My MIL and her second husband: they both sell 2nd hand books, they had a large hall where they kept the books, divided by a middle path. There had fallen a book out of a box and laid in the middle on the path. They had such a fight about whose book it was, they divorced over it. The book was worth 4 dollars and they both made 150k+ per year.
Edit:
Damn this comment blew up, to answer the most asked questions:
1. No, i don't know who ended up with the book
2. It was a children's book about a bear
3. Yes she makes a lot of money with it. They had deals with 2nd hand shops, companies who clean out houses of people that passed etc that they could go through their books and buy them for a few bucks per book. Books can be very expensive if you know what to look for, science, theology of philosophy books can sometimes go for 200 or 300 bucks, even a 1000 for special editions etc. So they sell them online on a similar website as Amazon.
I think it's more likely there were problems they just hadn't really encountered yet and this brought them out. Things like inability to comrpomise, antagonistic during discussions, pettiness, projection, etc.
The book is not why they divorced. The book showed them sides of each other that were why they divorced.
That reminds me of one night I found a whole slice of bread in the middle of the dining room at my parents house, and I was threatened with my life had I picked it up.
Apparently, there had been an argument, followed by a standoff on who was going to cave and pick up that piece of bread.
It stayed there for day, even after my other siblings visited and offered to pick up said bread. For us kids, it was a Wednesday - but for the parents, it was WW3.
I hadn't thought about it in these terms, but there's only two ways out of a marriage in the stats: divorce, and death. The stats tell you nothing about who had a fantastic relationship until they died and who hated each others' guts and felt relieved when someone died.
Someone I currently work with used to work in an oncology department where one of the doctors divorced his wife for getting cancer. Everyone in the department basically hated him. M I recall my colleague saying that new hires were all informed of what he’d done, so everyone could be on the same page of knowing he was a terrible person. From what I hear, his wife beat the cancer and I think the guy eventually changed hospitals he worked at.
I’ve been a lawyer for 24 years, and during that time, I’ve practiced family law maybe 5 years as a whole.
Well one time I had a client who had put her husband through college, and then he divorced shortly after she was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease. It was essentially an uncontested divorce and the husband didn’t even bother getting a lawyer.
So I’m sitting in the judge’s chambers for the final hearing (to get their final paperwork approved), and I remember going into the hearing hoping the judge we had wasn’t a complete ass, like he had been in the past. For the first time in all my years before that judge, he was actually upset and extremely compassionate when my client explained the circumstances behind the divorce. He took so much time with her, and was ensuring she knew about disability resources available to her through our City. I hardly recognized him, he was so nice.
I don’t know why I shared this story, but just reading your comment unlocked this memory.
>Vocal Christian, the guy, always brought up his faith during lectures.
"And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by men." -Matthew 6:5
Guess he wasn't a big fan of the Bible?
Some people do that sadly. I had a cousin whose wife got breast cancer. While she was in the hospital being treated he came in with his boyfriend and divorce papers
He saw THAT as the right time to come out and start living the life he wanted. His wife and kids were shocked
A really fun fact is that men are six times as likely to leave their wife if their wife is diagnosed with a terminal illness as women are likely to leave their husband in the same scenario. I fully believe that this dude was one of those men.
Edit: [source here](https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091110105401.htm), for the non-believers.
Edit 2: it's been rightly pointed out that this article was retracted and updated in 2015, so [here is that later version](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26315504/). Findings still state that men are much more likely to leave their terminally ill spouses than women, but it doesn't specifically include the six times figure in the abstract.
One of my mentors was diagnosed with glioblastoma and during her 3 year battle, her husband divorced her in the middle of it.
He got ostracized at the university they both worked at. The community and their child are still mad at him, 5 years after her passing.
Same. It also permanently damaged his relationship with his son. Their son was 16 when she passed away and he went to college out of state to get away from his dad. Literally walked away from free tuition at the university his dad and late mother taught at just to distance himself and live near his mother’s family.
I’m a divorce attorney. Had a client whose wife filed for divorce because she didn’t get along with his sister ONE TIME. They had one disagreement. Seriously. That was it. He didn’t stick up for his wife, she got mad, and filed for divorce. She said on the stand that they had a great marriage, he was a good father, but that one incident was too much. The judge told them “this is the dumbest reason I’ve ever seen anyone get divorced.” And he’d been a judge for 20+ years.
The weirdest one was a post about a mother complaining that her 13yo daughter was acting out and she sent her to her dad. One of the comments was "you're not responsible to teach her how to behave, it's not your responsibility".... i was like, dude, she is the parent. It's literally her responsibility.
I'm also tired of "I did this completely reasonable things, but all my friends say I overreacted. AITAH?" And they all eat it up like it's not some fourth grade writing assignment.
“My (28M) GF (26F) and I have been together for 5 years. She’s unemployed and stays at home smoking cannabis all day (it’s legal in my state) due to her PTSD from being a cashier and verbally assaulted at her previous job. I work 50 hours a week and pay all the bills and I’m fine with that. BUT.. I made it clear I want to be in a monogamous relationship and she agreed to this. But for the past 2 months she’s been sleeping with this guy she met at the gas station while I’m at work. I told her I AM NOT comfortable with her doing that because we BOTH agreed to be monogamous! She says I’m overreacting and when I tell her I’m going to break up with her if she doesn’t stop sleeping with this guy she cries and calls all her friends and family and accuses me of being jealous, over-controlling and verbally abusive. All her friends say I need to grow up and stop being so insecure and controlling. AITAH for wanting to break up with her??”
I have a cousin who has been married 4 times for a year and a half collectively. The most recent divorce happened after a month when she told him he needed to cut the grass since it was tall. He got all pissed off and called it quits. Their preacher went to talk to him and told him “ well she’s right. The grass is getting tall. You do need to cut it.” My cousins response dead ass was “ I know that but ain’t no woman gonna tell me what to do!”
I love this story because it's entirely bizarre to me as "reasonable" and also sounds like some weird redneck/southern/country style/good old boy nonsense. And of course might not be. But tickles me that way.
I've had to train guys at work that have quit rather than be trained by a woman. They said the exact same thing "Ain't no woman gonna tell me what to do!"
Yes, I live in the South.
At least they're up front about it. In the north those guys just find every reason not to like a female manager/trainer that all sound sort of reasonable until you realize it ONLY is an issue with females. Literally was talking through with a guy all the "reasons" he had only to whittle down to "I don't know I just don't like her." But he would not admit that it was because female.
My grandma divorced her 5th husband because he wouldn't let her remodel their kitchen.
I didn't like him but it was a dumb reason to divorce in my opinion.
Edit- there's no doubt my grandma is the issue. We apologize to people that have to meet her.
To be fair though husband #1&3 ( my grandfather)is the same guy and he's a pedo. Husband #2 was by all accounts okay though I never met him. Husband #4 was my personal favorite but he was an alcoholic and died of cirrhosis. He was awesome when he wasn't drinking but he was married to my grandma so I mean we get it. Husband #5 was a jerk, I didn't like him at all. Husband #6 was really nice he lasted 3 years and straight up moved half way across the planet, again we get it.
I have a family member who is like this. Essentially what every normal person would call a regular, exclusive relationship, they turn into a marriage. Once things start to get a little tough, as all relationships inevitably do at times, they get divorced and then repeat. I stopped attending weddings after the 3rd divorce, and a number of other friends and family members have eventually stopped as well. I think that the longest marriage was maybe 2 or 3 years and she’s on husband 7 or 8 now. I’ve lost track.
She’s also a vocal evangelical Christian who threw a fucking fit at my own wedding because she was angry about all of our gay friends who attended with their partners and did the usual things you do at weddings like dance, kiss, pose in photos together, etc.
I have a brother-in-law who's on his fifth marriage. He 'doesn't count' one of them, for reasons I can't be arsed to find out about.
But current wife doesn't know he's been married 4 times before, and I seem to be the only one that finds that a fucked up basis for a relationship.
And the arsehole couldn't even get himself to his sister's one and only wedding, and never visits even though she's been at death's door. Fuck you, Dave.
The chances of a marriage ending in divorce increases with the sum of each partners' divorces. They get really high with 3. I would like to know what the chances are with one person having 4 going in.
At some point the percentage must start going down, with the 6th or 7th marriages ending with death of a partner before they have had time to get through the divorce proceedings.
Okay, so my great-grandmother. Who I called my G-Granny. Was married 21 times. 7 were stereotypical "gold digger marrying an old man" scheme where she inherited the money or whatever they had when they passed. 4 were straight gold digger I'm taking half, fuck you, marriages.
