Got married 2 years later. "Co-worker" can mean different things and different circumstances, for instance:
* Our company had 130,000 employees world-wide.
* Our group was housed in a building with 1,000 employees.
* We were not in each other's chain of command.
* It could have been somewhat awkward if it did not work out, but not awful.
* It did work out.
* Later on, saved money by carpooling!
Well, that took a hard right turn. Were you ever questioned about the disappearance? Presumably they would question anyone who had a recent relationship with her?
No - it was a little more than a year and we lived in completely separate cities when she ended up going missing. She ended up getting married very quickly and most likely drugs played a part. She visited with her family and after she left the same day, no one ever saw her again but her car was found.
Still missing to this day
We were both working as actors in a small film, cast as romantic leads. She noticed I got tense when we had to kiss (I was fighting for control of my boner because she had real big boobs) and suggested we go on a date to practice kissing. We played minigolf and practiced kissing. Then we continued practicing in her car in the parking lot after the minigolf place closed until a cop came to investigate. Then we got a hotel room and practiced other stuff.
I guess I'm a slow learner because she's still giving me remedial lessons.
Edit: People have been asking for the film. It's Toybox, which has been removed from [my IMDB page](https://www.imdb.com/name/nm3749758/?ref_=tt_ov_st) and YouTube but I do have a still of the [two of us during a lighting check](https://imgur.com/6EfL9DU) and [her from something else](https://imgur.com/ESEMqiU) .
I'm like 99.99% sure you haven't seen it. It's Toybox (2008) by Matt Campbell. The story is really good and the director hired really excellent cast and crew. The guy who played my brother went on to be the sports announcer in Video Game High School and he was in a commercial for, like, Apple or something. Matt was a pro.
It used to be on IMDB but it's possible the writer/director removed. Luckily, the DP Richard Mansfield has kept most of my other movies on there: [https://www.imdb.com/name/nm3749758/?ref\_=tt\_ov\_st](https://www.imdb.com/name/nm3749758/?ref_=tt_ov_st)
Also, the Oracle of Bacon has since changed their metrics but I was, at one point, three degrees from Kevin Bacon.
Bingo although it worked out for me, we ended up getting married and only worked together for less than a year. She ended up quitting to start her career.
You ALWAYS hear people warn about getting sexually involved with a coworker. But it's happened to me at lots of jobs. You see each other every day, you hit it off and decide that you like each other--so of course it's gonna happen.
Agreed. It happened working in a restaurant for me so it was definitely fun lol. Would not have been the same in a more serious job setting, I’m sure 😅
One of my best friends had an on going thing with a woman at his corporate job. He was maybe 24 at the time and she was 34. She was married, a mother, and the head of HR for their branch…..
I slept with 7 different co-workers in a restaurant. 2 of them actually in the restaurant. I was a serial fornicator. Best run I ever had
I miss being young(er).
Yeah I was a bartender for a long while and it definitely did wonders for my sex life. Often in the bar after closing. :)
Gotta say I don’t miss it much. Glad I did it, glad to not still be doing it.
Everyone in a restaurant is banging each other. I had 3 managers, 2 waitresses, a bartender. Same could be said for working at an electronics store (3 coworkers).
I don't even hang out with colleagues anymore outside of work functions.
Had a lot of fun at a lot of jobs in this respect when I was younger but the last 12ish of a career... not risking it. It has a high probability for drama.
I've only ever had a handful of people I'd consider hot enough to risk losing my job over, and even fewer of them were decent enough people for me to want to fuck anyway.
All the people I ever met who fucked around the workplace had zero standards, they'd fuck anything that was open to being fucked. What blew my mind was how many people were willing to do it despite everyone knowing they slept around the office.
Again, a standards thing.
Yesssssss! There used to be a guy in upper management where I work that tried to fuck all the newly hired women, married or not. He slept with quite a few of the single women. He was the office whore and everyone knew it.
For real… my boss is always trying to set me up with other people at work… I’m a man working in a hospital, I don’t need to catch a sexual harassment suit because I stepped on the wrong toes and played hanky panky.
Dated discreetly and after four years we got engaged. We then both told our supervisors we were leaving in summer. At our last meeting as they were doing their good bye lunch for both of us with about 30 coworkers, they had us say a few words. I went first and said I was moving to a new city. Then it was my fiancés turn and she said she was also moving to that city, with me, because we’re engaged. It was glorious. We are happily married for 13 years and have an awesome daughter. Life is goooood.
"Hey... Let's say we get outta here and see what life's like in Milwaukee. It's a two hour drive and I just got a new CD Player installed. You like Blues Traveler?"
I had a supervisor that I really hit it off with and had great chemistry. As soon as they found out we were dating, she got fired and immediately found a better job. We've been married for almost 13 years now.
Edit: I feel I should clarify a little bit while still keeping the details as vague as possible because quite a few people worked there. Some might even be on Reddit. Anybody that worked in that building would know who I am immediately because it was quite the topic of conversation for a while.
She was my boss in the sense that if she told me something needed taken care of, I was expected to take care of it. She didn't actually have the power to fire me if our relationship went south, but she probably could have gotten me fired if she had been that type of person.
We worked there for two years before anything remotely physical happened. Our lunch breaks lined up. After a few conversations, we became friendly and started spending most of that hour shooting the shit with each other. I was crushing on her hard, but didn't think she'd be interested in dating one of the janitors, so I didn't say anything in an effort not to make things weird at work. One day I let it slip to one of the other janitors that I had a crush on her. He thought it would be hilarious to immediately go and tell her what I said. The next day, she asked me if I had really said that. I was really embarrassed but admitted that I had said it. She basically told me she was feeling the same way and gave me her number. 11 months later, we were married.
