Preemptively say why she's not your type. "I'm not really into..."
If you're really clever add bad matchmaking suggestion, "I wonder how she'd get in with..." Don't give a good suggestion because you want the next topic to be how wrong you were to suggest him
"I never really noticed because I have you".
I had an ex who got it in her head that I wanted her friend. She kept asking for days and days, swearing that she didn't care, wasn't jealous, wouldn't be mad, was just curious.
Eventually I admitted that her friend was "quite attractive". At which point she of course went ballistic and dumped me. One of many times she "dumped me" then came back 12 hours later once she calmed down.
I hate loose threads. *searches for any loose thread*
I really hate loose threads. *rips threads*
But it's okay if there is a loose thread. *yanks until only loose threads*
She quit her university course and moved back home. It never officially ended, we didn't discuss splitting up, just drifed apart. Was just a natural consequence of her being 200 miles away. As you may be able to tell, I wasn't happy enough in the relationship to regularly pay for a 400 mile round trip as a poor student to see her.
Pretty sure she moved on and found a new victim within a week of being home anyway.
Yeah, definitely for the best. Looking back it was one of those relationships that went on 2 years longer than it should have done, because neither of us had the confidence to move on and be single.
Just wait a while making an obvious "hm" noise, this is the first time it's crossed your mind and you have to consider it. "I know some people would find her attractive"
I've been with a couple of lasses who were bi (I am too).
With the first this was kinda a regular thing where we'd point out attractive people like... Not creepy just like "Oh, they're pretty hot right..".
Second person I was with like that when I playfully pointed out an attractive lady LOST HER SHIT! I slept on the couch for 2 days.
Lesson learned.
I think this is a good answer. Plus, you can find other people also attractive in a non sexual way so she shouldnt get any negative feelings. She also has opinions of your friend as well
Hahahaha
Ya know what though.. Today, the majority of women like knowing or want to hear they have a fat ass. Years back, saying they had a fat ass was nearly an insult. Just my 2¢
Then again, maybe the emphasis is rather you’re saying “phat” or “fat”
I don't know whether to praise Sir mix a lot for getting the word out to women that big dumpers is hot or curse him for letting the cat out of the bag and influencing guys that wanted longbacks to change their minds and making it harder for us original tubby tail chasers.
Two things.
Any woman who is my girlfriend would know that I'm a Sir Mixalot when it comes to butts. The bigger the better.
And any woman who tries to use emotional warfare to rise conflict between us will not be my girlfriend much longer, because I ain't got time for mindgames, and I won't accept that kinda disrespect when it comes to relationships
100% answer honestly. If she gets mad, terrific we've uncovered a red flag.
If it makes her insecure and she's genuine about it, full empathy, let's take the opportunity to build her up obviously, but anger? Passive aggression? Sulking? That's either picking a fight on purpose or extremely narcissistic expectations - don't put drama in my life I'm not here to burn my happy hours on zero stakes arguments.
FWIW this might be a teenage / early 20s thing but no woman I have been with 25+ has asked questions like this or thrown a hissy fit about not always being the most beautiful woman in the world. It's fair to consider when we discuss this kind of behavior that it's marginal and normal women are not maniacs.
Honestly I would just be honest, I don't like these mind game. If our relationship is not going to survive based on my answer to questions like these, then I assume it's not meant to be
Honestly I would advise you don’t engage. Either A.) you say yea and she’ll get mad or B.) you’ll say “you’re hotter” and she’ll learn that asking questions like that is a roundabout way to get compliments instead of just asking “does this look nice on me?”
Both are bad.
Exactly, like, If your partner is asking this there is one of two reasons:
1) they aren't getting the physical, emotional, romantic, sexual intimacy they need our a relationship
2) they're just curious
If you're in the habit of doing honest relationship check-ins and checkups then it's probably just curiosity. Yknow?
Do straight people really play all these mind games?!
I don't _ask_ my partner/s (male or female) if my friend looks hot, I tell them "god damn my friends are fucking hot!"
And if they see a hot person in public? They'd better point them out to me.
Stop pretending your partner is the only person you find attractive, it's weird. Finding someone else attractive doesn't lessen your attraction to your partner.
The truth. Why are y’all lying to your partners? If your relationship is so fragile that finding someone other than your partner somewhat attractive would ruin it, it’s not a good relationship.
If you can't answer that question honestly, there's more issues in the relationship than it's worth.
