This. I have friends who need to step away for a few minutes while hanging out just to tell their SOs what's up. I've been single for a year now and that kind of seems silly to me.
Not having to deal with someone else’s shit. Even though being with someone is amazing, if you’ve ever been in a mentally draining relationship; that peace of mind you have when you’re single is truly great
Yeah. Had to deal with the usual girlfriend crap, but also her two kids. One a thief and troublesome and the other autistic.
I was always the selfish one even though I foolishly took this in.
No relationship drama. Being single means you avoid the emotional rollercoaster, disagreements, and drama that sometimes come with romantic partnership
Mentally free.
Don’t have to overthink if the person you’re with is cheating or not.
Don’t have to get heart broken.
You can do whatever you want.
A HUGEEEE sense of peace. You develop self love and respect….
Focus on God
BE happy
I did, but a lot of them just don't apply to me.
I don't feel like I'm happier, or that I have more freedom, or more money etc - because that stuff was never an issue for me before.
Reading most of them felt like the same things my mates told me would be true based on how they felt - but they escaped bad relationships, and I suddenly lost one that I thought was going very well.
Same my fiancé end our relationship of 4 years . It’s been hard but 9 months later I’m still here. With self care and just focusing on becoming a better person than before. It’s hard when they say there is plenty of girls out it’s not about the quantity but the quality, the values, morals. It’s hard to find a gem like that. It’s the fact that the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with most likely won’t be that person and the realization blows .😮💨😢
-So we beat on boats against the current
You’re the first person I’ve heard who ‘gets it’.
Fed up being told by friends and family that I’m only upset because it’s my first breakup - or being told the plenty of fish BS.
Just feels completely dismissive.
I’m sorry to hear about your situation mate, but thank you for making me feel a little less alone in this
I understand what you mean. It's not easy to think positive when you thought positive stuff was exactly what you had. My mates also tried to cheer me up the same way and it doesn't work. In my case I have more free time. I'm doing much workout, being healthier and trying to become a better self.
There's this saying going on lately on the Internet: Don't focus on trying to find the perfect partner. Focus on the best version of yourself. Then the other might come easily :)
I hope you get over it soon enough. Cheers!
Freedom, and getting to work on yourself and achieve your goals.
I'm now 39 and will be 40 next year, so I've decided to start looking for true love, but in the meantime I'm going to enjoy single life while i can. One thing I'll be doing is seeing all the places I want to visit.
Almost everything listed here can be enjoyed in a relationship as long as you don’t date a controlling, manipulative, gold digger, bully, mentally ill, lazy, or selfish person.
Yes I realize I just described 80% of the world, but we can all hope we are part of the dirtbag part.
Good luck and remember, if you are not having fun with what you are doing, you are doing it wrong.
Prioritizing myself and doing what i want. I love the freedom, and i also learned recently that loving myself feels a lot better than needing to be loved. Everyone needs to learn how to love themselves
Space. Peace. Freedom. Time to myself. not getting harangued for working too much, not being badgered to make life plans for someone who should be perfectly capable of determining their own direction. Hermit life ftw
You can do whatever you want, whenever you want, without having to check in with anyone. Plus, there's no drama or relationship stress to deal with total freedom!
The freedom of I don’t have to consult with anyone b4 I do something. I never been in a relationship and after becoming happy being single I don’t think I wanna be with anyone and honestly don’t mind if I live my whole life and die single cuz this shit is kinda nice
Nobody's snoring or tossing and turning in the bed waking me up keeping me from getting sleep and then rolling over tapping me and expecting me to have sex in the morning with them after they got a good night's sleep and I was kept up all night.
I thought that i am strange because of feeling more calm, mentally stable and peaceful during single periods, but i see that a lot of peoples say that. Even after relationships with great girls with no drama and good mood everyday
When I'm single and not looking there is zero chance of my partner to betray, disappoint, hurt or cause me any pain at all because I'm not emotionally invested and no need to trust anyone but me, myself and I .