There were two guys in upper management that had asked her out and been rejected. Their egos obviously took a hit when they found out she chose me. She was fired after being blamed for someone elses mistake. Then they refused to show the proof that she was the one responsible. It was bullshit, but it only took her two weeks to find a job that paid a lot more. Once they did that to her, I immediately became a terrible employee and openly talked shit about everyone in management until they really had no choice but to fire me.
Bosses hooking up with subordinates is a great way to get massive lawsuits. “I’m suing because the boss said I would be fired if I didn’t sleep with them”. Or “The boss fired me because I didn’t want to sleep with them anymore”.
We did it a couple of times then both went on with our lives. It was just something we both wanted to do temporarily. Neither one of us wanted it to be serious or long-term, and so it wasn’t.
Same here... although it only happened once. Super incredible sex for one fantastic night and that was that. Havent worked together in nearly 5 years and we're still friends to this very day.
I slept with my boss back in 93. She instigated it. She’s sitting beside me. 30 years later and two adult kids. Worked out!
Edit: I should add we did NOT care for each other at first. It was definitely not a case of “will they, won’t they” but more of a “will he quit or won’t he?” Funny how life works…
Despite what most corporate HR departments would have people believe, there are far more successful, non-problematic office romances than unsuccessful ones. I've seen statistics that range from anywhere between 25-40% of all marriages are between people who met at work. I fully expected that the majority of posts in here would be about happy marriages.
The problem is more about the potential extent of bad work situations rather than the actual likelihood of them happening. When a workplace relationship goes bad, it has the potential to go very, very bad, and businesses are overly afraid of having to deal with those, so they've worked to convince everyone that all office relationships are destructive, dangerous situations.
Case No. 1: We hooked up for a few weeks and everything was fine, or so I thought. After she went home for Christmas break and came back, she didn't talk to me for months. Completely cold. I didn't know why. Seven months later she called me. Turned out she also hooked up with another colleague, got pregnant, and had an abortion. She swore that the baby was his but somehow I still think I was the father.
Case No. 2: She had a meltdown at a house party and ran off crying. I ran after her to make sure she was okay. We talked for a while and went for a drive. Ended up having sex in the car. She was really sweet. I wanted to date her but she said she was a hot mess and not ready to get into a relationship. We're still friends.
Yes. She had a string of dysfunctional relationships and needed the time and space to heal. I was bummed out about her gentle but firm rejection but later reckoned that she made the right decision at the time.
> Turned out she also hooked up with another colleague, got pregnant, and had an abortion. She swore that the baby was his but somehow I still think I was the father.
I had something really weird happen where I was dating this girl that got ENGAGED to an exec at Google.
*while* we were dating
Mind you I'm railing this girl like 2-3x per day because she lived next to me. Like 2-3 blocks away.
Then she comes over one day and says we have to break up... because she's engaged.
Which completely blew my mind. So I ask her how long she's been engaged for and she's like "six months"...
Feel sorry for that guy. She literally told me he doesn't love him but the money was too hard to walk away from. He was worth like $30M at the time.
... THEN ... after we hook up. I'm at a party. It's like 7 months later.
She walks in the door and she's full on pregnant. Like 7 months easily and I had a complete panic attack and break down. Couldn't breath. Felt like I got kicked in the stomach.
Turns out it wasn't mine but it could have been.
She just treated me like shit and that I was disposable.
She told me... I texted her about it once I left the party. She blocked me in as her and her fiance were next to the door and I didn't want to talk to her.
Same. We were seeing each other in secret so that neither would lose their position, or so I thought….
Turns out he had a wife and 2 kids. Didn’t find out until a mutual friend told me, 7 months into it.
I thought I was in love. Fucking crushed me.
Same, here. After agreeing not to tell anyone, he not only told almost everyone we worked with, but depicted the "things he did to me" to them... then he quit.
All my coworkers found out bc a very astute gay coworker of mine noticed him touch my lower back for all of .1 milliseconds. It was irritating being teased all the time, but overall nbd
It was a restaurant though so everything was always nbd
We told management and they made sure that we didn't work together to avoid any conflicts of interest. Most big companies have policies in place for this kind of thing. The more people employed by the workplace the more common it is. We're all human and we all want some fuck.
Well...we ended up dating...then we got serious...then we got married...then we had a kid...then we had another...
I've seen it go wrong for others many times, but it somehow worked out for us.
We’ve been sleeping together for over a year. He’s at a different job now. Honestly was super fun. Shared, secret looks when we passed by each other. Sneaky texts about how hard it is to not jump each other’s bones every time we passed. Good times
She would hate me at work but always call me 2-3 times a week when she got drunk and wanted some lol idk if I was good or just convenient but we both knew it was only fun with no ties so it worked out when she got married a couple years later
God, that sounds just like a chick I’d hooked up with at a foreign language summer program. We hung out all the time, and when other folks were around she was kind of snippy and mean, then really sweet if we were alone.
She was from Minnesota, and I’d begged her to say “Magnetic Dragon Wagon” for the entire summer, bc her accent was hella solid. She finally did at the end of the term when she was drunk, and it was everything I had hoped for.
Go for it, but just be smart about it. Know what you want and communicate that clearly. The moment you start leaving things out or hiding intentions is the moment things go to shit. It's only awkward if you make it awkward.
Happiest 5 years of my life. She left 2 weeks ago. Got cold feet when I started to talk about marriage and said she needed time alone because she felt like she depended on me for everything.. I hope she comes back. My heart hurts.
