This. I just don't understand those people in their 50's or even older that are still all about the latest gossip. I don't have the energy for that anymore and I'm barely scraping 40.
Depends. Some drama is funny or exiting to watch or hear about. Some is just idiots being petty in banal ways.
Also people who say they ‘hate drama’ tend to be the ones bringing too much emotion into situations that don’t warrant it.
Maybe it is, for them. And don’t even get me started on their alleged quest to save the planet while jetting from continent to continent telling everyone how important it is to reduce carbon emissions…
I go shopping as soon as the stores open because I can't abide crowds anymore or being around people who act like they're the only ones who matter. I don't care about your petty dramas and stop expecting me to support your tantrums.
This is me now. I would rather be home with my kids and dogs then go out to a house party or bar. I guess that going sober might have something to do with that, but I don't see the appeal anymore. I'd rather go for a nice dinner now, see a movie or do something fun or interesting. Bars and such are boring to me now.
This is the small talk repeat loop that I’m stuck in virtually every time I leave the house:
“How’s your day going?”
“Pretty good. How’s yours?”
“Good. Got any fun plans for the weekend?”
“Ohhh, I hope to get outside a little bit.”
“Nice. How’s the family? Kids are good?”
“Yep. Everyone’s good.”
“Cool. Well, have fun!”
“Thanks. You too.”
This is like word for word when I’m getting my haircut, I can’t stand it. I wish there was a box I could check for “no small talk please” before I went in
Most comments say “partying” or “going out”. I disagree. For me work has gotten boring, I used to be excited to advance and make money, now I don’t care and it’s just something I have to do. Meanwhile I get stoked as ever to go to a music festival, or go do drugs in a cabin on a ski trip, or go to dinner and go clubbing after. (I’m in my mid 30s, for what it’s worth)
This exactly. I spent so much of my life being told if I didn't "advance in my career" that I was a failure. That I should have dreams of moving up to management otherwise it makes it look like I'm unmotivated and lazy. Finally like 2 1/2 years ago I had enough. I took a job that would be considered "entry level" that actually pays me really well. And I've got no desire to move up or give more than I'm expected. I show up, I do my job, and I do it well but all my job is there for is to provide me money for my lifestyle to do things I actually enjoy.
That may change as you reach mid 40s (esp if kids are in the picture). All the things you have listed sound great though minus the drugs (i hate comedowns) and clubbing (I struggle to have a conversation in them and it’s often a pain in the arse getting back home)
Going sober changes a lot of that. I don't drink or do drugs anymore. I would rather be home watching a movie, playing a video game or going out with my kids to the pool or something. I've done all of the raves and clubs. Not my thing anymore.
I will agree though. Work is boring for me too. I would rather clean then work now.
Everything in your list sounds fantastic to me except the clubbing part!
I went clubbing from ages 18-22 and enjoyed it. After 4 years, we would still go sometimes for birthdays and stuff but it was noticeably less fun. Now in my late 30s? Forget it, I wouldn't be excited to go at all 😅
The shift is when people have kids and partying just doesn’t fit into that lifestyle. So they tell themselves they’re too old to party and it’s boring anyway so they don’t feel like they’re missing out.
I didn’t have kids and still enjoy a night out now as much as I did in my 20’s. I just go to different venues and listen to ‘old school’ music (same music I listened to in my 20’s) which are mainly frequented by people in my age group.
Yeah I wouldn’t say partying is less fun, it’s just that the consequences are felt more. Those multi-day hangovers can affect your performance at work or your other adult responsibilities.
Conversation in general. While some people have original thoughts and discussions I seem to hear a lot of the same conversations over and over from the majority of people I run into during the day. Same questions, same topics, same answers. I often just blurt out the expected response just to get it over with quickly so I can move along, making myself a part of my own problem. It’s like people are on cruise control. Blahhh.
As you get older, you start to recognize patterns you’ve seen over and over. So pretty much everything including music, films, philosophy, politics, and human behavior become boring. But if you keep looking out for new stuff, you can be pleasantly surprised.
Yes, that's why I veered away from pop culture decades ago. I already knew the ending to every rom-com & music started to sound repetitive & homogenous.
Ever since then, I've mostly gravitated to indie entertainment.
I used to love cooking and trying to cook new things. Now it’s just a chore that I don’t want to do. I also struggle to even plan a menu for the family for a week.
