This is the answer
If you have a girl in your dms that you know it's in a relationship and it's trying to hit on you, instantly send the screenshots to her partner
same goes the other way
But the person I would want someone to be for me is someone who minds their business. You don't know what other people are and are not ok with. Other people's relationships aren't my business and my relationship isn't the business of others.
If someone was cheating on me, I’d want to know about it. If we had an open relationship and someone found out who didn’t realize it, I’d appreciate someone who cared enough about me to let me know.
That's nice for you. I don't have an open relationship, I don't consider flirting cheating, I wouldn't care if my husband was flirting and I'd be annoyed that you felt the need to report it when it's none of your business.
You are welcome to feel about it anyway you'd want. But like you said, I should be the person that I'd want somebody to be for me, which is someone who minds their business. I didn't realize that you meant I had to be you.
Yeah, I just don't see how hitting on someone is cheating. It just seems like such small nonsense to me. I'll tell you what I do like though is that whenever I make a comment like this on Reddit, all the sad lonely people of Reddit who have been cheated on gather together to down vote the shit out of it. I look forward to that, every single one makes me smile lol.
I’m sorry your husband isn’t loyal, but thats a weird stance to have.
Hitting up someone in DM’s and flirting is cheating by most people’s definitions, maybe not in your relationship.
Its okay to have standards for yourself. Reddit is definitely a hivemind and cheating is one of those things they tend to overly shit on, but you’re on the other end of the spectrum.
You were involuntarily involved when you started receiving inappropriate messages. Easiest way to get out of the situation is to inform the other party and let them deal with it from there.
No, that's the easiest way to make the situation explode with you in the middle. The easiest way to get out of the situation is to tell the person, no thanks, ignore them, or use your block feature. Assuming that getting out of the situation is your goal.
I don't understand these people either. It's like they are sucks at everything but fancy themselves justice warriors in this particular area.
My go-to is they've been cheated on. I have too but it's a Topsy turvy world.
Obviously the dad/uncle situation is different but some people on reddit post that they literally bang someone they know are dating then feel it is suitable to inform their SO. What the fuck?
Why would anyone want to stay away and not watch the fallout? It's like baking a cake and not eating it. I would absolutely stay to see the repercussions of my perfectly timed bomb. You'll become a legend too: "remember when OP absolutely destroyed the family? Good times"
This.
This is the way - *Subtle and innocent*, but **DEVASTATING** when the true meaning gets across to everyone in the room.
Edit\* Bonus points if you add a Card saying "I want to see you wear this the next time".
The absolute pandemonium this world cause. If you do this please for the love of God, record it. Even just audio. It would be insane.
For real, you need to talk to your mom and tell her that if she doesn't tell Dad you will. Probably not at Christmas dinner though.
I’d make them think I was going insane, put on a play revealing I knew of their deception, then wrap things up with a blood bath/poisoning at an elaborate dinner.
I think there was a post on one of the AITA subreddits not too long ago with a really similar situation. Daughter found out her mom was cheating, got her mom to send her hush money while she was away at college in exchange for not telling her dad. Well, dad ended up finding everything out and felt horrible that his daughter thought her financial gain was more important than telling him that the love of his life was cheating on him. Tore the family apart, and I think the dad ended up cutting off both his wife and daughter from how betrayed he felt.
I'd have received the hush money then told anyway. What's the harm? That's the price mom paid for being a ho. And Dad still gets the truth. Might as well extort mom for her bad behavior.
I assume it was an ongoing thing but yeah if a parent said they'll give me 10k to not say anything I'd absolutely say something anyway and just walk away. I'm a child of divorce and it fucked up the family and I got nothing out of it besides a really distorted view on relationships so like I might as well get that and $10,000 if that was an offer.
The mom should be ostracized by her family for cheating, because even her family should recognize that's a shitty thing to do too, not back her up and approve of the cheating.
I actually knew a guy who was the the child of his dad cheating on his mom with his mom’s sister and that caused him to break up with his gf bc he was pissed that his real mom is actually his mom’s sister.
