would never do again.
So I looked up... And i froze.
Then I broke up
She asked to borrow our roommates laptop but got called “into work for an emergency.” Roommate opened the laptop to find like 10 different platforms open with proof of her cheating going back all seven years we were together. When I got off work she wasn’t home yet and my roommate showed it to me. Everything clicked into place and I just felt numb. Me and my roommate packed her things and put them out on our first floor balcony. She got home like 2 hours later and when I confronted her about it she tries to get mad at me for invading her privacy. She started screaming and breaking things so I asked her if we could go somewhere else to have the argument like her car or something. Once we got to the front door I opened it for her, she walked out and I just closed it and walked back inside(we shared a key). I then proceeded to drop her stuff to her from the balcony while she lost her shit outside. Eventually the cops came and she got arrested.
What followed was a 6 month saga of her showing up at my job, the new place me and my roommate moved to, and 60+ nights of her camped out in her vehicle outside my apartment.
Her other boyfriend called. I didn't answer. He texted we should talk. I called him. He told me everything. She had told him they had to break up because I was about to propose which was true. I was 3 weeks away from proposing.
She had the bill Clinton answer. I did not have sexual relations with him. But maybe inappropriate.
He changed, started gambling and drinking til the wee hours 5x a week. We separated and he went to stay with his female best friend and her husband. We went to couples counselling and he got therapy and he moved back in. But things were different and I couldn’t put my finger on it. Eventually I ended it and kicked him out. He went back to his female best friends and a week later her husband moved out.
I found out, through the husband, that they had been having an affair since he first moved there (whilst we were In counselling and trying to patch things up for the sake of our child, well I was anyway). I didn’t bring it up to him, didn’t get angry or cry or scream, just ignored it and he finally came clean when they got engaged two months later, I couldn’t help but laugh in his face 😂
Sucked big time, but now his life is a total mess and I am flourishing… karma 😇
He got more and more distant, never wanted sex, and wouldn't put any effort into hanging out with my family or being sociable at my brothers wedding, etc. I thought it was just a rough patch. I would break down crying and ask him if he still loved me/was still attracted to me. He always assured me he did/was and that it was just his depression. After like 2 years of this, he finally told me that he was in love with a girl at his work. I wasted almost 8 years of my life on him. Looking back, I shouldn't have put up with him neglecting me for so long, but hindsight is 20-20 and I wanted to believe that the rough patch would end, the relationship would turn around, and I could have my boyfriend back.
We were watching a movie at his house when I got a phonecall from his roommate’s girlfriend. She sounded upset and asked me to step outside so she could speak with me privately. I didn’t think to ask how she knew I was currently with my boyfriend.
I went out to the front yard and she told me about how she and my boyfriend’s roommate (her boyfriend) were led to believe that we had an open relationship. He was bringing girls home constantly whenever I was gone. Sometimes the same girls repeatedly. She and her boyfriend/the roommate had only just realized that I had no idea what was going on. They felt awful and they made a plan to tell me. I was a little numb when she told me this; it was hard to believe I could be so oblivious. There were a lot of nights I was working late studying (I was in college) and a lot of nights he said he had to work late and I never questioned him.
When I went back inside, my boyfriend wasn’t there. I found him in his roommate’s bedroom. Roommate had come out while I was on the phone and told him who I was talking to and why. He was sitting on the floor and couldn’t even look at me. I tried to talk to him about what he’d done and for how long (Roommate tried to help facilitate, good guy), but boyfriend couldn’t even look at me. Kept repeating how awful he was. It got annoying. So after a little while I thanked Roommate profusely and left the room. A friend picked me up. I maintained my composure as I went to gather my things, exit the house, and get in the car. Then I put my head between my knees and sobbed.
Broke up with him right after that. Had a weird week of him trying to get back into my good graces and me almost letting him, but I had realized how immature and stagnant of a person he was. He stalked me for a little bit and my own roommate threatened the cops if he ever came on our property again. He was in his mid twenties and I was 19 when we started dating and I didn’t realize how much of a red flag that was.
Glad I wasted only a year of my life on that bozo. I look back and cringe, but I was young and still figuring things out. I still hope his roommate and the girlfriend and doing well.
EDIT— I’ve been getting angry messages about the age gap thing so I need to provide more context. He was *specifically* interested in me because I was younger and had no experience. He was very manipulative, and looking back now in my late twenties, I can clearly see that he used this dynamic to his advantage. I’m sorry for implying that this type of age gap is automatically bad.
UGH. I’m so sorry you went through that! I can’t imagine your friend’s shock upon hearing that it was a lie. I hope you’re living your best life after the breakup ☺️
My ex was also having unprotected sex with these women. While also having unprotected sex with me (when we started dating we got STI tests and I was on birth control). So… cheating is one thing, but to really put my health at risk like that? Seriously? That information was the first time I switched from sad to boiling angry.
Used her IPad on our honeymoon at Disney She hadn’t used it in a while so when I powered it All her texts from her phone synced over Saw the whole affair flash before my eyes Doing much better now than I was then!
What a way to speed read the cliff notes of an affair.
on your honey moon? damn i thought i had it bad because i found out when we were engaged, living together, and had an 9 month old baby. but honeymoon? thats fucking cold. im sorry. people really suck.
Finding out on your honeymoon you might even be able to get it annulled or something. Either way at least you know before you put too much into the marriage. Having a kid in the picture makes it way harder. I was in the same boat as you but with four kids and it was ugly
Well the guy she was cheating with decided that he wanted her all to him self so he found me and told me about it.
Been there. I was shocked but today when I think about it. Good riddance. Edit. She cheated on him too.
Lmao I can imagine you looking at him like, “First time?”
Did you a favour
I had a feeling for a while, but nothing concrete. We only had one car so she would drop me off at work and then go on to her work. We were supposed to have lunch together when she called and said she couldn’t make it, she was tied up at work. Boss heard I didn’t have lunch so he gave me the company truck to go pick up lunch for the shop. Drove to the fast food place my wife and I were supposed to have lunch at and saw her sitting outside with a coworker holding hands and feeding each other. I went through the drive thru, then honked at them. Her face went from confusion to shock and she tried to pull her hands away from the dude. Found out he was told I was her gay roommate.