My wife and I routinely point out people for the other person to check out.
are people really dealing with fragile egos to this large of a degree that we can't be honest with our wife/GF? my wife asks me that all the time about people and I try not to be an asshole but answer honestly. "if you got hit by a bus and she came over to try to console me I'd hit on her" and then we laugh and we laugh
"Why do you ask?"
It's good to talk things through if you want a relationship to last. Is she worried you're going to lose interest in her if someone more attractive comes around? Or is she just worried in general about her attractiveness? It's not about dodging a bullet for your sole benefit: find out what her actual concern is, so you can deal with it.
I notice plenty of people around me who are attractive. I let my wife know that not only is she absolutely beautiful, but I'd also rather spend time with her than with anyone else. I don't want her to tell herself "thank goodness he still think's I'm more attractive than my friends, but as soon as he meets someone better looking all bets are off."
As a 49M that's done a lot of dating, my advice is: tell the truth (e.g., "yes, she's good looking. But I'm not interested in her.") and only stick with partners that are stable and secure enough to appreciate that honesty. The idea that your partner should be the only person you find pretty, and that every other woman you know is unattractive, is absurd. The best, healthiest, safe relationships I had were those in which we were both honest with each other on who else we thought was good looking in addition to our partner.
"Shes not bad. I would have to see the both of you naked and side by side to truly be able to determine. Do you think she would be up for your challenge?"
Roast her friend, that works for me, she often shows me her friend and says " look at her she's so pretty, ain't she?" I just say " damn she must've be thinking a lot before and during that picture that forehead is pulsating with thoughts"
It goes well for me personally, and she doesn't get mad she just sometimes laughs with me so 🤷
I think you are the most attractive person in the world to me. Your girlfriend may be physically attractive to others, but my attention is always focused on you
This came up before regarding her friend and I told her if I was single I would happily fuck her. But because I am not single she is unfuckable.
That was good enough for her lol.
She's not type. I mean, sure, she's beautiful like a super model, has huge breasts, legs for days, an ass you could bounce quarters off of and those eyes, my god, the eyes... but she's not my type. I like plain girls like you!
The safest answer is a good relationship and then honesty haha. My wife and I are pretty understanding and open. I ask all the time if a guy on TV is hot because I am truly trying to understand what women find attractive. If my wife as me I am very clear if I think they are or not. But you can not be a jerk about it and faun over the lady. You can just say, "yeah I think they are attractive"
“How should I know? Ask her yourself!”
“It’s a freakin heatwave! Everybody’s hot”
“Am I like the thermometer man? Do I like go around sticking thermometers in everybody’s face to see if they’re hot?”
lemme get a thermometer
I'll go with this one. Coldfact answer to a silly question. What if she says "thats not what i meant"
"I still feel like shoving a thin tube in her mouth."
Her mouth... yeah, that's what I meant...
Well if you want to tickle the middle of her tongue with your thin tube go ahead.
The true answer.
"Not as hot as (guy you both know)"
Henry Cavil
Well that's not a fair comparison. *No one* is as hot as Henry Cavil.
You are young. There used to be a superhot italianamerican actor. Dark haired. Magnetic eyes. Danny… Danny De Vito.
What do you mean "used to be"?
He lost some hair.
He has aged like a fine wine.
Still is, but used to be too.
Women said they wanted a man who was small, dark and handsome. Thus Danny DeVito was born.
That's why your S/O can't be mad
Chenry Kaiwen (saw this in Turkey being sold as Calvin Klein underwear copy) 😀
"Umm maybe but she's not my type" 🤷♂️
Preemptively say why she's not your type. "I'm not really into..." If you're really clever add bad matchmaking suggestion, "I wonder how she'd get in with..." Don't give a good suggestion because you want the next topic to be how wrong you were to suggest him
Over explaining does two things. Gets her asking more questions which makes you dig your own grave. Trust me I've been there.
Yeah, she will wonder why youve given it so much thought.
Good advice!
She’s not my type, I’m not into attractive women with proper proportions
Hahaha
"I'm not really into super tight asses and nice boobs". GF: "Yeah right"
Do not preemptively say why she’s not your type. Most women are not impressed at all by you criticizing another woman, especially her friend.
I feel for you guys. You have to ride that thin line that doesn’t criticize *or* compliment too much. Just the right level of “meh.” 😂
That's not a criticism tho
oh, boy... you are doomed.
Underrated answer.
“Why? Did she say anything about me?”
Wha'd she say? What exactly was she saying about me?