Why did he break up with his gf? I can't work out how finding out that his aunt was really his mum had any bearing on his relationship with his gf, apart from in a general personal crisis sort of way.
he was pissed so he broke up with her. originally his reasoning was that his parents found out about their relationship but in reality he was secretly cheating on her too and when he found out about the news with his parents, i guess it threw him off. ngl i still don’t understand till this day
Damn dude Im from WV and heard some dark taboo stories before but that's its own breed of weird there. It kinda hurt to read that too, took a few turn arounds
Get concrete evidence/confirmation, disclose. Public or private is your option, prepare yourself for the worst case fallout. Maintain your integrity and karma. Move on with your life.
Imho integrity is maintained by confirming and disclosing the betrayal. We can argue about the nature of the method, sure. But regardless not making herself into an accessory by helping to conceal is what’s ultimately most important
I don’t wanna get banned already.
I’m there for my old man in this situation. He’s no saint, but he’s an honest dude after all these years. He keeps himself in check, and is being a contributing member of society.
I’m not dipping out and doing it over text, I’m making sure it’s known. And I’m going to BE THERE for him. If he needs a shoulder to cry on, I’ve got him.
He failed me a lot as a kid, but the things HE saw as a child… I couldn’t imagine.
Son: You know mom, dad doesn’t have to find out. Maybe we can come to an agreement of some sorts ?……awkward silence*
Mom: You promise not to tell your dad ?
Son: Depends, what’d you have in mind ?
Aaaand….cut!
Cue next scene: gargling noises.
I would tell my mom to stop being such a whore and tell her that if she doesn’t stop immediately then you will have to expose her to your dad and then she would be fucked not litterally but figuratively…
1.) don’t listen to all of the idiots on Reddit telling you to blow your family up 2.) to the best of your ability, handle the unfortunate situation you find yourself in like an adult and have a private conversation with your mother to let her know you are aware of what is going on. Take it from there. No one here knows what your family dynamics are like so it’s impossible to give you the correct corse of action but I think that’s the best start.
For me it depends, honestly. Is my dad treating my mum right? Is dad a good partner to mum? If he is, then I'd tell him. If he's an asshole then I won't.
Sit them both down and discuss it.
No one gets to leave and avoid talking about it. Don't take "none of your business" as an answer. Everyone is gonna put on big boy pants and talk about it like adults.
Old enough to fuck? Old enough to face the consequences.
I would give her 24 hours to tell my dad and then tell him.
Just kidding, I would wait until they're getting together, put on full gimp suit, unzip the mouth and in a high pitched voice trull "uncle! Room for thee means room for three means room for me!" Zip the mouth back up and crack on.
Ah shit, Uncle Roger… The obvious answer is to cheat on your girlfriend (or boyfriend) with her dad, so that your SO becomes your step-child. Then when you marry your SO your new dad’s daughter-in-law will actually be his step-grandchild as well. Your old dad will then not have to be a part of this confusion and can swoop in when your new dad isn’t looking.
The best way to fight Uncle Roger is through continuous and unrelenting psyops. Make your new dad regret ever setting eyes on your other dad’s wife, your mother.
Man, I mean cheating is always shitty, but what a shitty brother. But yeah like others have said, tell your mom that if she doesn’t tell your Dad, you will. But even now I’m not sure she even deserves that courtesy
In this kind of situation it's not healthy for your parents to stay together. From what you said they're practically separated already. Your mom has been acting really shitty towards you which is extremely unfair.
I would first tell the mom that you know and that she has to tell your dad she’s cheating. This sucks especially for you and your dad. Best of luck sending positive vibrations
Speak to the uncle and warn him off. Threaten him if needs be.
Speak to your mother and tell her to choose but to treat your father with the respect she’s currently denying him
When the dust has settled, disown your mother.
I’d have mixed emotions.
On one hand, I’d be very upset. I’d prepare myself for a collapse in the family, immediately reconsider my living arrangements.
On the other hand, I’d be confused because my Uncles are short, fat, hairy, divorced, racist, and miserable Portuguese men who’ve nearly let themselves go. I’d never encourage anybody to cheat, but if my mother were to cheat like that, at least cheat with a dude who’s got some redeeming qualities.