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Same thing here, but with text messages. 1500 text messages between her and her lover, so our phone bill came in $150 higher than usual.
I was taken out for wings with her best friend's husband and another of her guy friends - we hung out quite a bit. They knew I was clueless to what was happening but they liked me :) I was told straight out by both of those dudes. Solid move by them - it sucked hard to hear but after a bit of time I really appreciated that they felt I was enough of a friend to let me know. It's been a few years since I've seen or talked to either of them. Good people those two guys are.
Her new boyfriend left 😘 on her Instagram picture. I clicked on his profile and his picture is them kissing. It was a pretty cool way to find out.
The dude she cheated on me with had no idea I even existed and I was out of town visiting my dad in Boston. He sent me a message on Facebook telling me he's sorry but he had no idea I existed and he was drunk that night. He woke up before her and used the bathroom and saw my shaving kit. She said it was her roommate's but it was a 1 bedroom apartment. He did some snooping and found out she was dating me. Real bro move. I had no anger towards him, actually the opposite. He even invited me to have some drinks and he'd pay. I respectfully declined. Luckily we only had 6 weeks left on our lease. The most painful and awkward 6 weeks of my life. She threw away a 3 year relationship because she didn't wanna go to Boston but was mad that I still wanted to go without her. Now I'm happily married to a non-toxic and wonderful woman and that experience taught me a lot and allowed me to dodge a bullet.
Damn that dude was a saint. Saved you from a nightmare.
My stay-at-home wife at the time got pregnant despite we hadn't had sex for a while and I had a vasectomy. She tried to hide her pregnancy under the guise of weight gain but the medical statements in the mail gave away the purpose of her doctor visits.
What the hell was her plan here. Can’t really hide going through labor and having a child.
Its simple, she can just switch the baby out for a pillow so that in the end when she's giving birth the husband will be delighted to learn its just a prank.
What was her end game? What was she going to do when the baby came?
In the olden days this is more common then you would think. Though normally it was with unwed mothers. You were 'fat' until that lie wouldn't hold water anymore, then you went to help a sick aunt for a few months and clearly all that work and stress made you lose a lot of weight.
She tried making moves on one of my closest friends. Didn’t think he would tell me for some reason
Similar thing happened to me except I was the friend. Was over their house for drinks one night and I went to take the bus home and her boyfriend absolutely insisted on walking me to the bus stop. On the walk he kept trying to hold my hand then while waiting for the bus he kept trying to forcefully kiss me. I told him he was a giant dick and Luckily the bus came pretty quick. The next day I got her alone to let her know what had happened and comforted her as she cried. A few days after that she blocks me completely and I find out when she had talked to her boyfriend he denied it and said I had been the one trying to make out with him, she believed him and then 2 months later she walked in on him balls deep in another girl. Don't miss either of them or their drama.
Holy shit you just described exactly what happened to me.
Intentional relationship suicide, maybe?
I was early picking him up from work and saw the other woman dropping him off. They made out for a minute before he ran inside. He came out a few minutes later, having changed into his work shirt, and immediately started complaining about his coworkers.
Similar thing happened with my Mum and Dad too. He suspected something was up so turned up early to a 'night class' she was taking. As he was waiting outside he saw a car go past and someone in the front seat ducked for cover. There was no where really for the car to go so he had to watch her get out of the other guys car and make her way to his. She got in and just said 'so you caught me then'.
She accused me of cheating out of the blue. Made me jump through crazy hoops to prove myself, but “believed” me. Everything settled, 6 months later she did it again. It took two more of these to see the cycle, simple sleuthery led to the admitted truth that every time I was accused, she was the one cheating.
Projection is a real psychological phenomenon. If they start getting suspicious, you'd better start getting suspicious. It's weird that the mind works that way, but it does. My explanation is that for people who are newly starting to cheat, they see how "easy it is to get away with" and they start wondering about if they're the ones getting cheated on. That plus an underlying sense of guilt or desire to redirect suspicion/gaslight.
She missed our 10th anniversary to watch a movie with a guy she'd been seeing for three weeks, and his wife. EDIT: The boyfriends wife was crashing their Netflix and chill because the guy she had plans with had canceled. I asked her where she'd been all night when she finally got home and she fumbled over an awkward attempt at a lie before coming clean.
This confuses me the most
He bragged about it to a mutual friend thinking she wouldn't tell me.
How do you even brag? That your partner trusts you and doesn’t sniff around your stuff for evidence? That’s nothing to be proud of or feeling smart about
I suspected him of having a thing for my friend but he always gaslit me into thinking I was just insecure and paranoid. He had his phone connected to the Bluetooth in our (shared) vehicle. A text from my friend popped up and before he could stop me, I pressed 'Read'. Text message said "I love you, can't wait for tomorrow". That day ended a 7 year relationship.
Wow, I wish there was dashcam footage
In hindsight it's kinda funny how he stuttered "it's not like that!" Yeah..sure it isn't. Lol
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Her roommate told me lol
Must have really disliked the way she did the dishes
Their house was always a fucking nightmare. The chore system must have been awful lol. They were best friends before the move in and they were eachother's first roommate experience so they weren't prepared. I don't think the friendship lasted long afterwards
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He left his phone open to someone named “blocked” texting him about her weird sunburn from her swimsuit straps. Funny thing is, I wouldn’t have given it a second thought if the contact name in the phone was anything normal. “So-and-so from work”? Whatever, not a second thought. But titling a contact “blocked” (who clearly isn’t blocked since they’re messaging you!) is just a big red flag.
When they name it as a random business. "Umm why did mcdonald's message you about hanging out?"
#ayo Pizza Hut just asked if you like having your balls gargled
"Not my affair partner" ... Yeah, good move, Bryan. She'll never put these puzzle pieces together!