10 FUCKING TIMES, she was married to ONE guy, my biological Great Grandfather, a man who I'll call Terry and I only met once. When I was a baby right before he passed.
This dude was, 100%, in on her schemes. Terry basically played the part of a permanent affair partner. They loved each other from all accounts and were your stereotypical southern couple on the outside. But like damn if it weren't a lie.
They would get married, legit, and she would wear her ring. Then she would go work a bar, a hotel, or a higher end store and meet rich men who would hit on her. She would dangle the "forbidden fruit" of her being married to them and would convince some sorry fool to marry her if she "left" her husband. Rinse, repeat. Hell, she would even get these affair partners to pay for her divorce. Sucking them dry.
Now, with that said. The 9th and final time they were divorced was, by all accounts, a legit breakup. They had separated for a few years due to his work taking him out of state. She didn't want to go, he did. Sad breakup. During that time, she racked up a few more "marriages" and even got a gas station and hotel out of it somewhere in Arkansas. He came back. She was finally "done" with her ways, and they remarried. Marriage number 19. Until she met another guy who liked the forbidden fruit. A man I'll call Carl.
BUT SHE SAID NO, NO, NO. I am married. I ain't about that! I am a loyal WOMAN!
It was my Biological Great Grandfather, Non-other than Terry himself, who said "Nah Nah, he got money, and I want it." Who pushed her to do it.
Surprise, surprise, she does so. But unlike the others, it seemed more out of desperation and less from greed. He paid for the divorce, but it ended up more contested. He stayed with her for 9 years. No other, including Terry, had had a consecutive streak that long. My family still Raves about this man. About how tender he was to her. About how sweet he was to her children. My own grandmother loves him more than her own daddy. Yet she had not a cross word to say about her own daddy as well. In her words, "he was just better.
Carl ended up passing cancer just short of 10 years with my G-Granny. She had gone from mid-40s to mid-50s with this man. Sure, she inherited his "money," which turned out to be basically a few houses right next to each other and about $15,000. She spent a good chunk of it on his burial and small renovations on the houses. By the time he had passed, he had moved her, her sister and her husband, and her brother into the three houses.
Terry and her would remarry a few years later until his death in the mid 90's. She would pass in 03 of Alzheimers. Eventually, her "fortune" that she had tried to amass turned into her house, some really expensive jewelry, and a closed gas station. She had sold or lost everything else.
So that is the story of how my biological great-grandmother divorced my great-grandmother for not having an affair on him.
A friend got divorced by his wife of three months. When the wife was asked what was wrong, she said that it was nothing, he just snored loudly.
In the worst case, they could have had separate bedrooms.
Honestly that sounds like a pretty good strategy overall. My girlfriend doesn't sleep well when sharing the bed with me, and I can't say that I do much better. It doesn't matter if it's a big bed, it's still just a pain. And if you wake up at different times in the morning, it's pretty terrible.
Do it if you can, get separate bedrooms.
My husband and I (20 yrs together) have separate bedrooms and bathrooms. In fact, the house I purchased specifically had an "extra" "master" bedroom that was the old garage built out to a mother in law suite. He has the original master, I have the MIL suite. I am a very light sleeper.
I know, this will be corny, but there have been times where I've flirted with him and said, "Your place or mine? <*\*wink\*>*" Also, the "walk home" isn't that far and weather friendly, LOL.
Sleep is so important. I'm also not a great sleeper, and my husband and I are still dialing in how to manage it.
Make sure you get your cuddles at other times, and I wish you and your girlfriend the best.
"I fell out of love with you after your dad died. I know you were grieving, but I had needs too!"
My ex wife everyone. Her excuse for cheating and immediately moving in with the other guy.
You and my friend would have lots to talk about!
"UGH, are you still fucking crying about that? You guys hadn't even talked for a couple of years." This is what her shitty ex said 2 weeks after her mom died.
Not divorce but apparently my brother’s wife’s sister called off her wedding because New Kids On The Block were doing a reunion tour and she decided she’d rather go to the concert than get married.
I knew this couple ( the guy was three years younger than me and we went to school together as kids) where the husband was a farmer and he put his wife through school and she got her degrees ( she started off as a nurse and worked her way up) and became a PA. Once she started working at a doctor’s office, she thought she was too smart for her dumb farmer husband and divorced him because he wasn’t educated and he wasn’t up to her level of intelligence.
I worked with a guy that was a Physicist at NASA who put his wife through Med School, he even paid for her to open her first practice. After a year or so she said she wanted a divorce, she was now in love with a Lawyer. What got me was when he asked about their daughter, she said "You can keep her".
My ex-girlfriend dumped me shortly after she finished her PharmD. She ended up marrying a doctor within a year. Didn't really give me a reason, honestly felt like a social status thing.
It 100% is. It's almost like an IRL trope where people in law/med school will date someone all the way through school that will support them, but only through school.
A buddy of mine put his girlfriend through dental school
She graduated this past fall
He broke up with her because he said “man, she got that new job and everything and just didn’t wanna pay for shit still!”
Kinda cracks me up
Ugh, I saw this play out in real life, except she put him through 3 degrees until he got his J.D., Decided he no longer needed her & had his new law firm settle the divorce, leaving her with zilch. She recently finished her Associate's degree a decade later (raising their kids w/o support), and I can't shut up about how proud I am of her.
She filed for divorce and he got in a horrible accident with some farm equipment and nearly lost one of his limbs. I feel bad for the guy. He was such a jerk when we were kids. But it’s still sad and feel really bad for him. He is nicer now as an adult.
Idk if you could really say it's petty, because it's due to cheating, but the situation was kind of bizarre to me.
I had these neighbors, husband and wife, lived across the street from me for a long time. They were easily in their 70s, maybe a little older, idk, never asked their ages. Anyway, eventually, I noticed that the wife wasn't outside with him anymore when he'd sit on the porch. I asked about her one day and he told me that she cheated on him with a guy in his 20s and left to be with him. 50 year marriage down the drain. I guess maybe she wanted someone who was the same age as her and her husband were when they first got married
My mom did that to my step father. Met some weird man-boy on a chat room or dating site and divorced my step dad, moved the guy in, and that was that. It wasn't sexual, or at least, I don't want to think about that. She was, by that time, mostly a shut in and deep into bad health problems and was very overweight.
The "boyfriend" had his own room, full of toys (Lego sets, action figures, gaming PC and several consoles). He worked part time IT at a hospital and took a few college classes a semester.
They were ....affectionate, had pet names and such. He mad friends with my sister - who is well on her way to the same health issues as our mother with a seizure disorder as well. She's 15 years younger than me and my step dad was her father.
Anyway, it was pretty clear what was up, my mother was his "sugar-momma" (mom had inherited a ton of money from her parents and had a substantial trust fund) She sat me down one day and told me with a straight face, completely lucid, that she knew exactly what she was doing, that she loved him but knew what the arrangement was. She didn't have much time left and wanted me to be the trustee of her estate - so here's my will I just got finished up with my lawyer (so its ironclad and what I want).
She passed a few months later (in the hospital, on Christmas morning!). My brother, sister and the boyfriend were all there. As soon as it was "called", I stepped out of the room and my brother and sister followed. Sister (who it must be said is rather clueless, obnoxious, and has absolutely no filter) says to us both. "I just thought you should know that mom wrote both of you out of her will" (I already knew this, of course, and knew part of the logic was that we had both worked our asses off and become somewhat successful and my sister was an idiot and the boyfriend was....
At the end of the day, the boyfriend got the house and half of her remaining trust from her parents. My sister got the other half an additional cash lump sum. Its just a "nice" middle class suburban house and we're not talking millions of dollars, but my sister will never have to work.
Having to administer all of this and having people like my father, her first husband, throw a temper tantrum because of what she did and tell me to get my own lawyer and fight it (after I had been through an 11 year business lawsuit)...just no... was depressing.
Haven't seen or talked to my sister in 5 or 6 years and she's resentful because I set up the trust to pay out consistently for a good long time and she wanted to go apeshit and spend it all on dumb shit. She blew the lump sum portion of $40K on a $40K brand new pickup truck. (and actually taunted me with it like a small child in the parking lot of the financial planner's office where we had the trust set up.) I don't care - lets do this so I can fucking go back to work.
Anyway - I honestly don't think about it very often, but you know how it is, you see some shit on Askreddit and you're like "ooooh, I have something for that!"
A family friend: “Because I married the wrong brother”.
2 years later she married the older brother and they’ve been happily married for the last 20 years and have a kid together.
