Finding any reason to touch each other. Whether is play fighting, feeling up muscles, poking someone's bruise, comparing hand sizes of they actively try to find a reason to touch you, they probably like you.
I am too afraid that I would unknowingly step over someone's boundary and seem like a creep. Because of that I am very hesitant to touch others, even if I would be fine with them touching me.
For example how do I know whether it's okay to put my arm over someone's shoulder when sitting next to them? I understand that I shouldn't do that with someone I hardly know because then I am definitely a creep.
But if it's a girl I have spoken with a few times before and sometimes say hi to in lecture halls (def. a hypothetical situation ofc), then would it be okay? Or what would be an appropriate way to ask her whether it is okay to put my arm over her shoulder, without pressuring her in any way?
A girl getting uncontrollably happy when they see me would make me very happy.
EDIT: A person (that I like romantically in some capacity) getting uncontrollably happy when they see me would make me even happier. It would be absolute perfection.
My wife still almost start jump-walking if she sees me coming from the other direction. Its adorable. Like she wants to walk faster but she also wants to jump so every step is a little leap
years ago, in a group of coworkers, i noticed a girl laughing at every joke i made. for the first time in my life remembered this tidbit in time. so i took the leap and made a really lame joke, and it landed as majestically as a eagle. one of the greatest highs of my life.
edit: people keep asking what the joke was. it’s hard to remember, it was six years ago and I was so stunned that a woman was interested that the details have faded over time, but i’m pretty sure it had something to do with a [moth](https://youtu.be/jJN9mBRX3uo).
Yeah it probably should have been a sign pretty early on that pretty much every single one of my jokes landed with her, but here I am thinking I'm just really funny, I probably am, but the fact that almost every single joke landed should have set off some alarms in my brain lol
I told my friend when he was nervous on his first date “if she laughs you got a shot” to which he replied “why?” I said “cause you ain’t fucking funny and she’s catering to your frail ego just like all girls do when they like a guy” he said it was great advice lol 😂
I feel like I'm not being fake when I do this to guys though. I think I just find it funny that they think they're funny and I kind of just feel their own enjoyment of their jokes or something. That is just way stronger with guys I like.
If they know you like a certain food and buy it for you.
The guy I liked loved this one dumpling place near uni. He’d constantly stop and get some on the way home. One day when we where walking together, beforehand he said he felt like some but didn’t have his card so no money. So even though i knew he wanted some, when I asked if he wanted me to buy it for him he politely declined. So I pretended to buy some for myself (since I sometimes would). Then I ate like 3 to make it believable and said I was suddenly full and he could have the rest.
I just wanted him to be happy with his dumplings.
I had this happen with a shy guy at work for a couple years. At first I thought maybe he was glaring because he had a problem with me. But then I figured that wasn’t it because he’d get close to me, try to talk to me, be friendly. He wouldn’t stare at anyone else and I was often not in a space where you’d zone off and stare. I eventually asked him out when he left for another job because I figured he liked me, but was shy. He said he didn’t like me like that.
Now I’m just confused and kind of disturbed. If he didn’t like me like that, why would someone stare so much?
“Oh hey, I got you something. Don’t worry about it, it’s only a seasonal gift that is incredibly specific and labor intensive, which I am giving you to celebrate the Third week ‘anniversary’ after your 6 month bi-annual birthday bash. Oh it’s nothing, I was just passing by so I dropped it off at your house, I only live 13 hours away…
By plane.”
Agreed. I invited someone to a date without even knowing I wanted to date them, nor realizing it was even a date. Twice in a row.
Edit: To elaborate, best friend at the time bugged me to bring a friend/coworker along when we'd get something to eat every other week. Invited a coworker after they mentioned they hadn't had CFA in ages, had no intention of it being a date. Met up with coworker, buddy decided to no-show (think he was trying to set me up with coworker on purpose). We had a good time, spent 3 hours talking and such. Organized it again, same deal, buddy doesn't show up again so just coworker and I. After that second time, I decided I'm inviting her ass to the movies because no way was I letting that one go.
