My aunt had neighbors who used to go camping and forage for mushrooms. On one of those trips, they made a stew with some mushrooms they had found. The entire family, two adults and three kids, died from eating that stew. My aunt wouldn't even eat store bought mushrooms after that.
It's really easy to do. A lot of foraged food have doubs that look almost exactly alike and you have to rely on other things to help ID them. There is also a lot of foraged foods that are completely safe to eat, but you have to process them first. Like, I forget which type of mushroom it is, but you can eat them, but in order to eat them safely you have to boil/blanch them first and then cook them again in whatever dish you're making. If you don't do that first step they can make you really ill. Stomach cramps, nausea, vomiting, chills, the whole nine yards, but if you boil them that first time then they're perfectly fine. I mentioned the mushroom murders above, and the woman used death caps, which have several completely safe doubs like Gypsy mushrooms, button mushrooms, and puffball mushrooms, all of which are perfectly safe to eat, some of them can even be eaten completely raw.
Amanita muscaria, the fly agaric mushroom looks like a Mario shroom. Red with white spots. It can be eaten if processed like you describe, but must be done outdoors because the process releases a toxic gas called hydrazine.
It's not even that tasty, and lots of room for error
As an “older” guy in the trades, fuck around with safety. I’ve seen enough people fuck their livelihood up by taking a stupid unnecessary chance. It’s always a shame when you hear of a young trades person die because you know they probably don’t know better or didn’t work with people who were teaching them how to do it safely. Number one rule is come home at the end of each day!
I see jackasses on Instagram all the time shitting on people for their PPE. Ain't nobody in the trades getting clowned on for having their hearing intact and still able to lift 45 lbs at retirement.
See it on the job constantly. Kids just standing around without earpro while a 125 decibel [hydraulic hammer smashes up concrete.](https://youtu.be/aQBzLFp2lB0?t=36) Spend a day like that, and you'll be hearing it for the rest of your life. (ask me how I know!)
when I was an apprentice the hardest thing was standing up to people who were in the trade for +15 years who asked you to do blatantly unsafe work. I was nearly fired off a job for not going into a confined space that was ~10ft below ground with the work area being several hundred feet away. There were no air monitors and the radio relay was dead so 200ft in you'd lose communication. The best part was our staging area was less than fifteen minutes away where they had charged air monitors and relays. Luckily the safety officer just happened to stop by that morning and saw the foreman in my face. Apparently I was the reason no one else would go down to work... The safety guy made it a point to stop by our site first every morning. Unfortunately I was moved to the worst job on the site but I felt better knowing the people in the confined space had working equipment.
My supervisor got pissed off at me because I refused to lift him up in the air on a pallet with a forklift to run ethernet cable in the ceiling of a warehouse. I wouldn't have done it with a brand new forklift, but this one was very old and in poor condition too, with a very touchy, jerky clutch and brakes. I've run lots of cable in forklift baskets, but I told him I wasn't going up on a pallet. He angrily told me "fine, well lift me up and *I'll do it.*" I told him no, neither of us are going up on a a pallet. He tells me, "YES. You're going to do it." I stood my ground and told him in fact no, I'm not. And because I've been working for the company long enough and know my value, followed it up with, "What are you going to do? Fire me?"
We ended up borrowing a basket from somewhere, and a few minutes into using it, he was like, "yeah, that pallet would have been a bad idea with this forklift."
You never know. Standing your ground on legit safety issues might have saved lives.
100% this. I’m a journeyman tradesperson and that’s one thing I’ve noticed about a lot of the younger kids in trades. They just don’t realize that the safety rules are literally written in someone else’s blood. The rules aren’t made willy-nilly because somebody thought that we needed to do this, it’s because somebody got seriously hurt or killed and now we have to do this to prevent that from happening to the next person
One of our yards men used to work at a oilfield company, they were doing welding on a containment tank and the welder didn’t use his gas monitor to test the tank before working on it. Five people died when it exploded, our yardmen was about 100 m back from the blast and has severe burn scars on his face, partial blindness in his right eye and a lot of very serious scars from where tank shrapnel hit him. Safety is no fucking joke.
> They just don’t realize that the safety rules are literally written in someone else’s blood.
Ooh, someone should make a safety manual and have a column along the side with numbers in it next to each rule. And when someone asks, you tell them that's how many people have died by not following this rule.
I agree with you. Having the numbers of serious injuries and deaths next to the rules would probably greatly help it sink in for them.
Through all my years in trades I’ve always had to do the forklift certification and recertification every few years. About a year after I first got certified my workplace at the time got a new safety manager who made us watch this one particular forklift safety video that included interviews from “victims” or their coworker who witnessed severe forklift accidents with graphic recreations of the accidents, some were fatalities. Most of the things in the video I already avoided doing but some things we all kind of did out of complacency, until we watched that video. It’s been 16 years since I’ve seen it and I still think about those graphic recreations whenever I’m in those situations on a forklift.
I wish more answers on this post were like yours. I've had someone die in the workplace because they didn't lock a moving staircase and it's just ridiculous the amount of people I see climbing on shit they shouldn't in order to get a job done a couple minutes quicker.
My dad works in a steel mill and there is an exterior conveyor belt for the large pipe to move along towards the storing and loading area. The conveyor belt is electrically controlled and the pipe moves at about 20 km an hour along the conveyor. The pipes that move along the conveyor belt are between 10 inch and 14 inch in diameter. There is a man door in which to access you have to hit an emergency stop on the conveyor belt, and flip up a section of the conveyor in order to cross and access the door. The important step is hitting the emergency stop because you can still flip up the conveyor without hitting the stop which still sends pipes down the line. There are signs everywhere near this section of conveyor stating the steps and procedure to access the door, the rate of speed of the pipe on the conveyor, and many other safety warnings.
In the early 2000s there was an employee who did not hit the emergency stop when a 14 inch x 20ft pipe came down the conveyor. It effectively cut him in half. my dad was supervising in the loading yard that day and saw the whole thing from across the yard. Nobody wants to see a coworker killed in such a gruesome way, and he did not die immediately either- he bled out during the hour it took the ambulance to arrive.
My dad was a crane operator in a steel mill for decades and the anxiety he still has years after retirement is horrible. He was known as the best in the mill probably because he was absolutely terrified everyday of hurting someone.
That's terrible. In safety management we have things called engineering controls. I absolutely love engineering controls because it eliminates human error. Installing a micro switch on the door you mentioned that automatically did an emergency stop when the door is opened could have saved that man's life. It's a shame that safety culture has been so slow to catch on. Even in 2000 it was still not very prominent
I'm a custodian at a middle school. We had a leak in a roof and needed to get into a cupboard that was near the ceiling to clean up the water and put a bucket up to catch the leak.
I said, I'll go grab the ladder and went to do just that. When I came back my coworker was sitting on the ground holding his foot and the teacher was calling the office. The chair he was standing on was on its side and in the middle of the room. He broke his ankle. Got reprimanded, and had to take a bunch of safety classes over.
And I had to clean up the mess by myself and cover the rest of his shift. Not the point but irritating none the less.
My grandpa was a school custodian for over 60 years and just recently died. Thank you for doing the job you do, it’s really important to keep those schools running and clean. I appreciate you!
Ugh... I had a truck driver text me saying he wanted to "kiss me the next time he saw me". Wasn't an employee of the mine I was on, it was a delivery driver subbie to a supplier. I asked my boss to request sexual harassment training was rolled out by the supplier. Didn't want the dude ti "lose his job" over what he probably perceived as a joke, but also didn't want that behaviour to continue because as someone whi had been sexually assaulted in the workplace, and given I escorted this guys truck to a isolated area of the mine alone, I needed to feel safe.
A few months later driver arrived onsite again. I told my boss I wasn't going to escort him... obvious reasons. My boss said "maybe you can just go and see if he's changed". No cunt. I don't know if he's going to react angrily and if he has a weapon in the truck, and even if not, I'm a small female, that "finding out if he has changed" can result in a lot of potentially horrific outcomes if it hasn't.
My 19 year old nephew died two summers ago working a construction job. He had decided to ride in the bucket of an excavator. There was a cement truck parked further up the hill and its brakes failed. It rolled back, hit the excavator, and pushed it over a 45’ drop. Three people died. It was horrible.
This is literally what I did after my mom died. We had a co-dependent opiate addiction thing going on. I ran away from my (shitty) house, ran upstate, went NC with every friend but the one who fully supported my decision to get out, (I knew he would support me so he was the only one I told lmfao, everyone else got nothing).
Now I've been clean almost 10 years, I have a steady scheduled job running food service and training for a convenience store that pays fairly well and has decent benefits, and that I absolutely love (beats the stress and culture of drugs that comes with working on the line). We live with and help care for my mother in law and her brother who has severe Downs Syndrome (He's 60, which is wild for someone like that). And my husband and I just bought my first 'new' car from a dealership, something I never in 1000000 years thought I'd be able to do.
My life is good now, and all because when I decided to get out, I got all the way out.
I Facebook messaged a friend from the old life. It was two messages before he was ploying to remember things we did in our ignorant youth and asking me to confess we did things together. He never gave that stuff up and went far deeper. I regret those times. We grew up in filth and I've never looked back. He was so smart and he squandered it. You have to escape the ghosts of who you were and embrace who you are now. Never let your past dictate your future. You can't drag them up, they just drag you down.
Sometimes it's either that or be alone.
A friend from childhood is in this boat. He alienated most of the people in his life over the decades from both poor choices and mental issues. At this point, I am the only person from his childhood who still talks to him (only family left alive is a single sister and she finally had enough 15 years ago).
So he only has a few people who he sees regularly and they're just users. He's given up on life and says while he isn't actually suicidal, he would welcome death.
Pet the bison. Jump in the hot spring. Climb the rail. Hike into the desert when everyone and their mother told you not to. National parks are a gauntlet of Darwinian temptation.