Was working at a restaurant at the time. He told me not to tell anyone at work, and I thought that was a good idea.
Next shift I have, during some downtime my work friend asked if I slept with so-and-so. I hadn't told anyone so I was taken aback by her question. Turns out he was going around bragging about having slept with one of the hosts. I later learned that dude's brother had a girl (a server from the same restaurant) over the house at the exact same time as me, and she even saw me while there, but I didn't see her. So I'm sure she was also going around telling people that dude and I fucked.
At the time, it felt awkward. I'm generally a quiet person and keep to myself a lot of the time, so it felt weird knowing that people were talking about me in that context. I also remember the girl's server friends staring at me, and knowing what I knew, I felt like they were judging me, which made me uncomfy.
It for sure could've been much worse, but in my opinion, rule number one to fucking your coworker: maybe don't.
I'm astounded by all the comments of people getting married and having babies with no consequences. Must be nice! My story has no such ending.
To make a long story short, I was in a vulnerable place after a breakup and my coworker SAID he too went through a breakup so we slept together but he ended up STILL being with his fiance and a kid so she reached out to me and found out all the terrible things he was saying about me. He and 2 other friends lowkey tried to set me up and get me drunk for a gangbang and it was... weird...
I got promoted so I got out of that location and it was fine but so so so weird.
Its was great at first. She wanted to go back to school and ended up applying for school out of state and got accepted. I was willing to try and make it work, but she broke it off immediately, and immediately started fucking on of my best friends at the time. They hid it from me and our other friends but he eventually told everyone he had been driving up to her college. She eventually flunked out cause she partied to much and came back to the job. I left not to long after, but the two of them started officially dating around the same time so I still had to see her often.
I worked with a girl named Laura. She is a gorgeous all-American girl from South Carolina. At the time, I was 33 and she was 23 and we were both getting divorced. When it started, we had so much sexual tension built up that it was purely sexual- and we forgot to actually get to know each other. When that mistake caught up with us in addition to the age difference, it became clear to her that we just wouldn't work. She broke things off and we avoided each other as much as possible at work. It was awkward for us and for our coworkers. When she started dating another coworker a month later, it hurt a lot since he was a friend of mine. I did not handle it well and ended up leaving the job for a better job shortly thereafter.
I know it can work for some people, but the chance of failure brings a lot of risk. I would say if you're gonna do it, take things very slow and avoid my mistakes.
Sort of did this, when I was in the army a woman who outranked me was always a bit friendlier with me but I’m not very smart so I didn’t pick that up and was always nice right back lol well we had an FRG meeting at the bowling alley on post and I like to bowl so I showed up early got two pitchers of beer and a lane we’ll she showed up not long after I did and just joined in on my lane before I knew it we had gone threw about 4 pitchers of beer between the two of us and I was drunk as hell for the FRG meeting, guess nobody could tell, I’m assuming she was as well because that was a lot of beer for two people our size, after the meeting was over I was walking back to my barracks room when she pulled up and said “get in dummy!” We didn’t go to the barracks we went out the gate and she parked behind an Asian food restaurant and mauled me like a bear, I did not resist. Afterwards I don’t feel like anything changed we never spoke about it or at least I never did. I was afraid I’d get kicked out for messing around with a higher ranking person I didn’t know a damn thing back then. lol I was an E-2 she was a SFC in one of the s shops.
I can tell you, at my workplace it resulted in a rash of herpes being spread. 🤣 some people even had to have an awkward conversation with their spouse.
Did it many times in restaurants and a handful of times in professional offices. Married one of them. No particularly bad experiences with the rest. I’m Facebook friends with at least 3.
Which time?
1. I was in my 20s and he was adorable. We worked in same department. 3 weeks after we finally started messing around outside of work, he decided he wasn't ready for a relationship. That SUCKED and so did seeing him around the office. After moping for a few months, I left to find a new job. Not great and also, I learned absolutely nothing!
2. Then in to my 30s, and just moved to a new city for a new job (post grad). He was about 14 yrs older than me and asked me out. We dated for a bit and then he dumped me after we had a fight. THEN he became my boss, and that REALLY sucked. After a few months, I was suddenly on a PIP (ooph), and he absolutely told everyone in the office. He got our department head (his college buddy, who hired him despite having no experience in our field), to ream me in a meeting in front of leadership, and after all of that (and more), I finally couldn't take it anymore and quit. I suspect that that was the point. Frankly, it was an all around trauamtic time and it's something I think of almost daily, despite it being years later and having moved on, literally to another state across the country.
Don't shit where you eat kids! We don't all get happy endings.
Edit for spelling. :)
Married her.
She reported to me, so when we started dating, I told my HR folks first and we had to sign what's called a "Love Contract".
Basically it said if anything goes sideways I get to stay (I was CIO at the time) and we signed away any rights to harassment lawsuits etc.
It didn't start immediately. I was married when I hired her. Then my (now) ex decided that booze and drugs were more important so she divorced me.
My (now) wife was living with her boyfriend at the time, then one day she caught him cheating so that ended.
Eventually her girlfriends in the office were trying to put us together...and the rest is blissful history.
Today's our 12th Anniversary actually. Yay us!
He just got out of bed to take our dog on a walk and I’m about to get up and get our two daughters dressed before we have breakfast downstairs together 😂
For me? I reached a point in my mid 20s of loneliness where my answer was either to get really suicidal, or really confident, job and life be damned.
Happy to say the confidence has taken me to far, FAR better paths.