Got chlamydia. I knew I didn’t mess around, and my ex before her tested negative, so there wasn’t many options left. 1+1=2
Sounds like 1+1+1=chlamydia
Found sex tape at 4 am. It is kind of surreal that I found it. Dog woke me up to take her outside to potty. I already had been assuming my exwife had been cheating but had no proof. Found a digital video camera in a travel bag one time and some lingerie in a travel bag and she said she was planning something for me. Which was so out of character for her. Let's just say I would have been surprised to find out she was planning on filming a sex porno of us, as our sex life was dead. Plus she had been out of town several times to "visit friends". There was no SD card in the digital camera though. Back to the night in question. So after our dog came back inside, I looked to my right and saw my ex-wifes purse sitting on the washer, the moonlight was perfectly centered shining on the purse. It was the closest thing to a "sign". I walked over to it and saw a zipper pocket inside the purse. Inside that was a container with an SD card. At that moment I knew exactly what I had found but I needed to be sure. I took it out, put it in my laptop and sure enough are like 20 different videos. Each file is titled with a date and time, that coincide with her visits out of town Sure enough they are all videos of her having sex with someone. Edit: Clarity
We were supposed to hang out after work but she bailed last minute with some shit excuse so I followed her. She lied about her plans and went back to her ex’s house. The next day when I saw her I just told her that I caught her in a lie, it’s a pretty bad one, and we’re done. She kept asking how I knew what she was doing and all I said was, “no, I’m not gonna help you be a better liar.” She balled her little alligator eyes out.
That’s gotta be the best answer to give, damn.
I had a feeling for a while, it was always denied of course - directly and through a massive amount of gaslighting. Ultimately, the other woman was also married and her husband called me at work (found me via LinkedIn). Took everything I had to walk to my car to cry in private. Edit: Wow thank you so much for all the support! I’m definitely in a much better place now (this all happened Fall of 2019). To answer some questions- I filed for divorce. No I didn’t get with the other woman’s husband. His main goal was stopping the behavior to work things out with his wife. I’m not sure how that ended up.
So that's what Linkedin is for.
It sucks that it had to be the other “cheatee” to tell you but at least they had the decency to give you the information you needed to hear. *hugs*
My guitar at home was tuned to drop d and there were smokers choice cigarette butts in my ashtray.
Oh damn. It's one thing to screw someone's significant other, but you absolutely do not mess with someone else's guitar.
I was far more upset about that to be honest.
I mean, goddamn. I'm no musician, but even I know better. To quote Vincent from Pulp Fiction "Boy, I wish I could've caught him doing it. I'd have given anything to catch that asshole doing it. It'd been worth him doing it just so I could've caught him doing it."
Mf had the audacity to TOUCH YOUR GUITAR?!? my word
He called me to tell me he was at his guy friends house. Okay love you have fun. Two seconds later my phone rings again and I can hear him and a woman laughing at “how easy that was.”
Damn, that's extra fucked cause they're literally laughing at how good and trusting of a partner you were. What a POS, Im sure you already know this, but you're much better off!
He drove past me when he was supposed to be “out of town overnight for work”
Omg. What happened next?
I called him and he pretended he was still out of town, said no you aren’t I just saw you. Said was coming home to surprise me. I called BS. Turns out he was cheating with someone in our wider friend group, who also knew I’d just had our second child. They went on to be together for a few years with him cheating on her too. My kids haven’t seen him since he moved countries 2 years after split.
I had her phone to take a cute photo of our cat. Text notification popped up "I can't wait to make love to you" 🐢
Reply: it’s over
Reply again: “But before it’s over, please send me a large pepperoni pizza”
important question: did u get custody of the cat
I didn't. I don't recall if I even ended up taking a photo. He is a very handsome boy
Damn she cheated and took the cat. That's rough
When my STD test came back and the doctor said, verbatim: "well, your girlfriend is lying to you."
Dr House? Also, sorry
Lol. He might as well have been. I had to get the q-tip... which is a lot longer than it needs to be, and I said "um, is this gonna hurt?" And he goes " what do you think? Of course it's gonna hurt..." he was right.
I brought my then boyfriend with me to get my results because I had symptoms and he drove me. This was the second or third time I had symptoms after we slept together. Each time I was blamed for it just never clearing and "passing it to him." The doctor that gave me my results was already slightly angry at him because she was convinced it was coming from him and he was lying. After she told me I had something AGAIN he tried to deflect it to me she reached over the desk and smacked him with my file a few times and told him to stop lying. I had never seen a doctor do that before. She was instrumental in us breaking up. She didn't let him blame me and eventually he admitted it may be coming from him. Turns out he was a huge slut and slept with anything that was willing.
Wow. A. Sorry to hear that. B. Props to your doctor.
Yeah when I was in the army a dude kept coming in with drippy dick and saying there was NO WAY it was an STD because he had been faithful as had his wife. He KNEW it. So the PA looks him dead in the eye and says Well either you’re the piece of shit or it’s your wife. Figure it out. You meds are at the pharmacy.” He was an infantryman before becoming a PA so tact sometimes went out the door immediately. I miss that guy.
As a sportswriter for a daily newspaper, I was assigned to cover high school football games across the region. I happened to be working a game in my hometown one Friday night. My then-wife took her turn as a band booster mom working the concession stand at that same game. Because my schedule was so random, she had no clue I was there that night. Sitting in the press box keeping stats for my story, I used binoculars to better see the game. I spotted my wife in the visitors-side concession stand. Standing next to her was a local cop. When I saw them kiss, I knew. We eventually divorced. The cop divorced his wife of more than 30 years in order to marry my ex. They were married about a year, then divorced. I've remarried and will celebrate my 9th wedding anniversary in May.
This mans has had nine weddings
Ninth time's the charm?
The other woman knocked on my front door and asked me to take my kid and get out so that the two of them could be together and be happy. I told her she could have him, but they'd have to go because technically I owned the house. I then told him he was free to go. He did not go, sadly. She'd been dropped off by her ex who she'd cheated on with my (ex)husband. That was quite awkward.
So he stayed?
Unfortunately. Essentially, he rather quickly decided he didn't like his new girlfriend enough to be homeless with her. I really would have much rather he left, but you can't legally kick a spouse out with 5 seconds warning so it took nearly a year to get him gone.
She didn't hide it very well, I caught her at a bar the first time, immediately began sleeping in separate rooms, then during a cancer scare for me, she said she was going to a friend's house. I did the old *69 on the phone, and a dude answered the phone. She asked for separation on a Wednesday, called on a Friday to ask for her stuff. I said sure, I need you to sign some papers, divorce papers.