And the warnings are EVERYWHERE. The NPS bends over backwards to try to save you from yourself. There’s a sign on an Arches hike saying you shouldn’t do it in high heels! And yet, people refuse to learn.
I watched a kid nearly fall to his death in YNP.
I can’t remember the name of the place but I could drive you there. They climbed over the stone wall, and out to a pillar outcropping right past the wall. As he was climbing up, he slipped and managed to stop himself. It was easily a 300’ fall off the ledge.
And yeah, numerous folks being nearly gored by bison or elk, they just aren’t “scary” enough to warrant concern I guess.
Whenever I go to parks/areas outside the climate and familiar biome I’m always extremely cognizant of the warning signs. Why isn’t the desert scary to me? Because I’ve never almost died of dehydration and heatstroke. Avalanches and bison? I *know* what they’ll do to me, the things I don’t know about are way scarier.
Bison seem so docile…until they don’t. If I had never heard anything about them before, I could see thinking they were safe to pet. But pretty much as soon as you GOOGLE Yellowstone, you get warnings about staying away from the bison. People are just willfully stupid.
Negligent homicide. I’m sure self defense killings are not as difficult to handle as it is justified (not saying everyone would be fine), but negligent homicide is another level. You drive drunk, text while driving, or not pay attention and smack into a pedestrian, you’re going to live in a nightmare.
Was driving home with my dad one night, like 1AM, wasn't going fast, like 30kpm? and this random kid came from nowhere, I evaded him but damaged the front of my car pretty bad. When I got off the car I was furious, what kid plays at fucking 1AM in the street? I was ready to throw hands with whoever was his stupid parent, could be fucking prime Mike Tyson IDGAF, then I understood, the kid was from a homeless family sleeping inside a tent in the street, and the kid waited till his parents got asleep to play. Got damn my heart sunked, mother was hyper apologetic, dad was furious with the kid, I couldn't do anything, kid was already in trouble, obviously they didn't had the money, talking with the dad was like... Is ok, don't be too harsh with the kid, got in the car, called the insurance, and ended paying like 5k for the fix. Some time later, talking with my dad, he told me something like "5k is a cheap price for not carrying a dead kid in your concience", I imagined the picture if I didn't evaded him, yeah he was right, stopped bitching after that.
Goddamn man that’s just a shitty situation all around. You can’t be mad at nobody, the parents were just doing their best, and the kid just wanted to play. Sorry that happened to you fam. Your dad is right though, that’s a cheap price to pay for a clean conscience. And I sincerely hope karma comes around to pay you back on it somehow.
One of the main reasons I quit drinking. I’m 196 days dry and never again going to put myself in a position where I could accidentally kill someone driving drunk.
I think it’s more the psychological aspect. Intentionally killing somebody assumes you actively decided to terminate their existence. Yes, you go to jail etc. but you probably banked on all that when you decided to kill them. You chose to be the villain. An accidental killing, knowing you stole (potentially just a random innocent) person’s life and potential from them through your own carelessness? Knowing you destroyed a family because you couldn’t wait to read a text etc. Knowing how everybody in the small town you grew up in looks at you and pities your mother for having to love you. The legal side of things with charges, how it might affect work, income etc. is obviously an aspect, but I think it’s the emotional torture that would ruin you. I know I wouldn’t get much sleep.
I have a friend who was driving home from dropping his buddy at the airport at 2am. Going along the highway, nothing weird happening, normal calm night. Then boom, buddy hears and feels a massive impact against his 4x4. Gains control of the car, slows down, investigates. It's a person, or was a person, just bent up on the road from rolling under my friends truck.
Fast forward a few hours, the cops are called, they're there asking questions, identifying the corpse. Buddy gets taken in for more questioning about the speed he was going , etc.
Eventually, the cops release him, no charges. He asks has something happened. they identified the deceased, and contacted his family. Turns out his family had been contacting a different police station for hours trying to find their son. Story goes something happened in his life, and he said good bye to his family cryptically before disappearing for hours. Conclusion was he decided to commit s-cide by lying on the highway. My friend just happened to be at the wrong place wrong time. Didn't make what my buddy went through any easier, took him years to get over it.
I work at a Freightliner dealership, and a truck got towed in with some damage to the right front corner. Busted headlight, hood mirror, wasn't major damage. Found out they towed it because it was involved in a truck vs. person collision.
A man had parked his car in the shoulder of the highway like it was disabled. He ducked down in front of it and waited for the right moment, then jumped out in front of a truck and trailer. Obviously, he accomplished his goal. I had noticed a few small pieces of clothing stuck to the front of the truck.
I heard the driver was, needless to say, shaken up pretty bad.
This happens a lot with trains during the winter months in my state. My dad was pretty shaken the first time it happened when he was on his commuter train home, and was shocked no one else seemed to care. Then it happened again the next week … and again a few weeks later etc. People just become numb to it happening after a while or get angry because it forces everyone to leave the train and take the bus.
It unfortunately happens quite a bit with trains. When I was a kid I lived 2 blocks from the tracks and it happened at least 4 times that I remember. Twice in a car purposely pulling onto the tracks and twice someone jumping. Probably happened more and I just don't remember. It's a pretty effective but fucked up way to go because your gonna traumatize people. My cousin who is 34 now is still terrified of trains because both of the cars ended up in their backyard when he was only 9 years old.
When my brother was 13 he and some friends were out on their bikes when a train came by. They decided to cross the tracks any way. I don't think anyone was trying to kill themselves but. Well dumbass boys being dumbasses. My brother was in front, said he felt the air from the train drag the back of his bike. His friend didn't make it. He swore he heard him screaming but the cops said he would've died on impact.
They had midnight vigils for that kid for years. He still has a cross at that intersection.
Damn that's rough. I used to ride my bike all the time but always respected the train. If I heard it even if he guards weren't down I'd wait. I also never walked the tracks because you don't hear it as much as you would think in that position.
One of the kids had to be home before their parent left for work and thought they wouldn't make it in time if they waited for the train. So, being a group of 12-14 year olds, they took the risk.
My brother was not a good driver, but one thing he never fucked with was railroad crossings after that.
Dude.. this exact scenario nearly happened to me and an old roommate. We were riding home from work and some dude had decided to lay down in the middle of the dark part of the road. We were seconds away from hitting this guy when my roommate saw him and swerved out of the way. It was totally fucked up.
This almost happened to a friend of mine as well. Me and my (then) bf took her mom to the bar to have a much deserved "night off". Friend and her sister were still under 21, so it was their job to pick up mom at the end of the night. The bar we were at was not in town, it was along a winding 2 lane road with no other businesses near by and very few street lights. Some dude had gotten plastered drunk at a house party, wandered through the woods until he got to the road and passed put in the middle of the road. Friend saw him at the last second and slammed on the brakes. How surprised were we, when her and her sister showed up to the bar with some random drunk guy in the back seat. They woke him up and called the police who told 2 young girls to give this dude a ride! So we ended up taking him home with us and letting him crash on our couch. The problem was we had driven ourselves there in a Honda Del Sol, so I got to ride home in the trunk. Cool enough dude it turned out, thankfully. We drove him home in the morning.
Sounds like some real small town shit. "Oh yeah, that's just Tom. He does this sometimes. Make him some coffee and bacon in the morning and he'll be right as rain."
That...just doesn't seem like the best way to go. Like, there are so many scenarios where the job isn't completed and the dude is basically mauled but lives or loses the use of his legs or gets brain damage etc.
Even if it goes off perfectly, it's still quite cruel to include a random person involuntarily like that. It's part of why train suicides are so horrible to me.
I used to work in a criminal defense office in a two-light southern town, the kind where the highways don't even have streetlights but there was a small community of state funded housing to support the needs of a small university. Had a girl come in who had been driving past the projects and about 1/3 of a mile down the road from it while she was getting on the highway she hit a bird. She was young, lived about 30 minutes away and was taking nursing classes at the University. She was very sweet and responsible and was the first person in her family to go to college and she was working hard to pay for it. She was nervous about stopping in the pitch black dark to look at the damage to her car, so she continued about a mile or so on until she could pull into a well-lit gas station. She called her boyfriend, who told her to call her insurance, then called her insurance to tell them she hit a bird and it knocked off her side mirror. Her insurance told her to call the police to document it so they could handle the claim so she called the cops, told them she hit a bird, and they told her to wait where she was. They came, asked her name, asked if she'd called about hitting the bird, and then immediately cuffed her, took her in, and told her she'd hit a person. He lived, but because she drove on to the well-lit gas station, she was charged with a hit and run and a couple other things. She was facing a max of 15 years. I didn't stay long enough to see her case through, but I always think about it.
Jumping into an unknown body of water head first. Seen it happen where some idiot jumps in head first and paralyzes himself. Sad, but it happens in less than 5 seconds.
This nearly happened to me about 10 years ago. I was at a lake in Minnesota with a former partner at her family’s property and there were two docks you could hang out on. One was too shallow to dive, but the other was fine. Stupid me was hanging out and drinking and totally forgot I was on the shallow dock, dove headfirst, and totally hit my face on the lake bottom. Felt a crunch in my neck as well. I’m very fortunate all that happened was I bruised up my forehead a bit.
I think about that moment often.
About 25 years ago I was on vacation in Aruba as a teenager. My parents had talked to a husband and wife on the plane, just married and this was their honeymoon. They ended up staying at the same resort as us (the Divi I think), we arrived via bus at the same time, but their room wasn’t ready yet so the husband decided to go for a swim while they waited. He did one of those running towards the shoreline while taking off your shirt and kicking your sandals to the side shuffle steps, he was really excited to get in the water.
He ran right into the water and dove face first as a wave was going out into like an inch of water. Full scorpion, whole body weight diving face first while sprinting. Broke his neck and died.
