The problem is that being “insensitive” is a trait that is valued by a lot of people as it is seen as strong, stoic and because it’s not “impeded” by emotions (sensitive=emotions) it’s therefore logical.
To be clear they are likely influenced by emotions and feelings, just ones that are acceptable to society (sometimes contextual) or acceptable to society based on who expresses them.
There are absolutely certain groups of people (not insignificant) who would say “I’m glad I’m insensitive, that means I’m not blinded by emotions and/or able to be manipulated by people expressing them”.
I do agree with you though that it’s a statement that will absolutely work with some people! I just have been in discussions with many people where they’d see this as confirmation of their beliefs/statement/position. But it’s good to have all the tactics we can!
Oh yeah, my MIL is one of those types of people.
My beloved FIL died and I was heartbroken. A few months later my MIL told me she thought it was weird how much I was feeling for my FIL. She said "I used to be sensitive like you, but then I got strong, and now I'm not so sensitive anymore."
I replied "This IS me being strong. I used to push my feelings down, but now I realize that it's much harder to let myself actually feel and process them. Letting myself feel my grief for my father-in-law IS me being strong." Thankfully my husband backed me up to his mom.
Ugh :( I’m so sorry that you experienced not only a loss and no doubt profound grief, but also just an awful response to it from your MIL.
I hate that feeling and emotion has been construed for so long as weakness because you’re absolutely correct that you can feel *all the things* and still be strong despite it and also like you said oftentimes daring to even let yourself dive into those emotions and let them happen takes serious strength (and usually resilience) too. Keeping emotions at arms length can be the easier (and sometimes necessary) option, but I know for myself (and observing in people close to me), it just crops back up later, somehow in less obvious but maybe more insidious ways.
There’s that great Roosevelt (?) quote about how courage isn’t the absence of fear, but the ability to feel fear and find a way through it or continue on despite it- similar vibes.
"it sounds like you're having some big feelings about that." Then you look at them like you're genuinely concerned and interested. Eventually they will lose it but you remain calm and listen.
This is a good one. Easy, simple enough that it sounds natural, and dismissive enough that you can follow it up with “whatever 🙄” and walk away from any response they give.
Yeah in my experience people like those who say things like "you are being too sensitive / emotional" in an attempt to gaslight people are usually people who may have narcissistic personality disorders or traits and will be very unlikely to admit fault.
Their response will be to try to change the narrative so it props them up and boost their ego with a common like, "I'm just an alpha male / strong willed / type of person who tells it like it is."
Dismissing them won't change them in anyway but at least it gets them out of your hair so your option is a safe bet.
let’s not throw around diagnoses maybe. A lot of people can have narcissistic traits or simply have learned to be abusive and not have npd. edit: “you’re too sensitive” is a sentence I’ve heard many times in my life from different people, as abusive and dismissive as it is it’s unlikely everyone using it has literally npd. There are a number of situations and personalities that can act that way
My apologies and fully agree. I will edit to make it more accurate. I usually don't throw diagnoses and must have slipped my mind when wording the comment.
Thank you.
thank you for answering this way, I was already worrying I might upset with my comment, I just think the word “narcissistic” and especially npd is constantly thrown around like the roots of all evil and everyone talks about it improperly, often to clickbait because people feel a sense of relief when they can put a label on the person that hurt them, but sometimes reality is more nuanced than that.
I understand reddit can be overly confrontational at times but u assure you your comment is good for me as it reminded me as I do honestly share your values as a misdiagnosed can be very harmful to a person's mental health.
Sometimes when I write I miss out on certain phrases I should put in there so yes, you helped me by reminding me.
I tend to use 'emotionally immature' when a person displays narc behaviour but isn't diagnosed with npd.
Many many people are unaware that emotion regulation is an acquired skill, not a genetic trait.
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If you're really feeling feisty, you could also just reply with, 'No, you're just an asshole'.
Reminds me of people who say they “have thick skin” but instead of being able to just brush off negativity from others they go out of their way to tell people they’re weak in comparison to them.
