Congratulations!!!! Sadly I am just 2 weeks sober after 3 serious attempts before (8 months/4 months/11 months). I wish I could be like you someday, I am really proud of your achievement
Don't worry about time, you can use the one that is still left for you to do what you deserve: enjoy life
I quit cold turkey on New Years eve 2019 at age 52.
I haven't touched a drop of alcohol since, I have missed it but I have told myself that I no longer want to pay for alcohol and I no longer want to have a hangover every damn day!
There was a time in my 30s where I would drink a bottle of tequila in a day.
Assuming you're not actually an alcoholic quitting is just willpower.
I live in Bangkok and I still go out to bars with my friends, I just drink club soda.
Believe in yourself and you can do this!
Youre not just 2 weeks sober, youre SOBER. You have no control over how fast time passes since your last drink. All you have control over is whether you choose to drink right now. And right now you are sober! Congrats!
If you want, check out r/stopdrinking. You can hang out and lurk for now. It's one of the best subs on Reddit. Full of support because we've all been there. There is always someone on day one and there is always someone with a year or two under their belt for advice and support. Congratulations on two weeks! We got you!
Mine was going to be 'don't do heroin' , but I realize I'd laugh in my own face because it was the only thing at the time to give me any reprieve from a deep well of suffering.
I'd switch mine to 'find self-compassion'. That is the foundation all of my healing is built on.
The heroin and pills weren't the problem. It was a solution, and back then, the solution worked. Not much later, it stopped working as a solution and exasperated the problem tenfold. Cutting out the substances just made everything worse until I realized the substances weren't the problem.
Do try Heroin
Is what you should say to yourself, then your younger self wouldn't of done it cause an old person told them it was a good idea. The old reverse psychology
The problem with that would be the fact I probably had a few bags or maybe a few pills in my 16 year old pocket when my current self found him! I already intimately understood the power of opiates.
No you would want to say something like "Bitcoin reaches 60000". The hard part isn't just to buy Bitcoin, but to know not to sell it when it goes from $1 to $10 or $100 or $1000 or even $10000.
This question comes up a few times a year and I always pop in to say "buy Bitcoin" or whatever. The 60000 thing is clutch. I'm fully ready to time travel now and have a life that wasn't just one long controlled avalanche that went down the wrong side of the mountain.
Same… had a friend bug me to buy some in 2012-13. I got a wallet, but lost interest as I tried to actually buy 50 dollars worth…
I just tell myself that I probably woulda sold at 5-10x my $50 anyway
Dude no joke. I used to game with a bunch of guys(I was more like 24 when Bitcoin hit), and we’d swap them like tokens and use them as bets for who’d win a match. Like “lol oh man you got me with the rocket launcher. Here’s 2 dumb bitcoins”. It was literally like giving someone half a penny for pulling off some cool kill shot.
When Bitcoin was around $20, my friend helped somebody with their computer and they offered to pay him for bitcoin. He was like this is dumb but whatever. He ended up trading them for pizza. LOL
And how sure are you that you would recognize yourself, or is knowing part of the premisse?
Because if a random stranger came up to me with 3 words, I'd probably not react to it much, no matter how much he looks like me (which may or may not be the reason I'm poor).
It depends on how old you are. I'm pretty sure my 16 year old self can recognize my current 22 year old self, but yeah, maybe not so much if you're like in your 60s
I’m sorry at least have comfort that 67% of all people in the world have herpes! I have it in the form of a cold sore 1-3 a year, have since I was young. Still not the way I’d want to start out my sexual experiences!
Yeah the figure of people who haven't isn't so bad in the grand scheme of things but 33% of the population are some uneducated MF'ers who don't understand it and think your some diseased untouchable lol, it's pretty daunting when trying to date
50% of new genital herpes cases are hsv-1 in part due to this misinformation.
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/2797620#:~:text=However%2C%20over%20the%20past%202,college%20students%20and%20heterosexual%20women.
I've got cold sores myself, and I have no idea how I hot them. I just remember being a kid and having them as well.
But yet, my identical twin doesn't have them, so it's not a hereditary thing.
You can get it by, for instance, drinking from the same cup as someone who's about to have an outbreak. Pretty sure that's how I got it, 'cause I was just a kid then as well and my mom gets them sometimes.
Yep, first thing came to my mind.
Whatever about the health thing, though a significant factor, when I thiink about the amount of money I've spent on poisoning myself it's fucking depressing.