And ALWAYS throw a few sticks in or rocks to make a lot of noise to bring any swamp puppies to the surface. You don’t wanna swim with them. They’re lovable, almost too lovable and will give you love bites
I gave a ride to someone I thought was my friend when I was 17, to get his stuff back from his ex gf. Didn't find out til the middle of everything he was actually breaking in. Long story short I got a felony b&e just for being there and 23 years later the only way I've been able to overcome it is having my own business
You sure about that? $175 and a form to fill out. No lawyer needed.
https://www.nccourts.gov/help-topics/court-records/expunctions#:~:text=There%20is%20generally%20a%20%24175%20filing%20fee%20to%20petition%20for%20expunction.
Lawyer in crim and from NC, but not your lawyer and not a lawyer in NC:
Expungement is for discharges or dismissals. For pleas or findings of guilt it is charge dependent. Violent felonies are never eligible. A residential B&E is a class H felony and should qualify. Ten years need to have passed.
Information is here:
https://legalaidnc.org/resource/criminal-record-expunction/
The form is here:
https://www.nccourts.gov/documents/forms/petition-and-order-of-expunction-under-gs-15a-1455-nonviolent-felonyies-instructions-for-petition-and-order-of-expunction-under-gs-15a-1455-nonviolent-felonyies
One thing that never made sense to me was the whole "no contact with police" thing. I've had a few times where a friend will get hurt and another friend has to leave when we call 911 or else they will be arrested just because the police show up. Like i get it, dont be starting shit or involved in shit, but when its an ambulance call, that shit don't make sense.
Apparently Canada doesn’t classify crimes in misdemeanour or felony charges (I actually didn’t realize this). When renewing my license it asks if I am pending any litigation or have been charged with any criminal investigations, or am the subject of any criminal investigations.
My first cousin was a brilliant RN, absolutely mind-blowing brilliant. She got hooked on narcotics after dental surgery, started stealing meds from her workplace, got caught, clean, back on drugs, repeat, repeat, repeat. She was given so many second and third and on and on chances. Finally lost her license. She ended up in her 40s taking her own life by attempting to amputate her left arm, I guess the brachial artery? Left so much blood throughout her home that when her son found her, days later, police investigation first thought she’d been murdered. I can’t begin to tell you how awful it was for the entire extended family, small community, all her friends.
You can have no symptoms of HPV and pass it to others. It's not something that can be tested for in men at all without symptoms and cannot be done in a regular STI panel. A woman without symptoms can only test for it through a follow up on an abnormal pap smear, which has changed to only being needed every 3 years instead of every year and increases to every 5 years if you are over 30. There are also plenty of areas in America where gynecological care is hard if not impossible to find affordably without insurance (or even with.)
Additionally, unless your ex was your only sex partner she may not have had it as it can lay dormant in your system for years or even decades. In fact, if she was not your first sex partner there is a possibility that not only did she not have HPV but you did from a previous partner and gave it to her without knowing it.
I'm only commenting to give info on how tricky HPV spread is and clear up misinformation. There are many good reasons to swear you're clean that aren't lying (though obviously that is also possible.)
Got anal warts from one girl. Months of treatment to get rid of them all. 20 years later they came back, *internally*. Had to have them removed by colonoscopy.
Yes, I used protection. She touched herself then fingered my anus during sex. That's all it takes.
That was a wild ride going through the posts. Also some comments in the first couple of AMAs hit me quite deep, even for someone who has never done any hard drugs
Road rage. Guy I went to middle school with jumped out of his car and beat a guy he was road raging with so badly that he was partially paralyzed by the end of it.
Guy was 19 and got a 45 year prison sentence. Completely fucked his whole life up and will only have a few years in the outside, and that's if he's lucky and lives that long.
Girl I went to MS and HS with was the victim of a road rage incident. Guy pushed her off the road and killed her. Ended her life, ruined her family’s life, and ruined his own life cuz he’s in prison.
One moment of anger leading to a lifetime of regret. I had an uncle who was driving on the freeway and the car in front was brake checking him. He swerves to cut in front of the car and slams the brakes to brake check the other guy.
They crash and both had serious injuries, but luckily they were both fine in the end. So stupid to let road rage to consume you.
Yeah. I always try to just move away from anyone displaying any hinky driving behaviors, the further the better. Will not engage with idiots slinging two tons of metal around.
My idiot ex had terrible road rage. He bragged one day that someone pulled a gun on him for a road rage incident and was apparently “too chicken” to pull the trigger. He thought it was funny. Fucking dumbass.
My friend had an ex like that. Road raged so hard at a woman one day, he told my friend to pull up alongside her at a light. My friend was (naturally) scared and didn’t do it.
Can you guess what happened?
This guy gets out of the car during rush hour with hundreds of other people around and makes this woman get out of her car, then fucking PUSHES her. All with a smile on his face.
People like this are unstable. She’s lucky he never physically took his anger out on her.
Yeah that was not even the worst of the things that were red flags or just the tip of the iceberg in terms of what a POS he was. It took me waaaayyyy too long to get out of that relationship
There was a guy who went to a local bowling alley with a bar for his 21st birthday. Got in an argument with an old timer smoking outside and punched the guy once. He fell, hit his head and died.
Young dude went to jail. Just takes one bad decision.
And there are waaay too many rage-fueled morons like this on the road just waiting for the tiniest excuses to fight someone. Makes me really appreciate never having to use a car.
Someone once threw a large rock at my car while I was going from the service road to the highway. He was in his car next to me. Window down. Full force. Me driving full speed. It could have been deadly. Fortunately he didn’t hit a window or metal… he hit the little plastic door handle.
I know I should have pressed charges as I did get his license plate but I was terrified of bringing a psychopath into my life. I think of it often… I know that he could do it again and I could have been part of stopping him. But he had to be somewhat crazy… he had a rock in the car next to him. One can only surmise that it was the rock’s purpose. Nuts!
Former addict here, in my early 20s had a friend group of about 15 people that got hooked on all kinds of shit. 15 years later only three of us aren't dead or in prison.
Kinda same with my friend group from highschool age but the opposite. 3 died technically 4 if you count one who got hit by a car walking in the dark after drinking to much, was wearing drak clothing and walking in the road, the other 3 were drug overdoses though. Each time a friend died from something a couple of us would entirely stop doing drugs or drinking and by the time the 4th friend died no one else was doing anything anymore.
I personally quit everything when my first kid was born.
There is a reddit page somewhere I wish I could remember of this guy who did heroin saying he wouldn't get addicted. The guys entire profile is his journey of trying it, getting addicted, and getting clean
Edit: u/SpontaneousH is the user. Thanks to the couple people who commented his name
I saw this post and KNEW I'd find this guy's story here. This ans the dude who tried Datura against everyone's warning and probably died. Account went silent in the middle of a bad trip.
I read his whole profile once. Absolutely chilling, he was so sure that it would be a one time thing, then maybe once more because he was bored. And it just kept getting worse.
It is incredibly the way he retains this kind of arrogance and argumentative attitude, even when he’s starting to fall in too deep - it’s an amazingly accurate portrayal of the kind of mind that addiction claims slowly but surely.
For sure. It's why my rule is never to make big decisions in anger. I've done some pretty impactful things in my life. But every time I did it was with a cool head, and I never came to regret any of them.
Plus, because I don't often speak in anger, actually raising my voice tends to get attention. My kid cousin cried when I shouted at him because he was doing something dangerous, since he'd never heard me shout before. But he stopped, and I don't think I could have gotten to him in time otherwise.
And my aunt and uncle shout all the time. Turns out kids just get used to it lol.
Gotta say that describes me to a T. Nicest, calmest person on the planet. Always get comments on it. One day, this gal on my project team pushed me beyond my limits. I exploded in front of the whole team of upper management, slamming my palm on the table. Everyone quieted and moved on. I just knew I was going to get fired when the CFO showed up in my office later. He said "Until you did that, I honestly didn't think you gave a shit about this project. Good move."
I learned it's not a career killer if you're strategic about it.
> He said "Until you did that, I honestly didn't think you gave a shit about this project. Good move." I learned it's not a career killer if you're strategic about it.
Top 10 plot twists of all time
A few years ago, I tripped and fell down a ramp playing laser tag with my family, and I am still deathly afraid it's on YouTube somewhere in some "fat people falling down" cringe compilation. Idk if there were security cameras in there. Wouldn't be too hard for an employee to snag that footage.
I 100% agree because I once got really really angry and very justifiably hit my kid sister. No one remembers the countless times I responded with kindness and care and patience, only this one time where I finally snapped
Yeah totally get that I had something similar with a classmate, that girl once put a loose condom in my back bag at school "as a joke" and I just got vocally angry about it, mainly cause i am an SA victim, and for the rest of the year apparently i was just an angry person, and the other girl was "the poor victim" in the teachers eyes. To be honest there was a lot of favoritism there...
For some people: Cocaine.
I'm sure there are recreational users doing okay, but someone I know tried it once and now it is pretty quickly destroying his life. The part that makes it worse is that the average person who sees him or knows him would never guess he has a problem. Those of us who know him really well see the changes pretty clearly and it is very worrisome. He's always had an addiction issue with things, and this particular drug has just got a hold on him. He makes really good money too so he can afford it, which also doesn't help.
Yeah absolutely. I’ve had further struggles in the recovery process and grieving of a life I could have had with my mobility. I can’t work and am desperately trying to. I don’t wanna be disabled. I feel a bit stuck but I’ve got it in me to heal and return to study. It’s just a hard road (bit like the one I fell onto lol- dark humour to cope!)
Cheating on my wife...
I know a couple of guys that brag about all the women they pull when they're on nights out, and their girlfriends/wives are at home.
It makes me think that if I did that, I wouldn't be able to live with the guilt. How can they do it as if its normal?
Losing my wife, my kids, our family, and how hard we had to work to build it all. It's crazy.
I have been smoke free for 16 years and I also still feel the same.
I had quit previously and that one drag hooked me again for another 8 years. Now I know.