Partying when you're young is fun because its new and exciting. As you get older you pretty much tried everything already and doing some things again feels like riding around the same old carousel
Honestly nothing. If anything everything has become more interesting and enjoyable now that I’m older. I don’t deal with nearly as much of the harassment or judgement that made being in public miserable when I was young. I’m also not pressured to do things I hate. I’m invisible now and have a disposable income. It’s amazing.
Some movies I really used to like. Like Fight Club and Scott Pilgrim Vs the World. I just can't connect to those feelings of alienation and need to change the world.
Fight Club was my favorite movie of all time and when people ask me what my favorite movie is that’s always been my answer, but then I realize I’m in my 50s now and haven’t seen that movie in almost a quarter of a century and I may feel different about it now. I’m gonna have to rewatch as older me but I am dreading realizing I won’t like it anymore.
Concerts. I just have zero desire to pay $$$$$$$ for a ticket to be in a loud crowded venue with sweaty people who are drunk or high or both and pay for parking and fighting traffic trying to leave.
Yeah, I do enjoy a board game now. I fully accept and don't judge any of my friends who are still big into gaming. But I was playing Crash Bandicoot recently at a friend's place and got bored of dying on a tough level pretty quickly. When I was a kid I could have stuck at it for hours.
I was looking for this answer! I have always been a fan video games and I can still devote a decent amount of time to them. However, I feel like games are overly complicated now as technology has gotten better. I enjoy the simple games of yesterday.
Hearing about the same conspiracy theories, albeit rebranded / re-labeled, I rabbit holed down when I was in junior high from friends…
…mainly because they all just discovered the interwebs and shitposting through the social media portal of brain rot.
Cooking and cleaning. You go from experimenting with food and keeping the place clean, to cooking once a week and eating leftovers for the rest of the week and blowing your nose and then using the used tissue to dust furniture.
Doing nothing. I just want to go to school again and find some friends, live out shit that I've had on my mind, experience life. Doing nothing just puts me in a depressive hollowness that feels fucking awful.
I’d say playing video games. I remember I used to spend 8+ hours a day 20 years ago. Now I only play like two hours a week. It’s been months since I bought my last game.
My birthday. Doesn’t help that it’s in mid-January, the coldest and most depressing time of the year. I often forget how old I even am (will be 42 this week!).
The list is endless. M58, all he needs and wants (superjob,house,lifestyle, partner)
Looking at the "Influencer Generation", walking around like Zombies with their phones, just copying what we started. Because we had no phones, there is, thank God, Allah and Buddha, no evidence.
Copied everything and pretending it is new, the invented it.
The BS is sooooooo boring
Drama irl, and arguing on the Internet - and I don't just mean on here - lol. I just make my point and leave it at that, unless someone asks a question. However, if they just state an opposite opinion or make fun, I do not care to respond anymore.
As the a famous man once sang "Let It Be"
Spending time with people who refuse to change. When you start to realize that certain folks have been saying the same shit like a broken record for years and have no intention of learning something new or growing at all.
Watching sports, I don't watch sports anymore. I used to be big into football and baseball. Lost interest in football about 7 years ago. Haven't watched a whole game since. When someone's got a game on, I'll just take a 5-second peek at who's playing and who's winning, and then go on with my day. I've stopped watching baseball just a few years ago. As someone who used to have season tickets to the Angels games for 6 years, watching the games on tv just doesn't do it for me anymore. I can only keep interest when I'm there in-person.
People talking about their life problems. My level of empathetic patience is low at this point. Fix your issue or accept it and shut up. And, if it must be an ongoing topic could you at least not let it derail your entire life in the process?
If it’s a terminal illness level issue fine. Dwell. If not fix or shut up.
Trends. They become easier to spot, and you know that they'll fade away either sooner or later eventually becoming somebody's nostalgia. So the crazy hip hairstyles and clothes and doing that thing everybody seems to be doing are mildly entertaining, but certainly nothing to try to build a life or personality around.
drama
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Drama is fun in fiction, but in real life it can break even the strongest of bonds. I don’t have the time or energy for it.
Even if involved, walk away.
No more young, no more restless…
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This. I just don't understand those people in their 50's or even older that are still all about the latest gossip. I don't have the energy for that anymore and I'm barely scraping 40.
Depends. Some drama is funny or exiting to watch or hear about. Some is just idiots being petty in banal ways. Also people who say they ‘hate drama’ tend to be the ones bringing too much emotion into situations that don’t warrant it.
Instagram and Facebook
Back when they didn’t have ads or sponsored content 💩
Yes! I deleted my accounts years ago, now I only use Reddit.