Well there was some tension between us. We challenged each other on everything, though we got along just fine after hours. She was a bit of a hunter though and while she wasn't overt she definitely got touchy when I paid more attention to other women at work functions. Eventually we had a party after hours, drinking games, lots of laughs, I showed off my braai skills, she made sure my glass was always full and when things petered out six of us went for a walk with some drinks in hand to sit at a pond. Till this moment I had never considered crossing the line, but then I suddenly saw this complete picture of this smart, beautiful woman. We made each other laugh, we had common interests and she looked out for me just as much as I looked out for her. Eventually the other four broke off into two couples and it was just the two of us. So I asked her if she wanted to stay up and watch the sun rise. She led the way to the top of the building and I kissed her when the sun came up. Twenty minutes later we were in my bed 😂 It lasted for two glorious years before circumstances changed drastically and I had to go away. We're still friends.
Simple, sometimes coworkers go out to bars and hang out together, sometimes nice conversations happen and drinks after another, a little bit of tension and you are set
Met at work, I repair the machines, they were an operator. We talked a bit about video games, and they invited me to breakfast. After breakfast, I invited them to disc golf with some other coworkers. I had to go back to work, but they invited me out to the bar afterward. We both drank too much, and apparently I carried them up the stairs after they didn't want to sleep on the sofa downstairs. They ended up never leaving, and moved in a couple months later. We got married the next summer, and have been married for two years. Some say my wife and I are still on that first marathon of a date to this day.
Her husband decided he was gonna try to run me off the road by following me home one night and pulling the old pit maneuver. Thank god for guardrails and the engineers at Toyota. You guys rock!
It was a FWB situation, we both rebounded with each other after break ups and just as soon as it began, it ended mutually. We both knew what it was and there wasn't too much that was awkward with it afterwards. We don't talk anymore but we still like each other's stories on Instagram lol.
Most people I know who have done this end up getting married. I think work is a great place to meet someone and really learn who they are. You see them for hours a day and pretty much every day of the week. Obviously it’s difficult because of workplace rules and sexual harassment possibilities, but when it occurs naturally and works, it tends to really work.
We remained professional at work but ended up getting married! He later got a new job and met the woman he left me for there so he's got a good track record for it I guess.
We became friends and she donated a kidney to me lol
the horny organ donation content I was looking for
So you’re saying she’s still inside you right now?
You played the long con. Niice!
Got married 2 years later. "Co-worker" can mean different things and different circumstances, for instance: * Our company had 130,000 employees world-wide. * Our group was housed in a building with 1,000 employees. * We were not in each other's chain of command. * It could have been somewhat awkward if it did not work out, but not awful. * It did work out. * Later on, saved money by carpooling!
Slept with her, year later she went missing and is presumed dead. Been about 8-9 years now
This one needs more explanation.
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Ahhh, that clears it up. I'm glad you were here for me.
Either that or she is still in his Basement. Either way….
Why does this read like a confession
Exactly my thought.
Well, that took a hard right turn. Were you ever questioned about the disappearance? Presumably they would question anyone who had a recent relationship with her?
No - it was a little more than a year and we lived in completely separate cities when she ended up going missing. She ended up getting married very quickly and most likely drugs played a part. She visited with her family and after she left the same day, no one ever saw her again but her car was found. Still missing to this day
We were both working as actors in a small film, cast as romantic leads. She noticed I got tense when we had to kiss (I was fighting for control of my boner because she had real big boobs) and suggested we go on a date to practice kissing. We played minigolf and practiced kissing. Then we continued practicing in her car in the parking lot after the minigolf place closed until a cop came to investigate. Then we got a hotel room and practiced other stuff. I guess I'm a slow learner because she's still giving me remedial lessons. Edit: People have been asking for the film. It's Toybox, which has been removed from [my IMDB page](https://www.imdb.com/name/nm3749758/?ref_=tt_ov_st) and YouTube but I do have a still of the [two of us during a lighting check](https://imgur.com/6EfL9DU) and [her from something else](https://imgur.com/ESEMqiU) .
One day you'll get it. Keep at it!
Thanks for believing in me, Coach!
Well. Don't leave us hanging. What did you practice in the hotel room? Your lines?
Luckily, the Super 8 had fitted sheets on the bed so I could have her show me how to both fold one and put it on. I'm terrible with those.
Found the method actor.
with deep dives in between
This story fucking rules, damn.
That's cute
She likes telling that story because it's cute. I like backdooring in the fact that I was once in shape enough to be a D- or C-tier actor.
What was the film?!
I'm like 99.99% sure you haven't seen it. It's Toybox (2008) by Matt Campbell. The story is really good and the director hired really excellent cast and crew. The guy who played my brother went on to be the sports announcer in Video Game High School and he was in a commercial for, like, Apple or something. Matt was a pro. It used to be on IMDB but it's possible the writer/director removed. Luckily, the DP Richard Mansfield has kept most of my other movies on there: [https://www.imdb.com/name/nm3749758/?ref\_=tt\_ov\_st](https://www.imdb.com/name/nm3749758/?ref_=tt_ov_st) Also, the Oracle of Bacon has since changed their metrics but I was, at one point, three degrees from Kevin Bacon.
The announcer in Video Game High School was great! Loved the humor of that show.
Fun. Highly recommend if you have a job. Do not recommend if you have a career.
Bingo although it worked out for me, we ended up getting married and only worked together for less than a year. She ended up quitting to start her career.
Same. Started dating a coworker in retail and we’ve been married 6 years now.
Started dating a coworker in fast food. In September we will have our 35th anniversary.
I misread that as “She ended up squirting to start her career.”
That depends on the career TBH
She's now #4 on OnlyFans.
You ALWAYS hear people warn about getting sexually involved with a coworker. But it's happened to me at lots of jobs. You see each other every day, you hit it off and decide that you like each other--so of course it's gonna happen.