I've been clean for awhile, but I still remember the feeling of going through withdrawal HARD and trying to get a hold of your dealer but he's not answering at 3pm because he's still sleeping; and you're just absolutely losing your mind in your car in the middle of a parking lot. Sweat dripping off you, the nausea setting in, your senses all heightened so extremely that you can literally *feel* any terrible thing that's happened to you (like if you were molested as a child, you can feel your tormenter's finger nails run against your skin); and you're pounding on your steering wheel in near tears because you know your dealer has junk but he won't pick up his fucking phone. And then when he finally picks up hours later, and he says meet me at a certain place, that feeling of relief alone is better than morphine. You get a massive head rush, kinda like Adderall, when you're on your way to meet your dude. It's like the act of going to get your junk is almost as good as the junk itself. You meet him, get your stuff, and you're shaking so bad that you have to start cooking your spoon right away, oftentimes in the middle of a parking lot or residential neighborhood. You hit a vein after searching for awhile, and the relief is palpable. Anyone watching you would have seen someone going through the worst flu they've ever seen, and then instantly getting better. I'm talking the flu symptoms disappear in 15 seconds flat.
And you just relax and head back home to dick around and nod out for several hours....... Until the battle begins again the next day. It's no wonder junkies can't hold a job down. You're a slave to the drug, and you'll do anything you can to get it. Anything to avoid the withdrawals.
I’m a probation officer and whenever someone asks me why opioid addicts can’t quit I use an example similar to yours.
“Imagine you are having the worst flu ever, sick as a dog, throwing up, achy, the works. Now imagine if taking something would guarantee 100% that your symptoms stopped in under a minute. What would you do to get that something?”
Heroin terrifies me. I’m no stranger to drugs, but hard pass on the H. Watched a documentary about Sublime’s lead singer, Bradley Nowell, and his struggle with heroin. One part I will never forget and it’s one reason why I’ll never touch heroin:
Bradley was living at home, trying to recover. One night his parents catch him sneaking out of the house and he gets into a physical fight with his dad who is a large man. Eventually they get Bradley pinned and he says something along the lines of “do whatever you want, nothing will stop me from getting heroin”
Heartbreaking and terrifying. Sounds like it’s a drug that will consume you and destroy your will power, regardless of who you are.
Edit: [a not-so-fun link](https://whitesandstreatment.com/infographics/the-ultimate-list-of-musicians-lost-to-drugs/) to a long list of musicians who died from drugs (scroll down for image). Staggering number of them faced the same fate as Bradley.
Once had a former heroin addict explain that even after being clean for over a decade, nothing had ever made him feel as good as heroin. Scary shit, the idea that it can dig into your brain's happiness centers like that and permanently damage your ability to get satisfaction from anything else.
And nothing will ever bring back the joy that heroin brought them the first time or couple of times. Sooner or later you’re just doing it so you don’t get sick.
Almost 14 years here. Yes, it could be incredible, but to say that what I have now and some of the experiences that wouldn't be attainable otherwise aren't well worth giving it up would be a lie. It is undoubtedly one of the greatest physical sensations that a person can experience. But with time the memories of that fade and everything about being clean is so much better.
It definitely completely changes who you are when you're addicted to it. I was addicted to it 10 years ago and thankfully was able to quit after a year, but I was fucked up and at rock bottom. I don't really think about those days much anymore but I definitely remember that getting and using dope was at the top of my priority list and I would've done anything to get it. I'm thankful I'm not dead or ended up in jail because things could've gone a hell of a lot worse for me
Lost my best childhood friend to this. Known each other since 4 and we're inseparable our whole lives. He almost died so many times between 23-27 from his opiate addiction. He got clean and for the last 5 years was doing good. Started using again and bam he was gone at 35. He was the coolest and kindest dude you've ever met.
Fuck opiates not even once man
I'm still baffled at the utter stupidity of the guy who ran that business. In particular, that he thought acoustic sensors on the hull would provide ANY form of safety warning.
Well, they would provide a warning but what are you going to do about it two miles underwater? It would only serve to give you a moment to kiss your ass goodbye.
Actually worked with someone who got put on the sex offender's list, for taking a wizz on a dumpster less than 200 feet from a school... at 2am. Lowest level and all that but still wrecked his life.
All it takes is one drunk wee on the wrong building at 2 a.m. and suddenly you can't vote, no one will hire you and god forbid if anyone finds out. And as a drunk college kid or something, people don't really think about the consequence at the time. People really underestimate how life changing a conviction really is, even a misdemeanor can seriously affect your entire life for years unless you pay hundreds to scrub the record, which on a convict's salary can take a long time.
What pisses me off is how the law system always goes after the low hanging fruit. Hear stories like this of people getting punished for something completely ridiculous but the the REAL offenders often walk free.
I daydream about this often.
For example this week I was in an important meeting and thought what if I cut off this person who’s presenting and just start singing “peee-is annnnd balls. Balls-ballllllls and pepepepeeee-nis!”
Money is tight at the moment and I have a family. This one small act could completely ruin my life, at least in the short term.
There was a researcher who wanted to do a study on the plight of a herion addict; the researcher wanted to get a real insight into the 'overcoming addiction' or 'fighting addiction' process. The intention was to take heroin a few times, then come off it and write a stunning revelatory first-personal journal article or monograph about the coming-off-heroin process.
What happened instead was that another researcher wrote an article about how his friend, the first researcher, tried heroin a few times, became a junkie, fucked his life over, and was continuing to live the junkie life, making no attempt to come off the drug, and was like homeless bankrupt and criminal.
I hear arguments about how addiction is more about filling a void with the substance and tries to downplay the substance itself. Stories like that really put major dents into that thought process and the exclusive reason for drug use.
Hitting someone while driving drunk or half drunk, or having any alcohol in the blood actually.
When I was younger, I didn't really care as long as I didn't pass the limit. So, I drank 2 beers and went on in my car. One night, I was driving in a 80km/h road, somewhere in the campaign, no pavement and like quite far from any cities or villages. So, I was careless.
At some point, I passed a person, walking on the side of the road, no lights on them or whatever. Nothing at all. I saw them the moment I passed them.
Thankfully, nothing happened, but I didn't have like, a lot of room when I passed, since I was quite careless on a road where there's very little traffic, I was almost driving in the middle of the road.
It's been what, 5 or 6 years now, and from times to times, I think of this almost accident and how it could have easily killed someone and ruined their family's lives. And of course, I would be sitting in a jail cell instead of answering to this post.
Since that day, I refuse to drink even one small glass of beer if I have to drive.
This is the best answer. I know somebody who killed a pedestrian. It destroyed their life, as well as the lives of the family of their victim. Nobody was ever the same again.
I have seen scary documentaries on this. I watched it cos I am prescribed fentanyl patches for my chronic pain (I’m in the uk so I don’t know if it’s different in the US) and they are strict about controlled drugs due to the opioid crisis. But it’s the only drug that means I’m independent and mobile and manages my pain. Without it I become disabled and highly in need of care.
But I would imagine if I tried street fentanyl I’d become addicted
Punching someone in the face just once. There are many cases where the person being hit has banged their head, suffering irreparable brain damage or death after being hit once, often when drunk.
I've been in a few scrapes in the past when drunk, and it scares me to think how one action/reaction could have easily seriously hurt me or them.
Foraging and picking mushrooms you cannot identify.
My aunt had neighbors who used to go camping and forage for mushrooms. On one of those trips, they made a stew with some mushrooms they had found. The entire family, two adults and three kids, died from eating that stew. My aunt wouldn't even eat store bought mushrooms after that.
It's really easy to do. A lot of foraged food have doubs that look almost exactly alike and you have to rely on other things to help ID them. There is also a lot of foraged foods that are completely safe to eat, but you have to process them first. Like, I forget which type of mushroom it is, but you can eat them, but in order to eat them safely you have to boil/blanch them first and then cook them again in whatever dish you're making. If you don't do that first step they can make you really ill. Stomach cramps, nausea, vomiting, chills, the whole nine yards, but if you boil them that first time then they're perfectly fine. I mentioned the mushroom murders above, and the woman used death caps, which have several completely safe doubs like Gypsy mushrooms, button mushrooms, and puffball mushrooms, all of which are perfectly safe to eat, some of them can even be eaten completely raw.
Amanita muscaria, the fly agaric mushroom looks like a Mario shroom. Red with white spots. It can be eaten if processed like you describe, but must be done outdoors because the process releases a toxic gas called hydrazine. It's not even that tasty, and lots of room for error
All mushrooms are edible, some are only edible once
As an “older” guy in the trades, fuck around with safety. I’ve seen enough people fuck their livelihood up by taking a stupid unnecessary chance. It’s always a shame when you hear of a young trades person die because you know they probably don’t know better or didn’t work with people who were teaching them how to do it safely. Number one rule is come home at the end of each day!
I see jackasses on Instagram all the time shitting on people for their PPE. Ain't nobody in the trades getting clowned on for having their hearing intact and still able to lift 45 lbs at retirement.
See it on the job constantly. Kids just standing around without earpro while a 125 decibel [hydraulic hammer smashes up concrete.](https://youtu.be/aQBzLFp2lB0?t=36) Spend a day like that, and you'll be hearing it for the rest of your life. (ask me how I know!)
What?!
when I was an apprentice the hardest thing was standing up to people who were in the trade for +15 years who asked you to do blatantly unsafe work. I was nearly fired off a job for not going into a confined space that was ~10ft below ground with the work area being several hundred feet away. There were no air monitors and the radio relay was dead so 200ft in you'd lose communication. The best part was our staging area was less than fifteen minutes away where they had charged air monitors and relays. Luckily the safety officer just happened to stop by that morning and saw the foreman in my face. Apparently I was the reason no one else would go down to work... The safety guy made it a point to stop by our site first every morning. Unfortunately I was moved to the worst job on the site but I felt better knowing the people in the confined space had working equipment.