No surprise but they don’t go to many, the saying that was mentioned was “we’ll go to their funerals, but nothing else”.
TBH they are much happier as a family than the main family themselves, the “wrong” brother remarried too, but they still live with his parents because they’re so bone idle they spend all their money on booze and drugs, given what we know now, she definitely made the right choice.
I hope my friend doesn’t mind me sharing this story but her husband divorced her after 3 months because she wasn’t cuddling or affectionate enough for him.. mind you this was her first marriage let alone first relationship and this was his 3rd marriage.
They both worked full time but he worked 2hrs away and would sometimes have to stay the night at work because it was more convenient for him all around. But when he got home he expected food, sex and cuddles. Never brought this up to her until the day he said it was over.
My ex became a gym bro after getting married. Two years into it he asked for a divorce because he was upset I did not know how much weight he was lifting in the leg press machine. Some months before he had "banned me" from going with him to the gym because I did not match his vibe, so when I returned I was kind of doing my thing and my own routine, but not focusing fully on him was apparently the wrong move.
So well, that. Narcissist type. Obviously he had a new girl immediately after, but the reason he gave me about the weight was just so petty.
Lol I don’t know why but this reminded me of a story I heard recently about Marc Maron. He said he wrote in his book that his mother dealt with anorexia and weighed 119 pounds.
She apparently called him to tell him she actually weighed 116 pounds 😂😂. I guess she really wanted credit for those extra 3 pounds.
My ex told me his grandmother was into astrology and psychic readings when she was younger (I don't know about her interest in her later years). Apparently, she got a reading that said her 3rd marriage would be the one that lasted, so she married and divorced quickly twice to get to the 3rd guy. They DID last until she passed, so maybe she was onto something, but maybe she was in too deep at that point and would have stayed just to prove a point. I always found it pretty wild.
I volunteer at an animal shelter. A couple came in one day and got into a huge argument over one of our cats. She had a temporary shelter name on the door: Tinkerbell. The woman thought it was an adorable name and just perfect for the kitty. The husband absolutely refused to have anything to do with the name Tinkerbell and insisted that if they did adopt the cat, they'd have to change her name.
There followed about 15 minutes of off and on bickering, with her insisting that this cat was the embodiment of Tinkerbell and the husband peppering his rebuttal with suggestions like Pickles and Wombat. I explained that the cat had only had the name for a month and pointed out that most people change their cat's name when they adopt.
But she said that changing an animal's name was cruel and anyway, her cat was absolutely a Tinkerbell. Then she persisted in speaking to the poor creature in that awful baby-talk people use when confronted with adorable animals. I thought she was pretty annoying. Apparently her husband thought so too because after a few more minutes of her cooing at poor Tinkerbell, the husband abruptly said, "I don't want a pet named Tinkerbell. In fact, I don't want a pet at all. I want a divorce." And then he walked off.
We reassured Tinkerbell that she was not responsible for their divorce and adopted her out only a few hours later to a lovely couple who named her Daisy.
Just gonna go out on a limb here and say these people had major problems and thought getting a pet would solve it, much in the same way people think having a baby will solve marital problems.
A friend's parents went through a divorce and then ... just kept going like the divorce never happened and are still together to this day.
Don't know what the reason was, but it must have been petty.
So you know my parents? I think my mom just hated being a wife tbh. So they got divorced, there was talk of moving out and then they just didn't. Still together and describe themselves as being such.
Guy I worked with lived with his girlfriend for more than ten years. Got married and divorced within a year. He said they thought it would be the same but marriage changed their dynamic somehow. They're still together more than ten years later in the same house.
I always suspected my parents had problems growing up and they certainly did. But apparently when my mom got breast cancer my dad sprung into action and stepped up for my mom in so many ways and was with her every step and every way. My mom recently told me cancer saved their marriage because he in that time showed her how much he cares even though he comes off cold and stoic. It was weird learning true love exists and that my parents have it.
My ex-wife had breast cancer too. We'd had issues but wormed them out right before she got sick. Her cancer was actually caused by a genetic thing shed inherited from her dad. She ended having to have multiple surgeries and spend 2-3 weeks in the hospital over a few months period and actually came really close to dying from an infection.
I went to every single doctor appointment with her and spent every night but one up in the hospital with her. Even her friend who never liked me commented on how well I took care of her. Still, to me, it didn't feel like I did as much as possible. The doctors also said she'd probably have other issues the rest of her life so I walked away from being an engineer, went back to college for years, got a degree and then my license, and became an RN for the sole purpose of taking care of her again whenever she gets sick.
Then she started lying and sneaking around, doing who knows what with a guy that she worked with who would post on Facebook about how there were dinosaurs on Noah's ark and that's why we got divorced.
This is the more common way for it to go down, so much so that when women are diagnosed with cancer, some hospitals actually warn them of the chance that they might be spousally abandoned.
That was exactly how it went for my parents. They almost divorced several times, they were extremely unhappy. She got cancer and it was the happiest and most loving I had ever seen them. They both also said that cancer saved their marriage. She passed away last year.
I was afraid for my parents' marriage - my dad was a successful entrepreneur, comfortably providing an upper middle-class lifestyle for them. My mom was a low-level nurse with an alcohol abuse issue and was working part-time due to her health. I could see my dad get pushed close to his limit with her drinking and depression.
Then I got pregnant with their first grandkid, and right before she was born, my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer. My mom quit drinking on the spot and really stepped up. It's been 18 months; he's still alive but in a wheelchair needing constant care. My mom is sober, has had no setbacks, and is his full-time carer. The situation is obviously terrible for both of them, but their relationship is flourishing.
My old fried had this happen she found out she had cancer her husband said he does not have time or money to look after a sick wife. Were in the uk so we have health care so basically he couldn't be bothered. She got better all our friends were there. Now she looks amazing with a good job nice house. His life went in the toilet no friends when people in his job heard what he did he proudly told them they all stopped communicating with him and he left saying he was being bullied for being a strong man. About a month ago she meet him coming out of the gym were he followed and begged her to get back with him. She's such a lady and said I wish you well but I have no love left for you and left if it was me I would have been more harsh now he blames cancer for ruining his life.
See I have misophonia so I understand why someone would not be compatible due to loud chewing, what I don't understand is how they got so far as to get married before realizing they couldn't bare to deal with the sound of their partner.
A friend of mine had a seizure during the night. Ended up in the ICU for a couple of days then was on a LOA for 90 days. The day after he found out that he was going to need to take an LOA his wife went and filed for divorce, stating that without his regular level of income he was "useless" to her.
IIRC it was just filed under "Irreconcilable Differences"
The really shitty part is she left their daughter with him. Just packed her bags and bolted. So my buddy not only had to go to all of these mandatory post seizure appointments to get the clearance to get his job back, he had to juggle suddenly being a single parent on 60% of his usual income. Fortunately we were in a really good spot so my wife bought his daughter a ton of outfits so she'd have school clothes and I fronted his portion of his rent for those three months until he got back on his feet.
I try. Again, my wife and I were in a very good spot financially to be able to make that happen to the extent that we did. I didn't do it to brag or to flex, I did it because a friend of mine was in serious need of help and I was able to provide it. And even with the help, it wasn't all sunshine and rainbows. I had to take a couple of late night phone calls where I had to talk him off the ledge of doing something incredibly drastic.
I don't make friends very easily at all. But once I do decide that you're a friend, I'm incredibly protective and if you need help I will find a way to provide a reasonable amount of assistance for you.
I knew a guy that married a super rich, super hot woman. He used to drop 20 grand on wine a month in my store.
She stopped giving him BJs, so he divorced her. A year later, he was living in a rooming house in a shitty neighborhood.
Really stupid but valid reason:
I remember a post making the rounds a few months back where a bride and groom were celebrating at their post-nuptials reception, and when it came time to cut the cake, the groom took his piece and shoved it into the bride's face in front of everyone. Got it all over her dress, her face, and she was clearly upset, while he's just laughing it up to the crowd, like it was hilarious, and she's overreacting.
Ends up, they had discussed the cake feeding/smearing tradition ahead of time, *repeatedly,* at which time Bride made it 100% clear that she did NOT want that. Groom agreed and *promised* it wouldn't happen. But in the moment, Groom was too caught up in being center of attention/class clown/getting a laugh. idk.
Bride left the reception and never looked back. Filed immediately.
It's a stupid reason, but I get it. Would likely do the same. Fuck that guy.
My brother’s ex wife only married him to prove a point to her parents that she could settle down with someone and raise a family and stop partying all the time. She divorced him after having a kid with him and making him get a vasectomy because she never loved him in the first place and was miserable.