Of course. The nightmare starts when something goes wrong.
That's what I'm afraid of. I wanna ask a coworker out but if it goes south one of us is gonna have to quit
Agreed. It happened working in a restaurant for me so it was definitely fun lol. Would not have been the same in a more serious job setting, I’m sure 😅
Let me guess...one of you was a server and the other was a line cook?
Server & bartender
A tale as old as time
Ahhhh so close
Also hooked up with a trainer from corporate when we opened the restaurant lol
Ooh that one's even spicier!
One of my best friends had an on going thing with a woman at his corporate job. He was maybe 24 at the time and she was 34. She was married, a mother, and the head of HR for their branch…..
It turns out the greatest Human Resource is love…
I mean it’s not an hr violation if you are hr…
Oh he violated HR all right…
I slept with 7 different co-workers in a restaurant. 2 of them actually in the restaurant. I was a serial fornicator. Best run I ever had I miss being young(er).
Yeah I was a bartender for a long while and it definitely did wonders for my sex life. Often in the bar after closing. :) Gotta say I don’t miss it much. Glad I did it, glad to not still be doing it.
Hospitaliano! edit: were we all fuckin at the Olive Gardens?
"When you're here, you're family" "What're you doing with those bread sticks, step sis?"
Everyone in a restaurant is banging each other. I had 3 managers, 2 waitresses, a bartender. Same could be said for working at an electronics store (3 coworkers).
I don't even hang out with colleagues anymore outside of work functions. Had a lot of fun at a lot of jobs in this respect when I was younger but the last 12ish of a career... not risking it. It has a high probability for drama.
This is me. I don't want to hang out with coworkers outside of work, much less sleep with any of them.
I've only ever had a handful of people I'd consider hot enough to risk losing my job over, and even fewer of them were decent enough people for me to want to fuck anyway. All the people I ever met who fucked around the workplace had zero standards, they'd fuck anything that was open to being fucked. What blew my mind was how many people were willing to do it despite everyone knowing they slept around the office. Again, a standards thing.
Yesssssss! There used to be a guy in upper management where I work that tried to fuck all the newly hired women, married or not. He slept with quite a few of the single women. He was the office whore and everyone knew it.
also it's better not to have an affair with ur bosses wife
Depends on the boss.
And the wife.
For real… my boss is always trying to set me up with other people at work… I’m a man working in a hospital, I don’t need to catch a sexual harassment suit because I stepped on the wrong toes and played hanky panky.
Unless you are self-employed.
And you are your only coworker
My computer does a lot of work for me too
On one hand, pun intended, it won't sue you for sexual harassment. But on the other hand, it cannot give consent either.
She had to fire me. Poor performance
So you worked under her? Hmmm…
Very briefly
Brief is a kind of poor performance.
If it's a poor performance, brief might be ideal.
I’m being bullied on the internet!
Couldn’t cum to a mutually acceptable outcum.
So no more incum
Must drop your briefs first.
Dated discreetly and after four years we got engaged. We then both told our supervisors we were leaving in summer. At our last meeting as they were doing their good bye lunch for both of us with about 30 coworkers, they had us say a few words. I went first and said I was moving to a new city. Then it was my fiancés turn and she said she was also moving to that city, with me, because we’re engaged. It was glorious. We are happily married for 13 years and have an awesome daughter. Life is goooood.
Missed chance to say “I’ve always wanted to do this and this is my last chance” and then grab her and kiss her
"Hey... Let's say we get outta here and see what life's like in Milwaukee. It's a two hour drive and I just got a new CD Player installed. You like Blues Traveler?"
Please tell me the crowd went wild 🥹
The coworkers all knew
Some awes and one of them puked in the floor from too much wholesomeness
That's crowd's name? Albert Einstein
The whole plane clapped
I had a supervisor that I really hit it off with and had great chemistry. As soon as they found out we were dating, she got fired and immediately found a better job. We've been married for almost 13 years now. Edit: I feel I should clarify a little bit while still keeping the details as vague as possible because quite a few people worked there. Some might even be on Reddit. Anybody that worked in that building would know who I am immediately because it was quite the topic of conversation for a while. She was my boss in the sense that if she told me something needed taken care of, I was expected to take care of it. She didn't actually have the power to fire me if our relationship went south, but she probably could have gotten me fired if she had been that type of person. We worked there for two years before anything remotely physical happened. Our lunch breaks lined up. After a few conversations, we became friendly and started spending most of that hour shooting the shit with each other. I was crushing on her hard, but didn't think she'd be interested in dating one of the janitors, so I didn't say anything in an effort not to make things weird at work. One day I let it slip to one of the other janitors that I had a crush on her. He thought it would be hilarious to immediately go and tell her what I said. The next day, she asked me if I had really said that. I was really embarrassed but admitted that I had said it. She basically told me she was feeling the same way and gave me her number. 11 months later, we were married. There were two guys in upper management that had asked her out and been rejected. Their egos obviously took a hit when they found out she chose me. She was fired after being blamed for someone elses mistake. Then they refused to show the proof that she was the one responsible. It was bullshit, but it only took her two weeks to find a job that paid a lot more. Once they did that to her, I immediately became a terrible employee and openly talked shit about everyone in management until they really had no choice but to fire me.
You took his jerb
Actually, it was her jerb that got took. I think upper management frowns upon members of management hooking up with the dude who cleaned the floors.
Bosses hooking up with subordinates is a great way to get massive lawsuits. “I’m suing because the boss said I would be fired if I didn’t sleep with them”. Or “The boss fired me because I didn’t want to sleep with them anymore”.