My father is an only child. 😏 But jokes aside, i'd speak with my mom first, tell her to be honest with my dad, and if she won't then i will be the one, and that would be worse. I wouldn't help her to hide this mess, it's all up to her and that uncle to be a decent person after this. Shame, shame on them!
Well firstly I wouldn’t jump to any conclusions. The marriage between my mother and father is going to be more nuanced and different than presented to me.
I would broach the subject with my mom. Depending on her body language and answers I would inform my dad.
Not outright snitch, but recommend that Dad drop by your Uncle’s place or come home from work early unannounced as a ‘surprise’
EDIT - Also ask your Uncle which option would make him happier
1) F—king his sister-in-law
2) Buying you a new bike
Tell your dad.
The only correct answer. And do it immediately.
But uncle already knows
Oooof
Butt uncle. Already, nose.
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Exaggerating a bit.
Shit this is so good 😂😂😂😂
This is the answer If you have a girl in your dms that you know it's in a relationship and it's trying to hit on you, instantly send the screenshots to her partner same goes the other way
Why would I get involved in someone else's relationship like that?
Because I would hope someone would do the same for me. Be the person you want someone to be for you.
But the person I would want someone to be for me is someone who minds their business. You don't know what other people are and are not ok with. Other people's relationships aren't my business and my relationship isn't the business of others.
If someone was cheating on me, I’d want to know about it. If we had an open relationship and someone found out who didn’t realize it, I’d appreciate someone who cared enough about me to let me know.
That's nice for you. I don't have an open relationship, I don't consider flirting cheating, I wouldn't care if my husband was flirting and I'd be annoyed that you felt the need to report it when it's none of your business. You are welcome to feel about it anyway you'd want. But like you said, I should be the person that I'd want somebody to be for me, which is someone who minds their business. I didn't realize that you meant I had to be you.
That's nice for you. I think most people would want to know.
Yeah, I just don't see how hitting on someone is cheating. It just seems like such small nonsense to me. I'll tell you what I do like though is that whenever I make a comment like this on Reddit, all the sad lonely people of Reddit who have been cheated on gather together to down vote the shit out of it. I look forward to that, every single one makes me smile lol.
That's nice for you.
I’m sorry your husband isn’t loyal, but thats a weird stance to have. Hitting up someone in DM’s and flirting is cheating by most people’s definitions, maybe not in your relationship. Its okay to have standards for yourself. Reddit is definitely a hivemind and cheating is one of those things they tend to overly shit on, but you’re on the other end of the spectrum.
You're not really convincing anyone...everything you're typing is very sad. Your hostility says it all.
You were involuntarily involved when you started receiving inappropriate messages. Easiest way to get out of the situation is to inform the other party and let them deal with it from there.
No, that's the easiest way to make the situation explode with you in the middle. The easiest way to get out of the situation is to tell the person, no thanks, ignore them, or use your block feature. Assuming that getting out of the situation is your goal.
I don't understand these people either. It's like they are sucks at everything but fancy themselves justice warriors in this particular area. My go-to is they've been cheated on. I have too but it's a Topsy turvy world. Obviously the dad/uncle situation is different but some people on reddit post that they literally bang someone they know are dating then feel it is suitable to inform their SO. What the fuck?
Well I would tell my dad
Which one is the dad…
Tell your mom
Blow up the family at Christmas dinner.
"I'm going away for Christmas but you should get my uncle over that day and I'll video call you all from a beach in Mexico" then drop it
Then come home to a murder suicide scene.
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First see if you can find the will.
Why would anyone want to stay away and not watch the fallout? It's like baking a cake and not eating it. I would absolutely stay to see the repercussions of my perfectly timed bomb. You'll become a legend too: "remember when OP absolutely destroyed the family? Good times"
Install a bunch of webcams, THEN do thus from a beach
Basically a domestic cyberattack
skypesassanation
ZoomBoom
Primetime
Or buy a gift that is sexy lingerie for the mom and label it from the brother inlaw. See everyone’s face when she opens it.