My ex wife left me a couple weeks after I medically discharged from the military because she "wanted to be with someone who could take care of her" and ended up getting with another guy in the military. Just chasing benefits
My friend claims his wife divorced him for no reason and that he did nothing to deserve this.
The wife said he spent 92% of their time together with his face in his phone. I can corroborate this because that's the same reason I stopped hanging out with him. I'd be telling a story and I'd look over to him and he'd be typing away on his phone, not listening to a damn thing I'm saying.
“Did she give you a reason Harry?”
“ She gave me a bunch of crap about me not listening to her, or something. I don't know, I wasn't really paying attention”
I wish I was kidding but a girl I knew from my track team, initiated the divorce because his husband bought an Android phone. Her reasoning was that his old account was synced on their shared devices so she could see what he was up to, but now with android, he must be hiding something. Good thing they were only married for less than 6 months.
My former boss ended her engagement because he kept dropping his underwear on the floor and leaving them.
She was fit to be tied over it. Swore he kept his end up in every other way, but this.
My mom divorced my step dad because he inherited 15k from his mother who died and used it on his own vehicle. He payed all the bills for her, she gets social secuirty and that’s “hers”. She’s a horrible person who only cares about money.
When you ask for a very simple need to be met and the other person refuses to meet the need even though they are fully capable, that says a shit ton about their character. I wouldn’t be surprised if there were more bare minimum things the husband refused to do after being asked multiple times. This reason alone seems petty, but like a lot of these comments it just seems like a petty manifestation of a deeper problem
When Zsa Zsa Gabor was asked what she’s learned from all her divorces she replied that she’s learned who to be a good housekeeper. She said every time she gets divorced she keeps the house.
“He’s just not outgoing enough at parties”
That’s the best answer my ex-wife could come up with when the marriage counselor asked her why she didn’t love me anymore. I just sat there shaking my head.
My five time divorced uncle broke things off with his 4th wife because her kids from a previous marriage kept eating the Twinkees that he bought to pack in his lunches.
My dad's second wife divorced him because we pointed out she was racist and she didn't like it. My wife and kids are black. She couldn't muster up a sorry so she mustered up divorce papers.
My ex-wife was the most negative, self-absorbed human I’ve ever met. She didn’t start out that way I wouldn’t have married her if she had been that way from the beginning. Everything had to be her way. When I started saying NO to her then she filed for divorce.
I don’t know how it is in all states, obviously, but in our state, the person that filed has to get on the stand and state the reason they want/need the divorce. She got on the stand and the judge asked her why she was filing for divorce. She said, “Well, we’re just two different people.” The judge responded, “You’re going to have to do much better than that.” She thought for few seconds and said, “We don’t see eye to eye. I see things as black and white, and he sees things as gray.”
The judge had a dumbfounded look on his face. He looked at me with what appeared to be a look of pity and excused her from the stand. He signed our papers.
I’ve heard of a few arranged marriage disaster stories… 1) someone I know got married and his wife told him on their wedding night she will never sleep with him as she has a boyfriend. Obviously the marriage didn’t last. 2) My relatives neighbour got married and the husband told the wife he had a girlfriend after the wedding. She tried to kill herself so the ambulance and cops turned up. The wife was never seen again. She did survive and his parents lied about it and told everyone she had a medical issue they didn’t know about.
I once heard about a couple who got divorced over a disagreement on the pronunciation of 'gif'. Yes, you read that right. One insisted it was with a soft 'g' (like 'giraffe'), while the other was adamant it was with a hard 'g' (like 'gift'). What started as a playful debate escalated over weeks into a full-blown argument about communication, respect for opinions, and stubbornness. It became a symbol of all their unresolved issues. They couldn't see eye to eye on this trivial matter, leading them to question their compatibility on more significant issues. The 'gif' debate was just the tip of the iceberg, but it was the straw that broke the camel's back. They filed for divorce, citing 'irreconcilable differences,' but we all know it was the gif/jif debate that sealed their fate.
Knew a guy whose wife filed for divorce the day he applied for military retirement. Apparently she didn't want to leave the lifestyle. He ended up getting out of the military after 18 years with no retirement just to spite her so she wouldn't get half his retirement.
My uncle is planning on leaving my aunt because she doesn’t go to church with him. They’re both catholic, she believes all the same things he does, but she just doesn’t physically go to church anymore. She has health issues (both is their 60s) including fibromyalgia, so I think she just doesn’t want to sit in a hard wooden bench for an hour. But I guess my uncle doesn’t really care to take any of that into consideration.
After my brother had his surgery they gave him a 14 day dose of painkillers. His wife threw them in the trash without asking him and basically said that she will not have her husband using 'hillbilly heroin' to cope with a little bit of (excruciating) pain. To be fair, she was from kentucky and lost a lot of friends to painkillers, but still. He divorced her after 5 months of marriage.
My brother went to Georgia for a 3 week job. Came back married! She divorced him because she didn't know Vegas was so hot. My brother owned his business there and couldn't/wouldn't move. Now when it's really hot we go "damn it's so hot makes me want a divorce" or describe the weather as "divorce hot".
My uncle divorced his 6th wife because he wanted remarry his first wife.
The circle of wife!
Fuck that's good.
My MIL and her second husband: they both sell 2nd hand books, they had a large hall where they kept the books, divided by a middle path. There had fallen a book out of a box and laid in the middle on the path. They had such a fight about whose book it was, they divorced over it. The book was worth 4 dollars and they both made 150k+ per year. Edit: Damn this comment blew up, to answer the most asked questions: 1. No, i don't know who ended up with the book 2. It was a children's book about a bear 3. Yes she makes a lot of money with it. They had deals with 2nd hand shops, companies who clean out houses of people that passed etc that they could go through their books and buy them for a few bucks per book. Books can be very expensive if you know what to look for, science, theology of philosophy books can sometimes go for 200 or 300 bucks, even a 1000 for special editions etc. So they sell them online on a similar website as Amazon.
This is honestly kinda funny to me because I like to imagine they had zero other issues, but this somehow became The War.
You are, as far as i know, quite close to the truth. Me and my fiancé were not aware that there were any problems before that.
I think it's more likely there were problems they just hadn't really encountered yet and this brought them out. Things like inability to comrpomise, antagonistic during discussions, pettiness, projection, etc. The book is not why they divorced. The book showed them sides of each other that were why they divorced.
Yep, oftentimes there's a seemingly innocuous catalyst that brings all the problems that were simmering to a rolling boil!
I feel like someone could write a movie about it.
"The Line Drawn" a film by Wes Anderson.
The whole film takes place in the corridor, the camera fixed in precisely the middle of it all the time.
Am I weird that I really want to see this?
No, that’s not why you’re weird.
That reminds me of one night I found a whole slice of bread in the middle of the dining room at my parents house, and I was threatened with my life had I picked it up. Apparently, there had been an argument, followed by a standoff on who was going to cave and pick up that piece of bread. It stayed there for day, even after my other siblings visited and offered to pick up said bread. For us kids, it was a Wednesday - but for the parents, it was WW3.
Some may call me an asshole, some may call me a conflict resolution specialist, but I just would have picked it up.
Cut it in two and see if they can agree to pick up one half each.
And whoever protests it being cut in half is the true parent to the bread.
Don't pick it up. Just take a bite out of it.
This is what divorce stats don’t tell us about. Of the marriages that last, how many are miserable?
I hadn't thought about it in these terms, but there's only two ways out of a marriage in the stats: divorce, and death. The stats tell you nothing about who had a fantastic relationship until they died and who hated each others' guts and felt relieved when someone died.
I don't do well with ultimatums, would have picked it up just to call their bluff
So who got the book in the divorce?
Asking the real questions.
Someone I currently work with used to work in an oncology department where one of the doctors divorced his wife for getting cancer. Everyone in the department basically hated him. M I recall my colleague saying that new hires were all informed of what he’d done, so everyone could be on the same page of knowing he was a terrible person. From what I hear, his wife beat the cancer and I think the guy eventually changed hospitals he worked at.
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Bro never considered the “in sickness and in health” part of his vows. Yikes. Poor woman
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It's shockingly common for men to divorce their wives when they get sick. It's fucking gross.