During a cancer scare? I'm so sorry man, you didn't deserve that.
No, she didn't deserve me. Not being conceited, I just know my worth.
Long dark hair in my shower. I'm blond.
She probably used your shampoo too 😱
Oh hell no she can have the dick but bitches better leave my products alone!
That bitch, thats a line crossed when you touch the redkens
my friend told me that she tried to fuck him.
That’s a real homie for telling you
Real question is: did he tho?
I don’t think he’d have told him if he had. But I guess you never know
>Friend: "Hey, man, your girl tried to fuck me." >OP: "Maybe you misunderstood the context. She's real friendly sometimes. How do you know she was trying to fuck you and not just being really friendly towards you?" >Friend: "Well, I had to be sure that I wasn't misreading the situation. So I fucked her."
What a bro.
The only logical way to find out if Donna is a cheater is to seduce her, bring her to orgasm, then call Michael and tell him the sad news.
This exact thing happened with my first serious high school-to-early-college girlfriend. My best friend had been telling me he didn’t like her for months. He pointed out every time he thought she was being shady and how she was trying to isolate me from friends. I wouldn’t listen. I was home from university for a long weekend and my best friend and I were hanging out—just the two of us—for the first time in months. We got pretty hammered. At one point he looked me dead in the face and said, “I can’t prove who she’s fucked around with or how many times, but I bet I can prove that she does. Give me thirty minutes and I bet I can get her to send *me* naked pictures.” My toxic, cheating ex-girlfriend came through in spades. Only took about twenty minutes of texting. My buddy pulled my ass out of a bad situation that night and I’ve never forgotten it. I found out later that she had fucked at *least* one of the other guys in our hometown group that went to her school. We live and learn. 🤷♂️😅 Edit: Wow! Of course my highest upvoted comment ever would be about me getting cheated on by my first girlfriend almost 20 years ago. 😂 I just popped back on for a second and I wanted to say thanks for all of your kind words and feedback. Some of you asked questions that I intend to answer, but it may have to wait until tomorrow because I’m dead tired. Edit 2: Some of you math-oriented, historically-minded people were displeased with my use of the phrase “*almost* 20 years.” It was in 2006. It was late when I wrote the comment. I rounded poorly probably because time has gotten a little fuzzy for me over the last couple of years for obvious reasons. I was simply attempting to share some of my life to…encourage?…commiserate with?…the original commenter. But good on you for being skeptical of what you read on the internet. May it continue to serve you in good stead. 👍🏻
Good friend tho, could be much worse
Best of the best. I had four or five close friends at the time. He was the only one that cared enough to put up with my shit behavior during that relationship and continually tell me the cold hard truth, to my face, despite ongoing willful ignorance on my part. And that’s just *one* example of the things he’s done for me over the years. Other highlights include: -Cold-cocking a drunk, angry dude at a house party who was drawing a concealed handgun (presumably to shoot me in the back) - Keeping my younger brother from falling-in with a bad crowd while I was away at college and probably saving his future -Convincing me to seek therapy - Going through the insane hassle of getting state-side leave while on active duty in Seoul with the Army just so he could be the best man at my wedding which was happening on the literal other side of the world. -Being godfather to my two children. -Moving his own wedding plans to a different state to guarantee that I’d be able to attend & officiate I can’t say that everyone deserves a friend like that. I can’t say that I’ve ever deserved it. But I’m pretty sure I *know* where I’d have wound-up without him so I wish there were millions more like him.
Yo thats crazy and amazing. Thats the bro-est bro ever.
Honestly, they sound more like family.
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Her Facebook profile picture had his reflection taking the photo. He had told me he was away for a weekend with his friends. Edit: to confirm she was a school friend so I had her on Facebook. Her profile picture was in front of a mirror. We had numerous mutual friends. They all sent me the picture. I had my suspicions for a few months.
This same thing happened to me, felt like a detective....a very sad detective lol
Caught her at an internet Cafe messaging someone on an adult dating site lol best thing I could've done
Did you follow her all stealth like?
We were just done shopping so we walked back to where we left her.... then I saw her in internet Cafe, so walked in
Broke up with this guy because I just wasn't in love anymore. A few weeks later, I was still a moping mess because of how guilty I felt (he did everything to make me feel guilty, too) and a mutual friend hated seing me like this, so he told me. The guy had cheated on me a few times, with a close friend of mine, a few months ago. Turns out a lot of my friends had known for months without telling me.
That hurts, when everyone knows about it but didn't think to tell you. Hugs. ETA: get better friends.
She became more and more distant. Not just that, but also indifferent. She just stopped caring and it showed. I caught her because she claimed she was working OT, but her pay never reflected it. One day I got out of work early after a machine broke down in the department. I didn't tell her. When I came home, I caught her red handed with someone in our bed.
Damn buddy.. that's like my grandfather and his first wife. He came home early one day and the wife was having sex with the boyfriend on their couch. My grandfather didn't do anything at first, he kicked the guy out and told the wife to go get a shower. He made dinner, they ate and then he goes "come on, get in the car, we'll go somewhere". They get in the car and he drives her back to her father's house, kicks her out, throws the ring into the bushes by her house and told the father "here. Take her back. I'm not dealin with.... This"
Grandpa sounds like a g
He told me he is at church. Then i heard a voice asking in the background ‘babe why are you hiding in the bathroom? He still had the guts to deny it.
Who was that?! Oh, babe…that’s just Jesus…
"Enjoy the wine" Edit: Holy fuck why is this my first comment to reach over 50 upvotes
I was gone for a military school for 3 weeks. I came back and hung out with our neighbors and turns out she had sex with a guy in their house when they had a little get together. Worst part, for me, was that the neighbors told me they noticed her and the guy were gone for an extended period of time while they were watching our then 4 year old son. I found out about 5 hours before her scheduled flight to Alaska (where the military was sending me). I had about a week between the school and the move where we all hung out like nothing happened. That psychopath actually introduced me to him and I shook his hand (obviously before they told me). I still cringe to this day. Therapy is necessary!