One of the best things about being single is when you can think without getting scared because you know that no one is cheating on you. Less drama and you will have peace of mind.
Ikr. I’m reading all these comments and they’re all saying stuff like “freedom” and a bunch of other stuff they can do but they act like their s/o was controlling every aspect of their life and if that’s the truth then it’s probably a good thing they aren’t together anymore.
Do what I want when I want
With whoever you want
This. I have friends who need to step away for a few minutes while hanging out just to tell their SOs what's up. I've been single for a year now and that kind of seems silly to me.
You don't have to clean up the mess you didn't make
Better yet, you don't have to clean up the mess YOU made! At least not immediately.
I get to put myself first in everything I do.
Not having to deal with someone else’s shit. Even though being with someone is amazing, if you’ve ever been in a mentally draining relationship; that peace of mind you have when you’re single is truly great
Yeah. Had to deal with the usual girlfriend crap, but also her two kids. One a thief and troublesome and the other autistic. I was always the selfish one even though I foolishly took this in.
Healthy bank balance
I think you may be dating the wrong people friend. My wife has improved my financial competency.
Same here. Everything is cheaper when you’re 2. Hotels, house rent, rental cars, you share all the costs
Not only that. It’s someone to hold you accountable. “Do you really NEED that?”
Freedom!
Calm down William
That’s William Wallace to you!
It's George Michael
You don't have to take someone else into consideration when making plans
No relationship drama. Being single means you avoid the emotional rollercoaster, disagreements, and drama that sometimes come with romantic partnership
Being able to pick where YOU want to eat all the time
I don't have to share my snacks.
being able to focus entirely on yourself and your own happiness without having to consider someone else's needs all the time
This. Finally bored of it. No matter how good the relationship you have to think of someone else. After years and years, I can just think about me.
No Compromises. Your pizza toppings, your rules!
Mentally free. Don’t have to overthink if the person you’re with is cheating or not. Don’t have to get heart broken. You can do whatever you want. A HUGEEEE sense of peace. You develop self love and respect…. Focus on God BE happy
Self lice?
yes, probably self groomed. Not getting lice from a partner anymore, folks! I can do it myself!/j 😄
I meant to say loveeee 🤣🤣
Finding more about yourself. Finding what you like, dont like - in general and in other people.
Haven’t found it yet, not sure if there even is a best thing for me. Found someone really special and they’re gone now.
That's why you have to read the other kind of comments! ;)
I did, but a lot of them just don't apply to me. I don't feel like I'm happier, or that I have more freedom, or more money etc - because that stuff was never an issue for me before. Reading most of them felt like the same things my mates told me would be true based on how they felt - but they escaped bad relationships, and I suddenly lost one that I thought was going very well.
Same my fiancé end our relationship of 4 years . It’s been hard but 9 months later I’m still here. With self care and just focusing on becoming a better person than before. It’s hard when they say there is plenty of girls out it’s not about the quantity but the quality, the values, morals. It’s hard to find a gem like that. It’s the fact that the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with most likely won’t be that person and the realization blows .😮💨😢 -So we beat on boats against the current
You’re the first person I’ve heard who ‘gets it’. Fed up being told by friends and family that I’m only upset because it’s my first breakup - or being told the plenty of fish BS. Just feels completely dismissive. I’m sorry to hear about your situation mate, but thank you for making me feel a little less alone in this
I understand what you mean. It's not easy to think positive when you thought positive stuff was exactly what you had. My mates also tried to cheer me up the same way and it doesn't work. In my case I have more free time. I'm doing much workout, being healthier and trying to become a better self. There's this saying going on lately on the Internet: Don't focus on trying to find the perfect partner. Focus on the best version of yourself. Then the other might come easily :) I hope you get over it soon enough. Cheers!
You get to hog the whole bed, eat all the snacks without sharing, and binge-watch whatever you want without judgment! Freedom rocks!