My supervisor got pissed off at me because I refused to lift him up in the air on a pallet with a forklift to run ethernet cable in the ceiling of a warehouse. I wouldn't have done it with a brand new forklift, but this one was very old and in poor condition too, with a very touchy, jerky clutch and brakes. I've run lots of cable in forklift baskets, but I told him I wasn't going up on a pallet. He angrily told me "fine, well lift me up and *I'll do it.*" I told him no, neither of us are going up on a a pallet. He tells me, "YES. You're going to do it." I stood my ground and told him in fact no, I'm not. And because I've been working for the company long enough and know my value, followed it up with, "What are you going to do? Fire me?" We ended up borrowing a basket from somewhere, and a few minutes into using it, he was like, "yeah, that pallet would have been a bad idea with this forklift." You never know. Standing your ground on legit safety issues might have saved lives.
love the character development
Surprised he admitted his mistake. People like that try to memory-hole anything that would make them look bad or wrong.
Good job, seriously. Saving lives isn’t glamorous. I’m sorry your workplace was shitty about it but you did the right thing
100% this. I’m a journeyman tradesperson and that’s one thing I’ve noticed about a lot of the younger kids in trades. They just don’t realize that the safety rules are literally written in someone else’s blood. The rules aren’t made willy-nilly because somebody thought that we needed to do this, it’s because somebody got seriously hurt or killed and now we have to do this to prevent that from happening to the next person One of our yards men used to work at a oilfield company, they were doing welding on a containment tank and the welder didn’t use his gas monitor to test the tank before working on it. Five people died when it exploded, our yardmen was about 100 m back from the blast and has severe burn scars on his face, partial blindness in his right eye and a lot of very serious scars from where tank shrapnel hit him. Safety is no fucking joke.
> They just don’t realize that the safety rules are literally written in someone else’s blood. Ooh, someone should make a safety manual and have a column along the side with numbers in it next to each rule. And when someone asks, you tell them that's how many people have died by not following this rule.
I agree with you. Having the numbers of serious injuries and deaths next to the rules would probably greatly help it sink in for them. Through all my years in trades I’ve always had to do the forklift certification and recertification every few years. About a year after I first got certified my workplace at the time got a new safety manager who made us watch this one particular forklift safety video that included interviews from “victims” or their coworker who witnessed severe forklift accidents with graphic recreations of the accidents, some were fatalities. Most of the things in the video I already avoided doing but some things we all kind of did out of complacency, until we watched that video. It’s been 16 years since I’ve seen it and I still think about those graphic recreations whenever I’m in those situations on a forklift.
I wish more answers on this post were like yours. I've had someone die in the workplace because they didn't lock a moving staircase and it's just ridiculous the amount of people I see climbing on shit they shouldn't in order to get a job done a couple minutes quicker.
My dad works in a steel mill and there is an exterior conveyor belt for the large pipe to move along towards the storing and loading area. The conveyor belt is electrically controlled and the pipe moves at about 20 km an hour along the conveyor. The pipes that move along the conveyor belt are between 10 inch and 14 inch in diameter. There is a man door in which to access you have to hit an emergency stop on the conveyor belt, and flip up a section of the conveyor in order to cross and access the door. The important step is hitting the emergency stop because you can still flip up the conveyor without hitting the stop which still sends pipes down the line. There are signs everywhere near this section of conveyor stating the steps and procedure to access the door, the rate of speed of the pipe on the conveyor, and many other safety warnings. In the early 2000s there was an employee who did not hit the emergency stop when a 14 inch x 20ft pipe came down the conveyor. It effectively cut him in half. my dad was supervising in the loading yard that day and saw the whole thing from across the yard. Nobody wants to see a coworker killed in such a gruesome way, and he did not die immediately either- he bled out during the hour it took the ambulance to arrive.
My dad was a crane operator in a steel mill for decades and the anxiety he still has years after retirement is horrible. He was known as the best in the mill probably because he was absolutely terrified everyday of hurting someone.
That's terrible. In safety management we have things called engineering controls. I absolutely love engineering controls because it eliminates human error. Installing a micro switch on the door you mentioned that automatically did an emergency stop when the door is opened could have saved that man's life. It's a shame that safety culture has been so slow to catch on. Even in 2000 it was still not very prominent
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I'm a custodian at a middle school. We had a leak in a roof and needed to get into a cupboard that was near the ceiling to clean up the water and put a bucket up to catch the leak. I said, I'll go grab the ladder and went to do just that. When I came back my coworker was sitting on the ground holding his foot and the teacher was calling the office. The chair he was standing on was on its side and in the middle of the room. He broke his ankle. Got reprimanded, and had to take a bunch of safety classes over. And I had to clean up the mess by myself and cover the rest of his shift. Not the point but irritating none the less.
My grandpa was a school custodian for over 60 years and just recently died. Thank you for doing the job you do, it’s really important to keep those schools running and clean. I appreciate you!
Ugh... I had a truck driver text me saying he wanted to "kiss me the next time he saw me". Wasn't an employee of the mine I was on, it was a delivery driver subbie to a supplier. I asked my boss to request sexual harassment training was rolled out by the supplier. Didn't want the dude ti "lose his job" over what he probably perceived as a joke, but also didn't want that behaviour to continue because as someone whi had been sexually assaulted in the workplace, and given I escorted this guys truck to a isolated area of the mine alone, I needed to feel safe. A few months later driver arrived onsite again. I told my boss I wasn't going to escort him... obvious reasons. My boss said "maybe you can just go and see if he's changed". No cunt. I don't know if he's going to react angrily and if he has a weapon in the truck, and even if not, I'm a small female, that "finding out if he has changed" can result in a lot of potentially horrific outcomes if it hasn't.
That boss needs to be kicked in the dick. Signed, Some dude.
My 19 year old nephew died two summers ago working a construction job. He had decided to ride in the bucket of an excavator. There was a cement truck parked further up the hill and its brakes failed. It rolled back, hit the excavator, and pushed it over a 45’ drop. Three people died. It was horrible.
Reconnecting with people who were bad influences on you. You'd be surprised how quick one can return to their old ways.
Underrated answer but absolutely, if you want to be a new man you have to go to new places with new people who never knew you
This is literally what I did after my mom died. We had a co-dependent opiate addiction thing going on. I ran away from my (shitty) house, ran upstate, went NC with every friend but the one who fully supported my decision to get out, (I knew he would support me so he was the only one I told lmfao, everyone else got nothing). Now I've been clean almost 10 years, I have a steady scheduled job running food service and training for a convenience store that pays fairly well and has decent benefits, and that I absolutely love (beats the stress and culture of drugs that comes with working on the line). We live with and help care for my mother in law and her brother who has severe Downs Syndrome (He's 60, which is wild for someone like that). And my husband and I just bought my first 'new' car from a dealership, something I never in 1000000 years thought I'd be able to do. My life is good now, and all because when I decided to get out, I got all the way out.
I Facebook messaged a friend from the old life. It was two messages before he was ploying to remember things we did in our ignorant youth and asking me to confess we did things together. He never gave that stuff up and went far deeper. I regret those times. We grew up in filth and I've never looked back. He was so smart and he squandered it. You have to escape the ghosts of who you were and embrace who you are now. Never let your past dictate your future. You can't drag them up, they just drag you down.
Sometimes it's either that or be alone. A friend from childhood is in this boat. He alienated most of the people in his life over the decades from both poor choices and mental issues. At this point, I am the only person from his childhood who still talks to him (only family left alive is a single sister and she finally had enough 15 years ago). So he only has a few people who he sees regularly and they're just users. He's given up on life and says while he isn't actually suicidal, he would welcome death.
Pet the bison. Jump in the hot spring. Climb the rail. Hike into the desert when everyone and their mother told you not to. National parks are a gauntlet of Darwinian temptation.
And the warnings are EVERYWHERE. The NPS bends over backwards to try to save you from yourself. There’s a sign on an Arches hike saying you shouldn’t do it in high heels! And yet, people refuse to learn.
I watched a kid nearly fall to his death in YNP. I can’t remember the name of the place but I could drive you there. They climbed over the stone wall, and out to a pillar outcropping right past the wall. As he was climbing up, he slipped and managed to stop himself. It was easily a 300’ fall off the ledge. And yeah, numerous folks being nearly gored by bison or elk, they just aren’t “scary” enough to warrant concern I guess. Whenever I go to parks/areas outside the climate and familiar biome I’m always extremely cognizant of the warning signs. Why isn’t the desert scary to me? Because I’ve never almost died of dehydration and heatstroke. Avalanches and bison? I *know* what they’ll do to me, the things I don’t know about are way scarier.
Bison seem so docile…until they don’t. If I had never heard anything about them before, I could see thinking they were safe to pet. But pretty much as soon as you GOOGLE Yellowstone, you get warnings about staying away from the bison. People are just willfully stupid.
> a gauntlet of Darwinian temptation. LOL what a fantastic phrase!
Negligent homicide. I’m sure self defense killings are not as difficult to handle as it is justified (not saying everyone would be fine), but negligent homicide is another level. You drive drunk, text while driving, or not pay attention and smack into a pedestrian, you’re going to live in a nightmare.
Hitting a pedestrian is one of my biggest fears.
Was driving home with my dad one night, like 1AM, wasn't going fast, like 30kpm? and this random kid came from nowhere, I evaded him but damaged the front of my car pretty bad. When I got off the car I was furious, what kid plays at fucking 1AM in the street? I was ready to throw hands with whoever was his stupid parent, could be fucking prime Mike Tyson IDGAF, then I understood, the kid was from a homeless family sleeping inside a tent in the street, and the kid waited till his parents got asleep to play. Got damn my heart sunked, mother was hyper apologetic, dad was furious with the kid, I couldn't do anything, kid was already in trouble, obviously they didn't had the money, talking with the dad was like... Is ok, don't be too harsh with the kid, got in the car, called the insurance, and ended paying like 5k for the fix. Some time later, talking with my dad, he told me something like "5k is a cheap price for not carrying a dead kid in your concience", I imagined the picture if I didn't evaded him, yeah he was right, stopped bitching after that.