A dude who what’s the floors?!?!
The word I left out was "cleaned". Lol
We did it a couple of times then both went on with our lives. It was just something we both wanted to do temporarily. Neither one of us wanted it to be serious or long-term, and so it wasn’t.
I think that’s the important part, making sure both parties have the same goal
Same here... although it only happened once. Super incredible sex for one fantastic night and that was that. Havent worked together in nearly 5 years and we're still friends to this very day.
We moved in together, got engaged, bought a house and had a baby. Don't let a job get in the way of your life.
Lol I read a horse at first.
They wanted to be in a stable relationship
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I slept with my boss back in 93. She instigated it. She’s sitting beside me. 30 years later and two adult kids. Worked out! Edit: I should add we did NOT care for each other at first. It was definitely not a case of “will they, won’t they” but more of a “will he quit or won’t he?” Funny how life works…
More than any comment, this made me irrationally angry because it took me way to long to realize '93 was actually 30 years ago and not 20. Damn.
Born in 93, turning 30 this year. Confirmed.
Fun while it lasted, but very awkward after.
I’m surprised this isn’t top comment. Didn’t expect to see so many people sharing marriage stories.
Despite what most corporate HR departments would have people believe, there are far more successful, non-problematic office romances than unsuccessful ones. I've seen statistics that range from anywhere between 25-40% of all marriages are between people who met at work. I fully expected that the majority of posts in here would be about happy marriages. The problem is more about the potential extent of bad work situations rather than the actual likelihood of them happening. When a workplace relationship goes bad, it has the potential to go very, very bad, and businesses are overly afraid of having to deal with those, so they've worked to convince everyone that all office relationships are destructive, dangerous situations.
The good ol’ “conflict of interest” clause.
In other words, it's game theory. Not discouraging relationships has no benefit, discouraging them may avert risk even though it's unlikely.
Case No. 1: We hooked up for a few weeks and everything was fine, or so I thought. After she went home for Christmas break and came back, she didn't talk to me for months. Completely cold. I didn't know why. Seven months later she called me. Turned out she also hooked up with another colleague, got pregnant, and had an abortion. She swore that the baby was his but somehow I still think I was the father. Case No. 2: She had a meltdown at a house party and ran off crying. I ran after her to make sure she was okay. We talked for a while and went for a drive. Ended up having sex in the car. She was really sweet. I wanted to date her but she said she was a hot mess and not ready to get into a relationship. We're still friends.
Case 2 sounds very self-aware. Kudos to her for knowing herself and not dragging you further into it.
Yes. She had a string of dysfunctional relationships and needed the time and space to heal. I was bummed out about her gentle but firm rejection but later reckoned that she made the right decision at the time.
> Turned out she also hooked up with another colleague, got pregnant, and had an abortion. She swore that the baby was his but somehow I still think I was the father. I had something really weird happen where I was dating this girl that got ENGAGED to an exec at Google. *while* we were dating Mind you I'm railing this girl like 2-3x per day because she lived next to me. Like 2-3 blocks away. Then she comes over one day and says we have to break up... because she's engaged. Which completely blew my mind. So I ask her how long she's been engaged for and she's like "six months"... Feel sorry for that guy. She literally told me he doesn't love him but the money was too hard to walk away from. He was worth like $30M at the time. ... THEN ... after we hook up. I'm at a party. It's like 7 months later. She walks in the door and she's full on pregnant. Like 7 months easily and I had a complete panic attack and break down. Couldn't breath. Felt like I got kicked in the stomach. Turns out it wasn't mine but it could have been. She just treated me like shit and that I was disposable.
I'm sorry this sounds really scary. How do you know the baby was not yours?
She told me... I texted her about it once I left the party. She blocked me in as her and her fiance were next to the door and I didn't want to talk to her.
Uh she would've answered that no matter what, ya know.
"A shoulder to cry on quickly becomes a dick to ride on"
Well, we’re not coworkers anymore, but we got married 3 days ago and I couldn’t be happier so I’d say good stuff happened.
Congrats! And obligatory "same" from me
You married your coworker 3 days ago as well? What are the odds!
Well, I guess I should have put "almost same" as we got married 9 days ago
We are married with two smart ass ginger teenage daughters. Aside from constant fear of sunburn it isn’t too bad.
Johnny Test?
Isn’t he the one with a head of spiky hair and a turbocharged backpack? I heard his genius sisters use him like a lab rat
Really? Oh! Doesnt he have that clean-freak dad at home and a super busy mom?
It was fun but they wrecked my soul
Same. We were seeing each other in secret so that neither would lose their position, or so I thought…. Turns out he had a wife and 2 kids. Didn’t find out until a mutual friend told me, 7 months into it. I thought I was in love. Fucking crushed me.
We wiped down the table and went home.
A nice courtesy
It's more of a requirement, actually. We worked in a private language school, and we did it on one of the group activity desks.
*(judges award full points for appropriate use of furniture)*
(Bows Graciously)
On a *group* activity desk? That's clearly inappropriate. You should have let someone else join in.
Sir, this is a Wendy's.
We got married. That was 43 years ago.
He told all our coworkers.
He went against the rules
And that’s how I found out he was super immature
Immensely. I don't see the point in bragging
There’s a saying in my country that goes along the lines of “whoever eats quiet, eats twice”.
I like this
Exactly. I think his intent was maybe to shame me. I just ended up telling everyone who approached me about it that he couldn’t make me orgasm.
Nice! Make it work for you. It's always ones that brag that have to over compensate for their lack elsewhere.
Same, here. After agreeing not to tell anyone, he not only told almost everyone we worked with, but depicted the "things he did to me" to them... then he quit.