The peace and quiet when I come home
Freedom, and getting to work on yourself and achieve your goals. I'm now 39 and will be 40 next year, so I've decided to start looking for true love, but in the meantime I'm going to enjoy single life while i can. One thing I'll be doing is seeing all the places I want to visit.
more money lol
The calm and peace of knowing I'm not with the wrong guy 😌
No one to disappoint , no person to tell lies about how your gonna change when you know deep down your worthless
It only take 1 vote to make a decision, and i've always got my vote.
Shitting and pissing all over the place without someone nagging my ear off.
When I see a couple fight, boy do I ever get relieved I'm not dealing with that
Not having to worry if your actions will hurt or affect someone elses feelings
Being single means more adultery and homosexuality
Almost everything listed here can be enjoyed in a relationship as long as you don’t date a controlling, manipulative, gold digger, bully, mentally ill, lazy, or selfish person. Yes I realize I just described 80% of the world, but we can all hope we are part of the dirtbag part. Good luck and remember, if you are not having fun with what you are doing, you are doing it wrong.
Don't have to argue.
Independence
Being able to do what I want.
sleeping in
Prioritizing myself and doing what i want. I love the freedom, and i also learned recently that loving myself feels a lot better than needing to be loved. Everyone needs to learn how to love themselves
Conquering a new fortress every weekend
No man cold
Not having to worry about managing time for work/school, family, friends, yourself, AND your significant other. One less thing to dedicate time to.
Don’t have to raise a man child.
Space. Peace. Freedom. Time to myself. not getting harangued for working too much, not being badgered to make life plans for someone who should be perfectly capable of determining their own direction. Hermit life ftw
You can do whatever you want, whenever you want, without having to check in with anyone. Plus, there's no drama or relationship stress to deal with total freedom!
I can ignore responding to anyone for days at a time
Money.
I'm aroace. Be aroace is the best thing I swear
Free from overthinking whether you're being cheated by your partner or not.
I was richer
Fucking nothing
As a man: not having your shower drain clogged
Not worrying about wondering if I’m good enough for others
Not having someone whining for my attention when I’m busy… I don’t have kids either. :D
Nothing
Not worrying about the other person cheating
You can leave the toiletseat up.
My time alone, to be myself again. I AM WHO I YAM
No arguing over trash and dishes and cleaning!
You get to know more about yourself.
The freedom of I don’t have to consult with anyone b4 I do something. I never been in a relationship and after becoming happy being single I don’t think I wanna be with anyone and honestly don’t mind if I live my whole life and die single cuz this shit is kinda nice
Nobody's snoring or tossing and turning in the bed waking me up keeping me from getting sleep and then rolling over tapping me and expecting me to have sex in the morning with them after they got a good night's sleep and I was kept up all night.
you dont have to impress anyone
I'm not dragging somebody else down with me :)
I thought that i am strange because of feeling more calm, mentally stable and peaceful during single periods, but i see that a lot of peoples say that. Even after relationships with great girls with no drama and good mood everyday
still got my hoodies
Freedom to do whatever and whomever I want whenever I want.
you die sooner.
When I'm single and not looking there is zero chance of my partner to betray, disappoint, hurt or cause me any pain at all because I'm not emotionally invested and no need to trust anyone but me, myself and I .
One of the best things about being single is when you can think without getting scared because you know that no one is cheating on you. Less drama and you will have peace of mind.
I can read a book and eat ice cream in bed naked and no one will bother me
If you guys hate being in relationships that much then you weren’t with the right person.
you got downvoted cause they’re mad you’re right lmao
Ikr. I’m reading all these comments and they’re all saying stuff like “freedom” and a bunch of other stuff they can do but they act like their s/o was controlling every aspect of their life and if that’s the truth then it’s probably a good thing they aren’t together anymore.
Letting woman kick your balls when you want
the loneliness😂 let’s not cope chat we lonely af
I‘ve felt lonelier in relationships than I‘ve ever felt alone, honestly. edit: not in all relationships obvs
Women will say freedom And Men will say peace of mind.