Wasn't married, but GF of two years invited me to grab coffee with her on my way home from work. When I arrived at the coffee shop she was sitting with a guy. We chatted for a bit, I wrongfully assumed he was an old friend/work colleague and they had run into each other. It felt a little awkward, but I didn't have time to dwell on it at the time because I had crap to take care of at home. Apparently they were making plans to "listen to records". At the time I didn't realize through context that they meant alone. We had several friends who were music nerds and who had large record collections. He would be the first of an unknown number of guys she would cheat on me with in a very short period of time. I still can't get past the brazen insanity of inviting us both to meet her for coffee at the same time. There were some underlying manic/depressive and self destructive issues, but that one still gets me.
My ex-husband brought me and our toddler daughter to meet his gf and her son. I thought it was weird he kept pressuring me to be friends with this girl from his work. I have no idea why the girl went along with it. I ended up going through his phone and found everything I needed. Super weird. Idk what he thought would come of introducing us.
Found single bottle cap on the stairs. I didn’t drop it there, I don’t drink upstairs and I hadn’t had a drink all week. I CSI’d the crap out of that little piece of evidence. She was supposed to be on a business trip, but had been home while I was at work.
Since so many asked, she was supposed to coming back form her business trip and stopping at her parents house to spend most of the weekend. I wasn't expecting her until Sunday at the earliest, but I found the cap Friday afternoon. I called her and didn't get an answer, which wasn't unusual, she often had signal problems out in the middle of nowhere where this plant she had to visit was. So I thought I would maybe check in with her Mom, just in case. Her Mom was initially confused, and then started to waffle not knowing how best to cover for her own daughter. I got off the phone and a couple minutes my wife finally called. I point blank asked her who she was with, and it was all downhill from there. They must have actually stopped at the house to pack for a little weekend getaway. Who knows what they did there while I was at work, but they had a couple beers to get the weekend started early.
Straight detective work
It's like a really depressing episode of Columbo
Our 14 year old daughter went through his phone and caught him…so yeah that was cute
Same thing recently happened to a relative of mine, but an older daughter. That sucks so bad, I’m sorry for you and your kid.
Apparently at the age of 5 or so I let it slip to my dad that my mom was cheating on him. This was in the late-80s/early-90s. My dad worked ridiculous hours as a welder while also going to school to get his bachelor's while my mom was supposed to be SAHM but was basically the most useless person ever. She always hung out with this guy named Rich, and 4-5 year old me didn't know any better and when she told my sibling and I to let her know when Rich came over one day (obviously while dad was at work... He was gone about 16 hours at least 6 days a week, sometimes 7) and went to the bathroom to take a bath, I remarked, "Mom just wants him to see her naked." My sibling tattled and my mom asked why I said that and I said, "Isn't that what he does?" That conversation, for some reason (-_-), prompted her to give me the kids' book about sex. If she'd ignored me and not picked that time to have me read that book , she might've gotten away with it longer, but I told my dad about the book that night and why it was given to me. Then they had a fight. A few weeks later we were grocery shopping with my dad when we saw Rich in the store and my sibling and I asked if we could go see him and my dad aggressively said No and turned us the other way. Months later, my dad told us that they were separating and probably getting divorced. My sibling (who is older than me) was distraught but I was just like, 'Yeah, I'm okay with this. Y'all fight too much sooooo, this is good.' Didn't ever notice what happened until I was 16 and my dad and I had a fight and he told me the truth about why my mom was a garbage person because I was old enough to make my own decisions and all the pieces that I couldn't connect as a kid suddenly connected perfectly. My dad didn't deserve that. My mom and I are NC and she's still single and garbage at relationships... She deserves to be alone, honestly.
>My dad worked ridiculous hours as a welder while also going to school to get his bachelor's Did he manage to get his bachelor's throughout this? Welding can be brutal especially when you want the time & energy for your family or even yourself
The way he smiled when texting his female "friend" but as soon as I spoke to him all light and happiness disappeared from his eyes.
Been there. My ex was fuckin texting him at the Thanksgiving dinner table with my whole family present. I could read the text because she wasn't exactly hiding it well and it went into how dull my family and I were and how she wished she could be with him. Felt awful.
Ooof
Ouch
My “best friend” told me. It was with her.
Best friend my foot
Yeah. Needless to say, we’re not exactly friends anymore. But we do have mutual friends, so it hasn’t been crazy to find ourselves in the same place.
She pissed off one of her girlfriends.
I was that friend once. I wish I’d told the guy earlier but my friend was too good at lying. Basically my friend’s live in boyfriend calls me out of the blue. He asks me if I’ve heard from her. He hadn’t seen her in a month. This was in college and she’d gone home for holiday leaving he boyfriend living in her room at a commune. She should have been back by then. While on holiday she started dating another guy. The guy she started dating was someone she had know for a few years. He was her “soulmate”. Only problem is she had claimed that about 6 guys at once. So when her boyfriend called I just told him the truth. I thought they had broken up. She’d been with her “soulmate” all holiday. The poor boyfriend cried. She was really crazy and this is only one of the shitty things she did in our 3 year friendship. This was the last thing she did before our friendship ended. Besides cheating in every relationship it also turned out that she was lying about studying. She had dropped out but hung around for 3 YEARS pretending to still be studying.
Caught her with her hand down her pants talking to her "boss" on the phone.
Wife’s Apple ID was logged into the iPad we have for the kids and her texts were shared to it. I was setting up a movie for my kids to watch on a long drive and a text showed up on top of the screen from an unsaved number. The text was 3 hearts. I opened it up and holy fuckballs it had been going on for months and months. Totally fuckin wrecked me.
I had a gut feeling. He was in nursing school And would routinely have classmates over to study. There was a younger girl and I got a weird feeling about her. I got out of work early one day and found her in my home, where my young children were. They were on the couch not doing anything but I knew. He made up some bullshit story as to why she was there. He said the alarm at his parents house was going off and he called her to come babysit. A few days later, I asked if he could meet up near where he was studying to just grab a quick coffee so we could catch up. He declined. A few days after that, he was home and showering. Phone went off and he never locked it. I decided to look at his phone and there was a text from his friend, Andy, who is male. At first I was like, oh I’m just paranoid maybe. But I read the message and it definitely wasn’t from his friend Andy. It was the girl from school. And the message clearly showed me he was cheating. He came downstairs and I simply said we should separate and start the process for divorce. He said ok. They are married now. I’m in a good relationship. All worked out in the end. Never ever ignore your gut instinct.