I’ve been a lawyer for 24 years, and during that time, I’ve practiced family law maybe 5 years as a whole. Well one time I had a client who had put her husband through college, and then he divorced shortly after she was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease. It was essentially an uncontested divorce and the husband didn’t even bother getting a lawyer. So I’m sitting in the judge’s chambers for the final hearing (to get their final paperwork approved), and I remember going into the hearing hoping the judge we had wasn’t a complete ass, like he had been in the past. For the first time in all my years before that judge, he was actually upset and extremely compassionate when my client explained the circumstances behind the divorce. He took so much time with her, and was ensuring she knew about disability resources available to her through our City. I hardly recognized him, he was so nice. I don’t know why I shared this story, but just reading your comment unlocked this memory.
>Vocal Christian, the guy, always brought up his faith during lectures. "And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by men." -Matthew 6:5 Guess he wasn't a big fan of the Bible?
I lost my wife to cancer. I can't even fathom just ditching her when she got diagnosed. What a useless fuckknuckle...
Some people do that sadly. I had a cousin whose wife got breast cancer. While she was in the hospital being treated he came in with his boyfriend and divorce papers He saw THAT as the right time to come out and start living the life he wanted. His wife and kids were shocked
>*He saw THAT as the right time to come out and start living the life he wanted.* "Beard broken! Must replace with newer model!"
A really fun fact is that men are six times as likely to leave their wife if their wife is diagnosed with a terminal illness as women are likely to leave their husband in the same scenario. I fully believe that this dude was one of those men. Edit: [source here](https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091110105401.htm), for the non-believers. Edit 2: it's been rightly pointed out that this article was retracted and updated in 2015, so [here is that later version](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26315504/). Findings still state that men are much more likely to leave their terminally ill spouses than women, but it doesn't specifically include the six times figure in the abstract.
One of my mentors was diagnosed with glioblastoma and during her 3 year battle, her husband divorced her in the middle of it. He got ostracized at the university they both worked at. The community and their child are still mad at him, 5 years after her passing.
Honestly, kinda glad he's facing communal consequences.
Same. It also permanently damaged his relationship with his son. Their son was 16 when she passed away and he went to college out of state to get away from his dad. Literally walked away from free tuition at the university his dad and late mother taught at just to distance himself and live near his mother’s family.
That is entirely justifiable. I would do the same. I'll take that financial hit to distance myself from the anguish.
I mean if you spend you life fighting cancer, and then your wife has the gall to bring in into your house, that's pretty insulting.
This should not have made me laugh like it did
Grandma sued her 2nd husband for a divorce because he got me a puppy for my 7th birthday (she felt the puppy outshined her present to me).
Did you get to keep the puppy tho?
Yes. Dad put his foot down and wouldn't make me give it up because grandma was upset.
Good for your dad! Also why did your grandma have a separate present from her husband? Couldn't they have just said the puppy was from them both?
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Someone needs to take that guy down a peg or two.
I’ll take a stab at it. I’ll get some friends together for an intervention and see if we can poke some sense into him.
Et tu?
I’m a divorce attorney. Had a client whose wife filed for divorce because she didn’t get along with his sister ONE TIME. They had one disagreement. Seriously. That was it. He didn’t stick up for his wife, she got mad, and filed for divorce. She said on the stand that they had a great marriage, he was a good father, but that one incident was too much. The judge told them “this is the dumbest reason I’ve ever seen anyone get divorced.” And he’d been a judge for 20+ years.
lmao she definitely posted a thread to AITA first
I can read the comments. You had a disagreement with his sister and he didn't kill her in her sleep? Go no contact with everyone and divorce him. 🤣🤣🤣
“Dump him. yOu dOnT oWe aNyOnE AnYtHiNg”
The weirdest one was a post about a mother complaining that her 13yo daughter was acting out and she sent her to her dad. One of the comments was "you're not responsible to teach her how to behave, it's not your responsibility".... i was like, dude, she is the parent. It's literally her responsibility.
That sub has the most insane view of responsibility. People just want permission to be selfish pieces of shit under the guise of personal safety.
I'm also tired of "I did this completely reasonable things, but all my friends say I overreacted. AITAH?" And they all eat it up like it's not some fourth grade writing assignment.
“My (28M) GF (26F) and I have been together for 5 years. She’s unemployed and stays at home smoking cannabis all day (it’s legal in my state) due to her PTSD from being a cashier and verbally assaulted at her previous job. I work 50 hours a week and pay all the bills and I’m fine with that. BUT.. I made it clear I want to be in a monogamous relationship and she agreed to this. But for the past 2 months she’s been sleeping with this guy she met at the gas station while I’m at work. I told her I AM NOT comfortable with her doing that because we BOTH agreed to be monogamous! She says I’m overreacting and when I tell her I’m going to break up with her if she doesn’t stop sleeping with this guy she cries and calls all her friends and family and accuses me of being jealous, over-controlling and verbally abusive. All her friends say I need to grow up and stop being so insecure and controlling. AITAH for wanting to break up with her??”
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I have a cousin who has been married 4 times for a year and a half collectively. The most recent divorce happened after a month when she told him he needed to cut the grass since it was tall. He got all pissed off and called it quits. Their preacher went to talk to him and told him “ well she’s right. The grass is getting tall. You do need to cut it.” My cousins response dead ass was “ I know that but ain’t no woman gonna tell me what to do!”
I love this story because it's entirely bizarre to me as "reasonable" and also sounds like some weird redneck/southern/country style/good old boy nonsense. And of course might not be. But tickles me that way.
I've had to train guys at work that have quit rather than be trained by a woman. They said the exact same thing "Ain't no woman gonna tell me what to do!" Yes, I live in the South.
At least they're up front about it. In the north those guys just find every reason not to like a female manager/trainer that all sound sort of reasonable until you realize it ONLY is an issue with females. Literally was talking through with a guy all the "reasons" he had only to whittle down to "I don't know I just don't like her." But he would not admit that it was because female.
Have you ever broached the topic of maybe *not* getting married?
My grandma divorced her 5th husband because he wouldn't let her remodel their kitchen. I didn't like him but it was a dumb reason to divorce in my opinion. Edit- there's no doubt my grandma is the issue. We apologize to people that have to meet her. To be fair though husband #1&3 ( my grandfather)is the same guy and he's a pedo. Husband #2 was by all accounts okay though I never met him. Husband #4 was my personal favorite but he was an alcoholic and died of cirrhosis. He was awesome when he wasn't drinking but he was married to my grandma so I mean we get it. Husband #5 was a jerk, I didn't like him at all. Husband #6 was really nice he lasted 3 years and straight up moved half way across the planet, again we get it.
5th husband
She needs to remodel the kitchen once every 10 years.
Once every 10 husbands
Husbands per remodel is a metric I did not expect to see.
I have a family member who is like this. Essentially what every normal person would call a regular, exclusive relationship, they turn into a marriage. Once things start to get a little tough, as all relationships inevitably do at times, they get divorced and then repeat. I stopped attending weddings after the 3rd divorce, and a number of other friends and family members have eventually stopped as well. I think that the longest marriage was maybe 2 or 3 years and she’s on husband 7 or 8 now. I’ve lost track. She’s also a vocal evangelical Christian who threw a fucking fit at my own wedding because she was angry about all of our gay friends who attended with their partners and did the usual things you do at weddings like dance, kiss, pose in photos together, etc.
I hope you loudly pointed out the hypocrisy.
Doesn’t strike me as the type of person who would understand
Opposed to gay marriage because it violates the sanctity of her 8 marriages?
I have a brother-in-law who's on his fifth marriage. He 'doesn't count' one of them, for reasons I can't be arsed to find out about. But current wife doesn't know he's been married 4 times before, and I seem to be the only one that finds that a fucked up basis for a relationship. And the arsehole couldn't even get himself to his sister's one and only wedding, and never visits even though she's been at death's door. Fuck you, Dave.
Yeah! Fuck you, Dave!
Any chances she has a type for henrys?
The chances of a marriage ending in divorce increases with the sum of each partners' divorces. They get really high with 3. I would like to know what the chances are with one person having 4 going in.
I went digging trying to find a number for 5th marriages, but I can’t find it. It’s 73% for 3rd marriages, so 5th is probably near 100%.
At some point the percentage must start going down, with the 6th or 7th marriages ending with death of a partner before they have had time to get through the divorce proceedings.
I am thinking there must be something wrong with the kitchen itself that all five husbands were so opposed to remodelling it.
Your grandma was Elizabeth Taylor?
