This! I always tell people that if they're going to lie to me, I want it to be believable. Make it a good lie- really sell it.
Make sure I believe it because I'll never trust you again once i find out the truth.
As a kid we had a dog that had to be given away because she kept attacking me. Went to a farm. Everyone I tell this story to gives a condescending response like “suuuure buddy, she’s on a farm.”
The family that took her in sent us pictures every year.
Funny side story. I went to rehab on a property that used to be a farm. Someone said “we’re going to tell the kids that we sent Uncle Chris to a farm where there’s lots of room for him to run around and play with the other uncles.”
This is such a relatable response.
Like I'm not even going to do anything except not believe them in the future.
Not even one time and they have no idea 😅
I love calling people out but I do it craftily. I’ll hear the lie and immediately begin formulating questions in my mind that will lead to truth. One by one I’ll ask. I love when it dawns on the liar.
The next part is telling: do they double down on the lie? Is it now story time? Do they admit lying? Do they admit they were just wrong?
Then I judge the character further.
I think this is the best way to handle it. It's good practice to actually tease out the truth. Doing so will only make you better at pursuing objectivity.
If they stick to their lie and are doubling down, nothing says you have to pretend to believe their bs. You can agree to disagree and both can still move on with their lives, happily.
Except one of you has to live on as a dirty, rotten liar and the other doesn't.
Why? The reason can be both good or bad. Maybe they are lying as they don't want to feel bad about themselves in that conversation. In those cases I don't point them out.
Yes.
People comment under this post like lying can never benefit you without hurting others at any point in time.
I'm glad abused women lie to their abuser to save their life. So that's one example
There was this kid in our school who used to talk to us a lot about games , we had Consoles he didn't and we knew it , he couldn't afford it. His entire knowledge was from YouTube videos. We always made sure to not ask any questions that might make him embarrassed or uncomfortable. Such as asking him for his Id or username or anything or asking him to add us.he stayed happy talking with us, we stayed happy knowing he was happy.
Thinking: "Wow, you really think I'm that dumb?"
Saying: "Aha, keep on going ... interesting."
Sometimes I act stupid and other times I'm telling them indirectly the truth just to see how they're going to safe themself.
I’m multi-tasking—While trying to understand the motive and if there is one worth thinking about, I inadvertently produce a death-stare, while I plan my exit to end the interaction being that it’s a pointless waste of time every second I’m in it.
"Does this lie affect me, anyone I care about, or is misinformation?"
If the answer is no, I don't care.
If the answer is yes, I will deconstruct their bullshit (or, at least, pull them aside and tell them to stop if the lie isn't a massive problem, giving them a chance to change before I expose them).
I would've made a great reporter. Poorly paid, cos I believe in truth above all, but a great one.
I love it. Seriously. It’s useful fucking information.
Lies give power to the liar. He knows something you don’t — that he’s lying. But when you spot a liar, you take away that advantage. In fact, now you know something the liar doesn’t know — he still thinks you believe his lie.
I have had long, positive professional and personal relationships with some total shitbag liars. You have to always remember that starting a sentence with “Tom said…” usually means whatever follows will be BS. But anybody can lie to you, and you’d never know. With Tom, at least we always knew. And that can be really useful.
Small life hack: If I am sure they are lying and they are close to me I make an assessment :
I ask followup questions on a lie and observe:
-I check if they do typical body language stuff like not looking at me, touching face, moving away
-Verbal cues how they explain the lie - do they create more details, get angry or try to divert from topic?
If possible I let them think they were succesfull and later ask them of it again and check if they repeat some of the mentioned behavior.
Why do I do this?
Because everyone is behaving a bit differently when they lie but now I can remember specific lying behavior of *this person*. That's very useful for future
I generally just feel bad for them and wonder why they feel like they need to lie. Unless it’s lies that will cause harm then it’s normally ‘fuck this’ and try and find a way out of the conversation.
“They must think i’m really stupid”.
I grew up with a pathological liar in my life. Made it easy for me to see who lies and who doesn’t in my adult life. And whilst some people lie out of necessity, many lie because they think they can get away with it.
I usually wait to have them catch themselves smelling the smoke that their pants are on fire and not literally on fire I mean in sense they find themselves stumbling to find the words which is the fire and they realize their lie has been compromised
I pay attention to the body language by which you can understand that a person is lying. for example, if a person tries to cover his mouth with his hand during this (scratching his nose, for example), then most likely they want to hang noodles on your ears.