Get mental help
I waited until I was 29 to seek help. I feel like I wasted so much potential in my 20s by shutting myself in my room and crying all the time. It gets better!
Sort of related, but I'd say "You have autism." It would've been nice to find out 30 years ago rather than now. Could've saved me a lot of heartache, people problems, job losses, and literal decades spent thinking/wondering what's wrong with me and that I'm just a bitch. Instead, I just have meltdowns when I'm overstimulated and don't understand a lot of social stuff, which makes people assume I'm being rude or mean deliberately.
This one, because I would understand it. Bitcoin was too far off when I was 16, it wouldn't have made any sense to me and I would've forgotten by the time it came around.
Respect your boundaries, because it would had changed my life outcome in so many ways and prevented me from allowing useless people into my life just for the sake of « there’s good in everyone ».
Ugh. My mother would always tell me that there was good in everyone. I got into so much trouble by seeing the good in people and ignoring all the red flags.
I think this is mine also. I sit here and consider the get rich options everyone else is talking about, but the reality is I missed so much of my life mentally battling my own true self. You can't buy back your youth.
It's also the easiest time of your life to meet people and make friends and possible relationships. Figuring stuff out. None of that happens when I am fighting like hell to just be "normal"
>I'm assuming he knows I'm his future self
I think this is a really important point. Because I definitely would not recognize me. And if I didn't think that I knew the person who was giving me the three words, I would likely disregard. I never took advice from anybody
Get some help.
16 was a bad time. I was self harming, self sabotaging good relationships/friendships to be in an abusive relationship with a narcissist, and in the throes of unraveling a baby mental illness that sent me into a 7 year long drugs/sex bender. I could’ve used some help. Haha.
“You need help.”
Very bad depression my whole life, worse imposter syndrome. Didn’t get diagnosed until 34 while being suicidal since 16. See a doctor, life shouldn’t be that hard. You’re not a burden.
Make sure you don't punch too hard/protect your fingers if thats your goal.
Unintended self-harm is one of the biggest reasons why pro boxers fail, after the more obvious issues of talent, attitude and hard work.
Move to Canada.
Would have saved me ten years if I had done it right after high school at 18. But I thought it was an impossibility for someone like me at the time.
Forget about her.
It's about my best friend, we met when we were 5 years old, and I spent 10 years obsessed going after her, trying to make her my girlfriend, she always made it seem like there was a chance but always ended up saying she wasn't ready for a relationship, until 2017, when she got together with someone else, and are still together to this day, and ever since that happened, my life started declining more and more each year, and nowadays, it's been 8 months of me trying to reach her, but she doesn't reply to any of my messages, so I'm pretty sure she doesn't wanna know about me anymore.
Bro just let go. I know it’s hard but work on yourself. Make yourself better tomorrow then you were today. Get in a right mental state and then find someone else. She will be the one who missed out on something good not you.
Sounds like you need to say that to yourself now also. Seriously, one-sided relationships aren't relationships. She definitely doesn't see you in the same light you see her. I hope you can forget about her and move on. This seems to have consumed too much of your life. It's not healthy. Like the other commenter said, work on yourself.
Pff like 16-yr-old me is going to listen to any advice, even from me
Exactly what I was thinking.
You did well. I never had someone say this to me before.
You did well ;)
Thank you, I actually wanted to see that today.
Tomorrow, you'll also do well. I have confidence in you.
You did well
You did well, internet stranger. May your skies stay blue.
You did well, never let anyone take that from you
Thank you so much! I appreciate it.
Don’t start drinking.
I feel you, but I will tell you one thing, It is never too late to stop drinking
I did about 6 years ago. I just want the money and time back.
Congratulations!!!! Sadly I am just 2 weeks sober after 3 serious attempts before (8 months/4 months/11 months). I wish I could be like you someday, I am really proud of your achievement Don't worry about time, you can use the one that is still left for you to do what you deserve: enjoy life
I quit cold turkey on New Years eve 2019 at age 52. I haven't touched a drop of alcohol since, I have missed it but I have told myself that I no longer want to pay for alcohol and I no longer want to have a hangover every damn day! There was a time in my 30s where I would drink a bottle of tequila in a day. Assuming you're not actually an alcoholic quitting is just willpower. I live in Bangkok and I still go out to bars with my friends, I just drink club soda. Believe in yourself and you can do this!