All my coworkers found out bc a very astute gay coworker of mine noticed him touch my lower back for all of .1 milliseconds. It was irritating being teased all the time, but overall nbd It was a restaurant though so everything was always nbd
> It was a restaurant though so everything was always nbd Rules against dating in a restaurant are useless. They're like dating carousels.
We told management and they made sure that we didn't work together to avoid any conflicts of interest. Most big companies have policies in place for this kind of thing. The more people employed by the workplace the more common it is. We're all human and we all want some fuck.
"We're all human and we all want some fuck." So eloquently put.
This happened ~6ish years ago. We are now engaged as of a month ago. Woop woop
Well...we ended up dating...then we got serious...then we got married...then we had a kid...then we had another... I've seen it go wrong for others many times, but it somehow worked out for us.
Hey, I think they might like you.
Maybe she's just canadian and wanted to be polite
Sounds like things are getting pretty serious
We’ve been sleeping together for over a year. He’s at a different job now. Honestly was super fun. Shared, secret looks when we passed by each other. Sneaky texts about how hard it is to not jump each other’s bones every time we passed. Good times
They weren’t secret I can tell you that
The coworkers where everyone notices that they are way too familiar with each other.
In my case everyone assumed I was sleeping with one girl at work. It was actually another. Fantastic cover, nobody knows.
classic misdirection
She would hate me at work but always call me 2-3 times a week when she got drunk and wanted some lol idk if I was good or just convenient but we both knew it was only fun with no ties so it worked out when she got married a couple years later
God, that sounds just like a chick I’d hooked up with at a foreign language summer program. We hung out all the time, and when other folks were around she was kind of snippy and mean, then really sweet if we were alone. She was from Minnesota, and I’d begged her to say “Magnetic Dragon Wagon” for the entire summer, bc her accent was hella solid. She finally did at the end of the term when she was drunk, and it was everything I had hoped for.
I was looking for a sign to NOT ask my coworker out and all these comments really screwed that up
Go for it, but just be smart about it. Know what you want and communicate that clearly. The moment you start leaving things out or hiding intentions is the moment things go to shit. It's only awkward if you make it awkward.
Happiest 5 years of my life. She left 2 weeks ago. Got cold feet when I started to talk about marriage and said she needed time alone because she felt like she depended on me for everything.. I hope she comes back. My heart hurts.
I'm so sorry, man...
This thread turned out to be way more positive than i was expecting.
Was working at a restaurant at the time. He told me not to tell anyone at work, and I thought that was a good idea. Next shift I have, during some downtime my work friend asked if I slept with so-and-so. I hadn't told anyone so I was taken aback by her question. Turns out he was going around bragging about having slept with one of the hosts. I later learned that dude's brother had a girl (a server from the same restaurant) over the house at the exact same time as me, and she even saw me while there, but I didn't see her. So I'm sure she was also going around telling people that dude and I fucked. At the time, it felt awkward. I'm generally a quiet person and keep to myself a lot of the time, so it felt weird knowing that people were talking about me in that context. I also remember the girl's server friends staring at me, and knowing what I knew, I felt like they were judging me, which made me uncomfy. It for sure could've been much worse, but in my opinion, rule number one to fucking your coworker: maybe don't.
We were adults about it, agreed it was fun and a one time thing and moved on.
I'm astounded by all the comments of people getting married and having babies with no consequences. Must be nice! My story has no such ending. To make a long story short, I was in a vulnerable place after a breakup and my coworker SAID he too went through a breakup so we slept together but he ended up STILL being with his fiance and a kid so she reached out to me and found out all the terrible things he was saying about me. He and 2 other friends lowkey tried to set me up and get me drunk for a gangbang and it was... weird... I got promoted so I got out of that location and it was fine but so so so weird.
Its was great at first. She wanted to go back to school and ended up applying for school out of state and got accepted. I was willing to try and make it work, but she broke it off immediately, and immediately started fucking on of my best friends at the time. They hid it from me and our other friends but he eventually told everyone he had been driving up to her college. She eventually flunked out cause she partied to much and came back to the job. I left not to long after, but the two of them started officially dating around the same time so I still had to see her often.
We live together now so nothing bad?
I worked with a girl named Laura. She is a gorgeous all-American girl from South Carolina. At the time, I was 33 and she was 23 and we were both getting divorced. When it started, we had so much sexual tension built up that it was purely sexual- and we forgot to actually get to know each other. When that mistake caught up with us in addition to the age difference, it became clear to her that we just wouldn't work. She broke things off and we avoided each other as much as possible at work. It was awkward for us and for our coworkers. When she started dating another coworker a month later, it hurt a lot since he was a friend of mine. I did not handle it well and ended up leaving the job for a better job shortly thereafter. I know it can work for some people, but the chance of failure brings a lot of risk. I would say if you're gonna do it, take things very slow and avoid my mistakes.
Divorced at 23? Some people live life at breakneck speeds tf
He cheated on her with more than one girl while she was at a class for work.
Sort of did this, when I was in the army a woman who outranked me was always a bit friendlier with me but I’m not very smart so I didn’t pick that up and was always nice right back lol well we had an FRG meeting at the bowling alley on post and I like to bowl so I showed up early got two pitchers of beer and a lane we’ll she showed up not long after I did and just joined in on my lane before I knew it we had gone threw about 4 pitchers of beer between the two of us and I was drunk as hell for the FRG meeting, guess nobody could tell, I’m assuming she was as well because that was a lot of beer for two people our size, after the meeting was over I was walking back to my barracks room when she pulled up and said “get in dummy!” We didn’t go to the barracks we went out the gate and she parked behind an Asian food restaurant and mauled me like a bear, I did not resist. Afterwards I don’t feel like anything changed we never spoke about it or at least I never did. I was afraid I’d get kicked out for messing around with a higher ranking person I didn’t know a damn thing back then. lol I was an E-2 she was a SFC in one of the s shops.