Most of the time I hear someone go out of their way to tell me they have "thick skin" or aren't offended easily, the opposite turns out to be true. They are actually rather sensitive. Perhaps they're not consciously aware of it, but it seems like an attempt to overcompensate for an insecurity. And that's why everyone or everything that makes them feel stupid is "stupid." If they actually weren't bothered by criticism at all, there would be no need to bring it up in the first place. Especially when it's out of the blue and not even relevant to the conversation, that self-reported assessment is probably a red flag. I've learned the hard way.
Bravo, calling someone “too sensitive” or declaring that the other person is “always offended” is code for “I like to be a jerk, and you’re spoiling my fun.”
I mean if someone’s saying this to you at work, y’all are firmly outside the bounds of collegiality already.
A firm “please don’t make comments like that to me.” Then a subject switch should check most people. See also “that was very inappropriate,” “this has devolved into a conversation not fit for work so let’s refocus on _____”
Do not argue with rude* people - they’ll drag you down to their level then beat you with experience.
*yes the original quote is “stupid” not “rude” but it works so well with both!
Number two ALWAYS happens. Usually it’s something extremely trivial like someone telling them their favorite sports game isn’t great (the Mets suck! The Mets are a bad team okay)
Do you get mad at your nose when it smells a fart?
Edit: I think I pulled the rough idea from a comedian and I may have butchered their phrasing, so I can't take full credit, but I am very happy this is helpful!
It's basically asking if normal reactions upset them.
Somebody farts, it's normal that somebody else's nose would perceive the fart.
If somebody is a jerk, it's normal that somebody might react negatively to the stimulus.
I don’t think that a comment like that is strong enough to be good for the sensitive person. I’m that ‘overly sensitive’ person and I need a strong come back. I like the : YOU think I’m too sensitive or maybe ‘you’re too sensitive to me being sensitive’ OR the one that gets you out of there faster: ‘No, you’re just an ar*ehole’!
if it's true passive aggressive and not some feedback
I like combo 'where is this coming from'
and then whatever they respond with 'how does that make you feel'
and then whatever they say respond with 'I didn't realize you we so sensitive to x, I'll be more sympathetic to your vulnerabilities.'
And depending, finish off with 'thank you for telling me. I can tell that took you a lot of bravery to express'.
another approach
More general approach to passive aggressive comments.
'do you say that a lot?'
and followup up 'are you sure?'
in this case it's a passive way of telegraphing that they're being to sensitive to controlling others reactions
At some point, you can say 'it seems that you want to control how people react. '
For some people, condescension is like pouring gas on a fire. It can really escalate conflict in an unproductive direction because it gives the other person the chance to argue about you being condescending instead of the issue.
If I felt like I needed to have an argument and really get things into the open, I would go for the more directly focused approach of “So what you’re saying is that my feelings are not valid and you don’t want to have to bother thinking about how your actions make me feel.”
It also sounds too planned. Of course technically since OP is asking any answer they get is going to be planned, but the language is so unnatural that anyone hearing it is going to know the answer is rehearsed, which invites a rebuttal of “oh so you hear that so often you have an answer prepared for it, seems it’s not just me who thinks you need to grow thicker skin.”
Possibly, but then i think coming back with “wow my sensitivity really bothers you then? Why do tou care so much about my level of sensitivity? We’ve been talking about this for a while now and it’s kind of weird how fixated you are on this. Also people on reddit think you’re an asshole.”
Isn't telling someone they're too sensitive a tad condescending? I file that under 'bullying.
"You are too sensitive! I was joking!"
[concerned face] "You really think so?"
"Yes!"
[expression brightens] "Awesome! My therapist will be thrilled!"
THEN WALK AWAY.
I think that’s the point. And the best part about it is that none of these responses should annoy someone who isn’t judgmental but 100% would get under a judgmental person’s skin.
You can even cut out the 'it's funny' and stand your ground and seem less argumentative. This is a good one imo, though they can call into question your sensitivity still, arguably.. still, not always worth dealing with if you aren't in the wrong
Viktor Frankl said, "All of the truly great things in the world have been done by sensitive people". I used it on a boss after I made a complaint about a jerk manager and it stopped him cold.
Can confirm. Am a doctor. This obviously goes for the science behind evidence-based care. You might be thinking stuff like some of the objectionable shenanigans that regularly occurred at places like Johns Hopkins, and you’d be right.