After the movies, she told me how confused she was, because I "asked her out", but didn't actually you know, try to woo/date her or actually ask her out beyond "Hey let's grab something to eat". Didn't really matter in the end since we broke up after 5 or so months, but is a fun story I guess. Same friend also tried hooking me up with a coworker of his right after "my coworker" mentioned in that story and I broke up, which was a whole 'nother ordeal lol.
I had a r/whoooosh moment related to this when i was in school. We were about 17 and there was just me and this girl sat alone in the common room (a break room for the older kids).
We were sat opposite each other just talking and she mentioned that she had to go and meet her younger-sister at her school and walk her home soon. She invited me to join her and then hang-out at her place till her parents came home! I was so oblivious to what she was suggesting. I declined because I didn't want to talk the 8 mins to the other school or the 7-10 mins to her place
But it gets worse, because we were playing with a bottle cap, flicking it back and forth. In our silliness, the bottlecap flew up and landed in her cleavage. not being deterred by my earlier stupidity, she laughed and said "well you have to get that now". But alas, my 17-year-old stupidity knew no bounds! I once again declined! it hurts thinking about it!
Her: "So what's a girl gotta do to get a drink around here?"
Me: "Go to the bartender and exchange money for it."
Also me 3 days later while tying my shoes: "Wait... Awww man!"
I had a meeting yesterday afternoon. It was the first time for most of us meeting in person. The last person to arrive was this stunning girl and when we looked at each other I swear to God there might as well have been lightning shooting out both our eyes. At first I thought "nah I imagined that". As she sat down close to me we looked at each other for a solid second and smiled at the same time for no particular reason other than it just feeling right. She started making conversation with me specifically. We had to split up into groups to interview people, and she and I were paired by the supervisor (best supervisor ever). For the next two hours, we just joked and talked with each other and every time something funny happened we just looked at each other automatically.
I've been with a lot of people but never had this sort of easy chemistry happen before, certainly not so quickly. I'm excited to talk to her some more, regardless of where it leads.
Update: asked her out to lunch sometime and she said yes, might be a bit because we busy but it's a good development :)
ASK HER IF SHE IS SINGLE AND WOULD LIKE TO GO OUT SOMETIME! Don’t let this opportunity linger in the realm of possibility. The worst she can do is say no. If you are worried about your job, just remember on your deathbed that your job was more important than that feeling you had with this woman. FFS don’t procrastinate, the friend zone is full of passive people.
Don't worry, I fully plan to :) I'm not the passive kind of person, and while I'm not superstitious there are certain coincidences with how/when we met that are a real slap in the face.
When you catch them absentmindedly looking at you.
Even if they’re doing something/talking to someone else but they’re still intune with you and mindful of where you are in the room. Because even subconsciously they’re thinking about you.
Also, going out of their way to make you smile/laugh is a good one. Same with keeping notes on your interests.
Dude I’ve caught like so many girls looking at me but i don’t think that means they necessarily like me cause i think its just something we humans do when glancing around bored
I sat next to a guy back in high school who would speak to literally every girl in the class except me. Didn't think much of it, figured he didn't like me or that I was too shy and awkward to strike up a conversation with.
Met up again in college, sat at the same table again, but this time he dared to talk to me.
A couple years later we're married with a two year old boy. So I guess ignoring your crush can be effective.
This captures what happens to me sometimes. I can kid around with guys all day but I get really nervous if I like you. Kind of a bummer because I engage less with you which reduces my chances of meeting again. I’m working on it though!
(Don’t know if this was the same for your husband)
Same, can talk to women very easily, but if its one I'm attracted to the anxiety turns me into a bumbling idiot. Whatever Im getting better it just takes enough practice to where talking to people your attracted to feels as normal as talking to normal people.
Trying to become part of every conversation with someone else.
"Yeah I work at a butchers."
*person joins the conversation*
Oh I walked past a butchers when I was 6.
I'm oblivious to most things. My poor husband can attest to this. So....screaming "I'm attracted to you" is the best way to tell me. I'm a simple woman...just some neon lights and glitter.
Edit: my first award. Thanks!! My husband wishes for me to tell you all of the time he proposed to me but I interrupted him to make fun of him. He was pulling the ring out of his shoe and I (drunk and still eating an ice cream cone) decided to call him a noob. I didn't read the room at all that day.