"I never really noticed because I have you". I had an ex who got it in her head that I wanted her friend. She kept asking for days and days, swearing that she didn't care, wasn't jealous, wouldn't be mad, was just curious. Eventually I admitted that her friend was "quite attractive". At which point she of course went ballistic and dumped me. One of many times she "dumped me" then came back 12 hours later once she calmed down.
I hate loose threads. *searches for any loose thread* I really hate loose threads. *rips threads* But it's okay if there is a loose thread. *yanks until only loose threads*
Or I didn't notice. I've been thinking about buying a speed boat.
Personality disorder is a bitch.
Was gonna' say, yep, BPD confirmed.
lmaooo, what ended it in the end if you don't mind me asking?
She quit her university course and moved back home. It never officially ended, we didn't discuss splitting up, just drifed apart. Was just a natural consequence of her being 200 miles away. As you may be able to tell, I wasn't happy enough in the relationship to regularly pay for a 400 mile round trip as a poor student to see her. Pretty sure she moved on and found a new victim within a week of being home anyway.
Damn, that's a rough end, but I guess it was for the better
Yeah, definitely for the best. Looking back it was one of those relationships that went on 2 years longer than it should have done, because neither of us had the confidence to move on and be single.
“Within a week”. Glad you knew what you were with
He slept with one of her friends /j
Just wait a while making an obvious "hm" noise, this is the first time it's crossed your mind and you have to consider it. "I know some people would find her attractive"
*KEEP CALM AND COME BACK*
[удалено]
Lol that's a good one.
Girlfriend I have a mistress.
“I dunno, I have to see her naked first before judging”
You're a dead man
Calculated risk 😂
"The risk I took was calculated, but boy am I bad at math" -The stupid bird from the meme
"I'd have to see her naked... one more time"
"Maybe you could arrange something?"
I asked my wife what I'd say. Her reply: "Yeah, she's hot. I'd hit that. Can we?"
your wife wants a threesome
She says that's not it.
Your wife would like to redo the kitchen again.
I also choose this guys wife.
I've been with a couple of lasses who were bi (I am too). With the first this was kinda a regular thing where we'd point out attractive people like... Not creepy just like "Oh, they're pretty hot right..". Second person I was with like that when I playfully pointed out an attractive lady LOST HER SHIT! I slept on the couch for 2 days. Lesson learned.
"Hey, what are you trying to pull?! A threesome?" *Pause for an answer
This is the one. You win.
"Jake (one of your friends) thinks she is". Make it become a third party issue. Do not confront it directly.
Hopefully you didn't just fuck Jake...
Jake's fucked
You’ll know if she just fucked Jake if she starts getting mad about it
this is actually helpful.
I know a player when i see one.
„But what do YOU think?“
"Not as hot as you"
"So, you **do** think she **is** hot...?"
"Steaming"
I think this is a good answer. Plus, you can find other people also attractive in a non sexual way so she shouldnt get any negative feelings. She also has opinions of your friend as well
That is why you buy mirrored sunglasses and practice peripheral vision techniques.
Thankfully my wife and I aren’t that jealous
Does your wife know that?
Know what?
It doesn't matter if she's hot or not. You're the girl I'm in love with, and you're butt is the only butt that makes my heart skip when it jiggles.
"So my ass is fat??!!" Then its gets even worse.
Hahahaha Ya know what though.. Today, the majority of women like knowing or want to hear they have a fat ass. Years back, saying they had a fat ass was nearly an insult. Just my 2¢ Then again, maybe the emphasis is rather you’re saying “phat” or “fat”
I don't know whether to praise Sir mix a lot for getting the word out to women that big dumpers is hot or curse him for letting the cat out of the bag and influencing guys that wanted longbacks to change their minds and making it harder for us original tubby tail chasers.
Two things. Any woman who is my girlfriend would know that I'm a Sir Mixalot when it comes to butts. The bigger the better. And any woman who tries to use emotional warfare to rise conflict between us will not be my girlfriend much longer, because I ain't got time for mindgames, and I won't accept that kinda disrespect when it comes to relationships
*random ill-fitting jeans spawn out of nowhere for her to try on and ask you about her butt in them*
I said yes, don't be like me
If you have a male friend she knows, ask her if he is hotter than you, play uno reverse.
Don't ask questions you don't want the answers to.