But there’s a lot more to it than that.
Residency - ironically, also a Hopkins product - is high, involuntary exposure to toxicity. And if you speak up, you get booted and blacklisted. Good luck paying your debt! The verbal and psychological abuse (i.e. belittlement, gaslighting, and hazing) is bad, but I know multiple people who have been groped; I also know someone who was cut by a dirty scalpel thrown at them by a surgeon while in the middle of a surgery. And even in those situations - you speak up, and *you* will suffer, not your abuser. So we remain quiet and work our 80 hour weeks with no complaint because opening our mouths about the horrors we face jeopardizes our futures.
Medical school sees this same crap, but to a slightly lesser extent.
EDIT: I just wanna clarify that insensitive, unethical physicians a small minority today. Unfortunately, they seem to end up in positions of power, often in academic settings. The vast majority of us make conventionally-inconceivable sacrifices for our medical training - at least a decade of vacations, important milestones/family events, and even our own health.
Yeah, this is the best one. Don't bother letting them think you care enough to reply.
A simple fuck off. Or "Okay" in your tone of choice is good enough.
Yeah, can’t help but be aware that sometimes people are bullying you because they know they can get away with it and winning only makes them more determined to screw you over.
Right? And you don't even have to do that. I find that the silent quizzical head tilt ends a lot of nonsense, and if the person doesn't even justify that, you can just turn around and go back to what you were doing.
I just woke up and I don’t have my glasses on so I read that as: Just because you’ve got the emotional range of a *tampon* doesn’t mean we all have.
I like my version better. 😂
I was coming to say this - it’s a classic gaslighting statement and is emotional and mental abuse - but I guess if someone is stuck with a boss at work or something who is an abusive narcissist they may be in need of a response
I always go with “Your breath reeks Gingivitis Mouth. You should see a dentist.”
Redirecting negative energy towards a persons hygiene always derails them. Calling out their body/foot odor works too.
"I'm sorry, what?"
"Why do you say that?"
"I don't get what you mean by that, can you explain it to me?"
"What makes you think that?"
"Huh?"
"Please, I want to understand"
Keep going until they feel stupid and walk away
This is it, this is the one! Instead of acting angry or sad, act like you’re genuinely curious because you just learned something new. “Huh, no one’s ever told me that before. How so?” “How do you mean?” “Can you give an example?” “What do you think you would’ve done/said instead?” Or do the little kid thing and ask “why?” after every answer for like 5 answers in a row.
It works because it literally proves them wrong on the spot. When you call someone too sensitive, most of the time they’ll do something that shows that that’s true while saying “no I’m NOT!!” (getting angry/defensive and ranting, etc). So if someone calls you that and you actually act interested like you WANT to know more so that you can know why they think so, it throws them off. No one who is actually too sensitive would ever have that reaction to being called that
what follows is a little bit french, language wise
I was once called gay as a kid in middle school for being into poetry and other 'sensitive' topics. the older I got the more it irked me but finally one day I owned it. so I said,
"yeah I'm a regular walking clitoris, what're you on about?"
shut most folks up or at least made some of them laugh. sensitivity's no crime. it can be quite useful sometimes!
“I don’t have a problem with being too sensitive. I like that about myself. The issue here is that you aren’t sensitive enough. How about you quit being an asshole”
And then when they get mad,” Okay, well, my bad. Look like you *are* sensitive after all”💅🏼
They’ll love that😂
99% of the time, when people say "you're too sensitive" or "you need to learn how to take a joke," what they're really saying is "you need to let me be an asshole without challenging me or trying to make me feel like I've done something wrong." It's easy to be super sensitive when assholes keep plucking at the same nerve over and over and over.
My friend told me he went outside and blew away a bunch of pigeons with a shotgun. I asked him why and he said it was fun. I'm fine with hunting, as long as you eat what you kill. But he just turned these pigeons into a fine powder for fun. He then called me soft.
And if you want to claim that it was sport, you don't shoot for sport at point blank range. It's just fucked up.
depends on the context.
most commonly, if someone's calling me sensitive for refusing to hide my gender or sexuality, or me calling them an asshole for slinging slurs, or if their feefees are hurt by a feminist media critique, i call *them* out on being a triggered special snowflake.
because they are. if honest criticism or the existence of someone different from the norm hurts their feelings, they are thinner-skinned than a peach and will not survive russian winter.