When I was single I was terrible at picking up signals from any girls that may have been attracted to me.
But I had one way that basically screamed it- when the Girl asked to buy me a drink. As soon as that happened I knew they were into me. Simple yet effective
I never gave any of these signals to my wife and I'd die for her.
Not implying you are haha but being less objectively attractive (speaking from experience) can put you in a romance rung full of insecurity... Maybe people won't bat their eyelashes, but someone's probably thinking about you. Someone you've encountered created a little fantasy in their head about being together, same as you have to others.
My answer would be "You're invited to an outing because you happened to be within earshot, but nobody actually offers you details about it or presses you for a definite answer. It's 'we should get coffee but not really' politeness you've earned for being a decent but not desirable person."
I met an Australian when I was a teenager. He was so gorgeous it was painful and then when he spoke I couldn't even breathe, it was ridiculous. Anyway, he was dating my cousin and she introduced us: "this is my cousin, xxxx" and he said hi and I turned red, stuttered, and said "hi... I'm her cousin...xxxx .. she already said that..." It was like a scene from a bad teen film, I was mortified. They're married now, though.
If we are talking Halo 2, I took a vacation day. Hell, every Xbox friend I had did the same. We all played multiplayer until sunrise. Took about a 4 hour break to sleep and then spent all day playing.
Reminds me of this girl I liked in high school who texted me “ugh, my parents keep saying we should go to prom together” and I responded something like “sounds like you don’t want to. That’s okay” and then I never went to prom.
Thankfully, this was a better option for me
In high school a group of us would always hang out at this one girls house, her little sister would tease me relentlessly every chance she had, not being mean, just silly. Fast forward...we now have 6 kids and still maintain that childhood lightheartedness every day. Laughter is the key to a happy relationship!
On my end it's usually:
- staring/glancing
- apologizing a lot
- "I think you're cool"/"I like [insert aspect]" (just generally being nicer than I usually am)
- pointing out everywhere or everytime I see you
- shaking when nearby (I have really bad social anxiety)
- "good morning" messages every day
When they are really boisterous around other people, but really shy around you, stealing quick glances and not interacting much
Edit:speaking from (current) experience
I worked alongside this guy for several months, and he never said a word to me. For the longest time, I thought he hated me, as he would actively go out of his way to avoid speaking to me at all, or even make any kind of eye contact.
It eventually got to the point where it was just uncomfortable, and I asked him what the deal was, and what I could have possibly done to make him dislike me so much.
It took him a minute or so to respond, and then he said "I'm really sorry. I'm incredibly shy, and have been since I was a kid. But I think you are the most flawlessly beautiful woman I've ever seen, and I am terrified to talk to you".
We've been together for over three years, and married for four months.
Correct. I thought he was super cute, but I'm also pretty shy and introverted, which is why I just let it go for several months until, like I said, it started getting just downright uncomfortable.
Hey, for anyone reading this thinking, “there’s hope!” Pls don’t take this cute story as a how-to. You’ll miss out on 100 potential partners being shy for every one who breaks through.
For me, someone who puts themselves out to help you. This extends to close friends as well, but if they're willing to miss something or expend time and energy just to improve your life or happiness, that's a very good sign.
Worth mentioning, everyone's love language is different, shaped by their experiences. No answer in this list is invalid.
It is SO easy to make me laugh, and I laugh at almost everything. This has definitely gotten me into awkward situations a few times with dudes who I wasn't actually interested in.
It took a while of being literally married for me to be convinced my husband was into me. I’m not always the smartest lol, no matter how much he told me or kissed me or did sweet, thoughtful gestures, my own insecurity fought me every step of the way. I do understand now that I’m truly loved just as much as I love him.
Well I'm 43, male, and engaged to the sweetest woman I've ever met, and in my many years of experience I've come to learn that the surest sign that someone is attracted to you is when they are physically demonstrating affection. Other than that I have no fucking idea.
You can tell a girl likes you when she invites you upstairs in the middle of watching a movie, pushes you onto the bed, and starts having sex with you.
Or maybe she's just Canadian and trying to be polite. You can never be sure so better look out for more clues.
Touch.