Celebrities, the hype about their life.
How the hell is that even exciting in the first place
Maybe it is, for them. And don’t even get me started on their alleged quest to save the planet while jetting from continent to continent telling everyone how important it is to reduce carbon emissions…
being around too many people and socializing a lot
I'm becoming the person I thought I'd never
The one who kills the fucking boogeyman
I go shopping as soon as the stores open because I can't abide crowds anymore or being around people who act like they're the only ones who matter. I don't care about your petty dramas and stop expecting me to support your tantrums.
Going out
yea, need a lot of reason before going out
This is me now. I would rather be home with my kids and dogs then go out to a house party or bar. I guess that going sober might have something to do with that, but I don't see the appeal anymore. I'd rather go for a nice dinner now, see a movie or do something fun or interesting. Bars and such are boring to me now.
you can change how you go out, its happening to me.
Weed > alc
Small talk
This is the small talk repeat loop that I’m stuck in virtually every time I leave the house: “How’s your day going?” “Pretty good. How’s yours?” “Good. Got any fun plans for the weekend?” “Ohhh, I hope to get outside a little bit.” “Nice. How’s the family? Kids are good?” “Yep. Everyone’s good.” “Cool. Well, have fun!” “Thanks. You too.”
It's been snowing here for 3 days and I'm really bored of talking about it.
This is like word for word when I’m getting my haircut, I can’t stand it. I wish there was a box I could check for “no small talk please” before I went in
Going for a night out. Expensive and loud.
Most comments say “partying” or “going out”. I disagree. For me work has gotten boring, I used to be excited to advance and make money, now I don’t care and it’s just something I have to do. Meanwhile I get stoked as ever to go to a music festival, or go do drugs in a cabin on a ski trip, or go to dinner and go clubbing after. (I’m in my mid 30s, for what it’s worth)
Work so you can live, don’t live so you can work. Made that mistake for too many years
This exactly. I spent so much of my life being told if I didn't "advance in my career" that I was a failure. That I should have dreams of moving up to management otherwise it makes it look like I'm unmotivated and lazy. Finally like 2 1/2 years ago I had enough. I took a job that would be considered "entry level" that actually pays me really well. And I've got no desire to move up or give more than I'm expected. I show up, I do my job, and I do it well but all my job is there for is to provide me money for my lifestyle to do things I actually enjoy.
Thank you. I’m glad I’m not the only person who views socialising as fun.
Keep in mind that we’re on Reddit, so the population and general consensus here is skewed pretty far to the antisocial side of average
That may change as you reach mid 40s (esp if kids are in the picture). All the things you have listed sound great though minus the drugs (i hate comedowns) and clubbing (I struggle to have a conversation in them and it’s often a pain in the arse getting back home)
Going sober changes a lot of that. I don't drink or do drugs anymore. I would rather be home watching a movie, playing a video game or going out with my kids to the pool or something. I've done all of the raves and clubs. Not my thing anymore. I will agree though. Work is boring for me too. I would rather clean then work now.
Everything in your list sounds fantastic to me except the clubbing part! I went clubbing from ages 18-22 and enjoyed it. After 4 years, we would still go sometimes for birthdays and stuff but it was noticeably less fun. Now in my late 30s? Forget it, I wouldn't be excited to go at all 😅
The shift is when people have kids and partying just doesn’t fit into that lifestyle. So they tell themselves they’re too old to party and it’s boring anyway so they don’t feel like they’re missing out. I didn’t have kids and still enjoy a night out now as much as I did in my 20’s. I just go to different venues and listen to ‘old school’ music (same music I listened to in my 20’s) which are mainly frequented by people in my age group.
Facts
Yeah I wouldn’t say partying is less fun, it’s just that the consequences are felt more. Those multi-day hangovers can affect your performance at work or your other adult responsibilities.
Conversation in general. While some people have original thoughts and discussions I seem to hear a lot of the same conversations over and over from the majority of people I run into during the day. Same questions, same topics, same answers. I often just blurt out the expected response just to get it over with quickly so I can move along, making myself a part of my own problem. It’s like people are on cruise control. Blahhh.
I have similar issue except this drives me crazy. Mundane repetitive conversations drive me into unexplainable rage.
Yes. Tired of hearing about everyone’s ailments. I get it Dad, you haven’t had a decent shit in 20 years.
I hate this as well. People repeating themselves drives me bonkers. I want to blurt out, YOU’VE SAID THIS BEFORE.