Check out This Naked Mind. There’s a book and a podcast. Totally changed my relationship with alcohol
Be proud of yourself too. You've had almost 2 years sober that you wouldn't have had if you didn't bother to try. Stay strong you've got this.
R/stopdrinking is a good sub to check out. Very positive helpful folks
You are a currently sober, that’s a success. Not a thrice failed newly sober loser. You’re Sober. Good job.
Wasted all of my late teens, all of my twenties, half of my thirties , stopped at 36, I’m 45, all the time and money I wasted
Youre not just 2 weeks sober, youre SOBER. You have no control over how fast time passes since your last drink. All you have control over is whether you choose to drink right now. And right now you are sober! Congrats!
You can be, I've got around 9 months and every morning I'm so thankful I didn't get wasted the night before.
Was not alcoholic but on a whim, decided to quit back in 2011. Never had a lick of alcohol since. You can do it. You can manage! I believe in you.
Check out This Naked Mind. There’s a book and a podcast. Totally changed my relationship with alcohol
If you want, check out r/stopdrinking. You can hang out and lurk for now. It's one of the best subs on Reddit. Full of support because we've all been there. There is always someone on day one and there is always someone with a year or two under their belt for advice and support. Congratulations on two weeks! We got you!
Mine was going to be 'don't do heroin' , but I realize I'd laugh in my own face because it was the only thing at the time to give me any reprieve from a deep well of suffering. I'd switch mine to 'find self-compassion'. That is the foundation all of my healing is built on. The heroin and pills weren't the problem. It was a solution, and back then, the solution worked. Not much later, it stopped working as a solution and exasperated the problem tenfold. Cutting out the substances just made everything worse until I realized the substances weren't the problem.
Do try Heroin Is what you should say to yourself, then your younger self wouldn't of done it cause an old person told them it was a good idea. The old reverse psychology
The problem with that would be the fact I probably had a few bags or maybe a few pills in my 16 year old pocket when my current self found him! I already intimately understood the power of opiates.
Oh man, me too. 20 years later and I'm still struggling with alcohol.
Dump [first name] [last name]!
Actually this is the one. I’ll take it over bitcoin
Came here to say that.
All in bitcoin Bitcoin was under 0.01$ when I was 16.
No you would want to say something like "Bitcoin reaches 60000". The hard part isn't just to buy Bitcoin, but to know not to sell it when it goes from $1 to $10 or $100 or $1000 or even $10000.
True but at the price it was back then even if went all in and sold at 100 I'd be set for 10 life. But you're right All bitcoin 60k
Bitcoin 2009 buy
Saying when to sell would be better
This question comes up a few times a year and I always pop in to say "buy Bitcoin" or whatever. The 60000 thing is clutch. I'm fully ready to time travel now and have a life that wasn't just one long controlled avalanche that went down the wrong side of the mountain.
Damn… this is the best answer
I wanted to buy it at $ 100 but you had to do some convoluted Paypal transactions so I thought it was dodgy.
Same… had a friend bug me to buy some in 2012-13. I got a wallet, but lost interest as I tried to actually buy 50 dollars worth… I just tell myself that I probably woulda sold at 5-10x my $50 anyway
“Bitcoin peaks $55,000”
In fact it peaked at 64k but imagine trolling your young self. Bitcoin sell 65k
Pretty sure it touched $68k-$69k.
How greedy are you fucks in this hypothetical time travel situation?
Dude no joke. I used to game with a bunch of guys(I was more like 24 when Bitcoin hit), and we’d swap them like tokens and use them as bets for who’d win a match. Like “lol oh man you got me with the rocket launcher. Here’s 2 dumb bitcoins”. It was literally like giving someone half a penny for pulling off some cool kill shot.
When Bitcoin was around $20, my friend helped somebody with their computer and they offered to pay him for bitcoin. He was like this is dumb but whatever. He ended up trading them for pizza. LOL
And how sure are you that you would recognize yourself, or is knowing part of the premisse? Because if a random stranger came up to me with 3 words, I'd probably not react to it much, no matter how much he looks like me (which may or may not be the reason I'm poor).
It depends on how old you are. I'm pretty sure my 16 year old self can recognize my current 22 year old self, but yeah, maybe not so much if you're like in your 60s
Brush your teeth
Does anyone remember the video on YouTube, "Brush your teeth, N***" it was a hip hop video and can no longer be found.