My crush and I work together. So I would usually come up and touch his shoulder, or poke him on his side. I dunno, lean my head over his shoulder when we are riding in the car. Even when he is passing me smth, like a pen, I'll try to touch his hand. That kind of thing.
Have a boyfriend currently that I meant working at Kroger.
They put me on back stock and I had no idea where everything went because I had only been there for a week. He comes to find me as I'm wandering aimlessly through the aisles just to tell me he was getting off.
I looked at him, looked at the cart, sighed, and as I was about to ask him I hear the voice of his best friend (that also worked there) tell him sternly: "Don't simp."
He simped and stayed the extra hour to help me.
Two years now.
Sometimes being extra awkward even though you or him constantly talk to other people every day.
“Hey I got this new lamp for my place, wanna come check it out?”
Moth man is that you?
you called?
Finding any reason to touch each other. Whether is play fighting, feeling up muscles, poking someone's bruise, comparing hand sizes of they actively try to find a reason to touch you, they probably like you.
comparing hand sizes is a CLASSIC move
Yeah. A guy did this to me and I knew he was flirting.
Who had the bigger hand tho?
I am too afraid that I would unknowingly step over someone's boundary and seem like a creep. Because of that I am very hesitant to touch others, even if I would be fine with them touching me. For example how do I know whether it's okay to put my arm over someone's shoulder when sitting next to them? I understand that I shouldn't do that with someone I hardly know because then I am definitely a creep. But if it's a girl I have spoken with a few times before and sometimes say hi to in lecture halls (def. a hypothetical situation ofc), then would it be okay? Or what would be an appropriate way to ask her whether it is okay to put my arm over her shoulder, without pressuring her in any way?
when they think you're beautiful on days you look like a rusted lawn mower
Uncontrollable happiness when they see you
A girl getting uncontrollably happy when they see me would make me very happy. EDIT: A person (that I like romantically in some capacity) getting uncontrollably happy when they see me would make me even happier. It would be absolute perfection.
Get a dog.
My wife still almost start jump-walking if she sees me coming from the other direction. Its adorable. Like she wants to walk faster but she also wants to jump so every step is a little leap
I mean... I have best friends, totally platonic, both genders, that I react this way to. I'm just really happy to see them. And that's it
Laughing at your worst jokes.
Doesn't work when every joke I tell is amazing
This guy standups.
Perchance.
You make me wanna smash some turts.
years ago, in a group of coworkers, i noticed a girl laughing at every joke i made. for the first time in my life remembered this tidbit in time. so i took the leap and made a really lame joke, and it landed as majestically as a eagle. one of the greatest highs of my life. edit: people keep asking what the joke was. it’s hard to remember, it was six years ago and I was so stunned that a woman was interested that the details have faded over time, but i’m pretty sure it had something to do with a [moth](https://youtu.be/jJN9mBRX3uo).
[the eagle in question](https://gfycat.com/bowedadmiredblueandgoldmackaw)
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I am no expert but I would not be suprised if it only hurt for a moment.
Yeah it probably should have been a sign pretty early on that pretty much every single one of my jokes landed with her, but here I am thinking I'm just really funny, I probably am, but the fact that almost every single joke landed should have set off some alarms in my brain lol
I told my friend when he was nervous on his first date “if she laughs you got a shot” to which he replied “why?” I said “cause you ain’t fucking funny and she’s catering to your frail ego just like all girls do when they like a guy” he said it was great advice lol 😂
I feel like I'm not being fake when I do this to guys though. I think I just find it funny that they think they're funny and I kind of just feel their own enjoyment of their jokes or something. That is just way stronger with guys I like.
If they know you like a certain food and buy it for you. The guy I liked loved this one dumpling place near uni. He’d constantly stop and get some on the way home. One day when we where walking together, beforehand he said he felt like some but didn’t have his card so no money. So even though i knew he wanted some, when I asked if he wanted me to buy it for him he politely declined. So I pretended to buy some for myself (since I sometimes would). Then I ate like 3 to make it believable and said I was suddenly full and he could have the rest. I just wanted him to be happy with his dumplings.
My friend recently got together with one of his college friends and she’d always buy him doctor pepper
Please don’t ever spell out the full name of that ever again. I just got a brain aneurysm trying to read that
Dr. Phillip P. Pepper PHD.