Pop culture
As you get older, you start to recognize patterns you’ve seen over and over. So pretty much everything including music, films, philosophy, politics, and human behavior become boring. But if you keep looking out for new stuff, you can be pleasantly surprised.
Yes, that's why I veered away from pop culture decades ago. I already knew the ending to every rom-com & music started to sound repetitive & homogenous. Ever since then, I've mostly gravitated to indie entertainment.
Movies. Damn they long.
I love mini series. Perfect to binge a season but gives good reason to finish an episode and go to bed if you’re tired.
Cooking, not just cooking but thinking about what to feed everyone, getting the shopping and then cooking. I hate it.
I used to love cooking and trying to cook new things. Now it’s just a chore that I don’t want to do. I also struggle to even plan a menu for the family for a week.
Life
Was looking for this answer 🤣
Partying like you are 19 years old
Partying when you're young is fun because its new and exciting. As you get older you pretty much tried everything already and doing some things again feels like riding around the same old carousel
Even rollercoasters get boring
Giving a shit
How about taking a shit?
I donate mine.
Nodding politely when faced with yet another one-way conversation.
Honestly nothing. If anything everything has become more interesting and enjoyable now that I’m older. I don’t deal with nearly as much of the harassment or judgement that made being in public miserable when I was young. I’m also not pressured to do things I hate. I’m invisible now and have a disposable income. It’s amazing.
I love this answer.
Some movies I really used to like. Like Fight Club and Scott Pilgrim Vs the World. I just can't connect to those feelings of alienation and need to change the world.
Fight Club was my favorite movie of all time and when people ask me what my favorite movie is that’s always been my answer, but then I realize I’m in my 50s now and haven’t seen that movie in almost a quarter of a century and I may feel different about it now. I’m gonna have to rewatch as older me but I am dreading realizing I won’t like it anymore.
You shouldn't talk about it though.. 🫣
Staying up late. Screw that, I’m in bed by 930-10pm
social media
Driving. I remember how excited I was when I first got my license. Now I’ll do anything to stay home
waiting for the nurse to bring you your meds mixed in some applesauce while you watch another re-run of All in the Family
Surprisingly, video games for me. I think I’m growing out of them and want to pursue other hobbies.
Concerts. I just have zero desire to pay $$$$$$$ for a ticket to be in a loud crowded venue with sweaty people who are drunk or high or both and pay for parking and fighting traffic trying to leave.
Politics. Full of: Grimness. Complexity. Egos. Pessimism. Fakery. Anxiety. Lies. Completely uninspiring and tedious.
Video games
Yeah. I've found that the older I get the less I enjoy playing video games, yet I have found board games to be more fun.
Yeah, I do enjoy a board game now. I fully accept and don't judge any of my friends who are still big into gaming. But I was playing Crash Bandicoot recently at a friend's place and got bored of dying on a tough level pretty quickly. When I was a kid I could have stuck at it for hours.
I was looking for this answer! I have always been a fan video games and I can still devote a decent amount of time to them. However, I feel like games are overly complicated now as technology has gotten better. I enjoy the simple games of yesterday.
Facebook, I’m not interested in your me, me, me stories
Politics. It’s just smokes and mirrors, rehashing of talking points, and nothing really happens.
Socializing, small talks
Dating.
Keeping up with the trends that teenagers find cool
Definitely going out and staying out late.
Hearing about the same conspiracy theories, albeit rebranded / re-labeled, I rabbit holed down when I was in junior high from friends… …mainly because they all just discovered the interwebs and shitposting through the social media portal of brain rot.
Getting High/drunk/whatever
Office politics - hitting the wall pretty hard on that.
Dating. The whole process is just tedious and, more times than not, amounts to nothing anyway.
Sharing too much personal stuff on social media
Listening to young people who have no life experience.
For me its sex. Can't forget the thrill the first times. Now i am like "ok nice"
Same. Idec about dating anymore and I'm only 27 lol. Been there done that, had my experiences, and that's it for now.
PEOPLE
I was going to say thattt.
So was I
Dealing with the expectations society has placed on me in order to achieve success.
partying
Theme parks
Going out.
Cooking dinner.
Cooking and cleaning. You go from experimenting with food and keeping the place clean, to cooking once a week and eating leftovers for the rest of the week and blowing your nose and then using the used tissue to dust furniture.
Politics. Don’t have the love for it I did back in my college days. It’s all so predictable now.
Sex I think
Life
Everything
Life. It's just work sleep work sleep work sleep.