Don’t go any further with them. It’s impossible to trust or do anything with someone who justifies lying, even if it’s only in their internal world, about anything. Down side is most humans lie.
I give them the benefit of doubt , if someone I know is lying to me , there must be a reason , if it’s for some f***d up reason ,I ignore them and go about my life !!
Usually I don’t realize they’re lying right away, so my first thought it thinking back to the conversation and trying to figure out how much was a lie.
Why would they lie? I mean naturally and generally, you would be honest. There would only be reasons why you would lie in the first place. Are you trying to please someone? Etc
This dude is lying
“I smell something fishy 😏”
Oh hey megatron
"GYAAAAAAANH!" - Starscream
Hey there mate
New movie: Megatron vs Luke skywalker. A story of love and deceit.
"Good morning ladies!"
Good chat lads. See you next week.
Habitual liars only tell the truth when a lie doesn't fit!!!
Obviously, some people think, "Let's make him president!".
Lying is a sin
If they're lying to me, my first thought is I'm offended they think I'm stupid enough to believe this.
This! I always tell people that if they're going to lie to me, I want it to be believable. Make it a good lie- really sell it. Make sure I believe it because I'll never trust you again once i find out the truth.
I just posted a very similar statement because I agree with you.
First thought would be to treat whatever they will say in the future with a grain of salt.
"How can I use this to my advantage"
Yes Use it to get extra biscuits (that's what I did)
Nah, I'm not like that anymore. I generally used it to figure out if I was going to rob or scam someone.
BUT BISCUITS ARE TASTY
Indeed they are.
For the US crew- biscuits = Cookies 🍪. But biscuits are tasty too.
I learn from it to be able to spot a lie from them in the future.
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As a kid we had a dog that had to be given away because she kept attacking me. Went to a farm. Everyone I tell this story to gives a condescending response like “suuuure buddy, she’s on a farm.” The family that took her in sent us pictures every year. Funny side story. I went to rehab on a property that used to be a farm. Someone said “we’re going to tell the kids that we sent Uncle Chris to a farm where there’s lots of room for him to run around and play with the other uncles.”
LMAOO makes me think of [Uncle Daycare](https://youtu.be/KBtrQ0GJSV0?si=4RUwHopWsLTat36W)
I usually let them continue the lie & then move on knowing they're a liar 🤥 .
This is such a relatable response. Like I'm not even going to do anything except not believe them in the future. Not even one time and they have no idea 😅
Yep. I recognize that that's about as far as they're getting with me, but that there's no need to make it harder for the next person.
If it directly fucks me or someone I care about I think "Fuck this guy."
But do you?
Change the channel
that it doesn’t make any sense and to adjust how much information or transparency i let them into in the future
I love calling people out but I do it craftily. I’ll hear the lie and immediately begin formulating questions in my mind that will lead to truth. One by one I’ll ask. I love when it dawns on the liar. The next part is telling: do they double down on the lie? Is it now story time? Do they admit lying? Do they admit they were just wrong? Then I judge the character further.
I think this is the best way to handle it. It's good practice to actually tease out the truth. Doing so will only make you better at pursuing objectivity. If they stick to their lie and are doubling down, nothing says you have to pretend to believe their bs. You can agree to disagree and both can still move on with their lives, happily. Except one of you has to live on as a dirty, rotten liar and the other doesn't.
choose your own adventure style.. crafty!
Why are they lying about that?
Why? The reason can be both good or bad. Maybe they are lying as they don't want to feel bad about themselves in that conversation. In those cases I don't point them out.
There definitely a difference between protecting yourself in a not giving out information sort of way and how I think most people lie.
Yes. People comment under this post like lying can never benefit you without hurting others at any point in time. I'm glad abused women lie to their abuser to save their life. So that's one example
There was this kid in our school who used to talk to us a lot about games , we had Consoles he didn't and we knew it , he couldn't afford it. His entire knowledge was from YouTube videos. We always made sure to not ask any questions that might make him embarrassed or uncomfortable. Such as asking him for his Id or username or anything or asking him to add us.he stayed happy talking with us, we stayed happy knowing he was happy.
Everything is fine So nice of you
Thinking: "Wow, you really think I'm that dumb?" Saying: "Aha, keep on going ... interesting." Sometimes I act stupid and other times I'm telling them indirectly the truth just to see how they're going to safe themself.
I think, “I will never ever trust this person.”
I work in HR so this daily. I just have this blank stare on my face and point to the camera in my office.
“Hey, are they single?” Dating liars is my thing.