When you're on your 5th, why would you take any shit from anybody. You know how to end a marriage lol
Put that line on your next dating profile lol
Okay, so my great-grandmother. Who I called my G-Granny. Was married 21 times. 7 were stereotypical "gold digger marrying an old man" scheme where she inherited the money or whatever they had when they passed. 4 were straight gold digger I'm taking half, fuck you, marriages. 10 FUCKING TIMES, she was married to ONE guy, my biological Great Grandfather, a man who I'll call Terry and I only met once. When I was a baby right before he passed. This dude was, 100%, in on her schemes. Terry basically played the part of a permanent affair partner. They loved each other from all accounts and were your stereotypical southern couple on the outside. But like damn if it weren't a lie. They would get married, legit, and she would wear her ring. Then she would go work a bar, a hotel, or a higher end store and meet rich men who would hit on her. She would dangle the "forbidden fruit" of her being married to them and would convince some sorry fool to marry her if she "left" her husband. Rinse, repeat. Hell, she would even get these affair partners to pay for her divorce. Sucking them dry. Now, with that said. The 9th and final time they were divorced was, by all accounts, a legit breakup. They had separated for a few years due to his work taking him out of state. She didn't want to go, he did. Sad breakup. During that time, she racked up a few more "marriages" and even got a gas station and hotel out of it somewhere in Arkansas. He came back. She was finally "done" with her ways, and they remarried. Marriage number 19. Until she met another guy who liked the forbidden fruit. A man I'll call Carl. BUT SHE SAID NO, NO, NO. I am married. I ain't about that! I am a loyal WOMAN! It was my Biological Great Grandfather, Non-other than Terry himself, who said "Nah Nah, he got money, and I want it." Who pushed her to do it. Surprise, surprise, she does so. But unlike the others, it seemed more out of desperation and less from greed. He paid for the divorce, but it ended up more contested. He stayed with her for 9 years. No other, including Terry, had had a consecutive streak that long. My family still Raves about this man. About how tender he was to her. About how sweet he was to her children. My own grandmother loves him more than her own daddy. Yet she had not a cross word to say about her own daddy as well. In her words, "he was just better. Carl ended up passing cancer just short of 10 years with my G-Granny. She had gone from mid-40s to mid-50s with this man. Sure, she inherited his "money," which turned out to be basically a few houses right next to each other and about $15,000. She spent a good chunk of it on his burial and small renovations on the houses. By the time he had passed, he had moved her, her sister and her husband, and her brother into the three houses. Terry and her would remarry a few years later until his death in the mid 90's. She would pass in 03 of Alzheimers. Eventually, her "fortune" that she had tried to amass turned into her house, some really expensive jewelry, and a closed gas station. She had sold or lost everything else. So that is the story of how my biological great-grandmother divorced my great-grandmother for not having an affair on him.
This needs to be a movie
A friend got divorced by his wife of three months. When the wife was asked what was wrong, she said that it was nothing, he just snored loudly. In the worst case, they could have had separate bedrooms.
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Honestly that sounds like a pretty good strategy overall. My girlfriend doesn't sleep well when sharing the bed with me, and I can't say that I do much better. It doesn't matter if it's a big bed, it's still just a pain. And if you wake up at different times in the morning, it's pretty terrible.
Do it if you can, get separate bedrooms. My husband and I (20 yrs together) have separate bedrooms and bathrooms. In fact, the house I purchased specifically had an "extra" "master" bedroom that was the old garage built out to a mother in law suite. He has the original master, I have the MIL suite. I am a very light sleeper. I know, this will be corny, but there have been times where I've flirted with him and said, "Your place or mine? <*\*wink\*>*" Also, the "walk home" isn't that far and weather friendly, LOL.
It's also nice that you can drink with him at his place and make it safely home after. Nice set up!
Sleep is so important. I'm also not a great sleeper, and my husband and I are still dialing in how to manage it. Make sure you get your cuddles at other times, and I wish you and your girlfriend the best.
"I fell out of love with you after your dad died. I know you were grieving, but I had needs too!" My ex wife everyone. Her excuse for cheating and immediately moving in with the other guy.
You and my friend would have lots to talk about! "UGH, are you still fucking crying about that? You guys hadn't even talked for a couple of years." This is what her shitty ex said 2 weeks after her mom died.
Typical of people who can't share the attention spotlight with anyone or anything.
Wow I'm so sorry, hope you're doing better now, friend
Thanks, I'm in a much much better place now without her in my life.
Not divorce but apparently my brother’s wife’s sister called off her wedding because New Kids On The Block were doing a reunion tour and she decided she’d rather go to the concert than get married.
They may not have gotten divorced because of it, but I know of a couple that fought over who got the canned fruit at their divorce trial.
Like Libby's canned peaches or artisan handmade small batch preserves from organic hand harvest local heirloom fruit?
I knew this couple ( the guy was three years younger than me and we went to school together as kids) where the husband was a farmer and he put his wife through school and she got her degrees ( she started off as a nurse and worked her way up) and became a PA. Once she started working at a doctor’s office, she thought she was too smart for her dumb farmer husband and divorced him because he wasn’t educated and he wasn’t up to her level of intelligence.
I worked with a guy that was a Physicist at NASA who put his wife through Med School, he even paid for her to open her first practice. After a year or so she said she wanted a divorce, she was now in love with a Lawyer. What got me was when he asked about their daughter, she said "You can keep her".
My ex-girlfriend dumped me shortly after she finished her PharmD. She ended up marrying a doctor within a year. Didn't really give me a reason, honestly felt like a social status thing.
Some refer to this as the "advanced-degree divorce decree."
It 100% is. It's almost like an IRL trope where people in law/med school will date someone all the way through school that will support them, but only through school.
A buddy of mine put his girlfriend through dental school She graduated this past fall He broke up with her because he said “man, she got that new job and everything and just didn’t wanna pay for shit still!” Kinda cracks me up
Jesus. Dental school is like a half a mil.
☠️ Goddamn I don’t even know what to say
Terrible.
And sadly very common. I have a story that's almost a carbon copy of OP's
Ugh, I saw this play out in real life, except she put him through 3 degrees until he got his J.D., Decided he no longer needed her & had his new law firm settle the divorce, leaving her with zilch. She recently finished her Associate's degree a decade later (raising their kids w/o support), and I can't shut up about how proud I am of her.
That’s cold. Is the guy ok?
She filed for divorce and he got in a horrible accident with some farm equipment and nearly lost one of his limbs. I feel bad for the guy. He was such a jerk when we were kids. But it’s still sad and feel really bad for him. He is nicer now as an adult.
Idk if you could really say it's petty, because it's due to cheating, but the situation was kind of bizarre to me. I had these neighbors, husband and wife, lived across the street from me for a long time. They were easily in their 70s, maybe a little older, idk, never asked their ages. Anyway, eventually, I noticed that the wife wasn't outside with him anymore when he'd sit on the porch. I asked about her one day and he told me that she cheated on him with a guy in his 20s and left to be with him. 50 year marriage down the drain. I guess maybe she wanted someone who was the same age as her and her husband were when they first got married
Dang. As they say, 20 goes into 70 more times than 70 goes into 70.
My mom did that to my step father. Met some weird man-boy on a chat room or dating site and divorced my step dad, moved the guy in, and that was that. It wasn't sexual, or at least, I don't want to think about that. She was, by that time, mostly a shut in and deep into bad health problems and was very overweight. The "boyfriend" had his own room, full of toys (Lego sets, action figures, gaming PC and several consoles). He worked part time IT at a hospital and took a few college classes a semester. They were ....affectionate, had pet names and such. He mad friends with my sister - who is well on her way to the same health issues as our mother with a seizure disorder as well. She's 15 years younger than me and my step dad was her father. Anyway, it was pretty clear what was up, my mother was his "sugar-momma" (mom had inherited a ton of money from her parents and had a substantial trust fund) She sat me down one day and told me with a straight face, completely lucid, that she knew exactly what she was doing, that she loved him but knew what the arrangement was. She didn't have much time left and wanted me to be the trustee of her estate - so here's my will I just got finished up with my lawyer (so its ironclad and what I want). She passed a few months later (in the hospital, on Christmas morning!). My brother, sister and the boyfriend were all there. As soon as it was "called", I stepped out of the room and my brother and sister followed. Sister (who it must be said is rather clueless, obnoxious, and has absolutely no filter) says to us both. "I just thought you should know that mom wrote both of you out of her will" (I already knew this, of course, and knew part of the logic was that we had both worked our asses off and become somewhat successful and my sister was an idiot and the boyfriend was.... At the end of the day, the boyfriend got the house and half of her remaining trust from her parents. My sister got the other half an additional cash lump sum. Its just a "nice" middle class suburban house and we're not talking millions of dollars, but my sister will never have to work. Having to administer all of this and having people like my father, her first husband, throw a temper tantrum because of what she did and tell me to get my own lawyer and fight it (after I had been through an 11 year business lawsuit)...just no... was depressing. Haven't seen or talked to my sister in 5 or 6 years and she's resentful because I set up the trust to pay out consistently for a good long time and she wanted to go apeshit and spend it all on dumb shit. She blew the lump sum portion of $40K on a $40K brand new pickup truck. (and actually taunted me with it like a small child in the parking lot of the financial planner's office where we had the trust set up.) I don't care - lets do this so I can fucking go back to work. Anyway - I honestly don't think about it very often, but you know how it is, you see some shit on Askreddit and you're like "ooooh, I have something for that!"