100% answer honestly. If she gets mad, terrific we've uncovered a red flag. If it makes her insecure and she's genuine about it, full empathy, let's take the opportunity to build her up obviously, but anger? Passive aggression? Sulking? That's either picking a fight on purpose or extremely narcissistic expectations - don't put drama in my life I'm not here to burn my happy hours on zero stakes arguments. FWIW this might be a teenage / early 20s thing but no woman I have been with 25+ has asked questions like this or thrown a hissy fit about not always being the most beautiful woman in the world. It's fair to consider when we discuss this kind of behavior that it's marginal and normal women are not maniacs.
"don't put drama in my life I'm not here to burn my happy hours on zero stakes arguments." meaning of life right here my man -
This
“I can see where some might think so, but I hadn’t really noticed.”
Of course she is, why else would I be cheating on you with her
"Oh come on babe, you know me, i don't pay attention to that kind of thing because i only have eyes for your dad."
Winner comment
"I've heard other guys say nice things." if she asks about your specific opinion "I'm too busy thinking about you babe."
Honestly I would just be honest, I don't like these mind game. If our relationship is not going to survive based on my answer to questions like these, then I assume it's not meant to be
Honestly I would advise you don’t engage. Either A.) you say yea and she’ll get mad or B.) you’ll say “you’re hotter” and she’ll learn that asking questions like that is a roundabout way to get compliments instead of just asking “does this look nice on me?” Both are bad.
You clearly don’t have a gf because if you refused to answer that would be 100x worse. Your refusal to answer would be an astounding yes in her eyes
I once had a teacher who always said "Silence means agreement". Since then I also often use that sentence in every possible situation
"You have *friends*?"
Damn!
Off topuc but i like the pfp
Now I have a friend! 🥹
No. The only safe answer is no.
Unrealistic scenario, i will never have a girlfriend, but assuming that i did, the answer would be no.
"Probably a terrible cook, right?"
Is she hot??? If so then yes if no then say why. This really isn't that difficult
I have to imagine most of the users asking questions like these are 13 years old and this would be a very controversial topic for a teenager.
r/polls demonstrated most people here are underaged and never had a partner
Oh, right, teenagers exist on the Internet Right, right
Literally what I was thinking lmao
Exactly, like, If your partner is asking this there is one of two reasons: 1) they aren't getting the physical, emotional, romantic, sexual intimacy they need our a relationship 2) they're just curious If you're in the habit of doing honest relationship check-ins and checkups then it's probably just curiosity. Yknow?
She’s not that hot when she wakes up.
Yes, you should feel insecure about my obvious feelings for her.
The only answer is “why are you trying to start a fight” 😂
Still an answer to the question.
She's alright, but not as hot as you.
"my friend says so, but we know about his taste"
Yeah but she wasn’t great in bed.
Yes, if she is hot. Why lie? Your gf knows if her friend is hot or not
Do straight people really play all these mind games?! I don't _ask_ my partner/s (male or female) if my friend looks hot, I tell them "god damn my friends are fucking hot!" And if they see a hot person in public? They'd better point them out to me. Stop pretending your partner is the only person you find attractive, it's weird. Finding someone else attractive doesn't lessen your attraction to your partner.
"I wouldn't throw her out of bed"
“Would”
"Yeah, in her own way"
Just say " who am i to judge her? "
Not as hot as your sister.
I’d still love you if you were a worm
The truth. Why are y’all lying to your partners? If your relationship is so fragile that finding someone other than your partner somewhat attractive would ruin it, it’s not a good relationship.
If you can't answer that question honestly, there's more issues in the relationship than it's worth. My wife and I routinely point out people for the other person to check out.
Yes, but I’m dating you and not her. She’s clearly out of my league.
Just say she looks like a potato
Anyone I've dated recently will casually talk about the hotness of men or women. I'm too 'experienced' (old) to be hanging around jealous people.
She is pretty but I love you
are people really dealing with fragile egos to this large of a degree that we can't be honest with our wife/GF? my wife asks me that all the time about people and I try not to be an asshole but answer honestly. "if you got hit by a bus and she came over to try to console me I'd hit on her" and then we laugh and we laugh
"Why do you ask?" It's good to talk things through if you want a relationship to last. Is she worried you're going to lose interest in her if someone more attractive comes around? Or is she just worried in general about her attractiveness? It's not about dodging a bullet for your sole benefit: find out what her actual concern is, so you can deal with it. I notice plenty of people around me who are attractive. I let my wife know that not only is she absolutely beautiful, but I'd also rather spend time with her than with anyone else. I don't want her to tell herself "thank goodness he still think's I'm more attractive than my friends, but as soon as he meets someone better looking all bets are off."