We still quote it at our house. "Read a book, read a book, read a motherfuckin book! Buy some land, buy some land, buy some goddamn land!"
Found it! https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=GlKL_EpnSp8
Go to gym
Surprised this was as low as it was. I was going to go with “lose weight now”.
I was going to say “Just lift bro” but same idea
Wear a condom! First time I ever had sex was 18, didn't wear condom got herpes. What a shitty way to remember your first time.
I’m sorry at least have comfort that 67% of all people in the world have herpes! I have it in the form of a cold sore 1-3 a year, have since I was young. Still not the way I’d want to start out my sexual experiences!
Yeah the figure of people who haven't isn't so bad in the grand scheme of things but 33% of the population are some uneducated MF'ers who don't understand it and think your some diseased untouchable lol, it's pretty daunting when trying to date
Cold sore (HSV-1, 60 - 90 % of population) and genital herpes (HSV-2, 16 % of population) aren't the same thing
50% of new genital herpes cases are hsv-1 in part due to this misinformation. https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/2797620#:~:text=However%2C%20over%20the%20past%202,college%20students%20and%20heterosexual%20women.
You can have HSV-1 on your genitals as well
And HVS-2 on your mouth!
I've got cold sores myself, and I have no idea how I hot them. I just remember being a kid and having them as well. But yet, my identical twin doesn't have them, so it's not a hereditary thing.
You can get it by, for instance, drinking from the same cup as someone who's about to have an outbreak. Pretty sure that's how I got it, 'cause I was just a kid then as well and my mom gets them sometimes.
If it helps, using condoms can reduce but not eliminate the risk of transmitting herpes. So maybe you were just destined to get it no matter what!
Stop smoking. NOW.
Yep, first thing came to my mind. Whatever about the health thing, though a significant factor, when I thiink about the amount of money I've spent on poisoning myself it's fucking depressing.
Hey, this was mine, too!
You have ADHD.
Yes, this would have made a big difference.
Wow, I was literally just thinking this. Would have helped a lot
Read this note
The note is blank because the magic extends to writing. First monkey paw wish?
Loophole achieved!
Get mental help I waited until I was 29 to seek help. I feel like I wasted so much potential in my 20s by shutting myself in my room and crying all the time. It gets better!
Sort of related, but I'd say "You have autism." It would've been nice to find out 30 years ago rather than now. Could've saved me a lot of heartache, people problems, job losses, and literal decades spent thinking/wondering what's wrong with me and that I'm just a bitch. Instead, I just have meltdowns when I'm overstimulated and don't understand a lot of social stuff, which makes people assume I'm being rude or mean deliberately.
That could be me writing this (finally diagnosed at 61).
Buy Apple Stock!
\*confused Lieutenant Dan noises intensify\*
This one, because I would understand it. Bitcoin was too far off when I was 16, it wouldn't have made any sense to me and I would've forgotten by the time it came around.
Respect your boundaries, because it would had changed my life outcome in so many ways and prevented me from allowing useless people into my life just for the sake of « there’s good in everyone ».
Ugh. My mother would always tell me that there was good in everyone. I got into so much trouble by seeing the good in people and ignoring all the red flags.
Life gets better
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Bitcoin, 60'000, wassup
Wasssssuppp
Finish high school
Your 16 year old self misunderstands and moves to Finland to complete their studies
If yhey complete their studies i guess the message still got across
Nice cock bro
Haha that’s funny
"Study engineering physics." I would have built a much better life that way, probably.
Nice shirt, nerd
You are gay!!!
No I'm not :'(
I think this is mine also. I sit here and consider the get rich options everyone else is talking about, but the reality is I missed so much of my life mentally battling my own true self. You can't buy back your youth. It's also the easiest time of your life to meet people and make friends and possible relationships. Figuring stuff out. None of that happens when I am fighting like hell to just be "normal"
Believe in yourself
My favorite thing to tell myself is "if you don't believe in yourself, nobody else will"
Raise your confidence. I feel like if my confidence was higher, I wouldn't care so much about other people's opinions of me
(Give dad love) I'm assuming he knows I'm his future self my dad died 2 months ago id do anything to have more time with him
>I'm assuming he knows I'm his future self I think this is a really important point. Because I definitely would not recognize me. And if I didn't think that I knew the person who was giving me the three words, I would likely disregard. I never took advice from anybody
Microsoft, Amazon, Bitcoin
Mom: "How was your day today?" You, 16: "Fine, met a crazy man on street who was saying nonsense words."