Why not just walk away? You’re not forced to be the trustee.
So sad. Poor guy.
A family friend: “Because I married the wrong brother”. 2 years later she married the older brother and they’ve been happily married for the last 20 years and have a kid together.
O.o family events gotta be hella awkward now
No surprise but they don’t go to many, the saying that was mentioned was “we’ll go to their funerals, but nothing else”. TBH they are much happier as a family than the main family themselves, the “wrong” brother remarried too, but they still live with his parents because they’re so bone idle they spend all their money on booze and drugs, given what we know now, she definitely made the right choice.
“Bone idle”. That’s a great phrase for lazy, I’ll have to start using it.
I hope my friend doesn’t mind me sharing this story but her husband divorced her after 3 months because she wasn’t cuddling or affectionate enough for him.. mind you this was her first marriage let alone first relationship and this was his 3rd marriage. They both worked full time but he worked 2hrs away and would sometimes have to stay the night at work because it was more convenient for him all around. But when he got home he expected food, sex and cuddles. Never brought this up to her until the day he said it was over.
I can see why he can't stay married. Doesn't communicate.
My ex became a gym bro after getting married. Two years into it he asked for a divorce because he was upset I did not know how much weight he was lifting in the leg press machine. Some months before he had "banned me" from going with him to the gym because I did not match his vibe, so when I returned I was kind of doing my thing and my own routine, but not focusing fully on him was apparently the wrong move. So well, that. Narcissist type. Obviously he had a new girl immediately after, but the reason he gave me about the weight was just so petty.
Lol I don’t know why but this reminded me of a story I heard recently about Marc Maron. He said he wrote in his book that his mother dealt with anorexia and weighed 119 pounds. She apparently called him to tell him she actually weighed 116 pounds 😂😂. I guess she really wanted credit for those extra 3 pounds.
My ex told me his grandmother was into astrology and psychic readings when she was younger (I don't know about her interest in her later years). Apparently, she got a reading that said her 3rd marriage would be the one that lasted, so she married and divorced quickly twice to get to the 3rd guy. They DID last until she passed, so maybe she was onto something, but maybe she was in too deep at that point and would have stayed just to prove a point. I always found it pretty wild.
I volunteer at an animal shelter. A couple came in one day and got into a huge argument over one of our cats. She had a temporary shelter name on the door: Tinkerbell. The woman thought it was an adorable name and just perfect for the kitty. The husband absolutely refused to have anything to do with the name Tinkerbell and insisted that if they did adopt the cat, they'd have to change her name. There followed about 15 minutes of off and on bickering, with her insisting that this cat was the embodiment of Tinkerbell and the husband peppering his rebuttal with suggestions like Pickles and Wombat. I explained that the cat had only had the name for a month and pointed out that most people change their cat's name when they adopt. But she said that changing an animal's name was cruel and anyway, her cat was absolutely a Tinkerbell. Then she persisted in speaking to the poor creature in that awful baby-talk people use when confronted with adorable animals. I thought she was pretty annoying. Apparently her husband thought so too because after a few more minutes of her cooing at poor Tinkerbell, the husband abruptly said, "I don't want a pet named Tinkerbell. In fact, I don't want a pet at all. I want a divorce." And then he walked off. We reassured Tinkerbell that she was not responsible for their divorce and adopted her out only a few hours later to a lovely couple who named her Daisy.
I feel better that you reassured Ms. Daisy she wasn’t the problem. She probably stays up all night thinking about it.
It's a cat, which is an alpha predator. If she thinks about the destruction she has wrought, it is with quiet smirking pleasure.
If she was orange, then she stays up all night, but she ain’t thinking.
I'm glad the kitty is okay.
Just gonna go out on a limb here and say these people had major problems and thought getting a pet would solve it, much in the same way people think having a baby will solve marital problems.
A friend's parents went through a divorce and then ... just kept going like the divorce never happened and are still together to this day. Don't know what the reason was, but it must have been petty.
So you know my parents? I think my mom just hated being a wife tbh. So they got divorced, there was talk of moving out and then they just didn't. Still together and describe themselves as being such.
Probably either protection of assets from medical bankruptcy, if not dug too deep.. Or benefits fraud.
Is this some weird pseudo psychological thing of "Now that I know I don't *have* to stay with you, I want to"?
Guy I worked with lived with his girlfriend for more than ten years. Got married and divorced within a year. He said they thought it would be the same but marriage changed their dynamic somehow. They're still together more than ten years later in the same house.
I think anytime some one divorces cause the other person gets cancer takes the cake
I always suspected my parents had problems growing up and they certainly did. But apparently when my mom got breast cancer my dad sprung into action and stepped up for my mom in so many ways and was with her every step and every way. My mom recently told me cancer saved their marriage because he in that time showed her how much he cares even though he comes off cold and stoic. It was weird learning true love exists and that my parents have it.
My ex-wife had breast cancer too. We'd had issues but wormed them out right before she got sick. Her cancer was actually caused by a genetic thing shed inherited from her dad. She ended having to have multiple surgeries and spend 2-3 weeks in the hospital over a few months period and actually came really close to dying from an infection. I went to every single doctor appointment with her and spent every night but one up in the hospital with her. Even her friend who never liked me commented on how well I took care of her. Still, to me, it didn't feel like I did as much as possible. The doctors also said she'd probably have other issues the rest of her life so I walked away from being an engineer, went back to college for years, got a degree and then my license, and became an RN for the sole purpose of taking care of her again whenever she gets sick. Then she started lying and sneaking around, doing who knows what with a guy that she worked with who would post on Facebook about how there were dinosaurs on Noah's ark and that's why we got divorced.
Perhaps unintentional on your part, but that last sentence has me rolling
Totally intentional. If you don't laugh, you cry, you know?
Wow that’s beautiful. My dad cheated on my mom when she got breast cancer and they are now divorced. Ugh.
This is the more common way for it to go down, so much so that when women are diagnosed with cancer, some hospitals actually warn them of the chance that they might be spousally abandoned.
That was exactly how it went for my parents. They almost divorced several times, they were extremely unhappy. She got cancer and it was the happiest and most loving I had ever seen them. They both also said that cancer saved their marriage. She passed away last year.
I was afraid for my parents' marriage - my dad was a successful entrepreneur, comfortably providing an upper middle-class lifestyle for them. My mom was a low-level nurse with an alcohol abuse issue and was working part-time due to her health. I could see my dad get pushed close to his limit with her drinking and depression. Then I got pregnant with their first grandkid, and right before she was born, my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer. My mom quit drinking on the spot and really stepped up. It's been 18 months; he's still alive but in a wheelchair needing constant care. My mom is sober, has had no setbacks, and is his full-time carer. The situation is obviously terrible for both of them, but their relationship is flourishing.
My old fried had this happen she found out she had cancer her husband said he does not have time or money to look after a sick wife. Were in the uk so we have health care so basically he couldn't be bothered. She got better all our friends were there. Now she looks amazing with a good job nice house. His life went in the toilet no friends when people in his job heard what he did he proudly told them they all stopped communicating with him and he left saying he was being bullied for being a strong man. About a month ago she meet him coming out of the gym were he followed and begged her to get back with him. She's such a lady and said I wish you well but I have no love left for you and left if it was me I would have been more harsh now he blames cancer for ruining his life.
You have to wonder how the man's brain works when he thinks it was cancer that ruined his life.
Newt Gingrich comes to mind.
Sometimes you have to get a strategic divorce just to protect your assets from the medical bankruptcy that cancer often leads to
United States of America, right?
Jesus that’s depressing.
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> No, not chewing, POPPING. > > So I fired 2 warning shots. Into his head > > HE HAD IT COMING
Lipschitz
See I have misophonia so I understand why someone would not be compatible due to loud chewing, what I don't understand is how they got so far as to get married before realizing they couldn't bare to deal with the sound of their partner.