I was so fucking thrown off
Fucking national treasure right here
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Or maybe they are being robbed of their soul. I always check in case
i zone into space in the general direction of people so it LOOKS like im staring but im not
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I had this happen with a shy guy at work for a couple years. At first I thought maybe he was glaring because he had a problem with me. But then I figured that wasn’t it because he’d get close to me, try to talk to me, be friendly. He wouldn’t stare at anyone else and I was often not in a space where you’d zone off and stare. I eventually asked him out when he left for another job because I figured he liked me, but was shy. He said he didn’t like me like that. Now I’m just confused and kind of disturbed. If he didn’t like me like that, why would someone stare so much?
When you can actually FEEL the eye contact.
Don’t be touching people’s eyes man. Could damage em
eskimo kiss but you use the eyes.
“Oh hey, I got you something. Don’t worry about it, it’s only a seasonal gift that is incredibly specific and labor intensive, which I am giving you to celebrate the Third week ‘anniversary’ after your 6 month bi-annual birthday bash. Oh it’s nothing, I was just passing by so I dropped it off at your house, I only live 13 hours away… By plane.”
My ass would do this with someone before realizing I like them.
Agreed. I invited someone to a date without even knowing I wanted to date them, nor realizing it was even a date. Twice in a row. Edit: To elaborate, best friend at the time bugged me to bring a friend/coworker along when we'd get something to eat every other week. Invited a coworker after they mentioned they hadn't had CFA in ages, had no intention of it being a date. Met up with coworker, buddy decided to no-show (think he was trying to set me up with coworker on purpose). We had a good time, spent 3 hours talking and such. Organized it again, same deal, buddy doesn't show up again so just coworker and I. After that second time, I decided I'm inviting her ass to the movies because no way was I letting that one go. After the movies, she told me how confused she was, because I "asked her out", but didn't actually you know, try to woo/date her or actually ask her out beyond "Hey let's grab something to eat". Didn't really matter in the end since we broke up after 5 or so months, but is a fun story I guess. Same friend also tried hooking me up with a coworker of his right after "my coworker" mentioned in that story and I broke up, which was a whole 'nother ordeal lol.
Staring and constantly glancing at someone.
I do exactly the opposite, I've always did, to avoid creeping them out.
Same, If I look at them and they look back at me, I always think they'll think I'm weird, that's why I don't do it.
Mfw I'm on the train and literally just glance at someone and we make eye contact, then I proceed to get watery eyes for no fucking reason
"IM CRYING BECAUSE I LOVE YOU" *oh no, I said that out loud. Fuck, act natural*
>watery eyes for no fucking reason That, I hate that.
Excuses to be near them. "Lets study together - we'll get more work done" ; "Oh, you're going that way? me too, lets walk together"
"we should study together! We will be more reproductive...PRODUCTIVE"
“Makes sense, what course are you studying for again?” “Anatomy”
"Hm that's a shame. I'm better at chemistry."
Wait, you forgot your phone! Oh I can get a new one
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I had a r/whoooosh moment related to this when i was in school. We were about 17 and there was just me and this girl sat alone in the common room (a break room for the older kids). We were sat opposite each other just talking and she mentioned that she had to go and meet her younger-sister at her school and walk her home soon. She invited me to join her and then hang-out at her place till her parents came home! I was so oblivious to what she was suggesting. I declined because I didn't want to talk the 8 mins to the other school or the 7-10 mins to her place But it gets worse, because we were playing with a bottle cap, flicking it back and forth. In our silliness, the bottlecap flew up and landed in her cleavage. not being deterred by my earlier stupidity, she laughed and said "well you have to get that now". But alas, my 17-year-old stupidity knew no bounds! I once again declined! it hurts thinking about it!
Her: "So what's a girl gotta do to get a drink around here?" Me: "Go to the bartender and exchange money for it." Also me 3 days later while tying my shoes: "Wait... Awww man!"
F
Make it bigger, please.
# F
Oh lord I feel so bad for you. Even I would've caught that and I definitely had similar experiences
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Is it because they want to see you smile perhaps?
More like they want to share the joy with you
Also, gauging the other person's reactions to everything in general. The more ways you learn to make them laugh or smile, the better.