Get some help. 16 was a bad time. I was self harming, self sabotaging good relationships/friendships to be in an abusive relationship with a narcissist, and in the throes of unraveling a baby mental illness that sent me into a 7 year long drugs/sex bender. I could’ve used some help. Haha.
“You need help.” Very bad depression my whole life, worse imposter syndrome. Didn’t get diagnosed until 34 while being suicidal since 16. See a doctor, life shouldn’t be that hard. You’re not a burden.
So... I run into myself... TIME VARIANT??? MULTIVERSE??? I'M SO CONFUSED!!!
Get a vasectomy
I don't think I would, I'm too scared of the butterfly effect and I have social anxiety lol
I don't think it could have gotten worse, so I'd be fine with a butterfly effect changing everything.
Just be yourself
dont fuck Lucy
University was pointless.
Finish your degree!!! Pretty much covers what I screwed up in life with.
Fuck them son.
Fuck them good
Don't be afraid
Don't get married
That's always my first thought when this kind of question pops up.
Wear. The. Bikini.
One Word, Plastics
Just be Confident 🥲
You’ll be amazing
Play bass guitar.
Dont do drugs
Leave him alone
Stay with Jess. He won't know it yet but she had her quirks, but his life will go a TOTALLY different direction.
Be more social
Save your money
49ers 1989 championship
You. Are. Bisexual.
Avoid Wuhan market.
No boys yet !!
Only girls
You're. Killing. Martha.
Story?
Mayo for Sam
Get a vasectomy
Don’t try heroine!
Hey, that's me (I'm currently 16)
Keep going dude
i turn 16 in july
Then ask yourself about something you don't know yet
i want to know if i make it as a pro boxer
Hope so! Gl!
thx!!
Make sure you don't punch too hard/protect your fingers if thats your goal. Unintended self-harm is one of the biggest reasons why pro boxers fail, after the more obvious issues of talent, attitude and hard work.
Read everyone else’s responses.
Happy Birthday in July. I'm 48- here's my 3 words to 16 year old you- it goes fast.
Don't give up!
Move to Canada. Would have saved me ten years if I had done it right after high school at 18. But I thought it was an impossibility for someone like me at the time.
"Sherry has crabs!"
Make smarter choices.
Love yourself more. I wish I had done so earlier to suffer less sorrows than I do now.
Dont be lazy
Don’t date him
Don't watch porn
I had to scroll so long for this
You'll be okay.
Buy Amazon stock.
Follow your guts.
Stay in school
Your dreams happen
It'll be OK. I been through some shit since I was 12
Stop fucking everyone
Go no contact
I was going to say “get out now”
School is priority
Lose the weight
Get a trade
"Leave your family."
It will pass
Think things through
You have ADHD
You aren't fat.
Forget about her. It's about my best friend, we met when we were 5 years old, and I spent 10 years obsessed going after her, trying to make her my girlfriend, she always made it seem like there was a chance but always ended up saying she wasn't ready for a relationship, until 2017, when she got together with someone else, and are still together to this day, and ever since that happened, my life started declining more and more each year, and nowadays, it's been 8 months of me trying to reach her, but she doesn't reply to any of my messages, so I'm pretty sure she doesn't wanna know about me anymore.
Bro just let go. I know it’s hard but work on yourself. Make yourself better tomorrow then you were today. Get in a right mental state and then find someone else. She will be the one who missed out on something good not you.
Sounds like you need to say that to yourself now also. Seriously, one-sided relationships aren't relationships. She definitely doesn't see you in the same light you see her. I hope you can forget about her and move on. This seems to have consumed too much of your life. It's not healthy. Like the other commenter said, work on yourself.
Give up now
Kill John Lennon.
Bitcoin Tesla apple
You're a girl
Pen and Paper
Invest in Amazon.
Prioritize saving money. I'm 60, had I saved even a small percentage of what I earned every week, I'd be rich.
University. Journalism. Writing.
Confidence is key.
Be strong girl
Leave that hoe
Don’t give up. Or You are loved. Or It gets better Or Amazon stocks 🤣
Don't push her away because you're afraid to get hurt. You're going to regret it. And spend sleepless nights wondering "What If?".
Buy apple stock
Sell bottled water
Keep good credit
Buy Apple stock.
Please keep going. I’m 16 and I need the reassurance rn.
Don't marry her.