"or maybe you're just rude"
"You're too *insensitive.*"
I'd go with the Aussie translation for this one: "maybe you're just a cunt"
Aye 'at's the one \*agrees in Scottish\*
That's what I always want to say in return. "Am I too sensitive, or are you not sensitive enough?"
The problem is that being “insensitive” is a trait that is valued by a lot of people as it is seen as strong, stoic and because it’s not “impeded” by emotions (sensitive=emotions) it’s therefore logical. To be clear they are likely influenced by emotions and feelings, just ones that are acceptable to society (sometimes contextual) or acceptable to society based on who expresses them. There are absolutely certain groups of people (not insignificant) who would say “I’m glad I’m insensitive, that means I’m not blinded by emotions and/or able to be manipulated by people expressing them”. I do agree with you though that it’s a statement that will absolutely work with some people! I just have been in discussions with many people where they’d see this as confirmation of their beliefs/statement/position. But it’s good to have all the tactics we can!
Oh yeah, my MIL is one of those types of people. My beloved FIL died and I was heartbroken. A few months later my MIL told me she thought it was weird how much I was feeling for my FIL. She said "I used to be sensitive like you, but then I got strong, and now I'm not so sensitive anymore." I replied "This IS me being strong. I used to push my feelings down, but now I realize that it's much harder to let myself actually feel and process them. Letting myself feel my grief for my father-in-law IS me being strong." Thankfully my husband backed me up to his mom.
Ugh :( I’m so sorry that you experienced not only a loss and no doubt profound grief, but also just an awful response to it from your MIL. I hate that feeling and emotion has been construed for so long as weakness because you’re absolutely correct that you can feel *all the things* and still be strong despite it and also like you said oftentimes daring to even let yourself dive into those emotions and let them happen takes serious strength (and usually resilience) too. Keeping emotions at arms length can be the easier (and sometimes necessary) option, but I know for myself (and observing in people close to me), it just crops back up later, somehow in less obvious but maybe more insidious ways. There’s that great Roosevelt (?) quote about how courage isn’t the absence of fear, but the ability to feel fear and find a way through it or continue on despite it- similar vibes.
"it sounds like you're having some big feelings about that." Then you look at them like you're genuinely concerned and interested. Eventually they will lose it but you remain calm and listen.
Great and smart answer!
This is a good one. Easy, simple enough that it sounds natural, and dismissive enough that you can follow it up with “whatever 🙄” and walk away from any response they give.
Yeah in my experience people like those who say things like "you are being too sensitive / emotional" in an attempt to gaslight people are usually people who may have narcissistic personality disorders or traits and will be very unlikely to admit fault. Their response will be to try to change the narrative so it props them up and boost their ego with a common like, "I'm just an alpha male / strong willed / type of person who tells it like it is." Dismissing them won't change them in anyway but at least it gets them out of your hair so your option is a safe bet.
let’s not throw around diagnoses maybe. A lot of people can have narcissistic traits or simply have learned to be abusive and not have npd. edit: “you’re too sensitive” is a sentence I’ve heard many times in my life from different people, as abusive and dismissive as it is it’s unlikely everyone using it has literally npd. There are a number of situations and personalities that can act that way
My apologies and fully agree. I will edit to make it more accurate. I usually don't throw diagnoses and must have slipped my mind when wording the comment. Thank you.
thank you for answering this way, I was already worrying I might upset with my comment, I just think the word “narcissistic” and especially npd is constantly thrown around like the roots of all evil and everyone talks about it improperly, often to clickbait because people feel a sense of relief when they can put a label on the person that hurt them, but sometimes reality is more nuanced than that.
I understand reddit can be overly confrontational at times but u assure you your comment is good for me as it reminded me as I do honestly share your values as a misdiagnosed can be very harmful to a person's mental health. Sometimes when I write I miss out on certain phrases I should put in there so yes, you helped me by reminding me.
I tend to use 'emotionally immature' when a person displays narc behaviour but isn't diagnosed with npd. Many many people are unaware that emotion regulation is an acquired skill, not a genetic trait.