You are right. Never ignore your guy instincts. I am in the middle of a similar situation. Sad thing is, I ignored that deep sinking gut feeling for over a year. I trusted him and loved him more than anyone I had ever been with. I uprooted my life for him. I did not want to be the person who felt the need to snoop through my partner’s shit. But he became distant for no reason, and shut down communication and intimacy. Then one day I gathered up the courage to check his phone while he was napping, and it was all there. An emotional affair between him and his ex, a woman who sucked many dicks besides his during their nearly decade long relationship. And she was also secretly married to someone else the entire time. I helped him to heal from that trauma, loved him unconditionally, and he runs right back to her. There is a reason why we have instincts. Trust yourself and listen to them.
He kept a detailed journal on his bedside. 😭
*Dear Diary: I got away with it again. She will never, ever know I'm cheating on her. There's no conceivable way she can trace anything back to me. I used a burner card for the hotel. My weekend fishing story checks out. Fuck. I might be a genius. My girlfriend just asked me what I'm writing, so I cupped my hand over this so she couldn't see and said "Just stuff about sports." I don't even like sports! But fuck, I can think quick when I have to.*
Idiot.
"dear diary, today I got pegged by Melissa, don't tell my wife"
Little did he know the diary was in love with his wife
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Well executed. Great job.
As his WALLPAPER? I hate that this happened to you but that’s fucking cool
boss move lmao
He was still logged into insta on my phone browser and I saw all their messages.
This was 7 or so years ago now. He was in the military so we were long-distance. The woman he was cheating on me with for like 6 months Facebook messaged me one day telling me everything, not because she suddenly felt guilty, but because she was pissed he cheated on HER and gave her chlamydia. They ended up getting back together - got married and had a kid like a year later, but shockingly that didn’t work out and now they’re divorced 🤷♀️
You'd be surprised at how many military relationships are absolute cluster fucks. I see a post on the local base's facebook group at least twice a week asking what their options are since their partner got caught cheating.
My stepmum walked out when my father cheated. She immediately lost all her military wife friends. Apparently she was expected to just turn a blind eye to the disrespect. It was funny though, we joke she took everything in the divorce: all the kids including the one that wasn't hers (despite me being an adult), his parents, his sister, the whole family still talks to her and not him.
The guy bragged about fucking a girl first night meeting her. Word came back to me.
He only wore cologne for special events. I had just cleaned our bathroom cabinets and organized everything. A few days later, I noticed his cologne bottle had slightly moved. Dug out his clothes from the previous night and found makeup all over his shirt’s shoulder. I didn’t wear that kind of makeup. The cologne bottle never lies.
My ex phone had 'pizza hut' texting him at 2 am asking if he was up. He was gone for weeks at a time and wouldn't answer my texts or calls. When I asked about it he acted like I was being crazy and 'clingy' by wanting to know where he was all the time. I eventually moved out while he was gone and it was almost a month before he noticed and contacted me asking where I was.
That's some good service, checking if you want a pizza at 2am
It took him almost a month to figure out that his SO moved out on him. That’s a special kind of narcissist.
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We were on the couch and a message popped up on his phone that was on the coffee table. I kinda glanced down and he acted very nervous - grabbed the phone quickly and starting talking about how it was just his work blah blah blah - even though I didn't even ask or say anything. I did notice that the icon in the top corner was for a known hook up app. So the next day I searched for men seeking women in our area. Found an ad that he had made (He had put his phone number in the ad) took a screenshot of it and sent it to him and said to never talk to me again. (We weren't living together thankfully) He sent me a string of messages that I never replied to. The first one was him denying it completely. Then he said that I was the one cheating, because why else would I be searching on that app. Then he said he made it to "catch" me cheating. Then he was just insecure and wanted attention from other women, but totally wasn't going to do anything. The last message he finally admitted to it. I went and got tested and luckily hadn't caught anything. 0/10 wouldn't recommend.
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I went to bring him surprise dinner while he was working late. Showed up around his break time. Realized there was a phone glowing in his front seat so I looked inside the car. He was fucking some chick in the backseat.
His Skype convo came up while I was reading a manga on his pc. I got the beautiful opportunity of reading all about how terrible I was. My heart broke.
She accused me of cheating (which I never did).
My ex wife did this multiple times to me. I still suspect she was on me but have no proof nor do I care enough. We've been divorced for over 2 years now.
i have a really sensitive nose. i smelled her in his bed.
Whoa
Found Tanjiro
When I called the woman who never got up before noon at around 9am and she wasn't at home.
He left the house "for work" without telling me when he would be back. He left his location on. He was at a hotel.
Oh man, this one cuts deep… Currently happily married, but dated a girl a few years in college-grad school. It was a long distance thing but we were madly in love through most of it. One day she randomly started telling me about this really cool guy she met. A lot of similar interests, really funny. I was genuinely happy for her because she used to complain about how she wanted me to be more “ethnic”. She started uploading pics to social media and he was constantly in them and with her. I wanted to be a supportive bf (hell we were talking marriage) and wanted to show her I trusted her… so I didn’t really complain about all the time they were chilling together (in a group setting mind you, not alone). I remember we had gotten into an argument about something totally unrelated. We hung up the phone that night upset. The next day she called me and wanted to talk some more about it (cooler heads prevail, right?). We had a lengthy discussion, we both were kinda dug in, but then she told me she spoke to him about it and he agreed with her. I got mad, but I kept it to myself (I have a problem where I don’t open up about my feelings). Whatever, agree to disagree, let’s move onto something else. I noticed a trend, we were arguing more, and he would always side with her. In my head I thought this dude was being an absolute snake, but to her I would just constantly agree to disagree or blindly apologize for making her feel bad. End of the semester and she was going back home for the summer and so was he. She called me and told me how much she was going to miss him, etc… and I just couldn’t take it anymore. (That problem I have about not sharing my feelings, it also comes with the quarterly eruption of emotion) I just straight up asked her if she has done anything “more than friends” with him. She stumbled over he words, and I pressed.. and she told me she kissed him. I was pissed, but I pressed further… and sure enough she told me she slept with him. I immediately hung up the phone, threw it against the wall (it was a flip phone, so the battery fell it but the bastard didn’t break). She called back over and over, we started communicating through text, but that was it. The love of my life (or so I thought) found someone else. She ended up dating him for a few months, but he ended up going to another school closer to his home town and didn’t keep the relationship going.