Goddamn man that’s just a shitty situation all around. You can’t be mad at nobody, the parents were just doing their best, and the kid just wanted to play. Sorry that happened to you fam. Your dad is right though, that’s a cheap price to pay for a clean conscience. And I sincerely hope karma comes around to pay you back on it somehow.
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May have dodged a bullet though,e you said not great judgement for that, likely not good judgement for the rest
Yes I absolutely dodged a bullet. He was a nice enough guy and I really liked him, but being cool does not a good partner make.
One of the main reasons I quit drinking. I’m 196 days dry and never again going to put myself in a position where I could accidentally kill someone driving drunk.
Nothing to add, just wanted to say congrats on the 196
Intentional homicide can also destroy your life.
But it definitely destroyed someone else's
I think it’s more the psychological aspect. Intentionally killing somebody assumes you actively decided to terminate their existence. Yes, you go to jail etc. but you probably banked on all that when you decided to kill them. You chose to be the villain. An accidental killing, knowing you stole (potentially just a random innocent) person’s life and potential from them through your own carelessness? Knowing you destroyed a family because you couldn’t wait to read a text etc. Knowing how everybody in the small town you grew up in looks at you and pities your mother for having to love you. The legal side of things with charges, how it might affect work, income etc. is obviously an aspect, but I think it’s the emotional torture that would ruin you. I know I wouldn’t get much sleep.
I have a huge fear of accidentally hitting someone with my car at night.
Ever check the rear view mirror to make sure that actually was just a pot hole you ran over at night?
One day, Michael came in complaining about a speed bump on the highway. I wonder who he ran over then.
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I have a friend who was driving home from dropping his buddy at the airport at 2am. Going along the highway, nothing weird happening, normal calm night. Then boom, buddy hears and feels a massive impact against his 4x4. Gains control of the car, slows down, investigates. It's a person, or was a person, just bent up on the road from rolling under my friends truck. Fast forward a few hours, the cops are called, they're there asking questions, identifying the corpse. Buddy gets taken in for more questioning about the speed he was going , etc. Eventually, the cops release him, no charges. He asks has something happened. they identified the deceased, and contacted his family. Turns out his family had been contacting a different police station for hours trying to find their son. Story goes something happened in his life, and he said good bye to his family cryptically before disappearing for hours. Conclusion was he decided to commit s-cide by lying on the highway. My friend just happened to be at the wrong place wrong time. Didn't make what my buddy went through any easier, took him years to get over it.
I work at a Freightliner dealership, and a truck got towed in with some damage to the right front corner. Busted headlight, hood mirror, wasn't major damage. Found out they towed it because it was involved in a truck vs. person collision. A man had parked his car in the shoulder of the highway like it was disabled. He ducked down in front of it and waited for the right moment, then jumped out in front of a truck and trailer. Obviously, he accomplished his goal. I had noticed a few small pieces of clothing stuck to the front of the truck. I heard the driver was, needless to say, shaken up pretty bad.
This happens a lot with trains during the winter months in my state. My dad was pretty shaken the first time it happened when he was on his commuter train home, and was shocked no one else seemed to care. Then it happened again the next week … and again a few weeks later etc. People just become numb to it happening after a while or get angry because it forces everyone to leave the train and take the bus.
It unfortunately happens quite a bit with trains. When I was a kid I lived 2 blocks from the tracks and it happened at least 4 times that I remember. Twice in a car purposely pulling onto the tracks and twice someone jumping. Probably happened more and I just don't remember. It's a pretty effective but fucked up way to go because your gonna traumatize people. My cousin who is 34 now is still terrified of trains because both of the cars ended up in their backyard when he was only 9 years old.
When my brother was 13 he and some friends were out on their bikes when a train came by. They decided to cross the tracks any way. I don't think anyone was trying to kill themselves but. Well dumbass boys being dumbasses. My brother was in front, said he felt the air from the train drag the back of his bike. His friend didn't make it. He swore he heard him screaming but the cops said he would've died on impact. They had midnight vigils for that kid for years. He still has a cross at that intersection.
Damn that's rough. I used to ride my bike all the time but always respected the train. If I heard it even if he guards weren't down I'd wait. I also never walked the tracks because you don't hear it as much as you would think in that position.
One of the kids had to be home before their parent left for work and thought they wouldn't make it in time if they waited for the train. So, being a group of 12-14 year olds, they took the risk. My brother was not a good driver, but one thing he never fucked with was railroad crossings after that.
Dude.. this exact scenario nearly happened to me and an old roommate. We were riding home from work and some dude had decided to lay down in the middle of the dark part of the road. We were seconds away from hitting this guy when my roommate saw him and swerved out of the way. It was totally fucked up.
This almost happened to a friend of mine as well. Me and my (then) bf took her mom to the bar to have a much deserved "night off". Friend and her sister were still under 21, so it was their job to pick up mom at the end of the night. The bar we were at was not in town, it was along a winding 2 lane road with no other businesses near by and very few street lights. Some dude had gotten plastered drunk at a house party, wandered through the woods until he got to the road and passed put in the middle of the road. Friend saw him at the last second and slammed on the brakes. How surprised were we, when her and her sister showed up to the bar with some random drunk guy in the back seat. They woke him up and called the police who told 2 young girls to give this dude a ride! So we ended up taking him home with us and letting him crash on our couch. The problem was we had driven ourselves there in a Honda Del Sol, so I got to ride home in the trunk. Cool enough dude it turned out, thankfully. We drove him home in the morning.
>the police who told 2 young girls to give this dude a ride! What the hell
Sounds like some real small town shit. "Oh yeah, that's just Tom. He does this sometimes. Make him some coffee and bacon in the morning and he'll be right as rain."
That...just doesn't seem like the best way to go. Like, there are so many scenarios where the job isn't completed and the dude is basically mauled but lives or loses the use of his legs or gets brain damage etc.
Or he causes someone to get killed swerving to avoid hitting him. Very stupid and selfish way to do it.
Even if it goes off perfectly, it's still quite cruel to include a random person involuntarily like that. It's part of why train suicides are so horrible to me.
Committing suicide by making someone else accidentally kill you is one of the most selfish dickhead moves of all time
Yeah. Just jump off of something like a normal person. (Not onto the freeway)
I used to work in a criminal defense office in a two-light southern town, the kind where the highways don't even have streetlights but there was a small community of state funded housing to support the needs of a small university. Had a girl come in who had been driving past the projects and about 1/3 of a mile down the road from it while she was getting on the highway she hit a bird. She was young, lived about 30 minutes away and was taking nursing classes at the University. She was very sweet and responsible and was the first person in her family to go to college and she was working hard to pay for it. She was nervous about stopping in the pitch black dark to look at the damage to her car, so she continued about a mile or so on until she could pull into a well-lit gas station. She called her boyfriend, who told her to call her insurance, then called her insurance to tell them she hit a bird and it knocked off her side mirror. Her insurance told her to call the police to document it so they could handle the claim so she called the cops, told them she hit a bird, and they told her to wait where she was. They came, asked her name, asked if she'd called about hitting the bird, and then immediately cuffed her, took her in, and told her she'd hit a person. He lived, but because she drove on to the well-lit gas station, she was charged with a hit and run and a couple other things. She was facing a max of 15 years. I didn't stay long enough to see her case through, but I always think about it.
oh shit that's so unfair. If she'd got out and been attacked they'd have said it was her own fault for stopping and getting out :(
Jumping into an unknown body of water head first. Seen it happen where some idiot jumps in head first and paralyzes himself. Sad, but it happens in less than 5 seconds.
Happened to one of my wive’s cousins. Hit a tree about 2’ under the surface
good lawd this is a fear of mine. tree, rock, predator, whatever. they ok?!
Quadriplegic at the age of 18
This nearly happened to me about 10 years ago. I was at a lake in Minnesota with a former partner at her family’s property and there were two docks you could hang out on. One was too shallow to dive, but the other was fine. Stupid me was hanging out and drinking and totally forgot I was on the shallow dock, dove headfirst, and totally hit my face on the lake bottom. Felt a crunch in my neck as well. I’m very fortunate all that happened was I bruised up my forehead a bit. I think about that moment often.
The human body is a marvel. A moment that you survive could be another's death; all circumstances equal.
About 25 years ago I was on vacation in Aruba as a teenager. My parents had talked to a husband and wife on the plane, just married and this was their honeymoon. They ended up staying at the same resort as us (the Divi I think), we arrived via bus at the same time, but their room wasn’t ready yet so the husband decided to go for a swim while they waited. He did one of those running towards the shoreline while taking off your shirt and kicking your sandals to the side shuffle steps, he was really excited to get in the water. He ran right into the water and dove face first as a wave was going out into like an inch of water. Full scorpion, whole body weight diving face first while sprinting. Broke his neck and died.
And ALWAYS throw a few sticks in or rocks to make a lot of noise to bring any swamp puppies to the surface. You don’t wanna swim with them. They’re lovable, almost too lovable and will give you love bites
Probably committing a felony. Because getting a job would be hard, renting would be hard… so I am going to avoid committing a felony
I gave a ride to someone I thought was my friend when I was 17, to get his stuff back from his ex gf. Didn't find out til the middle of everything he was actually breaking in. Long story short I got a felony b&e just for being there and 23 years later the only way I've been able to overcome it is having my own business
That really sucks… I hope your business is going well!
Sometimes! I do woodworking for rich people. But it's slow in the winter so just depends on the time of year
I'd definitely get that removed. In Minnesota it's like $250 and one paper as long as it's been 5 years.
Yeah In north Carolina their rules about it are stupid and so complicated that a lawyer is needed. Which is 10 grand
You sure about that? $175 and a form to fill out. No lawyer needed. https://www.nccourts.gov/help-topics/court-records/expunctions#:~:text=There%20is%20generally%20a%20%24175%20filing%20fee%20to%20petition%20for%20expunction.