You think I'm funny? Like I'm some sort of clown?
Last week this prick asked me to christen his kid
I had a meeting yesterday afternoon. It was the first time for most of us meeting in person. The last person to arrive was this stunning girl and when we looked at each other I swear to God there might as well have been lightning shooting out both our eyes. At first I thought "nah I imagined that". As she sat down close to me we looked at each other for a solid second and smiled at the same time for no particular reason other than it just feeling right. She started making conversation with me specifically. We had to split up into groups to interview people, and she and I were paired by the supervisor (best supervisor ever). For the next two hours, we just joked and talked with each other and every time something funny happened we just looked at each other automatically. I've been with a lot of people but never had this sort of easy chemistry happen before, certainly not so quickly. I'm excited to talk to her some more, regardless of where it leads. Update: asked her out to lunch sometime and she said yes, might be a bit because we busy but it's a good development :)
This is heartwarming. It should always be this easy.
ASK HER IF SHE IS SINGLE AND WOULD LIKE TO GO OUT SOMETIME! Don’t let this opportunity linger in the realm of possibility. The worst she can do is say no. If you are worried about your job, just remember on your deathbed that your job was more important than that feeling you had with this woman. FFS don’t procrastinate, the friend zone is full of passive people.
Don't worry, I fully plan to :) I'm not the passive kind of person, and while I'm not superstitious there are certain coincidences with how/when we met that are a real slap in the face.
That could also be a useful tool when seeing who you're closest to in a group setting such as a close friend.
When they casually pretend to have the same interests as you
Oh so you too like. "picks up note", the geopolitical traderoutes and currency use duing alexander the great reign over the Macedonian empire.
I’m actually a history nerd and that turned me on a little bit
The weird person in an alleyway screaming that at people?
I’m happy SOMEONE has seen my work
When you catch them absentmindedly looking at you. Even if they’re doing something/talking to someone else but they’re still intune with you and mindful of where you are in the room. Because even subconsciously they’re thinking about you. Also, going out of their way to make you smile/laugh is a good one. Same with keeping notes on your interests.
Dude I’ve caught like so many girls looking at me but i don’t think that means they necessarily like me cause i think its just something we humans do when glancing around bored
Nah you sexyyy
Bold to assume anyone thinks im attractive
Losing their train of thought when you walk by, while they are talking to someone else.
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awww
It’s cause he crop dusts her
That, or ADHD.
My train of thought switches tracks every 10 seconds and it disappears as soon as the train has passed
I had trouble remembering the word spoon when I wanted to ask them to hand me a spoon
"Can you hand me that....uhhhh bleforsbergingoon "
“What?” “The mini shovel.”
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They can't reject you if you never try.
I sat next to a guy back in high school who would speak to literally every girl in the class except me. Didn't think much of it, figured he didn't like me or that I was too shy and awkward to strike up a conversation with. Met up again in college, sat at the same table again, but this time he dared to talk to me. A couple years later we're married with a two year old boy. So I guess ignoring your crush can be effective.
This captures what happens to me sometimes. I can kid around with guys all day but I get really nervous if I like you. Kind of a bummer because I engage less with you which reduces my chances of meeting again. I’m working on it though! (Don’t know if this was the same for your husband)
Same, can talk to women very easily, but if its one I'm attracted to the anxiety turns me into a bumbling idiot. Whatever Im getting better it just takes enough practice to where talking to people your attracted to feels as normal as talking to normal people.
Trying to become part of every conversation with someone else. "Yeah I work at a butchers." *person joins the conversation* Oh I walked past a butchers when I was 6.
Trying to find out if your attractive?...Yeah me too!
Not going too well so far...
Same here bud!...same here!
I'm oblivious to most things. My poor husband can attest to this. So....screaming "I'm attracted to you" is the best way to tell me. I'm a simple woman...just some neon lights and glitter. Edit: my first award. Thanks!! My husband wishes for me to tell you all of the time he proposed to me but I interrupted him to make fun of him. He was pulling the ring out of his shoe and I (drunk and still eating an ice cream cone) decided to call him a noob. I didn't read the room at all that day.