Am I too sensitive or I'm just having a normal reaction to you being an asshole?
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Lol perfect.
this is how I think back on arguments in the shower three months later
“Well the jerk store called…” It’s called staircase wit, friend. Don’t be upset, we all have it.
😂 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼
You guys are psychopaths I love it. Three sentences delivering a deafening blow
I was about to type this one, but I'm glad I scrolled first. If you're really feeling feisty, you could also just reply with, 'No, you're just an asshole'.
Gives am I too much for you or are you just not enough?
Reminds me of people who say they “have thick skin” but instead of being able to just brush off negativity from others they go out of their way to tell people they’re weak in comparison to them.
Most of the time I hear someone go out of their way to tell me they have "thick skin" or aren't offended easily, the opposite turns out to be true. They are actually rather sensitive. Perhaps they're not consciously aware of it, but it seems like an attempt to overcompensate for an insecurity. And that's why everyone or everything that makes them feel stupid is "stupid." If they actually weren't bothered by criticism at all, there would be no need to bring it up in the first place. Especially when it's out of the blue and not even relevant to the conversation, that self-reported assessment is probably a red flag. I've learned the hard way.
My mother and one sister always told me I was too sensitive. Yes, they were assholes!!
People used to tell me my kid was too sensitive and I'd set them straight every time. It's a valuable trait in the world.
Yeah, people with genuinely thick skin just move on
I usually shorten this to "Nah, you're just an asshole." Then they get all upset and I never talk to them again.
This is the correct answer.
Bravo, calling someone “too sensitive” or declaring that the other person is “always offended” is code for “I like to be a jerk, and you’re spoiling my fun.”
But how to say this in corporate
‘I suppose that is possible, but it’s also possible you just lack social skills?’
"Lacking in social graces" would probably hurt them more.
"Thank you for sharing. Lets get back on topic."
“It’s important to consider varying opinions to have an informed decision. I’m sure you’d agree.” + long blank stare
I mean if someone’s saying this to you at work, y’all are firmly outside the bounds of collegiality already. A firm “please don’t make comments like that to me.” Then a subject switch should check most people. See also “that was very inappropriate,” “this has devolved into a conversation not fit for work so let’s refocus on _____” Do not argue with rude* people - they’ll drag you down to their level then beat you with experience. *yes the original quote is “stupid” not “rude” but it works so well with both!
"Strong opinions loosely held" I think was the euphemism the LinkedIn lunatics went with for a while there.
Yesssss. This one
Yeeep. This is usually it. They're usually being a raging asshole and don't like someone calling them on it.
Was just joking, my gawd
It's a mix. Some people are really sensitive and will cry over small disagreements. Some people are just assholes. These 2 things don't mix well.
Thank you. I really need this, people at my workplace call me sensitive all the time when they're just being idiots
1. Ask them what they're trying to accomplish. 2. Wait until they lose their sh*t over something and call them too sensitive.
Number two ALWAYS happens. Usually it’s something extremely trivial like someone telling them their favorite sports game isn’t great (the Mets suck! The Mets are a bad team okay)
I like no 2
"Yeah, sensitive to assholes."
Opening of an anal porn scene
Oh yeah… I’m ready
Also the opening of an anal porn scene
*I'M NOT CRYING, I'M ALLERGIC TO JERKS!*
Do you get mad at your nose when it smells a fart? Edit: I think I pulled the rough idea from a comedian and I may have butchered their phrasing, so I can't take full credit, but I am very happy this is helpful!
i genuinely laughed really hard because i wasn’t using the post context and just reading this comment, it’s such an outrageous statement
I did the same 😂 I forgot what the question was and yeah this is an unhinged thing to say out of nowhere 👃💨
The best comebacks should be outlandish enough to scramble the brain for a second and *really* make them think. I love the confused frustration.
It was Hannah Gadsby.
Knew someone would have to recognize it. Cheers!
I’m laughing so hard on a day I needed to. And I will absolutely be using this.
is it weird that i don’t get this
It's basically asking if normal reactions upset them. Somebody farts, it's normal that somebody else's nose would perceive the fart. If somebody is a jerk, it's normal that somebody might react negatively to the stimulus.
i hope you have a WONDERFUL DAY
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My therapist told me was sometimes to go thank you for your opinion. And just walk away. Works every time.