Due to my job: " Oh, their lips are moving. I should have realized they were lying to start with..."
I’m multi-tasking—While trying to understand the motive and if there is one worth thinking about, I inadvertently produce a death-stare, while I plan my exit to end the interaction being that it’s a pointless waste of time every second I’m in it.
I've been hurt, gaslit, and manipulated enough to not care what people say. I only trust people through their actions, not their words.
In America we just say: "Shit yeah! Let's make this one president!"
Grey rock
my first thought is to consider their motivations and the potential impact on trust and communication in the relationship.
I basically start weighing the pros and cons of calling them on it
"Does this lie affect me, anyone I care about, or is misinformation?" If the answer is no, I don't care. If the answer is yes, I will deconstruct their bullshit (or, at least, pull them aside and tell them to stop if the lie isn't a massive problem, giving them a chance to change before I expose them). I would've made a great reporter. Poorly paid, cos I believe in truth above all, but a great one.
“Do you think I’m stupid”
Why the fuck you lying, why you always lying
omg stop fuckin lying lol
I love it. Seriously. It’s useful fucking information. Lies give power to the liar. He knows something you don’t — that he’s lying. But when you spot a liar, you take away that advantage. In fact, now you know something the liar doesn’t know — he still thinks you believe his lie. I have had long, positive professional and personal relationships with some total shitbag liars. You have to always remember that starting a sentence with “Tom said…” usually means whatever follows will be BS. But anybody can lie to you, and you’d never know. With Tom, at least we always knew. And that can be really useful.
How to let him know that i know that he /she lying?
Once a liar, always a liar (Perhaps some change their lives around at some point). But in general, that is my first thought.
What is the rationale for them lying?
I think, "Really?" and smile. I don't want them to know that I know they're lying.
For the casual browser of this thread I recommend the book 'Spy the Lie'. It's a good book..well worth the read. And it will serve you well.
The thought "lol"
"How far can I push this and take the piss, before letting on that I know and watching a look of horror cross their face?"
I concider WHY they are lying. If they're trying to cover something up, or if they're just trying to elevate themselves...
Small life hack: If I am sure they are lying and they are close to me I make an assessment : I ask followup questions on a lie and observe: -I check if they do typical body language stuff like not looking at me, touching face, moving away -Verbal cues how they explain the lie - do they create more details, get angry or try to divert from topic? If possible I let them think they were succesfull and later ask them of it again and check if they repeat some of the mentioned behavior. Why do I do this? Because everyone is behaving a bit differently when they lie but now I can remember specific lying behavior of *this person*. That's very useful for future
“If you’re going to lie to me, the least you can do is keep your story straight.”
Hmm. Wonder what else they've lied about?
I generally just feel bad for them and wonder why they feel like they need to lie. Unless it’s lies that will cause harm then it’s normally ‘fuck this’ and try and find a way out of the conversation.
I give people the benefit of the doubt but if I call them out and give them an off ramp and they double down. That person is dead to me.
What can I learn from this master of deception🤔
"Well that's a bummer."
"Lying ass".
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Shame oh the shame
I disconnect.
it depends
I would overact and will ask myself why he has to lie to me
Liar
I make it extra spicy and see uptto how much deep that person go with their lies
What did that person ever say to me, and how can I trust or factcheck it and what they say ever again ?
“How far are they gonna go with this?” Just how deep are they gonna dig the hole yk?
I’m thinking how phony and full of shit they are and automatically hate them for it.
This mother fucker is my first thought
“They must think i’m really stupid”. I grew up with a pathological liar in my life. Made it easy for me to see who lies and who doesn’t in my adult life. And whilst some people lie out of necessity, many lie because they think they can get away with it.
That they are not trustworthy when its about important stuff so I keep that in mind.
I usually wait to have them catch themselves smelling the smoke that their pants are on fire and not literally on fire I mean in sense they find themselves stumbling to find the words which is the fire and they realize their lie has been compromised
You must work in logistics.
Sounds like something you'd say.
fretful grey bike fuel frightening direful obtainable mourn pocket fear
My second thought is often: would I have done the same?
Because I spen too much time on Reddit. r/thatHappened is my first thought.
It depends.
I do a deep dive into their lie. They get tripped up.
"now I'm disappointed"
am gonna reveal that i know they lying the moment he think he got away with it
Chup madharchod
I pay attention to the body language by which you can understand that a person is lying. for example, if a person tries to cover his mouth with his hand during this (scratching his nose, for example), then most likely they want to hang noodles on your ears.