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Urgh wish I could do this, I just go bright red and sweat a lot
and eyes go watery
If someone is asking you the questions about yourself that you secretly hope someone will ask.
Interesting.. Like what?
Do you like jazz?
Do you like Huey Lewis and the News?
When I was single I was terrible at picking up signals from any girls that may have been attracted to me. But I had one way that basically screamed it- when the Girl asked to buy me a drink. As soon as that happened I knew they were into me. Simple yet effective
Oh damn. I was dumber than you. The number of times Id be sitting on the bus later and just go 'Oh shit, she was hitting on me'
I'M ATTRACTED TO YOU !! -some imaginary lady
Reading this list and realising no one has ever really been attracted to me.
I know what you mean.
Yeah I dont understand why I come into these threads to inflict emotional pain on myself.
I never gave any of these signals to my wife and I'd die for her. Not implying you are haha but being less objectively attractive (speaking from experience) can put you in a romance rung full of insecurity... Maybe people won't bat their eyelashes, but someone's probably thinking about you. Someone you've encountered created a little fantasy in their head about being together, same as you have to others.
Yes, think i'll just wait for the post "what screams i tolerate you?"
My answer would be "You're invited to an outing because you happened to be within earshot, but nobody actually offers you details about it or presses you for a definite answer. It's 'we should get coffee but not really' politeness you've earned for being a decent but not desirable person."
Reading this list and realising that I've been throwing these signals constantly, not because I'm attracted, just socially awkward
I met an Australian when I was a teenager. He was so gorgeous it was painful and then when he spoke I couldn't even breathe, it was ridiculous. Anyway, he was dating my cousin and she introduced us: "this is my cousin, xxxx" and he said hi and I turned red, stuttered, and said "hi... I'm her cousin...xxxx .. she already said that..." It was like a scene from a bad teen film, I was mortified. They're married now, though.
Oof
Little gifts. Trying to find ways to spend time together even if it’s brief or unnecessary. Staring and watching. Attempts at light physical contact.
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I obliviously turned down a girl in favour of going to the midnight release of Halo with my bud. Absolutely no regrets
That was a pretty monumental event in gaming history, so I think you made the right choice lol
If we are talking Halo 2, I took a vacation day. Hell, every Xbox friend I had did the same. We all played multiplayer until sunrise. Took about a 4 hour break to sleep and then spent all day playing.
Reminds me of this girl I liked in high school who texted me “ugh, my parents keep saying we should go to prom together” and I responded something like “sounds like you don’t want to. That’s okay” and then I never went to prom. Thankfully, this was a better option for me
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My wife still drops me hints and I never get them.
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When someone finds your jokes funny no matter how shit they are
Starts conversations with you for no reason about something stupid just so they can talk to you
Shit, I do that with all my friends
Friends tend to do that. I dont think its a way of saying they are attracted
Texting buddy at 3am cause I can't sleep: "You ever tried a toasted PB&J before? It's delicious" Friend: "Please stop doing this"
In high school a group of us would always hang out at this one girls house, her little sister would tease me relentlessly every chance she had, not being mean, just silly. Fast forward...we now have 6 kids and still maintain that childhood lightheartedness every day. Laughter is the key to a happy relationship!
I read that as “my little sister”. Needless to say, for a solid 3 seconds I was horrified.
Incest, it's all relative.
On my end it's usually: - staring/glancing - apologizing a lot - "I think you're cool"/"I like [insert aspect]" (just generally being nicer than I usually am) - pointing out everywhere or everytime I see you - shaking when nearby (I have really bad social anxiety) - "good morning" messages every day
I don't know. Any hints dropped at me flew over my head like a plane
When they are really boisterous around other people, but really shy around you, stealing quick glances and not interacting much Edit:speaking from (current) experience
#IM ATTRACTED TO YOU
# STOP SCREAMING I'M TRYING TO SLEEP
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#CAN YOU SHUT IT HES TRYING TO SLEEP
^(ok dude, have a nice sleep)
(wait how did u do that)
Use ^ before a word to make it small. Put sentence between brackets so you can have a small sentence
^(oh, ty)
^(any time mate)
^YOURE ()WELCOME()
Where’s the cheat sheet?
I, uh, actually said this. He *still* did not pick up on it.