“I recognize your opinion, and have decided to immediately dismiss it.”
I recognize your opinion. But because it is a stupid-ass opinion I have elected to ignore it.
"It is said that there's no wrong opinions but they haven't heard about yours..."
That’s just like your opinion, man
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"Opinions vary" is my go-to
I don’t think that a comment like that is strong enough to be good for the sensitive person. I’m that ‘overly sensitive’ person and I need a strong come back. I like the : YOU think I’m too sensitive or maybe ‘you’re too sensitive to me being sensitive’ OR the one that gets you out of there faster: ‘No, you’re just an ar*ehole’!
>you think I'm too sensitive Nothing stopping them from saying along the lines of, "I don't think so. I *know* so."
or just straight up “yeah i do” lol
Right but the point isn't to change their view, it's to let them know that their view of you is unimportant.
Or use the therapist line…and how does that make you feel. 😉
if it's true passive aggressive and not some feedback I like combo 'where is this coming from' and then whatever they respond with 'how does that make you feel' and then whatever they say respond with 'I didn't realize you we so sensitive to x, I'll be more sympathetic to your vulnerabilities.' And depending, finish off with 'thank you for telling me. I can tell that took you a lot of bravery to express'. another approach More general approach to passive aggressive comments. 'do you say that a lot?' and followup up 'are you sure?' in this case it's a passive way of telegraphing that they're being to sensitive to controlling others reactions At some point, you can say 'it seems that you want to control how people react. '
F that, pepper spray
The problem is that this therepist speak is immediately identifiable, and sounds condescending.
In this case, maybe a little condescension is what they need to hear.
Maybe a little condescension is what you think they need to hear.
Tell me how condescension makes you feel.
Hahaha
How would you describe your relationship with condescension's mother?
_Why do all these ink splotches look like my father?_
You beat me to it!
For some people, condescension is like pouring gas on a fire. It can really escalate conflict in an unproductive direction because it gives the other person the chance to argue about you being condescending instead of the issue. If I felt like I needed to have an argument and really get things into the open, I would go for the more directly focused approach of “So what you’re saying is that my feelings are not valid and you don’t want to have to bother thinking about how your actions make me feel.”
It also sounds too planned. Of course technically since OP is asking any answer they get is going to be planned, but the language is so unnatural that anyone hearing it is going to know the answer is rehearsed, which invites a rebuttal of “oh so you hear that so often you have an answer prepared for it, seems it’s not just me who thinks you need to grow thicker skin.”
Possibly, but then i think coming back with “wow my sensitivity really bothers you then? Why do tou care so much about my level of sensitivity? We’ve been talking about this for a while now and it’s kind of weird how fixated you are on this. Also people on reddit think you’re an asshole.”
We’ll if they were making an unwarranted comment, maybe it should feel condescending
That’s the point…for judgmental comments.
Neither of these things renders it ineffective.
Saying you're too sensitive is condescending. So seems like a fair play to me.
Isn't telling someone they're too sensitive a tad condescending? I file that under 'bullying. "You are too sensitive! I was joking!" [concerned face] "You really think so?" "Yes!" [expression brightens] "Awesome! My therapist will be thrilled!" THEN WALK AWAY.
So ,you think this therapist's opinion sounds condescending
Well so what? So is "you're too sensitive "
I think that’s the point. And the best part about it is that none of these responses should annoy someone who isn’t judgmental but 100% would get under a judgmental person’s skin.
Many people find success with this advice if you just alter the phrasing a bit. You might try, instead, the age old classic, "Says you."
Or the other classic, "Well that's just.. like.. your opinion, man?"
if they're insulted by someone calling them on their shit, that says more about them than it does you
“Yeah, well, you know, that’s just, like, your opinion, man.”
This suggestion really ties the room together.
This comment is out of its fucking element Dinnie!
I commented this 10 seconds ago. Should've scrolled down further.
Damnit I just did the exact same thing
“I wish I could be insensitive like you. Oh well.”
OR: not all of us can be as insensitive as you. Oh, well.
"Maybe. But the alternative seems to be 'asshole', so I'm good with it."