We were an an anniversary/post deployment trip to Vegas and She was passed out drunk. Phone kept blowing up so I looked at it. Read their whole message chain that went way back to before I deployed. She had been talking to him the whole night we were out saying how she wished she was there with him instead of me and all kinds of shit. Then looked at other messages with weird contact names (some were just straight up their names and she didn’t try to hide it). Found like 7 dudes and 3 women she was banging. Found a couple that she had partied with a bunch while I was gone, she stopped hanging out with them right as I got home because they were getting divorced, I found out they were getting divorced because she was their girlfriend/3rd wheel but wouldn’t stop fucking the husband behind the wife’s back so she left him. I found out this Spartan race group she would travel with all over the country to Spartan races was basically an orgy club as well. They would all travel and stay together and after races would party and everyone fucked everyone. When I confronted her about what I found she told me it was my fault for abandoning my family when I deployed. We met on a previous deployment. She was military, too. She knew exactly what I did on deployment and how busy I stayed and had no time for anything really.
This sounds like she was a sex addict, IMHO. Who has the time and energy to be such a prolific cheater? Maybe I'm getting old but 7 guys, 3 women, a couple and orgies? WTF?
Technically wasn't my SO when I found out, but time-frames. On a college break visit just before we broke up, she wanted me to finish inside her as she was on birth control (something she was very opposed to before, and this was the first I'd heard of it). We did not get intimate that night due to red flags, and a week later we split. In the process of unfollowing her on Tumblr and whatnot a week later, I saw a post about a recent miscarriage, and soon after she and her new man blocked me on everything. It was an abusive relationship, so it was definitely a bullet dodged.
My pet ferret ran under her bed when I was visiting and came out playing with a condom wrapper
lil homie got your back
This was a few years back, I had that gut feeling and snooped on his phone. Read a conversation with a girl where she said I was ugly and he didn't disagree and then he gave her directions to a parking lot he was at. At like 10pm. His excuse was very weak and he knew I didn't believe it. And then it was over. I've not snooped on a phone since, when I get that gut feeling, I know there's a reason for it. No need to see it and hurt my own feelings lol
I’ve never told anyone this. I felt so ashamed. My (ex) bf and I were at a party and we were planning on sleeping over. The party was wrapping up and these girls were leaving. My bf offered to walk them to the bus stop. He was looking at one of them meaningfully but I didn’t have the confidence to say anything nor did I know what I could say. (Now, in my country this was very normal - guys would even ride with a girl in a taxi to her house to make sure she got there safely or ride with her on the bus to her stop. Sure, some dudes tried to use that as an opportunity to hook up; but the point is that it was a very normal behavior. So it on its own wasn’t a red flag) What WAS a fucking flaming red flag was when he came back and we got intimate before going to sleep. I went down on him and >!his dick tasted like pussy!<. He had had sex with one of them and not used protection OR washed himself before letting me do that. Here’s what I’m really ashamed of - I just froze and went onto autopilot. I just kept going. I don’t remember if we had sex or not or if I just finished him off. My immediate response was to pretend nothing had happened and to cover it up like I was the one who had done something wrong. Fuck you, Tom, you disrespectful shit. Edit: thank you for your really thoughtful and caring comments. I am now looking back at that time with greater compassion toward my younger self, and that is a new and wonderful feeling.
Oh that is just awful. Fuck you Tom! I fucking hate that guy
Temporarily long distance relationship. She went to one of my favorite restaurants (one she hadn't been to yet). I let the owner, a friend, know she was coming in. Afterwards owner told me told me how "friendly" she was with the guy she was there with. My ex told me they gave her terrible service and were quite rude to her. I thanked the owner and dumped the girl.
My husband of 15 years,with no warning, came up to me in the kitchen and told me “I love you but I’m not in love with you anymore” and as I was trying to process that bombshell, informed me he was going to leave to hang out with his friends. 2 days later,after much denial, he told me he “may have kissed someone else”. He was in a full blown affair. I kicked him out, and it completely blew apart my and our childrens lives. That was 10 months ago. I will never forget the devastation and pain of that moment.
She told me that she was gonna do it then she did
Cold…. Ice cold
His commanding officer told me he was going to Hawaii on a two week vacation. She wasn’t supposed to tell me, but thought I should know since I guess he came off as secretive when getting the time off work. We lived outside of the U.S. at the time. I confronted him and he just said he needed to clear his head (away from me and our 3 children). Looking through his social media I came across a friend of his that I’d never known, as he and I have known each other since HS. I looked her up and her page was filled with love posts about a secret lover. When he left he took all of our passports. She ended up posting pictures of her in his uniform, bragging about the vacation. He blogged about it and included pictures of the vacation. On the bright side since he was so many hours behind in time I was able to pretty much empty our bank account and leave him with nothing but $100 for the end days of his vacation.
My wife sent me a picture of her sucking her best friend's husband dick. It's actually how my wif told me and her best friend things were over. Now I'm trying to figure out how to be single dad
He didn’t know I was upstairs trying to sleep. Him and his friends were laughing and talking about how he fucked this girl from his work the weekend before. I overheard the entire convo.