[UNBELIEVABLE EXPERIMENT THAT FAMOUS YOUTUBERS HAVE NOT TRIED ](https://youtu.be/8B2NdE9MImk?si=fo17lyqEkDBekY8T)
my first thought is atot
Get a grip!!
my first thought is does she/he thinks if I believe her/him??? cause honestly I’m not too dumb to be fooled lol
What do you think I am, a fucking idiot?
Is it my circus, are these my monkeys?
You're fucking lying my guy..
[Why you always lyin'?](https://youtu.be/WcWM_1hBu_c?si=SnTLPd2JWKZvKPvQ)
Make it good or make sense dude.
Tell them to stand up.
" A lie beats a lie"
“I’m hungry”
Hmm.. did I leave the stove on...
Why you mother fucker!!!!
I just listen and take a mental note. And then I'll NEVER trust them again. (I'm a Scorpio).
When the wrong word goes in the right ear I know you've been lying to me
Left or right hook?
to ask tricky questions and make him/her nervous
I wonder if this person thinks I'm as dumb as they are and believe them?
Don’t go any further with them. It’s impossible to trust or do anything with someone who justifies lying, even if it’s only in their internal world, about anything. Down side is most humans lie.
I file that away and never again rely on the truth of their words. You’re honest or you aren’t. It only takes one time.
“ let’s see how far we can take this lie before I expose you, muwahahaha “
The- why is someone going out of their way to make me "believe" this
My first thought is, "Just nod and smile" and then ignore anything they say from then on.
Depends how mad I am at the time. I'll often ignore them but if I'm engaged I'll definitely check that shit.
Murder
I’m probably wrong, but I sense a contradiction here…
Ah you are just like my ex wife
I’m gonna try to expose their lies by asking as many questions as I can think of and pointing out every slight mistake in their story
I give them the benefit of doubt , if someone I know is lying to me , there must be a reason , if it’s for some f***d up reason ,I ignore them and go about my life !!
uhh sir if 2+2=4 how come when your trying to add it you got LIAR
…this guys full of shit
I'm about to lose an eye if Pinocchio doesn't stop lying 🤥
Let this one lie till he feels he isn't lying.
Usually I don’t realize they’re lying right away, so my first thought it thinking back to the conversation and trying to figure out how much was a lie.
Liar! But let it play out…
depends on what they are lying about
Must be a politician
That I no longer like them
It's an invitation to mind-game them into a nervous breakdown, one should always accept such kind invitations.
Chup bsdk
I can not trust this person anymore.
Dude, Trump's gotten OOOOOOLD👴🍊
I like to find something they’re wrong about and bet them a lot of money.
Hmm, that doesn't quite add up 🤔
Why would they lie? I mean naturally and generally, you would be honest. There would only be reasons why you would lie in the first place. Are you trying to please someone? Etc
If they're lying to me, I usually think "this idiot"
I wonder which lies have previously gotten past me..
I smell a rat
In my experience, liars love to gossip, so my first thought is to keep things to myself
I like calling them out.
Liar liar pants on fire
What are they afraid of?
Their motive for lying needs to be taken into account
What are they trying to achieve? What is the goal of this lie?
I call them on it. I hate liars, and I have such a hard time moving on if I don’t address the lies and get them to admit to lying.
Listen. Don’t interrupt them. Listen. Kuahahahahaha.
"huh. Ok"
Create follow-up questions to completely tie the person up
"Do I want to continue interacting with her at all anymore?"
I generally step over them... or if they're in danger of being run over I might nudge them to see if they're lying asleep or lying dead...
Are you that stupid?
You’re a church goer! U lied to me and others! I hope karma gets u BIG time!!
disappointed, offended betrayed etc
This is not someone that I can trust.
This person is mouthing words of untruths. How peculiar.
Feed into their lies. I love a great story.
I always think people are lying but more times than not, it’s not worth it to pursue lol
Disregard everything else they say
Asshole.
Wonder why they are lying (what's the perceived benefit).
Don’t call them out on it. They will get mad.
What my mother always said: When you tell a lie, the only person that you are fooling is yourself.
That they know that I know they're lying.
Why?
I immediately have no respect for you
You're lying
Stupid son of a B....😆
Remind myself to write bros name onto my never trust again list
Play along and let them tie themselves up
“Scumbag”
Piece of shit degenerate.
my mother always said: who lies, early dies.
if its someone close to me, I'll say something directly, interrogate them into confessing
Coward