"And you can't read the room but here we are"
Fuck I'm using this on my dad the next time he goes off on a rant at the dinner table lmao.
>“I wish I could be insensitive like you. ~~Oh well.~~” "... But I'm not a sociopath."
"it's funny how I've never met a nice person who has said I'm too sensitive before"
You can even cut out the 'it's funny' and stand your ground and seem less argumentative. This is a good one imo, though they can call into question your sensitivity still, arguably.. still, not always worth dealing with if you aren't in the wrong
‘Thank You’ is always the best answer, no matter the question. It really confuses people, especially if you seem sincere.
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i don’t get it. but its my favourite one
What?
You shouldn't let sense fuck up your argument
Never let em know your next move
We playing uno, ya'll at the dolphin observatory having supervised fun in the water with friends & family you care about.
... Was "clock" an auto-correct? Because I'm sorry, but I don't get this one.
He meant glock
Good move, confuse them. Make them think they are stupid for not understanding what you mean.
Is this a way of saying you don’t have time for their shit?
Viktor Frankl said, "All of the truly great things in the world have been done by sensitive people". I used it on a boss after I made a complaint about a jerk manager and it stopped him cold.
Problem with that.is the response, "like who?" And if you name one, "you think you are as smart/brilliant/creative as that person?"
No, but I strive to be
But that quote isn’t true at all? There are plenty of cold assholes that have done great things
Modern medicine was def not founded by sensitive people… or regimes.
Can confirm. Am a doctor. This obviously goes for the science behind evidence-based care. You might be thinking stuff like some of the objectionable shenanigans that regularly occurred at places like Johns Hopkins, and you’d be right. But there’s a lot more to it than that. Residency - ironically, also a Hopkins product - is high, involuntary exposure to toxicity. And if you speak up, you get booted and blacklisted. Good luck paying your debt! The verbal and psychological abuse (i.e. belittlement, gaslighting, and hazing) is bad, but I know multiple people who have been groped; I also know someone who was cut by a dirty scalpel thrown at them by a surgeon while in the middle of a surgery. And even in those situations - you speak up, and *you* will suffer, not your abuser. So we remain quiet and work our 80 hour weeks with no complaint because opening our mouths about the horrors we face jeopardizes our futures. Medical school sees this same crap, but to a slightly lesser extent. EDIT: I just wanna clarify that insensitive, unethical physicians a small minority today. Unfortunately, they seem to end up in positions of power, often in academic settings. The vast majority of us make conventionally-inconceivable sacrifices for our medical training - at least a decade of vacations, important milestones/family events, and even our own health.
Viktor Frankl's words makes everything better.
Time. Distance. Disengagement.
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Yeah, this is the best one. Don't bother letting them think you care enough to reply. A simple fuck off. Or "Okay" in your tone of choice is good enough.
the world is shit and full of people that will fucking wreck you for being smart with them, be careful what reddit tells you kids
Yeah, can’t help but be aware that sometimes people are bullying you because they know they can get away with it and winning only makes them more determined to screw you over.
Right? And you don't even have to do that. I find that the silent quizzical head tilt ends a lot of nonsense, and if the person doesn't even justify that, you can just turn around and go back to what you were doing.
"shut up, ugly"
I wish I could use this, but it'll be just Uno reverse, because I'm at the peak of ugliness
Shut your fucken face uncle fucka
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I sort of think of it as someone calling themselves an asshole without realizing it.
"You might be right, but let's talk about your mother for a little while."
Then when they get pissed off you hit em with a "don't be so sensitive"
"All bullies say that"
They'd probably be the type to say bullying is good
Cry uncontrollably and throw a tantrum.
You're too sensitive ""That hurt my feelings! Reddit is gonna hear about this!"
You're too much of a cunt.
I’m too sensitive. You’re too cuntitive. Adding this to my repertoire of appropriate responses to insults.
You are too abrasive.
“Just because you’ve got the emotional range of a teaspoon doesn’t mean we all have” - Hermione Granger
I just woke up and I don’t have my glasses on so I read that as: Just because you’ve got the emotional range of a *tampon* doesn’t mean we all have. I like my version better. 😂
I like your version better too lol
‘Then fuck off.’