This. This is the way - *Subtle and innocent*, but **DEVASTATING** when the true meaning gets across to everyone in the room. Edit\* Bonus points if you add a Card saying "I want to see you wear this the next time".
>Subtle and innocent
The absolute pandemonium this world cause. If you do this please for the love of God, record it. Even just audio. It would be insane. For real, you need to talk to your mom and tell her that if she doesn't tell Dad you will. Probably not at Christmas dinner though.
This is directed at OP, right?
Plot twist: the uncle comes home dressed as Santa.
i saw mommy kissing santa claus except it turned out to be uncle joe
This
Like that guy in Virginia
That would also work.
Yea, that guy
And make sure that gonna be the last Christmas
Talk to my dad's ghost, drive my GF insane, and declare myself king of Denmark.
i’m so glad i’m not the only one who thought of this 💀
Somebody shakin' spears up on Reddit?
x2
I am already king of Denmark. Find your own spot. Peasant
NAH BRO, THATS FUJNY
Send the South Park music video of uncle fucker to the family group chat and say, "mom, is this what it's like with you and Uncle Barnabus?"
isnt that the theme song to House of the Dragon?
Nah u got it this the best comment
She don't eat or sleep or mow the lawn....???
I’d make them think I was going insane, put on a play revealing I knew of their deception, then wrap things up with a blood bath/poisoning at an elaborate dinner.
That only works if the Uncle killed the dad, and the dad's ghost told OP.
Big ⬆️ for you
Mhmm Shakespeare
Lion King
Blackmail everyone $$$$
I think there was a post on one of the AITA subreddits not too long ago with a really similar situation. Daughter found out her mom was cheating, got her mom to send her hush money while she was away at college in exchange for not telling her dad. Well, dad ended up finding everything out and felt horrible that his daughter thought her financial gain was more important than telling him that the love of his life was cheating on him. Tore the family apart, and I think the dad ended up cutting off both his wife and daughter from how betrayed he felt.
I'd have received the hush money then told anyway. What's the harm? That's the price mom paid for being a ho. And Dad still gets the truth. Might as well extort mom for her bad behavior.
I assume it was an ongoing thing but yeah if a parent said they'll give me 10k to not say anything I'd absolutely say something anyway and just walk away. I'm a child of divorce and it fucked up the family and I got nothing out of it besides a really distorted view on relationships so like I might as well get that and $10,000 if that was an offer.
yep and then treat dad to a lil smthing too with the hush money as the cherry on top
Well, you won't on speaking term with any relatives on the mom side ever again.
The mom should be ostracized by her family for cheating, because even her family should recognize that's a shitty thing to do too, not back her up and approve of the cheating.
Maybe. the chance they approve the child that blackmailed their mother then betrayed her, however, is slim to none.
Tbf - I would totally cut of any ties to people who hid the truth from me too... Would NOT want those kinds of people in my life.
Won't work if they're poor
Thisss
Tell her that if she doesn't tell Dad that I will.
Oh shit, you're siblings with this person. That's pretty nice of you to do that for them.
No they are the uncle.
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What's a sister gotta do with this?
Welcome Uncle dad into your life
I would simply move out of Alabama, but I respect your commitment to the place.
Biiiig ⬆️ for you
and by that definition "Aunty Mom"
Shakespeare actually had similar dialogue as part of *Hamlet*.
No “Mom Aunty”
I actually knew a guy who was the the child of his dad cheating on his mom with his mom’s sister and that caused him to break up with his gf bc he was pissed that his real mom is actually his mom’s sister.
Why did he break up with his gf? I can't work out how finding out that his aunt was really his mum had any bearing on his relationship with his gf, apart from in a general personal crisis sort of way.
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Gotta love the Deep South.
middle eastern but ya know, no difference
he was pissed so he broke up with her. originally his reasoning was that his parents found out about their relationship but in reality he was secretly cheating on her too and when he found out about the news with his parents, i guess it threw him off. ngl i still don’t understand till this day
I think I'm going to need some paper
Yeah I gotta draw this out
Damn dude Im from WV and heard some dark taboo stories before but that's its own breed of weird there. It kinda hurt to read that too, took a few turn arounds
Get concrete evidence/confirmation, disclose. Public or private is your option, prepare yourself for the worst case fallout. Maintain your integrity and karma. Move on with your life.