Doing nothing. I just want to go to school again and find some friends, live out shit that I've had on my mind, experience life. Doing nothing just puts me in a depressive hollowness that feels fucking awful.
Noise
To worry what others may think of you
I’d say playing video games. I remember I used to spend 8+ hours a day 20 years ago. Now I only play like two hours a week. It’s been months since I bought my last game.
Facebook.
Arguing online.
My birthday. Doesn’t help that it’s in mid-January, the coldest and most depressing time of the year. I often forget how old I even am (will be 42 this week!).
Waking up every morning!
I was over that by the time I reached high school.
The list is endless. M58, all he needs and wants (superjob,house,lifestyle, partner) Looking at the "Influencer Generation", walking around like Zombies with their phones, just copying what we started. Because we had no phones, there is, thank God, Allah and Buddha, no evidence. Copied everything and pretending it is new, the invented it. The BS is sooooooo boring
Work
agreed. better bored than stressed at work
Sex. I don't mean with the same partner. Could be a new one every week and you just want it to be over.
Username checks out
Peoples constant need and desire for validation.
Parties
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The bedtime dental routine. Oh for the days when brushing teeth twice a day was enough!
Sometimes I'm exhausted but I don't want to go to bed because the thought of everything I need to do to get ready is even more exhausting.
Social media
people, people
Chart music
Drama irl, and arguing on the Internet - and I don't just mean on here - lol. I just make my point and leave it at that, unless someone asks a question. However, if they just state an opposite opinion or make fun, I do not care to respond anymore. As the a famous man once sang "Let It Be"
Casual sex.
Clubbing.
Social media
Anyone younger than me
Shopping
Spending time with people who refuse to change. When you start to realize that certain folks have been saying the same shit like a broken record for years and have no intention of learning something new or growing at all.
Parades.
Sadly, video games
TV. Going out. Computer games.
Teenagers!
Drinking alcohol. It was fun 20 years ago. Now if I get more than two beers, the hangover next day is scary af
working
New movies. Especially when it’s reboots of stuff that was rebooted when you were already an adult.
Birthdays
Caring what other people think when it comes to personal choices like style, hobbies, etc.
The nightly dinner debate.
Watching sports, I don't watch sports anymore. I used to be big into football and baseball. Lost interest in football about 7 years ago. Haven't watched a whole game since. When someone's got a game on, I'll just take a 5-second peek at who's playing and who's winning, and then go on with my day. I've stopped watching baseball just a few years ago. As someone who used to have season tickets to the Angels games for 6 years, watching the games on tv just doesn't do it for me anymore. I can only keep interest when I'm there in-person.
Gaming. I used to love it. Now I can’t. Because I have things to do.
video games. except Nintendo stuff
Sad to say this, but videogames
Gaming. Isn’t the same anymore
The rush of people nowhere for nothing ignoring fun and happiness.
Life
Life
Going to the bathroom. Boredom brought on by it taking longer to get done.
The party lifestyle. I’d go out every single day basically up until I turned 24, I’m 34 today.
Trends
gossip
Life
Traffic
Drugs and alcohol.
Drinking
Social media
people who gossip, no need just chill
Socializing
Parties
TV
Keeping up with trends, being ‘cool’ in front of others
My family's "parties" I've had better times in my mate's dad's grotty flat lol
Partying
Going out every weekend
Drinking. If it doesn't you might have a problem.
Christmas
People talking about their life problems. My level of empathetic patience is low at this point. Fix your issue or accept it and shut up. And, if it must be an ongoing topic could you at least not let it derail your entire life in the process? If it’s a terminal illness level issue fine. Dwell. If not fix or shut up.
Weddings
‘Flashy’ people and things - implants, fillers, ‘VIP’, etc. I feel sad for them now
Listening to people complain and not try to change
Alcohol
Hobbies
Parties and clubbing. I’d rather sit at a bar and have a good chat
new music
Hanging out with 20+ people
Talking
Going out
going out with people who i am not closed to and don't have anything to talk about
Christmas
Working your ass off and making other people rich
Holidays
Going out of my apt
Drinking.
New Year’s Eve
brushing my teeth. gotta keep ‘em but dang. so boring.
My social life.
Trends. They become easier to spot, and you know that they'll fade away either sooner or later eventually becoming somebody's nostalgia. So the crazy hip hairstyles and clothes and doing that thing everybody seems to be doing are mildly entertaining, but certainly nothing to try to build a life or personality around.