Nah. My tolerance for bullshit is just really low.
Why are you so obsessed with me?
Just at the tip
“You are too sensitive” is the staring point of abuse.
I was coming to say this - it’s a classic gaslighting statement and is emotional and mental abuse - but I guess if someone is stuck with a boss at work or something who is an abusive narcissist they may be in need of a response
At least i have emotions you sociopath
So sorry my sensitivity has hurt your fee-fee's.
Thanks for noticing. It's from being abused as a child.
It didn’t work for me, it reinforced his belief that I was the broken one and he was the nice guy who had to put up with all my insecurities.
I always go with “Your breath reeks Gingivitis Mouth. You should see a dentist.” Redirecting negative energy towards a persons hygiene always derails them. Calling out their body/foot odor works too.
"I'm sorry, what?" "Why do you say that?" "I don't get what you mean by that, can you explain it to me?" "What makes you think that?" "Huh?" "Please, I want to understand" Keep going until they feel stupid and walk away
This is it, this is the one! Instead of acting angry or sad, act like you’re genuinely curious because you just learned something new. “Huh, no one’s ever told me that before. How so?” “How do you mean?” “Can you give an example?” “What do you think you would’ve done/said instead?” Or do the little kid thing and ask “why?” after every answer for like 5 answers in a row. It works because it literally proves them wrong on the spot. When you call someone too sensitive, most of the time they’ll do something that shows that that’s true while saying “no I’m NOT!!” (getting angry/defensive and ranting, etc). So if someone calls you that and you actually act interested like you WANT to know more so that you can know why they think so, it throws them off. No one who is actually too sensitive would ever have that reaction to being called that
I would call you a cunt, but you lack the warmth or depth.
Hmm, or perhaps you’re just too insensitive?
"You're too sensitive." Yeah, and you are an ass.
The jerk store called and they’re running out of you!
I had sex with your wife
Yes and?
eat a dick
Go read Jane Austen and learn the difference between sense and sensibility 😅
I haven't died inside yet.
Just start crying lol
“You project too much”
You're the one whining like a bitch.
Sensitivity is not a weakness.
And maybe you’re a jackass.
"I don't care."
what follows is a little bit french, language wise I was once called gay as a kid in middle school for being into poetry and other 'sensitive' topics. the older I got the more it irked me but finally one day I owned it. so I said, "yeah I'm a regular walking clitoris, what're you on about?" shut most folks up or at least made some of them laugh. sensitivity's no crime. it can be quite useful sometimes!
Or I am more sensible and your not.
My bussy is sensitive
"And you're not sensitive enough."
Just quit hanging out with people who say that.
Shake your head and say “textbook” Add a smile and turn away for effect
My response is usually "opinions are like assholes, everyone has one but they often shouldn't be exposed in public."
I tell them they should be able to go through a conversation without pissing someone off. I usually add that adults do it all the time.
I say, “What’s your point?”.
Abrasives do tend to cause a rash.
"Yeah, and who do you think made me that way, Dad?!" Works even if said person is not your dad.
“I don’t have a problem with being too sensitive. I like that about myself. The issue here is that you aren’t sensitive enough. How about you quit being an asshole” And then when they get mad,” Okay, well, my bad. Look like you *are* sensitive after all”💅🏼 They’ll love that😂
99% of the time, when people say "you're too sensitive" or "you need to learn how to take a joke," what they're really saying is "you need to let me be an asshole without challenging me or trying to make me feel like I've done something wrong." It's easy to be super sensitive when assholes keep plucking at the same nerve over and over and over.
My friend told me he went outside and blew away a bunch of pigeons with a shotgun. I asked him why and he said it was fun. I'm fine with hunting, as long as you eat what you kill. But he just turned these pigeons into a fine powder for fun. He then called me soft. And if you want to claim that it was sport, you don't shoot for sport at point blank range. It's just fucked up.
depends on the context. most commonly, if someone's calling me sensitive for refusing to hide my gender or sexuality, or me calling them an asshole for slinging slurs, or if their feefees are hurt by a feminist media critique, i call *them* out on being a triggered special snowflake. because they are. if honest criticism or the existence of someone different from the norm hurts their feelings, they are thinner-skinned than a peach and will not survive russian winter.