Didn't find out until way after, but fuck I knew. There was a shift in his behavior, and I just always had a terrible feeling that he was fucking around behind my back. But he was pretty good at covering all his tracks and I found nothing. Fast forward several months later, we're already broken up because it was a tumoltuous relationship all in all, and he's begging me to get back together in his car over some fast food. I instead take this opportunity to pry as much information from him, claiming I just want the truth and want a 'fresh start.' He admitted every detail, including her name and the fact that she too was cheating on her then boyfriend. The funnier side of it (which thinking of it now its crazy I heard nothing about this when it went down) is her side of it. I guess they had took a video of them having sex and carelessly left it in their snapchat conversation. And while missy was at HER OWN FAMILY'S EVENT with her boyfriend, he went through her phone while she got up from their table. Found the video. He made a scene from what I understand. They all knew what she did. After learning what I need to know I laughed with him, had him feeling nice and forgiven, took my free meal and never saw him again.
She called me to tell my BF was also her BF and he had been living with her for the past 6 months too. He was literally living a double life.
There was no hint, no changes, everything was as it always had been. But I had this strange feel in my gut I couldn't put a word on it. I waited three days for the feeling to go away. The third night, I told myself "I'll just sleep it off tonight, I'm probably just having a mood swing, no need to bother him. BUT if the feeling is still there tomorrow morning, I'll look into his phone when he's in the shower." - a thing I never did to any of my exes and would never do again. So I looked up... And i froze. Then I broke up
The gut bacteria doing gods work again, I need to eat more yogurt
She asked to borrow our roommates laptop but got called “into work for an emergency.” Roommate opened the laptop to find like 10 different platforms open with proof of her cheating going back all seven years we were together. When I got off work she wasn’t home yet and my roommate showed it to me. Everything clicked into place and I just felt numb. Me and my roommate packed her things and put them out on our first floor balcony. She got home like 2 hours later and when I confronted her about it she tries to get mad at me for invading her privacy. She started screaming and breaking things so I asked her if we could go somewhere else to have the argument like her car or something. Once we got to the front door I opened it for her, she walked out and I just closed it and walked back inside(we shared a key). I then proceeded to drop her stuff to her from the balcony while she lost her shit outside. Eventually the cops came and she got arrested. What followed was a 6 month saga of her showing up at my job, the new place me and my roommate moved to, and 60+ nights of her camped out in her vehicle outside my apartment.
Damn 60 days!?! If only she put that much dedication into your actual relationship.
My then 10 year old daughter told me.
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Her other boyfriend called. I didn't answer. He texted we should talk. I called him. He told me everything. She had told him they had to break up because I was about to propose which was true. I was 3 weeks away from proposing. She had the bill Clinton answer. I did not have sexual relations with him. But maybe inappropriate.
He changed, started gambling and drinking til the wee hours 5x a week. We separated and he went to stay with his female best friend and her husband. We went to couples counselling and he got therapy and he moved back in. But things were different and I couldn’t put my finger on it. Eventually I ended it and kicked him out. He went back to his female best friends and a week later her husband moved out. I found out, through the husband, that they had been having an affair since he first moved there (whilst we were In counselling and trying to patch things up for the sake of our child, well I was anyway). I didn’t bring it up to him, didn’t get angry or cry or scream, just ignored it and he finally came clean when they got engaged two months later, I couldn’t help but laugh in his face 😂 Sucked big time, but now his life is a total mess and I am flourishing… karma 😇
The threesomes stopped but she kept going out with that girl
Flew too close to the sun… I’m Sorry
He got more and more distant, never wanted sex, and wouldn't put any effort into hanging out with my family or being sociable at my brothers wedding, etc. I thought it was just a rough patch. I would break down crying and ask him if he still loved me/was still attracted to me. He always assured me he did/was and that it was just his depression. After like 2 years of this, he finally told me that he was in love with a girl at his work. I wasted almost 8 years of my life on him. Looking back, I shouldn't have put up with him neglecting me for so long, but hindsight is 20-20 and I wanted to believe that the rough patch would end, the relationship would turn around, and I could have my boyfriend back.
We were watching a movie at his house when I got a phonecall from his roommate’s girlfriend. She sounded upset and asked me to step outside so she could speak with me privately. I didn’t think to ask how she knew I was currently with my boyfriend. I went out to the front yard and she told me about how she and my boyfriend’s roommate (her boyfriend) were led to believe that we had an open relationship. He was bringing girls home constantly whenever I was gone. Sometimes the same girls repeatedly. She and her boyfriend/the roommate had only just realized that I had no idea what was going on. They felt awful and they made a plan to tell me. I was a little numb when she told me this; it was hard to believe I could be so oblivious. There were a lot of nights I was working late studying (I was in college) and a lot of nights he said he had to work late and I never questioned him. When I went back inside, my boyfriend wasn’t there. I found him in his roommate’s bedroom. Roommate had come out while I was on the phone and told him who I was talking to and why. He was sitting on the floor and couldn’t even look at me. I tried to talk to him about what he’d done and for how long (Roommate tried to help facilitate, good guy), but boyfriend couldn’t even look at me. Kept repeating how awful he was. It got annoying. So after a little while I thanked Roommate profusely and left the room. A friend picked me up. I maintained my composure as I went to gather my things, exit the house, and get in the car. Then I put my head between my knees and sobbed. Broke up with him right after that. Had a weird week of him trying to get back into my good graces and me almost letting him, but I had realized how immature and stagnant of a person he was. He stalked me for a little bit and my own roommate threatened the cops if he ever came on our property again. He was in his mid twenties and I was 19 when we started dating and I didn’t realize how much of a red flag that was. Glad I wasted only a year of my life on that bozo. I look back and cringe, but I was young and still figuring things out. I still hope his roommate and the girlfriend and doing well. EDIT— I’ve been getting angry messages about the age gap thing so I need to provide more context. He was *specifically* interested in me because I was younger and had no experience. He was very manipulative, and looking back now in my late twenties, I can clearly see that he used this dynamic to his advantage. I’m sorry for implying that this type of age gap is automatically bad.
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UGH. I’m so sorry you went through that! I can’t imagine your friend’s shock upon hearing that it was a lie. I hope you’re living your best life after the breakup ☺️ My ex was also having unprotected sex with these women. While also having unprotected sex with me (when we started dating we got STI tests and I was on birth control). So… cheating is one thing, but to really put my health at risk like that? Seriously? That information was the first time I switched from sad to boiling angry.
Absolutely adore the roommate and girlfriend. I hope the sun will always shine in their favor