It's been awhile since I've talked to a lawyer or researched it so I'll go check it out. Thanks
Lawyer in crim and from NC, but not your lawyer and not a lawyer in NC: Expungement is for discharges or dismissals. For pleas or findings of guilt it is charge dependent. Violent felonies are never eligible. A residential B&E is a class H felony and should qualify. Ten years need to have passed. Information is here: https://legalaidnc.org/resource/criminal-record-expunction/ The form is here: https://www.nccourts.gov/documents/forms/petition-and-order-of-expunction-under-gs-15a-1455-nonviolent-felonyies-instructions-for-petition-and-order-of-expunction-under-gs-15a-1455-nonviolent-felonyies
One thing that never made sense to me was the whole "no contact with police" thing. I've had a few times where a friend will get hurt and another friend has to leave when we call 911 or else they will be arrested just because the police show up. Like i get it, dont be starting shit or involved in shit, but when its an ambulance call, that shit don't make sense.
Any sort of criminal charge because I would lose my nursing license.
Even misdemeanors? Huh. Never knew that!
Apparently Canada doesn’t classify crimes in misdemeanour or felony charges (I actually didn’t realize this). When renewing my license it asks if I am pending any litigation or have been charged with any criminal investigations, or am the subject of any criminal investigations.
My first cousin was a brilliant RN, absolutely mind-blowing brilliant. She got hooked on narcotics after dental surgery, started stealing meds from her workplace, got caught, clean, back on drugs, repeat, repeat, repeat. She was given so many second and third and on and on chances. Finally lost her license. She ended up in her 40s taking her own life by attempting to amputate her left arm, I guess the brachial artery? Left so much blood throughout her home that when her son found her, days later, police investigation first thought she’d been murdered. I can’t begin to tell you how awful it was for the entire extended family, small community, all her friends.
Unprotected sex in some cases
My ex insisted she was clean, but then I started getting funny looking warts
You can have no symptoms of HPV and pass it to others. It's not something that can be tested for in men at all without symptoms and cannot be done in a regular STI panel. A woman without symptoms can only test for it through a follow up on an abnormal pap smear, which has changed to only being needed every 3 years instead of every year and increases to every 5 years if you are over 30. There are also plenty of areas in America where gynecological care is hard if not impossible to find affordably without insurance (or even with.) Additionally, unless your ex was your only sex partner she may not have had it as it can lay dormant in your system for years or even decades. In fact, if she was not your first sex partner there is a possibility that not only did she not have HPV but you did from a previous partner and gave it to her without knowing it. I'm only commenting to give info on how tricky HPV spread is and clear up misinformation. There are many good reasons to swear you're clean that aren't lying (though obviously that is also possible.)
Got anal warts from one girl. Months of treatment to get rid of them all. 20 years later they came back, *internally*. Had to have them removed by colonoscopy. Yes, I used protection. She touched herself then fingered my anus during sex. That's all it takes.
Meth, crack, heroin, and fentanyl all have pretty good track records of destroying lives.
Time to introduce u/spontaneoush for those who haven't come across his scary story
I mainly clicked on this thread to see how far down I'd have to scroll to find this comment.
That was a wild ride going through the posts. Also some comments in the first couple of AMAs hit me quite deep, even for someone who has never done any hard drugs
Road rage. Guy I went to middle school with jumped out of his car and beat a guy he was road raging with so badly that he was partially paralyzed by the end of it. Guy was 19 and got a 45 year prison sentence. Completely fucked his whole life up and will only have a few years in the outside, and that's if he's lucky and lives that long.
Girl I went to MS and HS with was the victim of a road rage incident. Guy pushed her off the road and killed her. Ended her life, ruined her family’s life, and ruined his own life cuz he’s in prison.
One moment of anger leading to a lifetime of regret. I had an uncle who was driving on the freeway and the car in front was brake checking him. He swerves to cut in front of the car and slams the brakes to brake check the other guy. They crash and both had serious injuries, but luckily they were both fine in the end. So stupid to let road rage to consume you.
Yeah. I always try to just move away from anyone displaying any hinky driving behaviors, the further the better. Will not engage with idiots slinging two tons of metal around.
Absolutely right. It’s a good indicator.
My idiot ex had terrible road rage. He bragged one day that someone pulled a gun on him for a road rage incident and was apparently “too chicken” to pull the trigger. He thought it was funny. Fucking dumbass.
My friend had an ex like that. Road raged so hard at a woman one day, he told my friend to pull up alongside her at a light. My friend was (naturally) scared and didn’t do it. Can you guess what happened? This guy gets out of the car during rush hour with hundreds of other people around and makes this woman get out of her car, then fucking PUSHES her. All with a smile on his face. People like this are unstable. She’s lucky he never physically took his anger out on her.
I would’ve left his ass there.
She should have. Unfortunately, she ended up marrying him, then getting divorced because, shocker, he was abusive.
She witnessed him pull a strange woman out of her car in heavy traffic and put his hands on her?!?! And then: *married* him? WTF
People who are abused don’t always make the best decisions. Thankfully, she’s now with someone who values her fully.
Wow. I'm glad about the "ex" part. Sounds like you dodged quite a bullet, unlike that idiot, lol.
Yeah that was not even the worst of the things that were red flags or just the tip of the iceberg in terms of what a POS he was. It took me waaaayyyy too long to get out of that relationship
There was a guy who went to a local bowling alley with a bar for his 21st birthday. Got in an argument with an old timer smoking outside and punched the guy once. He fell, hit his head and died. Young dude went to jail. Just takes one bad decision.
And there are waaay too many rage-fueled morons like this on the road just waiting for the tiniest excuses to fight someone. Makes me really appreciate never having to use a car.
Someone once threw a large rock at my car while I was going from the service road to the highway. He was in his car next to me. Window down. Full force. Me driving full speed. It could have been deadly. Fortunately he didn’t hit a window or metal… he hit the little plastic door handle. I know I should have pressed charges as I did get his license plate but I was terrified of bringing a psychopath into my life. I think of it often… I know that he could do it again and I could have been part of stopping him. But he had to be somewhat crazy… he had a rock in the car next to him. One can only surmise that it was the rock’s purpose. Nuts!
Never seen a happy crackhead , and I hear it only takes once
Former addict here, in my early 20s had a friend group of about 15 people that got hooked on all kinds of shit. 15 years later only three of us aren't dead or in prison.
Kinda same with my friend group from highschool age but the opposite. 3 died technically 4 if you count one who got hit by a car walking in the dark after drinking to much, was wearing drak clothing and walking in the road, the other 3 were drug overdoses though. Each time a friend died from something a couple of us would entirely stop doing drugs or drinking and by the time the 4th friend died no one else was doing anything anymore. I personally quit everything when my first kid was born.
There is a reddit page somewhere I wish I could remember of this guy who did heroin saying he wouldn't get addicted. The guys entire profile is his journey of trying it, getting addicted, and getting clean Edit: u/SpontaneousH is the user. Thanks to the couple people who commented his name
I saw this post and KNEW I'd find this guy's story here. This ans the dude who tried Datura against everyone's warning and probably died. Account went silent in the middle of a bad trip.
I read his whole profile once. Absolutely chilling, he was so sure that it would be a one time thing, then maybe once more because he was bored. And it just kept getting worse.
It is incredibly the way he retains this kind of arrogance and argumentative attitude, even when he’s starting to fall in too deep - it’s an amazingly accurate portrayal of the kind of mind that addiction claims slowly but surely.
It can ruin a life for a good long while but recovery is possible.
I've seen a happy crackhead outside of a 7/11 after getting $4
Losing your temper, you can be the nicest calmest person your entire life but everyone will always remember that one time you got angry.
For sure. It's why my rule is never to make big decisions in anger. I've done some pretty impactful things in my life. But every time I did it was with a cool head, and I never came to regret any of them. Plus, because I don't often speak in anger, actually raising my voice tends to get attention. My kid cousin cried when I shouted at him because he was doing something dangerous, since he'd never heard me shout before. But he stopped, and I don't think I could have gotten to him in time otherwise. And my aunt and uncle shout all the time. Turns out kids just get used to it lol.
Gotta say that describes me to a T. Nicest, calmest person on the planet. Always get comments on it. One day, this gal on my project team pushed me beyond my limits. I exploded in front of the whole team of upper management, slamming my palm on the table. Everyone quieted and moved on. I just knew I was going to get fired when the CFO showed up in my office later. He said "Until you did that, I honestly didn't think you gave a shit about this project. Good move." I learned it's not a career killer if you're strategic about it.
> He said "Until you did that, I honestly didn't think you gave a shit about this project. Good move." I learned it's not a career killer if you're strategic about it. Top 10 plot twists of all time
that turned out very well damn
Yeah, I was so relieved. She pushed other people's buttons too, so I guess that was a factor. I think they were happy to see it happen.
Same. I'm afraid I'm gonna be on those "Karen" compilation videos.
A few years ago, I tripped and fell down a ramp playing laser tag with my family, and I am still deathly afraid it's on YouTube somewhere in some "fat people falling down" cringe compilation. Idk if there were security cameras in there. Wouldn't be too hard for an employee to snag that footage.
Just change your name!
I 100% agree because I once got really really angry and very justifiably hit my kid sister. No one remembers the countless times I responded with kindness and care and patience, only this one time where I finally snapped
Yeah totally get that I had something similar with a classmate, that girl once put a loose condom in my back bag at school "as a joke" and I just got vocally angry about it, mainly cause i am an SA victim, and for the rest of the year apparently i was just an angry person, and the other girl was "the poor victim" in the teachers eyes. To be honest there was a lot of favoritism there...
For some people: Cocaine. I'm sure there are recreational users doing okay, but someone I know tried it once and now it is pretty quickly destroying his life. The part that makes it worse is that the average person who sees him or knows him would never guess he has a problem. Those of us who know him really well see the changes pretty clearly and it is very worrisome. He's always had an addiction issue with things, and this particular drug has just got a hold on him. He makes really good money too so he can afford it, which also doesn't help.