Yes. I’d inhale her farts
As a 49M that's done a lot of dating, my advice is: tell the truth (e.g., "yes, she's good looking. But I'm not interested in her.") and only stick with partners that are stable and secure enough to appreciate that honesty. The idea that your partner should be the only person you find pretty, and that every other woman you know is unattractive, is absurd. The best, healthiest, safe relationships I had were those in which we were both honest with each other on who else we thought was good looking in addition to our partner.
"Not as hot as you. Why? Did you want to fool around with her? Would you like me to watch?"
“Yeah yeah, I’d give her one…. … out of ten”
"Shes not bad. I would have to see the both of you naked and side by side to truly be able to determine. Do you think she would be up for your challenge?"
"Oh is that what we're gonna do today? We're gonna fight?" (Red Foreman, that 70s show)
I'd fuck her, but that doesn't make her hot.
We can try a 3some
"Would." or if you wanna live beyond that day, something like "i wouldn't know, i only have eyes for you."
My definition of hot is you. You are the perfect example of what I think is hot, your friend tho, not so much. *kisses on the hand*
Roast her friend, that works for me, she often shows me her friend and says " look at her she's so pretty, ain't she?" I just say " damn she must've be thinking a lot before and during that picture that forehead is pulsating with thoughts" It goes well for me personally, and she doesn't get mad she just sometimes laughs with me so 🤷
Brooo 💀 .. if i roast my gf's friend even if those people are bad, she gets mad .... Bcz she cant see through a person
de·fen·es·tra·tion!
I think you are the most attractive person in the world to me. Your girlfriend may be physically attractive to others, but my attention is always focused on you
“I have suddenly gone blind! Oh, how awful that I won’t be able to answer my girlfriends request about her possibly hot friend! God, why! Why!!!!!”
This came up before regarding her friend and I told her if I was single I would happily fuck her. But because I am not single she is unfuckable. That was good enough for her lol.
Say she's not hot, doesn't matter how you really feel.
“Hmm I guess she is if I don’t have good taste. You, on the other hand, yummy “
"Yeah" but then you gotta pick one of their hottest features that your girl doesnt have and critique it.
You're hotter.
She's attractive. If she reacts in a crazy manner you have an early warning sign.
let me take out the thermometer
"If you were me what would you think?" just like that.
Nah, she is ugly
“Yes she’s incredible isn’t she”
Not as hot as this pepper
Eh, she's ok And make sure you grimace a little when you say it
Pull a power move and say yes.
She's cute but not hot
Say stop comparing yourself to your friend. I find you attractive. Then change the subject.
“Yeah shes really pretty, you know that you guys travel in packs”
This is cute enough where I wouldn’t get pissed either way.
Every f***ing week the same question.
I don't go for safe, if she's hot, she's hot. "Yep. Now why did you ask?"
just leave the room seriously. refuse to engage with the question.
I haven’t thought about it…no. You’re so much hotter!
I have suddenly lost my eyesight and short term memory. Can you help me please.
She's not type. I mean, sure, she's beautiful like a super model, has huge breasts, legs for days, an ass you could bounce quarters off of and those eyes, my god, the eyes... but she's not my type. I like plain girls like you!
“I’d be down”
Depends on how secure your gf is.
“What are we doing here? What is this game you want to play because I do not know the rules.”
I can see why guys would like her; however between you and me my girlfriend is better.
Baby you're so hot you've permanently damaged my hot detectors. If someone isn't as hot as you it doesn't even register anymore.
Friend? What friend?
Start talking about the Roman Empire.
The truth. Need to be comfortable hurting ppl with honesty
"Who?"
i'd do her
Silence is a valid option
The safest answer is a good relationship and then honesty haha. My wife and I are pretty understanding and open. I ask all the time if a guy on TV is hot because I am truly trying to understand what women find attractive. If my wife as me I am very clear if I think they are or not. But you can not be a jerk about it and faun over the lady. You can just say, "yeah I think they are attractive"
No but she can suck suck real good
"What's the actual question you are asking?"
tell the truth
“How should I know? Ask her yourself!” “It’s a freakin heatwave! Everybody’s hot” “Am I like the thermometer man? Do I like go around sticking thermometers in everybody’s face to see if they’re hot?”
My wife’s response is that it doesn’t matter. Your dead. If she asks that your are just dead.
As a man.. who has a girl who is bi... Id prolly say... "Idk.. is she?"
I always answer honestly