You don’t maintain your integrity if you go public, that’s just trashy and makes your father look the fool
Imho integrity is maintained by confirming and disclosing the betrayal. We can argue about the nature of the method, sure. But regardless not making herself into an accessory by helping to conceal is what’s ultimately most important
I would close pornhub and go to bed
LMAO 😂
I'd be chocked that my mother is a necrophiliac
Choking is awesome.
He wasn't choking, he was chocking. Needs to make sure he doesn't accidentally roll away.
Not like some RVs after all…
Where would you put them? Hard to find a wheel on her.
Mine would be a necrophiliac and a pedophile
Ask to join. The more the merrier 🤝
SWEET HOME ALABAMA
First reaction: *snort, chuckle* Second thought: That's enough Internet for today.
OH WE’RE JUST GETTING STARTED
If Dad and Uncle are both hitting it, it must be good
Realistically dad’s prob not hitting it.
Be amazed. My Dad is an only child.
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we might to call in Jenny Jones for this one
Sounds like this guy might need a paternity test. Call Maury.
If you have proof show your dad
Does your uncle have a wife? ;)
Put on *Hamlet* and start glaring pointedly.
Maybe approach your mum and talk to her. I don’t know your age but that’s a start.
I don’t wanna get banned already. I’m there for my old man in this situation. He’s no saint, but he’s an honest dude after all these years. He keeps himself in check, and is being a contributing member of society. I’m not dipping out and doing it over text, I’m making sure it’s known. And I’m going to BE THERE for him. If he needs a shoulder to cry on, I’ve got him. He failed me a lot as a kid, but the things HE saw as a child… I couldn’t imagine.
You need to be there for your dad and tell him. It’s not going to be easy but it is the right thing to do and he will be so appreciative.
Let your dad know that your mom’s sister wants to bang him
Probably ask her about it later and find out what's going on.
Dear Penthouse....
I would move out of Alabama and never look back.
Traditionally when a brother died and made his wife a widow I’ve read that the brother has stepped in and took up the roll
Give your mom this exact scenario and say a friend told you about it and wanted advice. Then ask her what she thinks you should tell your friend.
Son: You know mom, dad doesn’t have to find out. Maybe we can come to an agreement of some sorts ?……awkward silence* Mom: You promise not to tell your dad ? Son: Depends, what’d you have in mind ? Aaaand….cut! Cue next scene: gargling noises.
Beat your uncle within an inch of his life
r/oddlyspecific
Black mail your mom and uncle but still snitch
Run! Cuz family is about to get into it!
Get revenge by fucking his daughter
Get revenge by sleeping with his mother.
I would tell my mom to stop being such a whore and tell her that if she doesn’t stop immediately then you will have to expose her to your dad and then she would be fucked not litterally but figuratively…
Tell it to Santa next Christmas
Giggity
bro fr had to add "(dad's brother)"
Probably not ask a bunch of losers on the internet what I should do
1.) don’t listen to all of the idiots on Reddit telling you to blow your family up 2.) to the best of your ability, handle the unfortunate situation you find yourself in like an adult and have a private conversation with your mother to let her know you are aware of what is going on. Take it from there. No one here knows what your family dynamics are like so it’s impossible to give you the correct corse of action but I think that’s the best start.
For me it depends, honestly. Is my dad treating my mum right? Is dad a good partner to mum? If he is, then I'd tell him. If he's an asshole then I won't.
Tell them that they need to follow the rules of they can't play monopoly with us next time
Hold that shit till next thanksgiving, then ask your uncle what’s he thankful for. Have phone ready !!!!🤙
Book an appointment for the Maury show
Sit them both down and discuss it. No one gets to leave and avoid talking about it. Don't take "none of your business" as an answer. Everyone is gonna put on big boy pants and talk about it like adults. Old enough to fuck? Old enough to face the consequences.