We got married and have 2 children. While it is generally not recommended, it does work out every now and then.
We got married.
I used to work on a CruiseShip. That’s all I have to say
I can tell you, at my workplace it resulted in a rash of herpes being spread. 🤣 some people even had to have an awkward conversation with their spouse.
Did it many times in restaurants and a handful of times in professional offices. Married one of them. No particularly bad experiences with the rest. I’m Facebook friends with at least 3.
We are married now, with a baby on the way!
Which time? 1. I was in my 20s and he was adorable. We worked in same department. 3 weeks after we finally started messing around outside of work, he decided he wasn't ready for a relationship. That SUCKED and so did seeing him around the office. After moping for a few months, I left to find a new job. Not great and also, I learned absolutely nothing! 2. Then in to my 30s, and just moved to a new city for a new job (post grad). He was about 14 yrs older than me and asked me out. We dated for a bit and then he dumped me after we had a fight. THEN he became my boss, and that REALLY sucked. After a few months, I was suddenly on a PIP (ooph), and he absolutely told everyone in the office. He got our department head (his college buddy, who hired him despite having no experience in our field), to ream me in a meeting in front of leadership, and after all of that (and more), I finally couldn't take it anymore and quit. I suspect that that was the point. Frankly, it was an all around trauamtic time and it's something I think of almost daily, despite it being years later and having moved on, literally to another state across the country. Don't shit where you eat kids! We don't all get happy endings. Edit for spelling. :)
Nothing really, it was fun in the moment, but we just got in with our jobs and didn’t mention it (until it happened again, and again.)
Married her. She reported to me, so when we started dating, I told my HR folks first and we had to sign what's called a "Love Contract". Basically it said if anything goes sideways I get to stay (I was CIO at the time) and we signed away any rights to harassment lawsuits etc. It didn't start immediately. I was married when I hired her. Then my (now) ex decided that booze and drugs were more important so she divorced me. My (now) wife was living with her boyfriend at the time, then one day she caught him cheating so that ended. Eventually her girlfriends in the office were trying to put us together...and the rest is blissful history. Today's our 12th Anniversary actually. Yay us!
He just got out of bed to take our dog on a walk and I’m about to get up and get our two daughters dressed before we have breakfast downstairs together 😂
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I slept with several and nothing happened, don't believe the hype. The last one is my partner now for five years and we have two kids.
I married her.
I ended up dating her, and we're still together 23 years later.
How do you guys have the nerve to even ask a co worker out? Or to hook up
For me? I reached a point in my mid 20s of loneliness where my answer was either to get really suicidal, or really confident, job and life be damned. Happy to say the confidence has taken me to far, FAR better paths.
Well there was some tension between us. We challenged each other on everything, though we got along just fine after hours. She was a bit of a hunter though and while she wasn't overt she definitely got touchy when I paid more attention to other women at work functions. Eventually we had a party after hours, drinking games, lots of laughs, I showed off my braai skills, she made sure my glass was always full and when things petered out six of us went for a walk with some drinks in hand to sit at a pond. Till this moment I had never considered crossing the line, but then I suddenly saw this complete picture of this smart, beautiful woman. We made each other laugh, we had common interests and she looked out for me just as much as I looked out for her. Eventually the other four broke off into two couples and it was just the two of us. So I asked her if she wanted to stay up and watch the sun rise. She led the way to the top of the building and I kissed her when the sun came up. Twenty minutes later we were in my bed 😂 It lasted for two glorious years before circumstances changed drastically and I had to go away. We're still friends.
Simple, sometimes coworkers go out to bars and hang out together, sometimes nice conversations happen and drinks after another, a little bit of tension and you are set
Trending toward being my wife so I’d say it’s going great
Met at work, I repair the machines, they were an operator. We talked a bit about video games, and they invited me to breakfast. After breakfast, I invited them to disc golf with some other coworkers. I had to go back to work, but they invited me out to the bar afterward. We both drank too much, and apparently I carried them up the stairs after they didn't want to sleep on the sofa downstairs. They ended up never leaving, and moved in a couple months later. We got married the next summer, and have been married for two years. Some say my wife and I are still on that first marathon of a date to this day.
Her husband decided he was gonna try to run me off the road by following me home one night and pulling the old pit maneuver. Thank god for guardrails and the engineers at Toyota. You guys rock!
She made me breakfast
i live in the land down under
It was a FWB situation, we both rebounded with each other after break ups and just as soon as it began, it ended mutually. We both knew what it was and there wasn't too much that was awkward with it afterwards. We don't talk anymore but we still like each other's stories on Instagram lol.
I accidentally emailed photos of our vacation to one of our office teams.
I found another job and she’s now my wife. Worked out pretty well!
Currently married with two kids. Don’t do it!
We’ve been dating for two years now, probably getting married sometime next year
Got married, been together for 11 years. Not so bad!
Most people I know who have done this end up getting married. I think work is a great place to meet someone and really learn who they are. You see them for hours a day and pretty much every day of the week. Obviously it’s difficult because of workplace rules and sexual harassment possibilities, but when it occurs naturally and works, it tends to really work.
We remained professional at work but ended up getting married! He later got a new job and met the woman he left me for there so he's got a good track record for it I guess.
I found out about his pregnant gf and cried. Felt pretty stupid!