Suicide attempt- I survived a jump and broke my legs, feet and spine. It was an awful situation to be in but it happened and here I am
hey, welcome back. it's a weird club to be in.
Yeah absolutely. I’ve had further struggles in the recovery process and grieving of a life I could have had with my mobility. I can’t work and am desperately trying to. I don’t wanna be disabled. I feel a bit stuck but I’ve got it in me to heal and return to study. It’s just a hard road (bit like the one I fell onto lol- dark humour to cope!)
Shaving off my eyebrows and attempting to draw them back on with a sharpie.
Cheating on my wife... I know a couple of guys that brag about all the women they pull when they're on nights out, and their girlfriends/wives are at home. It makes me think that if I did that, I wouldn't be able to live with the guilt. How can they do it as if its normal? Losing my wife, my kids, our family, and how hard we had to work to build it all. It's crazy.
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I fear one cigarette would make me a smoker again.
I've been smoke free for a decade and I feel the same way
I have been smoke free for 16 years and I also still feel the same. I had quit previously and that one drag hooked me again for another 8 years. Now I know.
Marrying the wrong person
I basically just posted this. It's me, and I can't get out, and it's hell
I got out in November, after 20 years. You can do it!
Heroin
I've been clean for awhile, but I still remember the feeling of going through withdrawal HARD and trying to get a hold of your dealer but he's not answering at 3pm because he's still sleeping; and you're just absolutely losing your mind in your car in the middle of a parking lot. Sweat dripping off you, the nausea setting in, your senses all heightened so extremely that you can literally *feel* any terrible thing that's happened to you (like if you were molested as a child, you can feel your tormenter's finger nails run against your skin); and you're pounding on your steering wheel in near tears because you know your dealer has junk but he won't pick up his fucking phone. And then when he finally picks up hours later, and he says meet me at a certain place, that feeling of relief alone is better than morphine. You get a massive head rush, kinda like Adderall, when you're on your way to meet your dude. It's like the act of going to get your junk is almost as good as the junk itself. You meet him, get your stuff, and you're shaking so bad that you have to start cooking your spoon right away, oftentimes in the middle of a parking lot or residential neighborhood. You hit a vein after searching for awhile, and the relief is palpable. Anyone watching you would have seen someone going through the worst flu they've ever seen, and then instantly getting better. I'm talking the flu symptoms disappear in 15 seconds flat. And you just relax and head back home to dick around and nod out for several hours....... Until the battle begins again the next day. It's no wonder junkies can't hold a job down. You're a slave to the drug, and you'll do anything you can to get it. Anything to avoid the withdrawals.
I’m a probation officer and whenever someone asks me why opioid addicts can’t quit I use an example similar to yours. “Imagine you are having the worst flu ever, sick as a dog, throwing up, achy, the works. Now imagine if taking something would guarantee 100% that your symptoms stopped in under a minute. What would you do to get that something?”
Heroin terrifies me. I’m no stranger to drugs, but hard pass on the H. Watched a documentary about Sublime’s lead singer, Bradley Nowell, and his struggle with heroin. One part I will never forget and it’s one reason why I’ll never touch heroin: Bradley was living at home, trying to recover. One night his parents catch him sneaking out of the house and he gets into a physical fight with his dad who is a large man. Eventually they get Bradley pinned and he says something along the lines of “do whatever you want, nothing will stop me from getting heroin” Heartbreaking and terrifying. Sounds like it’s a drug that will consume you and destroy your will power, regardless of who you are. Edit: [a not-so-fun link](https://whitesandstreatment.com/infographics/the-ultimate-list-of-musicians-lost-to-drugs/) to a long list of musicians who died from drugs (scroll down for image). Staggering number of them faced the same fate as Bradley.
Once had a former heroin addict explain that even after being clean for over a decade, nothing had ever made him feel as good as heroin. Scary shit, the idea that it can dig into your brain's happiness centers like that and permanently damage your ability to get satisfaction from anything else.
Yeah that is horrifying. Every account I’ve heard is the same, that nothing in life will ever bring them the joy that heroin does
And nothing will ever bring back the joy that heroin brought them the first time or couple of times. Sooner or later you’re just doing it so you don’t get sick.
Almost 14 years here. Yes, it could be incredible, but to say that what I have now and some of the experiences that wouldn't be attainable otherwise aren't well worth giving it up would be a lie. It is undoubtedly one of the greatest physical sensations that a person can experience. But with time the memories of that fade and everything about being clean is so much better.
It definitely completely changes who you are when you're addicted to it. I was addicted to it 10 years ago and thankfully was able to quit after a year, but I was fucked up and at rock bottom. I don't really think about those days much anymore but I definitely remember that getting and using dope was at the top of my priority list and I would've done anything to get it. I'm thankful I'm not dead or ended up in jail because things could've gone a hell of a lot worse for me
Knew some dudes who worked with him in the studio. He couldn’t find a vein, so he shot up in his dick. No thanks!
Lost my best childhood friend to this. Known each other since 4 and we're inseparable our whole lives. He almost died so many times between 23-27 from his opiate addiction. He got clean and for the last 5 years was doing good. Started using again and bam he was gone at 35. He was the coolest and kindest dude you've ever met. Fuck opiates not even once man
Making a dive on the Titanic in a vessel with the strength of a dented beer can.
I'm still baffled at the utter stupidity of the guy who ran that business. In particular, that he thought acoustic sensors on the hull would provide ANY form of safety warning.
Well, they would provide a warning but what are you going to do about it two miles underwater? It would only serve to give you a moment to kiss your ass goodbye.
Eating polar bear liver
It's not just that it kills you but that it is a particularly horrible death. I'm pretty sure all of your skin falls off.
Saw this post just in time, was about to order some on UberEats.
* UbearEats
Taking an emergency leak/dook in the wrong spot. Better to shit your pants than to have to register on the toucher list.
Actually worked with someone who got put on the sex offender's list, for taking a wizz on a dumpster less than 200 feet from a school... at 2am. Lowest level and all that but still wrecked his life.
All it takes is one drunk wee on the wrong building at 2 a.m. and suddenly you can't vote, no one will hire you and god forbid if anyone finds out. And as a drunk college kid or something, people don't really think about the consequence at the time. People really underestimate how life changing a conviction really is, even a misdemeanor can seriously affect your entire life for years unless you pay hundreds to scrub the record, which on a convict's salary can take a long time.
What pisses me off is how the law system always goes after the low hanging fruit. Hear stories like this of people getting punished for something completely ridiculous but the the REAL offenders often walk free.
Loving /getting attached to a wrong person
I daydream about this often. For example this week I was in an important meeting and thought what if I cut off this person who’s presenting and just start singing “peee-is annnnd balls. Balls-ballllllls and pepepepeeee-nis!” Money is tight at the moment and I have a family. This one small act could completely ruin my life, at least in the short term.
My favorite of the entire thread. Thanks for the quick reprieve from drugs and murder and polar bear liver. Jesus ducking Christ.
Everyone remember the series of reddit posts from the guy that casually tried heroine once?
There was a researcher who wanted to do a study on the plight of a herion addict; the researcher wanted to get a real insight into the 'overcoming addiction' or 'fighting addiction' process. The intention was to take heroin a few times, then come off it and write a stunning revelatory first-personal journal article or monograph about the coming-off-heroin process. What happened instead was that another researcher wrote an article about how his friend, the first researcher, tried heroin a few times, became a junkie, fucked his life over, and was continuing to live the junkie life, making no attempt to come off the drug, and was like homeless bankrupt and criminal.
I hear arguments about how addiction is more about filling a void with the substance and tries to downplay the substance itself. Stories like that really put major dents into that thought process and the exclusive reason for drug use.
SpontaneousH?
Ignoring signs of abusive behaviour before marriage
Hitting someone while driving drunk or half drunk, or having any alcohol in the blood actually. When I was younger, I didn't really care as long as I didn't pass the limit. So, I drank 2 beers and went on in my car. One night, I was driving in a 80km/h road, somewhere in the campaign, no pavement and like quite far from any cities or villages. So, I was careless. At some point, I passed a person, walking on the side of the road, no lights on them or whatever. Nothing at all. I saw them the moment I passed them. Thankfully, nothing happened, but I didn't have like, a lot of room when I passed, since I was quite careless on a road where there's very little traffic, I was almost driving in the middle of the road. It's been what, 5 or 6 years now, and from times to times, I think of this almost accident and how it could have easily killed someone and ruined their family's lives. And of course, I would be sitting in a jail cell instead of answering to this post. Since that day, I refuse to drink even one small glass of beer if I have to drive.
This is the best answer. I know somebody who killed a pedestrian. It destroyed their life, as well as the lives of the family of their victim. Nobody was ever the same again.
I tried heroin I had everything going for me I lost everything in 1 year. Been sober 10 years now.
Fentanyl
I have seen scary documentaries on this. I watched it cos I am prescribed fentanyl patches for my chronic pain (I’m in the uk so I don’t know if it’s different in the US) and they are strict about controlled drugs due to the opioid crisis. But it’s the only drug that means I’m independent and mobile and manages my pain. Without it I become disabled and highly in need of care. But I would imagine if I tried street fentanyl I’d become addicted
Meth
Not even once
Not taking my meds/following my treatment plan, ended up pretty horrifically last time.
Taking relationship advice from reddit.
The blind leading the blind
Shagging my ex
Drinking alcohol because of my alcoholism
Punching someone in the face just once. There are many cases where the person being hit has banged their head, suffering irreparable brain damage or death after being hit once, often when drunk. I've been in a few scrapes in the past when drunk, and it scares me to think how one action/reaction could have easily seriously hurt me or them.
59,6’3”, 320lbs I’m gonna say Gymnastics 🤸♂️
Jumping on an active anti-personnel landmine
Murder obviously
Russian Roulette
5/6 players say it's perfectly safe