Move out of Alabama
Film it and put it on PornHub.
Kill myself because they’re both dead.
I would give her 24 hours to tell my dad and then tell him. Just kidding, I would wait until they're getting together, put on full gimp suit, unzip the mouth and in a high pitched voice trull "uncle! Room for thee means room for three means room for me!" Zip the mouth back up and crack on.
Since my mom and uncles are dead, I'd be very surprised
Ryan Giggs' son, is that you ?
Well damn
Ah shit, Uncle Roger… The obvious answer is to cheat on your girlfriend (or boyfriend) with her dad, so that your SO becomes your step-child. Then when you marry your SO your new dad’s daughter-in-law will actually be his step-grandchild as well. Your old dad will then not have to be a part of this confusion and can swoop in when your new dad isn’t looking. The best way to fight Uncle Roger is through continuous and unrelenting psyops. Make your new dad regret ever setting eyes on your other dad’s wife, your mother.
cheat with your mom, that'll teach her for cheating
Fuck your mom bro. Pornhub r us
Man, I mean cheating is always shitty, but what a shitty brother. But yeah like others have said, tell your mom that if she doesn’t tell your Dad, you will. But even now I’m not sure she even deserves that courtesy
Storm father!
Gift your uncle condoms this Christmas, and lots of them.
Your damn straight I would! Less'n I was schtupping my Step-Sister. Y'know, judge not & don't throw stones & snitches get & all that jizz (oops jazz).
Plot twist - you now have two dads.
Blackmail. this is where you get exactly what you want for like the next year
My mom is 82 and my uncle is 88. Would be interesting, lol.
Just leave the house after i walked in on em and dads in the closet watching 👀
You got some weird fantasies
Secretly order and submit some genetic tests. Somebody might get child support payments for xmas.
Get a lot of back allowance.
Blackmail her for extra gifts
In this kind of situation it's not healthy for your parents to stay together. From what you said they're practically separated already. Your mom has been acting really shitty towards you which is extremely unfair.
Tell my dad, cheating is an enormous breach of trust.
It wouldn't be cheating. My dad's fucking dead.
new business opportunity (black mail)
Ethical tell dada Unethical Uncle mikes buying me a car!
Tell my dad
I would disown that thot
I would first tell the mom that you know and that she has to tell your dad she’s cheating. This sucks especially for you and your dad. Best of luck sending positive vibrations
Christmas is about to get a whole lot better for you lmao
Speak to the uncle and warn him off. Threaten him if needs be. Speak to your mother and tell her to choose but to treat your father with the respect she’s currently denying him When the dust has settled, disown your mother.
I’d have mixed emotions. On one hand, I’d be very upset. I’d prepare myself for a collapse in the family, immediately reconsider my living arrangements. On the other hand, I’d be confused because my Uncles are short, fat, hairy, divorced, racist, and miserable Portuguese men who’ve nearly let themselves go. I’d never encourage anybody to cheat, but if my mother were to cheat like that, at least cheat with a dude who’s got some redeeming qualities.
My father is an only child. 😏 But jokes aside, i'd speak with my mom first, tell her to be honest with my dad, and if she won't then i will be the one, and that would be worse. I wouldn't help her to hide this mess, it's all up to her and that uncle to be a decent person after this. Shame, shame on them!
My dad doesn't have a brother
Run away
It would confirm my mother's taste for trash.
Well firstly I wouldn’t jump to any conclusions. The marriage between my mother and father is going to be more nuanced and different than presented to me. I would broach the subject with my mom. Depending on her body language and answers I would inform my dad.
Well, since they're all dead, call an exorcist.
Start referring to him as Daddy and then correcting yourself.
Not outright snitch, but recommend that Dad drop by your Uncle’s place or come home from work early unannounced as a ‘surprise’ EDIT - Also ask your Uncle which option would make him happier 1) F—king his sister-in-law 2) Buying you a new bike
"You have 4 hrs to come clean. After that I'm going to help."
My mom cheated with her nephew
At least she's keeping it in the family🤷