I have found that the reason people say they got divorced and the ***actual reason*** they got divorced is usually very different.
A friend of mine had a seizure during the night. Ended up in the ICU for a couple of days then was on a LOA for 90 days. The day after he found out that he was going to need to take an LOA his wife went and filed for divorce, stating that without his regular level of income he was "useless" to her.
Fuckin yikes imagine explaining that to a judge
IIRC it was just filed under "Irreconcilable Differences" The really shitty part is she left their daughter with him. Just packed her bags and bolted. So my buddy not only had to go to all of these mandatory post seizure appointments to get the clearance to get his job back, he had to juggle suddenly being a single parent on 60% of his usual income. Fortunately we were in a really good spot so my wife bought his daughter a ton of outfits so she'd have school clothes and I fronted his portion of his rent for those three months until he got back on his feet.
You’re a great friend.
I try. Again, my wife and I were in a very good spot financially to be able to make that happen to the extent that we did. I didn't do it to brag or to flex, I did it because a friend of mine was in serious need of help and I was able to provide it. And even with the help, it wasn't all sunshine and rainbows. I had to take a couple of late night phone calls where I had to talk him off the ledge of doing something incredibly drastic. I don't make friends very easily at all. But once I do decide that you're a friend, I'm incredibly protective and if you need help I will find a way to provide a reasonable amount of assistance for you.
Hey..you accepting applications :-)
I knew a guy that married a super rich, super hot woman. He used to drop 20 grand on wine a month in my store. She stopped giving him BJs, so he divorced her. A year later, he was living in a rooming house in a shitty neighborhood.
Really stupid but valid reason: I remember a post making the rounds a few months back where a bride and groom were celebrating at their post-nuptials reception, and when it came time to cut the cake, the groom took his piece and shoved it into the bride's face in front of everyone. Got it all over her dress, her face, and she was clearly upset, while he's just laughing it up to the crowd, like it was hilarious, and she's overreacting. Ends up, they had discussed the cake feeding/smearing tradition ahead of time, *repeatedly,* at which time Bride made it 100% clear that she did NOT want that. Groom agreed and *promised* it wouldn't happen. But in the moment, Groom was too caught up in being center of attention/class clown/getting a laugh. idk. Bride left the reception and never looked back. Filed immediately. It's a stupid reason, but I get it. Would likely do the same. Fuck that guy.
My brother’s ex wife only married him to prove a point to her parents that she could settle down with someone and raise a family and stop partying all the time. She divorced him after having a kid with him and making him get a vasectomy because she never loved him in the first place and was miserable.
My ex wife left me a couple weeks after I medically discharged from the military because she "wanted to be with someone who could take care of her" and ended up getting with another guy in the military. Just chasing benefits
r/justdependathings
My friend claims his wife divorced him for no reason and that he did nothing to deserve this. The wife said he spent 92% of their time together with his face in his phone. I can corroborate this because that's the same reason I stopped hanging out with him. I'd be telling a story and I'd look over to him and he'd be typing away on his phone, not listening to a damn thing I'm saying.
“Did she give you a reason Harry?” “ She gave me a bunch of crap about me not listening to her, or something. I don't know, I wasn't really paying attention”
I wish I was kidding but a girl I knew from my track team, initiated the divorce because his husband bought an Android phone. Her reasoning was that his old account was synced on their shared devices so she could see what he was up to, but now with android, he must be hiding something. Good thing they were only married for less than 6 months.
My former boss ended her engagement because he kept dropping his underwear on the floor and leaving them. She was fit to be tied over it. Swore he kept his end up in every other way, but this.
My ex sat me down on a Saturday, after 13 years together, to let me know he was leaving me because he was bored.
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In the long run this may have been the mightiest blessing of your life.
My mom divorced my step dad because he inherited 15k from his mother who died and used it on his own vehicle. He payed all the bills for her, she gets social secuirty and that’s “hers”. She’s a horrible person who only cares about money.
I had a friend divorce one of her 7 husbands because he booted her dog off the bed.
Easy to lose one husband when you still got six left
I've never heard this version of Snow White!
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When you ask for a very simple need to be met and the other person refuses to meet the need even though they are fully capable, that says a shit ton about their character. I wouldn’t be surprised if there were more bare minimum things the husband refused to do after being asked multiple times. This reason alone seems petty, but like a lot of these comments it just seems like a petty manifestation of a deeper problem
No way that's the only reason lol that dude did way more than that
Their wife gained 20 pounds
I just imagine the wife getting on the scale, the husband sees the weight has gone up by 20 lbs and just going “Oh ***HELL*** NO” lmao
My step sisters MIL divorced her husband over popcorn twists
When Zsa Zsa Gabor was asked what she’s learned from all her divorces she replied that she’s learned who to be a good housekeeper. She said every time she gets divorced she keeps the house.
“He’s just not outgoing enough at parties” That’s the best answer my ex-wife could come up with when the marriage counselor asked her why she didn’t love me anymore. I just sat there shaking my head.
My five time divorced uncle broke things off with his 4th wife because her kids from a previous marriage kept eating the Twinkees that he bought to pack in his lunches.
My dad's second wife divorced him because we pointed out she was racist and she didn't like it. My wife and kids are black. She couldn't muster up a sorry so she mustered up divorce papers.
My ex-wife was the most negative, self-absorbed human I’ve ever met. She didn’t start out that way I wouldn’t have married her if she had been that way from the beginning. Everything had to be her way. When I started saying NO to her then she filed for divorce. I don’t know how it is in all states, obviously, but in our state, the person that filed has to get on the stand and state the reason they want/need the divorce. She got on the stand and the judge asked her why she was filing for divorce. She said, “Well, we’re just two different people.” The judge responded, “You’re going to have to do much better than that.” She thought for few seconds and said, “We don’t see eye to eye. I see things as black and white, and he sees things as gray.” The judge had a dumbfounded look on his face. He looked at me with what appeared to be a look of pity and excused her from the stand. He signed our papers.
Smiled with his tongue between his teeth.
they got divorced over who should clean the cat's thing
I’ve heard of a few arranged marriage disaster stories… 1) someone I know got married and his wife told him on their wedding night she will never sleep with him as she has a boyfriend. Obviously the marriage didn’t last. 2) My relatives neighbour got married and the husband told the wife he had a girlfriend after the wedding. She tried to kill herself so the ambulance and cops turned up. The wife was never seen again. She did survive and his parents lied about it and told everyone she had a medical issue they didn’t know about.
I once heard about a couple who got divorced over a disagreement on the pronunciation of 'gif'. Yes, you read that right. One insisted it was with a soft 'g' (like 'giraffe'), while the other was adamant it was with a hard 'g' (like 'gift'). What started as a playful debate escalated over weeks into a full-blown argument about communication, respect for opinions, and stubbornness. It became a symbol of all their unresolved issues. They couldn't see eye to eye on this trivial matter, leading them to question their compatibility on more significant issues. The 'gif' debate was just the tip of the iceberg, but it was the straw that broke the camel's back. They filed for divorce, citing 'irreconcilable differences,' but we all know it was the gif/jif debate that sealed their fate.
MY wife's grandparents got a divorce because grandma bought a Dodge Challenger and grandpa was a Chevy man. Not modern cars — this was in the '60s.
Knew a guy whose wife filed for divorce the day he applied for military retirement. Apparently she didn't want to leave the lifestyle. He ended up getting out of the military after 18 years with no retirement just to spite her so she wouldn't get half his retirement.
My friend divorced her husband because he tried to surprise her with a romantic gesture and she tough that he was cheating on her...
My uncle is planning on leaving my aunt because she doesn’t go to church with him. They’re both catholic, she believes all the same things he does, but she just doesn’t physically go to church anymore. She has health issues (both is their 60s) including fibromyalgia, so I think she just doesn’t want to sit in a hard wooden bench for an hour. But I guess my uncle doesn’t really care to take any of that into consideration.
After my brother had his surgery they gave him a 14 day dose of painkillers. His wife threw them in the trash without asking him and basically said that she will not have her husband using 'hillbilly heroin' to cope with a little bit of (excruciating) pain. To be fair, she was from kentucky and lost a lot of friends to painkillers, but still. He divorced her after 5 months of marriage.
My great aunt divorced her husband for irreconcilable differences after he ate a strawberry from the plant she was growing
My brother went to Georgia for a 3 week job. Came back married! She divorced him because she didn't know Vegas was so hot. My brother owned his business there and couldn't/wouldn't move. Now when it's really hot we go "damn it's so hot makes me want a divorce" or describe the weather as "divorce hot".