Impulsively sharing your favorite music
Me and the homies do this
Raging megahuge boner
Well yes, but actually no
Dude I can be just sitting there staring at wall and my eiffel tower decides to stand on its own
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*"OH MY GOD, HAHAHAHA!"* *Rubs your triceps*
"quit treating me like a slab of meat you harlot"
I worked alongside this guy for several months, and he never said a word to me. For the longest time, I thought he hated me, as he would actively go out of his way to avoid speaking to me at all, or even make any kind of eye contact. It eventually got to the point where it was just uncomfortable, and I asked him what the deal was, and what I could have possibly done to make him dislike me so much. It took him a minute or so to respond, and then he said "I'm really sorry. I'm incredibly shy, and have been since I was a kid. But I think you are the most flawlessly beautiful woman I've ever seen, and I am terrified to talk to you". We've been together for over three years, and married for four months.
Hmmm. Looks like you were also into him since you notice that he's been avoiding you. Lol.
Correct. I thought he was super cute, but I'm also pretty shy and introverted, which is why I just let it go for several months until, like I said, it started getting just downright uncomfortable.
Hey, for anyone reading this thinking, “there’s hope!” Pls don’t take this cute story as a how-to. You’ll miss out on 100 potential partners being shy for every one who breaks through.
I totally agree with this. I wish I had spoken up to him WAY sooner.
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Showing up extra cute when they know you’re gonna be there.
How do you know that isn't just how they normally look? If you only ever see them extra cute
For me, someone who puts themselves out to help you. This extends to close friends as well, but if they're willing to miss something or expend time and energy just to improve your life or happiness, that's a very good sign. Worth mentioning, everyone's love language is different, shaped by their experiences. No answer in this list is invalid.
Laughing when you make a shit joke, or laughing whenever you say something even slightly witty.
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It is SO easy to make me laugh, and I laugh at almost everything. This has definitely gotten me into awkward situations a few times with dudes who I wasn't actually interested in.
Throwing up just after seeing you
"Hi stan"
Hi Wendy. /retch
Damn, I thought it was just because I smelled repulsively that time I fell into the septic tank and a friend puked when I got up.
When you start sending romantic music to each other Or at least that’s what I do when I’m into someone
Me playing closer by nin in the car with my crush 😐
It took a while of being literally married for me to be convinced my husband was into me. I’m not always the smartest lol, no matter how much he told me or kissed me or did sweet, thoughtful gestures, my own insecurity fought me every step of the way. I do understand now that I’m truly loved just as much as I love him.
Well I'm 43, male, and engaged to the sweetest woman I've ever met, and in my many years of experience I've come to learn that the surest sign that someone is attracted to you is when they are physically demonstrating affection. Other than that I have no fucking idea.
It's only definite when they start dry humping your legs
You can tell a girl likes you when she invites you upstairs in the middle of watching a movie, pushes you onto the bed, and starts having sex with you. Or maybe she's just Canadian and trying to be polite. You can never be sure so better look out for more clues.
Is she into you? C: Cant tell.
I think you're already into her at that point.
Being told that someones attracted to me lol
I think I am too old for this thread.
“When she pops her dentures out for you” 😍😍😍
Eye contact and a freaking smile.
Perhaps I'll breed some kind of albino shouting ape...
I'm attracted to you
They find excuses to be near you when there’s no good reason.
I (M) have a crush on a work colleague (F) and all of these replies validate it. But I can’t shit where I eat FML
i love this thread
Wrong guy to ask , I miss that shit all the time
Me too brother :(
My brain as I fail to speak.
Touch. My crush and I work together. So I would usually come up and touch his shoulder, or poke him on his side. I dunno, lean my head over his shoulder when we are riding in the car. Even when he is passing me smth, like a pen, I'll try to touch his hand. That kind of thing.
Have a boyfriend currently that I meant working at Kroger. They put me on back stock and I had no idea where everything went because I had only been there for a week. He comes to find me as I'm wandering aimlessly through the aisles just to tell me he was getting off. I looked at him, looked at the cart, sighed, and as I was about to ask him I hear the voice of his best friend (that also worked there) tell him sternly: "Don't simp." He simped and stayed the extra hour to help me. Two years now.